#been doing chores a lot nd

[faggy-mutt]

need to be a cute little malewife househusband for someone w no responsibilities but doing household chores nd being pretty all day :(

getting used for stress relief when my spouse gets home after a long workday, just a little toy for them to use nd throw about to let off steam ,,,

maybe on some days I've done an especially good job nd they reward me w kisses nd praise while they're fucking into me, slow nd deep until they cum inside. we could fall asleep together like that nd I'd wake up the next day, satisfied nd dripping w their load

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NEED :(

[the-s1lly-corner]

slashers x autistic!fem!reader hcs if you're comfy with that!!! (idrc about the rest but please let jason and thomas be there 🙏)

Jason and Thomas x autistic!fem!reader

grrrgrr trying to speedrun writing so i can go work on other stuff but my fingers keep either going stiff or simply not following what i want to write raaaaah!! i used to be able to write like, 5-8 posts back to back but it seems currently im limited to 2 or 3 hisshiss notes: reader is fem, a lot of this is based around the admins experiences as an afab with autism, admins experience does not reflect everyones experience, something something admin headcanons both characters are on the spectrum albeit undiagnosed and likely unaware that theyre ND cws: mentioned bullying and/or ableism

JASON

doesnt mind your needs, and hes more than welcome to accommodate you and make living here with him easier for you

need your own space so you can unwind? hes already on it, just be sure to let him know if you need anything! need something to keep excess noise out, or to perhaps play music? he might be able to find a pair of headphones somewhere! can only eat certain foods due to sensory issues? hes sure he can find a way to help you!

if you ever open up to him about your struggles prior to moving in with him, hes going to feel for you... not only because hes reeling from the idea that anyone could treat you so poorly for trying to function the way the way thats best for you.. but also because he finds himself relating heavily to you-

actually him tending to you and your needs has him realizing that he hasnt really been tending to his own.. hes mostly been doing the basic "eat sleep clean repeat" cycle before you came around... he would just power through whatever else was bothering him

you both take care of each other, and in your case you help him find what works for him and what doesnt

if you ever mention any of his interests hes going to remember everything you tell him... and if it happens to be a media hes going to light up if he ever sees a camper sporting some merch for it... definitely going to yoink that to give you later

THOMAS

does his very best to make things easier for you, even helping you change up your room to better suit your needs

he doesnt really talk, but if you have an interest you want to ramble about hes going to let you talk for as long as you want! depending on what work he needs to do that day he might let you talk as he does his chores!

doesnt know anything about neurodivergency but hes willing to let you guide him so he can understand, you... may raise some internal suspicions in him that he may not totally be neurotypical

similar to jason you may end up helping him find what he doesnt like and does like, stuff that hes been ignoring and pushing to the back of his mind for the sake of keeping things running and doing what hes told

your room becomes a quiet space for the two of you to retreat to during the day to let your walls down and relax before heading back out into the world

[schrodinger-swriter]

Hello there! Would you maybe consider writing a Sir Pentious x an autistic nonbinary reader? There aren't many fics for people like me and I've been really loving Sir Pentious recently so it'd mean a lot! Thanks! <:]

Sir Pentious x Autistic!Nonbinary!Reader

Typically I don't do much with gender descriptors for my writing, as a lot of it turns out to be GN anyway... however given that Pentious is from a time before gender labels were well known and given that he likely didn't interact much with people asides from trying to climb to power.. I think I can do something with the idea albeit briefly! I may or may not have used my own experiences for this post aha, apologies!

I hope you enjoy, Anon! C:

He's a little confused on your label, but as soon as you explain it to him he's understanding! It takes him a while, but he does get your pronouns down without much issue. He also tends to correct anyone who uses the wrong ones. Though this may cause a scene due to Pentious being rather... pushy that you are treated with the respect you deserve. I've mentioned it in the period post, but he would try to get as much information as he can on the topic so he can understand it as best as he can. Whether it be from you or from doing his own research!

Speaking of research, he does the same when you open up to him about being on the spectrum. Admittedly, I can see Pentious also being ND however that's a personal headcanon.. ND but undiagnosed, and not really suspecting it. He is simply. Existing.

If you have any interests you are very passionate about, he's going to do his best to match your energy! He's going to attempt to get into it, or even ask you to experience it with him, if possible! Be it media or a hobby, he's going to try to dip his toes... tail... into it! Even if he doesn't much care for it he's going to let you ramble about it to him and he's going to give you your full attention.

Do you stim? Or have some form of self regulation that is perceived a ritual? He's not going to bat an eye! Just as long as it's not harming you or anyone else, he sees little to no reason to try to find an alternative.

Feeling burnt out? He's going to try to make things easier. Not that he wasn't already attempting that by taking care of you. Actually, in general he wants to take care of you and spoil you. Pentious has a lot of love and he hasn't had much place to put it since he's arrived in Hell. He's going to keep on top of chores, so you don't have to worry about that if you're feeling too worn out or overwhelmed. Forgot to eat? He can whip you up something! Speaking of food, he tries to master your comfort/safe foods so he can make them with no problem! If it's a pre-made snack, such as chips, he tries to keep them on hand.

[allastoredeer]

I read the new chapter of Holy Suffering as soon as it came out and I love the way u write Lucifer. For the past few days I have been reading Radio apple fanfic and I hate how lucifer is portrayed in most of them, shy , innocent with Alastor after the fight, and kinda out of character for the both of them, cause they suddenly like each other, and I don’t see it in them. They like to piss each other off, that’s the whole ship point.

Ur Lucifer is so sassy, Hits all the Good Characterization checks in my brain, he’s such a delight to read, same for Alastor. U had me going speechless most of the time Alastor spoke, cause I honestly didn’t know what he was gonna say next. Writing Alastor it’s probably hard, cause he is misterious and always hides his emotions but You totally nailed it. Right now he is probably angry at Lucifer cause he ratted him out lol

Al be like the audacity of this man after he forced him to do this.🙄

Anywhizzle I just wanted to ask, for the overload meeting, is Charlie gonna send Lucifer with Alastor? Maybe as a snake or something, to make sure is he okay. Cause she really sounded mortified that she didn’t notice that Alastor was suffering and man Al definitely didn’t like that, but it’s not like he can say no to Charlie so

A nd is there like a schedule for next updates? I am really invested in this story and I honestly can’t wait to read more of it.

Thank you ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ Hahah Lucifer's got bite to him, for sure. He doesn't come off as the shy type to me. Awkward as hell, certainly. In the throes of depression, absolutely. And he cares about Charlie's opinion of him to a fault. But when it comes to someone throwing their weight around--or, more accurately, getting involved with Charlie (cough Alastor helping Charlie with the hotel, couch Adam fighting/hurting Charlie cough) he isn't afraid of getting his hands dirty.

Alastor is hard to write ಥ_ಥ I love him so much, but sometimes, I want to cut open his head and properly study his brain because f;knslnjsbj out of all the characters, he's the hardest for me to pin down, in terms of both dialogue and actions. He has such a way of talking, and such a distinct voice (his radio filter) that it's simultaneously easy to imagine his voice, but hard to put it to dialogue. So, I really appreciate hearing that I nailed it (;´༎ຶД༎ຶ`) Seriously, it's so appreciated to hear.

Nah, Alastor is going to be going to that one alone :3 It's going to be set in his POV, so we'll get some insight in his thoughts on the whole thing, and how he's handling his current affliction. I'm both excited to and nervous to get into it, because writing him in someone else's POV is hard, so writing him in his OWN POV is a little intimidating, but I'm mostly excited. I have a lot of thoughts for this series, and it's gonna be fun to explore them.

As for a schedule, I used to try to keep myself to one, and I've found that I have both a love/hate relationship with it. One the one hand, keeping a writing schedule is nice because it gives me a clear view of what I want to work on and an goal date to get it done, which is very nice for my ADHD brain.

