#anyways. like. do they get harassed all the time. idk why ppl harass others

[peapod20001]

Everytime I see one of those people that keeps remaking / deleting their accounts all I can do is wonder wtf is going on to make them do that over and over

[trimmedarmor]

doing the equivalent of gripping something intensely hard then forcing myself to let it go every time i see something about the stupid fandom drama i got pulled into earlier this year

[dukeofdelirium]

Get “Michael Jackson was a virgin until 35 - Shocking news!” off my phone FIX MY PHONE FIX MY PHONE FIX MY PHONE-

why do these mfs even care about this shit like how is it even relevant to anything 😒 they’re so obsessed with this man and with trying to make him seem like a freak that they’re now resorting to bullying him for what, valuing intimacy and wanting a more traditional sort of relationship with just one woman??? It’s wild. and idk why anyone acts like this is shocking anyway. MJ was a JW for a large portion of his life, and even when he left the religion, he still always talked about marriage and stuff in a traditional sense that he wanted one wife, one mother to his kids, etc. if LMP had said that MJ slept around before he got with her, the media would have shamed him for that, too. so no matter what she said, they’ll turn it into something negative even though Lisa wrote about him in a pretty romantic way, and even in the audio recordings of her talking about him, she says positive things.

They’re also taking her words and twisting them to make it seem like she was afraid of Michael or something sexually which isn’t at all what she said. They’re saying she was “terrified” but in reality, she wrote “I was terrified because I didn’t want to make the wrong move”. As in, in regards to the fact that other women had crossed boundaries with Michael and she didn’t want to make that same mistake. Which just shows she respected him.

also, if this is true, doesn’t this just sink their bullshit narrative of MJ being a sexual predator? he can’t be both at the same time. they need to pick a struggle

also also, if they’re running with this narrative now, then doesn’t this also just prove that MJ and Lisa rlly did have a REAL relationship? lol. cuz for decades the media harassed them and said they were lying and that their marriage and whole relationship was a sham and a PR stunt. again, pick a struggle

all the sweet things Lisa wrote and they wanna turn it into something weird idgi

I think these are really sweet so idk what ppls problem is trying to twist it

also these pictures were both taken at the ranch ♥️

Lisa also said, once again, that being with Michael and being married to him was the happiest point of her entire life. And I believe that. They both clearly loved each other a lot and I’ll never understand ppl saying their relationship wasn’t real bc it was

[nerves-nebula]

Knowing that he has memory problems does neglected Raph struggle to trust his own judgment?

Like not even just for things gaps in memories makes sense to hinder. I’m talking even when he knows stuff or when memory doesn’t factor in at all, he knows he can’t trust his mind on some things so he struggles to trust it at all

If so, does he ever recover from all that?

(Side note: it’d be super interesting to see them face a villain like Mother May-Eye from Teen Titans 2003)

here's the thing about raph, Raph doesn't trust ppl other than his brothers, april, and casey, so he wouldn't let someone else fact check him, but that doesn't mean he doesn't doubt his own memories. especially since Donnie has rambled at length about how fallible memories are.

There more than a few times where Raph has a memory of something, but Splinter kind of tweaks it or implies it was just ever so slightly different in away that changes things. and if Raph is like "wait that's not what happened" Splinter would imply he doesn't know what he's talking about. never calling him crazy outright, just saying he's remembering it wrong. but isn't it kind of weird that, for some reason, Raph's memory is always "wrong" in a way that benefits Splinter? (Mom Reference)

so anyway, Raph doesn't like being told he remembered something wrong cuz of that, so that's why he only lets his close friends check him and might get aggro if someone he doesn't know well casually implies he's remembering something wrong. (this includes stuff as small as someone saying "i think you remembered this wrong" or "that's not what I remember" even just really small stuff like that can trigger him)

But his defensiveness is just because he does genuinely worry that since he forgets things so much, there's a chance the solid memories he DOES have aren't real. and if that's true then like what is he even doing, right? like how can he be a person in a meaningful way if the things his internal experiences and emotions are based on aren't real? That's what he thinks, at least.

i watched the mother may-eye episode to answer this ask so im gonna address that under the cut now:

I forgot how good the teen titans theme song is. also i forgot about the hive five they're are so fucking cool i wish i was every character in this show wtf. also why that guy sexually harass starfire. kinda like that starfire appears to swear all the damn time but since it's alien swears no one cares.

and the DAY is SAVED by the power of THATS NOT HOW CONCUSSIONS WORKS <3 my favorite storytelling technique tbh. just hit 'em on the head i'm sure it'll work out fine.

