#bruh I may be genderqueer with they/them pronounce but I am also a linguistic nerd and even I struggle with such drastic weird changes

[scarefox]

warning: probably controversial hot take rant 🤷‍♂️

me, a genderqueer who goes by they/them: I wish there was a genderneutral pronoun in my own language, german, too :(

the weird corner of the german queer community: don't worry we got you!! we remove and replace EVERY ''mann'' (male) and also ''man'' (neutral but looks and sounds like mann) in EVERY german word because we hate the patriarchy and therefore hate ever single [redacted] on earth and can't accept seeing them hinted at even in the slightest in text as well :) you are welcome

me: ... that's not what I wanted....? ''man'' isn't even gendered? doesn't it maybe come from the english ''human''? (since german and english is a related language). the cishetes are already struggling and crying to integrate ONE new neutral word into the language. But you want to unnecessarily change and butcher the whole dictionary with wonky grammar and no regards to the linguistic heritage and flow of our language.

them: everyone who disagrees the genderneutral language reform is our enemy! are you even genderqueer enough??? apparently not!! you sound uneducated and like a traitor even. you are part of the problem! don't talk to us ever again.

me: all I want is one neutral they/them in german that fits all purposes (we already adapted it into "dey" it just needs to be pushed more) T_T

P.S.: yall are ridiculous if you think a big crowd of humans (the majority) will bend and accept a whole pointless change of a system they had their whole life, learned in school for decades. without adjustment time, without rethink time, without proper explanation and education about the topic and why they should do that that does not involve hate on them (we inside our own community aren't even clear about the whole other genders yet and how to box them and treat them!!!). And it doesn't have anything to do with my opinion it is simply how human brains work. Nothing in the human world gets changed over night without resistance or force. And if you do it with force you get more resistance and frustration which will boil up into a anti-movement sooner or later. Hint: it's what we have now, the whole hate wave we face? that partly comes from the earlier sjw movement who was very "we are better than you so you are all trash" instead of reasonable explaining to people why certain behavior or words are hurtful to others. AGAIN this is not necessary my opinion but how humans work!! If you go up to some one who behaves wrong and just slap them (verbally) in the face you just get aggression and defense mechanisms back. And I already said it BACK THEN that fighting fire with fire will just cause a bigger fire. Which is where we are now. And it will continue like that because way too many people in this have a superior complex and don't know how to effectly make people do what you want them to do.

You have to treat the stubborn cishetes like little bratty children not like criminals. It is unfortunately like that.... And most of their defence is literally just coming form them not understanding it!!! and we won't move on if we keep going like it as if we were at war with the cishetes / everyone who disagrees (no wonder they treat us like a crazy cult if SOME of us do in fact behave like that....). How do you expect a peaceful agreement and acceptance out of this? I mean most german boomers can't even bring themselves to learn english because they are insecure about it, even tho most of them say "they don't need it"... and that's the same with ever y change they don't get, they feel insecure and confused and play it over with defense and dislike.