#but; at least in regards to this blog; I have reclaimed my space no matter how silent it is or how hard the going is

[constellationcrowned]

((While it's still stressful sometimes (and it probably always will be just in general,) I feel as though my moving/splitting my blogs was the right decision on the whole and I'm far more comfortable here than anywhere else even with the inherent struggle and this blog is both my pride and priority for very very very good reasons. Those close to me understand what I mean in full, I'm sure.

This being said I'm having one of those strange, kinda funny little moments where I wish my muses were still all in one place if only because certain muses went incredibly well together and thinking of stuff between them was so fun for me. I can still do that, of course, but it's not the same.))

[kalle-and-lita]

Kalle and Lita’s Roleplaying Rules Master Post

Hi! The Mun from the Warhammer Roleplay Blog @Kalle-and-Lita here. It’s been a few months since I came into the Warhammer Roleplay community (March or April I believe) and I figured it was high time I made a master post of who I am, my muses, and my rules, for ease of use.

About the Mun:

I’ve been part of tumblr since about 2010, though I’ve been a part of the fanfiction/Ao3 community since 2006 when I was about thirteen. So I’ve been writing for a good while, and it’s a hobby I have a lot of passion for. In my mind, there’s nothing more empowering than creating your own world so vivid in one’s mind, and I love sharing my work with people. I don’t write for praise, or recognition, I write because I love it and I want to share my ideas with other people, and have others share their ideas with me. I suppose that’s why I love the roleplaying community so much, because we’re all authors collaborating to make an awesome story with our characters.

The Mun’s Rules:

I’ll do my best to keep this as simple as possible, for ease of use and reference.

Be kind: I think this rule says it all; and this is a non-negotiable. Any unwarranted attacks on my personal being or integrity is not going to be tolerated and will get you blocked. End of Story.

Be courteous: This rule reflects both ways, I believe. I will try to reply to a post at least once a day, unless both of us are really into the current thread, but also understand that I do have a life outside of tumblr. If an emergency pops up on my end I will let you know that I won’t be able to reply for a bit until it's resolved.

Communicate: The key to a great relationship is communication. If you don’t like something that me or my muse has done, please let me know so I can fix the problem and apologize. It is never my intention to offend or anger, and I want to know instantly the moment that I do. However, in regards to Rule 1, if for any reason I am lashed out at, called names, or attacked with venom I will drop you immediately. There’s no reason why we can’t talk like adults.

No Godmodding: Neither one of us will dictate what the other character does, and I do my best to hold myself to this standard as well. If I unknowingly transgress upon this rule please let me know so that I can fix it.

No explicit smut: I don’t mind shipping, but would prefer fade to black scenarios and after coitus snuggling instead of details of intimacy. Any pushiness for this scenario will get the Thread dropped.

NO NON CONSENSUAL!: I cannot express this enough; I know the Warhammer universe is supposed to be gritty and grim dark, and I’m okay with writing about gore and violence, but Non Consensual Sex of any kind is an absolute deal breaker, and will result in blocked accounts without preamble. I have not and will not tolerate this on any level.

My Muses:

Lita:

    A native of Nostramo, a planet of eternal night and nearly eternal suffering. Violence is prevalent in every dark corner of the street, and death awaits to the unprepared. Lita grew up in this harsh world, hiding in the shadows until the day her adopted father Rylen found her and saved her. Head Servant in the Palace of Nostramo Prime, she grew up in relative safety, avoiding the wrath of the Barons with the skills Rylen taught her. 

It was until she was much older, and several years after Rylen’s passing, that Lita attracted the attention of the Baron of the Palace. This drew the ire of his wife who subsequently attacked Lita, scaring her face and body irreversibly with a deadly knife, and had her thrown over a balcony to die.

Lita lived, but whether she was lucky to have done so was a matter of debate, for she now lived in near constant pain. The fall had shattered her spine, and it was nearly unfathomable that she could walk again, but walk again she did. Her return to the palace coincided with the ascension of the Night Haunter as the King of Nostramo, bring order to a once ruthless planet through fear.

For the next several decades, Lita served the Night Haunter as his faithful head servant, and confidant, striving with him to keep Nostramo peaceful and in order. Or at least until the day the Imperium of Man came, and the Emperor of Mankind reclaimed his long lost son. It would be several more years of faithful servitude, rife with peril and unrequited emotions on Lita’s end, and the adventure of a lifetime, before she would once again find herself at her King’s side. This time working to bring peace and order to a vast galaxy rife with danger.

