#bc reacting harshly to percieved racism or ableism or whatever

[gothwifeofficial]

i think with the whole "trying to learn and better myself" movement, we've kinda been too tone-police-y with folks who maybe lash out when faced with mistaken bigotry. like if someone says something not realizing its harmful, or if someone's words are mistaken as harmful, responding harshly is a survival tactic. im not saying you shouldnt feel hurt when someone responds harshly, but once the issue is resolved, u should take a step back and not try to embarrass them for doing that. like dont be like "LOL this person thought i was being homophobic by complete mistake and overreacted". u shouldnt clown on someone for ducking when they hear a car backfire, and u shouldnt clown on a marginalized person for being harsh even if it was a complete misunderstanding. bc in both scenarios, the best case is u "overreact" but worst case scenario is ur life is in actual danger.