#but omg why am i being my own biggest hater?!

[altgoth-aesthetic]

"Woke up this morning,

I feel so fucking important

I looked in the mirror, I'm different

I finally made the decision" 🖤💅🏻

[wejustvibing]

@wejustvibing

I...I'm trying to find the strength... and I'm also using a vocal transcriber.

You said you find the strength to watch this sport by being a hater, and I tried to do the same. My chest hurts even more.You see this feeling that is like you have swallowed melting glass. This is exactly how I feel by being a hater. I cannot be a hater. I can only ignore what doesn't please me. Because hate is too much of an investment for me.

These people cannot continue to play with my feelings. This is why you do not watch any type of sport. Too much pain. Too much suffering. As if the pain itself wasn't enough, you have... You have the fashion fraud and his client doing everything and anything. I am tired of seeing the combo of oversized with a little bit of cleavage or something, oversized trousers that are sweeping the floor, chunky boots. Change the combination. Change the silhouette of the outfit. Please.

So even if he wears, I do not know, leather skinny trousers, I do not care. Even if he starts wearing crocs with tights and maybe a football jersey, I do not care at this point. I want to see something new. We've got the braider who by now should understand that when they do big sections for the braids, it is going to be tighter and that smaller sections for the braids suit Lewis better. Or maybe Lewis is the one braiding his own hair, and like everyone who does, he doesn't want to spend too much time braiding his hair and does big sections.

Wow, this is long as hell.

omg 😭

4. oh he definitely has a braider who needs to be blamed for that shit every single day

3. i've stopped complaining about fits & "styling" and just his fashion in general. or at least i'm trying. it's a downfall at worst and stagnation at best but nobody is ready for that conversation. his words don't match the shit he's put in, most clothes wear him instead of him wearing them, it's lazy, it's unimaginative, it's repetitive, it's focused on instant gratification and heavily reliant on incessant thirsting, and frankly it is ruining the years of hardwork he has put in and the scrutiny he has endured. we don't want to see him in flamboyant clothes all the time but even the basics aren't ticked and it's just. hoping for him to be put in clothes made for his body type shouldn't be such a controversial opinion, but it is. because you don't want to hurt the sycophants and become a pariah (i'm guessing.) honestly, he's broken barriers in terms of paddock fashion but we're supposed to be satisfied with whatever's being served just because it's high end luxury. it just makes me sad. but maybe this is what he wants or maybe this is who he is—clueless about fashion

2. sports are an emotional rollercoaster, it's what makes them thrilling. there's always highs and lows and that's what makes them worth following imo but yea i get the frustration

1. i don't encourage you to be a hater of course. hating requires too much energy and dedication that i'd rather you invest in something you love 😭 pick whatever helps you to cope. if it's too much you can always take a step back or stop following the sport entirely. and i don't necessarily only cope with hate, there's so much stuff i ignore because you know not everything really needs a reaction and response. watching lewis win and just race still is the biggest draw for me and it truly makes me happy. so i rewatch old races. just to feel something. yes, the car sucks and his team isn't making it easier but there's new challenge and excitement coming up soon so i am hanging around to see how that turns out

[amporella]

hello! i just finished reading your recent meta and wanted to say it was a really good read and very interesting. i wasnt sure if i was going to read it at first because i dont particularly have a strong opinion on the whole discourse thing. i personally love gnc style but i also understand some of the problems people have with making kyle more feminine and stan more masculine. im not like the biggest fan of suuuper masculine jock manly guy stan tbh. i can still enjoy fanworks, im not going to complain lol. but i really appreciated everything you talked about in canon on the show and showing how matt and trey portray him as like.. just some fucking guy sometimes lol. i think it really helped me appreciate that aspect of his character better? as an american football hater i would roll my eyes when ppl pointed out his little bronco interest/merch. and its not like suddenly now i think its cute, bc i always thought stan was cute about it. with everything actually. but like, ugh, idk if im wording this right so excuse me on that!! just love the idea of him supposed to be this ideal kind of idea of masculinity and enjoying what can be seen as like 'typical guy things' or w.e but still wanting to explore femininity and being gnc. the cissy is such an interesting ep for me with stan and its something i often go back to and have since been into hc style as that couple that explore their identity and stuff together. and like basically i guess what im saying is ty for further diminishing the whole goth vs jock line, for me. there is so much to stan and i just... i rly love him. omg im sorry to ramble about stan and being deranged about my own hcs/ideas of him on your kyle meta lol. i am feminine kyle enjoyer as well so i truly enjoyed reading everything. im really glad i decided to read your meta! its just something i didn't expect to like and take away from the whole thing was the differences you put out there with stan and kyle. also something i really appreciated was your tone in your writing? it doesnt come off as passive aggressive or like youre pulling out 'receipts'. youre just sharing some points in canon that help you have fun and see reason for why you like what you like. thank you for sharing with us.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! And I think you're wording it perfectly!!

I'm SO glad you got something out of it!! Stan being just some fucking guy is honestly one of the most charming things about him to me; I'm also not a huge fan of American football (or most sports, really) but who are we to stop him from just being That Guy. He IS so cute all around and that has to be one of the cutest things about him... YOU GET IT!!

Stan really is king joth and it makes me SO happy I can blur that line for you a little more; both jock Stan and goth Stan are SUCH good portrayals and they really don't have to be mutually exclusive. And same with your thoughts on gnc Stan!! Him being a traditionally masculine kind of guy with some gnc qualities is a super fun idea/headcanon, and I'm so so glad I could contribute to that!!