BUT, on the other hand, when I start putting that pressure on myself to get it down, and I fail to actually reach that goal, it hits me pretty hard and it can take away my motivation and joy in writing the fic. It starts to feel more like a chore than a fun hobby I can do in my downtime.

Thankfully, I am DEEP in Hazbin Hotel hyperfixation, and the amazing feedback I've gotten from my fic's is certainly fueling my motivation. So thanks to everyone leaving kudos and comments! It's seriously so helpful and I cherish ever single one of them.

If I had to give an estimate for when the next installment of the series will drop, I'd say either at the end of this week, or the beginning/middle of next week. I have an unrelated AppleRadio one-shot I want to bust out before I work on the next installment, and that one I'm going to try and post by Thursday or Friday.

To quote out favorite Radio Demon,

~Stay Tuned

[writefightandflightclub]

Santi +/x AuDHD!reader headcanons

(could be platonic or romantic - but written as not co-habiting)

Author’s note: maybe this is too niche, idk, but sometimes I like to think about the blorbos and how they’d interact with an AuDHD reader (because that’s me, so for obvious reasons). I headcanon that Santi is particularly compatible with a neurodivergent reader, maybe because I’m being self-indulgent… but also because why on earth would he not be? So here are a few poorly written / cobbled together thoughts which have been rattling around in my brain.

PLEASE NOTE: These are written in as general a way as I could manage (which may make it slightly less fulfilling, sorry, as it’s therefore lost specificity) but please note: since everyone who is AuDHD is so completely and vastly different, I couldn’t possibly have made this “fit” everyone’s experiences. Sorry if there are things you don’t relate to, but I tried to include a few more common experiences in there so hopefully there’s at least something.

Also! If you have any hcs of your own (for any Oscar/Pedro characters) PLEASE share them because I want more ND!reader content out there! 😀🧡 (Will also consider ND!reader requests if you have them, provided I think I can do it justice!)

Warnings: brief mention of panic attacks / anxiety (Santi). Geared towards ways that Santi helps reader out - that’s where my head was at, so it is what it is. Broadly neuro-affirming, I’m not putting anyone down for any traits ofc, even if they do cause challenges sometimes! Hope that makes sense!

Santi is so organised and tidy. He can make a plan and execute it with great attention to detail (have you seen that storage locker?!). If you struggle to stay organised and keep the house tidy etc., Santiago will have no issue helping you out, whether it’s coming up with a routine, creating a system, or simply doing a quick blitz anytime he’s over at your house. He finds it sorta therapeutic anyway, and you never feel like he’s doing it because he judges you or the condition of your place. It’s just wired into him to find order. Hell, sometimes if you lose something around the place you call him to see if HE can remember where he last saw it, and usually he can. That military routine never really left him, even all those years later, so he’s a great constant for modelling structure!

Santi will FaceTime you to body-double whatever chores you want to complete. For example; you have a Wednesday evening tradition to call each other while you each fold the laundry, or do whatever else you need to get done. You do get things done, and he makes you laugh the whole time too. He sticks to this routine as much as he can, no matter what else he has going on, or which country he is in. He loves this quality time with you, and to him it’s just a bonus that it helps you out.

Running late to meet him? He’s learned to bring a book and a flask of coffee along. He’ll wait, you’re worth it.

Sensitive to noise? Santi can’t relate fully, but he knows what it’s like for some sounds to instil negative effects. (See how this veteran is feeling around the fireworks at 4th July and you’ll get it.) He will respect your need for quiet when you need it. Besides, he’s slowed down a lot since his younger years and more and more enjoys the little things like curling up and reading a book. That said, if you want some stimulation and fancy hitting a dive bar with blasting music, or wanna dance in the kitchen, he can also be convinced. He has the range to accommodate all of your sensory preferences, your routines and your impulsive ideas, and he’ll gladly follow your flow.

He’s a magician at regulating you. This man is observant and can read people like nobody’s business, so he knows when you’re getting overstimulated or overwhelmed - often before anyone else does. When he sees it happen he’s happy to help you calm your nervous system however you need. Whether that’s a soft / firm hug, distracting you by talking to you in his soothing voice, working-out with you, letting you fidget with him - his hands, bracelets, whatever - or borrowing a texture of his, like playing with his soft curls.

Better believe this guy sends you texts throughout the day to check that you’ve eaten / drank water.

If you’re running late to an appointment and he’s free he will 100% drive you.

He loves to cook and always “accidentally” makes extra, so that you always have a stock of tasty “emergency” meals in your freezer for days when you don’t have the energy / functioning to cook.

Don’t wanna make the phone call? Santi will do it for you. Besides, he can charm the socks off of anyone so it’s probably best he deals with it anyway.

Santi is charming but he also has the ability to be straight down the line in his communication, especially with you as he trusts you so much. That means you rarely have to guess what he’s thinking or feeling about any particular thing. He lays it out for you and that’s super helpful. Of course, he can be closed off about his more complex, deeper emotions, but that’s something you seem to bring out of him - at least, in ways that no-one else has managed. You’ve had plenty of deep heart-to-hearts with the man and you know you can count on each other in a pinch, whether you need comfort or to vent about something you have going on.

Santi experiences panic attacks and anxiety and can relate to some of the ways you also struggle. He gets that people’s brains work in different ways and he’s far from judgemental about that. You’ve never once made him feel lesser when he’s been struggling and he will NEVER do that to you either.

Your sense of humour cracks him up no end.

He loves that you can be “blunt” / direct / a little “too honest”. He always knows where he stands with you, and for someone as (secretly) insecure as Santi that’s no small thing.

If you indicate you are burnt-out… he BELIEVES you. No questions asked - except for what you need, of course.

Forgotten something? Santi has started carrying spares. This man is nothing if not prepared, and now that simply extends to you. Whatever day-to-day items you carry (or often lose) he makes a mental note of the item and brand and buys multiple - for his place, his truck, wherever.

This man has social skills galore, so you can lean on him at parties, or in whatever situation if you’re feeling uncomfy or want a “way in” to a conversation. You can even leave him to do all the talking if you like, though of course he will enable you to have the floor if he can see that you want it. On the flip side, if you talk a lot, he is absolutely listening and rapt with whatever you are coming out with.

Don’t always look him in the eye? That’s okay. The man is so beautiful he’s used to people not being able to stare directly at him 😝 Besides, he finds you and your mannerisms completely charming.

He’s deadly, sure, but overall he’s actually quite a calm and not hugely reactive person - especially in a crisis. That can be so helpful in balancing you out on some occasions where you may react in a heightened way, or be emotional or worried / catastrophising about something. Despite his ability to skip town at the drop of a hat - before deciding to stick around - he does have the ability to be pretty steady and stable and sometimes that’s what you need.

He appreciates you and everything you do for him. He helps you out sometimes but you never feel “in his debt”. He is endlessly praising all of your amazing strengths and attributes (amidst some fond teasing ofc) and appreciates all that you are as well as all you do for him, and he couldn’t ask for a better person to have in his corner.

[wulfums]

Based on the last post, it of Course isnt just Whatwulf helping Allan. Whatwulf struggles with constantly fearing things and others and being worried.

He can always ask Allan if he's mad at him. Allan makes a point to never be annoyed no matter how many times Whatwulf asks. He knows that WW feeling like this isnt really based on like...anything. He feels like this all the time with Everyone. But Allan has noticed Whatwulf has been asking a lot less lately. He notices small things like that and it makes him smile when he does. Little things like that let him know Whatwulf is doing better and feeling good.

Allan does genuinely get annoyed with Whatwulf's memory issues occasionally, and early on in the relationship has said some rude things (and even Now, if he's having a really bad day, and Whatwulf forgot somth important, he might get snippy. But he tries not to.). But he always reminds himself that Whatwulf isnt doing this because hes lazy. Hes not doing it because he doesnt care. This is just how his brain works. Its one of the things WW is most insecure about so when Allan does get annoyed about it, it hurts Whatwulf a lot. I feel like Allan realizes and apologizes right away, and they talk about it later. And he really means it. He makes sure his apologies mean something. Sometimes if its too hard to say, he will leave Whatwulf a little note (With Whatwulfs fav candy taped to it.) apologizing. It means a lot and reassures Whatwulf that Allan wasnt mad at him, and WW didnt do anything wrong.

