#but if femmes and other sapphics want to join in.. who am I to say no? 👀

[meanferalbutch]

Really hoping this takes off and it’s not just simply too niche but I would love to see a thread of butches/studs/mascs of all sorts holding their favorite pocket knives!! If you don’t have a pocket knife you could use a sword or a dagger or a butter knife it doesn’t matter this is mostly an excuse to see butch hands anyways

This is my baby she’s steel and hefty and I love her 🗡️🖤

[dykedykegooses]

i'm askin u every single even numbered question for the lesbian ask game

at least you didnt bother with the algebra this time, for which i am thankful

Femme or butch?

i’m more femme but i try to act butch sometimes and i just end up failing hopelessly. ‘look mom i know how to put air in a tire!!’ ‘peyton thats like… not even right’ or ‘oh SHIT look at that blitz!! that was cool’ ‘peyton that was a sack’ ‘oh’

Do you have a “type”? If so, describe it

not really, mostly just like… humor. if u funny we click

Plaid button-ups or leather jackets?

why not both?

no but seriously plaid tbh

Describe your style

um yes

converse, (ripped? sometimes) jeans, and whatever top i feel is appropriate for the Big Aesthetic today

Describe your aesthetic

yes

ive tried going more punk but its just kinda , not worked

my physical aesthetic is very adultolescent. i got chub and look like a freshman but ive been told i pass as a college senior so like

my Big Mood aesthetic is yes

Favorite article of clothing?

either my converse or my “”combat boots”” (theyre not and it makes me sound like an edgelord just saying that) (can you tell im gay)

OH WAIT I FORGOT ABOUT MY JEAN JACKET its like baggy and light and ive started sewing patches from my favorite bands on it (super punk right)

Favorite pair of shoes?

^^^

oh my black strappy heels, theyre surprisingly comfortable

Current haircut?

ive got a bleached bob rn

Any haircut goals for the future?

i kinda want a pixie cut bc i cant handle long hair however long hair is so PRETTY and wow

Describe the best date you’ve been on

iiiiiiiiii dont really know. ive been on very few. i have a Perfect Date in mind, and i guess my favorite was my first date with my ex. we had gotten back from a successful science competition (HAVE I MADE IT OBVIOUS IM A NERD YET IM A BIG OL NERD) and it was like midnight by the time we got back and we were both starving so we went to taco bell and just sat there talking and laughing and i know we were pissing off the staff, but we stayed til like two in the morning and we went home and honestly we both considered it a date but we didnt like… tell each other it was a date? if that makes sense? idk honestly im triggered

Describe the worst date you’ve been on

ugh oh god i went on a tinder date and this girl like in the DMs was like ‘hey do u smoke weed’ and im like ‘lol no’ and then like we made plans to meet up at a coffee shop and she asks me AGAIN if i smoke weed and im like……………. no and shes like ‘oh right lol’ well THIS BITCH sleeps through the time we were supposed to meet, completely stands me up, and then texts me back like an hour later and was like ‘omg im sorry i overslept!!!’ and it was like….. noon but ok so we meet up after my class and we just sit there really awkwardly trying to make conversation and she asks me AGAIN if i smoke weed im like ‘honey no i dont’ and we just talked about drugs for a while and when i left because i had to gtfo she like gave me an awkward hug and like i sent a text later that night bc im courteous and im like ‘hey i had a great time today’ (i didnt) ‘lmk if you ever want to meet up again!!’ and she just. ignored me lol.

Single? Taken?

im currently in a polyamorous relationship with myself and my anxiety

If taken, talk about your girlfriend/wife!

:)

If single, what are you looking for in a potential girlfriend/wife?

someone who’s able to make me laugh and deal with my bad ideas and will let me cook for her and wants to travel the world with me

Describe your dream wedding

its small. outside. maybe in a field or in front of a lake. i dont personally want a big ballgown, just a short white dress will do. lavenders everywhere. R A I N B O W  C A K E. reception where we slow dance to all the sappy romance songs. its great.

Do you want kids?

not really, but ive considered being a foster parent. i feel like im here to do good; i don’t want to have my own biological children, and im not sure i want to have the permanent responsibility of adopting a kid, but i feel i could handle fostering once we’re financially stable and have the room to accept children into our home.

If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?

spain, definitely. somewhere in the north. i want to have a small farm with goats and chickens and vegetables and i want to be away from this american mess.

