#but we shouldn't have to just cuz homophobes are homophobic

[wewringmagicfromtheordinary]

#it’s perfectly valid to interpret steve bucky as platonic but why should we#platonic male friendships is literally the norm of superhero and military genres#the writers and directors and actors all admitted bucky was the emotional lynchpin for steve’s story#seb didn’t put his whole pussy into giving steve/cevans the sad gay gaze just for bucky to be straight 😂#the world has its share of straight macho heroes#let them be soft and let them be gay 😌 via luna-rainbow

#I get that there are different interpretations of a text#but like Bucky is very much central to Steve’s journey to becoming who he’s supposed to be#he’s the guy he’s avenging in Captain America: The First Avenger#Cap 2 is literally Steve: Bucky#CACW sees Steve going against half the Avengers to defend Bucky#idk I feel like you missed a lot if you don’t think Bucky was that important#and also like even if you just want to see them is good pals or whatever#it shows a lack of comprehension of a very simple story#or at least that it’s interpreted through a biased lens#as for Steve joining the army you have every valid reason to think it wasn’t purely for Bucky#but it’s very conveniently stated that Bucky’s regiment is the one he requested to join moments before he was rejected#so whether Joseph and Bucky coincidentally happened to be in the same regiment we can only guess#but it’s very plausible he was just lying to be in the same regiment as his best friend via cosmicmechanism

#whether you ship it or not (which is irrelevant btw?) in canon Bucky is a huge part of Steve's motive...#as explicitly stated by Steve himself when literally asked by Bucky what his motive is the night before Bucky is shipping out...#in the movie named after avenging Bucky -- which makes no mention of Joseph 🤦‍♀️#this ain't rocket science folks!#sidenote: this is ALSO technically bad writing in the sense...#...that longtime-friend Bucky (who has ALREADY made explicit references to his knowledge of Steve's propensity to get into fights)#...wouldn't/shouldn't need to ASK Steve why he wants to fight... sth he would (obviously!) already know!#could've easily written dialogue where they discuss Steve's motives organically (so Erskine can overhear his Hero Monologue)#...without making such an obvious rookie writing error#but that's just my opinion! 👀☕#'I don't like this ship I'll pretend I'm too dense to see it' ok that's embarrassing and a skill issue not an argument#listen fox & friends if you see some queers whose existence upsets you just clutch the pearls and move on#no need to clog up this poor person's inbox with flimsy cringe rationalisations via amarriageoftrueminds

No offense but I think maybe people are overstating the influence Bucky had especially on Steve's desire to join the army. Maybe he was influenced by his father Joseph even though he never met him more? Like he didn't just want to join the army he wanted to join the 107th because originally that was the division his father was in. Bucky joined but Steve wanted to join even before that because of his father. Kind of like Luke Skywalker wanting to go off in adventures because of the image of his father.

I normally take these asks in good faith but do you know how passive-aggressive it is to start a conversation with “no offence but”? Because not only are you aware you’re about to cause offense you’re also intending to.

Canon doesn’t give us a lot to go on in terms of Steve’s inner thoughts about joining the army. The interpretation that Joseph was the inspiration is perfectly valid. As is the interpretation that Bucky’s draft was the motivation. And I’m not sure why they have to be mutually exclusive?

I will say though, because the MCU was very thin on details for Steve’s parents, many fanfic writers turned to the comic books for inspiration. The 616 iteration of Joseph, an alcoholic (likely from untreated PTSD) who subjected Sarah and Steve to abuse, is likely the reason many fans don’t lean into him being an inspirational figure for Steve.

The Cap fandom is big and diverse, and all kinds of headcanons exist. All I can say is you need to curate your experience better if seeing Steve-Bucky centric headcanons bothers you this much.

[davekat-sucks]

every now and then ill come back to this blog because its the only place where i can criticize homestuck and have people listen to it without screaming, "gurhhh ummm u just hate cuz um um um.. your.. your transphobic! homophobic!"

i just wanted to say homestuck fans have some of the worst humor ive ever seen, ESCPECIALLY the homestuck team. it feels so, milk toast. i get a insane vibe of old person who is trying so hard to make funny memes.

one of the comics was just,, vriska saying "gay" over and over? its not the fact that its a gay joke, cuz i think lgbtq jokes can be funny. but its just so uncreative here. it feels like laziness on full display. repeat gay over and over.... i dont really get it i guess.

or the general obsession with lgbtq identity in homestuck fandom. again, out of context this sounds like homophobic or transphobic bs but its moreso i just feel a insane dissapointment how storytelling is not valued anymore in this fandom. you just slap a label on a character and thats as far as content goes now a days.

its been like that for years as well. how many variations of different genders and sexualities until we get.. some creative headcanons? a creatively made comic? some storytelling that fleshes out the characters deeper?

the thing is people could make interesting stuff with lgbtq identities too but they never do. the bar is so fucking low man.

TLDR; homestuck fandom is the epitome of anti-creativity.

Yeah, that Vriska gay jokes was from the official Homestuck Independent Creative Union team that was posted on Patreon, drawn by floralmarsupial. It sucks hard. Someone said it looks like Vriska trying to gaslight Dave to thinking he is gay (for Karkat). It should feel wrong, but LGBT and Davekat fans don't care. Bullying and grooming are the same kind of definition in their eyes. Most of the humor in modern Homestuck plays it safe. They don't want to offend others if they try to do edgey, dark, or slapstick humor. So the go-to kind is often the hashtag relatable humor. But even then, that could be taken as offensive by someone. Even the pool of latest Internet memes can be hard if most of it sucks for what's currently popular or can't be portrayed in certain forms of styles. Simple text over image is not the same as trying to say it in a speech bubbles at times. Sudden deep fry visual humor won't pull off well if previous art styles had them looking clean and crisp at first. Maybe it can pull off well, but the execution of it mostly sucks in recent times by modern generation. LGBT themes really have taken over priorities in story telling, even when it is not involved or that important in the narrative. Like how does being trans gonna help save the world from impending doom from a big bad that is destined to appear in every existing timeline? Can we also get headcanons that may expand on the characters interest? Like if Eridan is interested in military war history, would that extend to movies or video games he could watch/play? It could get people to look more into other things they never thought they would be interested in. What about Dave's interest in collecting dead things? How about him having a fucking dinosaur collection in his house because it is cool? Showing his silly side a little? Or have Jade's gardening being taught to the other citizens of Earth, be the one that ends world hunger since plantations would be possible even in places that shouldn't be able to grow certain types of food?

[fandom-hoarder]

Just wondering if you can please explain to me how it's okay to describe the relationship between Crowley and Aziraphale as a "love story" even though those details are never explicitly stated or seen and are therefore subtext... but you can't accept that there is subtextual evidence in Dean's character development that implied his attraction to both genders as the story continued to develop. Yes, there are canonical instances where Dean stated he "doesn't swing that way", but they also occurred in the early seasons... before Purgatory, before his summer of love and group sex with Crowley. I'm okay with believing people when they state their sexuality... but are you okay with them changing their minds?

Is this actually about canon vs fanon? Or is it just twisting a narrative to suit how much you hate a certain ship?

I could be wrong, but I don't think *I've* described Aziraphale and Crowley as a canon love story? I've reblogged NEIL GAIMAN describing it as such. Furthermore, he never said that love was sexual, and neither have I. I enjoy Aziraphale and Crowley as a representation of queerplatonic love.

But that has nothing to do with what you're actually here to complain about.

Yes, it is actually about canon versus fanon.

In fact, destiel used to be my OTP until hellers became SO GODDAMN INSUFFERABLE in insisting their fanon is canon and attacking people over it. It's not the ship I hate, it's hellers who ruined it for me. Between the way so much destiel fiction is AU and completely changes character dynamics I like; and how hellers call other actual real life queer people homophobic, whilst wielding their own implicit biases to insist certain things MUST BE interpreted as queer NO MATTER WHAT THE CHARACTER AND THE ACTOR AND THE PEOPLE THAT WROTE DEAN SAY.

