#bc she said it feels wrong for her to go without me bc mcr was always My Thing and im like 'lol im poor anyway its fine'

[milf-harrington]

"babes i'd get you mcr merch before getting my own lmao" literally wtf did i do to deserve this girl

[brbabcseu]

can u tell us more about mer and aj's relationship?

She came around at somehow both the most and least ideal time lol. He wouldn't have taken to her so quick if things hadn't broken down with his dad, and even then it wasn't fully to bond with her, it was just because he didn't want to be around Jesse. They just happen to start clicking along the way. AJ can't quite let go of the fact that she wasn't around, that'll always be a thorn in his side, even though he did just fine without her it's the principle of it you know? Like I said in one of my previous posts, he's a little more understanding knowing what a tough situation she was in, which was difficult to get out of her to begin with bc she really doesn't like being vulnerable or showing that she's had any kind of tragedy in life (so you can imagine she doesn't delve into the whole thing with her older sister-- she had a freak aneurysm and passed out of nowhere, Mer doesn't like to think abt it bc it fucks w her head)

She acts more like a sibling to him than anything-- at least at first. That way it stays kind of lax and lighthearted and absolves her of any real responsibility. But what can she say? The kid grew on her! And she wants to stick around Jesse and Jesse wants her to stick around which is like... Are you sure? Me? The failmom???

She gets him hooked on hate watching her favorite shitty reality shows w her and she wows him with the fact that she liked MCR-- though they will fight over whether Danger Days or Black Parade is the better album-- and for the most part find their own normal. Definitely not perfect, plenty of bumps in the road and misunderstandings and some resentment undealt with but all in good time. She's fun, she's chill, and at the end of the day she really does love him. It just took some distance and fourteen years.

Oh how could I forget?? Another reason AJ forces himself to be Team Mer at first is because he perked up at the idea of knowing more about his heritage! Jesse did his best to encourage him when he wanted to learn more about the Yupik culture, but obviously he doesn't have any connections himself so he could only do so much. Jesse actually lets Mer steal him away for a few weeks in the summer to visit family in Fairbanks. He meets a ton of uncles, aunts, and cousins!! Only two of the cousins are his age and they clicked right away. Mer's mom-- his grandma-- is a doll. So warm and welcoming and so excited to meet him. Amlliq-- Mer's younger sister and his aunt-- is coy and a touch prickly, but he has a feeling she'd punch anyone who looked at him wrong. AJ was always thankful for the small family unit he did have, but he'd be lying if he said he didn't long for something like this. So in a way, though he doesn't say it outright, he feels like Meriwa gave him quite a gift.

[hairasuntouchedaspartoftheamazon]

#because they see a man of color w vaugely long hair and go ah yes i will she/her#this character without thinking of the various compound biases probably encouraging me to do so @glitching-desert-snake

Can I bring up these tags for a sec actually?

I have a lot of...complicated feelings about how race is brought up in the danger days verse/fandom bc 1. it's not handled well in the source material to begin with (see the blatant villainization of eastern Asians in the mvs, the white-washing of The Girl in the comics, etc.) and 2. bc this is connected to MCR, a great many of the fans are hailing from emo bandom, which is a notoriously racist space!

So we're already working with a group of people who generally aren't going to be thinking about the implications of racial headcanons and how they interact with gender and stereotypes.

The thing is however, there's a SIZEABLE portion of the danger days fandom who are (and I say this with affection, if not a small amount of annoyance) baby gays. Teenagers who want to put gender headcanons on everything they can bc they want to see themselves in their stories/fuck around with gender in fiction and again, aren't thinking about the implications of their various racial and gender headcanons.

How many people are actually aware of the extensive history of Latino (and in the continental US, Native) men simultaneously being feminized/emasculated AND portrayed as disgustingly and overbearingly masculine/threat to white women due to having long hair?

And how many of you draw Jet Star, who is portrayed by a light-skinned mixed Puerto Rican man, as SIGNIFICANTLY darker skinned to make him more 'visibly ethnic' while keeping the rest of the cast white as all hell?

What some of you need to understand is that:

Having long hair, especially as a man of color, is not automatically GNC or feminine.

There are a lot of implications when you take a predominantly white story, mix it with a predominantly white fandom, and then try to slap racial and gender headcanons onto that without examining the foundations on which the story is built.