SLUR in early 2000's children media: OBSERVED.

really fucked up that they gave it to the Hive Five not knowing if they were gonna escape or get baked or anything. that's. wild.

there's something about a villain who forcibly makes you regress to a childlike state in order to manipulate you that is so fucking uncomfortable, oh my god. especially when they use, like, overly cutesy language. if i did something like that to the neglected gang it would be really gross. so i might do that later then, idk.

[thehellsaint]

Hi it’s -❤️ again

also known as -flower anon lol! (Me and flower are same same but different)

https://www.tumblr.com/justanothersyscourse/758260354341076992/oh-hi-its-flower-anon-i-mostly-was-sending-the?source=share

that’s me! Well us, anyway.

that was the worst response in the history of responses, my YouTube reporter senses are tingling so bad that I wrote a 2,000+ word reply that I am going to send in.

when you said they had onsion like tendencies I actually understand what you mean, but I’d say more of a dream or Mr beast like response.

very Mr beasty.

basically they said “you poor little cult survivor :( you know nothing and are overreacting to all the endo’s you poor baby”

I’m used to the deflections and strawmans but my god are they just the weirdest fucking strawmans!

Just, it’s such a weird obscurifcation of like information?

like yeah I wanted to be like comforted that “oh all the endo’s aren’t engaged in a cult like mentality” then presented their own biases as their own proof.

weird if you ask me, maybe it’s because I come hailing from YouTube and immigrated over to tumblr because it was becoming a shit show over there. But you can’t just ignore the social aspects of these communities and conversations.

life is a holistic approach, and well I like to hear about all parts of a discussion!

peer review is not just about scientists agreeing with each other, that’s stupid, peer review is the review of all people involved.

you can’t just say “oh black ppl are inferior bc different skull structure” and then get away with it, why? Because it hasn’t been peer reviewed by black people obviously, and also that is so wrong.

(Sorry for bringing up this example but it’s still a surprisingly common thing in scientific circles to be straight up racist. Peer review involves all parties involved smh the worst parts of science are where they just go do their own thing and don’t listen to the people they are studying.)

so for me, hailing from YouTube, we take a very holistic approach and view to discourse. We don’t just say “well this guy says we are all wrong” we go “well why the hell is this guy saying we are all wrong? It’s really sus they are saying that!”

and we think and we dissect! And usually we are right to call out the bullshit!

YouTube is very multifaceted when it comes to discourse you can’t just half ass it, people will literally take their time out of their day and correct you.

so idk, I actually hated that response. It was surprising awful and disgenuine, and pretty fucking insulting!

wow, just.

I’m going to send in my response that’s pretty cut throat as again, I hail from YouTube that sorta shit does not fly over there.

tumblr has a different style of addressing things but that’s not mine, I wish I was better at video editing because OOOO boy. 💯💯💯

thank you for being so supportive of us, sysmedsaresexist and justanothersyscourse do a very bad job of explaining the social and cultural impacts of these different communities and that is a horrible omission.

you make wonderful discussion and you deserve praise for it!

love you 🥰

-❤️

Yeah that sucked to read, their post is packed with all of the same patronizing language that put me off of them in the first place. Not to mention the pseudo-intellectualism and misrepresenting the scale, credibility, and scope of "doctors researching endos"

It's exhausting to watch every (pro)endo spread misinformation, harass disabled people, and literally groom people just to be told that being against that is basically the same thing.

Disabled people will never know peace unfortunately, even in spaces made exclusively by and for us. I'm glad my blog can be a place of discussion for us and other systems who need it.

[2leggedshark]

Nen you're so brave being pro rpf Because I stg you get completely attacked for it and like omg one of us who is open about it !! Yes they should kiss irl !! Ppl get shipped all the time. Literally normal ppl. They get shipped with their friends and stuff and like nobody cries about that ?? Why should some big grown CCS.. I honestly don't think they care bc then they'd be interacting with the fandom which they don't wanna do anyway....

I do not think im being brave at all. I'm on tumblr. Genuinely who still cares on here.

Also like. Idk. I never thought rpf was that bad as long as ppl don't harass others like. No shit ppl are gonna think about ppl they like in fictional scenarios T_T how is that weird. That is. So normal. Ppl think abt ppl they like.. duh. Theyre gonna put em in situations.... is fun.

