#but it's secondhand non-information at this point

[askshivanulegacy]

OP straddles the line between true and untrue, so the link that someone else had to provide for them is the important thing to read here:

The post notes along the way that pacemakers cannot be donated to humans, but that's not quite accurate. While pacemakers are considered single-use devices that should not be implanted in a second person in the U.S., used pacemakers are sometimes shipped overseas to lower and moderate-income nations. The Denver Post reported in 2010 that veterinarians were finding that donations of devices abroad were reducing the supply available for pets in the U.S. A program hosted at the University of Michigan’s Frankel Cardiovascular Center sources pacemakers from funeral homes and is leading a clinical trial that reuses the devices after a patient’s death. The My Heart Your Heart Program’s randomized trial has 215 patients enrolled worldwide, and the program has also sent reconditioned pacemakers to “under-resourced countries for life-threatening cases in which there was no alternative,” said Noah Fromson, a spokesperson for U-M Health. Whether donated for patients overseas or animals, the Funeral Consumers Alliance notes that pacemaker donations can usually be coordinated with a funeral home.

It's arguably more important to donate your used pacemakers to actual people, but you have the choice. Either choice is a huge benefit and enormously important to wherever the used device ends up. Definitely worth knowing that your devices can still save lives once you're finished with them.

The article also provides useful links, which enable you to actually act on this information ... unlike OP.

[i-still-mask-because]

So I was under the impression that we are all still masking cos we care about other people and don't want to get them (especially disabled / immunocompromised / etc) sick from our germs? But I was told masks don't protect the wearer from the virus? Or do they? The info kept changing over the last 2 years so I lost track.. I also heard it was ok to not wear a mask in open outdoor places cos of the aerial nature of the virus (allegedly the particles from our breath are so diluted(?) in the air that it doesn't matter(?)), is that still true? Thanks for your time

Hello! Thank you for reaching out to ask this! It's understandable if it's confusing because of the inconsistency of information that's been told to us by higher ups these past few years. I'll try to answer these chronologically and thoroughly:

Do masks protect the wearer from covid-19?

Yes, if worn correctly, masks are supposed to protect you, the wearer, and the people around you from catching anything you may have. The quality of the mask definitely is a big factor in this too. I went in depth about mask qualities in this ask.

Is it true that you don't have to worry about catching covid-19 outdoors?

No, this is because covid-19 is an airborne virus, and its variants are evolving to be more contagious. While an outdoor environment may provide more circulation to minimize the odds of catching covid-19, that doesn't mean it's 100% impossible to catch it outdoors, especially if you're in a crowded environment like a concert or protest. The likeliness of you not catching covid outdoors is moreso in situations where you're far away from other people. A comparison can be how you can still get secondhand smoke from someone outdoors, even if you're not that physically close to them; the harmful aerosols can still enter your body if you inhale them. Alternatively, the harmful aerosols can still linger in the air for hours even if the person smoking is no longer present.

To put this into perspective: at the time of me writing this, I'm taking an in-person summer course, and during my lunch break I choose to isolate myself somewhere I feel like there's less of a chance of me catching covid, such as sitting by myself in a nearby park as far away from other people as possible. I do this especially because every day 99% of the people I see are not masking anymore, so I treat everyone as though they have covid because I do not know where they've been & who they've interacted with.

Bottom line, masking outdoors is still necessary because covid's variants are getting better at being infectious & can still linger in the air (like the secondhand smoke example), and there's no way to know whether or not who you bump into outdoors may have covid or not, unless they explicitly told you. Either way, I don't see a point in risking it.

Here's a podcast episode from the Death Panel that goes into the misconception that covid-19 is non-transmissible outdoors. And this is a link to the transcript for that episode.

I hope this helped!

[thebroccolination]

Today, I saw a tweet by a Thai Krist fan named June in which she thanked interfans for supporting Krist in spite of the language barrier and all the misinformation that surrounds him. June has been fan of Krist for a long time, and she's even shared a bunch of firsthand accounts in English of her experiences with Krist from early in his career. (They're very cute.)

Dear all inter fans who love Krist, thanks for loving him although you might not be able to clearly understand what he said or fully convey your feelings to him due to the language barrier. Although with this big barrier, you are still with him, don't give up on him, don't believe in any fake rumors and be his strength. Thanks so much 💕💕 –@qu_upqn_np

A minor incident prompted her to tweet this out, but because of the language barrier, I didn't fully follow it. From what I understand (and please don't cite me as a source if you carry this information forward) a fan tweeted a customer complaint to Krist directly about a peeling graphic on a concert T-shirt she bought. Krist replied to her and asked her to write to the official merch account, presumably because neither he nor The General Public can help her with her problem and that kind of thing can make the quality of his merch look shoddy. According to a few Thai fans, some interfans used the auto-translate feature on his tweet, decided that the auto-translated English looked rude, and started attacking him for being rude to his fan. It got to the point where Thai fans and fan translators had to explain that he was, in fact, very polite to her. He used "khab" and "phi" to refer to her, but English doesn't use those parts of speech, so auto-translate omitted them.

This was before my fellow interfan friend messaged me to ask why she was seeing interfans say that Boun's fans were calling him a drunkard (???).

A couple of days ago, Boun happily took a selfie with an interfan after an event where he drank a bit, and now this is somehow something people want to crucify him for because fan benefits and selfie rules etc. etc. etc. (There's context to this but it's frankly such a non-issue I'm astonished we're even talking about it.) One person did call Boun a drunkard, but they're an anti account (I know, even Boun has antis, the world's surprises never cease). The only other references to drinking were interfans saying, "He was just drunk and happy (and that's why he was happy to take the selfie)."

The way nuanced information is often squished into bite-sized pieces is both wild and worrying.

And it must be maddening for Thai fans to share a space with people who click auto-translate on Thai tweets, draw completely off-the-mark conclusions from a rough approximation or completely false mistranslation of what was actually said, and then use that as justification to attack the actors they love in foreign languages. There's a rampant Attack First, Ask Questions Never culture online these days, and we've got to collectively agree to chill before throwing on-fire furniture at each other.

