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erectionsandtea · 3 years ago

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This is a little idea I had about making a set of rules/requests for when I do my own ST analyses/theories/etc. (which will almost entirely be about Mileven), and I want to thank @tsugarubecker for giving me advice on how to word all of this, and just in general supporting me.

Now, I’m aware that I can’t tell anybody what to do especially on this website. But I can make it clear that I would like to keep the peace between the shippers, and have some requests for how to do so when it comes to my own posts.

I will NEVER make a post with the intent to start an argument, bash, or debunk anyone and/or their analyses and theories, or any ship. I will also NEVER make a post to compare and contrast different ships, or make parallels (unless they are like, cute and fun and good parallels...no "this ship is better than that one" or "this ship will be endgame and that one won't" etc.). And I will NEVER make a post just to say "I'm right and you're wrong bc of reasons." The point of an analysis is to analyze, not to be right or wrong. I will keep my post about only one ship, so as to avoid arguments. I would really appreciate it if anyone who decides to read my posts does NOT do any of the following:

1) Reblog or reply to my posts to start arguments.

2) Reblog or reply to my posts to just to bash me, my ship, or my opinion/the analysis itself. There’s no need to tell each other that “you are wrong and we are right,” everything up for interpretation, and everything is valid.

3) Reblog or reply to my post to laugh at it or just be a general dick about it.

~ (rules cont.)

4) I am totally fine with people disagreeing with me, so long as they do it kindly. There's nothing wrong with a different opinion. In fact, it makes things more interesting!

Knowing how easily fights can break out, I'm a little hesitant to say this next rule...but I trust my followers, so I will say it anyway.

5) If you want to discuss/converse about the post, maybe talk about why you disagree, or what your own take on the theory is, or whatever, I am totally open to that. But PLEASE KEEP IT CIVIL. If things start getting out of hand, I will put a stop to it.

5.5) I am also open to discussing the post in other ways, such as through my inbox, or on your own separate post (that can make and tag me in, if you so choose). If nothing else, we can always just ignore the differences, or agree to disagree.

6) Anything negative (rude comments, unpopular opinions, debunkeries, arguments, or just straight bashing), please send to my askbox. I will be happy to deal with them there or talk it out or whatever. If I see ANYTHING rude, unnecessary, or unasked for in the post itself (or anything that breaks rule 5), you will be blocked.

7) I tag all my posts. You can use that as a basis for deciding whether or not to get involved. If you do decide to read it (despite not being in whichever ship is being discussed), please be careful with how you proceed after.

8) if I use ambiguous or neutral words such as 'assume', 'guess', 'possibility', 'theory', etc., it is because I believe that until we get hard, concrete evidence leaning one way or the other, all theories are just theories. And yes, this includes everything I will write, too. You don't have to agree with me, but just know that I will be trying my best to keep everything I write as analytical as possible (by that I mean, using evidence I find in the scene and not just saying things like "he obviously feels this way and not that way just because I said so, you are wrong and I am right") and not let my biases get too out of control.

We should be able to enjoy posts without someone else making the whole thing about themselves.

I will link this post in every analysis/theory/etc. I make, so no one forgets.

Anyone breaking these rules will be blocked.

Thank you.

#rules #my rules #my posts #stranger things #idk if i should tag ships so i wont for now #tsugarubecker #thank you sm for helping me with this it means a lot

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monotropauniflora · 4 years ago

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Hi, thank you for your explanation of non-binary! I’m the same anon. I guess this brings up a lot more questions for me. This connection to being a man or woman is a bit confusing. I’ve always thought I was a woman, well because that’s how other view me and I have the body typically associated with women. And I haven’t questioned that until recently. But now I’m just wondering what it means to have a connection to being a woman? Because my body is not gendered, neither is my style. What is?

(Cont.) I wouldn’t saying my feelings are gendered either. At least, I’ve never thought that way. But maybe I’ve got the wrong idea about gender? I’ve read that if you’ve never questioned your gender, you’re cis, but now I am? And nothing makes sense. I’m keenly aware that stereotypes do not apply to everyone of one gender, so gender is none of the typical stereotypes (dresses or makeup).

So what makes me a woman? Then I wonder if I’m non-binary, but I don’t necessarily have any connection to that either? Don’t feel like you need to respond. I know it’s not up to anyone else to solve these questions for me. But if you do feel like responding, I’m greatly appreciative. Thank you!

Hey, anon

I got this messages at work which ment I had a full 8 hour shift to think of a reply. And I still wasn't able to come up with an easy or satisfying answer. Because gender is kind of weird and complicated, and the journey of examining your own gender is so intensely personal. What it means to feel a connection to a gender is a different for every person.

But I figured I could talk about few important things to keep in mind if you're going on this journy:

Non-binary is a huge umbrella term. There's a lot of different ways to experience non-binary gender that I didn't even get into in that previous answer because I would have needed to draw a much bigger diagram. One term I definitely should have mentioned however is "Agender". This refers to a lack of gender, and is used by people who don't really feel a connection to any gender at all.

