#but use it as proof that transphobes are hypocritical

[hiiragi7]

Exercise: Exposing intersexism in yourself

Perisex (non-intersex) people please take time to work through this. I'd also appreciate if you reblogged, even if you don't have time to do the exercise.

When you think of an 'intersex body', what comes to mind?

-Do you think of a stereotypical "hermaphrodite"? (Ex. a penis + vagina, a penis + pair of breasts, a very feminine person with a beard)

Do you, or have you ever, used one of the following arguments;

-Intersex people are living proof that trans people exist/that gender/sex is not binary

-Intersex existing disproves everything TERFs/transphobes believe in

-Cis kids with hormone issues are allowed to take HRT or participate in sports, which is hypocritical against trans people

-Nobody is forcing kids into sex reassignment surgery or hormones, that isn't a thing that happens

-Any kind of argument which uses intersex people as a statistic, whether that is framing intersex people existing as either "common" or "rare"

Do you, or have you ever, said any of the following statements;

-Technically I'm biologically intersex now because I took HRT/had surgery, which makes me biologically nonbinary aka intersex

-I tell people that I am intersex/have a hormone condition to avoid discrimination

-I wish I was born as/could become intersex, it would help my dysphoria a lot

-Intersex people are so lucky because they're already biologically nonbinary, they don't even need to transition

-This animal was born with a mix of sex characteristics/without a sex/developed characteristics of the opposite sex over time, which means they're nonbinary/trans

When it comes to sex, do you;

-Believe that sex is binary

-Believe that all intersex people are infertile

-Believe that all intersex people produce both sperm and egg

-Fantasize about intersex bodies, or consume or create porn that displays either intersex bodies or exaggerated stereotypes of hermaphroditic bodies

-Ask invasive questions about what genitals or reproductive organs an intersex person has

-Treat AFAB/AMAB the same as "[non-medically-transitioned] perisex female/perisex male", such as saying "AFAB anatomy" when you really mean vulva, vagina, uterus, ovaries, breasts, and so on

-Believe that HRT/surgery makes you intersex

-Believe that intersex only covers certain types of variation in sex and not others (Ex. Counting ovotestes, CAIS, and CAH as intersex but not counting PCOS or Klinefelter's)

When it comes to creating (artwork, writing, videos, etc), do you;

-Wish to include an intersex character, but do little or no research on how to write/draw them

-Fail to consider how your work will affect real-life intersex people consuming your work

-Ask random intersex people to help you create an intersex character

-Wish to include an intersex character because you personally think intersex people are interesting, or because you are seeking to include as many marginalized identities as you can

-Create intersex characters because you personally find them sexy

-Refer to characters as "hermaphrodites"

-If you create pride artwork or sell pride artwork, if you include a large variety of other LGBT+ identities but do not include intersex, why is this?

When it comes to advocacy work, do you;

-Fail to bring up intersex issues in conversations which should directly involve them, such as the Kansas bathroom bill

-Attempt to push intersex people out of queer spaces by saying that they are not queer

-Fail to recognize or acknowledge how many anti-queer and anti-trans arguments are inherently also anti-intersex arguments

-Say that intersex people are just "collateral damage" or "just caught in the crossfire/targeted by mistake" when it comes to discussing discrimination

-Never think to bring intersex flags or pins or similar to pride even as an ally, contributing to pride being vastly void of intersex pride

-Never attempt to organize protests specifically for intersex rights, or never bring intersex issues up in LGBTQIA+ support groups or resource centers or online

-Never educate others on intersex issues or lift up intersex voices

-Believe that intersex people have more rights than other marginalized groups, or that they are not discriminated against for being intersex

-Believe that all intersex people who are discriminated against are only discriminated against because people believe that they are transgender

Now, not all of these will point towards you being intersexist; however, if you find yourself hitting several points listed here, you do likely have some internalized biases and intersexism to unpack.

[anonymousfield]

(tw mentions of grooming and a bit of swearing)

as someone who has been groomed this whole "endos are grooming kids into thinking they are plural" thing really pisses me off. now obviously its bigot rhetoric. transphobes do say this, homophobes say this, its not new. but im still going to talk about it and break it down a bit.

ok so what is grooming? im going to say a definition in my own words so make with it what you will. grooming is when someone manipulates another, by forming some kind of emotional connection and familiarity, with the intent of sexual abuse. (reminder that it isnt just adults attacking minors but we dont need to go into that discussion.) ok so where the fuck is proof that endogenics are doing this to sexually abuse kids. obviously grooming has non sexual abuse definitions, but using it in this fear mongering way very much implies that they mean it in the sexual abuse way. either way, neither of these things are happening. endogenics are not training others to be endogenics either to grow the numbers or to sexually abuse kids. for such a HUGE accusation i would expect multiple examples of proof.

and to a community (anti endos) that loves to say how endogenics are "invalidating [y]our trauma" i find it really hypocritical to then use the term grooming in this very insulting way. using grooming in a fear mongering, lying way fucks up the term. it waters it down. it strips it of its meaning. and if you want to use your trauma as an excuse to be bigotted, maybe dont be hypocritical and punch grooming survivors in the fucking face?? and for some reason if you legitimately think that some endogenics have been groomed to be endogenic WHY ARE YOU SHITTING ON THEM. the idea of shitting on endogenics and saying they groom kids is so hypocritical in both ways!! i dont understand how you can say bigotted rhetoric and then flat out shit on those you are saying are abuse victims!! i feel the need to reiterate that endogenics are NOT manipulating others to be endogenic for any reason. we want acceptance for ourselves, we are not trying to grow our numbers. we will accept anyone who says they are endogenic but we are not manipulating or forcing anyone to do that.

tldr: if you decide to express and agree with a bigotted rhetoric that endogenics are grooming others to be endogenic, then you are not only shitting on grooming survivors by misusing the term grooming, you are admitting to harassing systems that might be grooming victims (by your own logic.)

[poppyseedqueenz]

Follow up to the OwONekko Situation

Okay so there's now an update to the Situation

So after Nondi(OwONekko) uploaded her ai video a few youtubers made videos about the situation most notably a youtuber by the name of Jouusta and in Jo's video she respectfully criticizes and critiques Nondi's video about AI without being rude or mean even as going as far to say she RESPECTS Nondi as a fellow artist

Jo's Video:

Jo's video gained almost 300k views This prompted many youtubers to make their own videos about the situation and many people became aware of the situation however there were some people who took things too far and started straight up harassing nondi and to be fair the people who were harassing her for the sake of hating on her are such disgusting pricks however what im about to show next I can NOT stand by so as I said Jo's video gained a lot of attention and prompted many youtubers to make their own videos on the situation nondi obviously caught wind of this and moments later as a Response to Jo Nondi Goes Live Uploading This:

Nondi's Video:

Out of ALL the Responses Nondi Could make THIS is how she responds to criticism?? I'm sorry but this is just downright sickening and sinister!

first off the way she portrayed Jo in the thumbnail is straight up despicable like the crude picture of Jo?

