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mejomonster · 2 years ago

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To top it all off you simply can't search "how to find love" or "how to meet people" or "how to date" or "how to ask people out" and find any advice that doesn't contradict

Even if all there is are articles of wildly conflicting advice, I've tried the main generally agreed upon ones

#rant #generally agreed upon advice tends to be: make friends. go to clubs events hobby forums places you like and MAKE friends #well lemme tell you. im EXCELLENT at making friends. the advice then goes onto say ask out some friends if theyre hot #or else ask Those friends with similar hobbies if they know anyone #well. in my particular luck. every friend ive met at events is cpu #coupled or married. so great friend material! i certainly cant ask them out. and then if i say im single to them?#they have either only Red Flag city people theg tell me NOT TO DATE or they dont know anyone single to introduce me yo #so yay. with the advice ive expanded my horizons and had fun and made friends. absolutely zero dates!!! hahahahqhq #another agreed upon advice: ask out people u might not normally. be open to new kinds of people.#ive done that sevetal times. and probably will continue to do so as long as they have lim #like no abusive red flags or arent majorly incompativle. but uh... all my dates with ppl wildly not stuff in common turned into... friends #or nothing at all (which is fine but probably wasted their time).#theres also the advice be proactivr! ask people out! compliment people! i do! i am the first person to ask people out and have been my #entire life. the first to compliment. the first to start and continue a dating app convo #in fact one year i made a rule to ONLY have dating app convos and go on dates with people who talked FIRST #just hoping maybe it wojld mean more likely tbe other perskn #remotely likes me at all. the result? 1 person who talked more than 3 messages. who i still asked on the date instead of them asking.#and then we had absoljtely nothing in co.#common. so we didnt even become friends. and in the worst case once a stranger asked me out #then very bad stuff haplened. anyway lime #like. i already DO go approaxh cute people and ask people out and start convos. as mentioned im quite good at friend making #and initial contact is almost the same in dating as friendship.#years anyway. and so i approaxh ppl i have no idea if i Could Like if i had maybe 3-6 months to find out post meeting #but like. 1 i keep going up axcidentally to not single ppl so no date jyst friendship #2 i just. :c no date in like 5 years. probably 50(#50k online matches or more now. tinder told me i had 10k likes once #ahyway like. idk idk #i do all the advixe i know to do #is there more???? is it like idk SMILE AT STRANGERS???? STARE AT STRANGERS????#cayse i can do it i guess!

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