TBH my inbox's whole purpose is for people to be deranged into, so NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR THAT!! I always 100% welcome it and this message was such a delight to get honestly. And THANK YOU SO MUCH about the comment about my tone... it's something I really try to be conscious of so your compliment means a lot!!!

Thank YOU for reading it!! <3

[angrydeobi42069]

The hate Blackpink gets is driven by internalized misogyny and here’s why

Blackpink. Basically the biggest girl group on the planet and one of the biggest groups in general, dominating the charts worldwide. Blackpink’s comeback, “How You Like That” broke world records for most viewed video in 24 hours and debuted no.2 on the Billboard charts. I’m sure “Lovesick Girls” charted as well or the same. The first kpop group to perform at Coachella, Blackpink have collabed with too many western artists for me to name (actually, I could probably name them but I could care less about some of these western artists so I’m not going to). I mean, not really a surprise, Blackpink has been breaking records since their debut in 2016. There’s not even really a point in introducing them to you since there’s literally no way you don’t know who they are. 

Now like many celebrities, the more famous you become the more hate you get. I hope everyone knows that this is just bound to happen regardless if your favorite celebrity has never done anything problematic and consistently produces bop after bop. However, BP get some of the worst hate I have seen towards a kpop group and most of it coming from kpop fans and blinks themselves. I’ve heard it from my close friends, from randos on stan twitter, and from locals. So, I have a bone to pick with y’all haters because I truly don't understand. 

Let me start with saying that I’m not a blink. I’m kinda far from it. I like bp and I will definitely click on their stuff when it comes out but I am in no way shape or form an actual stan. I wouldn’t buy their stuff or cry over their achievements, though it does make me somewhat proud. But even though I’m not a blink, I find myself defending these girls whenever someone tries to start shit. 

Ok, so from what I could gather from scouring the internet, harassing my friends, and looking through twitter, people hate bp for mainly these reasons: they hate Jennie, they think bp are overrated and overhyped, they “are not serving what they could serve” (yes, I quoted this from my friend), they’re basically models not idols, their fans suck, and BIG 3 privilege. There’s actually a lot more reasons that I found by looking at a “why do you hate blackpink?” quora thread but these are the easiest to tackle. I’m here to tell you that most of this hate if not all of it comes from misogyny. To be more specific, internalized misogyny because most of this hate comes from female kpop fans. 

Disclaimer: I did not research which demographic hates on bp the most but from personal experience, it has always been women who share their distaste for bp. Ok, moving on. 

I’m going to tackle the reasons I laid out one by one, hopefully well enough that you look back and see if the reason why you hate bp is out of just simple dislike for their music or because you hate women. There’s a big difference if you didn’t notice. If you get offended by this piece then that’s on you not me, just saying.  

Ok, first reason. You hate Jennie? Is that so? May I ask why you hate her so much? What exactly has she done to you that you have such a strong hatred for her? Is it because she’s lazy? Because she’s not doing what she’s capable of? I need reasons. I really do need some reasons before I label you off as someone struggling with internalized misogyny. Jokes aside, I don’t see how you can hate someone you’ve never met. I think most of the time we forget that you literally don’t know these people. I don’t know my favorite kpop boys and you definitely don’t know my good sis Jennie. I could make a whole other piece on the fake images and personalities these idols have and how we eat them up but whatever. 

Back to Jennie, you literally don’t know her. This whole Jennie is lazy argument is bs, pure shit if you ask me. You have no way of knowing what’s going on in her life. I’m pretty sure you’ve had bad days, bad weeks, maybe even bad months. You forget her job is draining, mentally and physically. She’s got dances to memorize, songs to memorize, fans to deal with and communicate with. She has a social media presence, she still has to practice and train (idols don’t just stop practicing once they debut). I know my body would not be able to withstand that no matter how long I trained; I’d drop dead immediately. The matter of fact is there are a ton of reasons why she wasn’t performing up to YOUR standards, which is a whole other can of worms since you’re probably on your bed doing nothing. It’s almost like y’all forgot sickness and fatigue is a thing. 

(this is just one of many videos where you can see jennie being “lazy”, let my girl live smh) 

And even if the reason wasn’t a medical reason, you can’t let my good sis be lazy for once??? The thing is everyone acts like they’ve never been lazy in their entire life. You’re telling me you’ve never not wanted to do nothing for no good reason? Lies, you’re fucking lying. Ok so what if she doesn’t feel like doing the move with that much energy. Let her live?? All I’m saying is you’d probably survive 5 days in the kpop industry with your lazy ass. And don’t try to hit me with the “but that’s her job she has to perform at 100% all the time” because I’m pretty sure you’re not supposed to be failing your classes or pretending to be sick to get out of class. It’s the hypocrisy of it all. All if you had to perform the same song for a year, I’m sure you’d get sick of it too (fuck you YG). 

The reason why you hold Jennie to ridiculous standards is because of your ~ misogyny ~. Yes, it’s showing. Especially if you don’t hold male idols to the same level as Jennie. Female idols on the daily are held to ridiculous standards when it comes to their performances. One hair out of place and all of a sudden the knetz come holding their pitchforks. Gfriend slipping on the stage, something caused by literal rain, is still laughed at to this day and mocked. Jang Gyuri on Produce 48 had a voice crack that was edited and replayed to death on the show, ending in her elimination because she couldn’t recover from it. Meanwhile male idols make a mistake on stage and it’s like “Omg, a babie! Omg, that’s so funny!”. I don’t think I can think of any moment where male idols got shit because of a stage mistake. If anything he’s just babied and posted on twitter. My point is female idols are always shat on no matter what they do. Jennie is no exception. 