Lita’s untimely end came shortly thereafter, at the hand of Nostramo Rebels. Stories persist of her kind character, always willing to reach out with a kind hand instead of a fist, and capable of second chances where there should have been none.

Kalle:

    Kalle was born a Child of the Night, a prison born degenerate of a Mother he didn’t care for and a Father he would never know. He lived his entire life in the pitch black prison pits of Terra, becoming so intuned with the shadows that he called his home, that he eventually learned to control them. It was by luck alone that he was chosen to ascend to the ranks of a Space Marine, becoming but a single cog of many in the Imperiums grand schemes.

    It was no surprise that his ascension landed him as a Night Lord, a figure of terror that planets whispered in fear of. However, unlike several of his gene-kin, Kalle took no joy in the murder and torture of innocents. Instead, he preferred his own company and his books, fighting only when necessary. His kills were clean, quiet, and precise, nothing more and nothing less. Fearing that his odd ways would be seen as a weakness, Kalle kept himself apart from his kin on missions, until an incident involving a Xeno resulted in a near all out brawl between him and his battle brothers.

    It was only by First Captain Jago Sevatarion’s interference that Kalle escaped death that day, and his actions caught the attention of Lita, right hand of his Primarch, Konrad Curze. Shortly after the brawl he was taken from active duty to serve as Lita’s bodyguard upon the Nightfall and when she participated in planetary compliances, much to Kalle’s chagrin. It was only due to Lita’s persistence, kind and understanding nature, and her defence of Kalle when Curze found out about his Psychic Nature, that the two formed a close bond.

Becoming that of a Mother and her son, Kalle wholly devoted himself to Lita until her untimely execution, an event in which Kalle would forever blame himself and his Primarch for. Enraged at Konrad Curze for his failures in preventing Lita’s death, and every other terrible event he foresaw, Kalle engaged in single combat with his Primarch in hopes that he would die. His Primarch did not grant this, cruelly leaving Kalle to live only because he had been Lita’s favorite. After his recovery, Kalle defected from his Legion, manning a singular vessel and escaping across the fringes of Imperial Space before the Horus Heresy.

He would spend the next several hundred years in self imposed exile, eeking out a living out of his unwillingness to die a dishonorable death. Eventually, he would come into contact with the native feral humans of the planet, forming a close bond to a little boy whom he dubbed Veselin, for his joyful personality. Veselin became like a son to him, and even long after his son’s death Kalle would watch over his family line for the next several generations.

Or at least until the new Imperium of Man came, and burned his second homeworld to the ground. Distraught, Kalle took up his weapons and killed as many as possible, using their latent psychic energies to break open a sealed temple he’d found in his time on the planet. Inside, he found the remains of a Cult that could create life and bring back the dead, and latching onto the unhealthy obsession of bringing back all that he’d lost, Kalle commandeered and Imperial Vessel and once again set off into the stars.

Several more years would pass as Kalle pursued his unhealthy obsession, finally culminating in an attempted resuscitation for Lita, summoning her spirit from the void to inhabit a different body. This form of Lita looked to all the pain and destruction Kalle had wrought in his attempts to cheat death, lamenting that Kalle had lost his way in his grief. She denied the sacrificial body that had been presented to her, stating that she could never be happy with new life with all the death he caused.

This resulted in a full mental breakdown, Kalle having lived his life thus far on the hopes that he could have back everything that had been ripped away from him. As the last vestiges of power slipped away from the summoning spell Lita begged Kalle to find a new life to live, to hold onto the hope that he could have a better future full of laughter and love, leaving him unsure that he ever could.

Notes: This is the end of the Masterpost, which turned out to be a lot longer than I thought it would be! Either way, if you have further questions for me that weren’t addressed here, or have an interest in starting a thread or two, just give me a PM and I’ll be happy to talk!

KnL

[aroworlds]

"own subjects where my activism is far more emotional. (Like the word “a-spec”, for example) "? You caught my curiosity

Lines like that, anon, are dangerous in giving me free rein to ramble on at you all!

