#basically i've been setting up my new computer for a week and i'm sick of it already

[swallowedabug]

[expirisims]

Sooo...I haven't posted in a...while

Hey everyone! I'm sorry I haven't posted in a really long time again! Life has just been, well, BUSY! I've had these next several days worth of pictures on my computer ready for upload for a while, but every time I get the time to post or play it's really late at night and I'm just too exhausted! I've been working on our house, on going through the last of my beta reader feedback, trying to get a query together and sort of start a second book, and if that isn't enough I've decided to try my hand at a Youtube channel for all the doll crafts my kiddo and I have been working on (that isn't really up and running yet, I'm still working on my first video, but when it is I'll post a link for it and for the separate Tumblr I'm setting up for it). Anyway, enough of my excuses, enjoy the pictures from the next household in rotation for Isle of St. Bernie! I'd forgotten how wild the week with this household was!

As you can see, we're already off to a good start! The household consists of Isaiah Gage and Korey Quick, who are constantly fighting; Donnell Dougherty, Ron Ricketts, Brooks Cassidy and Garth Reeves.

In other news, Freddie and Ivy have started dating so that should be interesting, and Lilly Lum is expecting and decided to kick Lawerence out! He's currently crashing with his best friend John Snooty and his family.

Brooks got sick of Korey and Isaiah's fighting and headed to the plaza for some chess with a tourist.

Donnell, meanwhile headed to the library where he ran into Theodore Lum and then peed himself in front of several other residents, who couldn't care less, LOL!

Back home, Korey and Isaiah were at it AGAIN. Ron and Brooks just ignored them and went about their business, I guess they're used to it...facepalm.

Isaiah finally just headed to the Skybox Lounge to drown his sorrows while I took random scenery pictures

The pictures:)

I swear this guy has a twin in EVERY one of my games! I guess he's just the basic potato...I gave him a slight makeover so I could tell him apart from the other clones, but I don't typically do to much "plastic surgery" to my sims, spawned or otherwise.

By about 11 pm Korey had received an invitation to a party across the street.

Angela McPherson was the only one there, and apparently she's been harboring feelings for Korey. It started as an innocent pillow fight...

..and ended in chimes. Yep, that's right! My very first night in this household and Korey's already knocked up his neighbor! OMG, this feels like it's going to be chaos!

[queen-mihai]

Valid/invalid might as well be the place for me to insert a part of my world view for everyone to see, because I think it's important.

Humanity, nature, our world, our *universe* does not operate on any kind of binary. Ever. Ever ever.

Human logic, and really only in the past few decades, is the only thing that operates like that.

I have a pet theory, that I won't get into right now, which says basically that recent changes in human logic stem from the binary logic with which we program our computers.

Computers do not NEED to operate on binary logic either though.

IT'S JUST THE EASIEST

But if computers run on a simple on/off logic; wouldn't it be easier if nature was like that too?

You're either human or animal. Natural or synthetic. Gay or straight. Man or woman. Either You're black lives matter or all lives matter. Either the government should be bigger or smaller. All this nuance stuff can go right out the window and any semblance of real logic go out right with it.

One of my major missions in life is to help reintroduce nuance back into the world. One of the hardest things I've ever had to face is trying to tell someone that their argument isn't wrong, but they're missing pretty much all of the pertinent issues.

Yes, your feelings or arguments or opinions are valid. But the conversation CAN'T stop there. All that means is that you're allowed to feel however you want to feel both before and after you've received every piece of relevant information

Does that mean the other person in the conversation is automatically right? If you're asking that question then you already haven't been listening. *It's not that simple!*

If you feel that someone you love is invalidating your opinion, one of the first things to ask is "have they done this before?"

If it's part of a cycle of abuse then you should already be arriving at a set of answers with options ranging from "stand your ground" to "find the nearest exit"

If it's a completely new thing, it may be worth exploring the circumstances, which is almost pound for pound EXACTLY what therapy is for. If you're not even sure what's going on, then you're entering the realm of maybe needing to go into mediation or some form of deep thought so you can explore your feelings before you take any rash actions. Yes, they're being invalidating. Yes that's not fair. Yes your feelings are valid. But once your feelings are valid and their feelings are valid there's still in all likelihood *an issue to be resolved*

Now since I'm me, and I HATE leaving things in the abstract, I'm gonna leave you with an example:

You've just been sick. You had to take an entire week from work during a busy season. You've still got your job and your boss is OK but you really want to put in 100% on your first day back next week. Like you're coming in early and staying late because you take your job seriously and want to show your appreciation for them not bothering you during your time off.

Slight wrinkle though, your parents/guardians/childhood caretaker(s) just called and said they're flying into town on what's supposed to be your first day back to work. They've already booked non-refundable tickets and they're asking if you or your partner can pick them up from the airport.

If this were any other time you'd take the day off and show them around. But this time you ask your partner to do it so you can do your best at work.

Your partner says they don't like picking up your parents and they view you going to work as "trying to punish them" and "Force them to interact" after some imagined slight that happened in the past.

Now it's obvious that your partner here is being invalidating. You have already explained that you feel the need to go back to work and they should respect that.

Even if you both agree, it can still end up being a problem. Let's say they end up respecting your desire to go back to work, and you respect their lack of desire to go to the airport. Everybody's valid. Everybody's entitled to their opinion. Problem though, how are your caregivers getting to you from the airport?

Respecting each others opinions is only half the battle. We've still gotta find solutions to concrete problems and it's not gonna be as simple as "this or that"

Really fucked up actually that the "you are valid" culture which, usefulness and uh, validity thereof aside, was intended to provide some some perspective for people who may have been blamed for harmless things they could not control morphed into "if strangers on the internet do not constantly tell me I'm good and perfect they are the oppressor" and "even constructively and gently telling me that I hold some power and responsibility to seek a better situation is an unspeakably cruel act."

[asklolard]

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Lolard

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