Favorite lesbian movie?

well ysee…………. the only two explicitly lesbian movies ive seen have been ‘all about E’ and ‘blue is the warmest color’ and i didnt like either of the lmfaoooo i prefer watching lesbian television shows tbqh (or, most commonly, just rewriting all the female characters in my head to be sapphic sooooooo dont @ me)

Favorite lesbian novel/story?

i mean same as above, i dont read as much as i like to. however, i did read “georgia peaches and other forbidden fruit” and that was Really Good and i did read another that was slightly better, but i forget the name but it was about a pakistani (?) girl who was struggling to come out to her parents bc they were very traditionalist but she joins the theater and her like really elite school and the girl she had a crush on basically outs her and is a bitch about it and GOD i wish i could remember it because it was really good

Favorite lesbian song?

ummmmmmmmmmmm i just recently listened to ‘honey’ by kehlani and that was pretty good and pretty gay, but my personal favorite is ‘girls’ by beatrice eli bc holy shit what a Mood

Favorite lesbian musician?

i love mary lambert and beatrice eli.

What lesbian stereotypes do you fit into, if any?

ummmmm now that im thinking of them i cant think of any. i used to play softball and soccer? i love cats. i immediately start planning out the next five years of our lives together anytime im remotely interested in a girl?

Ever been assumed to be nothing more than a gal pal?

i mean………………. no

If a woman wanted to woo you, what would a surefire way to accomplish that?

well bake cookies w me and lets go for a walk & go out and watch the stars at night in the bed of a truck

Be positive! What do you like most about being a lesbian?

I LOVE LOVING GIRLS!!!!!! I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT BEING A LESBIAN!!!!!! GIRLS ARE FANTASTIC!!!!!!!! WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!!!!

Are you more of a cat person or a dog person?

why not both

idk ive never had a cat but i know i lov them

Turn ons?

i.......... dont know

yes

im gay

Turn offs?

long nails youch theyre pretty to look at but i mean at what price

not having anything to talk about

putting yourself down like a lot (i went on a date w this one girl and that was all she did like the entire date like......... im sorry ? :(???)

Do you usually ask other women out or do you wait for them to ask you?

if im being honest i would love for someone to ask me out but since that is Very Unlikely, i tend to be the one to message first and initiate dates and stuff

What is your dream career?

i want to be a psychological researcher in the field of social comparative psychology how sick is that!!!!! just play with dogs all day and record whether or not they boop their noses on a screen

also i wanna be a farmer and a bookstore owner but thats Farther down the line like , when im 50

Talk about your interests or hobbies!

im honestly such a psych nerd i love psychology what the fuck!! its so interesting like ppl are weird man idk brains are weird

im also having a really big green day phase like billie .. he so smol... and also anyone who wants to bash warning or the trilogy can fight me ok those are like My Favorite Albums

im going to a concert in february to see declan mckenna, a Giant Meme

im getting a tattoo w some lyrics of declan’s actually its gonna be sick

What is the most attractive quality a woman can have?

yes

idk for me its being able to have quick, witty, skillful jokes i just love listening to girls talk and tell stories and jokes like wow im gay

also long curly hair? thats always a Solid Look

Do you love easily or does it take time for you to warm up to someone?

i mean. do we really wanna open this can of worms rn

too late, its open

i get those microcrushes where you like see a girl and youre like ‘WOW IM GAY DATE ME’ however once it comes to actually being in a relationship i throw my full weight behind it and worry that im being too suffocating or that im pushing my boundaries etc and ive been told that makes me come off really cold and uncaring so lol choose ur own adventure, you decide

Ever fallen for your best-friend?

unfortunately

Ever fallen for a straight girl?

can you even call yourself a lesbian if you havent

The L-Word: yes or no? (love it or hate it?)

i havent seen it, im such a fake lesbian

Favorite comfort food?

mac n cheese

or pizza

or cheesy potatos

OR CHEESY TOAST

scientific conclusion: im a fatass

Coffee or tea?

coffer

Vegetarian? Vegan? None of the above?

im vegetarian!! have been on and off for like two years now

Do you have any pets?

i have one pup sittin right next to me and shes the prettiest girl in the world

Early-riser or night-owl?

yes

idk i get up at like 9 which is early for me but not as early as like. 5. so

more like night-owl. thanks teenage hormones!

What is your sign?

pisces

Can you drive?

yes

can i drive well?

no

but i do have a sense of direction so thats cool

Who was your first lesbian crush?

tbh.................... my best friend, but i didnt realize it was a crush at the time

the first Gay Crush i had that i knew was a crush was on my close friend at the time, now my ex girlfriend

At what age did you know you were a lesbian?

uhhhhhhhhhh lesbian specifically, like 15-16. queer, i knew in like fall semester freshman year (so like 13??)

At what age did you come out (if you have)?

i mean, i come out to people all the time. first time i came out explicitly as a lesbian was when i was like 15 or 16 (actually i came out to a close straight friend and my ex and they both said ‘congrats’ like it was weird but very nice) and the first time i came out as queer/questioning was to my then-best friend at like 13 and i came out to my mom (involuntarily) at like 17? ish?