It's one thing to appreciate things you think are implied subtextual clues or things you personally vibe with and have a HEADCANON about it, but it's another thing to see Dean say on screen that he doesn't swing that way and INSIST he really does! Canon is what happens on screen. You can feel that there's implications all over the place, but that isn't the text. It's not canon.

Even his "summer of love" with Crowley does not make Dean canonically gay or bi. Lmao. First of all, that phrase shouldn't be taken seriously in the context of the show, wherein Sam is still hurt/jealous and jibing Dean about his time as a demon. We also can't take Crowley's comment about them sharing triplets, when Dean is a demon, to mean anything happened between them. He said they did "extraordinary things to triplets." That does not a homosexual encounter make.

Do you also take all the suggestive phrases about Sam and Dean to mean they're canonically incestuous? Cuz I don't, and I ship them!!

Dean is straight. He's said so in his own words many times. He's only been shown and spoken about sleeping with women.

And I'm too tired to search for late seasons dialogue now, but here's the fucking screenshot from 10.07:

[ID: screenshot of Sam holding Dean's phone, displaying Dean's dating app profile. Under "seeking", Dean has listed "women." /End ID]

Now, while anyone can stomp around insisting that a person COULD do all these things and still be gay, or bi, or queer in some way, THE CANON TEXT TELLS US DEAN IS STRAIGHT.

Y'all take all the joy out of having a bi!Dean headcanon because you have to be assholes and refuse to accept (or fucking watch) canon.

Thank you, and goodnight.

[reallyromealone]

I think female writers can white trans reader (ftm is what I’m talking about not mtf no to be homophobic or anything ) cuz you know? Like we still have a vagina so it’s couldn’t be that hard

It's more than they have vagina

Non trans people don't know the full scope of the experience of being trans and many people don't feel comfortable writing it because they don't understand what it's like to be trans.

As a trans person, I don't expect non trans people to write trans content because that can be a sensitive subject to not fuck up.

Also sometimes people just don't want to write that content and you shouldn't expect it of them, just because fem writers or hell male writers or anyone can /technically/ write something doesn't mean they're obligated to do so.

[ihopesocomic]

You know, one thing that people saying "homophobia not existing is unrealistic" in your comic reminds me, It's racism in fiction. People act like in fantasy and rpg worlds, different races need to have racism towards each other, just because in LOTR they did. And don't get me wrong, I don't like to say what people can and cannot write, nor do I think they need to make a perfect world where everyone loves each other, but certain issues like racism, as well as homophobia, are serious, and shouldn't be used as just "lore of the world".

The fact that queerphobia and sexism don't exist in your story doesn't stop bad lions like Jasper from existing, and main characters like Hope having to face them. Now seeing people make characters who are part of a fictional minority, and treating the bigotry they suffer as a way to make them "strong" and badass is so wrong to me.

And honestly, I think that even if someone wanted to do a story in a world where there's nothing bad, no bigotry, no murders, no abusive people, or whatever, that wouldn't stop the story from being good and interesting.

THANK YOU! There was no need for anyone to sling slurs at anyone and there's still tons of drama for people to chew on. There's dangerous animals, some sort of conspiracy that resulted in the deaths of three relatives, inner struggles, and more trouble on the way without it overwhelming the plot. So the fact that there's a small group of people who simply CANNOT enjoy our story unless someone's being ableist or homophobic, just tells me all I need to know tbh. Tells me we're doing something right.

After all, this LGBT-friendly comic stands by it's promise that it's LGBT-friendly lol We wanted to reassure everyone that queerphobia won't be in here, cuz quite frankly, I'M fuckin tired of seeing it in media. If the readers have to worry about whether they're gonna see bigotry relating to them in their content, then it just takes most people out of the story entirely. And if it NOT being there ruins someone's experience, that's a whole other commentary lol

(I just wanna put a pin here to say that, obviously this doesn't apply to people writing about their own experiences with discrimination. I'm mainly talking to/about cis/het/able/white people who try and fail to do stories around bigotry, but particularly in fantasy.)

I don't wanna tell people what to write either, but I will say with the utmost confidence that if you simply MUST write a story that HAS to include bigotry (racism, sexism, queerphobia, ableism, etc) where it makes no sense to include bigotry, then you're probably not a good writer. There I said it.

It's especially present in TTRPG where "THIS RACE IS EVIL" which to be fair, those mechanics are mostly phased out. But you still have those people who for some reason can't wrap their brains around the concept of an orc that's Good Actually. Like, it's not hard?

We've discussed this multiple times, but most people know why people have prejudices, and it's not naturally occurring. There's reason for it. So either come up with a good reason, or don't include it at all. (And if you're writing xenofiction about animals and you're using the 'realism' approach, it's more unrealistic for your animals to automatically have Christo-fascist beliefs lol)

Making homophobia or racism or sexism or ableism or whatever a point of contention in your fantasy story where you just assume its normal to include "because that's how it is in real life" is fuckin lazy. Not only is it more nuanced than that, people make it seem like those are the only problems in existence, while simultaneously never deconstructing it. The world is filled with inspiration for conflict surrounding resources, cultural differences, political turmoil, etc, that can be used in anyone's story and it'd be better for it, and people would know that if they realized that the key to writing a good story is to live life. - Cat

[fredbydawn]

"I don't wanna watch that movie, its got some themes that are homophobic/sexist/etc." Sure, whatever, obvs you don't gotta watch something you don't wanna watch especially if you're from a marginalized group and don't wanna engage with stuff that is openly bigoted against you

"I don't wanna watch movies from (insert decade) or that are (insert genre) because they're all homophobic/sexist/etc, I hold this opinion despite having seen very few or none of these films" If you're writing off all horror films cuz someone once told you slashers were about punishing women for having premarital sex, or never watching a noir cuz you think everything produced during the Hays years must be anti gay or anti communist propaganda, then, and I mean this from the bottom of my heart, grow up.

Like I'm not saying we shouldn't be critical of older movies/certain tropes because 'thats just how it was back then,' because criticizing a movie's flaws, even a movie you like, is very normal and actually expected. Like in a very real way, if you only interact with art that 100% aligns with and affirm your preexisting worldview, how do you expect to grow?

Like, I'm once again thinking about how we have droves of young people who's ethics/tastes/whatever begin and end with literal children's cartoons. Like watch a movie from the 80's, 70's, 60's, or even *gasp* a black and white movie! and try to learn something about the time and place it was made by examining its flaws as well as its strengths

[destinyc1020]

From what I saw, keke did nothing at that show that was disrespectful. She was having a girls night out. That’s her personality, and if the transphobic, homophobic, SA, DV, and police apologist had a problem with how she is as a person, then he should’ve never gotten with her. She showed off her body before him and she’ll do it afterwards. She shouldn’t have to be wrong for having autonomy over her own body. He’s the problem anon, so dead the shit

Like I said, I know NOTHING about Darius lol, so I'm not really at liberty to talk about him since I know virtually nothing about him, OR his "history". I just hope she didn't end up with a guy who has these claims against him... 👀

Like I've mentioned before on my blog, I have nothing against Keke if she wants to enjoy her post-baby body lol. It's not harming anyone. 😅

With that said however.... Her man obviously felt a certain type of way, and I'm not even so sure if it was just cuz of the way she was dressed. Obviously he knows what she's always dressed like when he was getting with her. I'm moreso wondering if he had that reaction because of how she was draped all over Usher that night while he was seranading her lol. 👀

I meaaaannnn...I'm not a man, but I'm trying to think if the roles were REVERESED, and I was at home with our new infant baby, would I appreciate my man out with his boys hanging all over a woman who's singing to him, while he's dressed "pretty sexy"?

I'm just saying..... They were looking kinda cozy there lol. 😅 We know it meant nothing, but I can't help but think if Zendaya were to ever do something like that, Twitter and the Fandom would HIT THE ROOF!!!