[winwintea]

🍆✊ im actually so sad bc riize was one of my fav groups. It acc hurts to see how bad these idols are treated, even if it was obvious for me when others couldn’t rlly tell

i don’t think some ppl understand what the boycott will do. Yeah, maybe there’s a chance riize disbands, but it’s for the better if they do because these boys have been thru hell & back and knetz are already harassing the others (sungchan, eunseok, sohee). And the way that this situation has already happened so many times with other artists,, Knetz have this unhealthy obsession w their idols and if they’re not “perfect” then it turns into a big problem. It’s gonna get worse in the future, and just boycotting sm in general will help not just sm artists but other artists as well. Mistreatment is wild

and the way that taeil situation is pretty much being ignored.. when he allegedly raped a drunk woman with 2 other people.. but seunghan jst because he pulled and smoked when smoking culture in korea is huge it’s a huge deal and he MUST be kicked out!! smh

no bc nobody seems to understand what the boycott is really doing.

these idols are slowly losing more and more of their autonomy.

it's only slowly going to get worse. and more common.

in fact it's already happening!

ot4 shawols are now petitioning and calling for sm to remove onew from shinee! isn't that great!

the problem isn't just seunghan. it's the industry. when these knetz find out that they can get away with this, they'll try more ways to get away with it. it's only normal that this would happen, but i'm kind of shocked it's happening so quickly.

for context in 2017 onew was accused of sexual assualt, where a woman claimed he touched her leg 2-3 times while he was intoxicated in a club. idk if that's what really went down, i just know that when i became a fan afterwards, i noticed that he had stopped drinking and genuinely seemed to want to change. he always seemed respectful and did not seem to mean harm during the incident, but i do feel like the woman's feelings toward the situation were valid. harassment is harassment. the whole situation kinda a touchy subject for shawols lol.

AND THE TAEIL STUFF TOO. i don't wanna say it's all planned... but tell me why the seunghan situation happened right after we learned about what taeil allegedly did. like. OHHH MY GOD. i should not get into conspiracies then i'll be yapping all day about the kennedy assassination and why it's so fascinating to me. anyways !

[girlreblogger]

honestly i don’t understand how ppl get mad because others don’t wanna read no traumatic, struggle love, lowkey violent, cheating, smut galore toxic shit. the amount of thug, plug/drugdealer, bum!, straight up scary, PRISONER (which is crazy yall romanticizing mfs getting outta/being in jail??) black reader fics (from all kinds of fandoms btw) is actually concerning.. like frfr let’s be honest with ourselves cause the things i’ve seen on here has truly been interesting. (thanks to the ppl who’ll put warning tags tho ig) and ofc ima eat up some of them fics cause they be good sometimes but also that’s all i be seeing. i truly wanna read sumn cute and sweet that don’t leave a bad taste in my mouth like i don’t wanna read the fic and then be pissed off after. obvi we all can just scroll and not read what we don’t want which (if you harassing ppl for what they write it’s never that deep… be fucking fr. write something in your notes to fulfill you or sumn until you find something. don’t use that as a reason to spread negativity) and ik a lot of ppl get at blk writers abt how yn talk which (???) idc cause i talk the same so we’re not talking abt that. also i gotta say sometimes the drug dealer fics be treating yn like a princess (which 🫶🏽) but that’s every now and then when it’s not toxic or drugs, extremely excessive smut and cheating isn’t involved. ofc ofc write what you want but pls bffr and don’t act like them characters don’t be putting yn through some bullshit. yeah tension and stuff is cute cause yk you don’t want it to be boringg but toxicity and attractive tension isn’t the same. there’s sooo many ways of going abt getting that tension. and so many other blk girls say the same and it’s just can we get something positive please. and that legit can just be maybe possibly no aggressive smut.. or a annoying situationship, or all the other lowkey scary shit i be seeing. it’s disheartening to wanna read something abt blk girls and your fav that’ll have your feet kicking up and stuff and then getting pissed off cause your fav character just manipyadipped and cheated on yn or sumn. i’ll keep writing self indulgent fluff in my notes app tho until then. (and if you want to read something positive write something for yourself then too if youn wanna post it or be a writer but PLEASE reblog ppls stuff when you not at least) and not to mentionnnnnn all the fluff on here that is for black readers we barelyy find like you can type “x black reader fluff” and barely any will pop up honestly. which some ppl don’t want certain ppl interacting with their stuff and some ppl don’t gaf abt fluff at all so that writer gets no interactions (or half as much of what they would get on something with smut or etc) and it discourages them from writing it more and it’s also harder for ppl to find what they did write. so even if you don’t care for it at least reblog or sumn pleasee to support the writers. i really appreciate all the blk writers or their works that don’t get enough attention. that’s why i post fluff or just more positive fics for the blk girls who are tryna find them. i’ll def make a list of writers that i like as well. if you want sweet rainbow glitter blk reader fics you gotta do sumn in return too dont just read and do a lil scroll nawl you can make a lil side blog and reblog stuff. mfs have lives tho ian reblogging every sec in general tho i feel like blk writers don’t get enough attention and exposure sometimes but that’s… another thing .. anyway dont stop writing what you want but idk dont act funny or be rude when someone don’t want to consume the same shit as you alllllll the time. i just felt like saying this cause i legit can’t go on here no more and find something that’s not toxic. when i heard ppl saying this i thought they was just talking to talk but nawll. anyways i wanted to say that bye.