Really Nondi?? How old are you?

And of that wasn't Nondi is now accusing Jo is being racist without ANY proof Jo never said ANYTHING about Nondi's skin color and that was something nondi pulled out fo her asscheeks what makes this worse is that nondi has 300k subscribers while Jo only has 50-80k subscribers there were die-hards trying to defend nondi but now there are some people straight up harassing Jo now!

Which is Funny Beacuse in Nondi's Video about AI she LITERALLY said that she "doesn't like bigger youtubers hurting or telling smaller artists what to do" which is EXACTLY what she's doing! Nondi is a massive hypocrite someone respectfully criticizes and critiques Nondi's video and THIS IS HOW SHE RESPONDS??? She is a GROWN ASS WOMAN who knew DAMN WELL what's she's doing especially when she went live with that

and recently it's been found out that she was being Allegedly transphobic to the artist that prompted her to make her ai video beacuse it was found out that the artist went by he/them pronouns but nondi referred to him as she/her nondi did state that she did not know that information HOWEVER she still continued to refer to the artist with the wrong pronouns instead of the right ones which is he/them which is transphobic and really fucked up to be fair she didn't know but again even after she said that she didn't know the gender of the artist she was misgendering she still continued to refuse his pronouns and started deleting comments correctly calling out and correcting nondi

At this point Nondi needs to bust out the ukulele and sing beacuse it's her only hope

Or better yet she needs to get her asscheeks off the internet and actually stay offline for a while beacuse she's acting very immature and childish and as of this moment she's lost over nearly 20,000+ subscribers and the sub count is getting lower and lower(deservingly) beacuse is not appropriate behavior beacuse the last time someone used their platform in this fashion her statement went down as the most worst statement on Youtube

Nondi should not be any different which is why it shocks me that there are a select few people defending this. Nondi is not a victim she was rightfully called out but instead of being an adult she pulls a colleen ballinger and spins the whole thing on her critics and blaming THEM for HER actions I do not stand behind this and I no longer support nondi

And( with the last tiny drop of respect i have for her beacuse respect left the door as soon as she did this) She respectfully needs to get off the internet for a while or just entirely beacuse nondi is digging her career's grave and may never bounce back from this

Nondi This Ain't It.

Do Better or get off the Internet

[vaspider]

I am not, nor will I ever again, engage in debating whether someone's stated gender is "a sham." That is not who I am. That is not who I want to be. This situation has fully solidified it for me, made it crystal clear if i ever had any doubt. Every "proof" that people bring up as to why X person can't "really" be non-binary, I can think of ten other trans people who fit those qualifications.

If someone says that X is who they are, then that's how I'll address them. If they're lying, then me calling them by the wrong pronouns (the wrong ones they told me to use) will make them upset. I'll call their bluff and I won't compromise who I am. Their upset is then their problem.

"But they'll laugh at you and call you gullible!" I cannot control how they react to who I am. I can only control who I am.

"But they're Nazis and lying and I don't have to respect-- " That's a choice you can make. That isn't who I am.

I am who I am, and that's all I can control in this world. I cannot control bigots. All I can control is whether or not I allow them to make me a hypocrite. I will not do that. I will remain who I am.

It isn't up to me to judge if someone's identity is in good faith. It isn't up to me to "prove" if someone is non-binary or not.

This person's identity is irrelevant. It won't affect their sentencing. It won't let them get away with anything or lighten their sentence.

What it WILL do, what it HAS done, is distract from the fact that they MURDERED FIVE PEOPLE. Everyone is talking about their gender and not that they GOT THEIR FACE STOMPED BY A TRANS WOMAN. Trans people are going on Twitter and TV and saying horribly transphobic stuff, because they've fallen into the "identity is contingent on not sinning" thing I talked about in the previous video.

I cannot control what bigots do. I can control whether they make me into a transphobic bigot. I will not question someone else's stated gender. It won't make any difference to them if I do, but what WILL happen if I do is that I won't be who I want to be anymore.

No thanks.

[aliciavance4228]

Disclaimer: The following post contains explicit images. If you're under 18 then please scroll further.

I didn't want to make this post. I really didn't. And I know that I'm not the only person who's pointing this out. But the dickheads on the Internet left me with no other option.

Can somebody please explain to me why the first thing that I see on my fyp once I open the Tumbr. is this shit?!

The worst part is that if you're searching "sexy nun" you'll get a LOT of results, most of them being straight up pornography. This shit is meseed up on WAY too many levels, but I'll point out the two main problems:

1) It's offensive to religious people.

I do not care how legitimately religiously traumatised you are. Sexualizing a religious group of people just because you're not religious yourself is purely disturbing. Now, many people would come to me pointing out things like: "Oh, but most religious people are hypocrites anyway." And?! I grew up in a religious enviroment. I've seen the hypocrisy myself. I've seen a lot of the so called "faithful people" drinking, smoking, swearing and sleeping around the moment they left the church. And I'm pretty much convinced that the main cause of people's complaints and dissapointments when it comes to religion has to do with these hypocrites, not with the religion itself. But that doesn’t mean that there aren't people who are genuinely respecting all the rules from the Bible and who seek to form a deep connection with God. And denigrating individuals who are dedicating their lives worshipping any form of deity due to their personal beliefs just because you were a victim of the hypocrisy manifested by a superficial, non-representative category of people who claim to be religious is disgusting.

Now, I also received comments such as: "Priests are pedophiles and rapists! The church must be abolished!"

I'm really sorry for the comparison that I'm about to use in order to make you guys understand my point, but I do not have any other good example for the moment. Remember that period of time when conservatives used to claim that trans women are just predators who are wearing dresses in order to enter women's bathrooms and assault them? Remember how these cases (and the people who were responsible for them, respectively) were mediatized and labeled as the face of the trans community and used as an argument for why sex-reassignment surgeries should be illegal? If you're going to claim that "All priests are X!" or "All christians are Y!" purely based on a maleficence commited by a minority of that community, then you're absolutely no different than a transphobe who brings up into discussion one crime commited by one single trans person as proof that all trans people are evil.