I mean, we gotta validate men's feelings too. Maybe he just didn't like seeing his woman out there like that. Maybe HE felt embarrassed. Maybe HE got jealous. He shouldn't have taken it to Twitter and put her on blast like that, but if he doesn't like the image of the mother of his child behaving in that way, then he has a right to his feelings too?🤷🏾‍♀️ It's HIS opinion since he's the one in the relationship... We're not in the relationship, so of course we're not going to be as affected. Idk...I just hope everything is okay with them, cuz what he did was not okay imo. Keke is fine to do whatever she wants, but at the same time, sometimes we have to realize too that at times our ACTIONS may have some consequences.

We can be fully within our right to do something, but that doesn't mean that it's necessarily advantageous for us to do that thing. 🤷🏾‍♀️

JMHO

She might just wanna rethink some of the stuff she does now that she's got a man, and with whom she's just had a baby. They are now co-parents, not just "dating" each other. They're actual PARENTS now.

Not saying she can't still be "sexy" or dress sexy or whatever, but just remember that your actions now may affect other people in the rlshp. 👀

[viathecloset]

MOST OF Y'ALLS KPOP IDOLS AREN'T NECESSARILY LGBTQ+

So, I witnessed my friends absolutely lose it over a girl group member's dating news. They assumed she was queer based off theorists/shippers online and other assumptions so on and so forth. While this is marinating I find the need to rethink how much an idol's personal life is questioned everyday and how to be very blunt MOST of them act a certain way just for the camera. As a queer person myself I find it hilarious how often times kpop stans queer or otherwise find the need to label their artists partly because we find the need to reflect ourselves or relate to their work and partly because queerbaiting in kpop is very much real, obvious in some cases to the point it makes you uncomfortable and very subtle in other cases where the said pair is prone to unnecessary analysis and scrutiny. This is no way is to dismiss real queer artists in the kpop scene, which I'm sure are many closeted or the ones who already came out. But as time progresses it's vital to understand how queerness (the stereotypical kind) is marketed and bought and enjoyed by the audience of a very homophobic country/audience where there are literal witch hunts for the said community.

• Male idols who embrace themselves, dance and dress up well and arent afraid to express themselves via makeup/clothing or otherwise or are in general physically very affectionate to their fellow members doesn't make them gay. It's often times these male idols who carry either smaller proportions than other members have seemingly feminine vocals/features who are very physically affectionate subjected to unnecessary scrutiny. Crotch grabs/Butt slaps/neck kissing/sitting on laps etc, are all just extreme comfort/affection. Often times than not it's straight women (teenagers/middle aged) ones who take these to such great extent that other members are threatened cuz their delusional pairing isn't acting a certain way.

• accept it or not the reality is that these contents in concerts/vids etc are to cater to an audience. So do not be too surprised if the reality is far from what you assumed based off these.

• Female idols go through a lot already with constant body shaming etc they have to face, their affections etc aren't supposed to mistook every single time that even when they actually date someone you are blatantly against it because you assumed her sleeping with her bandmate in your wet dreams.

• Althought it might be painful to accept sometimes it's essential to understand that shipping is supposed to be light hearted and shouldn't effect the idols in any form or way but with the constant dehumanizing of these people, fans crossing all boundaries when it comes to them, going as far as terrorizing their comments, stripping them off their individuality to an extent that you do not engage with them unless the other part of ship is mentioned it's essential to rethink as to why you started stanning this artist/group in the first place.

[mischief-lies-and-stories]

The Only Loki I (Actually) Hate

So I've alluded several times to the fact that I hate President Loki, and he's a dick and he's horrible, and I want him to die a horrible, fiery death and never come back from it. And it should be noted that he's the only Loki that I hate.

Classic Loki? Tragic, I love him so much, and I think he deserves a hug from Thor. Alligator Loki? Perfect, can do no wrong. (So he ate a cat; I'm sorry for that cat, that sucks, but he's wonderful.) Boastful Loki? I know nothing about him, so I can't make any judgments either way. He's great, and he can lift Mjolnir, which is cool. I have no idea how he became worthy of that, but I know nothing about him, so I don't know why. Sylvie? Perfect, can do no wrong, best friend, love her so much. Main Loki, the Loki that we know? I love him. I love him. I love him. Kid Loki? As I've said before, I'm certain he did not actually kill Thor, or he had a very good reason why he ended up killing Thor. But he's perfect anyway, and I'm sure he's fine. And even if he did kill Thor, I'm sure Thor got better. It's what he does. Fork Loki? Weirdo, but I don't know enough about him, so... okay.

Any Loki whatsoever in the comics? Great, perfect. I do want Old Loki to shut the fuck up. (He's a Loki in Agent of Asgard.) But by the end of it, we actually find out he's kind of a tragic Loki. And he's really very lonely, and he comes back in time to the main timeline of Loki: Agent of Asgard and kind of fucks shit up and inadvertently gives him (main AoA Loki) the support system that Old Loki didn't have. So he's really just as sympathetic a character as the main Loki from AoA is, in the end. And Kid Loki in the comics is great and he can also do no wrong, and I've adopted him and he's my child. The original Loki? He's annoying and I'm tired of him, but I don't hate him.

President Loki needs to die. I would like to slam his head against the wall until it bleeds and snaps.

The reason for that, is because he comes from a single-volume comic called Vote Loki, which came out roughly 2015/2016-ish. And he is the villain. And I think all of the other Lokis involved, in the comics or in the MCU, would hate his fucking guts. Cuz he's a jerk. And a dumbass. And why in the hell is he trying to become president?

He's set up as a character replacement, when there are plenty of other villains who could have done this, plenty of other fascists, racists, misogynists, homophobes, that could have done the job if you needed a stand in, and they chose Loki for some reason. And that is why I hate him so profoundly. He is so vastly out of character for current era Loki (not counting the era of Loki between AoA and Defenders: Beyond but we don't talk about that and I didn't read it, but I'm aware this is technically in that era), because he's a stand-in. And he's really terrible. And I don't like him. And he's the only Loki that I really vehemently hate.

If I never saw him again, or heard of him again, I'd be good. There's a lot of merch that's like, "Vote Loki," or campaign buttons, and stuff. And I won't touch it; I will not buy it. Because that's stupid. I hate that comic. I hate that man. I'm so mad that Tom Hiddleston looks so fucking good in that suit with those horns, because that comic sucks. I'm so mad, because that comic was a gift from my friend, because they know how much I like Loki, and they wanted me to enjoy it so much. And that comic fell so flat for me, because it shouldn't have.

Because there's a perfectly good way that that comic should've gone, and still had Loki running for president. And it would've been to have him not be a stand-in, but to have him run against the stand-in, or to have him run against the person he's standing in for (who would've thrown a baby tantrum over it, but what else is new? He probably threw a baby tantrum over the comic anyway). Or, cuz it's Loki, why the fuck does Loki care about the laws of the United States or Earth? He's got daggers. Like.... I'm not sure why the election even needs to happen. (Baby-Tantrum-Man concedes on the grounds that he is six feet under said ground. You cannot prove his opponent had anything to do with putting him there.)

So that's why I hate President Loki. And why I never want to see him again. And why the fact that he got his hand bit off by Alligator Loki was the greatest moment of my life. Alligator Loki should've eaten more of him. Fuck President Loki. And while I'm at it, fuck the guy he was a stand-in for so the reactionary ex-douchebag-in-chief wouldn't try to sue Marvel./End Rant.

TL;DR They turned Loki into the asshat who was the US President 2016-2020 (I refuse to give him the attention of typing his fucking name). I don't think they intended for it to be anything more than poking fun at him, because the run ended well before election day. But God I was so pissed. It was vastly out of character for his current comic personality (I know what he did in Avengers; I'm talking comics).