Allan helps Whatwulf with some things relating to this. He's in charge of refilling Whatwulf's medications. He goes to the same pharmacy for himself, so taking this one thing off of Whatwulf's plate will help him focus on remembering other things. He reminds Whatwulf to write down money things in a ledger to keep track of budget. He encourages him to leave post it notes around. They have a whiteboard in the apartment so Whatwulf can remember what chores hes done today or whose turn it is to do something.

They do have fights sometimes and arguments. Everyone does. Sometimes it is one of them being insensitive or snippy abt the other's ND issues. I think the first couple of times it was rough because Whatwulf convinces himself "Well, guess its all over. I fucked this up." and Allan is the kind of person to hold onto a grudge and bring it up at random during arguments.

So Whatwulf brought Allan into one of his therapy sessions to talk about this specifically. It was just one session, since this was a therapist not a relationship counseler.

So they just always remember....they can always talk these things out. And the more they do it, the easier it gets. Now, they're able to both stop themselves before snapping. Whatwulf will use his DBT skills and Allan will do some grounding excersizes before they continue doing the stressful thing.

One of the biggest things is that Whatwulf never has to assume Allan isnt being honest. He is. Always. Hes just like that. He feels relaxed around him for that reason. Both of them say what they mean and its so freeing. They dont have to follow NT Society Rules around each other. Theyve established their own "house rules" that absolutely work perfect for them.

One of the biggest moments for them was related to Whatwulf's PTSD. Sometimes, Whatwulf struggles with showers due to PTSD. The water just...feels like hands (I Will Not Elaborate, IYKYK) and it makes it hard. Allan offers to stand guard at the bathroom door until Whatwulf is done. They were also waiting for pizza. While Whatwulf was in the shower, he heard the doorbell ring. He wasn't done yet and took a bit more time. He expected Allan to have gone to grab the pizza- he hates when it gets cold. But no, Allan was right there. Exactly where he said he would be. Guarding Whatwulf. That was a very emotional pizza night.

[devildom-moss]

hiii! i just saw your requests are open and imagine my excitement!! bcs aaa i rlly really love your writings💕💕theyre such a treat to read, the shenanigans and character interactions are so captivatingly written that i am: Smitten

could i req: a short platonic fic where luke teaches you (gn!mc), a chronic instant noodles eater++kitchen-illiterate person, how to cook?

i think it wud be a funny sight for the rest of purgatory hall getting to see this lil angel easily navigate a stove/handles a knife while the actual adult is struggling not to mix sugar nd salt (also ik he mostly bakes but im of the mind that canon was meant to be ignored HAHA and besides theres not enough fics of luke gettin to be mc's guardian angel)

please tag me @diodellet too, thank you (not to rush u or anyth, by all means take your time to work your magic, writing words gets hard smtimes) 💕💕💕i hope you have a wonderful day and remember to hydrate!!

Thank you so much! That’s so sweet! I hope you’ll like it. I'm sorry that it got a little (or a lot) longer than I intended, but it was a really cute idea. @diodellet

Luke teaching a kitchen-illiterate gn!MC to cook

“You know, MC,” Simeon mused, handing you a sandwich, “I’d like to try your home cooking someday.”

The members of Purgatory Hall had invited you to a picnic – Simeon and Luke prepared all the food. Solomon offered to help them, but Simeon insisted that since it was Luke’s idea to have a picnic that day, Luke should be responsible for the cooking. However, as Luke’s guardian, Simeon had to be there to help. Usually, Luke would have protested being treated like a child, but if it got Solomon out of the kitchen, he’d tolerate it.

“Yeah, good luck with that,” Solomon laughed.

“What’s so funny?” Raphael asked.

“MC doesn’t cook,” Solomon informed everyone on your behalf.

“What?” Luke was shocked. “Why not? What do you do when it’s your day to cook? I thought you and those demons split the chores up.”

“I usually just order out or get some of those pre-made meals. Honestly, we eat a lot of instant food when I’m on cooking duty. I can’t really do much without ruining the food.”

“You’re joking, right?” Simeon chuckled, but when you failed to laugh along, his face stiffened up. “Right?”

“Nope, they’re completely lost in the kitchen. Asmo told me that he tried to teach them how to make an omelet and everything inside was undercooked and cut into huge, uneven chunks. They even burned the eggs,” Solomon told on you.

“Oh, you’re one to insult someone’s cooking.” You narrowed your eyes at him before turning back to the bewildered angels. “But he’s right. I’m pretty incompetent in the kitchen. No one ever really taught me, and they’re not usually patient enough for me to learn.”

“That’s unacceptable, MC!” Luke shouted. “You need to be able to cook. What if you get sick from poor nutrition? Besides, cooking is fun. I’ll teach you.”

“Luke, you don’t have to do that. That sounds like it will be a lot of trouble for you.” You declined his offer, worried that he was simply pitying you.

“Nonsense! I insist! If you don’t learn, I’ll always be worried about you eating right or getting hurt in the kitchen. Just come for one lesson. If you hate it, we’ll figure something else out. Please?”

“Okay,” you admitted defeat. “Thank you, Luke.”

“Good.” Luke grinned. “Come to Purgatory Hall tomorrow afternoon.”

Simeon greeted you at the door that afternoon, a bright smile on his face. “I’m so glad you’re here. Luke has been up since early morning getting ready for your arrival.”

“Simeon!” Luke shouted at him, flushed with embarrassment. “It wasn’t that early. Come in, MC. Raphael made you an apron last night, so he’s still asleep.”

You put on the well-made and rather adorable apron and followed Luke to the kitchen. Jars of spices and nearly a dozen fruits and vegetables were set out on the counter. Luke went through the trouble of picking out produce that he had seen you eat before and ones that weren’t especially difficult to prepare or handle.

“Uhm, so,” you drew out the “o” sound while you scrambled to figure out what he had planned, but you were at a loss. “What are we making today?”

“Take a guess.”

“Salad?” you responded, uncertain of your guess.

“No – but that would have been a good beginner meal, too. We’re making soup – well, actually, curry.” Luke beamed at you, quite proud of his choice. “Curry is highly customizable. We can make it mild or spicy to suit your tastes, we can make it vegan or vegetarian, and you can change up the ingredients with the seasons. And there’s nothing more comforting and loving than making soup for yourself and those you care about.”

“Is curry a soup?” you questioned him.

“Well, let’s not get into that.” Simeon laughed awkwardly. He turned to Luke and pat him on the head gently. “I’m leaving MC in your hands, Luke. Be a good little teacher and call me over if you need help with anything.”

“Simeon! I’ve got this,” Luke whined and began pushing Simeon out of the kitchen from behind. Simeon waved goodbye to you during his forceful expulsion.

You put your hand to your mouth to prevent yourself from laughing or cracking a smile at how cute they were. When Luke returned guardian-less he symbolically dusted his hands off and instructed, “okay, we both need to wash our hands before we start cooking. Then we’ll wash all the produce you want to use.”

“Yessir,” you saluted him in jest before following orders. With clean hands, you perused the options.

Among other ingredients, there were two varieties of Devildom mushrooms, peppers, potatoes, revelation tomatoes, ghost pumpkin, and putrid pineapple. Your eyes landed on a deep red stalk. You picked it up. “What’s this one, Luke, some kind of Devildom celery?”

Luke blinked at you in amazement. “That’s rhubarb. It’s a human world vegetable. Solomon decided to grow some.”

“O-oh,” you set it down, embarrassed and half-expecting Luke to laugh.

“That’s okay. It does fit in with Devildom fruit and vegetables, doesn’t it?” Luke smiled at you innocently.

“I guess so. How many fruits and vegetables should I pick?”