Please give yourself as much time as you need to figure this out. A lot of us take years to figure out what exactly is going on with our gender. Don't let anyone make you feel pressured into figuring yourself out and deciding on an identity before you're ready.

Don't be afraid to "try on" different terms or identities if you want to. It's super common for people to go from IDing as one thing for a while and then figuring out a little later that this other thing kinda fits better. It doesn't mean you're lying or a "fake" if you use a term and then decide later it's not right for you, it's all part of the process. It's even ok to ID as Non-Binary for a while and then eventually decide that you do feel better IDing as a cis woman.

What matters most is what makes you feel comfortable, what makes you happiest. Try not ask yourself "am really I this?", but instead ask yourself "would calling myself this feel right? Would something else feel better?"

I hope this was helpful. And also my askbox is always open if you have anymore questions.

#ask #anon #replies

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itspileofgoodthings · 6 years ago

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l;ksfdhlkdjghljgd ok sorry about this but it’s not letting my asks go through???? SO HAVE MY ESSAY (hopefully this works)

I HAVE THOUGHTS RE: THE MEMORY LOSS ARC. bc of course i do. bUT I DO AGREE that, in the moment, having elena forget damon was almost the only thing that was possible. and elena falling in love with damon all over again COULD HAVE BEEN so good???? so sweet and such an indicator of how STRONG their relationship was and why she loved him in the first place, right??? BUT HERE’S THE THING. they didn’t just… erase her memory of him? THEY ERASED HER MEMORY OF /ALL THE GOOD HE’D EVER DONE/. -cont-

if they had just completely erased her memory of him, and let stefan have to deal with the fact that elena barely even remembers why they broke up, and let his bitterness be so much more about the fact that now HE ALONE has to live with the memory of damon because elena forgot and everyone else seems so content to just let her not even know damon ever existed, and…. ANYWAY. as frustrated as i was with the contrived ‘oh damon’s back now and alaric still won’t give elena the memories -cont-

back, even though pre-memory-loss elena would ABSOLUTELY WANT THEM, but no we gotta wait for elena to say she wants them so that we can kill alaric but-not-really to contrive to keep his compulsion active (even though if he was no longer a vampire it should’ve faded but tvd’s plot has more holes than swiss cheese so whatever)’ plot, if she just didn’t remember him AT ALL and had to deal with wondering why the hell she felt so strongly to this complete STRANGER, i would have been so much -cont-

less annoyed and actively angry about it. but the thing is, her words about him when the memory loss took were ‘he was stefan’s brother. he was a monster. now he’s dead.’ it honestly felt, to me, like this was the way of tvd trying to reinforce the idea that they were ‘toxic’–that even when all she remembered of him was the monster, she still managed to fall in love, and like… that was just. so infuriating to me??? like, we didn’t NEED to see elena fall in love with him again, but if -cont-

that was the direction they just HAD TO GO, they could’ve done it in a way that was like….. respectful of their relationship and who they were together and separately???? instead of giving fodder to everyone who said ‘she loved damon and didn’t care about all the bad things he did’, which completely misses the point that ELENA was the one who saw, /more than anyone else/, all the GOOD that damon /also/ did, and THAT was why she fell for him. and i just can’t get over the fact -cont-

that in what they KNEW would be nina/elena’s final season, that they just had to contrive it so that she HAD to become human again (and oh god i’m so mad i lost my essay on why i hated the cure coming back when my blog was purged, but that’s for another meta) to get her memories back. tvd’s plot was already a MESS, but why did we have to get the bulk of ELENA GILBERT’S LAST SEASON her hating damon, remembering ONLY the awful that he did, and not even knowing why she had feelings for him???? im just?????

anyway yeah. them’s my thoughts. SORRY IF I ACCIDENTALLY SPAMMED UR ASKBOX idk if the problem was on my end or with tumblr

HI!!!! okay so I got some of your asks but not all of them!! so this works perfectly thank you. I have some answering thoughts !!

1. You have the most beautiful, cathartically rant-y posts about tvd I’ve ever seen. honestly I go back and read your meta sometimes because it is so salty and so loving and so angry and yet also so beautifully written at the same time that it heals the broken pieces of my tvd-soul when you do it. please know that my iNBOX IS ALWAYS OPEN TO ANY OF YOUR TVD THOUGHTS YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH ME.