[undead-moth]

"Having realistic understandings of their body"

I do not need to give thin people "realistic understandings" of their body if "realistic understandings" mean informing them they're thin. I'm fat. My body is realistic. My body isn't less realistic than theirs. I have to have a "realistic understanding" of my body in a world that is constantly trying to convince me that my body isn't realistic, that it's not supposed to exist, that it's not normal, that I shouldn't look like this. If you think I should have to, for some reason, give thin people a "realistic understanding" of a body that is already widely recognized as realistic, normal, and the standard, you're fatphobic.

"a lot of the pathological ways that ppl associate with their body is through a warped self-perception"

What you're saying is some thin people think they're fat and this is very hard for them. I do not care. I actually AM fat. I do not have a "warped self-perception" - I AM fat. I should not have to tell thin people they're not fat, especially when if you're fat, there is no way to doubt. There is no "thinking" or "wondering" if you're fat. There's no "fearing" you might be fat. The entire fucking world lets you know you're fat every single day. I should not have to be patient with a skinny person who is afraid they look like me when they regularly go to a store and buy clothes with an "S" on it. I should not have to explain to these people that if they are buying clothes with an "S" on it they're not fucking fat, especially because there are fat people who can't find clothes in stores at all. Nevermind these people's "warped-perception" of their bodies wouldn't matter, and likely wouldn't exist, if they weren't fatphobic to begin with.

"'I really need you to understand that you're not fat, HOWEVER, it would be no better or worse if you were' and that can be a tough distinction to make, especially cuz stating the second part can often work to undermine the efficacy of the first part."

If your concern is undermining the first part and not the second part of this statement, you're a fatphobe. Nevermind that you have it backwards. The second part doesn't undermine the first, the first undermines the second. Stating the first part makes the second point irrelevant to those whose only concern is whether or not they're fat. Why would I ever reassure someone they're not fat just to say, "but it doesn't matter if you are"? Why would I need to reassure them they're not fat if it didn't matter? No. Skinny people will just have to cope with me skipping to, "It doesn't matter if you are." And if they can't handle this because "Oh no that might mean I actually am fat," then they're clearly not interested in either hearing me out, or unlearning their fatphobia.

"its often going to involve some kind of appeal to or engagement with fatphobic ideas or rhetoric"

You would not ever suggest this if we were talking about something else. Should gay people have to appeal to homophobic straight people? Should people of color have to appeal to racist white people? Should women have to appeal to misogynistic men? Fuck you.

"if we say that 'only serves to reinforce fatphobia', we're kinda... kneecapping our efforts here? right?"

No that would be kneecapping your efforts, which are to reassure thin people they're not fat, and prioritize their insecurities over fat people's dignity and fight for fat liberation.

It always comes down to this with this post. Some supposedly well-meaning person hops on and tries to level with me and act like it's just so complicated to get on board with my below-the-bare-minimum request because doing so would require them not to prioritize thin people for once in their fucking lives.

At the end of the day, you care more about skinny people's insecurities than you do about fat liberation. You're fatphobic. That's it.

So much “body-positivity” just boils down to, “You’re not as fat as you think!” and only serves to reinforce fatphobia. Your before-and-after slouching photos are fatphobic. Your reassurance that, “Everyone has a pouch there! That’s where your organs are!” is fatphobic. Your comparison of different jeans that are all different sizes in different stores but all fit the same is fatphobic. Anything that’s meant to reassure thin people they’re not fat is fatphobic. Anything that fails to acknowledge that some people actually are fat is fatphobic. And you can’t be “body-positive” and fatphobic. They are mutually exclusive.

[autumn-applepie]

I think it's baffling that my mother doesn't want me to get disrespected and always stand my ground but when I stand my ground against her or a family member I'm "being ungrateful"

I feel a little stupid for ranting this much but hhh ig putting myself on blast is what keeps me sane so I'm gonna rant down here sorry it's going to be log I just yap a lot ignore this lol </3

my mom is very pushy and a perfectionist, failure and error is not allowed, and whenever there's a problem she gets angry, screams, insults and throws things. I messed something in my new University's registration and instead of paying no taxes, we ended up having to pay a 400 euros tax. My mom was screaming like shit, I thought it was completely normal that we had to pay them but then we checked and we figured I messed an information cuz the explanation wasn't so clear on the site and she got mad saying that she was supposed to do it and I can't do anything alone, that I'm a child, I'm pushy and I always rush things when I did that registration quite calmly and double checked and was absolutely sure.

I just messed something, and tbh 400 euros of taxes for the whole year is not even that much, considering the higher taxes you can possibly pay in that uni is over 30,000 euros. And we have a whole month to fix this we just gotta wait for the secretary to reach us back to our email. And when we made the first payment (the admission tax of 120 euros, not the uni tax), she obsessively tried to search for every single paper possible, while I tried to show her how it takes a bit for the payment to show and she got heated up and doubled down on "I'm just showing you how you not fuck your life up" like wtf?? And ofc I got mad telling her to calm down cuz there was no reason to twist the knife in the wound and she got so offended saying I have no right to talk back to her and disrespect her. That I'll never go anywhere in life with that attitude and that when someone older than me talks I need to shut up and listen and that I want to ruin my life I can do that outside of the family. Even when she started mocking me instead of giving me actual counterargument (like, literally she would mimic my words mockingly and go "bleh bleh bleh gne gne gne wah wah wah wah!", even disrespectfully mimicking spasms while doing it) she would go "I'm making fun of you because you never let me talk so I'm not going to listen to you" wha????

This always happens also with my grandmother and my aunt. Long story short, my grandma is very old and is starting to struggle to walk. She uses a cane and always needs a hand. Usually is my aunt who does that, however, my aunt is very dismissive and superficial. Whenever we go out, I always end up being the one caring for my grandma because my aunt doesn't even care to stay close to her enough, making her risk to fall to the ground multiple times. Now, my grandmother is not a good person either, like at all. She's the main source of verbal abuse, fatphobic, homophobic, and racist "jokes" in the whole family. But still she's like. Almost 90 years old. And tbh she doesn't deserve to like. Fall to the ground because my aunt cares more about herself than her own old mother. I had to call out my aunt many times like "can't you please stay behind her instead of having your head in the clouds??" and my aunt gets always so offended and my mom always goes "she's your aunt, and she's older than you. You have to give respect no matter what" and I obviously told her that respect is a two way street no matter the age and no matter if it is a relative or not (also because we're talking about GRANDMA FALLING TO THE GROUND because of my aunt not caring), and her response was "Life doesn't work like that. Respect should always be given, you shouldn't be entitled to have that respect back" huh??????? I don't??? think that's how respect work????

Idk she always leaves me so spent every time cuz wtf

[sleep-deprived-luka]

In the Mizuena Story Ena comes across the Others multiple times (since the entire plot is about crossing the line between human and others) and I've been trying to give each encounter some form of unique flair, adjusting the prose or working on some interesting forms of distortion.

Ones I'm satisfied with are Teto and the crows. Teto who invites Ena in a dance and having a fun little talk, before leaving Ena exhausted and confused. Talking about how fun the days of the others mixing with humans are, but how they'll always end. The crows who solely talk in ellipses, moving as one large mocking body of glimmering obsidian.

The ones I'm not so fond of, or at least have to work on are, Oliver the cat (There's one scene where Ena tries to interact with him, but small frightened Oliver hisses at her. Erm bla bla rejection of the other), Internet co. (Ena gets suddenly lost in the woods during training, Gumi and some others randomly appear and help her out, with the additional warning that she should leave Mizuki (so homophobic of them :/)), Rui (He's one of the last hurdles, going "Oh me and Mizuki are like Other Others, not fun. You prolly shouldn't associate with us" just, I like writing Ruis dubious hut and the idea of Mizurui angsty "We are children of Chaos" musings makes me go tihi, but I haven't wrote enough of that), Kanade (Homegirl deserves a Ghostbusting chapter, but atm the best I can give is "Wow there's this weirdly beautiful music playing at night, sure hope it's not a ghost or something" ) and prolly some more I can't say from the top of my head lmao.