[golbrocklovely]

you know, I thought i might of been annoying with the amount of asks i send you, and that still might be true but people apparently love me… so im sticking around 😂 gotta build this aussie anon fandom… buy the merch (its just a tshirt with koala ears on the anon icon and ‘xplr me daddy’ across the shoulder blades)

also absolute fkn ditto to your post abt snc needing a villain era. especially colby. I learnt just the other day that apparently he goes thru this m drama every time he’s snapped with a girl. like every time, for years. that’s gotta be so horrible. like imagine being the constant reason your friends or dates get harassed online just for being around you. you’d feel like poison. i truly hope he finds someone who couldnt give two flying quacks abt that stuff. heck, if it were me (lemme dream, alright) and i knew this wasn’t just a once off thing… i was going to say my acct would be private and i’d have ‘message from strangers’ turned off… but i already have all that… Colby, I’m ready!!! lmao i jk i jk (or do I 👀)

anyway, back to colby fighting in the clubs. you said he’s possessive… im curious about that. like in a protective way over the people he cares about, or actually like “this is my person, back off” type? either way, hella shmexxyy

- aussie anon

omg this is such a long response so i'm sorry in advance lol

haha no you're totally okay to keep sending in asks. no one has a problem with it, especially me :)

and omg an "xplr me daddy" shirt would be hysterical and i'm surprised they haven't done one (even jokingly) before lol

and yes, it's not just girls colby is interested in either. it's EVERY girl - date, friend, stranger - it doesn't matter. if fans can find out who she is, they will send her hate. or at the very least bombard her with questions as to how she knows colby, what's he like, ect. it's honestly very embarrassing to be in this fandom sometimes strictly bc of that type of shit.

i've talked about how i've felt on colby's love life ad nauseum on here, but i don't mind speaking on it more. i genuinely believe this fandom needs a HUGE reality check. bc there are too many ppl in this fandom that believe they have a say in what he does with said love life. and now it's bled over into sam's.

the golden child apparently can do wrong now lol

like on xplrclub, they literally APOLOGIZED (half-heartedly, but still said sorry) for the pics of them with the girls leaking over new years. and that's just fucking bonkers to me. there is no reason two 27 year old men should be saying sorry to a bunch of random girls they have never met before and don't even know exist bc they are going out and having fun and dating. and what makes it worse is snc felt the need to do this. they don't need to explain anything to us, especially about their private lives.

and the amount of fucking fans i saw saying "well if you wanted to have a private life, keep it private. don't post things." and it's like…… idk how many times i have to say this, but SNC ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. them not telling you about a girl they are fucking with is not a betrayal. they don't know you. they couldn't even pick you out of a line up of two ppl. stop thinking your opinion is neccessary, especially when it comes to their personal lives. you aren't owed an explanation. idc if you've been in this fandom for years, given them tons of money, have a fan account dedicated to them on every site, repost their content all the time - NONE of that matters. you are a random person, you are a statistic. a view count. and while yes, snc care about us, that doesn't mean they KNOW you or that your opinion is VALID.

you wouldn't like a random person coming onto your account and bitching at you about your life choices, right? so why do you think snc deserve that? bc they're public figures? NOPE, not a good enough reason. you want to bitch at them about content and the choices they make on that? that's fine. but private, personal shit they do is none of your concern or business.

and i know there are plenty of fucking ppl that will call me a hypocrite bc god forbid i talk about snc's love lives - but reality is i know my opinion isn't worth shit. i'm not coming up into their comments, @ ing them every chance i get, just to give them my two cents. i do my best to keep it light hearted and silly. none of what i talk about is serious or direly needed info. which is also why i do it on a site they aren't privy to. they're not on here. me complaining into the void doesn't effect them. and i'm also extremely aware of the fact that i don't know everything. i don't know the full story, never will, and i'm not OWED it either.

sorry, that was a really long rant. but i'm just…. so done with the fandom rn lol i've been reading ppl complaining for too long about shit they don't deserve to complain about and it's just annoying at this point.

but to bring it back to your ask - i hope colby, and sam too, find a girl that fucking PARADES that she's dating him. of course, with colby or sam's consent. if i was dating one of them, i would rub in these fans' faces, and i mean that wholeheartedly. aww, you're upset i'm fucking your man? TOO BAD WOMP WOMP lmao

and as for colby being possessive, he's said it in some tweets in years' past. he's tweeted out before "Im such a protective, jealous person wow" and "I'm overly protective" followed by someone asking him "so that means if you had a girlfriend you'd protect her a lot" and he replied with "protect her with my life". so, i see him as being a very loyal person, who is protective of the ppl he deems as "his", so to speak.