(okay this got very long the rest is below the cut)

2. As I mentioned in the ask, I have no memory for pain and I really did love the good parts of season 6- especially the second to last 2 episodes- so much that for me it swept away all the bad stuff that happened before. like?? Damon telling Elena that he will love her until he takes his last breath on this earth and that she’s wrong he can take the cure for her, he can take it for them, Elena telling Damon that she loves him “more than she thought humanly possible”, that she can’t live without him either, even going back to the scene when Damon first tells her that he wants to be human with her because he wants HER to have the life she’s always wanted and he wants it with her??? that swept me away on a cloud of vibrant emotion. it’s literally everything I’ve ever wanted (more on that in a minute).

but you are absolutely right that the way they erased his memories was so horrible. They SHOULD have gone the “lol who’s Damon” route instead of the “damon was a monster” thing they pulled. There is something SO ugly and cynical and fan-service-y in a BAD way about having Elena stand there and, in response to people telling her that she fell in love with Damon for the good things he did not the bad things, say lines like “I don’t see how there can be enough good to counteract the bad” because yeah- that literally feeds into the shipping discourse in the most unsubtle and infuriating way. And even though a part of me loved that Stefan told Elena “no, we both loved him and couldn’t live without him and now you don’t have to but I do” the other part of me was like really? we have to have this STEFAN-SANCTIONED again?? It’s always gotta be STEFAN giving Elena permission to be with the “toxic” Damon. That scene in season 5 when Stefan was like “we’re all toxic you have my blessing to be with Damon” makes me sooooo mad and, again, not even as a Stefan-specific issue because I kind of like how Paul Wesley sells it which is as “I sorta ship it” but because the whole motive behind it, from a writerly perspective, FEELS like a way to keep Stefan/Elena fans invested in the show for that specific reason and it feels disrespectful and baiting even to people who do ship them. like. let us all rest. anyway.

3. okay! So I definitely want to hear ALL your thoughts about why you hate the cure/elena becoming human plot line!! You actually sent me some beginning asks about this before but then your blog got deleted and they disappeared!! (ugh tumblr). I think as a plot device it was pretty badly wedged in there and just APPEARED conveniently. I mean, right as soon as Damon got the cure back and was weighing what to do about it, Elena is like “oh yeah BY THE WAY i am really sad I can’t be human even though I haven’t talked about this in forever” and that was convenient. but also. Elena wanting to be human and have a human life with someone she loved and have kids and grow old feels very, very true to me on a deep character level. And I do think that never went anyway. I think she needed to become a vampire to heal! And I think it taught her a lot and helped break her out of her grief in some important ways but also it makes sense that Elena, with her deep and fierce love of family, would want a family for herself, would want the arc and growth and journey of that life to share with someone.

And I think that Damon too- with all of his issues- has the same longing inside of him in addition to wanting to give Elena the life she wants. He’s so naturally protective, he’s always kind of being a father even when he doesn’t “want” to- with Jeremy he’s such a dad (when the show LETS the characters breathe which is rare, admittedly), to some extent even with Stefan, with the whole gang. he’s always “stuck taking care of the kids” as he tells ric because he’s not going to leave. I feel it’s the natural counterpart (is that the term i want) for the way he just loves Elena so naturally, for the way he feels like her husband so naturally tbh. He’s a husband, he’s a father almost by instinct. That’s his best and truest self. (the show is like “no it’s not, he’s actually dark” but we don’t listen to them) also I’m trying to write a one-shot right now about Damon as a father and it’s not going great but the idea is just making me so happy

So the idea of them getting married and having kids and having a normal human life is SO BEAUTIFUL and SO RIGHT to me. The only way I would prefer them staying vampires forever is if tvd’s universe didn’t believe in an afterlife for humans but based on my fuzzy understanding of the finale it DOES so Damon and Elena STILL get to stay together FOREVER but first!!! they get to do all the normal cliche otp human things together- like have kids, grow old, stay together fOREVER and then LITERALLY STAY TOGETHER FOREVER. And I’m also glad, in only a slightly petty way, that she gets that life with DAMON. That she told Stefan that that was what she wanted and then she actually got it but with DAMON. No one can say she didn’t get exactly what she wanted and more. She got the cliche with him. There’s no undoing the absolute romance of that. It’s the ultimate domestic dream for anyone’s OTP and they got that even in a show that, as you said, seemed to determined to ruin them sometimes!! And I love that so much.

Again, I think they introduced that plot point pretty badly and abruptly and they could have done it better but I personally really love the idea of it. I still wanna hear all your reasons too though! <3 <3

I could probably keep talking but let’s say time to stop for now. <3

THANKS FOR THIS OPPORTUNITY MANDI

#firelxdykatara #tvd liveblogging #submission

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portraitoftheoddity · 7 years ago

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LESSON THREE: GETTING IN SHAPE(S)

Today’s lesson will focus on geometric shapes and forms, and how to render them with light and shadow.

Now granted, very little of what you may want to draw will consist of perfect spheres, cubes, or cones. But almost every complex, organic shape? Can be reduced to basic geometric components. A nose might not be a standard geometric form, but you can build one by combining spheres for the tip of the nose and nostrils with a rectangular prism for the bridge -- and if you know how to render and shade those forms, then shading a nose gets a lot easier.