(tell me why the fancam of gfriend falling has 15M views... for what? FOR WHAT)

Now the second point, bp is overrated and overhyped. Umm, so this point is a little harder to flat out say you’re wrong, mostly because it depends on your own personal taste. If bp’s music is not for you then it might be easy to say that they’re overrated since they’re literally the biggest girl group in the world. The nuances come with the reasons behind this statement. I’m not going to address if you just dislike their music, I can’t really change your opinion on that. I will however, address if the reason behind you saying they’re overrated is because their music sounds “generic” and you don’t think they’re talented, or if you don’t think they deserve their fame because of their small discography and short promotion periods. 

The statement that all four of the bp members are untalented is just false. Wrong. W-R-O-N-G. Don’t mind me just spelling it out for you. Listen, to be able to debut you have to have some sort of talent. No one really debuts without any talent at all (for record yes I’m including visual as being a talent, sue me and leave hate idc). The only reason why someone with no talent would debut is if they had a HUGE fan base before debut and the company was trying to capitalize on it. I can name a few examples but I’m not trying to start shit. These fan bases could show up from predebut commercials, acting gigs, or reality shows. Blackpink had none of that, sure a few of them had appearances in other mv’s but I wouldn’t consider that abnormal in companies’ promotion tactics. Bp went through the typical trainee process. They passed the auditions, trained for a couple of years, and debuted. Now if you knew anything about the trainee process you would know that trainees have monthly evaluations. These monthly evaluations determine whether or not you can make it to debut. If you don’t show progress, then you’re getting the boot. So the fact that bp made it up to the final levels of evaluation and actually debuted indicates that these girls have talent, I’m sorry to say. Objectively, these girls can dance, sing, and rap. Maybe they’re not the best in the industry, I never said that but they are capable of doing all 3 things. Also they come from YG and as much as I hate YG, they’ve got trainees for dayssssss. YG’s status and income did not rely on these girls debuting, they could’ve picked anyone out of their 100 trainees they’ve got in the dungeon. If anything it’s way more competitive to debut in any of the Big 3 companies. It’s like picking the best of the best. If you’re saying these girls are not talented then maybe check yourself a little bit to see why you’re exactly saying that. I’m assuming you won’t be able to do anything better than them. 

The other three points were that their music is generic, their discography is small and their promotions are short. Well, in that case say fuck YG? You’re really acting like these girls produce their own music, make their own choreos and schedule their own promotions. Like wtf? That’s what their companies are for? The way that everyone chooses to ignore YG and their staff and immediately put blame on the girls like they get to choose what they do is ridiculous. Now I know not everyone does this, but the amount of people I’ve seen say bp is overrated because of their discography is a lot. But y’all really out here acting like they make their own discography smh. Yell at Teddy? Yell at YG? I’ve been yelling at those mfers because they’re not giving bp what they deserve. There’s no surprise when I say what they’ve been giving bp is subpar in terms of choreo and vocal ability in songs. I know those girls can do so much more. I don’t even wanna talk about the pretty savage choreo. I don’t. But this is no reason to hate on them? It’s like if I hated a starbucks barista for starbucks having a pumpkin spice latte. Like ???? 

( i drew this myself :) )

Even the hate that they receive because they get sponsorships and ads makes no sense. You don’t want them to make coin? A huge part of what comes with being famous is brand sponsoring. Brands pay you to promote their stuff because hello, you’re famous. So the fact that you don’t want them to do this is first of all wack but also again you’re acting like these girls choose the sponsorships and choose when to go on these trips. YG. MFING YG. I don’t think y’all understand how much control these companies have over their idols. Company says drink water, you drink water. Company says stop breathing and you stop breathing. You do whatever your company says you have to do. That’s your boss. 

So why don’t y’all start hating the producers, choreographers, and management instead. Why focus your hate on these four girls? I won’t spell it out for you again but I hope you get the jist. Most of the time it’s way more easy to attack the woman when she has nothing to do with anything. Society tells you to direct your complaints to the girl involved. You see a male celebrity start dating and who gets attacked? The girl. A girl gets cheated on in a movie by her boyfriend and who does she attack? The girl he cheated with. It’s internalized misogyny luv, yes I ended up spelling it out for you. For real, the girls just breathe and y’all scream at them. 

Final point about the big 3 privilege and fanbase. You have every right to not stan a group because of their fanbase. What you don’t have a right to do is hate on them and leave nasty comments on their posts. First, that’s fan behavior. Second, if you’re gonna do this keep the same energy for people who want to do this with your group. I’m talking about every group because every idol group got some wack ass fans. You shouldn’t hate a group because their fanbase is annoying, they don’t get to pick and choose their fans. So, don’t be a hypocrite ok :) Now big 3 privilege. Ah big 3 privilege. Yes, it exists. There’s no denying it. Big 3 privilege doesn’t really die out in my opinion. For as long as they’re still active, bp will have big 3 privilege. But just with any other sort of privilege, if you have it might as well use it. Listen, if I was white you know I’d be eating up my white privilege I’m not gonna lie. Jokes aside, bp has worked extremely hard. Yes, they have the big 3 privilege but they still have to perform these concerts, shows, and go to these interviews and train. As much as you’d like to disagree with me, I think that it’s a very objective to say that they have worked hard. 