2) It's misogyny.

This whole sexualization of the nuns has less to do with religion as it has to do with misogyny. The reason why I'm saying this is because out of all religious groups, people are specifically choosing to sexualize one represented by women. I've never seen priests or monks sexualized as much as nuns are. Which ultimately leads me to the conclusion that misogyny has to do with this issue above it all.

I've already seen (and experienced) a lot of misogyny both in real life and on the Internet. Society is constantly raporting to this virgin/whore dichotomy, and consider absolutely any choice that a woman makes for herself to be for men's desire, wheter that means having sex with one single man or with many of them. Even worse, the men who are complaing the most about women's bodycounts and categorize them into "private property" and "public property" aren’t virgins themselves. Nope, there are exactly those type of men that sleep with 300+ women per day who then have the audicity to sit on their ass and ask for their future wife to be a pure virgin.

In the nun's case, I think that the main reason why people choose to denigrate them the most is because they're supposed to remain virgins for the rest of their lives and they're clearly expressing their wish of never sleeping with any man, and by extension they're not benefiting them in any way. Which leads to all the jokes, insults, and ultimately the whole sexualization of them.

Now, many people are talking about how religion is partially linked in misogyny and consider that this is the main reason why misogyny was so prevalent throughout the centuries. And while I have to admit that this could be a great subject for a whole conversation on its own and I'm not denying the fact that there were sometimes brought good arguments in this regard, I would also argue saying that the Bible imposes a pure, faithful life both to men and women, and that the main problem is not the Bible or religion itself, but the patriarchal society that dogmatized it hundreds of years ago (to resume it all).

Overall, please stop sexualizing nuns. You have better things to do with your life. Like going outside and touching grass. Thank you all for listening to my TedTalk.

[thecobraghost]

What’s really made me giggle is going through peoples Tumblrs of those who have insulted for playing Hogwarts Legacy and seeing that things they support or enjoy (other games/films & TV/large companies) that once had or currently has transphobes, terfs, antisemitic, homophobic, racist, sexist bigots being part of them…

From characters, to actors, to crew members, to writers, directors, producers ect. Yet they ain’t saying shit about it

But no. You okay Hogwarts Legacy and your the worst person in the world. Even worse then serial killers.

Oh and seeing them spit out support for mental health and how to care for one another, but have told people themselves and supported others in telling people to kill themselves for playing HL….

A known ‘supporter’ of the trans community told my trans friend that they’re not a real trans person because they’re playing the game and purposely used the wrong pronouns…

Yet players of HL are the ones hurting the communities. I’ve not seen one HL player insult, misgender, send death threats to the keyboard warriors (Temper Tantrum Toddlers) But from my own experience, my close friends and innocent people online who are playing this game. It’s the keyboard warriors who have far too much time on their hands and cry if someone dares to have a different opinion to them. The minuet we dare to insult you, you all cry. You all scream that we’re ‘this’ or we’re ‘that’ or ‘that’s a hate crime’….

And it’s so funny when they stop after you ask for real proof or you say you yourself Trans or Jewish or if you’re like me you tell them that you’re part of a family that is Jewish (my partner’s) and that family you’re literally apart of are playing the game themselves and have no issues with it, they go radio silent

With your ‘logic’ anyone who plays Hogwarts Legacy is a bigot, a transphobe, supports Nazi propaganda, antisemitism and so much more. Are you going to say that to a kid that’s under the age of…let’s say 12 for example…who has no idea what’s going on and is innocently playing a game where they can be in their favourite fictional world and be a wizard… are you seriously saying that young kids playing this game deserve to die?

So many of you are hypocrites but y’all can’t even accept that.

And for the last time…

WE DONT GIVE A FLYING FUCK ABOUT THE SPOILERS. WE’RE MORE BOTHERED ABOUT THE LACK OF ROMANCING SEBASTIAN (or the professors for some people) AND THE FACT REVELIO IS OUR MOST USED SPELL

[pebblysand]

aren't you embarrassed to be a fan of something written by a transphobic antisemite

okay. i deleted the previous anons relating to this earlier today and didn't respond when they were outright death threats/hate accusing me of transphobia, sent to me all afternoon simply because i got called an "adult HP fan" by OP (for context, see here). truth is: i didn't want to show what "side" this hate was coming from. i think it's very detrimental to the cause, and actually harms trans people at large. this being said, i've fucking had it now, so i will respond.

first of all (and this is anecdotal, at this point), i fucking stand by what i said this afternoon about the original post. the post itself was fucking ludicrous. it meant nothing, was the epitome of someone trying to sound clever using words that held absolutely no substance in context (which is elitist and nauseating), was deeply ignorant and demeaning of an art form that has existed for centuries, and the author was incredibly hypocritical in their response to the backlash they received - not only from myself but from other creators. the fact that i've been receiving hate from their followers all afternoon and that "adult HP fan" was the only actual "argument" they could come back with actually proves my point. cleary, i have hit a nerve, lol.

obviously, as someone who has an entire podcast dedicated to the art and craft of fanfiction, the fact that these ignorant opinions "exposing" fanfiction as a "lesser" art form that "missed the boat on narrative multivalence" (whatever the fuck that means?) are still getting posted and reblogged on tumblr (of all places) is truly incredible. a friend of mine (who i'm not going to tag here because i don't want them to get hate), likened it to: going to Disney and saying all the people there are stupid and not doing their vacation right. While they themselves are at Disney. how's that for "complex figurative language," eh?

secondly (and most importantly, in my opinion), you and your idiotic friends think you're fighting the good fight, right? congratulations on your moral high ground. i have news for you: there are few things more harmful to the trans cause & community than sending death threats/hate to people on the internet. it makes you sound insane. and, you know who wants to make you sound insane? fucking transphobes.

this type of behaviour is so harmful to the trans community. it is so harmful to trans activists around the world who try and make educated, well-articulated points that support trans rights as basic human rights. (which, for the record, they are). and, as someone who does actually support the community, nothing makes me angrier than getting this sort of hate online. because, what if i didn't support the community? you think all the death threats and hate i've been receiving all afternoon would change that? you are not doing anything, here, to support the trans community. you are actually harming it by cheapening and endangering the point that countless people are trying so hard to make to our people and government. and, for what? to suit your own sense of righteousness and entitlement. it makes me sick. and, you should be embarrassed and ashamed of yourself.

this is the bloody reason trans rights aren't progressing. because for every death threat and hate comment there is a bigot at the other end who uses those to "prove" that trans people are crazy and a menace to society. i am beyond furious at this. and, here i am, deleting half the hate i got this afternoon because i don't want to harm the cause by posting it. because i tell myself that posting it will be one more "proof" for the bigots to latch on. fuck you.

this is revolting and fucking disgusting.

