#but he’s just some dude he’s just so kind at his core and I 😭❤️

[roseofcards90]

LOST JULY WHAT THE FUCK 😭😭😭

[kingess]

I love your blog so much !! I aspire to be this powerful 🥹❤️ But i was super nervous to ask you a question, so i do hope i get a response that will give me some useful insight 🫶🏽

I’ve been reading your guide on how to get men to be obsessed with you …but what if the guy is very nonchalant and laid back? Will it still work? I am very heavily into the LOA but i do believe putting in the work as well.

SO my new boyfriend is a very minimal effort guy and he is generally very laid back. And i’ve been trying to use your tactics to manipulate him and challenge myself to get a guy to go against what he’s used to. I’ve altered my thoughts and personality to fit his nonchalantness so i don’t go crazy. But I want HIM to do the opposite so he can just be on my frequency, if that makes sense. I want HIM to change his personality and spoil me and be romantic etc so i don’t have to act like i don’t give a fuck like him.

I really hope you can give me tangible steps on how to really get this guy obsessed and out of his element. (I would like to add that as dumb as this may sound, i have my reasons for wanting this outcome. I did make the mistake of sleeping with him already before i had standards 😭 and now i just really want to manifest and put in the work to get him to show up the way I want. Because i hate feeling like i gave it up for nothing. I also do want and see a future with him…)

Thank you so much in advance & i’m sorry it’s so long but hopefully this will help someone else out there as well

My answer to this would be what the hell are you even doing??? He likely shows no effort because he didn't have to, he already got the most valuable things and knows you require no pursuing. And after seeing all of this you say you see a future with him???? It seems you see a future with him because you are neurochemically addicted to chase his approval of your worth and your ego has hard time accepting you got used, and now you're not cared for. Baby! Why are you not angry??? You do not need to manipulate men who are worth having in your life as real connections, they will chase and make sure to catch and keep you interested in them. AND be nowhere near nonchalant about it.

There's only 2 options to why a male acts "nonchalant", he's either just not that into you and you're a place holder which will be a huge job to manipulate a shift in after this point, or he has a dismissive avoidant attachment style. And those fuckers are the worst kind of all males you could ever try to tackle this with. At the end of the day emotionally unavailable males should never be anyone's long term option UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. LOA is great, but you need hard-core psychological tools if you really want to waste your time on him.

Attachment styles develop early in life and often remain stable over time.

Every case is a custom job. The best thing you can do is profile him accurately and then taylor a plan to activate his wounds so that you can become the savior when you make it all feel better again. I can make a detailed post about how to manipulate each attachment style to your benefit. But my advice is that if it's not for a vital reason, throw the whole dude away. Where are your standards now girl, you said you found some but I see none??? Whatever you do just do not work for him without a good reason. Go cold and dump him in a way that makes him feel as worthless as he is.