“A couple. Add what you think will taste good. I’ll let you know if you make any awful choices, but I trust you.”

Something about his confidence in the face of your absolute lack of skill was comforting – like it was unlikely that you would fail, and if you might, he’d guide you away from a Solomon-level disaster. You grabbed the ghost pumpkin, chickpeas, red peppers, and a Devildom variety of chili pepper. “Is this okay?”

“Yeah, that will be great.”

“Is there anything you want to add, Luke?”

“Let’s add some revelation tomatoes! Barbatos brought these over just yesterday and they look amazing. We should add garlic and shallots or onions, too. Those are usually a given in curry, though.”

“I’m learning already,” you smiled through your words.

Luke watched over you diligently. After showing you the proper technique, he kept an eye out as you minced the garlic and shallots. He even corrected your hand position before he let you cut anything, ensuring that your fingers were curled or at least out of the way. It was adorable to hear him call the curled hand position the “cat paw.” In its own way, it was also pretty cute to watch a little angel holding a big knife. When you finished cutting up your half of the roasted pumpkin a good minute after Luke had finished his, it looked disappointing. Although, to be fair, Simeon and Solomon popping their head out from the hall to get a peak into the kitchen was a bit distracting.

“It’s kind of a mess compared to yours,” you noted, sheepishly.

“That’s okay.” Luke grinned and scooped your pumpkin pieces into the bowl with his. “They’re all about the same size, and there’s no seeds on them. They’ll cook up fine, and once they’re in the curry, no one will notice if they weren’t cut up that nicely as long as the food tastes good.”

You were taken aback by his optimism and sweetness – and so was whoever took a sharp inhale from the living room.

You and Luke were halfway through cutting the peppers and the aromatics were already in the pot along with a roux – adjusted to your spice level – when Solomon entered the kitchen. “Mind if I help you out in here?”

“Oh, no thank you.” You shook your head and added the coconut milk into the pot as Luke had instructed. “Luke’s doing a great job teaching me.”

“I’m a great cook,” he lied, mostly to himself, “I’m sure I could teach you a thing or two.”

“They said ‘no,’ Solomon. We can do this ourselves.”

“Come on,” Solomon tried to persuade you both.

“I’m bonding with Luke, so no.”

That was enough to shut Solomon up. He couldn’t bring himself to come between yours and Luke’s bonding time. “Can we at least come in and watch?”

“’We?’” you questioned him.

“It’s so boring trying to watch from the living room. Simeon couldn’t see well when you accidentally turned on the back burner and wondered why the pot hadn’t heated up after 5 minutes. It was really funny.”

“Your stove is different than the one at the House of Lamentation, you rude old wizard.”

“Come on, it was also really cute, MC.”

“As cute as one of your wizard staffs giving you a prostate exam?” You narrowed your eyes at him. Luke decided to tune out your fighting as he dumped the vegetables and chickpeas into the water.

“Maybe, but that’s a bit kinky to mention in front of Luke.” Solomon laughed and turned away. “Anyway, I’m going to get the others.”

“It was an insult you dirty old–” you started, but it was too late; he was already down the hall – and you didn’t actually have an insult on hand. Luke sighed and shook his head at you two. It wasn’t like he was above bickering, but no one should argue in a kitchen.

“While we have a minute, the last thing we need to cut up is the revelation tomato. We need to give it a secret, something good. I think we should both tell it a secret, what do you think, MC?”

“Okay. I’ll go first.” You looked at Luke’s adorable face as you took the tomato and made your choice. “Dear tomato, Luke is a really good teacher, and I’m glad he offered to teach me because I’m pretty useless in the kitchen. It’s usually embarrassing and pretty scary, but not when Luke is here to help. I’m really proud of him. And I know we’re not done with the dish yet, but I’m proud of myself, too – at least a bit.”

You handed the tomato to Luke. Sure, it wasn’t the juiciest of secrets, but you were happy with it. It felt right – like how the vegetables you picked out felt right or how the spices you added felt right. Luke stepped into the corner to whisper his secret to the tomato.

Luke had just finished telling the tomato his secret when Simeon, Raphael, and Solomon piled into the kitchen.

“So, how’s it going?” Simeon asked sweetly.

“MC’s doing a great job,” Luke bragged on your behalf while you focused on dicing the tomato. Whatever secret Luke had shared, the combination of both of your secrets had combined to make a perfectly juicy tomato that was fragrant and slightly sweet.

“Smells good,” Raphael commented.

“Thank you, Raph. And thank you for the apron. It’s cute.”

“No problem. I’m glad you didn’t cut any fingers off or get any blood on it.” Everyone ignored his grim comment. “You should take it home with you for when you cook for the brothers. I can always make you an apron specifically for here.”

“We could have matching aprons, MC!” Luke almost jumped with joy before restraining himself. He added, timidly, “Of course, that’s only if you want to have more cooking lessons.”

“I’d love to, Luke.”

You added the tomatoes into the pot, gave it a stir, turned the heat down, and added the lid on to allow the curry to simmer. Luke clapped his hands together and said, “Excellent. Lunch will be ready soon. I prepared some rice to go along with it.”

“When did you have time to do that?” you asked, stunned by what seemed to be the sudden appearance of a rice cooker on one of the counters. How had you not heard that going?

“While you were chopping vegetables.”

“Well, I’ll go set the table.” Simeon was reluctant to leave the precious sight of you and Luke in the kitchen. He never imagined you’d be so lost, nor did he imagine that Luke would make such an excellent teacher. Still, at least he would have the opportunity to see his favorite angel sorry Raphael and favorite human not sorry Solomon cooking together again.

“I’ll get some Demonus and some juice for Luke.” Raphael took his leave.

With every bowl filled, you stared around the table nervously. Who should take the first bite? What if it was awful? Confident, Luke dug in. You watched him carefully.

“This is good – if I do say so myself. You did a great job, MC.”

“It’s delicious,” Simeon added with a grin.

“Asmo would never believe that you made this,” Solomon offered his backhanded compliment. “I’m going to take a picture and share it on Devilgram. I should caption it ‘Thank you Luke and MC for making lunch.’”

“Good job, you two.” Raphael nodded.

“I couldn’t have done this without Luke.” All the praise was starting to get embarrassing, so you turned to Luke. “Thank you so much for teaching me.”

Luke was grinning from ear to ear. He could ace all his exams and he still wouldn’t feel prouder than he was now.

Bonus:

Luke’s secret:

“I’m so happy that I can finally help MC with something. They’re always helping me out, and I don’t get to repay the favor very often. I’m worried about them being alone, but if they can cook, that’s one less thing I have to worry about. I hope I can keep teaching them, and they’ll think of me as someone they can rely on.”

A/N: Sorry it took me so long to finally get to another request. I've been kind of out of it, and instead of committing to one request and finishing it, I started like 4 at once. I'll try to get on with the others soon, though.

[kayin-junn]

I'm sooo beyond exhausted and frustrated and sad

I blew my vocal.chords out screaming I fuckin nicked a deer in the dark hours of yesterday morning after bojangles git my order wrong ND I'd already wanted Luke 20 minutes cause they just opened while also having to go to the bathroom super bad and I had 2 dogs in the car with me that were getting antsy then I got to sleep for like 40 mins after eating then a lots of chores with lil rest or sitting brtween. then planning to drive 12 plus hours the between back and forth to see houses the next day a.k.a. today mind you I was running on like an hour and a half of sleep

I've been sleep deprived since last week and kris keeps having working opens andncloses (they close at 10 or midnigh and clopens they gotta be up at like 4 get done w my day til like 11pm on avg as I'm taking care of my mom and dogs and barely myself

I don't get to eat much and struggle to do so when i can cause of the adderall which means I've just been mostly running adderall and get super hungry in bed while trying to sleep or the adderall just keeps me up cause my docs has yet to send in the script for the stuff that's supposed to make me sleep and like actually hit rem sleep cause ofc when I do sleep my sleep issues make it so I never get fully rested

And on top of that while ot no longer functioned as a cell phone it had all my tasks and alrms and accs and stuff id just set funally got done setting up the other day. slipped under the couch and as I lifted the couch to grab it as 5he pop socket made it impossible to retrieve otherwise my grip and slipped it fell and cracked the screen so noowwww I can't use it hahahaahahahahshruehdbs9fhe8dve8cy28sy2872ywyydyw6ysghac:-^×*×&×;^÷;÷^&×$;×;;÷,2_#*

[iloveyou-writers]

Many things—this is the vent anon from earlier—in the last week ish, my parental has threatened to kick me out, but just to my other families, who I hate. Got mad and yelled at me for not doing something how they like it, not sitting how they like it, on a wooden seat; smacked me on the shoulder for throwing a small paperback book, by accident at a door; for me not saying anything as they drone and rant on at me, practically/implying I’m dumb/stupid since I’ve got nothing to say back, implying that I’m special for not being able to talk.