[ughmyreality]

This whole situation with Amberlynn and her mom is getting on my last nerves. I don’t know anyone else in gorl world, so I thought I'd just take my opinions here.

Amber coming on video crying and telling her age-old sob story isn't going to convince anyone. If her mom truly didn't harm a service animal, then tell us some hard-core proof. Not all this pity party crying, that's irrelevant. Was she even in contact with her mom when this supposably happened? Why is she even trying to vouch for her? I'm so tired of her trying to paint her mom in this wonderful light one moment, and the next, she's trauma dumping about her horrible childhood. That's not to say that their relationship couldn't have improved, but typically, when you forgive someone, you move on from the past. Not for Amber, you never know who she likes and who she has a problem with.

Plus, Amber coming to the defense of her mom is hypocritical, seeing as she herself doesn't have a clean slate when it comes to animals. Especially back in the Destiny era or the situation with her leaving Twinkie to go to Chili's.

Also, if Amber was so bothered by these allegations, you'd think she wouldn't make a monetized video about it. She could have just made a post about it on her community tab since she thinks she's so good at writing. But of course not, she saw the opportunity for drama and clicks and couldn't pass it up.

She's putting all the blame on reaction channels as per usual. What do reaction channels have to do with this? If I get accused of something, my main goal would be to disprove it. Not go online and start playing the victim and shaming the people who accused me. It's deflecting, and it's clear as day.

I will give her mom a round of applause, however, for being 10 years sober. That's great, but that doesn't change the things she did in the past. Amber consistently acts like she doesn't know where this drama comes from, as if her "fan base" isn't built from drama. This was the whole reason she claimed she didn't want wifey on camera, so clearly, she understands to some extent.

Why is it a problem for anyone to talk about her mom's PUBLIC records when Amber has countless videos monetizing off of the lives of other people? AKA her filming while Beck was grieving their mom, Destiny in various states of undress, showing Krystal when she was clearly uncomfortable being on camera, showcasing a minor she "befriended", her continuing to say transphobic things to Casey after they broke up, having Beck drive when they weren't in the best mental or physical state. The list goes on. But of course, "how dare these people bring up anything about her mom." Get real.

Amber has been on YouTube for years now. No one forced her to make her content about drama and speculation, but she fed into that. She can't pick and choose what's appropriate and what's not. Amberlynn, if you're so sick with YouTube, get a job, get a degree, lose the weight and become a success story. Do something with yourself besides complaining to the people that give you views and a means to live.

[the-rainbow-lesbian]

Contrapoints didn't make me sympathetic to him at all. The witch trials of jkr just highlighted his hypocrisy 😂 no wonder he had to issue that tweet about it

I think he was afraid of backlash then had to backtrack like “guys no trust me I was tricked 😔 “ I enjoyed the podcast so far but then I was really annoyed by how what JK Rowling actually said was never confronted, like she is being called a bigot/nazi/transphobic and idk responsible for mass imaginary genocide and I wanted the podcast to dissect those claims and debunk them using actual tangible proof?? and then the episode started with contrapoints being a fucking idiotic hypocrite like how dare a woman feel threatened after we threatened to rape and kill her on mass? meanwhile I was canceled and I felt threatened enough to hide my face even thought no one gave a shit. I kept listening to a man who claimed to be a woman and was still too self-centered to have any shred of empathy for women, a group he claims to be a part of? I was so annoyed I had to stop listening cause I didn’t want to go to bed pissed off.

[rubberduckyrye]

Welp. Time for Man Imaizumi, the Ultimate Hypocrite Programmer. He is, in no uncertain terms, a piece of work. Man is a living hypocrite. He is a transphobic trans man, an ableist disabled person, and is also just a general incel. Despite this, Man seems to not get in trouble with those in authority. Man is the main, if not the only, reason why I've decided to have it so swearing stays uncensored while slurs are censored with a black bar/bleeped out.

Man as a programmer tends to focus more on algorithms and general code. His main rise to fame was actually inventing his own programming language and building the most effective antivirus to date using it. I also specifically chose to have Man run in opposition to Chihiro by having him have a complete disinterest in the humanity in AI, he outright denies any proof shown in it's favour.

As for his disability, I originally had him with PCOS but as I'm writing this I've decided to change it. I'm thinking EDS but either way he exclusively uses crutches (even when most days he'd be better off in a wheelchair).

Oh my, that sounds like quite the character! I bet he has a lot of conflicts with the rest of the cast, but also, why is he so bigoted despite being in several minority groups? Does he have internalized bigotry that conflicts with his being and causes a lot of self loathing that is projected onto others? What made him this way?

I'm very curious as to his backstory and how we got to this point with him

[posi-pan]

I’ve been trying to avoid mspec discourse for awhile now because it made me depressed, and I wanted to do more fun stuff. But unfortunately, I’ve fallen back into it and now I have some stuff to say: 1) why is it that these bi-centered or “double moon” accounts are anti-mspec lesbian? 2) A lot of these accounts are currently talking about how the pan community doesn’t address the problems in their own community, I won’t argue that not being true to some extent, but this is hypocritical [1/?]

considering these same people won’t address the fact that some of the people they platform are either explicitly panphobic or have said questionable things about pan ppl. 3) This kind of a tricky statement, but why is there always this dilemma of pan ppl derailing bi positivity posts? Cuz I know everyone on either side of this is tired of that nonsense happening. 4) There’s also this complaining about “pan ppl say they’re separate, but always wanna be included in bi stuff”, guess that [2]

bi umbrella isn’t working out like y’all hoped huh? 5) Minor point: they also seem to hate hetero/homoflexible??? I don’t get it either. 6) It kinda irks me when these accounts say “the ONLY difference between the two labels is personal preference and anything other than that is just bi/transphobic”. I can’t put my finger on it, but for some reason I have mixed feelings about that. I don’t know why. Okay that’s all I can think of for now.

hey there.

1. idk about “double moon” accounts, if that’s a new symbol for exclusionists, i’m not up to date on it. but a lot of people don’t support mspec lesbians, so it doesn’t surprise me that you’d find a bunch like that. the hate stems from insecurity honestly. i was going to say lack of information, but even when those people are given the correct information, they ignore it. they’re too focused on hating queer people who are different than them and don’t follow what they think are the rules of queerness.