These are both obviously ridiculous incidents, but they both garnered a lot of conversation among Thai fans.

I figured I'd share them here because I think Tumblr sometimes gets secondhand information from Twitter, and I wanted to demonstrate how some of this stuff gets misinterpreted before it even leaves the platform. It's interesting to investigate how these things happen, and hopefully it helps prevent similar misunderstandings from happening in the future.

(Also, for what it's worth, I have a concert shirt made by Krist's fan club and it's very comfy and has survived numerous washes completely intact.)

[captain-hawks]

Dee my beloved!! I missed you so very much these past couple of weeks! I have post notifications for you turned on so every time I got a lil notification from you I would be like c: when I saw your url and then :c bc I was usually too distracted/busy to come on here esp bc I need a laptop for the level of word vomit I usually conjure up for your precious thoughts and words.

I hope you're feeling better, so sorry to hear you were sick. I spent 20 hours making over 2 gallons of noodle soup and all its accoutrement for my bf's surprise bday party so I'm virtually sharing it with you. It's a bun rieu with plenty of Dungeness crab topped with lots of fresh veggie and herbs and homemade crab meatballs and herby fish paste and lil porky meatballs.

Did you do anything fun over labor day/are you prepping for fall in any way? I'm switching out my candlessss even though it is still a hellscape where I am and will feel like living on the surface of the sun until November.

I missed your AMA so can I ask now? What's the most embarassing thing that's happened to you in recent memory? Bc I flew home for a wedding and although it was for the son of beloved family friends (the son i also consider a brother figure), some people should not get schwasty in public bc the father of the groom came over loudly proclaim/lament that he wished *i* was becoming his daughter in law instead. At his son's wedding to a very sweet lady I adore. Five separate times. With people all around. I wanted to return 2 the sea. I wanted to be left alone in a corner with the 6 ebooks I had downloaded. I literally hid in a restroom for 75 minutes and risked everybody thinking I had The Shits just so I could get some peace to myself.

Anyways, before I go I am going to leave you with some of the final product of the cake I was telling you about that I was testing different components for. I really wish I could actually share with y'all instead of just telling you and cate about it in chats but until wonkavision is invented I'll pretend sending a pic is the same thing. I settled on double vanilla brown butter cake/pickled cayenne strawberry compote/yuzu and lemon curd liquid cheesecake/graham milk crumb. The layers didn't come out as cleanly as I'd hoped but I might try another one with white and yellow peaches (macerated? Cooked into a jam or Japanese style syrup?) and a Mango curd to squeeze every last bit of summer fruit season out.

If kita-non is around and for some reason bothers to read my inane prattle can i pls share a slice with u too. The couple times I got to skim your thoughts these past few weeks I was spending time offline I wanted to give your brain a big ole squeeze. Just lookin' at the pair of you with hearts in my eyes like look at u guys go torturing us with sweet sweet kita thoughts. We can pretend he supplied the fruits used in the cake ❤

I'M SO HAPPY YOU'RE BACK 😭🫶!!!!!

i was still feeling quite cruddy over labour day weekend, but i DID go hunt down the CVS puffer jacket snoopy plushie....a personal accomplishment 😂 (he was hard to find!). also i’m planning to bust out my giant totes of halloween decorations this weekend!!! my fall candles are staring at me adoringly from the closet ready to take over.

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR MISFORTUNE????? i cannot believe. i, too, would have called the bathroom my new home to never be perceived again. (has anyone informed sober!dad of his big drunk mouth????)

so this is secondhand embarrassment until i come up with a better story BUT i was on a zoom meeting at work today, and a man was pitching software to my boss & i. said man realized 40 minutes in that the software actually isn’t even available in my geographical region and thus he had completely wasted our time. i watched his soul leave his body through the screen. the most awkward goodbye followed.

also if i magically appear in your pocket at some point like a tiny creature with its hands out begging for food, it’s because every time you describe something you’ve made, i yearn like no tomorrow. that soup sounds divine?? AND THE CAKE!!!!! THE CAKE!!!!!!!! it’s beautiful. it puts other cake to shame. i will dream of this cake. it will haunt me.

[bigskydreaming]

Last post on this -

I genuinely would like people who take the opposite POV on this to just think about it, and their own personal answers to this question, which I am not presuming to know. I'm just presenting the question:

Keeping in mind that my opinion on incest is shaped not JUST by the fact that I'm a survivor and aware of its impact on me, but also by how its shaped my entire life, the years I've spent trying to work my mind around why it happened, how it impacted me, how it affected my views of the world, the years of study I've put into the phenomenon of incest and its impact, absorbing all kinds of opinions and input about it while trying to make sense of its place in my life and history.....keeping in mind that my views on incest and even its impact on me were NOT always consistent or linear and there have been periods of my life where I held different opinions on it, and some points where I even internalized a lot of the same things people say in fandom to talk about how harmless it is or how its no big deal and thus am actually QUITE familiar with those POVs and the reasons and arguments for thinking those things -

How many people who kneejerk dismiss my reactions to incest as overwrought, too skewed by personal bias, etc.....can honestly say they are as informed on the subject? I'm not even talking about whether or not any individuals reading this are survivors themselves - as I just acknowledged, I'm fully aware that incest survivors can disagree on a lot of this as I myself have held to different opinions on it at prior points in my life so please don't go there -

I'm simply asking you to ask YOURSELVES.....if you're not a survivor yourself, if your knowledge of incest and its possible impact is secondhand or hearsay....

Can you genuinely, in all honesty, say that you've put as much time and contemplation in actively seeking out additional information, counter-arguments, and dissenting opinions to weigh all sides of this before making up your own mind and only THEN coming to the conclusion that its actually no big deal?

Because that is the part that bothers me the most - how often I see survivors dismissed by people who are citing points of view that are EASILY rebutted by even just relatively basic information out there about WHY incest is deemed so harmful, not because of interbreeding or genetics but through the lens of family dynamics and societal impact upon survivors.

I know I've made post after post over the years refuting various pro (or 'neutral') incest talking points or detailing just why its so much more insidious and harmful than a lot of people deem it to be after just a cursory look at a few biased opinions in favor of it.....

