#bilateral talks

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British PM announced first-ever UK-EU bilateral summit

British Prime Minister Keir Starmer, following talks with European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen to forge closer ties with the EU, has announced the first ever UK-EU bilateral summit to be held next year.

During his first visit to Brussels since winning the UK election in July, Starmer and European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen said the summits would be held on a regular basis to monitor the development of relations.

The move signals a warming of relations between Britain and the EU as the Starmer administration seeks to repair the damage done by years of hostility after Brexit. Starmer told a news conference after the meeting:

“We are putting our relationship with Europe on a more solid, stable footing. Of course, there will be issues that are difficult to resolve and on areas in which we will stand firm: There will be no return to freedom of movement, the customs union or the single market. But we will find constructive ways to work together.”

Wednesday’s meeting marks the UK’s first significant step in resetting relations with the EU, with formal talks expected to begin in December or January.

UK and EU diplomats see 2025 as a crucial deadline for these pacts, and warn that the momentum from the reset under a new UK administration could be lost after that.

Von der Leyen said the “coherence between the UK and the EU on global issues” provides a good basis for bilateral relations, emphasising that there is broad agreement between them on European security and climate change. The UK and the EU plan to focus their co-operation on areas such as the economy, energy, migration and security.

Mending of UK-EU relations

The mending of relations between London and Brussels began under Labour’s predecessor Starmer, Conservative Rishi Sunak. In particular, he and the head of the European Commission Ursula von der Leyen resolved the contentious issue of the trade status of Northern Ireland, because of which they sued each other after the kingdom’s withdrawal from the union.

After the NATO summit in Washington on July 9-11, Starmer said that “Britain belongs on the world stage” and that he was “determined to reset our relationship with Europe.”

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[ronsenburg]

love the little notes I leave for myself on my wips:

[hedreamtofhorses]

in june of 2019 i had a bilateral mastectomy as a cancer preventative. as a woman though we are told to define ourselves by our breasts. breasts are sexualized, and is often how others define our sexiness. i’ve been having to redefine sexy for myself, and rediscover my sexuality. i’m on a mission to show that even after a mastectomy women are sexy, and powerful in their sexuality. i’m not sure how to do that yet, but i’m hoping to start a discussion.

[humanmorph]

guy who only listens to friends at the table watching the severance s2 teaser :wow they used the song that's referenced in the PAL19 episode description. bold choice

[fyanimaldiversity]

Both here and on my other blog (one-weird-mammal-a-day) I love all the specific fandom or OC comments and tags on things I know nothing about, I rarely look up what these mean because I’m busy (doing nothing) and trust that it somehow applies to them. Glad you are having fun! Sometimes the if the tag is intriguing or repeated enough I take a peek. When I do understand without any help I feel special, gold star for me.

[northern-spies]

Any Americans who don't think the threats to ban contraception are legitimate need to learn about Decree 770, which banned abortion and contraception in Romania in nearly all circumstances between 1967 and 1989. The Ceaușescu episodes of Behind the Bastards touch on it for a start.

[downtherabbitholewithlucy]

😑+😑+😑+😑+🤪= Limp Bizkit

[hoshikostar]

I thought you were supposed to hurt more after a laparoscopic surgery. So far the most painful bit has been me trying to clear my throat without using my diaphragm.

Maybe I'm just used to pain? I'm at a 1 or 2 and that's only when I do the initial action of standing or sitting.

There's a tiny stabbing pain every few hours for about 2 seconds about where I'd say the fallopian tubes USED to be, but that's really all.

Anyone else not have that much pain or is my tolerance just abnormally high? It's day 1 after surgery btw.

[fabioquartararhoe]

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[uniqueeval]

India, Brazil FMs may discuss crackdown on illegal migration during talks in Delhi this week

Brazilian Foreign Minister Mauro Vieira. File | Photo Credit: R.V. Moorthy The plight of hundreds of men and women, many of them Indian, who are stranded at an airport in Sao Paulo as they are suspected to be illegal immigrants, maybe discussed during meetings with Brazilian Foreign Minister Mauro Vieira, who landed in Delhi on Sunday. Mr. Vieira is in New Delhi to hold the 9th India-Brazil…

[sightoru]

Here is the child free friendly doctors list. the people on this list are compiled by other childfree people who do not want children. people submit doctors who did their sterilization regardless of age, children, or marital status.

here is a breakdown of how the ACA (affordable care act) works, and how it applies to sterilization. this is only for AFAB people however. vasectomies do not count. You cannot be charged for this surgery. No coinsurance, no deductible, nothing. my hospital originally wanted $4k from me. I told them to bill me and I'll discuss with my insurance. they might be pushy, and try to get you to pay for it ahead of time, but refuse and have them bill it.

If you are getting a bilateral salpingectomy (shortened: bisalp) (COMPLETE TUBAL REMOVAL not 'tubes tied', which is where they snip the tubes and tie them with clips [called a 'tubal ligation']) there is no possible way you can become pregnant. and it does not effect your hormones at all. im being so fr, do not let people say it effects your hormones, because theres no hormones in your tubes. those are carried in ur ovaries.