in a relationship, my guess is that while he's not obsessive or demanding, he is very much like "you are my girlfriend". i don't see him to be the type to say you can't talk to this guy or be friends with these ppl, nothing like that. but he reads to me like the type to keep his arm around you while at the club, that way any guy that sees you know you're taken by him.

also side note, i know as a woman i should be like i'm my own person, i'm no one's but my own, blah blah blah. but a guy that's just a twinge bit possessive is hot. i'm sorry, it's my red flag and i know it is sksksks

[waltwhitmansbeard]

hey bestieeee I'm back to bother you in your inbox about the grow with the flow au because I'm so obsessed what does korrin think of the podcast? how do you think he feels about his daughter having a huge fanbase? I imagine in Zephrah it's like when one person from a small town gets famous and she's like the featured alumni from her school and everyone is so proud of her and listens all the time

um wow okay i have never even THOUGHT about korrin in this au before, i am a FAKE FAN

idk why but i get luddite vibes from korrin, not that he like hates technology or anything, he just doesn't get it. like he's still got a flip phone and a netflix account he doesn't know the password for. so it takes keyleth a while to get him to understand what a podcast is—"it's like a radio show that people can listen to on their phone on their own time, dad"—but he's proud of her doing something she loves. he'd never guess that she could make money off of it or become easily the most famous person to ever come out of zephrah.

he listens when he can remember how and he texts her encouraging comments and suggestions that she immediately screenshots and shares with her fans. idk if you know the game grumps but i imagine korrin becomes like dan's father avi, just an absolute Dad who Doesn't Understand but Supports You Anyway, and the fans love him. then he starts ending his gwtf-related texts with 'tell my fans i love them!'

definitely ppl listen in zephrah, it's a small town and everyone misses her. i think keyleth talks about her hometown a lot and credits the people there with teaching her what she knows about nature and plant life. everyone is so proud of her and omg def the library has get-together to watch her livestream and she's always chatting with them in the comments.

TW STALKING FOR THIS NEXT PART

one of keyleth and vax's biggest fights is over whether they tell korrin about the stalker. keyleth is adamant that her dad not know bc she doesn't want to worry him, and vax argues that if his daughter were being harassed and he didn't know he'd throw himself off a bridge. it isn't until other people start being brought into the harassment that keyleth finally tells him, and korrin shows up The Next Day ready to burn the city down for his little girl.

[rollercoasterwords]

(this is from marxismlupinism btw just sending an anon cause still shadowbanned + dont want my r/s blog tied to my main blog anyway)

lmao if only my followers were your followers literally idk why my anons r so mad im just stating the established party line of the blog they chose to follow...

literally every online community ive been in youve been able to say you think the community has XYZ problem and people could discuss the problem and suggest solutions honestly baffling that peoples response to someone saying the hp fandom is transphobic is to go "no it's not" instead of, idk, either trying to make it less transphobic if you think it's salvageable or leaving it if you think it's unsalvageable. the only communities ik that would respond to an accusation of transphobia w denial rather than taking trans people's concerns seriously are, well, actually overtly explicitly transphobic communities lol... and the people claiming they "engage critically" are very clearly not if their response to criticism of the hp fandom is to be defensive—if you engage critically with something that means taking seriously good faith criticism of the thing you engage critically with. like i "engaged critically" w hp/rs for the past 2.5 years and i have never ever gotten defensive at someone criticising hp or its fandom (esp since like... almost all the people criticising hp or its fandom are trans and im not gonna go harass another trans person for being understandably upset at ppl engaging w transphobic media lol).

hp fans (including tme trans hp fans—and, btw, we're well aware there are some transmasculine hp fans, the rest of the trans community just think they suck and are losers lol and i can't imagine that the transmasc hp fans aren't aware of this fact unless they just dont interact w other trans people outside the hp fandom at all) will criticise hp and jkr while believing that the hp fandom itself is above criticism. this does the dual work of distancing themselves from harry potter/jkr, which even they cannot defend/pretend is not bad, while also absolving themselves of all responsibility for any transphobia & transmisogyny they perpetuate or engage in. it's honestly a deeply immature way of engaging with media as well as one that logically falls apart under any scrutiny—firstly, if you accept that hp and its author are deeply bigoted, isn't it just logical that its fanbase would share the politics of the source media? secondly, this is just empirically false lol. there didnt always used to be basically no trans women in the hp fandom—i myself used to be friends with several back in the old days—but most transfems left the fandom in 2020–2021 bc of jkr's increasing transmisogyny. and speak to any of the transfems who did leave at that time and they can tell you their firsthand experiences. like, i really dunno how you can claim the hp fandom isnt transmisogynistic without just outright saying that you think most trans women are crazy and making shit up when they say they dont want anything to do with hp or its fans.