I think it’s important to acknowledge how hard it is to get into these companies in the first place. You’re not born into it like a lot of social privileges people have. You have to audition. There are so many idols that have tried to get into these big companies but have failed. Now I’m not saying that these idols are not as talented as the ones that get into these big companies. Most of the time, these idols aren’t ready at the time of their audition and work harder on their own before trying out other companies. The big 3 get their trainees at very young age, which means these kids have to be either geniuses or show an incredible amount of promise. They’re the big 3 for a reason, they’ve been around the longest and have the most experience. They can see a future idol in the making relatively quickly. So yeah bp have big 3 privilege but they’ve worked hard, sacrificed their childhood, and get shat on just as much as your kpop idols. They’ve just got a fancy name behind them that doesn’t even make good choices promoting them anyways. It’s not a valid reason to hate them because of this, just saying.

Most of the hate bp gets is brought upon by the idea that our patriarchal society has ingrained in us. Women = bad, yell at them vs. men = good, don’t yell at them. We hate seeing women succeed. It’s as simple as that. Seeing powerful women dominate the industry they’re in scares us to our core. We don’t like it. I’m just here to bring light to it.

[junionigiri]

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Not coherent and brief mobile commentary. Spoilers

- Emily, Rule, and Mines? Did Reiko name herself after, um, Emily the strange? And Yui, after a ruler? And Shoda, after land mines?

- presenting my fav team. Shinsou tearing up with mixed emotions. Monoma looking (at him?) With despondence. Reiko gracefully passed out. Yui still pretty as she is stuck on a pole. And Shoda all beaten up, showing how strong Mina's punch was.

- hay. Still sad that it's a perfect 4-0. I mean. I woulda been happy if the other team captured someone and still lost. The kids did their best but protagonist privileges.

- for all y'all's complaining about us complaining... I get ya. Shinsou would never win against Midoriya. We all knew that from the start. he only had a few weeks to train and Deku is strong yadda yadda But that's the weird thing about this fight that Shinsou was considered the biggest threat? You and Midoriya and the rest of the audience apparently disregarded the abilities of the other 4 kids on the team.

- while I'm proud of Ochako and Mina's raw power, Yui, Reiko, Shoda and Monoma were sacrificed to make them and Midoriya look good. I wish it wasn't so but nothing left to do about that.

- and also. Why aren't more questions asked about Deku's quirk? They accepted the "I dunno what happened but thanks Shinsou" explanation with a smile? Even though it legit looked like it was gonna a kill everyone at first?

- isn't that convenient for Deku =_= but I might be commenting too early re this. I hope people act a little more suspiciously later about it.

- I know this is just mina being mina but I kinda dislike that Ochako's decision making was immediately linked to her crush on Deku. Because she has proven that she can be badass and think on her own feet even if she has to follow Deku's (illogical) plans. But I am p. Happy that Aizawa gives her that lil smile and acknowledgement that she has improved. I think this proves that Aizawa cares about his 1-A students as much as he does for Shinsou.

- Ah I love this panel. ^_^ apart from Dadzawa doing as a Dadzawa does, he gives Shinsou pretty good advice -- no-one is immediately good at the start so Shinsou has a long way to go.

- and thank you Hori even tho we expected this~~~~ I hope the fact that Vlad-sensei is the one who announced that he's going to the hero course next year is a sign favoring him being transferred to B :)

- and thank u Mina for calling out Mineta. He won't fail of course but at least the other characters consistently call him out for his gross behavior

- two things I'm intrigued about this and one thing Im happy about this panel:

- Monoma learning something about Midoriya's quirk, and figuring out a counter strategy. What! What has he learned? Has he learned that it's multiple quirks? Or that it's a stockpiling quirk? Or maybe he figured out that he can copy multiple ones but maybe he tried to activate the wrong one back then?

- and Aizawa inviting Monoma to see Eri! Ahhhh what. I hope this somehow leads to Mirio's recovery?

- and the thing im happy about this is that Monoma still has an important role to play to the story. So he won't be removed or killed or exploded whatever u haters want to happen to him omg.

- Im sad that suddenly no interaction between Monoma and Shinsou =_= their connection is cut off abruptly agh. Well this is just my shipper self complaining I guess.

- finally this Arc is over even though the things I wanted to happen didn't happen. But at least! Shinsou's transfer and Monoma's visit to Eri makes me look forward to the next chapters!!!!

[imsusx]

Led Zeppelin, The Doors, Jimi Hendrix, Simon and Garfunkel, The Mamas and the Papas, The Who, AC/DC, Janis Joplin, The Tragically Hip, Aerosmith, Johnny Cash, Madonna, oooooops so many sorry hehe 🥰💓

Omg babe you really went out I love it yes!!! Thanks for asking my love🥰💜

Led Zeppelin: 4 turn ons

Romantically it would be:

-Humor/ laughing: someone laughing with me it’s the best thing ever

-Good conversations: I love when someone is able to talk about anything and just the conversation flows and it doesn’t feel forced

-Listening and empathy: When someone you like wants to listen about your day, or about you feel, and wants to help you out it’s the best ever. Basically genuine attention.