If you have a family history of reproductive cancer, a bisalp greatly reduces your risks of getting those cancers. insurance codes are CPT codes of either 58661 or 58670 and the ICD-10 code of Z30.2 you might have to plug both in and talk to insurance. if someone on the phone is an asshole to you, just hang up and try again with someone else. On the other side, I've been on plenty of birth control options. for 6 years I had a copper IUD. it does make your periods heavier, and crampier if you can stand that, but it has no hormones in it and it lasts 12 years.

[wink-wonk]

Work do be actively sapping my will to live this week and it truly is only wednesday

[cripplecharacters]

Facial Differences that You Should Consider Representing in Your Writing More

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As it has been said many times on this blog before, facial differences are a very wide spectrum - there’s thousands of conditions that cause it, and they’re often extremely different from each other! It’s an incredibly diverse category almost by definition. But…

In books, movies, and our inbox, it seems that a traumatic battle scar is the only facial difference that exists. I find this rather frustrating because I would like to see the real life diversity to be actually considered by writers when creating characters - and that’s exactly what this post is for. I hope that by making people just aware of the myriad of options they have, I can help a bit. 

This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t write characters with scars, it’s to say that there’s more for you to consider. Just like not every physically disabled person has hip dysplasia and not every neurodivergent person has epilepsy, not every person with a facial difference has scars! 

Of course, this list isn’t exhaustive - no such list exists, it would be like “list of every disability ever”, it simply can’t be done. This is just a dozen random facial differences that I would like to see incorporated into characters more often!

Facial paralysis Exactly what the name implies. There are many types of facial paralysis - complete, partial, bilateral, unilateral, chronic, acute, and it can affect the whole face, or only part of it.  Sometimes it can cause problems with speech or dry eyes (mostly the latter), but it’s frequently just primarily a visual difference. A person with facial paralysis might be completely unable to make facial expressions at all if it’s severe, or have a lop-sided smile and inability to raise an eyebrow or control an eyelid like me. Causes include cranial nerve damage (especially the 7th nerve, which is called facial palsy), Bell’s palsy, Möbius syndrome, or multiple sclerosis! It can be congenital, like in my case, or acquired, like in most cases - mostly due to stroke. Here I would write something about the current media representation being good, bad, or what tropes to look out for but I don’t know a single character with it. So :-)

Anotia/microtia Microtia is a congenital facial difference that affects the outer ear(s) - as the name implies, they’re smaller than average; anotia means a complete lack of them. This usually will also result in being d/Deaf or hard of hearing in that ear, as the ear canal can be smaller or closed (depending on the “grade”). People with microtia who decide on using hearing aids will usually wear a bone-anchored hearing aid, which looks very differently from the “regular” HA; it’s worn with a headband. Microtia can be the only facial difference that a person has, but it can also be a part of Goldenhar syndrome, Treacher Collins syndrome (mentioned below!), or hemifacial microsomia.

Congenital Trochlear Nerve palsy I have a subtype of this, and because it happens to have the most boring name in existence I have never seen anyone talk about it, certainly not see a character with it. So! CNIV palsy (again, an incredibly catchy name) is a disorder of one of the very-easy-to-damage nerves that allow eyes to move. It causes constant double vision, severe strabismus, and progressive facial asymmetry. A person with CNIV palsy will have a 24/7 head tilt to the side and will have their chin tucked in, which causes said asymmetry - facial features on the side of the tilt will sag down, the eye will “sunk” in, and because it’s congenital, the jaw can grow to be misaligned (like mine!). Over time, it causes neck pain and kyphosis, so add chronic pain to that. Trochlear nerve palsy can be congenital, acquired, traumatic, and even extremely rarely genetic (that’s me! allegedly <1 in a million). However, most acquired cases are only temporary, and “fix themselves” with the passage of time. Again, I would love to write something about CNIV palsy representation, but I’m fairy confident it doesn’t exist : )

Sturge-Weber syndrome The most visible part of SWS - that you might be familiar with - are port wine stains! In this syndrome, they tend to be large and generally cover the forehead-eye area. Around 15% of people with any kind of port wine stain on their face have Sturge-Weber syndrome, and even more when it comes to larger ones. Most people with SWS will have epilepsy since childhood, and many will develop glaucoma (which causes blindness) if the PWS is around that eye. Hemiparesis (one-sided weakness) can also sometimes happen on the opposite side of the PWS. Here is a short article about media representation from a person with SWS!

Cystic Hygroma Also known as lymphangioma, it is a bump that mostly happens on a person’s lower face and/or neck. It’s almost always congenital and a result of a blockage in the lymphatic system (thus lymphangioma). Sometimes, if it affects the mouth or jaw, it may cause a speech disability where the person’s speech might not be fully understandable, or cause an airway obstruction; this generally means that the person has to have a trach tube in their neck to breathe. Here is a short article about living and growing up with cystic hygroma by Atholl Mills!