anyway ill stop writing essays in ur inbox now rae xoxo love ya have a nice day!

hi laura <3 yeah truly i think it is so weird that someone would choose 2 follow a blog on tumblr.com which clearly states "i don't like hp/hp fandom" and then get mad when that blog makes a post saying. "i don't like hp/hp fandom." babe why r u at the criticizing hp fandom store if u don't want hp fandom criticism....

and yeah i've talked before on my blog abt how like. i do not think we can "separate" fandom from jkr + the inherent shittiness of hp + my personal stance is that i think if u are engaging with hp fandom in 2023 u should at least be prepared to acknowledge + address the fact that u are engaging w a fundamentally conservative piece of media that is rooted in horrible politics, bc if u don't fully understand how jkr's politics are steeped throughout the franchise then it is much more likely that u will just be. absorbing + perpetuating them.

i think something that gets left out of a lot of conversations abt jkr even when discussing how shitty she is within hp fandom is the fact that like. yeah she's broadly transphobic, but she is specifically transmisogynistic, and the politics + policies she endorses are most targeted + harmful towards trans women. in my personal experience thus far in hp fandom i've encountered a lot of tme trans people, and i think there can be this tendency to go "well i'm trans and i know so many trans people who have carved out a space in this fandom that is super affirming + positive for ourselves, so obviously there is no transphobia here" and like. bc of the strong emotional connection to what people view as a safe queer space it can feel like an attack or whatever when someone goes "ok but. have u considered transmisogyny." or just whenever someone is like. rude/mean/cunty in their criticism of hp--but like. tbh as tme trans people i just think it's more important to recognize that many other trans people (and especially tma trans people) have a reason for being rude/mean/cunty in their criticism of hp and even if it hurts ur feelings it's more important to actually think about where that critique is coming from then to get upset bc u feel like it wasn't phrased nicely. at the end of the day just bc a space feels safe 2 u does not mean it is going 2 feel safe 2 everyone!!

[mithliya]

thank you for pointing out (in the "regret is not rape" ugh post) that it is possible to regret genuinely consensual activity. I get what the other person is trying to say but I have had a lot of sex I regretted (fully consensual, often initiated by me) and obvi the line "regret is not rape" is misogynistic and victim blaming but suggesting the only reason a woman would regret sex is thay she didn't consent enthusiastically goes too far in the other direction. consensual sex is a human activity and it's possible to regret it just like any other human activity. that doesn't mean that women who have been raped just "regretted" the sex; those are obviously two different categories and rape apologists are just trying to obfuscate things. I just don't think it is a good response to "regret is not rape" to be like "well if it was consensual then why would the woman regret it? clearly the regret is an indicator that consent was lacking" because that just joins in the obfuscation.

anyway. sorry that you have to deal with all this shit. clearly a few someone's just hate you personally and completely lack human decency. so what if you are bi and lying? (I don't think you are to be clear) harassing you isn't helping lesbians anywhere and is just deliberate, targeted hatred. literally who gaf if someone is wrong about their sexuality on the internet. and what kind of loser cares that much about something an internet stranger did however many years ago that abusive relationship was.

feel free not to publish, I don't want to stir any more bs up for you. just wanted to say you had a good point and people are cray cray. I hope things improve for you

i do get where she is coming from & she’s right in that sometimes the “regret” is an outcome of having been coerced or pushed into sex acts u didn’t want to partake in. or being drunk n doing sth u wouldn’t actually do which is also rape in certain cases. my disagreement was mostly bc she said it’s rape 99% of the time which, i do think a lot of cases of “regret” were bc it was literal rape but idk how to quantify that. idk which phenomena is more common. but i know for example many ppl might’ve wanted to wait to have sex but a moment of passion got in the way of those plans & therefore they might regret. or feeling regret bc it’s sex out of marriage which can harm the woman’s reputation. or bc u realise the person u had sex with is a horrible person. or the sex was awful n not worth it. or u realised u don’t like casual sex and wish u hadn’t done it. there’s many scenarios that might involve feelings of regret but not rape.

the problem is the saying “regret is not rape” is very often based on misconstruing rape victims as just women that can’t make up their minds and had totally consensual sex then claimed it was rape later bc they’re just soooo crazy and want to get a poor innocent man in trouble. the reality is we know that simply regretting something does not make it rape. as u said, they say this bc they want to obfuscate things.

also literally… idk who they think they’re helping when they act like this. frankly it’s obvious they’re simply pretending it’s somehow for the sake of lesbians that they’re doing this as a way to justify their behaviour. i cant imagine someone actually being helped by these ppl harassing a traumatised woman about her trauma lmao. best case scenario for them is that their assumptions and stories are all true & i’m lying about everything. their worst case scenario is that i’m actually telling my truth and they’re actively harassing me about it and intentionally triggering me repeatedly for years while calling a rape victim they don’t even know a liar about her trauma. none of them seem to care about the very likely latter possibility.