And pretty much none of them have ever been engaged with.

And I know I've never seen posts actually TALKING about incest and its impact on people and families getting any kind of traction in fandom circulation.

So I'm genuinely asking, because if people who argue on behalf of it or who dismiss it as no big deal are basing that on having put time and effort into INFORMING themselves on the topic before drawing their own conclusions as to its harmlessness....

They're not basing that on conversations happening in any fandom spaces I've ever seen draw much attention. So they'd have to either have personal knowledge themselves (and while I make no attempt to presume the survivor status of any individual, I will NOT pretend that the entirety of the pro-incest fandom camps so abundant on tumblr and Ao3 are made up entirely of survivors, that's a completely different thing than asking people to be mindful of the possibility a single individual might be speaking from personal knowledge), or they'd have to be seeking out informed stances on the possible harm of incest through non-fandom spaces before deciding that yeah, actually incest is no big deal.

And I'm sorry, but I do not see that latter possibility as all that likely, based on ANY fandom experience I have when it comes to controversial topics and lived experiences.

So.....if there are a lot of people out there whose insistence that incest is no big deal is rooted entirely in just having internalized fandom opinions in DEFENSE of it or its lack of capacity to do harm....

I would like to ask people to reflect on that, and the implications.

If your own stance on incest isn't based on personal experiences or having sought out or informed yourselves on BOTH arguments in defense of it and in CRITICISM of it.....

Maaaaaaaybe skip the condescending takes about whether people who cite it as a bad thing that does harm have done THEIR due diligence before deciding that yes, it actually IS harmful and SHOULD be spoken out against?

Something to think about, is all I'm saying.

[marleybosswitch]

It had been twelve hours of non-stop begging, pleading and crying, but yet the woman in charge of the shelter had refused to budge. She’d stood in front of Marley, arms folded and lips pursed and had informed her that there was no way that not only could she not allow Bucket to stay after the dog’s presence in the shelter had been revealed, but nor could Marley remain there either.

As she stuffed her clothes haphazardly into a duffel bag, Bucket sat on the floor, head cocked as he let out a low whine before eventually padding forward and pushing his head against her hand. A sob caught in her throat as she turned, just enough to give him a quick scratch behind the ears. Nothing like her usual long, affectionate pets. After muttering a quick, “not now, boy.” to him, she turned back to the task at hand, trying her hardest not to feel too guilty about the betrayed look he was giving her, as if he might be wondering if his owner was blaming him for the situation that they were now both in.

It hadn’t really been Bucket’s fault. He was a good dog, the best if anyone else was to ask Marley. But a fight had broken out down the hallway between two women and the sound of smashing glass had startled the normally docile hound, prompting him to bark loudly in a manner that couldn’t be disguised as anything else. Soon, Marley had been reported and had been given less than a day to gather her belongings and her dog, before the two of them were both turfed out onto the street. It seemed like a counterproductive message for a women’s shelter to send out but, as they had pointed out, Marley had been the first one to betray their trust by breaking the rules. She knew that, but there had also been no way in hell she would ever have willingly given up Bucket, not when he needed her.

Quite ironically, that’s what she was being forced to do now as she looped his leash around her wrist and shouldered her bag. The strap, heavy with clothes, dog toys, a bowl and some of her own measly possessions like the old, sorry-looking Disney teddies her dad had bought her for birthdays gone by, cut into her shoulder, biting harshly into the material of her secondhand winter coat, a steal she’d been proud of when she’d found it after dragging Sephy thrifting one day. Her attempt at trying to adjust it so it sat comfortably was interrupted by a loud hammering on her door that caused her to flinch and Bucket to drop back on his haunches with a low growl. 

“Five minutes, Bostwick!” a firm voice ran through the door.

After a quick look around the tiny little room that she’d come to call home over the last few years, she took no satisfaction in trying to heave a dramatic sigh to make the situation more movie-like, more melancholy. As much as Marley tried to find the funny side of all situations, this time, she just felt sad.

“Come on, boy,” she encouraged Bucket, tugging him out of the room.

A quick subway ride later found them pushing into the warmth of A Novel Idea, the only place that Marley could think to go right now. Diego and Poppy were still on tour, the last thing Sephy needed right now was Marley to dump a dog on her and terrorise the living daylights out of Grantaire, and, quite honestly, Marley wasn’t sure she had any other options than that. Still unsure what she was going to do with her own damn self other than scout around for some cheap hotels until she got something more permanent, she knew she had to sort out something for Bucket first.

Feeling him tug on her leash, she looked up to see her dog straining to run in the direction of Harlow. Her heart gave a sad, little leap upon seeing the other man. Ever since meeting him and getting to know him, she’d lived in a poorly-constructed fantasy world where Harlow looked her way and saw her as someone he’d have liked to be his daughter in another life. She knew he already had one because he’d mentioned her a few times, and Marley had been violently jealous of this faceless girl she’d never met who had a dad that spoke of her so proudly. She wasn’t sure if her own dad told many people about her anymore.

“Hi,” she greeted Harlow, a little tiredly, certainly far more subdued than her usual exuberant greetings which were usually accompanied by her comical attempts at a “yeehaw!” or a fake hat tip. She knew she looked different as well. No signature eyeliner, eyes red-rimmed and watery instead, and her hair piled onto the top of her head in a messy bun. But not in the cute “my mom just sold me to One Direction” way.

Glancing around the semi-empty store, she turned back to Harlow.

“Is Billy here?” she asked, wondering if even Simon was around. She felt like perhaps either man would be kind enough to take Bucket off her hands until she could find a better living situation for them both, even if the thought tore up her insides.

[patentedchronicles]

Non-Fiction TBR 2025 Part 1/?

I'm going to work through these slowly throughout the whole year (because what's the point of speedrunning nonfic lol? You aren't going to retain anything...). In order of what I am most interested in, sort of.