Are you crushing on anyone at the moment (celebrity or otherwise)?

yes im crushing on every girl simultaneously at all times

just kidding

(not really)

i dont really have any explicit crushes that i can think of im just really gay

Talk about how your day went

it was fine. got free froyo so that was cool. found out i made an A on my bio practical, so that was cool too. however, i wore a crop top and it was like 55 degrees out and raining so i looked like a total Idiot but yk follow ur slutty gay dreams amiright ladies

Talk about your dreams/aspirations for the future

most of mine are career-centric, but a few are personal.

i wanna go to costa rica in may, i wanna go to yale over the summer, i wanna go to NYC pride in june, i wanna go to spain after i graduate, i wanna go to grad school, i wanna be a psychological researcher, i wanna move to spain or england or hell even france, i wanna have my own farm with the woman i love, i wanna own an LGBT bookstore/library, i wanna just live a quiet life near the sea and not have to worry so much after a while.

Least favorite gay celebrity?

this is a weird one to end on, but iiiiiiim not sure i have one? i can tell you ellen page is probably my favorite, but i cant think of many i dislike so

[trans-advice]

Hey! I'm bisexual and nonbinary, but I realized I was bisexual first and came to think of being sapphic as a large part of my identity. I now realize that I'm not a girl, though. I'm having difficulty letting go of the idea that I am a girl who likes girls, and often catch myself thinking things like "I'm so gay" whenever I find myself liking a girl. Any advice for letting go of my previous ideas of my sexuality in relation to my gender?

TLDR

Well, the simplest way of saying it that nonbinary people often use is basically “I like ___”. Perhaps accentuate it with culturally sapphic. And since gay was historically a catch-all term before intersectionality became a focus, “I’m so gay” ain’t as bad (as long as your okay with outing yourself as not “straight”).

Reasoning

OMG this is so familiar to me, like OMG I’m excited! Yay! (But of course *settling down & being counseling*).

However, I totally know what you described is like.  For it’s literally (at least one of, but a big pointing glare as of) why I identify as nonbinary & genderfluid too.

Because I basically see myself as girl in mind, in soul, guy in body, meaning like sexually I see myself as a guy, otherwise I’m girl who’s like damn all this sexist bullshit let’s burn it down. (I’m kind of a scorn lady… And I like femme fatales, the way far right (hate) groups like Donald Trump, or progressives like Bernie Sanders over … Anywho.)

Um… Yeah. So since I like guys a lot more in the sexual sense, I word myself as like gay, but I also feel like it’s pretending. And then once I’m firmly in my girl ID I’m more bisexual (I already consider trans people to be attractive so, yeah, what I mean is my accessibility to different aesthetics open up & move more.)

So the things are, I guess I’d call myself a bisexual/androphile-leaning trans woman who’s pissed off about gender & who’s more culturally gay male[1] in terms of sex (lol, Basically I’m built live some slash fic fangirls’ dreams/fantasies if whisper is any indication. ;-) But… life ain’t all sex, love & resolutions… ugh)

So I’d say you’re a nonbinary person who’s culturally sapphic. If you want to avoid the binary and the hetero/homo grammar, I’d say you’re a gynephilic person.

If you want to accentuate you’re trans-ness you could still use gay, since gay was like the big label of the coalition before we switched to acronyms to accentuate intersectionality. Also since Transgender peoples are part of the coalition against straight propaganda, we could be considered gay, just being trans.

Admittedly​, people against the patriarchy are too since one’s oppression is often used to oppress the other/s. Basically gender identities get restricted/oppressed/suppressed/erased & gender roles get the same way, though more distinct means more roles obviously.

So yeah. Straight Propaganda both harms us regardless of who we like, just because of who we are. “I’m so gay” may out you, but at the same time, we and the “gays” need to stick together. So do what you got to do. Embrace it even.

♣, Peace & Love be with you,– Eve

[1]

There’s this adult entertainer named Tayte Hanson (do not look him if you’re not of age. Maybe an interview but incognito mode & definitely not in public, at work, at school, etc. Wait until you’re an adult. Agh.) In an interview he says that he’s like bisexual because occasionally he likes to hook up with women, but he mostly hooks up with men to the point that culturally he’s gay, and he struggles with labeling his sexuality, since he doesn’t want to deny his occasional liking of women, but he's​ mainly in gay clubs & stuff.

So yeah. That’s where I picked up the term “culturally ___” when describing sexuality that doesn’t quite fit the culture.

I should mention though, that I’m not very social personally. However, I found a lot of vocabulary, and help from feminism, interacting with the gay community & my high school’s GSA named PRISM. I also tend to read M/M romance. Therefore I consider myself culturally gay. And since periods of months at a time before joining this blog, I have been culturally trans. So yeah. This is partly how I deal with it.