Most interactions just have the goal of portraying the idea of "Noo, don't interact with us, you're like, privileged or something" almost always followed by Ena ignoring or forgetting the warnings, cuz her only comfort is from the other (rejected heir and all) Basically the common Mizuena chase theming lmao, but I get weird about the themes of sanctity/purity

I could put that to Contrast to the Shizuai plot, where the opposite of Enas theming happens. Instead of a human finding comfort in the Other, it's the inverse with a Other finding comfort in humans.

But instead of sanctity it's domestication and wilderness I explore lmao. Still there are scenes where Airi loses her wilderness, her lynx self and those are fun to explore and the prose in that one is genuinely my favorite part (I used several methods to somewhat describe the transition from lynx to hound to Airi for example by replacing names with animals and then status (If things go as intended Airi won't mention any name before finding equal grounds with Shizuku) It's really fun to figure out animalistic imagery and then the roles of society, all while considering Airis current mindset (Standoffish and all High and mighty to confused, ashamed and deminishing) that stuff plays into my interest lmao)

Still that story heavily relies on me expressing that transition from Airis Pov. Mizuena is mostly interaction based, so I chuck Ena into a room of weirdos and get some dialogue out of it. Her Pov only has some interesting points, like a more painterly prose for descriptions, but nothing that is really beyond the average Pov type. Maybe I could add some more flair to her Pov, but the Character struggle is too external to be worth it :P

This is an incredibly unfocused ramble lmao, well I'm tired so that's that.

[laughing-drawing-aces]

People always cry we take Robin's agency that she just be allowed to date Nancy without problems and that she shouldn't care about Steve. Like they are the ones who completely take away Robin's agency. It's clear to me that Robin values Steve's friendship so much, by not making her care about Steve's feelings you take away so much from Robin's character. I genuinely think those people had no best friends. But what can you expect from people who can't even admit that Nancy played the bigger role in the breakup with Steve. Like Steve wasn't perfect, he couldn't be there for Nancy like she wanted but then she should not have strung him along for months. I'm not villainizing her it's literally in the show. She admits it herself and then doesn't take any accountability for it. Like I believe if Stancy talked it out, from Steve's side he would want to make it work. Nancy wasn't 100% in it from the beginning. Which is fine she doesn't have to love him just be honest with him. If Steve would have fucked the person Nancy was worried about two days after a huge fight, people would see it as cheating on his behalf. Like what is worse lying to your boyfriend that you love him since the beginning or not completely understanding your girlfriend's trauma because you deal with your own?

Or they constantly bring up his past mistakes that he's a bad person so Robin would have no problems leaving him. Like they argue Steve left Nancy wasted at the party when the subtext suggests he didn't because why should Jonathan lie about it. He loved Nancy and hated Steve why should he make him look better, plus he knew Steve was upset so it seems to me they had a little talk and Steve asked him to take her home. It would have been ooc for Steve to leave her there given he is a protective person, he would make sure she got home safely. This is the guy who doesn't want her to blow up the lab because it's dangerous if you think he would abandon her in that situation with no one to keep her safe you don't get his character. He just couldn't be with her because she hurt him. And it would have been ooc for Jonathan to lie about this. Jonathan is a no bullshit person he told Nancy what he thinks in s1 why not in that instance?

Or people still think Steve is homophobic because of s1, when he really owned up to everything. He literally exepted Robin with no problems. Or on the topic of slutshaming, he never expected Nancy to forgive him he wanted to make it up to her. She also took a month to overthink and then gave him a chance. If she can forgive Jonathan why is Steve the exeption? And to use this as a reason for the breakup is just arguing in bad faith. Like why would she date him if she can't forgive him?

Or they use Robin as a person who hated Steve in highschool for his ways when in reality she only disliked him because she was jealous. There was no indication he was a bully to her. Stop using Robin for anti Steve agenda she will pick him over everything. If you want Steve people stop talking about Nancy maybe don't make her fuck his best friend??? Again I hated my best friend's exes for less. Even if my bff made mistakes I still hated the exes for theirs and Nancy made mistakes so big in that relationship Robin wouldn't be cool.

okay so gonna put some of this under read more cuz it’s kind of long

please the amount of times i’ve seen them completely just throw robin’s absence away is insane like idk they’re all crazy about us doing it when honestly we’re the ones to constantly give robin her own storyline and give her deeper thought about her family and actually give her a family who does love her no matter what. god yeah people who think that robin just is going to say ‘fuck steve’ just don’t understand her character at all. also she has a deep connection with steve and this friendship is still relatively new (people forget that they’ve only actually been friends for not even a year - they started being friends in july and then in march of the next year they are still close) so idk why people just want robin to betray steve and then make everything okay. it’s just weird. god everything in this paragraph is a fucking banger.

honestly people who are still bitter about steve in season 1 just are projecting their own experiences with their bullies and making steve seem like a bigger bully then what we actually see in canon which is him just living in his own bubble and reacting to the things around him. like people can’t understand this but steve in season 1 is just reacting to the events that are going on around him and that’s honestly it. steve isn’t going out of his way to target nancy or jonathan - he’s just reacting to the possibility that nancy cheated on him with jonathan (which is wild how canon just did this anyway and then made it seem like steve should just lie down on the floor and take it). i didn’t even think about that but yeah it would have been soo OOC for jonathan to lie about it especially about steve who he admitted in season 1 that he didn’t like steve. genuinely why would he lie for steve?

i fucking hate everyone being like ‘he’s homophobic’ because the thing is was he really? he just said one word that people just threw around back then - not saying that it’s right. but people use that one like to say steve is homophobic but we never actually get an opinion on what he believes. also like hopper has said worse shit than steve and hopper is seen as this amazing alley to byler (which ironically bylers are always the ones to say this sjit about steve) but yeah like it’s insane that they clutch onto that one line vs steve in season 3 and 4 bejng the most welcoming person to robin and encouraging her to pursue someone when they both think vickie is a safe person to be open and have a crush on. honestly yeah about the nancy forgave him like she had to do that on her own. do i think it’s wild she got together with him after that? yes! but also she does that in canon. also my two cents but sometimes people get caught up on this slut shaming for no reason cuz nancy fr slutshames other women and it’s no big deal to anyone.

legit robin would hate the fact that people use this as anti steve slander. like you said robin only really hated steve because of her own shit and she was jealous. like steve doesn’t know robin exists - why do people think he would know she exists prior canon (unless it’s for an au or just a slight mention of robin where steve forgets who she is)? honestly it’s just so frustrating how people can see stobin’s friendship and then be like ‘okay i’m going to destroy everything about this friendship but the people who like stobin go to far because they lost this friendship’. legit people be like why you talking about steve but then immediately give robin his ex and think they’re being progressive or some shit. also like i don’t even think ronance would make it work by themselves, steve is just the cherry on top of why i don’t think they would romantically be together so it’s not even like i just hate them cuz of the ex thing - i just don’t think their personalities work well at all. also nancy is legit kn a relationship with jonathan and does not at all have a queer plot line in canon (that’s all fanon).

[endiness]

~*~in defense of blaine~*~

"he does serenade a closeted guy he doesn't know all that well, who works in costumer service AT HIS WORKPLACE, with a song about sex toys. (The guy in question ends up getting fired of course)."

weird how this doesn't mention that at the time blaine was 15-16 years old and obviously a dumb teenager doing dumb teenager things in the name of a crush and how there was absolutely no indication whatsoever that blaine even knew the guy was closeted.

or how the guy in question was an adult who had to've at least been in his early 20s and how he (an adult!) had taken blaine (a minor!) out for coffee a few times or how his response to the situation was "we aren't dating because if we were i'd get arrested" which, if anything, should indicate he doesn't actually have a problem with dating a minor so much as he has a problem with getting caught—which he only was because blaine made a public declaration of his feelings.

weird to make the minor in this situation out to be the bad guy and not the adult 🤔

"He also gives some pretty hypocritical advice to his love interest, Kurt, about how he should try to blend in"

…is this in reference to how blaine was gay bashed at the last dance he attended at his previous school before dalton and thus has major anxiety about attending prom with kurt, who assures him that they don't have to go and they can just do something else instead, at which point blaine agrees to go only for kurt to later insist on wearing a kilt to his prom for the deliberate purpose of provoking people—which obviously makes blaine anxious? (also friendly reminder that kurt goes back on his word and tells blaine that he's going to prom wearing the kilt with or without him and tries to guilt trip him into going.)

