#and theyve been rightfully pointed out by feminists

[majorbaby]

An overwhelming focus on sexuality and attraction - or what i perceive to be that - has been very frustrating for me. I cant remember the book or the author but they were asserting that at the moment of rejecting heterosexuality, gay people are also breaking from gender roles. That there me be an inherent "transness / queering of gender" element to all homosexual activity. Does that extend to other instances of breaking from gender roles? Hmm..

[autumnalhalcyon]

yknow, im not fucking done. bc mainstream activism, be it feminism or gay/trans rights, refuses to take into account the people they leave behind.

nobody wants to talk about the role amab people take in these movements. sure, a lot of yall are vocal about terfs, tehms and other binary trans exclusionary groups, but when nb people factor in, all i ever see are white afab people. ive seen stories about people refusing to acknowledge, and even expelling amab people who try to join nonbinary support and social groups. people see selfies of me where i look particularly androgynous and insist i have to be afab, bc otherwise i couldn't POSSIBLY look andro. when i see posts on the subject, the notes and tags are filled with afab folk making it about them, when were excluded by EVERYONE, because we're "not trans enough", and we're not "cis enough".

that's not even getting into how feminists RARELY talk about how much law enforcement and divorce courts tend to lean towards afab folk. men getting away with sexual assault on shit charges to preserve their scholarships are horror stories ive seen plenty of, but if you're like me, an amab person who still lives with a woman who's been sexually abusing me for YEARS and is gonna get the fuck away with it for the most part, you can see where the scales lie.

if my fucking rapist decided she wanted to beat the shit out of me, ID be the one fucking cuffed. I have video fucking evidence of her admitting to THREE COUNTS OF RAPE, and people still take her fucking side. i had to witness my best fucking friend throughout high school end up trapped with his violent, abusive wife WHO ADMITTED POINT BLANK to hitting him. THE LAW DOESNT EVEN CONSIDER A MAN TO HAVE BEEN R*PED UNLESS HE'S BEEN PENETRATED FOR FUCK'S SAKE.

I see way too many predatory, abusive women get away with horrid, unspeakable acts, getting to prance around acting like theyve got so much fucking "girl power" for manipulating, beating and r*ping amab people without any fucking recourse. when amab people act like this, their victims are RIGHTFULLY allowed to be angry!

but when women beat and abuse and r*pe us, OUR fucking anger is inherently fucking abusive to yall! according to today's society, (the vast fucking majority of it, dont bring up fucking semantics) we "did something to deserve it", we "actually liked it", we should "just let it fucking happen"!

Between all of this and the way TERFs act, is there any fucking wonder why a good portion of people tend to (wrongfully) assume feminists are just man-haters with a chip on their shoulder?

And I say all of that, to bring it back the fuck around: amab nonbinary people not only have the regular demonization and the refusal of almost EVERYONE to take us fucking seriously when we're being abused, but we can't fucking be taken seriously about our fucking GENDER, either! Even within the queer community, anyone with a slab of meat hanging between their fucking legs are only allowed to be a cis man, or a trans woman (and even they are on thin ice to yall), because otherwise we're just predators trying to invade your fucking spaces.

But no one wants to fucking talk about that. No one wants to listen to listen to an queer, amab nonbinary person who has been failed by not just the system, but also the communities they've desperately looking for support within.

We need to talk about the people your activism leaves behind. Because this shit is how movements fall apart.

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