The Information - James Gleick

I skimmed through the ebook and realized this was most definitely something I'd want to keep physically and annotate, so I managed to find it secondhand. It's essentially the history (+science) of how the technology we use to share information has changed throughout the years, starting all the way from the first dictionaries and ending where we are now. Basically the more I study for my CS degree, the more computers just seem like witchcraft to me and I just cannot comprehend how we got here. Anything that helps me understand the "CS lore" is going straight into my tbr...

John Singer Sargent - Elaine Kilmuray and Richard Ormond

My favourite painter Of All Time. Also thrifted (my best find yet). I started it, and I am lovingggg it. It has so many pictures (which... its about paintings.. so duh). Anyways so far it's just a history of the artists life, I'm veryyy excited for the sections analysing the paintings themselves.

Femina, A new history of the middle ages, through the women written out of it - Janina Ramirez

Sooo interested in the subject matter. tldr the author makes a case that things were not "as backwards" as was presumed in the middle ages, though she is not trying to claim whether things were better or worse for women back then. Rather, she's just giving the women of that time a voice.

The Impressionists at First Hand - Bernard Denvir

An art history book that explores the progression of impressionism by centering the artists themselves. Also has a lot of pictures :)

Votes for Women, the Virago Book of Suffragettes - Joyce Marlow

Also a thrift shop find. An anthology of letters, journal extracts, news clippings etc that details the history of the women's suffrage movement via the voices of the women themselves. Tbh not a subject matter I am well versed in (it's not directly relavant history to where I'm from lol) so I'm pretty excited to read through it.

...To Be Honest I have more I want to read but I'm trying hard to be conscious with I consume, ie actually reading everything I buy, so we'll see. Ramadan is coming up so i do want to read a book pertaining to islamic history but we'll see. Maybe I'll check local libraries to see what they've got (their CS collections were pretty dry ngl). Also I am primarily a fiction reader don't be fooled... These are gonna take me forever to finish because I do like to make notes while I read them ToT...

[syscourse-dialogue]

I've been outside the plural community for about a decade (2013 was the last time we really interacted), and it seems a lot has changed, especially in terms of the discourse and the terminology. It's a bit confusing, considering we're trying to reconnect with others, and don't really understand the current ideological divides.

For context, we are a traumagenic system that split in childhood. We have no formal DiD diagnosis, as we have an extreme distrust of therapists due to inpatient experiences, but we have a PTSD diagnosis, along with a host of others, so the trauma is real. Our first alter was a result of trauma, holding onto the trauma while I dissociated/depersonalized (I would still see what was happening/remember it, but suffered emotional amnesia as my headmate held the emotions, more or less).

So, in that way, we would fall under the "traumagenics only" stuff, right?

But I have another headmate, who I made during the tulpa/thoughtform/whatever it is called now that is least problematic to you craze of the 2010s. They're less a "tulpa" now so much as another alter in our head's framework of functionality. Apparently, this means we're a "mixed-origin system", and therefor, "endogenic"? And this is the subject of discourse?

We're really confused because as far as we remember that wasn't a debate back in the day. All the discourse was with people outside the community (non-DiDers and non-Plurals of any sort) more or less looking for lolcows. But now it seems traumagenic systems are warring with endogenic, debating the scientific validity of it? Why? And where does that leave me, someone who is traumagenic and whose trauma is important for why we are a system, but also has deliberately crafted mindforms that aren't trauma origined, in this debate?

It just sounds like a lot of nuance is lost when we do this weird trauma/endogenic split, idk. I feel like both sides don't really understand what qualifies a "disorder", or what "trauma" even means sometimes. Just kind of rambling at this point, but had to get my opinion out as an oldhead who has been disconnected from the community and only recently returned, only to find it on fire.

I believe if I remember correctly, around the time you stopped interacting with the community was around the time those terms were introduced. I didn't join the community until the past few years so I have no memory of that time in the community just what I've heard secondhand so if someone would like to add information on the changes that would be great.

Yes, the current state of syscourse has made it very difficult to find the part of the community one feels they truly belong with. I've known many who struggle with this, but there are shared spaces that will be accepting of both origins, some of which are CDD oriented, that may be beneficial. The first to come to mind is the discord server called CDD Gardens. But for tumblr, keep in mind tags that contain the word system are more likely to be frequented by anti-endos, and those that contain the word plural are more likely to be frequented by pro-endos. This is not a solid rule or accepted by everyone but it's generally true from what I've seen.

So the basics of syscourse now are anti-endos who generally think that endogenics either are faking or should be in separate communities from traumagenics or shouldn't be allowed to use the same terms. While pro-endos generally see endogenic experiences as valid and shared spaces as beneficial. There are also endo neurals and those who don't align themselves with syscourse stances that tend to be more nuanced in their opinions.

This debate is at the very basics about what research can support endogenic experiences and whether or not the comparisons between endogenic and traumagenic experiences are harming how CDDs are viewed.

We very much try to stay unbiased on this blog but I'm sure others can give a more thorough explanation in reblogs and feel free to send more asks to clarify or our DMs are open if you are comfortable with that. I hope this was in some way helpful.

[reflectivelecturer]

What's wrong with 'should'

This USyd resource addresses modality ...

Objective language

Although academic writing usually requires you to be objective and impersonal (not mentioning personal feelings), often you may still have to present your opinion. For example, you may need to:

interpret findings

evaluate a theory

develop an argument

critique the work of others.

To express your point of view and still write in an objective style, you can use the following strategies.

More information around in the sentence to emphasise things and ideas, instead of people and feelings. For example, instead of writing ‘I believe the model is valid, based on these findings’, write ‘These findings indicate that the model is valid’.

Avoid evaluative words that are based on non-technical judgements and feelings. For example, use ‘valid’ or ‘did not demonstrate’ instead of ‘amazing’ or ‘disappointment’.

Avoid intense or emotional evaluative language. For example, instead of writing ‘Parents who smoke are obviously abusing their children’, write ‘Secondhand smoke has some harmful effects on children’s health’.

Use modality to show caution about your views, or to allow room for others to disagree. For example, instead of writing ‘I think secondhand smoke causes cancer’, write ‘There is evidence to support the possibility that secondhand smoke increases the risk of cancer’.