"hypocritical, cuz Blaine does the opposite and he's thriving under the attention"

there is a difference between getting attention by being a performer—which is the way blaine receives attention—and getting attention for explicitly being gay because people are homophobic. like? blaine does not receive attention for being gay, for the most part. that's literally one of the things kurt holds against blaine in the next season; that he's straight passing. (also, like? the one time blaine did receive attention—negative attention—for being gay was when he was gay bashed.)

"In s3, him and Kurt are boyfriends, and he transitions school for him, which we could absolutely count as a decent thing"

friendly reminder that blaine transfers schools because kurt lowkey threatens to breakup with him if he doesn't ^_^

"however it all kinda sours when he gets the part of Tony in the school's production of West side story" etc

it isn't blaine's fault that kurt is shit at planning for college tbqfh and he shouldn't have to sacrifice a chance at something he wants just because he and kurt have the same interests and extracurriculars as each other and as such will be in situations where they will be competing against each other for the same parts. it is so absurd that people keep holding this against blaine.

"he starts flirting with Blaine, who does end up rejecting his advances and telling him he's taken (though much later than it's probably ethical"

blaine literally tells sebastian to back off the second time they see each other, like???

"So he tries to sleep with Kurt, who of course, doesn't know that his boyfriend's sudden interest in him is due to directoral instructions."

this is literally not what happens. rachel is the one who tried to sleep with her bf, at least initially, due to artie's comments—not blaine. the next blaine and kurt scene we see after that one is blaine telling kurt that he has no problem waiting to have sex. (also, like? the media illiteracy of this? the show very obviously links blaine's sudden sexual desire and awakening to sebastian's appearance—not anything to do with artie's comments. like, the entire point of that storyline and the narrative is blaine being ~tempted by sebastian and resisting that temptation to be with this true loveTM.)

"Blaime doesn't oblige, and Kurt ends up shouting at him, which Blaine…doesn't take well, and blames Kurt, then leaves by foot."

obviously blaine's behavior here is not good and it is a valid thing to criticize him for. however. blaine did not immediately stop—emphasis on immediately. probably because he was wasted and caught up in the moment. which, again, not a good thing. but it is also not actually black hat, evil mustache twirling behavior either. and as the fandom always loves to ignore this: blaine apologized for his behavior at the end of the episode.

"They end up having sex by the end of this episode btw. No, Kurt still doesn't know about the directoral instructions."

directorial instructions, which again, have absolutely no bearing on blaine's behavior whatsoever as blaine did not want to have sex with kurt because of them.

"this all culminates in cheating incident no.1" etc

yeah. kurt cheated on blaine because he was bored in their relationship, he knew what he was doing was wrong because he did not want blaine to find out what he was doing at all, he tried to gaslight blaine about how he wasn't cheating on him when blaine did find out and he tried to blame blaine for it because he's jealous of blaine's popularity, and he refused to take any responsibility for cheating and never apologized—all of which culminated in the show brushing off kurt cheating and blaine trying to be a better boyfriend to kurt.

"Blaine feels ignored"

blaine felt ignored because he was ignored. kurt did not care about what was going on in his life at all and only talked about himself and he repeatedly ignored blaine's calls for office gossip.

"so he cheats on him with some guy we only see the facebook profile of"

not to get doylist about this but blaine cheats on kurt because the narrative was never willing to hold kurt accountable for his actions. kurt spends multiple episodes sexually harassing finn? better have finn use a homophobic slur to get kurt to stop so finn comes off looking like the bad guy. (tbf the show did address this the next season. although the amount kurt was willing to accept any responsibility for his behavior was still 0%, like it always is lol.) kurt cheats on blaine? no, blaine, you're crazy, sayeth the narrative, and you should be a better boyfriend to kurt, actually. kurt spends the beginning of s4 ignoring blaine in their long distance relationship and comes off as the bad guy in the whole situation? nope! blaine's gotta cheat on kurt so kurt remains the perpetual poor hapless victim who never does anything wrong.

"His reaction to this is to try manipulating/tricking Kurt into eating copious amounts of food too."

no, that is what kurt assumes blaine is doing which the narrative never bothers to refute. but we've already established that the narrative, if anything, is actually incredibly biased in kurt's favor. in the episode what actually happens is that both blaine and kurt try to get the other to adopt their diets.

also important to note: in the same episode, blaine repeatedly tries to talk to kurt about things only to have kurt brush him off and refuse to talk, then for kurt to tell blaine that they "talk too much," only later for kurt to tell blaine that he should talk to him. and kurt accuses blaine of "really coming at him" during their combat/stunt training even though kurt was the aggressor the entire time—not blaine. both of which, despite showing the exact opposite, the narrative does not refute at all.

so again: how reliable is kurt's assessment of the situation and how reliable is the narrative when it directly contradicts what it shown but never acknowledges that?

"Blaine ends up going back to Ohio, and dating the guy who bullied, non-consensually kissed, than threatened to kill Kurt. (The guy did have a redemption arc, but I still dunno how to feel)"

and what about it? obivously fans don't have to like dave or forgive him and people can certainly think it's weird for the show to have them date after everything. but dave did genuinely change for the better and he was there for blaine when blaine was in a really bad place in his life. like, why is this something to hold against blaine lol.

"it's the fact that in universe, he almost never gets called"

maybe the reason why blaine never supposedly gets called out is because the things people hate blaine for either literally didn't happen in the first place or aren't actually even problems lol.

secondly, but most importantly, this still isn't true anyway. most of the time when blaine does something bad, he is actually called out on it and he does actually suffer consequences for his actions. for example: blaine cheats on kurt; kurt breaks up with him. and if other characters aren't calling blaine out on his actions, then it's usually because blaine himself is. because blaine, unlike most of the characters on the show, actually feels guilt and remorse when he does something bad and he's usually the first to acknowledge his flaws and apologize and try to make amends. 🤷‍♀️

Controversial Character Tournament Round 2: Blaine Anderson from Glee vs Barok Van Zieks from The Great Ace Attorney

(remember that these characters are fictional and your fellow tumblr users are real. i will block you if you harass others in the notes, please consider sending your unhinged harassment to my inbox instead)

Propaganda under the cut, may contain spoilers:

Blaine Anderson:

LOVE: - "you know that post that's like "fandom will call a character evil and immature and then the character is just 15 yo" because that's what happens with blaine. he's just a sweet but socially inept kid with a lot of insecurities who's trying his best. compared to most glee characters he hasn't done anything wrong in his life. and yes he cheated on his boyfriend that one time, but he was super depressed afterwards (also this is glee literally every character has cheated and none have suffered as most as blaine because of it). in conclusion he's just a silly goose. my little princess <3"

HATE: (tumblr will not let me format this one bc its too long)