And on top of that they have also threatened to take my room, because I’m not keeping one specific place clean, as I am literally cleaning and organizing my room, which I literally had to ducking cry for. Not in the prissy way, I literally had told them multiple times, even on my BIRTHDAY that I wanted it. Just yeah.

and then my sibling who is literally a fraction of my age is starting to act more and more like my parental, which is fucking ridiculous. And even the sibling doesn’t even listen to me. Has never listened to me. Hates it when I question things, yells at me for it, hates me for trying to get them to bed on time. (Which has never ever ever happened, and nobody enforces it wellish but me) and I don’t have that authority because I am not their fucking parent. Obviously. But I have changed enough goddam diapers to be.

and and I have not had a single friend in 7 years, so I’ve got no one to talk with because my family is like some mine field and or like the game of thrones people because they all fucking gossip and rag on each other!

and that same parental has taken money from me for shit they didn’t need, that I was gonna use to get myself something nice, which I never do.

and now again they are taking even more money that I won to pay for reasonable things this time, bills etc, but still does not treat me reasonably, or take a reasonable amount of household chores. And always demands I do things. Doesn’t ever ask, just demands. And I brought this up. They selectively heard.

If I wanted to be ordered around and traumatized, I’d have fucking joined the stupid ass military.

OH and let’s not forget, they fucking threatened me with fucking therapy at the crappy ass hospital for the umpteenth time!

And I know I fucking need therapy but it sure as hell won’t be there. And they sure as hell need therapy too! Fucking probably subconsciously isolating myself+immediately family. Never moving on. probably some sort of codependent. Sure as hell fucking Parentified me as a child.

TW fire? I have literally seen my childhood home go up in flames! From next door with strangers. and I fucking saw the goddamn gurney rolling away with my only supports covered body on it. I have literally been questioned that day next day smh by cops.

I know I fucking need therapy but I have and will have literally no boundaries respected here and the only reason I stay is because of the mean sibling.

doesn’t help that I’m wondering if I am nd or just traumatized, and I want diff pronouns because I hate that the main three all have ‘he’, but my family is shit and old. And yeah. Not helpful that I am probably demi aro/ace+bi, but I don’t know because I am socially inept and a recluse to strangers. Oh! And they have us fucking pray before dinner and I want no fucking part of that nonsense shoved down my throat

don’t even get me started on the historical/generational trauma either

My life is shit, and what I love I get criticized for.

yeah that went pretty long. Whoops.

I literally did one impromptu therapy session and that was good. Wish I could go again and get another hug. probably need a lot of dpt too. I like my soul getting crushed into this vessel. Almost makes me feel loved. Unconditionally.

and I also want a pet. But no money+Sibling being scared of dogs for no apparent reason+no pet rule=no pet.

And the stupid I carried you so blah blah blah jokes.

I hate them. I didn’t choose to be alive to be born. She did. I fucking hate those jokes.

and when she says ‘we’ and means that I have to do whatever she fucking said that ‘we’ we’re gonna do.

oh and the phrase ‘I hope…’ fucking hates me too. Hope fucking hates me. Every time I’ve hoped. It’s been the end of the literal goddamn world, or some other kind of dumpster fire.

yay 😠😩🤕😞😞

I-

That's a lot. Sounds like your mother needs to learn about boundaries. Yes, our parents gave us live and raised us, but that doesn't mean that we don't deserve respect and love from them. And it doesn't sound like you're respected.

I'm so sorry to hear all of this. I'm glad I can give you a place to vent but that's simply not enough, not with all of that going on.

The fact that she's taking money from you alone is..... wow.

And it sounds like you're an adult? I hope you find a way to get away from all of that.

Here's a gif of me with my chinchilla; I hope it at least somewhat cheers you up:

Hang in there. Things will get better some day.

[bulldogblues]

There's a lot of misconceptions about what weaponized incompetence (WI) is, so here are a few examples of what's often considered WI when it really isn't.

A miscommunication between partners

A key hallmark of WI is that no matter how many times you have the conversation, the partner doing it will still 'not get it', will make little to no effort to improve, won't empathise with your point of view etc.

Because they never had any intention of doing better.

If you're in a relationship and believe your partner may be weaponizing incompetence, 100% have the conversation. Maybe it genuinely was a communication issue. But if it continues after that, that's the proof you need that it was WI all along.

A difference in standards

Contrary to popular belief, WI doesn't mean they have low standards - they might have low standards anyway, but that's not what WI is about. WI is about manipulating your partner into doing the task for you - so they do want it done, they just want someone else to be the one doing it.

They can claim not to care about the dirty dishes in the sink, and maybe they mean it, but that argument goes out the window the moment they insist on a clean plate and cutlery for dinner. Because that proves they DO care about them getting cleaned, they're just refusing to clean them.

Litmus test: to tell the difference between WI and low standards, don't pick up the slack for a bit and see how they react. If they truly have low standards and don't care, it'll be NBD to them. But if they comment on it or even have the audacity to criticise you...

A partner who explicitly tells you the chores are your responsibility

I've been keeping it gender-neutral until now because WI can be used by any gender against any gender, but this particular example will be about a man and a woman, because it's overwhelmingly done by men against women compared to other demographics.

A man who tells his partner that she's responsible for the housework/the childcare/etc. is NOT weaponizing incompetence. There is no claim whatsoever that he isn't capable of doing it - he simply feels it's her responsibility to do it and his entitlement not to have to.

This man is a sexist, entitled, awful human being, but he's being upfront about it. WI essentially combines the entitlement with manipulation and lies.

Someone who genuinely can't do or struggles with chores due to disability or neurodiversity

WI is all about FAKING incompetence. Being unable to do something, or having difficulty with it, is not the same.

An easy way to tell the difference is if someone is making an earnest effort to improve/find ways to come up with a solution that works/starts a conversation with their partner about how to handle it.

Someone can be ND and still weaponize incompetence, but most ND people are not doing this.