-Petnames!!!!!!!!!!!! (Baby, my girl, my love, or anything with “my” in it) makes me feel extremely special and with my IN IT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE YES IM ALL YOURS✨

Sexually it would be:

-When someone that you like touches your inner thigh MMMMM shits good

-tiddies and BOOTY🙈

-MOANING BITCH IT DRIVES ME WILD🤪

-The thought of any sexual activity with the person you like makes me wet ok

The Doors: 2 places you’d like to visit

Australia and USA!

Jimi Hendrix: Name 8 things that make you happy

-Alannah, aka you,the sunshine of my life🥰

-my doggy!

-Food!!! I love food soooo much

-Music! All kinds of music make me happy I can dance and enjoy anything

-My friends! Without a doubt I LOVE them so much and I’m so happy they are in my life, each and everyone of them is special and lovable in their own way🤧💜

-MAKEUP OKAY I LIVE FOR MAKEUP AND PUTTING ON A DARK LIP AND ALL

-HAIR DYE!!!!!!!!!!! yes bitch GIMME ALL OF IT!!! I LOVE MY PURPLE HAIR

-Traveling!!!! Love love exploring new cities and enjoying their own stuff

Simon and Garfunkel: What song(s) help you get through the day?

Lover by Taylor Swift, Cuz I Love you by Lizzo, DINNER and diatribes by Hozier, The Cure by Little mix (that one has a special place in my heart) Graveyard by Halsey, Anything of Rihanna and Beyonce tbh, Anything of Queen is great too of course, Boulevard of Broken Dreams by Green Day and Don’t call me Angel by Ariana Grande, Miley Cyrus and Lana del Rey!!! (I think that’s it)

The Mamas and The Papas: Describe yourself in 5 words

Well.. this is hard lmao

Im funny? I’m a bitch too, I’m a foodie, I’m a feminist and a plus size queen what can I say LMFAO

The Who: 2 of your favorite foods and 2 foods you hate

OMG THIS IS SO HARD AAAAH

Pizza and Lasagna: my faves

(but I also love Chinese food and Thai and Spanish food omg I can’t choose IM so sorry food is my biggest love)

Broccoli and most veggies omg I hate them I wish I liked them but it’s hard

AC/DC: Name 7 things people do that piss you off

-when people talk over you without respecting your voice or opinion

-people that eat with their mouth open. WTF IS THAT ABOUT CLOSE YOUR FUCKING MOUTH BITCH

-When men start talking about what a woman should do with their body. Hello? No uterus, no opinion thanks

-CREEPY PEOPLE THAT RANDOMLY ASK FOR YOUR NUDES OR THAT SENT U NUDES WITHOUT YOU WANTING THEM WHAT THE HECK

-When people slut-shame women. Let her fucking live

-People that think feminists are crazy. Bitch we just want equality the fuck

-People that don’t get excited or get happy about you when you have good news or are in a good mood. LikE WHAT THE FUCK WHY ARE U SUCH A HATER

Janis Joplin: In your opinion, what was the greatest time or era in music?

Honestly I kinda wanna say 80s,70s, but at the same time I wanna say now. Let me tell u why. Basically 80s are great, all those rock legends that I love are out there wilding. But I wanna say now, because we are able to enjoy the great music we have now and the one from back then!

The tragically Hip: 6 things you want to accomplish

-get skinny and try to understand my body and love myself, all in one pack

-Travel and meet all the wonderful people I have to meet.

-Date u 🌚

-Finish highschool and get to university

-Finish my major or whatever it’s called when I get to Uni

-Be more independent: aka my own apartment, my driver license and my car blabla

Aerosmith: Favorite celebrity? Least favorite?

Well fave celebs maybe any of the Kardashians? I really like them honestly and like they are actual celebs. If we talk about singers and all that stuff we entering my idols and I’m not sure if the question is about that lmao

The ones I don’t like is Chris Brown, what he did to Rihanna it’s just not okay.

Johnny Cash: Are you a religious person?

I mean I am but not really. Basically I have a Christian family and all that but we are not into it as some other families are. We just kinda go with it.

Madonna: Describe your crush

Warning I’m about to get sappy🤧💜

She is one of the most beautiful girls ever, inside and outside. She has this cute reddish hair and blue eyes and the cutest laugh ever. She is tall which makes me h*rny. When I see her or I get a notification my heart goes: 🥰☺️💜💗💖💗💗💘💘💕💓💓💞💕💞💕💓 She is funny, she is sweet, she has brought a light to my life when times were really dark. She is literally the sunshine of my life. It’s funny how life works, she is in the other side of the world but for her I would travel in a heartbeat. I can’t wait to someday hug her, kiss her and give her everything I have, which I already try to do. She makes me feel so amazing, so loved which I’m trying to get used to. Coming from a dark time thinking I was unlovable and now getting this it’s wild. I love her. I really do. Distance can suck my dick. She makes me the happiest and I honestly hope I make her happy too. I’m so thankful for her to be in my life. I’m so happy that she wants to talk to me and enjoy this mess that I am. She is the cutest. She is the owner of my heart. The one that comes to mind when u hear all those love songs. We connected so fast and it’s so amazing. We can talk about everything, we basically are communication queens. I never thought my first love would be so far away from me, but I’ll do anything to fight for it. Thank you Alannah for being in my life honestly. I love you, babygirl 💜🥰

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N°61  • ‘Tea with Dreem’

After having had been on what could have been considered a super long hiatus, I’m glad to bring back to my blog what I definitely wish I could do more of – INTERVIEWS, or better known as ‘Tea Time’ to you guys. If you have no idea what ‘tea with...” is, you could definitely check out my past interviews with; Mai Bilavio, and Nova Faerye for some insight on what exactly entails in the interviews that I do on my blog. Typically I keep things peachy and sweet with creators, but that wasn’t quite the case with Dreem who allowed me to ask any questions that I dared, along with those that you guys wanted me to ask her. Considered the Queen of Second Life, Dreem sits and chats with me about a multitude of things, ranging from; drama, creating, and more DRAMA! Thank you so much for taking your time to read, and enjoy. *special thank you to Dreem Doll for trusting my pen, and having tea time with me.

alas, the interview:

J: First of all, I’d like to thank you for taking the time to stop by, I’m so glad to have you here considering your busy schedule. – How are you doing today?