"A lot of people say he's the male Rachel Berry, and while I think that is absolutely a true statement, I actually don't mind his personality all that much. Literally everyone in Glee has a personality that ranges from inconsistent to downright horrendeus, so instead of talking about what he's like, here's some things he canonically does (buckle up, this'll be long): In season 2, when we first meet him, he's the leader of his school's showchoir. (redflag no.1/j) This gives him the freedom and authoritity to do a lot of stuff- not all bad, but he does serenade a closeted guy he doesn't know all that well, who works in costumer service AT HIS WORKPLACE, with a song about sex toys. (The guy in question ends up getting fired of course). He also gives some pretty hypocritical advice to his love interest, Kurt, about how he should try to blend in (hypocritical, cuz Blaine does the opposite and he's thriving under the attention), and he asks some insesitive questions, but those are all pretty excusable, or at least standard for Glee. In s3, him and Kurt are boyfriends, and he transitions school for him, which we could absolutely count as a decent thing, however it all kinda sours when he gets the part of Tony in the school's production of West side story. Why is this important? Kurt is a senior, and the performing arts university he's applying for is really competitive, so he needs all the extra curriculars and theatre experiance he can get. He asks Blaine to not aidition for Tony- which he agrees to- than promptly goes against that by singing one of Tony's songs at audition. He then gets offfered the role, doesn't turn it down, tells Kurt he should be happy for him, and honestly, BY GLEE STANDARDS, this is also pretty chill. Meanwhile: enter Sebastian Smythe, another contraversial character, who's now the new captain of Blaine's former showchoir, and who decides that either 1. Blaine is hot 2. Gonna use Blaine as an informat (His reasons are unclear tbh) Either way, he starts flirting with Blaine, who does end up rejecting his advances and telling him he's taken (though much later than it's probably ethical, idk tho, I'm aro). He (Blaine) really enjoys the attention though, so they end up keeping in touch. (Important for later.) Back to our main plot though; Blaime doesn't have sexual chemistry with his co-star, so the director tells him to lose his virginity (yes, you heared that right, it is fucked up). So he tries to sleep with Kurt, who of course, doesn't know that his boyfriend's sudden interest in him is due to directoral instructions. And then probably the most contraversial Blaine scene happens- see, Blaine, Kurt, and Sebastian (who Kurt hates with passion) end up going to this gaybar. Blaime gets drunk (though he only drinks one beer on screen, so we don't exactly know how drunk), and tries to sleep with Kurt in the parking lot. Kurt is visibly upset, and tells him no multiple times. Blaime doesn't oblige, and Kurt ends up shouting at him, which Blaine...doesn't take well, and blames Kurt, then leaves by foot. (They end up having sex by the end of this episode btw. No, Kurt still doesn't know about the directoral instructions. Whether he does it out of love or fear that Blaine will leave him is unclear) So we already know these two are not very good at boundries and communication, but the writers say they're "soulmates" so apperantly it's okay? Anyway, this all culminates in cheating incident no.1, where Kurt meets a guy whom he shares similar interests with, and who gives him some very cheesy compliements. They exchange numbers, and text a lot. Blaine doesn't like this. He checks their texts in secret, and then sings a song in front of the entire Glee club about how he's being cheated on, to humiliate Kurt.

Kurt insists it's not cheating, giving the example that Blaine's doing the same/used ro do the same with Sebastian. Blaine says "that's different" and they leave it at that. Kurt apologises via song. S4- Kurt moves to New York. Has to work a lot, since rebt is high, and also gets an internship at vague, so he's quite busy. Blaine feels ignored, so he cheats on him with some guy we only see the facebook profile of. They break up. S5- Blaine has a crush in this other guy, Sam. (He's been trying to get Kurt back, so him moving on is a big deal). Except gay marrige gets legalized, and Blaine decides to propose to Kurt. So he gets back together with him, then bot a week later he arranges a huge public proposal where it'd honestly just be plain emberassing to say no, but dontcha worry, because Kurt accepts. They move to New York together. Blaine becomes insecure, because Kurt gets ripped thanks to his fencing lessons, meanwhile he lrts go of himself a bit, enjoying all the fine food New York has to offer. His reaction to this is to try manipulating/tricking Kurt into eating copious amounts of food too. (To be fair, Kurt's reaction to the situation isn't perfect either, but this is not about him, their actions can co-exist without one of them necessarily having to be "the right one") S6- Kurt breaks up with Blaine. Blaine ends up going back to Ohio, and dating the guy who bullied, non-consensually kissed, than threatened to kill Kurt. (The guy did have a redemption arc, but I still dunno how to feel) You might be wondering- "wow, this was so lpng and extensive", and you'd be right but also this was mostly romantic relationship centric. There's also a lot of stuff Blaine says to his friends that make me question my sanity, but this is Glee, so that's every character in basically every episode. What makes me hate Blaine isn't even JUST all this- it's the fact that in universe, he almost never gets called-out, people take his side, it's as if the writers are condoning his actions, and I Don't Like That. I'm all for liking morally grey, or even morally dispicable characters, as long as their actions don't get excused. Hell, I started out just mildly disliking Blaine, but a lot of people paint him as innocent and pure, and that didn't feel right. Then I was ready to like him BECUASE of his questionable morality- but turns out, the guy doean't have much else going on besides this. His personality is almost the same as Rachel, except Rachel's more...full? If that makes sense? Blaine is just...bland. And inconsistent, and boring, and I just Do Not Like Him At All."

Baron Van Zieks:

LOVE: - "man's 6'4", british, looks like a vampire, took a mental health break for 5 years thanks to the dead bodies that cropped up after he lost in court, and is uhhhhhh kinda racist which is a key part of his character. the explanation for it is divisive but he does grow as a character eventually?? i think he's fun. there's a bonus case exclusive to the 3DS version of the games where he mentions he was almost poisoned in one of the first cases he ever handled. he objects with his leg. he brings wine into court but rarely drinks it. he has bats in his office. we have no idea where the scar on his face came from. his voice actor did a subway commercial. i think he wants to believe he is the sane one in the courtroom but that title belongs to the 16 year old judicial assistant for the defense." - "I love to hate him tbh!!! He's a complex interesting character tied up in things outside of his control and being used by the antagonist to hurt people, isolated due to his grief and rumors from the public. He also sucks SO fucking bad and I want to punch him. Lovingly. But I love him I promise."

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What r things you like about the dsaf community, and things you don’t like about it? Just curious to hear some thoughts! :D

Oh boy, I have a lot to say abt this one. I'm just gonna preface this by saying, I have a very special place in my heart for dsaf. Idk where I would be today if I hasn't have found that trilogy. With that being said, I'll start with the good.

Tw: opinions 😱😱

For starters, its a very welcoming community. Because a good majority of the community is queer, it makes it a safe space. In my experience, it was the first time I felt open and comfortable being myself inside of a Fandom.

It's also a very talented community. Like holy hell, have you seen those amazing Henry fanarts with him in the void? They're fucking epic!

Finally, the DSaF community is pretty sweet to new artists. I remember when I was in the piggy Fandom, they were brutal man. I got bullied constantly for my art and was pretty close to quitting for a while. In DSaF though, I just simply received constructive criticism and people helping me rather than shaming me.

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Now onto the not so great

First, the ships that shouldn't really be normalized. Steven x Peter is probably a big one. Peter had a wife, Steven was a horrible boss and sent Peter to the factory knowing what would happen to him, and that he had a family (we know from Peter and Jimbo that you can refuse to do that. In the slightly evil ending, Peter refuses to send Jimbo to the factory) and also they canonically hate eachother. Also the horrible power imbalance? Like, idc what your excuse is, shipping boss x employee is just wrong.

And yet, this is like the 2nd most popular ship in the Fandom. I'm not done with it either cuz the people who ship Steven and Peter lead into my next point.

Being toxic towards straight ships. I'm gonna preface this before anybody gets mad by saying, I am a trans and queer man, I can have an opinion on this.

So Peterline is not a very popular ship despite it being cannon. Caroline is Peter's wife, and you see her at the end of the perfect ending. I've been bullied before (mainly on tiktok) for shipping this. I've had someone just go off on me because I'm "taking away gay rep and that Peter is canonically a gay man." Like, tf?? Also, side note: he isn't. Dogman confirmed the characters sexualities and Peter is "probably straight." Not to mention he had a wife that he chose and married himself, not a manufactured one like with Steven. But back to my point. Peterline is overshadowed by all of the Steven x Peter shippers because it's EVERYWHERE. I don't even know why it's a ship in all honesty. But heaven forbid you don't ship it and ship Peter and his WIFE.

