#answer 📸

[mxviko]

Can u draw Pike please? :3

(Mike makowski x Pete Thelman)

Yess I can!

The silliests little things I love them actually

[cherryvampiro]

not a question but the way you draw hobie and miles is my new drug your art is scrumptious [cue that one french song from ratatouille]

D'aaawwhh!! Thank you 💕🫶🏽😊💕 I'd offer you a silly scribble of them but I really gotta focus on my c0mms 😖 So instead I offer silly pictures I took of my Hobie & Miles toys!!! ❤️🩷

[ask-mumbojumbo]

Who are you? Why do you look like me? Is this a trick by those obnoxious humans trying to ruin our plans?

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@snapshotmumbo

I'm sorry- what? Pardon? Huh?

Oh gosh I'm encountering my first duplicate

Hello other me person! Oh, wow, this is exciting!

[g4me-ov3r]

G won't stop pestering me, you definitely get what you've gotta do, right?

-🔫

Yeah- I mean he asked me the same thing, idk what his deal is. i told him im fine. i dont even know the dude. whys he so worried about me getting it right??? im not stupid.

[palmtreesx3]

[astrolavas]

So how do you interpret Willow reaction to Hunter taste in fashion? Does she not realize that the fashion is bad or when it comes to Hunter, everything just looks good on him to her?

oh she is irredeemable, she finds his awful fashion charming and cute

[duketectivecomics]

What do you think about Cass and duke as a duo?

I can’t believe that I’ve been SLACKING SO BAD THAT THJS IS EVEN A QUESTION IM SKDJKAJDKS SO MAD AT MYSELF NOW

Let’s put it this way, anon, they’re the ONLY relationship duo on this blog that I have a separate platonic tag for MAKE OF THAT WHAT YOU WILL

[bitronic]

I’m still thinking about your anders nitroglycerin post because for the past several years until I read it I completely believed that blowing up the chantry removed justice :( worlds biggest dumbass. Also head cannoning that my Hawke fully doesn’t understand either

HAHAHA its ok anon most tags are evenly split between "I GENUINELY DIDNT KNOW HE WOULD BLOW IT UP/IT WOULDNT ACTUALLY REMOVE JUSTICE" and "I KNEW FROM THE VERY MOMENT HE STARTED LISTING OFF BOMB INGREDIENTS IM JUST MAD HE DIDNT TELL ME IN CONFIDENCE HE WAS GONNA BLOW UP THE CHANTRY" have a small comic i drew at work (when i still had a job) based on my favorite response from the og post ("its for his angina")

anders: i need gunpowder & nitroglycerin

hawke: why

anders: for my uh. angina (fuck)

justice (in pink): theyre never gonna fall for that!

hawke: ok :)

anders and justice: *surprised it worked*

[mxviko]

You need ideas?

Let me think

How about Pip and Damien watching a movie

It’s all I got buddy BUT I will think more ideas

Thank you for your service anon, I thank you deeply

(Seriously thank you for the suggestion and no pressure! Feel free to suggest anytime if you have anything:3)

This took almost a day but my sleep schedule sucks and slept most of today-

[habitual-creatures]

*The song on the radio cuts off*

i'msorry. i...ijustdon'twannaseehimhurt-

*The radio switches stations*

J̴̼͠O̵͕͝I̵̥̊N̵̂͜ ̵̗̎Ṵ̷̈́S̸̙͂,̸͙͌ ̸̰̀D̶̺̈́Ė̵͔A̸͍͌R̷̪̆ ̴̢̛S̷̬͗I̸̛̯S̵̗͠T̶̢͘Ë̴́ͅR̶͈̽.̸͉̏ ̵̡̀H̵̝̒È̷̖ ̵̥̃W̸̟̐Ȋ̴͉Ľ̵̜L̸͇̚ ̵̡̈́P̸̲̏R̴̞̂O̴̬̐T̵̘̽E̵̺͂C̶̡̄T̶̮͒ ̶̖̍Y̴͙̑Ö̴̪́Ụ̸͛ ̸̭̀A̶̰͋S̶͚̐ ̸̢̐H̸̙͠Ḛ̸͝ ̴̖̇Ḑ̴̍O̶̩̕E̷͇̾Ṣ̵̎ ̵̝̔M̵̢̏E̷̜͘.̴̰͑

*It switches back*

-ing. uh...what?? just?? happened??