[bylertruther]

idk why people are getting so burnt over older people in this fandom. older people enjoying byler harms absolutely no one and they're often the ones giving us smart analysis and good fics.

imo the only thing i would actually expect from older people that i wouldn't necessarily expect from younger fans is to behave maturely. no weird anon harassment, no vagueposts, no getting mad over different opinions - that's teenager shit and i feel like older fans should be more responsible and not engage with fandom toxicity.

but otherwise? older fans are just fans like anyone else and should be welcomed with open arms.

it's because they don't have anything real to come at older people for so they just go with that because then what is an onlooker going to do? side with the supposed "pedophile"? it's all intentional and manipulative and mean. these people are not coming at us in good faith.

they also say that shit because homophobia frames homosexuality as inherently sexual and adult in a negative connotation. it cannot exist between children or teenagers because that's "inappropriate". gay love is different, a perversion of "real" love, which is to say heterosexual love. love between a boy and a girl can be innocent and sweet, but gay love is immediately indecent, pornographic, and inappropriate for kids. they call us pedophiles, because they're viewing byIer, in this case, as being inherently sexual simply because they're two boys and that "deviates" from the "norm".

there's a reason this shit is always directed at (usually lgbt) people that ship gay couples. that kind of rhetoric doesn't come from nowhere—we hear it all the time in every corner of the world. it's especially sad to hear it come from fellow lgbt people, because it's like... how do you not see what you're doing? i literally have to fucking laugh at the audacity and sheer fucking idiocy of some people. kids will say whatever, but hearing adults attack other adults like this is just fucking pathetic.

i agree with you that "older" fans (kind of funny to separate adult fans from minors when adults are the majority and minors are the minority so maybe we should be calling them "younger" fans vs fans but i digress lmao) are just fans like anyone else.

but.. i do also think that as long as you're not naming them (explicitly or implicitly), tagging them, encouraging ppl to bully them, or attacking them yourself, that venting on the "privacy" (lol) of your own blog is okay. and sometimes people feel strongly about certain things and get upset which is also okay. what matters is how you handle that, and attacking people who don't deserve it isn't an okay way to handle it. but people are allowed to disagree with each other and we're not all going to like each other, and that isn't always personal even though many assume that it is, and that isn't a wrong or mean thing to do. but maybe that's what you meant and i just misunderstood like a silly goose. or not. idk! lol. but anyway so tru<3

[1d1195]

🎀-anon

So, how was your pedicure? What color did you choose? (If you did ask for manicure too)

You deserve all the cute stuff in the world😭🎀 I got up from a very long nap. My head is hurting, but that's fine. I'll take some painkillers, but anyway, so..oh! Yes! I have a lot of exams rn uni is very stressful and I'm only a sophomore😭 but I do care about every class cause I have a lot of dreams and I will hopefully achieve them one day. Btw I'm studying English literature and translation (Arabic - English). I'm an Arab!

Yk, sometimes I feel like I'm the mom in my group of friends, too but getting to know more people i learned that my bff is the mom shes always telling ppl off when they are being rude go me like the other day a colleague of ours was like twlling me that "i dont know anything about Hamlet" like literally 5 minutes before the exam (was she expecting me to help her cheat?)😭😭 so my friend was like oh and what should we do? She's so awesome.🎀

So my exams today went well, pretty well. I don't know why I stress sm when I do well, but I'm thankful. I STILL HAVE 3 OTHER 😭 I literally hate this lifestyle but I'm just a girl yk?

So my ex friend.. well she was toxic from the beginning but I don't know why I kept her I just think she wasn't as bad? Like well she is a bit of a pick me (I'm not trying to talk bad about her I swear I just can't find a suitable description other than that) so when the doctors started acknowledging me in classes she came up to me and started making conversations. So I noticed that she was toxic when she was convincing me to give her answers and when she took my notes without even asking and always, always turning the tables. I swear to God it took me a year and a half to make the decision of cutting her off. Even the prof who I was doing the presentation for and stopped her from ruining it noticed and she talked to me asking me what happened and that she always saw us together, but I didn't want to talk bad about her I just said that I think we're better now and that I don't want to get back to that state again (overthinking if I am the one who's being a lot and not respecting the other person's feelings) but to be honest the breaking point was when she said that I'm trying to show myself off in the presentations we did together I was deeply hurt and the next week she and her circle (one of them being the first girl I knew in campus) but they all sent me looks without talking to me I was with my other group of friends like usual and when I talked to my other friend, mutual friend, she said that the ex friend talked about me with all of them and told them that "I changed and I don't hang out with them anymore and that I am a lot of other stuff" so I decided to stand for myself and now I don't even care about her she's just being rude for no reason (idk why my haters are increasing by time😭 they're just being rude but when I don't act as kind as I did back as a freshman they just hate on me but I don't care that's how we should be right?)