D: I am fine, feeling blessed and highly favored. Thank you for asking.

J: That’s great! Well, as you know, I do mainly post fashion tips, and advice on my blog so I’d like to know who you’re wearing today so the readers can get Dreem’s look today *smiles*.

D: Well im wearing a shirt by Rowne, who I adore, I paired it with my pants which are the thermal leggings, by me. I accessorized with shades by Brotherhood, and fannypack by Majesty – which is my daughter’s store.

J: I love it, you look bomb! Well, since you’re here and I just snatched you up – what does a typical day in the life of Dreem look like?

D: Well, First and foremost I am a very family oriented person so my day usually consist of my family. I would have an entire day planned down to the T and would get online and end up totally not doing anything besides hanging with my family all day *laughs*. Besides that, I like to get some work done, alot of the time aswell so sitting on my platform is one of my biggest pass times. Everything else really just comes last after those things, so boys,drama,haters, etc.

J: Yea, every now and then I check your Instagram, and you’re always posting cool moments with your family or whatever have you – whether it’s drama related, store related, or boy-drama-related your Instagram seems to be kind of your outlet for everyone to see, with that, as a public figure or so, I’d like to ask you – being you, and being such a public figure, what are some of the challenges that you often times face?

D: One of the biggest challenges I face everyday is being a public figure, and role model to my family and supporters. Alot of times I am learning now that I have to step back and think.. "Well if I do this a certain way, how is everyone else going to perceive this" Alot of people look up to me for guidance and direction so it’s very hard to make sure I don’t disappoint or lead them down the wrong path.  Having my life put under a spotlight for the whole internet to see was very scary, I would have randoms coming up to me like omg you’re such and such that did this and that and have my whole timeline and history down pack and at first that scared the life out of me *sighs*, but it also let me know I have the power and the platform to do and be better and set better examples everyday *smiles*.

J: I’d imagine that being such a huge influence could be quite nerve-wracking at times but it does have someee benefits *laughs*, and since you told me that you had people coming up to you, and mentioning things that have happened in the past, did you ever think to yourself that you’d be where you are now, in terms of your position on the grid having had transcended from IMVU to SecondLife. 

D: Maybe not to this extent, but even from IMVU I have always been a household name and a public figure. SecondLife is a wayyy bigger and greater platform so, obviously it naturally amplified. I never expected it to be to this level though, kind of a blessing and a curse at the same time. Either way i am very grateful for it God makes no mistakes *smiles*.

J: Yeah, from what I’ve been told by readers, and your family that came from IMVU to SecondLife with you is that you were basically in the forefront of everything, and gave IMVU life in a sense. Do you ever miss IMVU, assuming that you still have family members that still play, or just fans that might miss you?

D: Definitely, IMVU made my whole internet persona. "Diiva”, which was my IMVU character, is now naturally embedded in my DNA. IMVU prepared me strategically for so much and just my outlook on the world in general. IMVU will always be my nest that i flew out of.

J: That’s good to hear, I’m pretty sure everyone feels like that for either IMVU or SecondLife, it definitely does teach you lessons along the way. Not to mention, you had a LARGE impact on IMVU and I’m sure there’s no denying that. However, you had a family on there as you do on here, – do you believe that your impact has transcended from IMVU onto SecondLife? If so, what solidifies that?

D: Yes, my leadership is something that goes everywhere and anywhere with me. Naturally I attract flocks and attention because thats just my personality. My realness, my loyalty, and my talents is what has kept me afloat for so many years and will continue to keep me afloat. Staying true to yourelf and pure hearted will put you through some tests but in the end it will always pay off.

J: You mentioned your talent, your loyalty, and realness help you stay successful, what do you believe contributes to the longevity of your family name?

D: Love, Loyalty, and Realness *smirks*.

J: Well, if that’s the case – I’m sure after having read some of your accolades readers would love to be a Killin, which is your family – what exactly does it take to be took in as a Killin?

D: I like to seek out my own family members, because usually when someone comes to you to be apart of a family they are seeking something or coming for the "clout" or the wrong reasons. However, when I seek out someone I feel like I’m getting the people who are busy in their own league, bosses, and leaders. My family is filled with marketing geniuses, so be a boss, and ofcourse be sexy! *laughs*.

J: Well, now they’re aware of what needs to be checked off on their checklist before they even think of applying for adoption *laughs*. Since we’ve talked about that, I’d like to drift away from family oriented questions for a bit, and ask you; If you could bring something back to the grid that you used to do that isn’t as popular, what would it be?

D: Slapping bitches, jk *laughs*, but I loved everyone hanging out together in world – like big groups of people actually role playing and having fun! Now a days everyone is busy securing our bags, and we can only do that once in a while but I do miss that!