I’m not sure if you’re asking me why I feel the subject be emotional or my feelings about the word, so I’ll assume the first but provide a quick explanation of the second: I was making an oblique reference to the idea that “a-spec” is an autistic-only term that shouldn’t be used by ace-specs and aro-specs, something I cannot abide as an autistic a-spec and discussed (angrily) last week. I have no problem with the word “a-spec” as I use it on all my blogs (you can take it out of my cold, dead hands!), just the idea that it is a thing in need of debating.

(I’ve a less-angry discussion about the angry post here, too, that adds a little more detail.)

In summary, I think the idea that “a-spec” is an autistic term, promoted by allistics, is the act of using autistics as pawns in exclusionist hands to silence a-specs from a unifying term we need and autistics don’t. In claiming the word is an autistic one and shouldn’t be used, allistic exclusionists are ignoring the autistic language and culture that does exist (based around reclaiming identity-first terms) while simultaneously denying a-specs a-spec language and culture.

In using one of my identities against the other, they’re erasing both.

It angers me so much because it’s still treated as a debate, as though the pain it causes me as an autistic aro is abstract–and this is tied so much to my experiences with other intersections of ableism and amatonormativity. Both these things provoke emotional responses in me, and when they overlap, I am very much not calm about it. It’s not something I can reframe as absurdity; I am my emotions and they’re that muddled space of anger and hurt.

I don’t feel more supported as a trans/NB/pansexual person–it does a disservice to the harm wrought by cissexist, exorsexist and monosexist people and “discourse” in LGBTQIA+ spaces, and I won’t minimalise that. I do feel, though, that amongst many reasonable and progressive people (on Tumblr at least), those attitudes are regarded as hateful, and while plenty of exorsexism still reaches me, it’s more often answered. The hate I get on these points is more often directly, horrifically, dangerously vile, but I feel more of an acknowledgement from my broader communities that such attitudes are vile, and often that’s just enough to keep going.

Ableism, though, even in spaces otherwise progressive, feels to me like amatonormativity and a-spec antagonism (especially aro antagonism) in something that is so unquestioned and overlooked. When it’s mentioned, people seem to regard responding to it as an inconvenience, irrelevant. Ableism is so often reduced to readily-understood concepts like maybe not using the R-slur and sometimes things like image descriptions, but the many, subtle ways one can be ableist for so many shapes of disability, never mind struggles like competing/conflicting access needs, are so often dismissed. No hatred is meant so it doesn’t matter.

I don’t think I need to lecture you all on the subtlety of amatonormativity and aro erasure; we’ve all endured it, this feeling that the things that hurt and diminish us aren’t worth bothering about–just as so many shapes of ableism aren’t deemed worth bothering about. Just as folks are so unwilling to provide fully accessible content or reframe their language, folks are unwilling to support aro-specs in any access needs we have with regards romance and erasure.

Ableism and amatonormativity make me feel the most dehumanised and erased, because here I feel that people who should be my own still don’t want to see or support me. Ableism and amatonormativity feel to me like things even otherwise-progressive people don’t want to acknowledge or explore. My disabilities aren’t always invisible, but they’re not always visible either, and so much of ableism and amatonormativity both is not as simply-understood or obvious as not using certain slurs. For me, trying to explain why “-phobia” causes harm when nobody uses the word to intentionally hurt me feels like trying to explain why the truth of most works ending in a romantically happy-ever-after causes harm.

(I’ve seen posts about aromantics and polyamorous folks supporting each other based on our being targets of amatonormativity, but I think aromantics and neurodiverse folks, especially on subjects like dehumanisation and the way love and empathy are treated as normal, have a natural kinship in how what we don’t feel is used to diminish us, and I’d love to see more discussion about this. I do wonder if this is why the best conversations I’ve had about not using -phobia have been in the aro-spec community. Certainly I’ve found more willingness to consider and understand than I have elsewhere, and I think that speaks to that kinship.)

I think part of this anger happens because people tend to explain at me in response–explain why “-phobia” isn’t a problem, explain why “a-spec” is an autistic word, even though I have discussed both from the position of an autistic with phobias. Because these fine points of language are less understood as being based in explicit, intentional ableism or antagonism (hatred), I believe others read them as acceptable, good-faith debate points in a way “trans people are their AGAB” is only “debated” by someone a world away from good faith. I’ve seen people respond to soulmates being amatonormative in the same way–it’s as though they’re archived in some abstract section of people’s understanding, that these aren’t our lives and experiences and pain being dissected.

Our pain is ignored as relevant because it isn’t seen as real.