Find authoritative sources, such as authors, researchers and theorists in books or articles, who support your point of view, and refer to them in your writing. For example, instead of writing ‘Language is, in my view, clearly something social’, write ‘As Halliday (1973) argues, language is intrinsically soc

The USyd vocabulary for essays document says 'it is often preferable to use medium modality words (e.g. “often” instead of “always”; “may” instead of “must”) ie avoid 'should' ...

[fandomobscura]

Okay I'm bout to rant but first! Background information so basically I don't get along with my extended family but my best friend loves them on account of her family is full of people who are worse. My father (dead) was the golden child. My mother (alive) is a very logical, non-sentimental sort of person who brooks no fools. It has always been considered that my sister is just like our father and I'm just like our mother (untrue because that's not how things work)(the genetics did get split down the middle tho)

So! We've been going through a friend breakup (me and sister and bestie) and bestie was giving the family The Tea because they love to shoot the breeze with each other and bestie happened to mention how this ex friend really used my sister and abused her good graces and my grandmother, in her Very Southern sort of way, goes, she's just like her father so tenderhearted which. I hate that phrasing for reasons I will not examine. But also that's not the point the point is that this friend stomped on boundaries and when my sister got tired of being used as a free therapist, turned on her and the rest of us.

Anyway I feel like that statement is vaguely derogatory toward both my mother and me because we have a reputation for not putting up with stupidity (despite the fact that my sister has an even lower tolerance) in contrast with my father who can do no wrong even before he died and was apparently a modern saint who let people walk all over him (also not true).

Idk. It sounds incoherent when I write it out but if you were there you'd understand the extent of their Dead Dad Worship and their Obscura Is A Jerk Conviction. And I can't rant about this to my sister because she doesn't like when I rail against them plus I got this secondhand from bestie, I can't rant about this to bestie because she loves my family, and I can't rant about it to my mother because she was vaguely insulted in the whole thing. And I'm too broke for therapy the end

[fitjourneydaily]

Taking Charge of Your Lung Health: A Guide to Smoking Cessation and Avoiding Secondhand Smoke

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[kinglyisms-archived]

They are holding a slight grudge against Wyatt for calling them short. It's not stopping them from using Starlight as a spot to listen to gossip and secondhand Information about Abarith since they're working with a mostly blank slate aside from 'Izumi has a romantic endeavor around here' and 'There's a God, who like all God's is unimaginably bored and fickle all the time.'

It does mean that they're taking up bar space and only ordering non-alcoholic drinks (or versions of them) and water ( they already asked for tea and got a weird look. ) They are pointedly staring at the back of his head watching him interact with patrons in between reading pages of a book---who even brings a book to a bar?, you might ask.

Lyric. Lyric does. It prevents people from talking to them too easily, because why would they ever want to be social at a bar? What kind of silly thought is that?

@lunarscaled

   Wyatt doesn’t really care how people spend their time at the bar. The entire point of Starlight is to do what the fuck you want on your level of drunk or sober. He has plenty of people that come just to hang out, others who come to have sex and some who come to get wasted. Casimir, for example, was a frequent floater. He comes in, orders a drink, and drinks that drink slowly the entire time he mingles around trying to pick someone up to fuck them. And that doesn’t bother Wyatt anymore than someone reading a book at his bar. 

   Gossip is common place at Starlight, if you want to learn something it’s your best source to do that. The second best source is Casimir. Wyatt’s come to learn he can pick up anything he wants to know either while bartending or while chatting with Casimir. Despite his rather put-off demeanor, he does enjoy talking to certain people. The incubus is one of them, and Casimir is eager to chat back if given an opening. And while working–Wyatt’s usually got a shot or two in him which greatly loosens his tongue.  

   He makes his way back around the counter over toward the freeloader and Casimir, who had given up chatting for the night it seemed. His head on top of his arms at the bar and a soft sigh leaving him. Wyatt grabs a shot glass and places it down in front of him, filling it with a soft blue liquid and adding a bit of flare to it. It sparks like a set of stars and he shoves it toward the man. “Here. Drink more. That one’s free.”

   “I really shouldn’t drink more. I do have to work tomorrow.” Despite his words he picks the shot glass up, throws it back and then sets it down on the counter. Wyatt snatched it up and placed it down in the bucket to be washed. “Had an off night, or your customers were just boring. I mean one of them is sitting here reading a book. How do you read in the middle of a bar?” 

   “I don’t give a shit what people do here.” He shrugs. “As long as you buy a drink at least. Alcoholic or not. I’ll get you a glass of water before you walk home. And you better drink all of it, Casimir.” He taps the bar and switches his gaze to said book read. “We’re closing soon. Finish up.”

[cryptotheism]

here this explains it better than my last anon https://princessnijireiki.tumblr.com/post/685619095309303808/what-happened-w-the-staff-wrt-scortched-earth

Okay let's break this down this posts and its claims. I'm gonna preface this by saying that I'm only going off what this post is providing, and interpreting it personally. None of this is meant to be some sort of objective fact.

1) being a fan of Harry Potter does not make someone a TERF.

2) Ship art does not make someone a TERF. This is irrelevant information. Enjoying an anime, even a questionable one, does not make someone a TERF.

3) Accusations of ship art with preschoolers is a HUGE accusation, backed up with no links, no evidence. The onus of proof is on the accuser, and I think it's reasonable for me to not go scouring this staff members blog to confirm or deny a single users unsupported claims of problematic ship art that has nothing to do with the core accusation of terfdom.

1) entirely secondhand hearsay. One person claiming to see something is not evidence. Random people can claim whatever they want.

2) who fucking cares if staff engages in fandom circles. That's not relevant to any of the accusations.

Again. Nothing to do with terfdom. So far this entire argument hinges on the claim that this staff member liking Harry Potter is conclusive proof that they're a TERF, which it is not. Is liking Harry Potter cringe? Yes absolutely. Does it mean you're a TERF? No.

Tumblr has a small moderation team. As someone who has personally had my blog banned and then subsequently gone through the appeals process, it is clearly an imperfect system that begets slow responses and lackluster mass action. There are reasonable reasons that staff response on even infamous blogs could be lackluster, especially when compared to direct and personal accusations of interacting with pedophilic material.