Now, a sphere with no shading at all, just looks like a circle. It’s a little easier with boxier shapes to convey 3-dimensionality just with contours, but it’s still tricky sometimes to convey depth. You can convey a lot with just contours and linework, but we’ll be talking about the technique involved in that in a later lesson. For today, dealing with light and shadow to communicate shape and depth will be our focus. We’ll be concentrating mainly on simple geometric forms, because these are our building blocks for constructing more detailed, complex images as we feel more comfortable with our skills.

To start, let’s make sure we have some terms defined:

SHAPE: A two-dimensional figure. ie, a circle, square, rectangle, triangle, etc.

FORM: A three-dimensional figure. ie., a sphere, cube, prism, cone, etc.

Technically nothing we draw is three-dimensional, since the page itself is two dimensional, but with shading and depth indicators, we are able to create the illusion of three-dimensional space in a two-dimensional drawing.

So, there’s our terms as far as shape. Now, for light and shadow, let’s look at some more terms:

HIGHLIGHT: The area of a form that faces the light source and reflects the most light.

MIDTONE: What it says on the tin.

CORE SHADOW: The area of a form furthest from the light source which has the deepest area of visible shadow.

REFLECTIVE HIGHLIGHT: An area of dimmer light where the form catches light reflected by other surfaces.

CAST SHADOW: The shadow the form casts on the surface it rests on, or on objects around it.

On a curved surface, such as we see in the sphere above, and also in cones and cylinders, we see shading in a gradient. There is a gradual shift along the same continuous surface from an area of highlight to an area of shadow.

On flat surfaces, such as on cubes, prisms, or the flat top of a closed cylinder, the light hits all points of a surface at a more similar angle, making each visible side a comparatively flat area of highlight or shadow. (You may see some gradation, depending on proximity of the light source, reflections, or small variations and imperfections in the form -- but not to the degree you would on a sphere).

Now, the most important step in drawing shaded objects? Is IDENTIFYING YOUR LIGHT SOURCE.

On each of these cylinders, the light is coming from a different direction. On the second cylinder to the left, the light is coming from the front; the area of brightest highlight is visible; the area of deepest shadow is on the far side of the cylinder. On the cylinder immediately to the right of it, the opposite is true -- we can see the deepest shadow, and the highlight is on the far side.

Now, in reality, there are often multiple light sources -- two lamps in a room, natural light through a window plus indoor light, lights reflected off multiple surfaces, etc. But for the sake of our drawing exercises, we’re really just going to focus on a single primary light source in a given drawing, plus some slight amount of reflected light.

When you have multiple objects in a drawing, or a complex object made of multiple geometric forms, keeping track of your light source is important! It’s logically consistent, and makes everything in your drawing appear to occupy the same space. I often make a little arrow to remind myself of the angle of the light, which I can erase later.

Recommended Media: If you have gray-toned paper and drawing chalks/gray pastels, this is a great time to break them out. Otherwise, charcoal is great, or pencil and paper is fine.

EXERCISE ONE: VALUE SCALE

When we talk about values in drawing, we are’t talking about our moral principles (though there is a fantastic quote by G. K. Chesterton that “art, like morality, consists of drawing the line somewhere.”) Instead we are talking about light and dark in very literal terms.

Before drawing any shapes, let’s take a minute to explore the full range of your value scale. Draw at least 9 to say, 12 boxes of equal size, all in a row with touching sides.

Now, starting on one side, fill in the first box as dark and black as you possibly can.

Using your materials, in whatever medium you’re in, try to fill in the boxes from one side to the other in a gradual scale, with the opposite box being white (if you are drawing on gray-toned paper, you will want to fill in that box with white chalk, conte or pastel). Make the transition as even and gradual as possible. In the end, it should look something like this:

The value of this exercise (ayyyyy see what I did there?) lies in making you explore the FULL range of value available to you, so you’re aware of just how deep you can make your shadows in comparison to your highlights. A lot of folks go light on their shading instead of really getting in there with a full value scale. Pin this up as a reminder of what you have at your disposal!

EXERCISE TWO: DRAWING FORMS

On different pieces of paper, draw, and then shade:

a cube

a sphere

a cylinder

a cone

and a pyramid

(links provided for example -- you can use them as reference, or you can find your own, online or in real life!)

For each form, identify a direction for your light source. Figure out your area of highlight, your area of core shadow, and your cast shadow. Refer to your value scale! If you’re feeling ambitious, try drawing the forms more than once, with your light source at different angles.

EXERCISE THREE: GET IN FORMATION

Now, on a new sheet, try combining and overlapping the forms, maintaining a consistent light source.

If you want to do this with references, you can look online, OR -- look in your pantry. Canned goods and boxes make great simple geometric references. Eggs, while ovoid, shade similarly to spheres. Shine a desk lamp on your composition for a clear light source, and then draw away!

As always, my askbox is open, you’re welcome to @ me, and I’m happy to provide feedback via message if asked.