There are several other examples I could mention. But the key summary of what weaponized incompetence is comes down to this:

It's on purpose

They refuse to learn or improve and instead expect others to pick up the slack

They take no accountability

Conversations about it lead to no meaningful change

[cheswirls]

oh the woes of having multiple hobbies....

i think it being artfight month is making me sink back into the 'i shouldn't want to do anythin but draw until this is done' mood i usually have during the semester which is.. ick, kinda

the other day i had the urge to write (unmedicated too!! that doesn't happen very often anymore!) and i should've jus acted upon that but i ended up guilttripping myself w the whole 'you should do art instead its only 30 days its only once a year' which is already so suffocating. i ended up doing neither actually in part bc i psyched myself out abt making a choice so in the nd i made no choice (typical when unmedicated so this is the okay-ish norm tbh) and think i tired myself out enough to go to sleep. i woke up to an art file on my laptop so i intented to start smth i guess

also i think checking out an ipad from campus during the semester is so much easier to draw on vs the hassle that is drawing on my display tablet these days. i miss my wacom if only bc it was wireless and thin and easy to power on and get going. with this new tablet i have to plug in 3 diff cords and its bulkier nd i gotta scoot my laptop on my desk to still be in reach bc the tablet has no touch function and it takes A LOT of power and effort out of my laptop thats 12 yrs old now. it makes drawing digitally that much more of a chore tbh and is partially the reason i've doodled so much traditionally in the past year and kept all my digital art for uni work only

which another point. is uh. idk i think i'm rambling now but. last year i got super excited for artfight and drafted a bunch of stuff digitally and was sitting at the coffee table in the main room of my apt for the first time in so long and it was going well until i got rly into tetherverse again n started working on the sequel like mad and that stole away a lot of my drawing motivation. i had two handfuls of of artfight attacks sketched and only ever finished a SINGLE one last year which was terribly disappointing. and then i think realizing that at the end of the month absolutely killed my desire to work on the writing project i'd grown so passionate about too. vicious cycle all around rly.

i dont want it to be llike that this year but once again now that artfight is here even tho its a fun thing i've made it a "requirement" in my mind which kills all my passion to work on it. i think the term is... obligation? when something turns from doing it for fun into an obligation i Have to complete then i lose allllllll motivation and desire to do it. it's THEEE reason i'm always telling my dad i could never write books for a living, bc writing is a hobby first nd foremost and although i enjoy it a lot i know as soon as i become tied down to a project and i Have To complete it or face consequences then it will suck all the fun out of it

this is the same way for school and part of the reason uni's been so hard since.... ever, really, and it's jus taken me long to realise it. i get really into an art project at the start and then as deadlines and check-ins and such creep up i become less and less engaged. i have no trouble completing things in one sitting if given the time to do so if i'm 100% invested and engaged. during spring break 2022 i stayed up for almost three nights and two days and did nothing but research and write almost 25k for a fic opener. if i had work or anything else those days i literally cannot recall. the only thing i remember doing is taking a break to walk 15min to go and pay rent and that's when it rly set in how much caffeine i'd had and how long i'd been up writing.

all of that to say that if i'm into something i can waste away working until it's done. i've said this before bit making a wip folder for art Killed™ my art creating process. i used to have one file open and work on it until it was done, and if that took me more than one full day then i'd sleep on it and finish it the very next day. i don't rmember that happening very often. now i leave things unfinished all the time and its terrible. i also have a Lot Less free time to be fair but also. also. i cannot multitask so as soon as i save a wip and move on to the next it fucking bites the dust. i've gotten into the habit of leaving smth unfinished in another window on csp in hopes that i'll jump bck to it but i stopped that after a while bc i jus collect windows like i collect internet browser tabs.

i also think to go along w the time thing.. i have to mentally acknowledge that i have sufficient time to devote to smth. i'm not the type of person that can do smth for 15 min then jump up and do smth else. if i could write 100 words a day for a fic every day then i'd have far, far less wips than i do now. its harder especially to do this for fic bc a lot of what i do is longer work and sometimes i have to sink into it. if i'm writing for a 50k+ fic i haven't touched for even a month then i need time to go over what i have and what my plans are. it's much harder to work on a longer fic after a bit has passed than it is to pick up a shorter one bc it requires less time to dive back into the world. especially if its been like 6mo-1yr, before i even start writing again i gotta reread everything i've written up to that point. that takes more than a day, and i might get tired and move on to smth else before i've even finished rereading which is so exhausting. it's exhausting to work on so many diff things at once.

with art that means i gotta have time to fight w my display tablet and get everything settled. it takes so much work and effort that if i only have a couple hours, i feel like even that's not enough bc i know i'll have to stop before i'm done. if it takes me 90 minutes to get into drawing and i gotta be ready to leave in another 30 then like whats???? the point rly???? that's how i think tho!!!! it sucks !!!!! if i'm up at 8am but ik i have smth to do at 5p then my whole day revolves around that thing happening in 9 hrs. when it hits 12p i theoretically have enough time to do smth but executive dysfunction makes it hard to pick a singular task to prioritize, and when its 3hrs away from w/e i have to do suddenly nothing is worth it anymore. i'm very much a 'sink into it' creative person which means i cannot jus dive in and work on smth. i gotta have music, i gotta have some focus, i gotta be comfortable, i gotta have my mood set to w/e i'm doing, i gotta know what direction i'm going in,a nd i gotta have energy and enthusiasm to do said creative task. all of that aligning w/ inattentive adhd is so hard and makes life so miserable, but this is compounded even moreeeeeee by not being able to work unless i make my mind feel like i have ample time to do so. mainly bc if i get rly into smth then have to stop for an obligation that i'd rather do less (mainly work! rather would do anything but work but alas) than what i'm doing currently then it drains all my energy very rapidly and i get so disappointed. w/e i'm doing after, whether it be work or class or w/e, is with an air of such disdain bc it interrupted the 'special thing i was doing' that it makes life hell in all honesty. i want to put myself thru that the least amount of times possible which is why i never start anything i know i'll have to put down w/o being able to finish. let me rephrase that. being able to finish as i'd like it. working on a super long fic but writing enough for a chapter or running out of steam on my own and finishing a scene and then being dragged away to smth else is fine, bc i've "finished" on my end even if not in full. it's being interrupted in the middle of the process when i'm not ready to quit, basically. that kind of "finished" is what i mean. if i have 2 hrs and it takes me an hr to find references and i'm not exhausted after that then another 20m to sketch smth decent and only with like half an hr or so left am i into what i'm doing then what's the point?? especially when, as established, i can push a drawing into the wip folder and forget abt it if i'm no longer "into it" when i'm back and have time to draw again.

long rambling i'm tired of but basically it's the season of drawing obligations again and i wanna try this year to have fun and do what i want but ALSo not feel guilty abt doing smth that is not drawing for other ppl, which i already do so much of year round anyway (i love it, this is not a complaint). i wanna be able to write and play pkmn and read and do whatever and not feel like i Have to be artfighting every second of the day.

[cinnbar-bun]

hi hello sorry to bother you (ᗒᗣᗕ)՞ but i've been meaning to watch jjba but i watched s1 a few years back nd didnt really like it :< so i was wondering if you have any advice

You’re not bothering me at all, darling! Thank you for asking me 💖 First off, hey, don’t worry if you didn’t/don’t end up liking it! Jojo is definitely … bizarre and not everyone’s cup of tea. It’s not an easy thing to recommend because Jojo will throw lots of things at you and you just gotta accept it real quick.

My advice is honestly, just bear with Part 1 (Phantom Blood with Jonathan and Dio). I firmly believe Jojo gets better with every successive part and Part 1 doesn’t do the best job of delivering at first (deadass I think you could skip the episodes after Jonathan meets Zeppeli towards the final few episodes and miss nothing). I think Part 1 is one of those things that gets better/more appreciated on later rewatches, but it can be a slog the first time around. So don’t worry, it’s kind of a usual feeling for many (I know it took me about my third try before I finally finished and it clicked). Part 1 was the first part and Araki was just getting started, things eventually pick up speed.

The subsequent parts in Jojo also follow a different pattern or style, so if you don’t necessarily enjoy one of them, you might enjoy another! Part 2 is definitely more of an action packed adventure, Part 3 is a monster of the week story across the world, part 4 is a murder mystery, part 5 is a mafia export mission, part 6 is Orange is the new black, etc etc. You probably get the picture.

I can’t really force you to enjoy Jojo, but I can just say that it gets way better and more creative as it goes along. Getting past the first one or two parts can feel like a slog but I believe it’s worth it. And if you feel like it’s not something you can enjoy, then by all means, don’t continue! It’s meant to be fun, not a chore 😊💖 I hope this could somewhat help??

[jacepi-time]

But people have to bear in mind, some individuals are just that head empty. Its especially hard for some people who are neurodivergent especially who have ADHD to learn to pick up on clues of what someone wants. Because someone didn't pick up donuts or forgot to take out the trash doesn't mean that they're being willfully neglectful or that they don't care. A lot of times it just doesn't enter someone's mind that it would even be an option.