~🎈/📸

NO. Youcan't. HEISN'TPROTECTING-

Ofcourseheis... Healwaysdoes...

Heneedsyoutoo,youdon'twantyourbrothertobealone... DOYOU-

[lady-phasma]

Hello there, I loved your previous answer to an anon question and you made a comment about your previous experience of getting attached to characters or people because of loneliness and depression. Please can I ask how you overcome that and what perspective you had about this? How did you frame it in your mind? 🥰🥰🥰 I have never really experienced this before and I’m not why but I get happy and then feel sadness because I know im projecting and it’s not real. In my real life I’m pretty confident but I would like to start dating and meeting someone but have a crush on a character or actor has been easier than going out there and approaching people I like. Any advice would be brilliant. Also I have felt that when it has come to people like EM etc the stories about how they actually got there and the way in which they have made sacrifices and had challenges gets glossed over. It’s always look at how well they have done which is right, but not it’s taken lots of hard work and lots of rejections and learning behind closed doors to get them in this position. The glamorisation of actors can be really off putting for me as it’s amazing that they are getting the credit they deserve but the toil to get there is rarely mentioned.

Hi anon! I think this is the ask you are referring to. Thank you. 💜 I'm glad you enjoyed it. Let me tell you today turned out to be the day to ask this. We have gotten so many Ewan crumbs today. It's honestly a bit overwhelming.

I'm going to start with: your emotions are not weird or uncommon! The first thing we have to do is be compassionate with ourselves. I have a couple moots who needed some distance this week, not because of drama, just to be in the real world more and less overwhelmed. I spent half of Sunday without any technology so I could give my brain a break. So do your absolute best to be compassionate toward yourself.

Next, regarding this:

you made a comment about your previous experience of getting attached to characters or people because of loneliness and depression. Please can I ask how you overcome that and what perspective you had about this? How did you frame it in your mind?

This answer will be quite long, settle in. I will use some healthier examples from my Matt Smith fandom and a couple from back when I had a harder time coping. The timing does overlap in my life a bit because Matt has been part of my life since he and I were 25-26 years old (I phrased it like that even though it's odd, because I want people to understand that most of what I am going to be discussing was before I turned 30).

I think this is the comment you were talking about:

lady-phasma: Oh man I have had attachments in the past, at points in my life that could have become obsessions because of loneliness or depression (not applying that to this anon) and have had to take a step back and think "okay I actually don't know this person!"

That's the context here's the first part of the answer. Cognitive behavioral therapy helped a lot. Not for the attachments to actors/public figures, but for what was actually going on with me (which I'm not going to go into too much detail about). My sister and I call these actors "emotional support actors" (gender neutral). There have been times that it wasn't the actor, but a specific character which helped me through a difficult time. When I was in a slowly-dying relationship, Ryan Gosling helped me feel less alone through roles like Drive and Crazy, Stupid Love. I want to be clear that I am not discussing parasocial relationships exactly (here's an article about those that is fairly unbiased). I don't have a problem discussing them and I have possibly unpopular opinions about them, but that's a distinction I wanted to make here. I consumed all the Ryan Gosling content I could for over two years and his movies helped me during my breakup (yes, the relationship ended, thank fuck).

The way that I "overcame" it was by reframing the actor/character in my mind as a tool or coping mechanism (I was thrilled you said "frame" btw). In the recent past I said to a moot "these internet men are going to kill me." That made them laugh because "these internet men" are real people. I have even made posts about that. However, that is one of my ways of creating distance. The Ryan Gosling I learned about, watched every interview of, watched nearly his entire body of work, is not Ryan Gosling and never will be. Neither is Matt or Pedro or Ewan or Gwendoline Christie or any of them. So now, I think of them as tools that I use to give myself some comfort during a difficult time when it starts to escalate.