#drawingwithlena #art lessons #shading #drawing lessons #forms #value scales #light and shadow

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incendavery · 7 years ago

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gosh, thank you! that is so sweet??? I hope you (and any other of my followers who celebrate!) have/had a very happy Eid!💖 💕

on another note, I’ve finally gotten around to cleaning out my askbox! under the cut is almost every ask I’ve gotten that i haven’t answered in the past.... I’m not sure. it’s been a WHILE though.

as a warning, there’s all sorts of stuff, and it’s all untagged! also also, if you sent one of these asks and want me to remove it, just let me know!

yes!! @fuckaspunk IS super sweet and talented and i AM very lucky to have them! and I’ve heard from reliable sources that the feeling is mutual~~💕

i’m glad my comics make you feel less alone; that’s a rough situation you’re in. i really hope you find yourself in a better environment soon!

thank you!!!💕

thank you for understanding! and yes, aidan is a huge help to me??? even when they’re not answering asks, they’re always supporting me in some way, whether that’s making sure I’ve eaten enough, or talking me through my anxiety, or all the other ways they’re there for me every single day💕💕

ok, my tips are!!:

draw as much as possible! even if it’s just lines and shapes with no meaning, you’re still developing your hand/eye skills

BUT: dont draw if you’re not feeling it! if you’re feeling fried, it’s better to take a break. go on a walk to somewhere scenic, read your favorite book, listen to some new music, hang out with friends, or just take a nap! rest up and find some inspiration! you can come back to your sketchbook when you feel energized again

draw stuff that you like! you’ll improve way faster if you’re passionate about what you’re doing

look at art you like with a critical eye. try to examine the different components and figure out what you think works or doesn’t work. try incorporation those components into your own work

read a lot of tutorials and other resources, but take what they say with a grain of salt

ultimately, remember that the only real rule to drawing is that doing it should make you happy

good luck!! i do my best not to pick, but it’s a real struggle; i have lots of scars from it too. ;v; im cheering for you!!!

ALWAYS!!!! if you do, please show me!! my notifications get real busy, but anyone is welcome to IM me any time!

thank you! i actually get very worried about my style; i tend to admire artists with complex linework and delicate shading, so i often feel my style is far to simple! so thank you!!

that is really high praise????? gosh??!?!?!? best of luck with the next three years; i hope you grow to be someone you like even better than me!

thank you!!

peanut time is the best!! i haven’t gotten to do a proper one in a while though ;-; i’ve mostly been feeding the crows on my way back home from night shifts, when i give them the reject eggs from the continental breakfast.

wow, neat!! chickens are so wonderful; i cont wait until i can have some of my own :>

dont be nervous! i know i can be hard to get ahold of over the internet (bc i get overwhelmed easily) and hard to talk with irl (bc i get so nervous and interacting w ppl doesn’t come naturally to me AT ALL) but honestly i?? love making new friends??!

thank you!!? im thankful every day that someone as radient as aidan is in my life for the long haul

thank you!!!!!!!💕

i completely feel that? its ok to hit rough patches! just do your best!!

i dont remember what i felt bad about but THANK YOU💕💕

honestly its done me worlds of good to share my art?? hearing people talk about how they go through all the same shit i do makes me feel so much less alone, especially on the toughest days! so i guess thank you, and thank you?

youre welcome!!!! :>

huh!! i dont know much about shoegaze (other than thinking abt that post abt the guy who pronounced it like fugazi I THINK ABT THAT EVERY TIME) but thats real neat!! im glad youve found something that works for you!!

hey, neat middle name! and youre very welcome; i hope things have been looking up for you since you sent this?💕

i dont remember when this was from but im currently doing really well with my meds!! i switched to a combination of lexapro in the morning and benadryl in the evening, and its been working super well!✨

thank you??!! ;o; i would love to see all your favorite birds!!

hey, right back atcha!!!

ty!!!

hey. thank YOU

you’re absolutely not bothering me! thank you so much!!

!!!!!!!!!!

hey, nice! im glad you like both me and my music!

gosh thanks?!?!

she is the most beautiful and handsome!!!!!!!!!!!! i love her! thank you from both of us!!!!

aw, gosh! im sure i like you too!!

this was from.... A WHILE AGO.... but youre welcome?? i just wish i could have done more

hey, thank you so much!!!!!

thank YOU and a very very belated merry christmas!!!

that does make sense!! reconciling friendships and crushes is tricky business. the best i can say to you is to be as honest and open with each other as you can

i dont personally get those, but ive heard of people experiencing them as a sideeffect when coming off or switching meds

i think these two are part of the same message? but oh man yeah that sucks when ppl are misgendering you AND hitting on you at the same time. on a different note, ive never heard of using a corset to stim before! neat!

i mean, 1. depression doesn’t care if you have a “””good””” reason and 2. ive literally never met anyone w depression (including myself) who thinks that they do have a “””good””” reason for having it. thats the insidious part of depression, is that it makes you think that theres nothing wrong and that its all just you not measuring up in some way

so i guess that would make you.... someone with depression?