2. i wouldn’t say the pan community doesn’t address in our community. i see pan people talking about that shit all the time. panphobes only claim that because they want us to “admit” to whatever hateful, misinformation they’re pushing that week. but we don’t, because it’s fucking nonsense.

and yeah, it’s hypocritical as fuck. panphobes refuse to accept there has ever been certain issues in certain communities ever, even when they’re faced with unbiased historical proof and lived experiences to back it up. and honestly, i’ve never seen a single non-pan person address the severity of panphobia that’s been going on these past few years, so folks can spare me the outrage over pan people supposedly not addressing our community’s issues.

3. i’m not sure what you mean by “dilemma” of pan people derailing bi posts. as if pan people do that more than anyone else. (what about pan positivity posts being derailed with panphobia? what about that dilemma?) i’ve talked about the concept of “derailing” queer posts with more positivity or expressing how you relate to it too before and it’s not something i really agree is an issue. for me, derailing is something malicious to take away from what’s being discussed. not someone being like “and so and so, too!” or “i’m not x but i relate!” or trying to start a conversation of shared/similar experiences, ya know?

people say more labels creates divisiveness, but then act like it’s a rule that queer people aren’t allowed to interact with each other??? as if every queer group has their own space and venture out of it. it’s fucking weird. i remember a time on here when every queer post had a whole thread of comments adding positivity for more identities. and no one cared. but now, if you so much as say something like “oh hey i relate to this too” on a post that isn’t about your queer identity, you’re accused of being a queerphobe. it’s fucking ridiculous. (it reminds me of how people love to say “if you’re not x, don’t speak on x history/issues/etc” which is utter fucking bullshit.)

are there times when it might be better to just make your own post? sure. but positivity posts? come on. why does someone adding more queer positivity make you angry? bigger issues, y’all, bigger issues.

4. lmao yeah i love how panphobes (and sometimes people who claim are supportive of pan people) are now saying pan people want to be included in bi things and are forcing our way into bi spaces despite us being adamant we’re not bi. because it’s one of the most disingenuous things i’ve ever fucking heard. they were the ones telling us we’re bi and that we’re included in bi. and not to mention, we have historically always been in the bi community and included in bi things/spaces (it’s not that we “want to be included” in bi things it’s that we just are, like it’s a fact. bi orgs and activists include us. they can die mad about it). like, they forced this “understanding” of our identity on us, but when we utilize it (for visibility or inclusion or whatever), we’re the bad guys? they can fuck all the way off with that shit.

5. they hate any label they think is unnecessary or somehow “disrespecting” bi. but if someone feels heteroflexible or homoflexible is a better fit for them and how they feel about their attraction, they have every right to use those labels. fuck label policing.

6. yeah, the whole “the only difference is a label preference” pisses me off because it’s not true. it’s erasure of so many people’s experiences. and not even just pan people’s experiences, but bi people’s experiences as well. they really act like they’re helping their community, but they’re just throwing their own community under the bus to shit on another. and it’s pathetic.

sorry this response is so long. but honestly, i’d suggest staying away from “discourse”. it’s not necessary or helpful to check what people are saying. like, the only reasons that i know what panphobes or other exclusionists are saying anymore is because i sometimes come across stuff accidentally and sometimes people tell me. i have no desire to seek out this kind of stuff anymore. it isn’t healthy or helpful to my life. i know it can be tempting, but if it makes you depressed, try not to seek it out.

[aion-rsa]

Why the Harry Potter Film Epilogue Never Stood a Chance

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After seven books, eight films, a theme park, and the creation of a veritable merchandising empire, you can hardly blame the Harry Potter production team for wanting to go out on a high note with the final installment of the beloved film franchise. But one final mountain loomed ominously before Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part II could wrap: the dreaded epilogue. 

This “19 years later” segment closes the final Harry Potter book with Harry and company at King’s Cross, sending their own children to Hogwarts. In theory, it provides closure, a happy ending for Harry, and the satisfaction of continuity with another generation of witches and wizards off to school. In practice, it was an absolute beast to film. For one, no one knew the best approach to handle the hair or the makeup required to age the 20-something cast into believable 39-year-old parents of 11-year-olds. 

They filmed it once, and even the hair and makeup people on the crew admit that they went too far, giving Ron a potbelly, jowls, and a badly receding hairline. (Rupert Grint himself said of the initial cut: “The images of me still haunt me.”) When photos from the original epilogue leaked, there was an immediate fan reaction, and it was not positive. Months after shooting had wrapped, the main cast was hastily called back for reshoots, this time with a simpler, more low-key visual aesthetic. The production team was evidently satisfied that they had done their best, and this was the version that made it into the final cut of the film.

The scene is fairly simple. The golden trio reunite at King’s Cross to see their children off on the Hogwarts Express. Harry’s youngest son, Albus, is anxious that he will be placed in Slytherin, and Harry comforts him, reminding Albus that one of his namesakes was in Slytherin and still a brave man. And, besides, the Sorting Hat takes your own preferences into consideration before placing you into a house. The kids get on the train, their parents tearfully watch them leave, and one would believe that all is sunny in their world, mostly because Rowling tells us so.

It doesn’t work on screen. But it isn’t the hair or the makeup departments’ fault. Indeed, there probably isn’t anything the production team could have done, other than to acknowledge that the scene shouldn’t be included at all. The issues with the epilogue go much deeper than bad aging makeup or weird hair. It’s not the execution of the scene but rather the scene itself that doesn’t work. After building an entire magical world from scratch, J.K. Rowling boxes the characters into a rigidly conservative future, fundamentally misunderstanding and actively eschewing the logical path she herself has put the characters on through their adolescence.

The logical closure point of the story is the aftermath of the Battle of Hogwarts, and Rowling herself has admitted in an interview that the main reason she was so keen to include the epilogue had nothing to do with the main cast of characters, but instead because she was eager that readers know that poor, orphaned Teddy Lupin, son of Remus and Tonks, would be okay in the end. That sentimental instinct would ultimately undermine the growth of each of her lead characters.

Let’s review. On the surface, this epilogue is positioned as Harry Potter’s ultimate happy ending. The boy who grew up alone and unloved now has a warm, tight-knit family of his own (and as if that wasn’t enough, his two best friends are conveniently part of that biological family!) But it’s important to remember that Harry spends the entire series utterly burdened by the past. The most important event of his young life happens at its very beginning, when he survives the curse from Lord Voldemort. Throughout the books and movies, he is constantly looking backward: poring over old photographs of his parents, physically exploring memories from their time at Hogwarts, ruminating on the life and history of Tom Riddle. In one of the later books, he’s given the opportunity to have career counseling with Professor McGonagall, and he’s completely nonplussed: the idea of life after the urgency of his battle against Voldemort scarcely seems to have occurred to him. 

