#aroallo is not aroace buddy

[octever]

Just to be clear, celebrating being aroallo isn’t celebrating being allosexual. It’s celebrating being aromantic and not asexual, something so commonly paired together. I tell people that I’m aroallo instead of just aromantic because people assume I’m aroace. Celebrating being aroallo is recognizing the difference between romantic & sexual attraction.

[thearoacescout]

Why Cuddles are Better Than Sex/Making Out

(From a sex-repulsed aroace)

(Also obligatory sex isn't bad and you should do what you want as long as all parties consent and communicate. I just can't understand sex-havers)

0) Practice communication. While its not sex, consent, communication, and boundaries are just as important. Spend some time with your cuddle buddies and talk about likes, preferences, and boundaries. Ultimately this will lead to healthier relationships for all involved! Consent is asexy!

1) Practically risk free. No chance to spawn new life or spread diseases or other injuries

2) Wholesome. Fun for the whole (found) family.

3) Cozy clothes. You get to keep your clothes on because skin is weird

4) Relaxing. No movement or anything necessary, you just lie there. Maybe some back rubbing or head pats. Either way, no physically exhausting movements required

5) Hear your cuddle buddies breathing and their body making body noises. There is something about this that is therapeutic and no I will not elaborate

6) Open discussions. With the focus on each other and comfort, raw and honest conversations happen that brings a new level of closeness and vulnerability.

7) Relationship agnostic (not sure if that's the right term) For the most part, cuddling is not something that is usually regarded as inherently sexual or romantic. You can cuddle with your platonic friends, romantic partners, or friends with benefits (given everyone is ok). It's not just something romantic couples do. It's an intimate experience for anyone close in your life and that's pretty cool <2

[doeythedoughman]

I feel like I may be aro, but not ace. And that's like... a fucking mind fuck cause it's so ingrained into my brain of like sex without a relationship is a bad thing.... that it's like hard to overcome come that hurdle

Aroallo win let's fucking goooooo

Its a bitch of a societal expectation thing, but I've heard talk of plenty of QPP and "fuck buddies" and secret other things who have had happy relationships without the romance.

Like aroace, there's hurdles, and yours are different, but maybe just. Try and walk around it and not jump it. You don't need to please everyone. And others feel the same yk

[theydontknowimacrab]

Remember everyone, apes together strong. And like apes, we are fully capable of running away into the woods and building our own silly little tree villages with our silly little aroace buddies and silly little aroallo buddies and our silly little alloace buddies and defending them by charging into battle on top of our silly little warhorses wielding our silly little assault rifles.

Yknow aromantic and asexual need to start being shown as two different labels more often. Cuz like we aroace people are cool and we have the power to destroy god right, but like aroallo people and alloace people are just as fucking cool.

What is this whole "one cannot exist without the other" bullshit. That kinda shit is only supposed to happen with like life and death. light and dark. peace and chaos. we don't need that, cuz we're all just pure chaos. you want peace look elsewhere, bc aro without the ace and ace without the aro is very welcome into our aro and ace spaces of madness and maniacal plotting to take over the world.

[lovelessrage]

for the ask game:

#4 what is something you wish was more well known about being arospec?

#8 what are some of your favorite arospec characters? this can include characters from popular media or OCs.

#4: I think in general I wish more was known about the sheer variety. Aroallos, aroaces, non-sam aros, everybody who doesn't fit cleanly into any of the above. This includes aplatonic, afamilial, loveless, and heartless aros who are often left out of mainstream conversations on the arospec [even in online circles as well sometimes]. We are a very large community, so it's very hard to capture all that variety in one post. But, we can at least let people know what's out there, yknow?

#8: I don't watch a lot of the shows that have canonical aros in them; they're often not my genre. So, generally, my favourite arospec are my own characters. Here's a handful [I do have way, way more, but these are some favourites]:

Rifleman [he/him], a god of death and art. Aroallo; had one past partner named Elgar who he did not reciprocate romantic feelings for but had a fwb style relationship with. A lot of their relationship is making things work and coming to terms with the differing feelings coming from either side. They have one son, Victory [Victory is also aspec, just not arospec].

Jasper [any pronouns] and King [they/it], both Gym Leader OCs, being Dark and Poison respectively. They are siblings and the main protagonists of the plot, with their tendency to go digging around exactly where they are advised not to leading to them catching onto something being off before anyone else. Jasper is aroace, while King is a non-sam aro.

Buddy [he/she], an anthro porcupine who is a loveless aro. Buddy is generally neutral to most attractions and disinterested in all of them, content to hang around people but not stay long. Stays wherever she isn't kicked out of. Has people he likes to crash with, but not really any people Buddy would call 'friend' [w/no interest in doing so either].

O'Leary [mirror pronouns] is an alien creatyre that requires too much OC lore to explain further. It is loveless aro and my favourite loveless aro I have because it could not care less about anything or any of the people it works with beyond a "i don't actively wish misfortune on you". As soon as the plot is done it isn't doing any found family, it is getting OUT of there, goodbye, see you never. A thing of beauty to my loveless heart and to nobody else. [Disclaimer: would not recommend loving people writing your loveless characters like this without some serious sensitivity reading. This is called Indulging Myself with a character that is living my dream]

[that-was-anticlimactic]

actually i'm going to inundate you with aspec headcanons because we deserve more aspec headcanons:

- aroace ty lee who like. understands how to flirt but has absolutely no idea why anyone would do it voluntarily

- grayromantic romance-repulsed mai who absolutely loathes conventional dating (hence saying "i don't hate you" rather than "i love you")

- aroace mako who didn't work out with asami or korra and in the time between book 3 and book 4 eventually figures he just does not care for dating

- ace aang ace aang

- aro azula (name one aro person who does not see romance and choose world domination instead)

- ace jin (zuko & jin ace buddies)

- aro asami actually. she just has the vibes

- ARO BUMI II i saw this once and i love it (also aroallo suyin toph would be proud)

- ace jinora & kai!!!

- basically the avatar is an aspec magnet

wait... that point about Mai says “I don’t hate you” instead of “I love you” ... I will never stop thinking about that...

YES AROACE MAKO MY BELOVED

and ace aang👀

YES I STAND BY ARO BUMI II—HE IS ARO!!! (not me having an aro Bumi ii oneshot in the works)

all of these are so valid and I love them

this is what I love about headcanons. and I love learning what other people headcanon because they’re all so different and unique and like even if not everyone agrees, most people (from what I’ve seen lol) accept them or like disagree but let people headcanon what they want and these are all so unique and I love them

thank you so much for sharing these with me🥰

[sleep-deprived-mf]

ngl i only think someone is aroace when they tell me "im aroace"

but if someone just said "im aromantic" i would think they were just that, aromantic

Just to be clear, celebrating being aroallo isn’t celebrating being allosexual. It’s celebrating being aromantic and not asexual, something so commonly paired together. I tell people that I’m aroallo instead of just aromantic because people assume I’m aroace. Celebrating being aroallo is recognizing the difference between romantic & sexual attraction.