J: That was always fun, it’s like everyone is in their own circles now – which definitely isn’t a problem, but gathering every now and then would be super cute. Since you mentioned securing a bag – you’ve secured quite a few given that you’ve done basically everything there is to be done in the field of creating. You’ve had an event, or two – along with store/s, and even solidified yourself as the queen. Would you considering yourself a jack of all trades, and could we expect anything in the future?

D: I am definitely the Proclaimed Queen. Wheter good, or bad you’ve heard of me, my name ring bells – I’m honestly one of the biggest names to ever hit the grid, and i have impacted in so many different ways. I proved I am a one bitch army, and can handle ANYTHING thrown my way. I proved I can have a huge successful store, winning over 10 awards for my store alone. My events all did amazing, and had really big name designers, and am also very pretty so thats always a win. You could expect alot more like ALOT.

J: Well, I would like to delve more into the topic of what we could expect in the future – but I won’t do that because I do loveeee surprises, and you surprised us with your recent release of newness from Sabotage just a few days ago. I have to ask, is Sabotage back, and is New Regime gone – is it a sub-brand or...?

D: Sabotage issss back, and I’m releasing a lot of newness very soon..*smiles* New Regime is a sub brand as of now, the difference with NR is that it takes a classier safe route, Sabotage is more of a wild ‘do-what-i-want’ type of style, which could be considered more risky. As far as what’s next with New Regime. – it’s not gone, New Regime is still going, New Regime is actually set to debut its mainstore on the new Vive Nine Sim coming very soon.

J: Niceee, I can’t wait to see all of the newness that you have in store with both New Regime, and Sabotage – since you brung up the different styles, I’d like to ask you what exactly influenced you to create in the style that you do considering that it’s quite original to your aesthetic, and brand.

D: Lack of originality on SecondLife is literally an epidemic, like a serious issue..*sighs* I haveee to think outside of the box, and bring fresh new ideas. I've always strived to be different – even with the orange.. No one was doing it, orange was always my least favorite color but i said why not take something like orange and make it a powerful, bold, and different statement.

J: You mentioned you being the first to use the color orange as if there’s someone else using it – what exactly do you think of those that try to imitate your aesthetic?

D: I am very flattered, now if your stealing my work thats a difference, but imitation is the biggest form of flattery. I also see alot of big store brands trying to do what i do and i love it, it lets me know that I am doing something right *laughs*.

J: Are you convinced that there is a lack of creativity amongst creators that bite off of smaller creators?

D: HELL YES! I wont even get deep into this, I am sure you guys can open your eyes and see the amount of non-creative creatures we have roaming around here. Its sickening.

J: I’m gonna brighten things up a bit before I go back into the topic of your brand – it’s style, and aesthetic, me and the readers would love to know what exactly put you on the map in the world of creating – in other words, which of your items sold the most?

D: My denim thongs was definitely my first hit, they’ve been out for over 3 years and are still selling like hotcakes. I think it has to do with them being a very risky and revealing piece lol, but yes the denim thongs put me on the map for sure.

J: I lovee those thongs, and a little birdy told me they’re soon to make a comeback when you open the doors to the new Sabotage flagship. Now, let’s talk about your circle – You’ve worked alongside many people and that obviously takes good communication skills, who would you consider to be your circle, whether they’re creators or not.

D: As far as who's designers that I am close to and would consider my real friends, and circle would be, Mishi from Blueberry we have a bond outside of secondlife which alot of people think is such a strange mixture, cause she is like the nicest sweetest person ever and everyone looks at me as the bad guy but, we mix so well. Even though we are very different we are very both real and I am glad God placed us in each other lives. I have learned so much from her that has formed me into a better person today. Vo from SEUL is my good good sis, Sanya from Vive Nine is also my sister who i love dearly, always looked up to her so it’s nice to be like yes i work with Sanya or aside her, and she's dope. Torei from Betrayal is my child, so I dont know if he counts but his store is something to look out for and we’re very close. Other then that i have cool friends that i know and respect, Such as Beusy, Ambush, Reveal, Foxy, DOUX, Represent, MOON, Kraftworks, MaiB, Wonton, and a few more. I can go on for days, and ofcourse ALL of my kids stores! 28LA, Nastygirls, WolvesByNature, Betrayal, Majesty, REIGN, PinkAcid, Bluprint, Björn, Fatal, Love, Etc.

J: You clearly have a handful of people, if not more, and that obviously comes with the public figure status – so does enemies, do you feel that people you were once friends with try to tarnish your name, and legacy?

D: Yes chile.....yes, but I just like to look at their lives now, and then look at mines and remember why God is so great *giggles*.

J: *laughs*, Well, another thing is that people often times associate your name with drama, why do you think that is?

D: I came here very open hearted, open minded, and very gullible to the SecondLife scene. On the urban side, people can be very ignorant. I never woke up and decided to come at or start with anyone, any altercation I ever been placed or involved in I have always been on the defensive defending myself, fortunately enough for me, I have a very loud bark and a very painful bite. I am war ready always have and always will be thats just in my nature, I wish that people can just get to know me beforehand instead of passing judgement on me. I love to LOVE and anyone who knows me will tell you that i am wayyy too nice but what the public use to see was always me lashing out in defensive, the only thing I am guilty of is not being able to walk away when drama is brought to my door, I always answered the door, why not? I don't bother anyone, I sit with my family, and work on my clothing there should be no reason anyone wants to pick with me call me g*ys, f*gs, and all sorts of disgusting things, and then cry when I strike them back. I give you what you give me times three.