[crackling-dab]

Just need to get some thoughts out, I’m doing ok. Feel free to read if you want, a bit nsfw though. Notes on responses at the end, please read if you intend to say anything.

So I’ve established for myself that I am 100% attracted to girls and femme-aligned people. I’m not horribly worried about who I’m attracted to.

I am, however, concerned with who I am. Especially physically. I’ve had times where I want to be a girl and times where I want to be a guy. And I really like the concept of gender fluidity. Like, I really wish i felt comfortable taking that label. But the physical aspect of being whatever gender I’m presenting is too defining for me to do that. I don’t doubt that I could present outwardly as a girl, and I could change my mindset, but I can’t change my body at will so I would never be comfortable. Oh and my voice. I love the way girls voices sound and I can’t replicate that.

And I think this is at least partly rooted in our inherently transphobic society. To some part of my mind I cannot be a girl if I have a dick and no boobs. Although to be fair I’ve gotten to the point where I think would be comfortable with having boobs and a dick, and being a girl. I don’t know though. It’s concerning to me that I’ve attached so much importance to breasts as being a quintessential part of womanhood, because I think that’s rooted in our society’s sexualization of them.

I’ve done a bit of research and I read an article a little while back. I don’t remember the name, but it brought up this idea, of physically being a women. I think it was FAQ style, because it was answering the question/assertion/whatever “if society accepted gender as separate from ‘biology’ or physical being, would trans people still need to transition?” And the response was “yes, they would. Being trans isn’t necessarily about how society perceives you but rather about how you perceive yourself, and for some people that means physically transitioning is extremely important” (heavily paraphrased; it’s been a while since I read the article. I believe it was an “X myths about being transgender” or something).

I’m also unsure of how I feel because I’m unsure of why I would feel that way. On one hand I might actually BE a girl which is why I feel that way, but there are a few alternate reasons that seem reasonable.

One is the sheer exposure to girls I’ve had through tumblr. Growing up I spent all my time with other guys; I was convinced of cooties at least until middle school, and by the time I snapped out of it it was too late. I had the idea that girls and guys can’t be friends, only romantic partners, deeply ingrained in me. I was kind of a mysoginist. Maybe more then kind of. I was a mess in general. Then I go and hop on Tumblr and get blasted by a million and a half (cute) girls, the truth of mysogony, and far left ideology, and it knocked me on my ass. I was lonely with no where to belong, and found that men, who I’d always thought were cool, were as a whole not so cool. So I could definitely see these feelings forming out of a desperation to be part of the “in group”, the friendly, supportive community that girls have here, and to get away from the violent, crude male community that is been part of. Girls are seriously romanticized (with good reason if I do say so myself) here on Tumblr, and I’m nothing if not a hopeless(ly broken) romantic.

Possible reason number 2 is the sheer number of sapphic girls on tumblr, whether they’re bi, pan, lesbian, etc. I’m not sure why but the LGBT community on the part of tumblr I frequent is HEAVILY focused on girls, sapphic relationships, and trans girls. And again, I’m kinda floating free right now, feeling like don’t belong anywhere. I could easily have developed these feelings out of a need to belong somewhere. I want to be liked, and people in the community I’m a part of seem to like girls more than guys, so I want to be a girl. That sort of deal.

On impulse I shaved my lower body a few days ago, and I think that’s made everything more confusing. Also itchy and a bit raw. I’m honestly not sure about how it makes me feel but I’m gonna try to keep it up.

Ok I know this is a point of ridicule for some people but I made a character on an MMO that was a girl and while I was playing I kind of forgot I was a guy? Like there was this one dude who was the leader of a guild I joined and we were having a conversation and me being the paranoid person I am thought “is he flirting with me?? What’s going on?” And had a sort of uncomfortable, creeped out feeling. I suspect this came from my knowledge of how guys in general treat girls, especially in video games.

And see, I’ve read so much stuff here on tumblr that I don’t know what thoughts are mine and what thoughts I’m trying to apply to myself to get sympathy and which thoughts I’ve borrowed that ACTUALLY apply to me.

There are so many wonderful pre-HRT trans-girls out there who are out (at least on here) and proud and I just don’t know if I could do that, if I have a right to do that. I don’t know if that’s who I am, or if that’s just a fantasy, whether I’m lying to myself now or if I would be then.

What a mess. On responses: um, I’m gonna say responses are ok? Responses make me nervous because I get into this “you don’t know me!!!1!1!1!” State of mind for no good reason, no matter what the response is and then I feel like an ass for ignoring the response. Idk. If you want to say something feel free. I’m sorry if I don’t get back to you.