You thought that was the worst of it? Wrong. We go away from the side that's mainly queer/allies and go to the homophobic side. Yep. There are homophobic/transphobic DSaF fans despite a good majority of the main cast being queer. Luckily, they don't really show their faces anywhere near the queer fans, so we're all set. I have seen them comment on davesport posts before though complaining. Speaking of davesport:

Davesport has completely taken over the Fandom. I love davesport as much as the next person, but if you truly love something, you have to admit the flaws. First, the weird kinda fetishism of it? I won't name names **cough cough daystars cough cough**, but there are artists who draw this ship and intentionally make the characters look like teenage boys and not old zombie men. Plus, people kinda romanticizing / glorifying the fact that Dave stalked and had an unhealthy obsession with Jack. That isn't cute and romantic that "he loves him so much that he broke into Jack's house on multiple occasions and watched him sleep 🥺🥺🩷🩷☺️☺️☺️" (genuine comment I saw btw, minus the emojis cuz I wanna make sure people know it's satire what I'm saying). Plus, people are bullied for shipping anything other than Davesport. I can understand if it's a proship (I'll get into those fuckewads later), but someone shipping anything other than davesport will get you witchhunted in this community. I know I said I don't like boss x employee, but I don't hate someone if they ship something like Harry x Jack or something. There are people genuinely scared of showing that they ship that because of the hard-core davesport fans. Final note on this point, it's the only DSaF content being made. I want more Blackjack and og managers art pls I beg of you I want more art of the og managers. But instead, it's just davesport again. It gets to a point where I'm kinda tired of it.

Next point: people babying characters. Now, I won't name names **cough cough daystars again cough cough** but there are very popular artists who get away with this. The biggest ones I can think of are Peter, Roger, and Jack. Here's why I think this happens:

Jack: Because he's shown to have a soft side. It's mainly seen in DSaF 3 on the flipside with him gently talking to the other souls and telling them that it's gonna be ok and he'll help them find justice and peace. Also, he is somewhat civil to Dave at the start of a few routes so probably from the fucking davesport shippers again.

Roger: Because he's hinted at to have an anxiety disorder. Hey there! Person with a diagnosed anxiety disorder here. DON'T FUCKING BABY US! Like, just because you have an AD doesn't mean you need 24/7 protection and babying because "what if you get scared 🥺🥺🥺😔😔😔". People with ADs can do amazing things despite it. And Roger is no exception. In the evil ending, he goes off at Jack about everything he's done and doesn't break a sweat. He's probably the strongest out of the 3 phone guys because he's the first person (other than Peter) to stand up to Jack when he's doing something wrong.

Peter: Same as Jack, he's shown to have a soft side. Mainly when talking about how he remembers his wife and family, and invites Jack to live with him and Caroline despite (to his knowledge) he's only known Jack about a week. But like with Roger, he puts his foot down when needed. In the evil routes, Peter takes Jack back to his office and just let's him have it. He goes off about the fucked up shit Jack has done and even throws in some amazing lines like

"That's Mr.Cawthon to you, employee. We certainly aren't friends."

"Employee, let me tell you something. I am a VERY good boss."

"It takes the truth to fool me, or close to it. And you've played me for a goddamned fool."

But of course, with this community, that entire badass scene with Peter and Jack is overshadowed by him being "uwu smol bottom gay boy"

I mentioned them earlier, so here it goes: the proshippers. They're everywhere. Some of the biggest dsaf artists **cough cough fucking daystars again cough cough** are proshippers. It's mainly a problem on tiktok. I've seen people ship: Peter x Dave, Dave x Henry, Steven x Henry, Jack x Peter, Henry x Dee, Henry x Jack, Dee x Jack, Jack x Dee x Peter x Dave. It's honestly disgusting, and I really don't wanna talk abt it anymore.

Next, people drawing Henry skinny. This one pisses me off a lot. People draw Henry as a skinny little bottom boy and not the fat old man he is. There's a lot of people guilty of this. **cough you probably know who I'm abt to say cough cough**. Some people try at least. For example, I tried sticking with my roblox-like bodies and giving Henry a very big torso. Later on, I finally learned how to draw plus sized bodies, and so now that I can, I immediately implemented it. Some people just don't even try.

Finally, people mad at dogman for moving on from the series. I shit you not. I came across people complaining about this just last night. Here's the thing: DSaF has a lot of problematic stuff in it. Nobody can deny that. Dogman has apologized for it on many occasions and doesn't want that to represent his work now. He moved on to Dialtown, where he can now get paid for his hard work and pay his team. But because he isn't talking abt DSaF anymore, people refuse to even look at Dialtown. It's just kinda...childish in my opinion? It'd be a different story if you just simply didn't enjoy Dialtown. Like that's fine and understandable, the game isn't for everyone. But really? Just because the creator moved on from his problematic past and made something original, you want nothing to do with him. That's just stupid.

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Alr ty for coming to my Ted talk. If someone wants it I'll do one of these with Dialtown (there isn't much bad, it'll just be me ranting abt how much I love Dialtown)

Btw don't harass anyone I mentioned here if I did mention them. It doesn't solve anything, and you just look like and asshole.

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so do you just think all nonbinary people are cis people pretending to be trans, or...? it genuinely makes no sense to me how you can conflate the entire nonbinary community with "people who perpetuate gender roles" when the vast majority directly criticize the existence of gender roles. there's barely a "nonbinary community" anyway because there are so many different ways to be nonbinary, the experiences of these people will vary. i highly suggest reading books/memoirs about gender being more complicated than "you're either a man or a woman" instead of just making generalizations and assumptions about nb people and their intentions

I'm assuming your coming with the best intentions here. So I'm gonna come back with a very simple-- please reread what I've said or leave. Cuz you didn't understand it fully.

There's a million and one ways to be trans, to be gay, to be literally any group thats only dependant one a single factor about yourself that you can't change. We still have communities. Likewise, there is still a nonbinary community.

The nonbinary community as a whole criticizes gender roles while further enforcing them. Another reason why I genuinely want to be supportive but find myself unable to. In the same vein that I hear "women shouldn't have to wear makeup/men don't have to be strong" I will hear "I don't feel female because I don't want makeup/I don't feel male because I like my emotions." That's not actually progressive and it's honesty just sexist. It's conflating womenhood to feminine things and manhood to masculine things on why they identify as nonbinary. When in actually there is no such thing as femininity or masculinity as they are made up gender roles. <- this does end up pushing transphobic, sexist, and even homophobic ideas.

And for the record, which I have already mentioned, this information is coming from talking irl and online with people, reading books, articles, and memoirs, researching things as much as I possible could. It's not from personal experience nor based on the nonbinary people I've met irl. I consistently find the community conflating women with feminine and man with masculine. Stating things that are very clearly gender roles and then saying it's gender itself.

As for what I think they actually are??? I just think their people. I will not claim they are trans, cis, or something else cuz I don't know them. I can give ideas on what they might be. Similar to how I've given ideas to people who aren't sure if their trans/gay/bi. But that's just me saying "if this is what's making you feel a certain way, maybe try going in this direction. If that doesn't work, try this, etc etc." Cuz as I've said a million times. It's your personal journey and only you can make the determination of how to define yourself. Its your right as a human to be respected and called according to your wishes within reason (ie. It doesn't cause harm or is disrespectful).

And for a last little clarification. Your relationship to gender can be complicated-- this could be dysphoria, how gender roles type into your experiences, etc. But gender itself is very very simple. And people try to take it way more seriously than it is. I find this both within the nonbinary and the trans communities. And I really think we'd benefit from people actually separating gender from gender roles. Cuz you'll find a lot more people blurring the lines between what we know to be feminine and masculine while still just being their gender. Which I find great.