J: That’s a good way to describe things, obviously something will happen to you if you mess with or do something to someone, that’s just how things work sometimes – sometimes however, problems can be solved with a simple apology or talk. Do you regret any of the things that you’ve done on the grid.. or that the grid has seen?

D: Yes, I regret caring about what everyone thinks of me, I also regret not making my ass clap in those sex tapes *blows kiss at the camera*.

J: *screams* Well, I wasn’t expecting that.. – when there is drama, there is also pet peeves.. what would you say is your BIGGEST pet peeve?

D: Trolls, people who sit online all day when their only agenda is to talk about other people to take away from the fact that they’re not happy, it’s so sad.. like people will literally sit down all day and discuss someone who never everrrr thinks about them, its mind boggling. Like, get a job and a hobby. Putting someone down will NOT rid your problems, when you get off the computer.

J: Trolls can always be a little annoying, just take them with a grain of salt – however in your position it could be a little bit different given that you have a title to uphold, let’s end this interview on a good note, if you could improve the grid in any way, how would you?

D: More black successful businesses. More urban designers in these big events. To give everyone a chance, so many people come to the urban side steal ideas, take it into these big events, and release them. Meanwhile, the original designer doesnt get any invitation to any of those events.. It needs to change and I will change that. To the creators who are just starting, never stop trying even when it seems like theres no future for your store or business. Keep it going, you will get recognition from the right crowd, and what you think may be the right crowd may not always be the right ones. Dont be discourage by events or sales. keep striving and be original because it will get you a long way.

J: Thank you soooooo much for having tea time with me Dreem, and I’m so glad you could give us insight on the different topics we discussed within this interview. I can’t wait to see you again! Any final statements?

D: Thank you for having me, it was my pleasure – anddddd just wait til’ you see what’s coming from Sabotage, and New Regime *smiles*.

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Harry Styles publicity

Omg! I am sick and tired of fans complaining about Harry's lack of publicity, CameronCrowe taking advantage of Harry for his own publicity, Harry's management not thanking fans enough or even worse, that fans would have supported him more if he ended babygate. What is wrong with people and this is why 1D fans are often a joke and branded as young teenage girls who are overly emotional and project images of what the boys should be doing and their role in it. You should be embarrassed and I am embarrassed for you and as a fan. Harry can't win: 1). He does Rolling Stone which he was obviously excited about but most claim bullshit, and then Cameron does RS's podcast which I am sure Harry knew about and was happy about because it is more publicity for his record yet fans complain about Cameron and think Cameron is using him for publicity when Cameron is a name in his own right and doesn't need anyone to help his own career/name... silly people. And Harry even plays off the article in the promo for the next gig with James Corden. 2). Harry is doing an ENTIRE week on Late Late. He is hitting the biggest how out there! This is huge! I knew he wasn't going to short change James, no way and just to SNL with Jimmy. He has an album to promote but since people can't hear it yet, that is hard to do. This is very rigid and smart. He doesn't get burned out running all over the place and tiring out his voice talking all day and singing. They are going for the shows that have maximum viewing and credibility. No one HS ever done an entire week! Is he the musical guest for an entire week. Maybe two songs a show so we hear the entire album. How awesome is that of Ben and James... I mean really. You can't get more supportive than that. It has NEVER been done before. So all the haters of Ben need to stop. So in one morning I have seen Harry twice in two big platforms, both promoted on Twitter.... so give it a rest. This is not about what 1D fans, Larries, Harries or any of the other subgroups want. This is what Harry wants for his solo career. And who cares if you don't like the approach. He has said it is his favorite album and if you like it great, and if you don't c'est la vie. He is proud of it and wants the world (not just 1D fans) to hear it and hopefully decide they like and maybe even enough to buy a song or the whole album. 1D fans are only a small drop of the fan base Columbia and the Azoffs are looking for. And I suspect they gave Harry a big say in how and where he wanted his publicity. It is unreasonable to expect him to do so as much as when 1D did an album... that PR was shared among 5 of them (well at least 4 of them, as Zayn never really spoke up much after the first album anyway)...and we know Syco overburdened them and burned them out. I am sure that they are making sure that doesn't happen. Also, Harry is very self-effacing. I would be hesitant to promote the song or the album and appearances too much in case people don't like it... it becomes too in your face asking for support, buy my product, etc. everyone has said he is nervous about this album. So let him dial it back a little... as James Corden says, "put your toe in the water and it people embrace it" and make it theirs" that is true success versus jumping in and pushing it on people. So I hope everyone just chills and let's things play out... and for those who expected Harry to end babygate... really??? What if that baby really is Louis???? ( I know that he could grown up and still be Louis's child according to Louis and some of you would never believe that) but if he is Louis, how could Harry possibly end it?? You are asking the impossible. I really hope fans stop their whining and either buy/stream the music because they like it not because it is expected or something is expected in return. I think that is all Harry wants as well, for you to support him IF you like the music. Not because you were a 1D fan.... sigh.... Okay, enough of this rant... it's just Tumbler the last 24 hours he been hard to digest because of all the negative posts about what Harry and his team SHOULD be doing instead of what they are doing as if you all are the experts. Clearly the Azoffs didn't get were they were by being stupid with their talent... give it a chance, PLEASE.