The people we’re so often fighting are good, progressive people, with no intent to cause harm or deliberate hatred, operating from legitimate good faith. And they’re breaking us. Ableism and amatonormativity are so unacknowledged that there’s no widespread understanding that our pain isn’t an interesting debate point, that a lot of what we’re fighting isn’t direct, intentional or obvious antagonism–and it is ableism and amatonormativity that tells people, ourselves included, that these things are not worth acknowledging.

I have to fight my own internalisation of ableism and amatonormativity to fight someone else’s ableism and amatonormativity of considering ableism and amatonormativity a simple debate topic.

The last ask I got that told me -phobia constructions was fine to use made me cry. I was wrecked by it, because I’d explained my reasoning several times that week, and while there was nothing rude in the ask itself, debating the merits of something I said hurt me was horrible–especially when I had to keep on saying the words, also rendered difficult by my chronic pain. And while I’ve had too few spoons to comment as I should and wish to, @herefortheacenaro has been fighting wonderfully against more ableism on the subject of not using -phobia this past fortnight, and I can only imagine the exhaustion felt now, knowing how much it broke me.

So, anon, while I can handle direct antagonism with much more confidence, because I have enough certitude to dismiss it as hatred, the calm, quiet, polite-seeming ways of turning the unseen pains of my life into a debate topic, particularly if it comes with able-splaining or allo-splaining (and they often do) are the acts of ableism and amatonormativity that break me.

And when they come together, I’m scrambling to know how handle it.

[lesbian-ed]

It's seems pretty harmful that you are calling yourselves a lesbian advice blog when in reality you are giving out very transphobic advice. As a lesbian myself I can recognize that trans women are women and that me being attracted to them does not at all diminish my label as a lesbian. The label of 'woman' does not automatically mean 'personal with a vagina'. Also, Lesbophobia is a real thing but you cannot just use it as a way to justify your TERF ideologies

We don’t just “call ourselves” a lesbian advice blog. We are a lesbian advice blog. We give advice to lesbians. Pretty damn straight forward, or at least you’d think it would be. But lesbians who refuse to center penis in their lives are all labeled “TERFs” and shut down. The only so-called crime we are guilty of is starting a lesbian exclusive advice blog in an ocean of male-centered so-called “sapphic” blogs. If this was a blog about food, would all of you people demand we talk about boats to be more inclusive of boat-lovers? I fucking doubt it, but that’s basically what you all are nagging about all the time. Leave us the fuck alone.

We believe the real harm to lesbians are males infiltrating spaces which are meant for women, especially meant for us lesbians. We believe the real harm to lesbians are all those so called “sapphic” blogs run by transwomen (males) in their late 20s and older who give advice to young lesbians on their bodies and sex life. 

Lesbians do not experience any attraction to males, and that is the only distinction between a lesbian and a bisexual woman.

We’re getting tired of defining these basic terms again and again for you people, but we believe the only way to have a comprehensible argument is to understand each other.

So here’s the thing: we speak English as described on the Oxford dictionary, the Merriam-Webster dictionary, idk, any fucking real-life dictionary. We speak the English of the masses, the coherent English, the universal language. All four of us mods are ESL speakers, from four different non-English speaking countries, and yet we have a better grasp at English than many of you USA-minded transactivists.

Here’s a list of definitions, our vocabulary if you will, here’s what we are talking about, here is what we will keep saying, no matter how many times you call us “TERFs”, or tell us to pee your pants, or wish us dead.

Sex

Either of the two major forms (male or female) of individuals that occur in many species and that are distinguished respectively as female or male especially on the basis of their reproductive organs and structures; the sum of the structural, functional, and behavioral characteristics of organisms that are involved in reproduction marked by the union of gametes and that distinguish males and females; (sexually motivated phenomena or behavior, sexual intercourse); genitalia

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sex

https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/sex

Male 

Refers to “the sex that produces small, typically motile gametes, especially spermatozoa, with which a female may be fertilized or inseminated to produce offspring.”

Female

Refers to the sex that can bear offspring or produce eggs, distinguished biologically by the production of gametes (ova) that can be fertilized by male gametes.

Man

An adult human male. 

Woman

An adult human female.

Gender

A set of chracterists, roles and expectations linked to either of the two sexes.

Masculine

Refers to gender, associated with and expected from males. Qualities or appearance traditionally associated with men.

Feminine

Refers to gender, associated with and expected from females. Qualities or appearance traditionally associated with women. 

