#birthworker

[misschey2u]

What I wish Medical Providers Understood when meeting a Doula

“Chey, OMG! I know we spoke about this but why are providers so rude?! It was awful” ; I was driving home from seeing a client , my car is truly my office , I can’t tell you how much business I have conducted in there as a Doula. Taking time to reflect on a birth isn’t just a thing parents should be encouraged to do but Doulas and Birthworkers as well. I always make time and space to discuss a…

[doulayogimama]

Did you know that librarians make bank????

I shit you not, this is my dream job that I was saving for when I was a bored older lady. But if they make that much, sign me TF up. That sounds so fun and relaxing. I brought it up in therapy today and I’m quite literally going to look up librarian jobs lolol

On another work note — my dream NYC Midwife that I’ve followed for 10+ years (her tumblr page is —> themidwifeisin) accepted my offer to share my services as a postpartum Doula and LC to their patients. They just shared it today and 2 people have reached out to me 🙏🏽 I’m setting up appointments for both of them in late April / early May 🙌🏽

I may not have a home of my own right now, but this nomadic life until we get pregnant again is pretty fun. I’m excited to get back to work as a Doula in NYC! 🫶🏽

[oatmilk-vampire]

Absolutely terrified to think I'm actually considering enrolling into medical assistant school.

[sunnshineyelllo]

In the 3rd week of my 6 month course with BRM, really excited to learn more and start applying my knowledge with clients 🙌

[800-dick-pics]

cant relate to bitches who cant cook, all my elders like my food and request plates when i be makin em

[sydscompostbucket]

ice chips was wonderfully shot, but the way that birth was portrayed probably set us back about 60 years. almost everything that happened to nat had me in tears as a birth worker.

seeing obstetric violence normalized in a show like the bear really really sucks ass when you’re educated on the extremely violent, racist, misogynistic history and current practice of obstetrics.

there’s not a field more riddled with pseudoscience and evidence-less practice like obstetrics is.

and don’t even get me started on donna’s ass. if you’ve been in a modern, well researched, midwifery based birth class, you’ll know that the way that donna coached nat to breath has actually been debunked a long time ago as a method to make for a more easeful birth. it’s the exact OPPOSITE way that one should breath if trying to keep an open, relaxed pelvic floor for birth.

watching nat labor felt like watching a train wreck in slow motion and knowing that most people watching aren’t even aware of how violent of a scene we all witnessed in that episode suckssss.

ice chips was BY FAR more stressful and bone chilling to me than fishes.

[panb1mbo]

honestly one of my biggest career flex as a full spectrum doula is when i had a pregnant client about a month overdue. when they consented to receiving my help i found them a noninvasive induction method that fit their specifications (they wanted their definition of a natural birth, which to them, meant no induction via drugs) and within the hour of trying my suggestion she told me they were headed to the hospital bc her contractions had progressed enough for her to be admitted and she had her baby within the day and enjoyed the experience. and for that to be my first birth??? magic 🥺

[bellarad]

Man, people can be so rad

Another doula followed me on my birthworker insta who used a lot of like... woman-centric language. Which is fine, because most birthing folks are cis women and some people aren't totally like, aware if trans birth and gender variation of birthing folks. But the language she was using was pretty TERFy. Like, "we as women need to take back our sacred power of creation from the hands of men" type stuff. Very bioessentialist.

So I messaged her and was like, hey listen, I'm non-binary and a lot of the language you use sounds pretty terfy and if you are a terf I don't want you following me unless you're willing to learn from me thru a trans perspective.

She was like, "omg no I'm super okay with trans people and I don't want to be exclusive at all. I didn't realize my language would be taken that way - can you give me suggestions and feedback about how to change it?"

She took my feedback, she asked for more resources and instas to follow and she dug into what it means to be a TERF and how to be a good ally to trans folks - I was super impressed!

She just messaged me asking if I would give my perspective for a paper shes writing about the crunchy to alt-right pipeline in terms of how it affects trans folks and said that basically she was falling down that pipeline without realizing and me messaging her helped her backtrack and get out of it.

I think that a lot of times, talking to terfs isn't necessarily constructive and a lot of them are just so set in their ways that you cant reach them. But I think that feeling people out is important. I could've just blocked this person and been rid of her potential harmfulness, but instead I engaged her in a teaching moment and was able to help prevent further extremism from budding.

Give folks a chance ✌️

[sweetwatersweetwater]

recommended bb books

feed the baby, shruti nagaraj MD, MPH (forward), victoria facelli, IBCLC (author)

queer nursing, gorilla milk

baby making for everybody: fertility and family building for lgbtq+ and solo parents

[sacredliminalspaces]

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[realstrap]

‼️grocery ask‼️

09/18/2023

We're a disabled lesbian couple with no income, I'm a full time IT Student and my wife is undergoing a birthwork mentorship.

We need to restock on shelf stable groceries and get items that were missed last time

$0/250

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Dm for P@ypal

[transfloridaresources]

FREE webinar Wed July 31 @ 12 pm EST Register at linktree in bio For trans and queer people who don't even know what they need to know, this is going to give you a really good, concise low down about the current medical birth system, particularly in the so called US of A. This will be super info dense but also give folks a really good booster on some basic skills for navigating the health care industry as birthers, especially BIPOC, trans and queer birthers who experience disproportionately harsher outcomes. Let's use the medical birth system as tools to help us birth safer, and decrease the likelihood of more complications and worse outcomes. Let's approach birth without a fear based high intervention approach, and instead seek safety and full body well being. Birthworkers welcome! DM with questions Source

[voxceleste]

I know that this is like The Antinatalist Website but every time I see that post about how people should be told about how awful pregnancy is and how it fucks up your body so they can decide for themselves if they want to put themselves through that etc the way it's written rubs me the wrong way, not because any of the information in it is factually wrong it just seems like... Idk. Sometimes on here it feels like there's a real lack of empathy for people who do have interest in childbearing including people for whom accessing perinatal care is difficult and fraught for whatever reasons... I know that what people are responding to explicitly in that post is active efforts to occlude the risks and dangers associated with pregnancy so this might all sound like hairsplitting on my part but I don't think the answer to that issue is "freak people out by presenting an intentionally selected horror show clip reel of all the things that can go wrong." That's not good care... Like. Many people are going to continue to want to have babies even though it's dangerous, this is just a fact, so perhaps a wraparound informed consent approach focusing on supplying people with as much information and options as they need to make the decisions that are right for them while working to minimize harm to the greatest degree is better... Idk... I think what is actually bothering me is that I think putting energy into antioppressive birthwork/midwifery is going to have a much more tangible effect on the quality of life of people who give birth than "make sure they know all of the gruesome ways they might die in labour" ??? Who does this help

[butchniqabi]

if anyone's interested i have a small folder of doula/birthwork related pdfs including "supporting survivors". theres only 9 books and i havent made my way through all of them, but if you are interested lmk

[piscaprio]

I’m not going to lie, I feel so hurt, by so much and so many people. This healing journey has been tough, on my spirit. I’m processing so much in such a small time frame. I’m really not okay.

Speaking of time, it appears that everything is so time sensitive. From things within motherhood, birthwork, how quickly I’m tending to my wounds, the ones that inflicted the wounds, feel/behave like since they’re over it, i should be too. idk so much

Im just feeling my feels. Journaling these past 48 hours has been helpful.