#anti s*llie

[seancamerons]

How hard is it to admit s*llie isn't so great considering they weren't on the same page in some ways especially in back in black and she was trying to get him to do things he wasn't ready to do such as ie. Talk about it and was showing needy codependent behavior. It wasn't this match made in heaven kinda thing where it made perfect sense why he didn't pursue her in his return. Jus saying not trying to be rude but thinking that way it makes sense.

[piperslovebot]

You said you wanted an ask like this, so would you rather have a Sellie endgame or a Jeia endgame?

Oh my god this is so hard. On one hand, I want Jeia to be endgame so badly, but I’d be fine if they weren’t because I’m a multi shipper. And as long as their story is respected and there aren’t any retcons or the writers shitting on them, it’s completely fine with me.

Sellie, on the other hand, is endgame or bust to me. Literally it’s Sean & Ellie’s healthiest relationship and their story is so beautifully written imo. Two kids feeling broken and alone and finding solace in one another. Loving each other unconditionally and not giving up on another even after seeing each other at their worst. I can’t imagine them ending up with anyone else. Well I sorta can since I do ship them with other people, but literally they are it for me.

There’s a reason why out of both their relationships, Sellie was so well crafted. Literally the only other canon ship for either that was crafted as well is S*mma and Paige/Ellie (I’m counting them as canon since they kissed. That’s definitely cheating but idc).

And even with S*mma, after season 4, the way they were written was not favorite and the writers had Sean be all about Emma in season 6 and putting her on this pedestal and being her fanboy. Don’t even get me started on the military storyline.

And there’s Cr*llie, a ship that made Ellie lose all her morals for a man who cheated on her best friend with Manny for months. Also the fact that she hated Craig for cheating yet ended up being his personal side chick in s6 & s8 is bad writing all together, but that’s for another day.

Not to mention, I don’t even know if I can say that Craig loved Ellie. Because he used her in s6 for coke, most likely knowing that Ellie still loved him. He used her love for him against her. That’s not love.

I can go on, but basically, Sean came back for Ellie in s6, they did long distance in s7, and in present day Sellie is endgame and together in Tahiti with 2-3 beautiful children.

[alarrytale]

Hi Marte! I had a realization from reading your blog and have you to thank for it. Like a lightbulb moment. I'm left leaning on the political scale but my family are right leaning but not far right. I wouldn't call them homophobic, in the sense that if I was to CO I know they'd be accepting, they treat lgbtq+ people they meet like everyone else. But there is something there, maybe heteronormative thinking. They're fine with lgbtq+ people as long as they're not 'in their face'. So they really dislike S*m Sm*th and think that what he is doing is wrong and that he has mental health issues. They would hate Lil N*s as well if they knew who he was. They think that HW is trying to force lgbtq+ people on everyone else, like Kr*sten St*wart. They hate B*llie E*lish and find her weird. But they're also big fans of Freddie and George. So maybe it's some kind of form of homophobia or really heteronormative thinking. Like they're okay with lgbtq+ people as long as they're not graphic, but they're fine for straight people to be. Have seen a lot of people share these same views. Reading your blog has helped me realize that we need lgbtq+ people 'forced' on audiences because it's the only way to normalize them. Having the odd mainstream queer movie or queer artist isn't going to achieve anything. We need lots of them because then people will get used to seeing them. People argue that lgbtq+ people are accepted but they're not really. They are more now than they were in the past but conservatives are still targeting them and trying to bring them down. It would be really nice to get to the stage where a lgbtq+ movie can be as successful as straight movies, or a gay artist can be as successful as a straight artist. We need more out public figures. The music industry seems even further behind than HW. There is no mainstream artists other than Troy? writing about same sex relationships, or not many are anyway. The music industry is so slow to catch up.

Hi, anon!

Yes, queer people are often more accepted, respected and honored by straight people if they assimilate and adapt to straight norms and culture, rather than immersing themself in queer culture. It's a bit of homophobia mixed with anti-feminism, but mostly a lot of xenophobia and prejudices that makes it so. Most men got short hair so when people see a man with long hair it's going to be foreign to them, and unless they're exposed to it often they're going to have a reaction to it everytime they see men with long hair. Same with purple hair, tattoos, painted nails or two men holding hands.

Everything foreign, or something that's diverging from what they consider normal, common, expected and predictable, or something they can't relate to, is going to feel scary. It will challenge their way of thinking and seeing the world, challenge the societal norms and what they know. It will also challenge their own prejudices.