As someone ND I would have interpreted it to mean someone was texting me about craving something sweet but bemoaning that there's no treats in the house. A lot of times I will complain over a lack of a treat I want but I'm not asking someone to buy it for me, sometimes its a passing craving. If the text followed up with "can you pick some up on your way home" it would clarify the previous sentence, especially since that is still a standard way of asking someone for food. I might ask them if they want donuts if I were on a grocery trip but it might not pass my mind otherwise. I would feel bad about it afterward if they felt they were being neglected because of my obliviousness.

Neurodivergence is a spectrum and we can't assume everyone could pick up on these skills quickly. Sometimes it is the case of a husband being lazy and that is BAD, but it's in error to assume 1. This is mostly heterosexual couples problem and 2. That the partner is being intentionally malicious. I feel this is an issue that occurs in romantic relationships and platonic relationships like friends or roommates. Some people intentionally are lazy and ignore chores while others genuinely just don't see it. This is especially prevalent with those with ADHD who are often accused of being lazy or insensitive for similar reasons. As someone neurodivergent and memory issues I always need to be told to do chores to contribute with peers because I just will not see what needs to be done and its very difficult for me to see a full trash can and automatically think "I should throw this away." Not all brains work that way. Communication is important and yes people need to try to meet halfway but this applies to both sides of the relationship. If the wife was upset that he didn't get her donuts that's a valid emotion to feel but she should let her husband know what she meant so that in the future he would be aware of it. Not everyone is ignoring the signs to be abusive, a lot of times its genuinely difficult for some people to grasp. Someone can have so much love to give and show it in other ways but still forget to take the trash out. Its good to learn indirect cues but its by no means easy, for a lot of people it isn't something everyone on the spectrum can quickly grasp, its been years and I still can't fully despite my attempts, having so much trouble rise from this. The least someone can do if they know their friend or spouse is on the spectrum is to be more forgiving and understanding and make an effort to work together to find a manageable method to communicate. Everyone is different so we can't broad stroke solutions, but we can acknowledge both sides of the issue are validated in their frustrations and that a comfortable middle ground can be achieved.

I've seen a lot of "You have to communicate directly/don't expect other people to read your mind" posts going around tumblr lately and while I really do appreciate them because it's a skill a LOT of people need to work on, I do want to remind everyone to please meet people halfway sometimes.

I recently read a story on Reddit about a guy's pregnant wife texting him "I'm craving donuts but we don't have any in the house 😔" and he DIDN'T stop to pick up donuts on the way home from work. Everyone was taking his side because "she needs to communicate" and "he's not a mind reader" and "How was he supposed to know she wanted him to get donuts???" People, ffs, why on earth would she text him that while he was at work if not because she wanted him to get donuts? I was flabbergasted everyone was taking his side. "How was he supposed to know??" What? Like yeah it's true she didn't say "I want you to get me donuts" with those exact words in that exact order but the reason why people get upset if they hint they want you to do something and you don't do it is because they feel like you don't care about them and aren't actively thinking about their feelings. Especially in a marriage or LTR they are in a situation where the assumption is you care about filling the other person's needs.

Someone who loves and cares about someone will get the donuts "without being asked" just because their partner expresses a want or need. That's what someone is fishing for when they say "Aaaah I'm craving donuts 🥺🥺🥺" It's less about the donuts and more about feeling cared for. Sometimes straight up asking "Can you get me donuts?" defeats the purpose.

Also, women are typically socialized to communicate this way because they're punished socially for being too direct. I've heard that people of color, especially black people, often do this too because they're likely to be branded as "aggressive" if they're too direct with white people. So it might be a good idea to be a bit intersectional if we're trying to encourage people to be more direct.

Take the stereotypical example of a wife gets a new haircut and then gets upset that the husband doesn't notice. She's not literally mad at him for not saying the exact words "I like your new haircut." She's upset because she feels like he doesn't look at her and appreciate the efforts she's putting in anymore.

Obviously this will vary widely depending on the nature of your relationship with someone, but especially when it comes to intimate partnerships, there are certain things your significant other should not have to tell you directly. It's probably safe to assume your wife or husband wants a birthday present even if they don't ask for it. It's probably safe to assume your bf or gf would appreciate a valentine's day present or a compliment without them having to literally ask for it, unless they explicitly say otherwise.

This is difficult for a lot of neurodivergent people to learn manually if it's not instinctual and they didn't learn it growing up (lord knows I didn't) and yes, it's true that most people (especially NT people) should learn to communicate more directly. But also, your relationships would probably benefit from learning to read indirect cues and just pick up the donuts on the way home because you heard your wife is craving them. Sometimes what someone wants is for you to think about what they're feeling and what they want and do it without them asking directly. It's up to you whether or not you do that, but sometimes that is asking. I think this is what people generally mean when they say their partner is "thoughtful."

[wifeoflegend]

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Less of a question and more of a small story. Me and my queer platonic partner have known each other for about six years. A few months back, my platonic affection for them shifted into alterous. I love them, I honestly do, and I daydream often about what it'd be like to live with them the way we sometimes talk about. It'd want to do all of the sappy domestic shit like snuggling and sleeping next to each other and splitting up the cooking and chores. I guess when I thought deeper on this I figured it just started to sound like marriage, and I started to panic, and wondered if that meant I was actually in love with them romantically. I started worrying I'd have to marry them to ever get that sort of thing. But thinking about it further, I'm still repulsed by the idea of participating in all the romantic or sex stuff. I'd never want to kiss them on the lips or anything. And sleeping in the same bed has always been a platonic action to me (me and my grandmother used to share one when I was young because it helped my insomnia to have a person or a pet nearby). Hell, I actively want to meet and befriend their future wife and be able to get along with her. There's no prospective jealously. We managed to figure this out in a conversation so everything's good now but I guess I still have a lot of work to do with my internalized aphobia. Anyway I guess I just wanted to know how common it is to want to like,, platonically marry someone I guess? Like do a lot of aro/ace people hate the idea of being alone the way I do and want to live closely with a roommate/partner, but without the expectation of romance or sex? Are my desires clingy, co-dependent, or too-much? (My partner seems okay with them, but they aren't a-spec in any way so I worry they might start to grate when they actually get to a place they feel comfortable openly dating women). Should I be trying to reign them in or back off? Honest question I'm ND and not always the best with social ques or expectations.

I don't think I've ever seen it asked in a survey or anything like that, but there are definitely a lot of aros around who do still want some kind of life partner, and the idea of marrying someone in a platonic way, or living together and things like that are things that definitely appeal to a lot of aros too. Alterous feelings also definitely are not uncommon among aros in QPRs.

Wanting thee things you're talking about here isn't clingy or co-dependent. Being clingy or codependent in a relationship has more to do with the relationship dynamic itself, so the partner who has trouble letting their partner do things without them, or being overly needy, or being too dependent on a partner to the point where you're not taking proper care of yourself or can't.

Wanting a life partner, liking the idea of getting married, sleeping in the same bed, splitting the cooking etc. are actually all very healthy things to want in a relationship. And would be a healthy dynamic.

And if your partner wants the same things you do, then that's just a compatible relationship. And if they're acting like they're OK or happy with how things are between you, then it's likely they are.

Definitely I always encourage good communication, so that would be things like making it clear to your partner what you want and making sure you're on the same page. And if not, figuring out what would work for both of you if possible. But this is all just part of any kind of relationship including platonic ones and QPRs. But if you've done that already, then I think you're in a good spot.

As for if things may change when your partner starts dating women, I wouldn't assume anything. Of course you can never predict the future, but that's not the common story I hear. Usually when people have a very close relationship they value it and allo people are no different.

All the best, Anon! Good luck!

[astroaquarium]

Moon in Astrology: Who are you really?

the moon sign tells us how and the moons house tells us where;

who are you really...