As a transfem person who has personally been the target of bad-faith pedophilia accusations from actual neo-nazis in the past. I cannot stress how deeply and powerfully irresponsible it is to make an accusation like this without thorough sourcing.

TERFs are banned all the time. Y'all just don't keep up with TERF circles because you're reasonable people. The idea that staff doesn't ban TERFs is untrue.

The only actual data point this entire post has is "a staff member was possibly into Harry Potter, and then reacted dramatically when people implied they were a pedophile." And that is FAR from conclusive proof that someone is a TERF.

I am saying this as a transfem person who has actively been targeted by TERFs, this is conspiracy thought, and you're not actually helping trans people by harassing a staff member with unsourced claims about their potentially cringeworthy media choices. Because let me be crystal fucking clear here: yes liking Harry Potter is cringe. If I could turn every TERF on the planet into a non-terf who was overly-attatched to Harry Potter, I would do so in a fucking second. The two things are not comparable.

[heartsfromia]

third times the charm — l. chan

pairing: non-idol! chan x f!reader

word count: 2,485

genre: fluff, crack-ish

warnings: chan gives secondhand embarrassment

author's notes: this is the last for my oneshots pt. 1, and i'll be continuing w more, and a heads up that they'll be angst since yk gotta widen my range lol

It was as if the heavens had descended upon Chan the second he stepped into the café; the sight of you behind the counter, eyes trained on the porter filter as you pressed the espresso grinds before locking it in the espresso machine, focused on ensuring the contents of the caffeinated liquid were sufficient for the drink you were working on.

Normally he wouldn’t be fazed, it’s not like he’s never met a girl before. He just never met a girl as beautiful as you.

“Morning, how can I help you?” Even your voice was angelic. You were caught-off guard by Chan as he stood in front of you, not stating your order—as if he was caught in a daze. You blinked in confusion, before raising your hand and waving it over his face, “Hello?”

It worked, and he jumped, shaking his head slightly to return back to reality. He was totally not thinking about how you two would live in an apartment uptown, own a Siamese cat, and a Golden Retriever. “Oh, sorry… what did you say?”

You chuckled awkwardly, “What would you like to order?”

“Uhm, an iced Americano, and two caramel latte—” His eyes darted towards the name-tag by your collar. “—Y/N.”

You nodded, punching in his order, before asking, “Take out?”

“Yes, please.” It felt as if he couldn’t take his eyes off you as you informed him the total, and he hurriedly reached in his pocket and handing you a twenty. “You can keep the change.”

This is almost a ten dollar tip, you thought.

“And the order will be under what name?”

There was a momentary pause before he jumped, stammering, “Uh, Chan! Chan, under… Chan.”

“Okay, it'll be ready in a few minutes.” You quickly turned, not wanting to witness him as he awkwardly nods, mouth opening to respond but nothing coming out.

You weren’t going to lie, and act like you didn’t notice his staring—to say the least, you were used to it. Not in a all-too-vain way, but you were aware when guys found you attractive—their dazed looks would eventually lead them to asking for your number, and then you’d be disappointed because all of them expected you to cave and agree to their proposals to go on a date.

You hated that pattern.

Within this year alone, you’ve had two guys approach you—star-struck from meeting you, and asked you out on a date, with no intentions with getting to know you first. Sure, you knew dates were a place where people can get to know each other, but dates were also places that led to a relationship, and to be honest, you never wanted to jump right into one with just anyone. You loathed the idea of constantly going on dates, just to become someone’s girlfriend. What about being friends first?

Nonetheless, knowing this, you’d put those guys through a test, and if they don’t pass then mission: ghost them until they get the hint and leave you alone, is commenced.

You knew Chan would fall on that list of failures, so you didn’t pay him too much mind as you worked on his order.

“Have a great day,” you uttered, and Chan smiled, wishing the same for you before walking out of the café. A happy sigh escaped his lips—the sun was kissing the highest points of his face, a new feeling during this gloomy month, it seemed such a perfect day to meet such a perfect girl, he thought.

That is until he glanced at his wristwatch, remembering why he was at the café in the first place before his heart dropped to his feet, and they hurriedly carried him to the class he was already running late to.

Pushing the door to class, he peeked his head through the small gap, relieved to see the professor’s table empty and quickly rushed in, finding his seat between Seungkwan and Vernon—the former glaring at him for taking a long time to bring him his iced americano. “What took you so long?”

“I’m sorry, I’m sorry,” he apologized, placing the drinks in front of his friends. “Where’s the professor?”

“At the bathroom, you’re lucky,” Vernon chirped, thanking quietly for the drink. “How come it took you so long?”

“Well, besides getting your coffees, I had already woken up later than usual,” he complained, “there was also a line in the café—not that long, but I was already running late and you guys told me to go buy coffee, which added on to the fact I was running late, making me even more late—”

“Still, it doesn’t take more than fifteen minutes,” Seungkwan cut him off, causing Chan to glare at him.

Then he remembered you, a dazed smile appearing on his face. His thoughts became flooded by you, your pretty name, your pretty voice, your pretty face, your pretty everything. He honestly wouldn’t be surprised if you were an angel sent to make him fall in love with you.

“What’s with that face—oh my God, stop that, it’s actually creepy,” Seungkwan cringed, covering his eyes.

“Do you guys know Y/N? She’s the barista at Seventeen Café,” Chan asked, looking hopeful between his two friends.

“I know of her,” Seungkwan states, sipping his coffee. “Is that why you were taking so long? Busy drooling over her?”

“I wasn't drooling over—” Chan's attempt at defending himself were cut short when the professor returned from the bathroom, an look of exasperation written all over his face.

“My apologies class, I might have gotten food poisoning so the class is dismissed for the rest of today, see you next—” Poor man wasn't able to finish his sentence before hurling in the nearest trash can.

“Sucks for Professor Jang, but great for us… I guess,” Seungkwan says out loud, earning agreeable nods from both Chan and Vernon. “What do we do now?”