real BAD

💕 💖 💞 💓 💗

not yet haha THANK YOU

hey, im glad you like it!! since this blog has gotten so big, its kinda my happy place to be? (for anyone wondering, my reblog blog/personal is @spinels!

that IS a fun fact!! thank you!

it’s absolutely ok! i get a little bitter when people take my work WAY out of context (for example, straight people removing the caption that says “im just really gay” before tagging their bf/gf) but i am 100% ok and happy with people relating to my work in a different way than i intended (ex: a comic i made about being ashamed of my derma getting reblogged by someone struggling to be ok w their visible burn scars)

hoo gosh, thank you!!

glad to have you here!! im glad people can relate to some of the weirdly specific shit i write about tbh???

i’m sorry its taken so long for me to get back to you; that a terrible situation

if you have a teacher you trust, i would absolutely bring it up to them. that is 100% not an ok thing for those kids to be doing. at all.

im glad you at least have your friends that support you!

:0 WAIT is this someone i know through ucsc?? :0 :0 :0

aaaa thank you! that is high praise ;v;

i have no words; this is such a touching message. thank you so much ;v;

this is belated but!! the main creative community i can recommend is kzsc, the radio station! i had a real cool time there, and its a great way to make friends and connect with ppl of all sorts! :0

yeah, its totally normal! ive had roommates ive been super tight with, and roommates who i barely ever hung around with. its natural! i doubt you’ll finish college w/o finding a roomie that you get ~The Roomie Experience~ with though, even if its like a housemate or s/t!! ;0

i’ve never been told that, actually! neat!! (and wow?? i cant believe i inspire ppl.... wow......... what a concept tbh??)

oh yikes... i do hope youre feeling better :( im glad my comics can help a little bit at least!

💕 💖 💞 💓 💗!!!

HUGS

i dont remember what this was in reference to, but good to know?

also good to know!?

i think the crows and jays do! i dunno about the squirrels and other birds. and thank you!!

the youth gang..... i love it..... how good???!

i wrote about getting yuri right here! he’s a southern alligator lizard and i love him to bits.

heres a pic of the Long Boy doin his thing:

hey neat! i’m glad youve chosen a lame you can be proud of!!💖

ive never heard of that!! wow

what play is this?? :0 :0 :0 im so curious now!!

oh SHUCKS...,,,,,,,,,, ;v;

hahahaha omg thank u

i dont actually have any more of them interacting, unfortunately! the owl isnt one specific person, like a lot of my characters are meant to represent. the owl more represents as a whole all the people i run into in my life that i am very very gay for.

thank you!!!

youre very welcome! im glad you feel better!!!!

aaa gosh thank you!!!

hhhhfgh ive gotten less of it recently BUT YEAH that was bad times™️

thanks for the info!!! :0

no problem! a lot of the credit honestly goes to @fuckaspunk, who is always keeping me updated on that sort of stuff.

i didn’t know that! a lot of the symbolism seems to come from multiple sources sometimes, from what ive seen?

aaaa gosh omg thank you ;v;

aw thank you???!!

nice!!! oct 24 bdays go!!!

thank you!! it really does mean a lot actually!!!!!!!

of course?? antisemitism cant be ignored in this fight

aw, thats so cute! id love to hear what headcanons you have tbh???

hey thanks?! this is really cool to hear, tbh. i try to be positive most of the time, but im not going to like,,, kid myself when im not feeling it and im glad that other people can appreciate that too, ya know?

wow!!

(this one!) thank you i love that one too???!

hey, im glad you found your way here!! thank you so much!!!

aaaa ty!

hmmm i have two leopard geckos, and they made very good beginning lizards for me and aidan! but i would maybe ask someone a bit more experienced than me, like @kaijutegu or @wheremyscalesslither!!

thank you!!

one day at a time! (but seriously, thank you!!)

yummy yummy sauce...... ty!!!

awww, gosh! thank you!?

AAAA TY BOTH I GET SO SELF-CONSCIOUS ABT MY VOICE,,,,, ;o;

:0 i havent watched that, but it sounds rly cool!!

i like that fun fact a lot! ty!!

pae stands for paerlin, which is what @fuckaspunk‘s internet handle used to be! i used it to refer to them on my blog in secret back when they still didnt know i had a crush on them.... ;//v//;

aaaaa thank you!!! ;o;

nice nice nice ty!!

>:0 get back down here!! (jk that’s rly neat! highfive!!)

those are all good words that i like!! thank you!!!!

i dont know anything about him, but i looked him up and i guess i can see it?!

@fishcrow is really cool! ive never really interacted with them, but im p sure were mutuals...? anyway yeah their comics are rly cute and cool!

that is me! thank you; i hope things go well for you as well!

hello to you too!

aaaa ty!!! tbh the number of nice anons i get way way way outnumbers the mean ones <3

thank you! thank YOU for existing!