Transwoman

Transwomen are males who identify with femininity.

Transman

Transmen are females who identify with masculinity.

Lesbian

A homosexual woman, aka a homosexual female, aka a female exclusevely attracted to other females.*

(*There is no going around this definition, therefore transwomen (males) will never be lesbians but transmen (females) can be lesbians if they wish to reclaim that descriptor. Also, lesbians are never attracted to transwomen (males).)

Bisexual 

A male or female person who is attracted to both male and female people. 

I don’t care how many times you repeat your lying mantras, a transwoman is a male who identifies with feminine presentation. So unless you’re speaking a different language than I am, a woman is always an adult human female, therefore a transwoman will always be a transwoman, but never a woman. Unless the transwoman in question detransitions back into a man, they will always just be a transwoman. Always male, never female. 

This kind of argument that a trans male aka a transwoman could ever be a female is just based on thin air and lies you’ve been feeding yourself. 

The reality of human sexuality is that it just is. It is a constant. It’s not fluid like yall have been telling yourselves all this time. A female homosexual is born that way, will die that way, unless she was wrong about being homosexual from the start. A female homosexual will always be attracted exclusevly to females. The reason so many lesbians have narratives of having been with men before is not because they were ever actually attracted to those males, it is only because they experience compulsory heterosexuality.

Bisexuality is the only sexuality which actually involves fluctiation of attraction between the two sexes. 

If you’re telling me you actually truly experience attraction to transwomen and women, you’re just telling me you experience attraction to males and females. That is bisexuality in a nutshell.

Referring to “The label of ‘woman’ does not automatically mean ‘personal with a vagina’.“

Do you understand what a label is? A label classifies, it is “a descriptive or identifying word or phrase”. What does the label woman classify? Look in any decent dictionary. Woman is an adult human female. 

Female is sex, and sex is stagnate. No matter how many surgeries, hormones, or whatever any person goes through, their sex will never change from the moment they are born to the moment they die. The only people sometimes assigned a sex at birth are intersex people, but I suggest you leave them alone, because they have nothing to do with this bullshit, as the assignment surgeries they go through are usually invasive and non consensual.

Regarding “Lesbophobia is a real thing but you cannot just use it as a way to justify your TERF ideologies”

You’re damn right lesbophobia is a real thing, and you wanna know who’s perpetrating it with their genderist ideologies? That’s right, transactivists. “TERF” is a word that has been thrown around to silence lesbians such as ourselves, to remove our credibility in regards to our own sexuality and our own lesbian-specific spaces.

From the very beginning of this blog we have been critized for being a lesbian-only blog. By lesbian only, we mean females exclusevly attracted to females. Apparently having spaces where women can be safe and talk about their experiences as women who exclusevly love other women is too much to ask. Silly women, we don’t get a platform to speak up, what kind of crazy utopian wish is that? 

Males have been colonizing our spaces for too long. We refuse to stay silent and take it. I refuse to see another young lesbian being told to re-evaluate her sexuality because she doesn’t want to have sex with someone with a penis, aka because she’s a lesbian. This does not only disgusts me, but also makes me really sad. It’s homophobia 101.

I grew up in Brazil, a third world country where religion rules over politics, and I never had a lesbian role model. All our amazing lesbian artists were made fun off, called “velcro stickers” and “big shoes”, the Portuguese equivalent of carpet munching dykes. I grew up hating my own lesbian sisters, and identified as bisexual for six precious years of my life, when I could have been free. But lesbian is still a dirty world. Feminist is still a dirty world. 

And you know what, tumblr was my solace from all that fucking bullshit, and I refuse to stand down when we have the opportunity to offer young lesbians the kind of platform I wish I had access to when I was questioning my sexuality. We refuse to let males into this space, and we refuse to lie for transwomen’s sake.

Women have been lying for men for too long. We have been scooting over, making space. We refuse. This blog is for lesbians by lesbians and it will remain this way.

We will not police our language, we will not let you win.

We are not questioning trans ideology to justify our ideology, we are questioning trans ideology because it is lesbophobic and misogynistic. It just happens we are also feminists on top of being women, so our ideology helps us back up our arguments with fact and scientific research. 

Anyway, moral of the story, TL;DR if you will.. Lesbians do not like dick, and we will not lie and say we do for the sake of butt hurt males in skirts. 

Have a good day.

/Mod A