This all gets worse when you combine it with the danger days fandom/bandom's long-standing tendency to make Jet Star/Ray Toro the 'mom friend' in fanworks, which is just entirely fucking racist. A lot of people take a look at a real-life man and a character he plays-who doesn't have a single line of dialogue in either the mvs or the comics to give us a characterization-and say "yeah this is a 'mom friend', like every other person of color in media I like."

THAT SAID. There's nothing fundamentally wrong with slapping weird genders onto stupid comic book characters. In fact it's really fun and I do it regularly! But I'm also coming at this from the angle of 1. giving all the characters weird genders, not just one of the two people of color in the danger days cast and 2. I'm literally a light-skinned trans mixed Puerto Rican dude.

No, this is not a 'write only what you know' situation. It's a 'think for a hot second about the implications of gender and racial headcanons and how your biases are influencing what you're putting in your art'.

There's nothing wrong with using she/her for Jet Star. But if that's the only character you're focusing on for gender headcanons and specific racial headcanons, think about why, and then knock that shit off.

why do people always use she/her for jet star?

[raytorosaurus]

Wait what dumbassery got tweeted? I wanna see it so I can laugh

lol okay under a read more bc i was like "i don't have the energy rn to spark a whole discussion about this" but then it got kinda long anyway so. the tweet itself is your average annoying twitter bullshit but it speaks to a wider pattern that really fucking pisses me off and worries me so that's what this is about

someone tweeted this, which had like 900 likes and multiple people in the replies and qrts going "omg did she really do this/when did she do this" and op would be like "it's a joke," to which the reply would always be "oh well it does sound like something she'd do."

it's a) not funny in the first place lol and b) a very common type of joke to make, hinging on this widely-accepted idea that frank and lynz hate each other and are petty about it, and that lynz abuses gerard & is extremely controlling. both of these things are literally completely fabricated but people just believe them, and it really goes to show how all these people who hate lynz sooo much don't hate her for the reasons they claim to. these people could not any more transparently give less of a shit about jimmy urine's abuse victim when it really feels like they gleefully use her as an "excuse" to make frerard "jokes" where lynz is a villain. it's disgusting and so so insensitive. domestic abuse is also such a fucking disgusting thing to accuse people of with literally zero evidence besides the kind of thing that was touted on blogs like ode2's, including things like "lynz saying she deadheads the flowers is her sending messages that she emotionally or physically enjoys beating gerard into submission" and "the way gerard's behaving on instagram (i.e. not using it very often) just feels fishy to me...something must be wrong" and "frank and lynz are sharing coded messages about hating each other via opossum memes on their instagram stories or in their instagram likes".

my point is: if you really hated lynz THAT much for reasons such as her association to msi and the tweets where she claimed to have indian descent and was weird to people who called her on it, then you should not need to invent additional reasons to hate her. you would also have to admit that those two things are not exclusive to lynz since everyone in mcr also has extensive voluntary associations with msi, most of all gerard and frank, who have also done/said racist things in the past, and you would have to come up with reasons why you are willing to forgive them but not lynz. i also don't like lynz and find a lot of her actions distasteful but it's literally impossible to get a reasonable explanation from any of the mcr fans who hate her SO much for the depth of this hatred without them including complete fabrications or deeply bad-faith suppositions (or actively misogynistic comments) in those explanations. it's extremely transparent and only goes to show how little these people care about the actual genuine issues related to jimmy/msi and weird racist comments/claims.

also as a side point i don't understand why people also love to act like frank is a perfect innocent in any situation to the point where they'll literally make up reasons to like him or claim that he's on "their side" (e.g. the idea that he hates msi when he was a vocal fan). i love frank so much but fandom as a whole seems to have such a weirdly distorted view of him, despite him being the one in the band who's most open about his thoughts and feelings/life in general. or maybe for that reason? he certainly seems to be the one people project onto the most with a lack of self-awareness about what they're doing, idk. it's weird though frank is such a lovable and admirable guy but sometimes i see the way some of his intense fans talk about him and i honestly feel like they're talking about a different person? of course none of us really know him at all but idk i really feel like the version of him that exists in the most prevalent fan-driven frerard narrative is so bizarrely separate from reality skfjfkssk. idk anyway that's kind of off-point, the most important thing here is that if you make things up about frank or attribute your own opinions to him when he hasn't actually said anything like that (e.g. hating msi or hating lynz) you're gonna get further and further down that rabbithole and end up setting yourself up for disappointment when frank inevitably doesn't behave/think the way you want him to irl lol.

so anyway i qrted that tweet, and op deleted their account between my second and third tweet here lol.