As the three approach the entrance of the college building, Chan's eyes immediately lock towards the small coffee shop right across from campus, the tense of shoulders noticeable by his two friends.

“We're not going—”

“Why not?” He couldn't help but whine, “I really want to get to know her, she seems really cool.”

“And you want us to be there to witness you failing completely?”

“Come on, Kwan, cut the guy some slack,” Vernon chimes in, “who knows? He might actually know how to flirt with a girl.”

“So, you come here often?” Your eyes glanced at Chan's two friends; one pursing his lips to hold in his laugh, as the other audibly smacks his forehead, the slap echoing throughout the fairly empty café interior.

You stood by their table, grasping onto the note and pen, eyes darting around the place before answering, “Well, considering I work here, yes.”

You could see the firsthand embarrassment register into him, his jaw stiffening before he rubs the back of his neck, “Yeah, that makes sense.”

“I'm so sorry,” one of his friends, the blonde one sipping an iced americano, interjected, “we'll have two slices of carrot cake and a tiramisu.”

“Sure, I'll be right back.” You really wished you weren't. After placing their orders on the table, you quickly ducked your head, seeking refuge in the back room for staff only, finding your senior and former trainer, Joshua, chewing on a chocolate chip cookie.

“Why do you look distressed?”

“There's another one of those guys out there.”

“Those guys?” Joshua repeated, eyebrows knitting together before they rose in realization. “Oh, the ones that are trying to get your number?”

You frowned, nodding and sunk to the floor beside your senior, extending your hand for half of his cookie. He split it in half, placing it on your hand and chuckled as you stuffed the entire thing in your mouth. “But this one, he's so awkward.”

“Aren't they all?”

“I mean, yeah—”

“Stop talking with your mouth full,” Joshua scolded, and you closed your mouth, chewing and swallowing the cookie crumbs. “Who is it, anyway? Do you know them?”

You shook your head. “His name is Chan.”

“Which Chan? Bang Chan, Lee Chan, Heo Chan?” You shrugged. Joshua then stood up, peeking his head through the door to catch a glimpse of who you were talking about. “The only Chan I see out there is Lee Chan—he's great, Y/N.”

“You say that to every guy.”

“Because they are,” Joshua emphasizes, “they're great until they don't pass your test.”

You only rolled your eyes, your mouth craving for more sugary goods.

“Have you put him through your test?” Joshua asked, returning to his initial position.

You shook your head, “It was too awkward already, and his friends are there, and he asked me do I come here often—here as in the place I work in, like of course I do, dude.”

Laughter echoed throughout the staff room, Joshua's head thrown back from hearing the little anecdote about your new admirer. Being your co-worker for the past year, he's the first guy you go to after one of those guys attempt to make a move on you. He's the first to advise to give them a chance, but also the first guy you gloat to when none of the guys pass your test.

“Go give it try, Y/N, what is he, the third guy now?” You nod. “You know what they say, third times the charm.”

“I don't think I have much luck with men, Josh,” you admitted, pouting bitterly. Your senior only rolled his eyes, shoving you gently towards the door. Begrudgingly, you stood up, headed towards the door, but turned, “If it doesn't work out, then you need to stop encouraging me to give these guys a chance.”

“Yeah, yeah, whatever.” You couldn't help but flip him off, eliciting more laughter. Your eyes darted to where Chan and his friends were sitting, their plates of cake already empty and you weren’t sure as to why they were still even here.

From where you stood, you cocked your head to the side, thinking, if Chan doesn’t say dumb things, he’s actually pretty cute. The way his eyes closed as he smiled widely, a smile you found contagious as one appeared on your face as well.

Obviously you hoped at least one guy would pass your test, it wasn’t that hard of a test—at least, you thought so.

“Hey, I wanted to pay for the cakes.” You looked up from where you stood behind the counter, Chan standing in front of you and it seemed he had a bit more confidence than he did when you first saw him earlier, and twenty minutes ago.

“Sure, let me just ring you up.”

“Y/N, was it?” You glanced up at him and nodded. “I was wondering if you wanted to join my friends and I, we’re planning to watch that new Avatar movie in theatres tonight.”

Oh, no asking for my number… That’s new.

But still, you had to put him to the test. “Oh, I already watched that movie with my boyfriend.” The thing is, you didn’t have a boyfriend. This was step one to your three step test, and every other guy before had messed up right here.

Chan looked visibly shocked, although you never knew that was more disappointed in himself—of course you’d already have a boyfriend. It was too good to be true.

“Oh… is it good?”

“Yeah, it’s good,” you responded, using the most basic adjectives because you did not, in fact, watch it. This wasn’t how it was supposed to go—Chan was supposed to look annoyed, angry at you for leading him on, despite the fact that you had a boyfriend. He wasn’t supposed to keep a normal person-to-person conversation with once he knew you weren’t available.

Then, what surprised you most was what came out of your mouth afterwards. “Is it okay if I come along?”

Chan's eyes widened, before he nodded, “Sure, is that okay with you?”

Next step. A dry chuckle escaped your lips as you asked snidely, “Don't you mean is it okay with my boyfriend?”

Chan looked genuinely in thought before shaking his head. “No, I mean, you're grown adult—I'm sure you're able to make your own decisions.”

Odd. You always found that guys were immediate to step back when you state that you had a boyfriend, rather than you were purely not interested. It seemed that a lot of guys respect the boyfriend rather than the girl they bothered.

“I mean, if I'm coming off a bit too forward with the invitation and it might stir trouble in your relationship, I also understand if you're not okay with it,” Chan added, and you nodded.

“No, it's fine, Chan.”

His eyes widened completely, shocked. “You know my name?”

You laughed, nodding, “I took your order, remember?”

Red began to dot his cheeks as he realized, rubbing the back of his neck. “Oh yeah…” Seeing his flustered self, you were glad he was still somewhat embarrassing.

“Can I ask, Chan?” Final step. He nodded, not trusting his mouth. “If I didn't mention my boyfriend, would you still want to hang out with me?”