This is where I'll use Matt as an example because I have been able to do this with him since day one. I have written about it briefly before, the Eleventh Doctor showed up at a time in my life that was very difficult. I had no idea I needed him. It turns out the part was played by a gorgeous and talented actor. I know now that I can turn to Matt's films/tv shows for comfort and keep my emotional distance because, in many ways, he is a figment of my imagination. I'll note here that I also no longer consume detailed personal facts about actors. I know a lot of people enjoy that but outside of knowing things Matt has said in interviews and his birthday and height I have no clue who he dates and when. No idea where he likes to vacation or grab a pint. This applies to any actor I like: the less I know, the better. That helps me from thinking that I know them. (I hope I explained that well.)

As you said, a projection. Watching his Doctor Who episodes is the same as a weighted blanket. It is comforting, self-care, and gives me space to not think.

I'm going to tie this into your other main question:

In my real life I’m pretty confident but I would like to start dating and meeting someone but have a crush on a character or actor has been easier than going out there and approaching people I like.

Ask any moot who knows me well and they can tell you I have a personal rule: if I start to have daydreams about meeting Matt I shut that shit down fast. And I mean fast. As soon as I realize I've done it I stop, take a step back, and use my self-awareness to isolate what I need in that moment. Am I lonely, hungry, overwhelmed, tired, anxious? This is personal boundary for me. I love daydreams but I want to maintain my on-going fangirling for Matt as long as possible. This approach works for me because maybe I need to text a friend or do some yoga or even get on a dating app. We can't always identify what the need is but it helps me to try. I am confident as well and have had lots of partners when I have the energy to put into those interactions. I don't always have that energy. I know why it's easier for me to crush/fangirl though this may not be your reason: I don't have to give up a single aspect of my life to another person, I don't have to be vulnerable because these are completely one sided situations. Matt will never ask me to meet his mom. Ewan will never need me to pick him up if he has a flat time. My time and my energy remain my own.

I don't have any kind of advice really. I'm aroallo and omnisexual and a cis female and you might be absolutely none of those things so my advice wouldn't help. But, human to human, pay attention to what you feel you are missing in your life and decide if you need to make it happen or if you can feel at peace without it. That is a question we have to ask over and over through our lives because we change so much.

I wish I had time to talk about the last bit you mentioned because it is important that we humanize actors and understand their struggles but I have gone on longer than most people will read. 💕 Thank you for coming to me, anon. I'm always here.

Just in case you decide to come back I gave you 📸 anon (because it felt appropriate and fun for fandom stuff) but feel free to pick your own if you don't like that.

[angelnetcast]

🏢🏢

i’m not sure i like where this is going

[powerplaying]

SYDNEYCAN U PLEASE HIT ME UP I'LL GIVE U MY NUMBER LET'S PLAY MORTAL KOMBAT I'LL WIN BTW HEH 🩷 Ur probably a mid ass gamer....

-🦇🪽

📸: Likewise. I don’t hit up noobs for free anyway, so unless you’ve got nitro in your back pocket (which you don’t.), there’s a fat chance.

📸: You wouldn’t know good gaming anyway. Could always watch it though - twitch dot tv, y’know where to find me.

[g4me-ov3r]

Say something to convince me *not* to get rid of that guy cuz I swear to god

-🔫

I will be the most irritating person on the face of the fucking earth cus I won't be getting romantic attention.

[mamiinthemiddle]

Excuse me miss... do you mind if I ask How big your your largest strap-on is? 👀

I’m actually SO happy you asked! 😍

I just bought this 8 inch dildo for my harness and it’s my favorite color in all of the world! 🥰🩵

I’m still waiting to use it but I’m very excited! 🤩💕 I’ve never been turned on by a dildo before but it’s so enchanting! 🥹🥵🤤

[amourjins]

OHHHH MY GODDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD