#but tbh. im sick of how much ive seen poc spoken over. it feels like its even worse than usual lately

[marighould]

Hey. Not to complain, but. I wanna complain. I deleted the original post, but I strongly dislike the way that fans of a certain cc approach criticism of said cc. (Kind of a rant under the cut)

In my deleted post, I mentioned a pattern of behavior that bothered me, because it came off as disrespectful and alienating to certain ethnic & cultural minority groups that I myself belong to. It wasn't anything super malicious, but it recurred enough that I felt like I needed to express my disappointment. It wasn't meant as hate or a personal attack, and I tried to emphasize that in the post.

Within like, an hour, I had multiple blogs I'd never interacted with writing paragraphs about how I had interpreted the cc's behavior incorrectly and it wasn't fair of me to want the cc to work on that behavior because it didn't come from a place of prejudice. They explained why the cc engaged in that pattern of behavior, but I feel like their reasoning was kind of infantilizing to the cc and sort of missed the point of my post. The replies reaaaally overlooked the main issue of how the behavior came off in favor of centering the cc's feelings and moral character.

I think it's important for fans to be able to discuss discriminatory behavior, because even if the cc themself isn't prejudiced, some actions still come off that way. I know people get up in arms when they think their favorite cc is being "attacked", but it's important to recognize that even the most morally "pure" people are capable of engaging in hurtful behavior.

The responses just really left a bad taste in my mouth. Especially because I saw some posts pop up after that complaining about all the "haters" of that cc. It felt like I pointed out something I found insensitive, and I was essentially told to shut up because that cc isn't racist, so I shouldn't be offended. My criticism was reduced to "hating", which made it easy to dismiss what I had to say. It's really frustrating.

And to be clear, I don't think that the cc in question is racist. I think they're ignorant, but well-meaning. I know I'm not the first POC to have called attention to that particular insensitive behavior from that cc, and I doubt I'll be the last. That alone should be an indicator that it's an issue worth talking about.