Aries Moon:

🐯 you are very childlike and youthful-young at heart, you never want to grow up and deal with real world adult life

🐯 you are extremely passion driven, you see something you like and you stop at nothing to get it

🐯 you are a very impatient person, you want what you want and you want it now-its hard for you to stay in one spot or in one mood you are always moving forward

🐯 you struggle most with anger, it consumes you, makes your blood boil-there is an untammed rage that lives inside you

🐯 your mother may have been very childlike and have aggressive temper tantrums or alternatively been extremely driven, loving, and passionate

Taurus moon:

👛 you are grounded and reality focuesed, your feet are firmly on the ground so much so it is hard for you to ever really relax

👛 you find it hard to keep motivated, and match others pace, you like to take it easy and go at your own pace-you do not work well under pressure

👛 you struggle with overindulgence. this could be food-related, money related, drugs, anything. It is a coping mechanism which you use to fill emotional voids.

Gemini moon:

👭 you are deeply afraid of emotional connection, you avoid it at all costs, because you dont know how to relate to others on an emotional level, only intellectual. you lack emotional intellegence and too find it difficult to address ans understand your own feelings let alone others.

👭 you use hummor a lot to deflect. Hummor that is often other-focused, making fun of others, other peoples behaviour, or the external environemnt. Your joking nature can often be regarded as offensive, outlandish or unwarented to some, this is not what you intend, but you dont feel accountable for offending others with who you are. This is purely a mechanism to detract from yourself and the flaws you recognise in yourself.

👭 your mother may have been emotionally distant and not encouraged talking about feelings

Cancer moon:

🐚 you are extremely soft, loving, and giving, but this is a side of yourself you like to keep under wraps. Your emotions are strong, intuitive, and bold, you have a great understanding and knack for relating to others emotionally and can often sense pain and emotional hurt in others. You are a healer, a nurter and a giver-these are great qualities which can sometimes be abused and taken advantage of by others leaving you feeling drained and used.

🐚 you are highly sensitive and words cut deep for you. you take things said to you and about you to heart and can act out in a childish and/or volitile way when you feel attacked. This is a coping mechanism at dealing with your emorional pain which can ultimately leave you feeling even more emotional unrest.

Leo moon:

🌞 you are like sunshine, bold, bright, and full of energy. You are a bit of a primadonna/diva, you give off a lot of confidence, and like to talk yourself up. This is often an overcompensation for an upbringing that was focused on performance. You may only know of how to recieve love and affection from putting on a show.

🌞 you overexaggerate. This is a means to gain sympathy and attention that you so dearly crave. Your mother may have been very self-involved and never gave you the attention you needed.

Virgo moon:

🥗 you are a worry wort, you are constantly on high alert, looking behind your back, on the edge of your seat, in a constant state of over-arousal. You are always anticipating something to go wrong or thinking about what could go wrong, this keeps you up at night.

🥗 you need routine. others like it, or hate it, but you need it for emotional stability. You need to have things exactly how you like them when you like it. Control is a huge thing for you, this could be because your mother was very particular with how she raised you and always stuck with a routine, this may help remind you of a time you felt safe.

Libra moon:

⏳ you are self-unaware. You don’t have the best grasp on who you are, what you want, or what you are about. To cope with this, you seek out qualities in yourself you cant see in others. This means your connections with others are a vital part of your emotional idenity and without these meaningful relationships you crumble.

⏳ you struggle with dependancy on others, when others let you down you feel lost and cheated.

⏳ you may also struggle with disharmony in your relationships, whenever you argue or come into disagreements with others it can be realy damaging to you emotionally because you rely so much on reassurance from others to confirm your idenity. It may also really bother you because conflict is something you like to avoid, you would prefer to disregard your own opinion/feelings if it means you get to keep the peace and avoid the argument.

Scorpio moon:

🦅 you keep your cards close to your chest, your secrets are guarded by your heart, and your vulnerable side is rarely exposed. This is a coping mechanism to avoid disspaoitment and emotional unrest. As although you are a deeply emotional individual and feels things on a intense level, it scares you, who you are and what you feel are intensely overwhelming and this is something you want to keep burried deep within.

🦅 you are emotionally manipulative at worst and at best extremely emotionally intellegently tactful. you understand emotions very well, are extremely intiuitive, and can feel vibes and undercurrents that others cannot pick up on. This can make it very easy for you to take advantage of others emotional state to your advantge, or alternatively provide in-depth counselling and targted advice.

Sagittarius moon:

🏹 you are free-spirited and wise. You are naturally exapnsively minded, you are open to new things and new challenges more than most people, you are a risk-taker, and don’t fear the consequences of your rash actions.

🏹 you are emotionally void of expressing your feelings in a way that can be understood and heard by others. As you would rather deflect using hummor/running away or any other way possible. You don’t like to dwell on negative feelings, however you embrace and overexaggerate the positive ones.You are an optimist, almost depricatingly so that you don’t accept negative facts of reality.

Capricorn moon:

⚔️ you are practical, driven, goal-orientated and very prideful. Your extremely driven, which is what makes you so hungry for success in material form, whether that be wealth/trophies/awards/property/power/fame, you want something tangible you can show ofd for your hard work. This can sometimes be easy for you to neglect other areas in your life and see to emotional coldness/distance. You see feelings as time-wasteing, impratcial and a burden onto others. You wouldn’t want to worry/annoy others with your problems.

⚔️ your mother may have been absent or not very emotionally present in your life or taken on the role of the father, or may have been raised by a single parent. This may have made it hard for you to ever feel like you can be emotionally vulnerable with a care giver who was too busy or not present.

Aquarius moon:

🦩 you are unlike anyone else, you have a different way of seeing the world to others and often for this feel misunderstood. You may struggle with feelings of alienation, and often feel lonely, like no one can ever truely understand you.

🦩 you are an activist, a humanitarian, and have some very strong beliefs that you firmly stand by. You stand up for the underdog when no one else will because that who you identify with most.

🦩 highly stubborn, things are often your way or the highway. you dont shy away from confrontation nd in fact love to hammer your point home. this can get you into trouble.

🦩 you are emotionally closed-off, not because you are unemotional because you feel intensely and on a global scale, but because you don’t understand them. you are intellectually dominated, you think too hard, its hard for you to verbalise or understand emotions.

Pisces mooon:

🔮 you are soulful, an old soul, artsy, and often psychic. You feel on a mass scale, you are an emotional spounge-picking up on the undercurrents and vibrations of others. this can leave you in a very vulnerable state of being taken asvantage of as well as beinf emotionally abused and drainned because you take on so much of others pain.

🔮 likewise you are very sefless, you would do anything for those you love without thinking about how it affects you, always putting others wants and needs before your own.

🔮 you can be prone to addiction, either alcohol or drug abuse, or something completely different; shopping, money, sex, eating etc.

where this is expressed...

1st house: who you really are is shown on the outside, you dont hide who you are or pretend to be someone youre not. you are true to yourself.

2nd house: who you really are is shown in your values, you are what you value. your possessions reflect your true self, you buy and collect material items that express yourself and how you feel.

3rd house: who you really are is shown in how you communicate and talk to others. You express yourself and how you feel in the way you write and talk and how you interact with your siblings-they know the real you.

4th house: who you really are is shown in how in your private space, this could be your home, your room, a place where you feel safe and comfortable, your family know the real you.

5th house: who you really are is shown in your creative purisuits, what you do for fun, and how you express yourself creativly is where your heart really lies.

6th house: who you really are is shown in how you schedule your day and go about your mundane everyday chores, also in how you care for your pets-they know the real you.

7th house: who you realy are is shown in your partnerships; romantic and professional. you enter partnerships with people who you possess qualities you dont recognise in yourself.

8th house: who you really are is shown in your secrets and what you keep hidden from others.

9th house: who you really are is shown in your belifs religious or otherwise.

10th house: who you really are is shown in your reputation, or what you are striving to achieve.

11th house: who you really are is shown in your friendships, and how you feel about the collective.

12th house: who you really are is shown in your subconcious, dreams, and other altered states.