So yeah.. that's the whole story💕💕💕

I STILL HAVE TO TELL YOU ABOUT THIS GUY WHO ACTS LIKE THE WICKED STEP MOTHER😭😭😭 HE'S AN ASSHOLE ALWAYS TRYING TO HARASS ME AND SOMETIMES MY FRIENDS I HATE HIM OHHH THATS GONNA BE A LONG ONE TELL ME IF YOU WANNA HEAR IT?😭

My pedicure was good! I picked like this light blue sparkly color. I'm a little bummed it smudged a little (I did a regular pedicure not gel).

I'm sorry about the headache I hope it's gone away since you messaged! As always, I'm so in awe of anyone that can speak two languages. I can barely speak English and it's the only language I know 😭 It sounds like your bff is the best! I love that for you! THREE MORE EXAMS?! You are a trooper.

As for your toxic ex-friend: the very first thing you said? You're not sure why you kept her around? I don't want to put words in your mouth (nor compare yourself to me, I know we're still getting to know each other). I for one have kept a lot of people in my life who I probably shouldn't have for much longer than they needed to be. I tend to naively see the best in everyone even if it's harmful to myself. Unfortunately, I'm wrong a lot. But on some level they WERE your friend, right? Like you did things together, had stuff in common, for better or for worse there was a connection and I don't think that's something that just happens and it's hard to just ignore that connection past it's prime if you will.

I'm glad you stood up for yourself, that's something I definitely DO NOT do. I'm glad you have a good friend group to support you and that you're pulling away from your ex-friend. It's natural to grow apart from friends that no longer help you be the best version of yourself so I'm glad you have a group of friends that are kind and lovely towards you 💕

You can tell me all the tea of whoever you want! Bring on the wicked step mother! 😈

xoxo

[glass-creatchurs]

why do I still play overwatch to """"relax""""? The toxicity is going to make me start biting!

[yyukhei]

hi just found your account and uuuh if you wanna spill the tea about miss "i ruin ppl's lives for a living" sasaeng please do i can't believe she still walks around freely without a care in the world

BUCKLE IN KIDS THIS IS GONNA BE A LONG POST and same like it's very disturbing that SM is giving her a silver platter to stalk the boys. 

The sasang I was specifically referring to is fttm (flytothemoon0), who stalks many of the boys but particularly stalks Yangyang of WayV these days. She hates Kun and Lucas with a passion, and is likely one of the multiple sasangs that made the fake accusations against Lucas (I'll show evidence of all this under the cut so you can come to your own conclusion.)

As a quick summary, here are literally just a few pieces of evidence of her stalking/following YY to unannounced schedules, along with invasive pictures taken in inappropriate places, etc etc. 

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There's plenty more, but you can just check out her account to see them yourself. Anyway, here's all about her under the cut (bc this is going to be loooonnngggg. She's been stalking the neos since debut)

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She has followed and harassed the boys so many times that they started snapping back a while ago. She was taking photos of them going to the bathroom, following them to undisclosed filming locations, calling them nonstop, and booking the same flights, etc etc.

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The boys got so annoyed that Lucas started snapping pictures of her back (likely in a "see how it feels?" way) and later that day Lucas was still so upset he started posting on his bbl about it

She was getting into arguments with Kun badly enough that she tried to start false rumors about him being a bully predebut

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Even today she continuously follows them EVERYWHERE. I'm not sure how she keeps getting in, but I've read before that she's an SM higher-up's relative (daughter? idk?) and that's why she's given special treatment.

You can see here she was allowed directly behind the boys by SM staff (no one else was allowed anywhere near that close) and was even chatting with them.

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In this post that WayV made that day, people think Hendery specifically ducked down so that you could clearly see her sitting in the front row, where she's hiding her face.

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Many people (like me) believe that she, along with other sasangs (there have been about 4 ppl linked to the account that made the false accusations against Lucas) made the fake cheating post and created the whole scandal bc Lucas kept fighting back at her.

If anyone wants to check out everything that's been debunked about the Lucas allegation, feel free to check out this account. Just be ready to read some heavy opinions and arguments, as OP is quite...blunt...😅

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Also, to explain why I said she also recently tried to start a Johnny scandal