There’s never an opportunity to face the future; it’s always about resolving the issues of the past. And although in this epilogue he is, literally, in the future, it nonetheless reveals that he’s never stopped being beholden to the past. The proof is in his children’s names: James Sirius, Albus Severus, Lily Luna. With the exception of Luna, he’s used his sons and daughter to serve as a living mausoleum for the long-dead. The only conversation we hear from Harry to his son Albus is one of legacy, honoring the memory of old mentors. Rowling clearly intends this vision of Harry to be a positive one, but it comes across as sad more than anything else: he’s still as weighed down by the past as ever.

Then we come to Ron and Hermione, their relationship a letdown for him and a tragedy for her. Hermione Granger, the brightest witch of her age, intelligent and fiercely ambitious, is still with her high school boyfriend who has never quite appreciated her properly. Ron is smart in his own way, but not in the same way that Hermione is, and she’s set herself up for a lifetime of never being intellectually stimulated by her husband. They make sense as a teenage flirtation, close friends who edge the line between companionship and romance, but it’s hard to imagine an adult relationship between the two of them where Hermione isn’t unfulfilled and Ron hopelessly insecure. 

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And finally, there’s Ginny, who is betrayed perhaps most of all. Her character is one of the biggest surprises of the series, as she emerges from the non-entity status as Ron’s little sister into a person in her own right, one who is funny and powerful and utterly self-confident. Constantly underestimated by everyone, she does things in her own way, and unlike many big screen love interests, seems to have a life that doesn’t solely revolve around her boyfriend. But then she turns up in the epilogue, and it’s almost like she’s been lobotomized. Resplendent with aggressively awful mom hair, she walks a pace behind her husband and smiles wanly, without ever saying a word. Firecracker Ginny, who once boldly took her hypocritical brother to task for trying to slut shame her, is turned into human wallpaper. In the Harry Potter epilogue, JK Rowling’s tendency to cling stubbornly to “traditional” cultural norms, a tendency that has developed into vocal transphobic behavior in recent years, is fully exposed. She does a disservice to her characters, seemingly because she can’t imagine a happier ending for them than being in a heterosexual marriage to their high school sweetheart, dropping the kids off at school. After an entire series of magical hijinks and found family, this reversion to normalcy comes across as utterly disheartening. When we look at Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part II, it’s easy to blame production issues for why the epilogue underwhelms. But the truth is, it doesn’t work because it tries too hard to fit Rowling’s rigid definition of a happy ending, without consideration for the logical trajectory of the characters. A decade later, it’s one of the major narrative failures of the impressively adapted film series.

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Anonymous asked:

I get what you say about saying bigoted things as jokes doesn’t excuse them but the tweet is making fun of Ninja, not feminine men. Ninja’s OG tweet was just a little weird and he’s known for being a little bit misogynistic so people usually poke fun at him. I don’t think you know what you’re talking about since you haven’t seen the original tweet it’s referencing. Ethan made a tweet referencing it the other day as well lol This outrage is coming off as super performative

Tea blog reply: And how do you, a random person, know exactly that Gab meant to poke fun at ninja here instead of being a bigot, which she’s already known to be anyway (read: racist, transphobe) Both tweets are bigoted AND so are both of the people who tweeted!

How do YOU know what she meant? Just because Gab said few bad things (hold up, I'm not defending Gab, the point here is the falsehood and hypocrisy of some people) you assume it because “JUST IN CASE“?

“Both tweets", the anon said that also Ethan did. But as usual they target only who they hate and pass over when it's one of their favorite.

But for them it's me hating on that specific tea blog.

But for them it's me manipulating my followers, it's me that want to be right, that I want attention.

But for them it's me lying, spreading fake news when they accused Jack to steal the logo from a "NOT REGISTERED“ brand, when what really happened is that Jack modified it and added a stock picture (so if people use it is not copied) scythe but the brand actually stole it exactly as it is from an artist, proved with screenshots and proofs (Their “proof“ and" screenshot" are just the brand using the design, an “half truth“). They didn't let people choose if something is bad or not, deciding them based on their opinion or feelings.

So, anon spamming me that I'm “hating" a tea blog using them as “scapegoat“ and Seán for hate on tea blogs, your favorite tea blog is using minorities and social issues for hate, for clout and without coherence when it's about their favorite and project it on me. Call this shit out is not hate just because you don't like your favorite tea blog being exposed.

Basicaly tea blog and their anons are bigots that say are fighting bigotry AKA what they don't like, tagging it as hate and bigotry.

It's the projector saying others are projecting.

So people calling me in my inbox liar, bigot, froud, hypocrite you are projecting and accusing JSE community of do so, and in the past I posted and interesting article about gaslighting that mention it from Psychology Today, the world’s largest mental health and behavioral science magazine:

“Gaslighters — people who try to control others through manipulation — willoften accuse you of behaviors that they are engaged in themselves. This is a classic manipulation tactic [..] used to discredit you, keep you off balance, and have you question your reality. The gaslighter uses these tactics in order to get “revenge” or gain control over you.”

“The gaslighter may even present “evidence” to others of being manipulated by his or her victim. This evidence may be completely fabricated by the gaslighter, or the gaslighter takes facts and manipulates them, or “forgets” to share them.”

[..]

Projecting behavior can get to the point where a gaslighter delusionally believes that they are being persecuted by the victim, when in fact the opposite is true.

[natsumiheart]

I just wanna say how tired I am with some oumota shippers and their argument that oumasai is a bad ship cause apparently Shuichi never cared about kokichi and is annoyed with him and that oumota is better cause kokichi "opened up" to kaito like what they both were dying and kokichi had to convince kaito to work with him so he had to tell the truth that he wasn't the mastermind or else they'll die a meaningless death.I just really wanted to say this cause its driving me insane

Anonymous said:

Btw i was the anon that sent that ask ranting about oumota shippers saying oumota is better than oumasai and I just wanna clarify that I don't hate oumota shippers cause I know its their opinion and everyone can ship what they want but i feel like I really needed to tell someone about it cause it has been messing with my head and I don't have any irl friends that like DR and this blog felt the safest to vent to

Oh my goodness I’m so sorry you’re dealing with those people! I have a friend who is actually suffering from the same exact thing. Constant harassment from Ou**ta shippers saying Oumasai is toxic. I’m happy you feel like this is the safest blog to vent to ;; And just to make you feel better, here are a bunch of reasons why YOU’RE 100% RIGHT! and you shouldn’t be attacked or ashamed of how you feel towards that ship and all that hate towards yours. If anyone says Shuichi hated Kokichi and never cared for him just read this post! https://natsumiheart.tumblr.com/post/177427505177/hewwo-what-are-your-opinions-on-the-people-who

Warning: If you like Kaito x Kokichi I recommend you don’t read what’s under the cut, I don’t want to diss anyone’s ship in front of their face. That’s just insensitive, and the last thing I want is to ruin someone’s day. Unless you really want to know why others don’t feel the same as you, then don’t check out this post. Thank you!