:0 chocolate croissant, here i come!!!

thank you!!!!!!💕

its literally my pleasure!!!

aaa ty!!! 💕💕

hehe im glad!

sldf;j;sfjdklfdslfjs thank you so much?????? what a compliment omg gosh

yeah!! i have a hard time on settling what class id be, but i feel like id be a heart player!

ohh um! im not sure which pens youre referring to, but if you mean the ones I use for my comics, i color them with Winsor & Newton ProMarkers, and I do the lines with a purple fine-point Sakura Gelly Roll Classic pen! i also use micron pens of all different sizes and colors in some of my non-diary comic art!

aww thank you so much!!

:0 :) :0 !!!!!!

ty!!! ive grown to love him very much as well!!

thank you! i hope you are doing well also!!

i love them very much?!! id put a picture but i dont have one with all four of them so instead imagine me lying on the floor crying abt how much i love them bc thats me basically every day

you dont mean......

?!?!?!?!?!?!

awwww ty!!!

HEY WOW

aaa gosh thank you!💕

DOUBLE FOLLOW

gay dragons combine the best of both very good things: gay and dragons. im glad you appreciate them w me tysm ;v;

aaa what a lovely message! ty💕

3rd-shift-working, depression-having, corvid-loving solidarity fistbumnp!!!!

huh! ive never heard of that; ill check it out maybe!!

ah im really glad? tysm!!💕

my understanding is that it helps people who have text-to-speech readers? but im honestly not as well informed on that as i should be!

hell yeah!!!!

gosh!!!!!

hnmngnhng youve probably already made a decision but i just gotta say.........shadow rulez

delicious!!

i havent!! i really want to though!

oh man ALL THE TIME. i usually try to either reality check with someone i trust, or to do an activity thats easy and i know i can do, or both!

i love andre and karl!!! its actually a huge influence on me and my art tbh???

i had a good (and safe) trip! ty!!!

hey, thank you!!!

oh jeez thats bad :( i think this was in response to when i needed to wait between med refills?

i cant give a precise reason, tbh! when it comes to whats lucky, i just sort of.... go with my gut, ya know?

thank you!! 👍

that sure sounds like insomnia! its almost hard for me to say tbh, bc ive had trouble sleeping for as long as i can remember, so NOT having trouble sleeping is bizarre and unrealistic to me haha... but i think the bottom line is, if its interrupting your daily routine and making it hard for you to have enough energy, then its something you should look into remedies for!

:0 :0 :0

ohhh how nice! ill give it a try! :>

omg,,,, nope, just me!

thank you!!!!!!

honestly? thats such a good way to look at it i love the idea of my blog as a big zine

always!!!!! go for it!!!

hey, thank you so much!!!!!

omg, thats so great! thank you!

im so glad; thank you!!!

thank you so much!💖 (and mexico, neat! i love hearing where people are following from??)

aaaaaaaaaaaa ;//v//; thank you??? i get so happy whenever ppl tell me they like my singing aaaaaaa

aw, hey, no worries! money is all well and good, but in some ways, messages like this mean just as much!

its cool that comic gave you plural feels! im def not a system though :>

its tricky, isnt it? i still feel like im no good at it lmao

LISTEN,,, there is a 99.9999% chance i wont notice, and a 100% chance i wont judge. reblog away!

THANK YOU ARENT THEY THE BEST I LOVE THEM SO MUCH

thank you!! i hope you have a good day as well!

aaa ty!!💖

aa ty! (what a cool name!!! im kind jealous ngl!)

awww thank you💖

i do my best! i just worry when im not active, bc i tend to connect my self-worth to my output (;^; )

aaaaa ty!! 💖

!!!!!!!!!!!! omg wow i love being called a pretty boy???? ty???????

hey, neat! crow high-five!

aw, thank you!!! 💖

im doing my best! thank you so much, messages like this really help when im in a place like that tbh ;v;

gosh this is so sweet? thank you so muhc !!?

thank you all!! im sorry that saying thank you over and over sounds so repetitive, but i truely do mean it for every one of you!!!

i am..... one of those things!

well thank you!!

ohoho~✨

thank you! and honestly im sure it does??

hey, cool! good for you!!!!!!! and ty!!

aw gosh thank you!💖

hey, wow! thats super cool; thank you so much!

(i dont follow the first person i followed on tumblr anymore.... they became a hockey blog rip haha)

aaaah, thank you so much!!

almost???

i do!! drunken lullabies is an absolute banger!!!!!!!!!!

i am!!!! thank you!!

aw, ty!!! 💖

hee hee, thank you!

my biggest tip honestly?? have someone who can be by your side to help you with... basically everything... during your recovery. bc trust me, i was n o t a v a i l a b l e. i spent a lot of my recovery playing 2048 at the same time as watching tv, bc doing both at once distracted me from how much the bandages itched.

thank you!! (i think this was in reference to getting top surgery!)

how shitty??????? yikes. i hope your supervisor has your back??? bc wow????

hey!!! thank you!!! i draw all my comics traditionally on paper! im not sure what you mean by the writing though? if you mean the word bubbles, i do those by hand on paper too!