Congenital melanocytic nevus A complicated name for a specific kind of birthmark! Melanocytic means related to melanin, so it’s a black or brown birthmark that can show up on any part of the body and be of almost any size. Sometimes it can be hairy as well. While CMN doesn’t usually cause any problems, people who have it have a higher risk of skin cancer, epilepsy, and brain tumors. Here is a short article on representation - among other things - by a person with CMN!

Ptosis Ptosis is actually really common - I can almost guarantee that you have seen someone with it - but for some reason it never shows up in media, unless it’s to show that a character is under the influence or vaguely creepy. Ptosis is simply a drooped eyelid. It’s caused by damage to the third cranial nerve, which can be congenital, acquired, traumatic, etc. It’s very common in myasthenia gravis and CHARGE syndrome. In most cases ptosis is a visual thing, but it can sometimes cause problems - for me, it partially obstructs my vision and for some people who acquired it later in life that can cause pain (due to having to constantly lift the eyebrow). Ptosis is often misunderstood, and people tend to make bizarre assumptions about those of us who have it - even Wikipedia cites “looking sinister” as a symptom (not that I particularly trust Wikipedia as a source, but it shows the general public’s view quite well). In real life, we are normal people and all these “drunk/high/rude/evil” associations aren’t true at all.

Treacher Collins syndrome You have probably seen a person with TCS at some point, as it’s not that rare. This is a genetic, congenital disability that affects the development of the face. The bones of the jaw and cheeks are underdeveloped, eyes have a downturned shape, and microtia/anotia is often present as well. A lot of people with Treacher Collins are d/Deaf or hard of hearing. Sometimes, the small jaw might cause problems with breathing, which is why a lot of people with TCS will have a permanent tracheostomy tube in their neck. Similar to ptosis, eyes in TCS are often seen as “looking sad”, but that’s an incorrect assumption - that’s just how they look like. The main and only big representation of TCS in media is that one awful movie from a few years ago, that was literally just inspiration porn featuring an able-bodied actor based on a shitty book, made by an author with some sort of abled-person guilt. Very cool, don’t do that.

Crouzon syndrome Crouzon syndrome is a type of craniosynostosis; a congenital condition where a person’s skull fuses too early. There are other disabilities that can look somewhat similar, like Pfeiffer or Apert syndrome, but they are different!  CS will affect the person's skull - it will be taller than usual, eyes - they will be large and bulging, midface - it's often smaller than average and can look sunk in comparison to the jaw and forehead, and more! Sometimes people with Crouzon syndrome are d/Deaf or hard of hearing (very common with craniofacial differences), or experience long term effects of hydrocephalus, which happens fairly often. Here is a short article by Mikaela Moody about movie representation - and her piece on how it to be trans while having a facial difference, which I relate to a lot and wanted to share:-)

Phthisis bulbi Phthisis bulbi is something that I have mentioned on this blog before, as it logistically should be represented way more often in fiction than it currently is. It's also known as the “end-stage eye” which is a pretty metal name. This is an ocular difference that can result after trauma to the eye. It can also result from a million other things, but trauma is apparently the most common thing to happen to an eye in fiction, so. With phthisis bulbi, the eye shrinks, sinks, and everything inside becomes stiff; this is permanent, and the eye isn't functional anymore - it's blind and unable to move. The only treatment is to have the eye removed, especially if it causes pain. If you're writing a character who got a Hot Sexy Scar over their eye and still has that eye, they probably should have this (and yes, the “shrunk and sunk” part is mandatory, you can't just make the eye lighter and call it a day).

Frontonasal dysplasia Frontonasal dysplasia is a congenital facial difference that affects the structure of the face. While it's a spectrum with a lot of variety, most people with FND will have hypertelorism (eyes spread widely apart), a flat and broad nose, and a cleft going through the middle of the nose. Other facial clefts (not necessarily just cleft lip) are also common. Sometimes, someone with it can also have cranium bifidum (meaning a brain/meninges that protrude through the skull, similar to how spina bifida works), or intellectual disability related to the potential absence of corpus callosum. Rarely, limb differences can also be a part of it; absent tibia, extra toes, or clubfoot. Again, I’m unaware of any representation of FND outside of “scary birth deformity” on medical shows :--)

Parry–Romberg syndrome PRS is also known as progressive hemifacial atrophy, which is a much more descriptive name. It’s an acquired facial difference that people just get for unknown reasons, mostly before the age of 20 and usually between 5 and 15. Generally, PRS is considered to be slowly-progressing, but this can vary pretty widely between different people. As the name implies, it causes atrophy in the face, which affects everything from skin to fat and muscles to sometimes even bones. Some people will also experience skin darkening, alopecia (hair loss), or trigeminal neuralgia (very severe nerve pain) on the atrophied side. The difference between the two sides can be very pronounced, with a visible line between the halves showing up on the forehead. Again, no existing rep that I know of :-)

And as always, I recommend this short PDF that in my opinion any writer who wants to include a character with an FD has to read. Additionally, you can also check our #face difference tag, this primer on facial difference, or this piece on making sure you’re not contributing to disfiguremisia.

Also apologies for the amount of “idk what to say about already existing rep because it literally doesn’t exist afaik” but I hope it illustrates the problem :-)

Happy Face Equality Week!

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