Note that while I mention the bunch of reasons why this ship just straight up wouldn’t work out, I’m going to ignore the fact that Kaito acts very homophobic and transphobic in the japanese version of the game. I’ve mentioned it in this blog a bunch of times before, and it’s pretty obvious that everyone ignores his Homophobia so I’m just going to pretend as if he’s not homophobic and break down why exactly this ship wouldn’t work out even without him being homophobic in the first place. But I’m definitely not going to exclude how he acts towards guys in general.

> Kaito treats most guys he meets like trash, unless he respects them. Whenever Kaito finds a guy acting “Weak” he literally looks down on them, even gets frustrated with them. Huge proof is how he treated Shuichi for crying over Kaede, and then later punching Kokichi because he was acting “Weird”. Kaito was a huge fan of Ryoma, but when he saw what he has become, someone who has given up on his future, he started treating him badly, and after Ryoma was dead he even talked badly on him calling him “Weak.” and a “Sissy.” Not being able to understand the pain Ryoma was going through or how things were for him. He also got creeped out by Korekiyo for acting like a girl before he even revealed that he was “posessed” by his sister. Aren’t all those moments in the game enough proof that Kaito just straight up doesn’t like guys at all in that way? Then how could he *love* a guy, and Kokichi of all people. Heck, Gonta x Kaito make more sense than Kaito x Kokichi, even though he yelled at Gonta once for crying and being too weak for a man.

It’s shown multiple times in the game that Kaito treats guys like trash, and he treats Kokichi the worst of all.

Note: I do think Kaito can change the way he acts towards guys, but I don’t he will ever love one romantically.

> I think we can all agree that Kokichi is really hard to deal with sometimes. He distances himself so much from everyone as much as he could, and he won’t back down that easily even if it meant hurting others’ feelings. He keeps lying constantly so no one can figure him out or get close to him. We don’t exactly know the reason why, but he has major trust issues and it shows.That is the reason why for us, seeing Shuichi listed under “Trustworthy” was a big deal. (But I’m not going to dive deep into that since I already did multiple times in this blog.) My point here is that Kokichi needs someone with patience, someone who could understand him a bit and why he does what he does. Someone to decipher his actions and break down his walls, but isn’t afraid to sometimes step his foot down and tell him that his actions are wrong and he’s harming others as well as himself. Kaito on the other hand grows frustrated with guys so quickly, he doesn’t listen to their reasoning before heading in for physical violence. THAT is exactly the opposite of what Kokichi needs! And I still don’t understand how others can’t see it! When Kaito punched Kokichi in chapter 4, he was already in so much despair over seeing the secret of the outside world and that punch made it worse. To the point he stayed silent then locked himself in his room. How in the world do people actually see this ship as better than oumasai? I don’t get it.

Kokichi shouldn’t be with someone that will treat him like trash, and physically (if not also emotionally) harm him for how he’s acting.

> Opposites sometimes attract, but POLAR opposites do not. and I’m talking from personal experience here, two people who are different in so many ways (ESPECIALLY THEIR WAY OF THINKING) will end up fighting 24/7. It was shown again and again in the game that Kokichi and Kaito do not get along thanks to how different their approach is to things and their seemingly different upbringings. Ships between two characters who fight a lot just make me so uncomfortable and disturbed, because I know how these relationships actually end up in real life. Fights do happen in relationships sometimes, it’s even needed to strengthen the relationship, to realise that no matter what happens you STILL love your partner, but when you fight every single time you talk? That’s a bad sign! 

Fighting is NOT romantic and it never will be! And when it has physical violence mixed in? My god. Please do yourself a favor and break up with your partner if they keep hitting you.

> Kaito doesn’t ever side with Kokichi:

He literally said in chapter 4 “I don’t wanna survive it means I have to stoop to your level!” and Kokichi said “Then die in a hole for all I care! WE wanna LIVE, so stop getting in our way!”. Kaito will never be on Kokichi’s side, Even if it meant his death and the deaths of all his friends.

When Kaito realised that maybe watching all the motive videos together would’ve prevented a murder from happening Shuichi is the one that points out that it was what Kokichi was trying to do. But then Kaito is like “Huh, really?” Then brushes it off. Because of course, of course Kokichi wants murders to continue. Right?

Even after Kokichi spilled everything to him because he was literally about to die and really wanted Kaito to go along with his plan and believe him. Kaito still stated that he still thought he only thought of himself. Even after Kokichi sacrificed himself to save HIM from the poison and MAKI from being his murderer. He still hated him and didn’t believe him. The only reason Kaito went along with his plan was because he was about to die anyway, he was running out of time and he needed to get out even if it meant following Kokichi’s plan and killing him in the process.

When two people actually love each other they have each others backs. But with these two, they never will.

> I don’t believe Kokichi hated Kaito. But he literally thinks he is stupid and is a bad influence on everyone. These two have a relationship of two siblings that can’t stand each other. I always see myself and my brother in them, which is another reason why their ship makes me beyond uncomfortable. My brother puts his trust in people way too easily, and believes whatever tf his brain comes up with because y’know it’s him and “he’s always right”. He would never take a second to think that maybe he’s wrong, just like Kaito and his hunch. I on the other hand find him incredibly stupid, we argue a lot because our way of thinking and our beliefs are very different, we even used to hit each other a lot. We never really got along. And the way Kokichi and Kaito act around each other really reminded me of it, but you don’t know me and you don’t know my brother so why should you take my word for it? An example I like to use when trying to explain this point to others is the relationship between Stanley and Stanford in Gravity Falls, those two fought a lot in the show but in the last episode they had to work together on a plan despite their differences. Doesn’t it remind you of a certain story that happened in the game? Kokichi and Kaito’s relationship resembles theirs so much it’s insane. 

I feel like the game tried to show us how these two are more like siblings but on bad terms, even giving them similar hair and eye colors. But that flew straight over every rivalry shipper’s head.