I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND THAT FEELING,,,, im so happy ppl talk to me, but i get really nervous about saying the wrong thing.

when i’m down, i usually crave validation. i like being reminded about things ive done right! i also like gentle reality checks, like, ‘hey: this is the situation, this is what we can do about it. ok? ok’

i unfortunately dont have any!! i had a couple at one point, but they’ve since been lost to the depths of my old laptop. and hey, thank you so much!!

now thats a nifty trick!! im terrible at telling all my white tablets from each other lmao

!!!!!!! ITS ME!!!!!!!!

maybe you just need some space? i know i sometimes temporarily block people i know, if i need some private space or if i dont trust myself to keep cool and solve problems constructively. do what you need to do to feel at ease, and go from there, ya know?

thank you!!!

its,,,, up somewhere above in this monster post lmao i,m so sorry,,,,

thank you so much!!!

WOW NO WORRIES??,,,,,,,,, INCREDIBLE 10/10???????

all four of these came right after i gave myself a hair cut and THANK YOU SO MUCH??? i live for validation and it feels so good to have my actions affirmed ;o;

#WOW THAT TOOK LIKE THREE HOURS HAHA #hopefully next time it wont be as long!!#daveanswersstuff #long post

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my friend was upset and crying and she called me but halfway thru the phonecall the phone wouldn't let her hear me so she was crying and i was trying t o comfort her but she couldn't hear me and then we were texting but im' no good at comforting ppl i don't know whatt o say so i was trying to help but i felt like i kept messing up and like i wasn't helpful at all and shes my best friend and i'd literally die for her but ?? i cant make her feel better and knowing shes sad makes me feel awful and

(cont) and i can’t ?? make her feel better i just want her to feel better and i know i worry too much abt her and she’ll probably be fine it sill makes me feel bad and i just wish i was better at makeing her happy and feel better and at comforting her but i’m awful at it and ?? she was crynig on the phone and she couldnt hear me trying to comfort her and ?? i just want her to be happy i love her so much i just want good things to happen to her and i want the best for her but i can’t even make her feelcan’t even make her feel better when she’s upsetand i’m sorry i’m telling you this. i just feel bad abt my bff and wish she was okay and that i could make her feel better. and im jsut tired and stressed. i’m okay.sorry. i just needed to vent to someone and i feel like i remembered that it was okay to vent to you. thank you

Don’t apologise for telling me things, my askbox is an open space for a reason and I usually reply to these things privately but with anon you know that’s not a thing so I hope you see this either way.

It’s important (I think) to remember that a lot of people struggle with comforting others and they also struggle with being comforted. A lot of the time there’s very little you can do other than be there. If she felt like she could call you in the first place then she already feels comforted by you, enough that you’re her first point of call and it’s okay that you can’t respond to that in the way that you want to. I have a friend I always call when something is wrong and just knowing she’s there or hearing her voice works wonders. You need to know that they find comfort in you, not what you say or what you do. Just being there is enough a lot of the time.

It’s okay to want to make her feel better but you can’t make that your responsibility. If there isn’t anything you can do that will help in an immediate way by solving the problem then that’s not your fault any more than it is hers, you wouldn’t expect her to do it so she doesn’t expect you to and you shouldn’t expect it of yourself. I know personally I struggle with not trying to solve everyone else’s problems if I care about them but sometimes you need to take a step back because you might even be doing more harm than good. Ask her what she needs, ask her what will help and even if there’s nothing even asking makes a difference. She knows you’re there and she knows you care about her, that you’d help if you could and that’s enough. It’s okay to not be able to help even of it feels shitty, you’re only one person and you have a whole lot going on with yourself as well.

Don’t blame yourself for not being able to help because not only will that not help but it could make the situation worse. The best thing to do is to just be there for her, even if the only thing you can do is tell dumb jokes to try and make her laugh or just listen. It’s good, it helps and it’s enough. Don’t expect yourself to do more than you’d expect of other people, and make sure you’re looking after yourself. You can’t look after other people without looking after yourself first and it took me sooooo long to realise that but it’s very good advice. If you’re going to let people lean on you then you need to have some kind of grounding or you’ll collapse and you’ll both go down.

It’s perfectly okay to vent to me. I have an open space and you can say anything you like here. I don’t know if I actually give good or helpful advice but I’ll always do my best to reply it might just take a while because I’m a hella busy person rn but I always always have time for you or anyone who needs someone to talk to about anything. Even if you think it’s dumb I don’t care, need to talk about it? Just go ahead I’m not going to judge unless it’s like hate or something. You’re doing good anon, I promise. Your friend appreciates you and I promise that too. Keep your chin up

#anon #ask #lovely people #long post #advice #kinda I guess

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