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outfoxt · 2 months ago

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"For many lesbians and gay men, blood family represented not some naturally given unit that provided a base for all forms of kinship, but rather a procreative principle that organized only one possible type of kinship. In their descriptions they situated gay families at the opposite end of a spectrum of determination, subject to no constraints beyond a logic of 'free' choice that ordered membership. To the extent that gay men and lesbians mapped 'biology' and 'choice' onto identities already opposed to one another (straight and gay, respectively), they polarized these two types of family along an axis of sexual identity."

-Kath Weston | Families We Choose: Lesbians, Gays, Kinship (1997)

#theres also another quote i think im going to reblog this with #and like #now that ive typed it all out its not really saying much #but idk this made me cry #because this whole article was about how gay people kind of just assumed for ages and ages that if they came out they would have no family #and the shift from “no family” to “chosen family” is so important #it symbolizes the shift from not exactly helplessness but like accepting what society's told you #to taking your life into your own hands and doing what you want #making yourself happy #and this is the basis for a lot of qpr and found family stuff imo #because some people quoted in that book didnt even consider their lover to be family #idk this is so important to me

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