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[prettyboykatsuki]

may i pick ur brain wrt something? you write such a large variety of characters and i think you have great skill in following through with a character's characterization (lol) to their sexual life. i was wondering what do you choose to focus on or how you approach figuring out a character's sexual style (?) when you write? im pretty new to writing smut (i write in general but i usually just fade to black) and im having trouble translating a character's neurosis into sexual acts, particularly when you move beyond the vanilla missionary etc sex (which im not particularly interested in writing even tho i think it can be emotionally poignant in its own right).

what i have most trouble with is like figuring out if a certain act fits character a or character b in my ensemble, say, and then moving through with that. i've been trying to approach it like fighting styles bc of the character's physicality, but there are certain temperamental and moral tensions informing fighting in particular (as a deliverance of violence, i mean) that make it hard for me to pinpoint how to translate that to sex without it feeling shoehorned. for example (and this is just for reference), i have a character who's like a gunslinger and whose style is very explosive and wild and a little bit cocky, but when u look at it under the microscope, his approach is polished and precise and meticulous. and THEN his internality is of a young man with a lot of anger and stunted growth, who really just wants acceptance and affection deep down, and who is so very tired. now i can translate each of those things and its combinations a hundred thousand ways, but which is correct? or faithful to him? at one point it all seems unfathomable to me. and then bc i can't make up my mind i fear everything i write ends up being too plain, or ill-fitting, and because my cast is large, it also all ends up feeling too same-y. has this ever been an issue for you?

first of all - i want to say thank you for entrusting and believing in my writing abilities enough to want to pick my brain about this. i'm not entirely sure what the appeal of my writing is to other people (not in a negative way but more in that its my own stuff so im always critical of it) but i put forth a lot of thought in characterization and translating that into sex as i am primarily a smut writer so while im not the most confident u should come to me for advice, im deeply flattered and will do my best anyway

i'll be real though, the best advice is genuinely just not to overthink it and go with your gut. have some faith in your own writing voice and ideas etc. but anyway

there are a lot of layers to this question and i'll do my best to go through it bit-by-bit. and i don't know if this will really help you since it might come off vague

if i can offer you any advice on characterizing well in a smut scene, it's to not view the smut as a separate entity to your work but as an integral part of it's infrastructure. do not treat the smut scene as part of the work, but as a pillar of it.

the other thing is understanding what is personally compelling to u or arousing about this characters storyline or personality. and not arousing as in physical lust, but what concepts tickle you and make you want to write.

the truth is there's no objectively correct way to characterize a character especially if they're nuanced and complex. which is why all writing is subjective in a sense.

ultimately, it's your job as the author to choose what characterization you like best and convince the audience it's the correct one.

for example, the character you're describing is multifaceted. there are several ways you can take the direction of the story

their outward persona is being a cocky gunslinger who is inwardly polished, meticulous, sensitive and tired. all of these traits can be expanded upon into sexual acts based on your will as the writer - so you have to ask yourself, what aspect of this character is the most arousing to you as a writer or what is this sex scene intending to display about a character. what trait of theirs are you hoping to highlight through sex?

to translate these things into sex gets really tricky and is honestly something you have to experiment with until you feel it click.

for me - if i were attempting to write this character, the breakdown process would look something like this.

this character has a personality gap of being a cocky gunslinger but is actually polished and meticulous

this means they they are likely concerned with appearances.

something in their past must've brought them to that conclusion. if they are continuing to outwardly project themselves as a reckless gunslinger - it is is likely not their "true" self.

what would make a character with this many defense show their true selves, or what other characters cause this character to demonstrate to their true selves?

the translation process of eroticism can go in a hundred different languages. if i personally were writing this character, i might pair them with an older mentor type of character, or a nonchalant rival. i might put them in a situation that requires a different kind of vulnerability and forces them to expose some of their nature for the sake of their ideals

as an author, im aroused by the idea of them showing their submission and affectionate side. trying to subconsciously appeal to authority figures might be interesting if i'm trying to demonstrate their lack of validation. the opposite can also be true, that a character like this might resent mentor / authority figures that impede their own ideas and trying to highlight their anger. writing this gunslinger lashing out at a fellow gunslinger they respect can easily be turned into erotica.

you could pair this character with a nonchalant rival type. a direct opposite that challenges a characters morals ideological belief or perhaps - understands them through their differences. this rival character pays enough attention to the gunslinger to know that they are polished and special. while they are rivals, there's something legitmate in their dynamic to this sensitive, tired character who puts up a facade and wants to be understood.

your own arousal as an author comes in here and where you have to make choices.

lets say then, i go with the latter. i would then structure the story or chapter around this idea through by demonstrating the push and pull of their relationship. i would subvert this characters personality through the framework of submission and a desire for acceptance. i'd write the erotica about the slow crescendo to sex with their rival who seems to accept them fully. i'd write about their different meetings, choosing small things to represent larger themes. maybe their rival praises their technique or offers them a listening ear. i use those small moments to build up to the intimacy and weave the erotic stuff into the story itself so when the sex comes it feels gratifying and releases tension (lol)

for the actual sex stuff you just have to go with your gut and distinguish things based on what traits you're showing. maybe this characters need for affection and rest makes them a whiny bottom. as a writer, i'd monopolize that. i'd point out their eagerness to please through desperation like kissing or nuzzle, and i'd have their words contradict their actions to display their personality gap etc

for me being structured around erotica means going through that kind of mental process and and building a story framework from the ground up and aiming for a proper sex scene. the erotica process is weaved into the plot mechanisms, the metaphors, the stories ideology. the smut is the point, and every action is central to emphasizing what is going to end up happening. my better examples of this lately are probably uncle sukuna rip

ive been writing smut for long enough now that i do not struggle with it and it's easy for me to come up with a unique character voice and do all the above sort of automatically in my mind. and i know it can feel intimidating.