Without hesitation, he nodded. “Of course—I mean, sure you're really pretty, but you seem really cool and I'd like to get to know you, you know? I don't know—” he shrugged, “—I never wanted to jump into a relationship, I'm sorry if it came off as if I was too forward, really, Y/N. But I do want us to get to know each other as friends, I feel like we'd click a lot.”

A smile etched across your features, eyes creasing at the edge as you reached for your notepad, jotting down your number before ripping the sheet and handing it to him. “Just text me, and I'll meet you at the theatre.”

His eyes glazed over your number, a genuine smile appearing on his lip before he reassures you that he will, and you excuse yourself to head to the back.

You push the door open, stepping in and quickly pressing your back against the door. Joshua watches you intently, before asking, “So, did he pass the test?”

You nodded, still a bit dazed by the interaction. “Yeah, he did… With flying colors.”

Joshua smirked, stuffing his umpteenth cookie into his mouth. “Told you third times the charm.”

[lollytea]

hello hello!! so i've been following you for years (trolls era) and i literally haven't seen past like ep 2 of toh BUT i know so so much about it thru osmosis of ur blog enough to the point that seeing someone drag huntlow makes me like. secondhand ready to Fight. filled with rage.

so anyway letting you know i had a dream last night about what i must have thought their first episode interaction was like in canon since i've not seen it. very weird and hard to describe but a kiss was involved which i know is SO fucking incorrect, but it did make sense to me at the time since it used things i've seen talked about here (namely ur funny post about being delighted he remembered her name between eps). Anyway . thank u for injecting the hunlows into my non-toh-informed brainspace enough that i can make whole episodes abt them in my dreams?? i had a great time keep up the good work soldier 👍

ASGDVDJNK Actually laughed out loud at this one, it's phrased so funny. Thank you so much, I love you.

It always gets me when people who've never actually seen the show are defensive about huntlow. They ignite protective instincts. I know quite a few people who are like "I've never seen owl house but I know huntlow is good because Lolly said so and I trust her." Warms my heart.

Even knowing nothing about them, they are pleasant to look at. They're little sweeties!! Look!! Very shaped. Very nice. Very wholesome.

I hope that even if you never watch this show in your life, you hold them in fond regard. They are neat.

[incoherentbabblings]

What do you think of the lack of mourning and reaction to Stephanie's death that Tim had? Do you think it was out of character and part of the editorial hate train towards Stephanie?

In a word: Yes. Steph's death got mixed up in two that would have more resonance with Tim and his place in the wider DCU. Conner, which was tied into the Teen Titans storyline, and his dad, which was done to create the stronger connection to Bruce. Steph, for all intents and purposes, was a character for Tim and Cass. Cass got more leverage from her death because she was in general so isolated from other DCU books at the time, so the death of a supporting character was given space to breathe. For Tim however, his Teen Titans stuff obviously focused more on the loss of Conner (and Bart) whilst his Batman stuff focused more on his father, because then the writers could pull him tighter to Bruce. Steph was therefore redundant as a narrative tool for Tim's development in his two books. Her death was simply not as important as Jack or Conner's, and I think it's disingenuous to try and argue otherwise.

However, I think there is room to play in-universe with Tim's comparatively non-reaction to the point where I think you can argue that it was perfectly in character. I am crossing into headcanon here, but this is how I try to justify it to myself in-universe.

With Conner and Jack, Tim is loud, screaming, sobbing, clinging to the dead bodies. With Stephanie, he is quiet, withdrawn, and does not get to see her, instead is relayed the information secondhand by Bruce.

He doesn't think of her individually, because then it will hit home and he'll start to properly lose it. He never deals with her death. With Conner you have the proper loopy story of the cult and the cloning and that giant mess. With Jack there's the ongoing storyline of the fake Uncle, being adopted by Bruce and the ongoing grief there.

Tim does not talk about Stephanie. To anyone. He stands at the back of her funeral, not getting close, not speaking to her grave to say goodbye. He refuses to talk to Cass about her. He rarely, if ever, blames her for what went wrong, instead quietly and quite furiously blaming Bruce. He has very tense conversations with both Bruce and Cass about this fact. He thinks of her only when thinking of the people he lost as a group. He can't conceptualize her as an individual; she's just one of many that have died.

I get the feeling, if you wanted, you could argue that Tim completely disassociated himself from Stephanie's death. I say this, because in the TT issue where Tim has to be pried open about his father's death after attempting to shove it down, so it's a similar thing, though obviously not the exact same.

He cannot, will not, think or talk about her, because then it becomes too real, and he feels more emotions than he knows what to do with. He knows Bruce will never initiate that conversation, and fully resents him for it, and never fully trusts Bruce again (if he ever did to begin with). His Titans friends didn't know her, didn't want to know her in some instances, and the tentative conversations with Cass prove that they are not on the same page with the understanding of what happened either. Maybe Tim doesn't trust Cassandra with his grief.

You know what happens when he is forced to think of Stephanie alone and not as one of many, many, loved ones he's lost?

He potentially hallucinates her. So that's not concerning.

You can argue against this but Steph had not returned to civilian life at this point, so she wasn't enrolled in his school (yet). Also his internal monologue refers to the way she walks which is a much more intimate thing than "I saw a blonde girl and Steph was blonde too". Idk, YMMV on that.

Also, the fact that his first response when seeing someone wearing that costume is to get really violent, in a way that Tim just... isn't normally. Like yes it is a triggering scenario anyway but this feels a bit more pointed. Finally the kiss after he sees her for the first time... I don't know. It can read to me as someone who maybe rationally knows Steph is dead, but empirically never acknowledged it. Tim never saw her, and you know what they say about the dead and needing to see the body...

Tim perhaps, in his heart of hearts, never properly comprehended that she was dead. Any attempts to broach the subject were systematically but also unconsciously avoided. She is only mentioned as part of a group. When he is confronted with a reminder of her not being alive he gets very violent. When he sees her alive, he kisses her, as if they had never been apart to begin with for over a year.

Like I genuinely think there was like a mental block with the concept of Steph and Death for Tim that year she was gone. Like error error, cannot run script sort of schtick.

But that's just a headcanon. I don't think the writer's cared enough about her, not enough for any of this to be intentional certainly.