#become more appallingly confident. and ungovernable.
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I referenced this in a longer post, but worth reiterating on its own: you do not need to hedge any statement that is a personal opinion, and you in fact strengthen your voice by not doing so. This is a core aspect of persuasive communication; I was taught this both in English class throughout high school, as well as in a public speaking course in college. In the latter, the lecturer advised everyone, but especially young women, to imagine ending every sentence that was not actually a question with an unspoken ", dammit!" to remind us not to uptalk.
You do not need to say "I think" or "this is just my opinion". You, in fact, should not say this if you want to construct a strong persuasive argument, as it's useless chaff meant to pacify people who want you to apologize for existing while holding a different opinion. If I see a post in which someone handwrings over how sorry they are that this might be different from what you believe I often stop reading. Why should I be swayed by someone who seems to be trying to convince themselves as well?
There are of course cases where hedging is useful: theories and speculation are among them. But in the case of an interpretation, presenting your opinion without fuss and faff and pleading for people to allow you to just speak for a moment (in an asynchronous medium where you can edit to your heart's content and cannot be interrupted nor stopped, specifically) is the only way to do so persuasively. Anyone who says differently is demanding an apology you do not and never will owe them for failing to say only words they like. They are not worth your time and they should not be your intended audience, and if they truly were upset by seeing your confident opinion rather than hoping you'd cave without them having to persuade you instead, they'd simply block and not respond. If they want you to agree with them, they can make an effort. Don't cede rhetorical ground that they've failed to earn.
#this is highly relevant to the current fandom discussions but also in general#if someone's scared by a strong persuasive argument that means they're a weak-ass loser and it's working#become more appallingly confident. and ungovernable.
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