the best advice i can give you though again is don't overthink it which ik seems contradictory to all of the above advice. but sometimes you just have to let yourself go with the flow and believe in your own abilities. trust your gut and just shoot straight ahead.

i hope this was bale to help u some!!

[funkymbtifiction]

Thank you for your patience, Charity.

I think I wrongly associated the word dreamer with a synonym of the word visionary.

I guess I tried to ask if there is a type that is known for being grounded in reality, responsible yet detail oriented and lost in fantasies at times/ be philosophical.

You see, I tried to assume and start looking into the sensors cause “apparently” they are more common.

I found a character in a book that acts exactly like me, especially when feeling sad which confuses me cause he doesn’t seem like a sensor at all.

He tends to use homework as an escape from problems and feelings, I suspect I have my feeling function in the Tertiary or inferior position on the stack cause I think that is my weakness, besides little outbursts of anger or overthinking, I tend to never speak about my feelings, and showing it through actions (actions speak louder than words~) like acts of service or when someone asks for advice I try to come up with a solution and give them a pat on the back, not necessarily talking about how they feel at first cause I think they need help with their problem, then later we could focus on what they feel.

Have you heard of Sara Mbti on YouTube?

I will link a video, and I am not saying I “relate” to this one in particular but I wanted to ask your opinion since I am a beginner and I thought it was well made.

I have to admit that even without depression I act as I said earlier, tending to be by myself in the most sad cases cause even though I love my friends, and they care about me, I would rather figure it out slowly rather than having a meltdown in front of myself, trying to control what I feel, asking for help when it is necessary.

This is one of the videos of the series (Mbti types in their inferior function grip)

https://youtu.be/mQdagW6gvnw

Sorry for the long texts but I love this blog and to be honest, I wouldn’t really trust other people when it comes to Mbti on Tumblr, cause they just make charts of characters and shows, treating it as a zodiac, that’s why I always come back here for insight.

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Yeah, “dreamer” is better for intuition than “visionary.” Visionary is usually associated with an NJ type, but I would call them more “singular-focused.” This longer explanation is somewhat better. (I would assume you are an intuitive just because there’s a lack of actual detailed evidence in what you provide, as if you are just ‘floating’ in the world and not touching the ground.)

An NP could be ‘grounded in reality’ if they had a somewhat practical and/or fearful Enneagram type that made them want to be realistic and practical and allowed them to develop Te in particular, but their communication with details would be either/or.

Either… a little scattered, unfocused, and forgetful of them, or an over-obsession with them to the point of mild neurosis. (An example from my own life, whenever I get stressed, I become obsessed with irrelevant details – I don’t know which ones to include or leave out, so I meticulously include them all, double and triple checking to make sure I got dates and things right. I even get to a point where I wind up fiddling with the size of my Word Document, to make it more ‘aesthetically pleasing’ for me to write in, rather than just being able to concentrate on writing itself. Or I become fixated with finding every single typo in something, even though I can’t slow down and read ‘deeply enough to force my brain to find them all, and feel like I’m simultaneously bored out of my mind by this tedious task and ‘going too fast.’ Do you have any stories like that, about how your weak sensing function “doesn’t really work”?).

I would say the video is good in the sense that it does illustrate some of what they are hoping to communicate, but I question using Howard Hughes because he had an extreme case of OCD which made these symptoms compulsive and they happened “all the time,” it wasn’t just because of inferior Si, nor do most people’s inferior Si get that bad. I personally have experienced the depressive inferior Si slump – it really is a process of losing all your creativity, imagination, hope for the future, and idealism, and instead becoming convinced that the deeply mentally unsatisfying situation you are in right now is going to continue indefinitely, and feeling a sense of hopeless despair about the ongoing banality of your life, because you can’t see any alternative other than the life you are stuck in here and now. Inferior Si tends to hold to what is familiar in that way, so it drags you down whenever you fall into ‘the grip.’ And because I’m an intuitive, it doesn’t occur to me to do sensory things to get out of it—like change my environment, move somewhere else, get a different job, etc. I just look for intuitive hobbies and mental stimulation in an attempt to try and drag myself out of it – and “resign myself that this is the only life I’ll ever have.” Does any of this sound familiar? I don’t mind living in sameness and doing my responsibilities, as long as I get mental stimulation. That’s all I want. Things to think about.

You seem to use Fi rather than TiFe (how private you are in your feelings, preferring to sort them on your own rather than share them, focusing on Te solutions to other people’s problems, doing rather than talking about your feelings), and assuming you use Ne (it’s unclear here, since you don’t show a strong thinking process or specific intuition other than general vagueness), that would make you NFP rather than NTP. And since you don’t seem feeling dominant and have a strong sense of problem-solving, ENFP might be accurate.