If they've never met, worked with or had a queer friend or family member, being exposed to a queer person can be met with negative feelings. Queer people often break several of the straight norms, blur the lines of feminity and masculinity and deliberatly seek to oppose the conventional. If you're never been exposed to it and lived a sheltered life where everyone is assimilating and people are afraid to diverge from the norm, it's going to be a wake up call.

The only way to change people's prejudices and attitudes towards queer people is exposure. A bit at the time. Let queer people tell their stories in the mainstream sphere. Straight people need to be educated and their prejudices needs to be challenged. Let queer people show straight people that they're just as good parents as a straight people, even if the men wear dresses or the females wear cargo shorts. Put out queer people in postition of power to show straight people that they're just as capable and just as respected as everyone else. Show us queer heros and queer success stories. Make straight people see the value in diversity and the need for equal rights regardless of people's sexuality or gender identity. When people have a lesbian neighbour, a non-binary grocer, a transgender work colleague and a gay boss they will eventually stop seeing sexuality and start seeing the person. They will create relations with them, start respecting them and not think of them as different. It will be the new normal.

We need to train people to see past heteronormativity, we need them to understand that they must always ask for pronouns or address people as they/them when they don't know. We need people to stop assuming sexuality and gender. If they are asked for their preferred pronouns, and it's normalised, they will start asking others for theirs.

The more people who come out the more straight people will be exposed to queer people and queer culture. More people are coming out in the music industry, but it's slow going. Billie, Jojo Siwa, Troye, Frank Ocean, Tyler the Creator, Lil Nas X, Luke Hemmings, Halsey, Demi Lovato and Miley to name a few. H and L have both had queer support bands on their tour as well. There aren’t that many mainstream artists out yet. I do have hope that more mainstream artist will come out, or become mainstream when they're out. It needs to happen to normalise being queer. If queer people continue to hide in the shadows, they will not bee seen and remembered by straight people. This will take time, but it got to start somewhere.

[ragnarssons]

So as an anti-Brallie I need to reblog that. Because I agree. Words cannot describe how MAD I was when Brandon and Callie had sex and it almost ruined YEARS of efforts and sacrifices, from Callie, Jude, Stef and Lena to get her into this family. I dropped the show when it happened because HOW can you put two characters on the way of "we're gonna be siblings"/"dna doesn't make a family", write a show about FOSTER KIDS and then keep on bringing back a messed up romance between teenagers who were meant to become BROTHER AND SISTER. So in the end it was just bait to keep people, and have them watch your show?! That's messed up. Lol I remember when The Fosters EP made a whole statement about "mean EPs" baiting people (he did it against The 100 after Lxa died) while y'all were doing the exact same thing??! LMFAO. I am in no way, saying they shoulda made B/Callie canon, I'm saying that if they decided "pretty early on" they should have killed the idea YEARS AGO and not transform it into a f-up relationship full of jealousy and mean comments (I'm sorry but oftentimes Brandon is MEAN to Callie thx for coming to my ted-talk), posessiveness and even manipulation (ok there are several parts where their relationship is a MESS borderline abusive. I'm not even sorry for telling this).

This is straight up bullshit. I can't believe I dropped this show because of nothing but BAIT. You harmed your audience (I'm talking about real foster kids who DID express themselves against the idea of Br@llie and how it was undermining Callie's identity as a part of the family- so THEIR identity as part of THEIR family, esp with fans saying "they are not REAL brother and sister" yes they are! Adopted kids ARE real siblings!!!!!) just for what... some views??! And at the end you pretend having the moral high ground by saying "we been knew for a long time we wouldn't do that because... foster kids!!" Where were you when these Foster Kids were asking you about what you were saying to them when you were like, saying it's "okay" for Brandon and Callie to have a romantic relationship that could RUIN Stef and Lena's whole efforts? Or during this HORRIBLE storyline where Callie was literally GIVING UP on her family just to be with her two weeks "not real brother" crush?? That level of manipulation and lies, and cattering to your audience while ruining YOUR SHOW'S MESSAGE for Y E A R S is just... ugh... disgusting.

“Yeah, we decided pretty early on that we didn’t think they should be together, because we liked them better as family. … Also, [we wanted] to respect the rules of foster care. Foster siblings cannot be involved, and we really wanted to make that message clear to people, because we do think that’s the right thing.”

- Joanna Johnson

Then why did you let them have sex? Why did you even write them as romantic in the first place? Why bait the fanbase for 5 years to only tell them there was never any hope?