#but im also stupid sensitive about thinking everything i post is getting rejected when nobody says anything so like ;;

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hello! i'm thinking about writing a character that has adhd, but the show doesn't represent them well at all. I was wondering if you had any pointers of what not to do, as well as maybe what to do? if you dont want to that's completely okay but i wanted to personally ask someone with adhd rather than just google it (which i'm gonna do as well) thank you!

okay well first thing i can say, it took me a few days to reply to this because i did Not have the spoons to type out a very good response so thats like. one of the first things you should keep in mind. i’ll make a nice bulleted list for easier reading

there aren’t very many grey areas with ADHD

what this means basically is that many people with ADHD have a “now or never” approach to things, where you’re either EXTREMELY FOCUSED to do something but ONLY FOR A MINUTE SO YOU NEED TO CHASE THAT MOTIVATION or else it’s gone forever

but once you get into The Groove. when The Groove hits. you will only be able to focus on that one thing for hours and hours and you’ll forget to eat or go pee. until hours later and you finally awake from your hyperfocus and you’re like holy FUCK im about to piss myself and i will pass out if i dont eat something right now

poor prioritization and ability to focus

if you’re tasked with like. something that NEEDS to be done. good luck buddy. because, why would you want to do something that holds no actual interest to you, when you could do something that you enjoy instead?

executive dysfunction fucking sucks bro

“i need to get up and shower before work. please i smell so bad and my hair is really greasy i’m going to be miserable if i don’t shower. i’m running out of time i’m going to be rushing to get ready if i wait any longer. please stop just laying there staring at your phone. please please please oh fuck i’m crying now because i couldn’t just get up and take care of myself���

it’s essentially like trying to tell a very stubborn toddler what to do

poor emotional regulation and rejection sensitive dysphoria

small inconveniences and even the slightest disapproval from anyone can set off a panic attack

i guess with like. people who dont have ADHD, it’s easier for them to process their emotions? but those of us with sexy bitch disease dont have that ability until it’s too late and we’re straight up sobbing because someone said something that might imply that they were upset with you

a lot of us tend to either have no verbal filter or a very carefully constructed filter

or both! you can just blurt out whatever it is you’re thinking right now, or you can take your time and over explain things because you want to make 100% sure that nobody is going to misinterpret you

messy messy messy

messy room messy schedule messy work areas... everything is a mess! but you know exactly where to find everything in the mess

except when you dont! we tend to lose things often, and often in ridiculous places

as far as like... things to avoid?? don’t infantilize us. we can be immature sometimes but we aren’t Stupid Baby Cinnamon Rolls lmfao

also like. hmm

a lot of people with ADHD tend to get told theyre “trying too hard” to be funny or to fit in or whatever but it’s because we were told from a young age that we were annoying people so we learned to be funny instead lol thats why a lot of like, funny internet personalities and celebrities tend to have ADHD

i can’t think of anything else right now but if i do i’ll reblog it to this post