These are some of the reasons why Ou**ta wouldn’t work out and can’t even be a thing in the first place, I said it before and I’ll say it again: I could write a book about this topic. But I’m kinda busy today and I have to leave the house soon- I hope you’re convinced that you are actually right. (I’ve been told countless times that I’m wrong leading me to question myself, so I wanted to help out by reassuring you that your feelings are valid and you’re not wrong in this situation at all) Saying Oumasai is toxic for one line Shuichi said while he was angry and defending his friend, while shipping Ou**ta and ignoring all this stuff is like the most hypocritical thing anyone can say. 

And yeah, people should ship whatever they want. Lots of people ignore characters’ feelings and ship the crackiest of ships, making very OOC art and fanfiction. And they can do that! But they can’t go around dissing people for their ship while supporting an obviously flawed one. Honestly you shouldn’t attack people for their ships in the first place, no matter what YOU ship. Just stay in your own bubble and stay away from the ships you dislike. It’s not that hard!

If you’re an Ou**ta fan reading this, I just want to say thank you for reading this far, and I’m really not saying you should stop supporting your ship. I’m just explaining why we feel this way towards it and the evidence we have behind it. If you’re one of the people who go around attacking shippers while boasting your ship. Please stop? Seriously, stop giving a shit about other people’s opinions and life will suddenly become much easier.

I’d like to clarify: If anyone responds to this post telling me I’m wrong, I’m not responding. My blog is for me to post art, sometimes funny stuff to make people’s days, interact with my followers and draw their requests, or ranting about topics I’m passionate about (Mostly DR). I do not want it to be a place for ship discourse, so if I get disagreeing replies or asks I’m going to ignore them like I always do whenever I post these rant type blogs. I hope you understand.

[terflies]

Via @vanilla-umbrella [original; tweets], a good opportunity to discuss screenshots-as-proof, specifically two problems with it.

1. Removal from Context

While not obvious in what is, itself, a screenshot, @yourSNisawful contains a screenshot of @kat_blaque’s tweet, not a link to it, denying the reader the original context. Without that context, she can fit the tweet into a narrative of progressives hypocritically doubting victims of sexual predators, but in reality this is a fabrication.

The actual context is Kat Blaque’s thoughts on an interview with Jessica Yaniv and Alex Jones:

In this case Google is sufficient to find the context, which you can find from the start of the thread here. What she is actually talking about isn’t doubting victims but doubting screenshots because

2. They’re Trivial to Fake

Screenshots are trivially easy to fake. If you’re criticising something in one you should provide a link to the source. If you, the reader, cannot verify the screenshots are genuine—whether the source is deliberately obfuscated or unavailable, e.g. deleted tweets or private conversations—you shouldn’t accept them as evidence, let alone proof, unless you have some other means to corroborate their contents.

What Kat Blaque is talking about here, in particular, is that faking screenshots isn’t just possible but quite common, and have been used to support transphobic conspiracies and individual attacks. When transphobes want people to believe trans people are inherently predatory, it isn’t unreasonable to doubt that screenshots of some trans person being predatory are genuine (especially someone otherwise unknown to you).

Disclaimer:

Since I know some transphobe is going to manipulate these comments: the falsifiability of screenshots is a matter of fact. Recognising and discussing isn’t a defence of Yaniv specifically (she has provided some in her defence, even) and even if screenshots in accusations of her are faked that doesn’t necessarily mean she is innocent.

[rubykgrant]

I keep getting all kinds of hate messages/threats and nonsense from a-holes trying to get into an argument with me, and the only reason I’m not going to respond to them all is because I don’t think the people who follow me here need to see how unpleasant that is. However, I want to say this, just in general-

(Trigger Warning, the a-holes messaging me are being all kinds of transphobic, so this is in response to that. skip this if you don’t even want to be exposed to the stress. on a more positive note; trans people deserve respect, who you are matters)

-You are wrong. You are wrong about women. You are wrong about cis women, trans women, and not only that; you are wrong about anybody who is nonbinary, genderfluid, agender, and so much more. You can try to cuss me out all you want, but you are still wrong 

Those of you who draw, your art is being used directly to try and spread these gross lies. Half the examples you give about “No, look, I drew these characters good, I’m not a bigot” doesn’t exactly fix the fact that when you wanted to draw somebody “ugly”, you still used those same examples, but pushed to an extreme so you could turn them into evil caricatures. It is the same excuse of “I drew a character with dark skin, this means I’m not a bigot”. I’ve seen some of you draw a “real woman” next your *wrong* example of a trans woman, and again, it was the same thought process of trying to use fake inclusion by making the your “real women” POC. You don’t actually support any of these other races and cultures, but that is your vehicle in your art to make your point. There are women who are trans that also aren’t white, and if you drew them you’d most likely use the most horrible racist stereo-types.You’ll draw chubby characters, but the chubby “men” will always be seen as disgusting in your art 

You will go searching for pictures of real life people until you find somebody you especially think looks the part of your incorrect idea of trans people, then proceed to mock them regardless of how young they are. You are so backwards in your own depictions, you act as if there aren’t thousands of cis woman and girls out there in the world who don’t have fun by making their hair different colors/wearing kitty ears/ect... but that is the point, isn’t it? you, and those who think like you, can be all these things, but anybody who isn’t becomes a target for mockery. “I am a real woman, it is OK for me to have body hair” but if a trans woman has body hair, that proves she’s a “man”? “These real woman can have different body-types, real woman can be fat, real woman can be muscular, real woman can have large noses” but if a trans woman is any combination of those things, that proves she’s a “man”? So, you wouldn’t make fun of your friend for being fat, but you’ll still laugh at all the other fat people you see? That just means you really do have a problem with fat people, but you are dishonest with your friend. Basically “I wouldn’t say a slur, unless I don’t like the person, then I will, that makes it OK” 

This is intentionally hypocritical. You know that you are wrong. No matter how many times you throw a swear word at me, it doesn’t change the fact that you are wrong. You are wrong on purpose, with nothing but hateful intentions. You’ll look up random facts for “proof” that the people you don’t like are “dangerous”, without any sense of self; any time an oppressive group decides to hurt other people, they will search for the worst, then present that as the norm. “This person is bad, therefore everybody like them is bad”. Slurs, slander, and insidious intentions. If you have ever felt targeted in some way due to a negative stereo-type that wasn’t true, that would hopefully at least give you insight and the decency to have some compassion. Instead, you repeat the same process

You are wrong, you know you are