#but sometimes people interact with my posts and I see how they are regarding submas and its like Im also quite clear I do NOT like angst...

[neon-moon-beam]

So...

[1863-project]

Hello!

I had a question which is do you have a do not interact or do not follow list?

Asking because some people are just not comfortable with ___ fandom following the or any other reason

(Not everyone has a dni of dnf and then are rude and mean when you interact so I just ask now)

You just seem cool and I don't want to annoy you

Hi, anon! Thanks for asking!

That said...I am a nearly-33-year-old woman (I literally turn 33 on the 25th of the month). When I was a kid on the internet in the early 2000s, we didn't have DNIs, mostly due to the nature of the internet at the time - social media hadn't evolved yet, and we also were taught not to give out much personal information on the internet, ESPECIALLY if we were minors. I don't think I ever mentioned my age on the internet once until I was well over 18 years old or even indicated I was under 18 before then, because I wanted to protect myself. I was on forums and later on Livejournal back then, and we learned to judge people based on their actual actions and determined whether or not to interact with them, just like in real life. You just had to use an abundance of caution until you really got to know people.

Obviously, things are different now that social media reigns supreme. I'm now an adult who occasionally speaks at autism and librarianship conferences, so my name is very much out there on a professional basis. I can't 100% control who follows my content, because it's public, but I will block people at my own discretion (ableists, TERFS/transphobes, racists, xenophobes of all sorts including being against religious and ethnic groups, etc.). If this is specifically in regard to Submas, I do NOT do Blankshipping at all and actively try to avoid it.

As I've never done NSFW content anyway, it's safe for minors to follow my posts if they want, but I have to make sure you know that there's a very clear boundary there: I'm not your parent/cool aunt who drives steam locomotives sometimes/guardian figure. I can give you advice on occasion (or answer train questions), but you need to remember that I have my own life, too, and that I'm not there to solve your problems for you - ultimately, that's for your family, friends, and perhaps a therapist to help you with. I've had minors try to latch onto me in the past and I had to keep this boundary very firm, and in general, I want you all to be safe, too, because if you do this there's always a chance you'll find the wrong adult and they'll groom you, and I ABSOLUTELY do not want anyone hurting you kids.

So basically...I don't have a real DNI, but I set boundaries individually, because that's how I have to do it in the real world, and I choose not to interact with bigots of any sort and will liberally use the block button when I see them, often before I even interact, because it's up to me to curate my experience on the internet and keep myself safe physically, mentally, and emotionally. You can follow me, but I reserve the right to block you for my own safety/mental health, and I encourage you all to work on having healthy relationships with the work of artists, writers, content creators, etc. that aren't parasocial to keep yourselves emotionally safe, too!