#and then have been having a gender crisis ‘cause maybe in genderfluid?

[ohmygob]

me: yeah my tits are okay i guess. they’re just kinda there. i don’t like how they look and i don’t want anyone to see or touch them and i don’t feel attractive when not wearing a shirt but they look good with specific outfits sometimes so i guess i like them

me after putting on trans tape: i am never putting a shirt on again. i feel so good and confident and attractive. i’ve never felt like this idk why- oh. hm. hmmmmmmmmmm……

[mijah658]

This I my first post ever so I have no idea how to Tumblr I only know how to reddit

Why is gender so frustrating I've gotten to the point where I am completely at a loss

Someone advised that maybe I'm genderless but that doesn't fit because know I have a gender just can't find it (it's shy and doesn't want to come out of hiding)

It's getting under my skin and is causing me a VERY MINOR crisis

I am AMAB and have always Identified as a guy but lately I've been getting increasingly confused with who the hell I am

Ive only recently accepted that I'm queer and even more recently I've discovered that I'm not cis (I know I'm not cis because cis people don't ever have a gender identity crisis and I've had multiple)

When I first started questioning my gender I thought ooh maybe I'm a demiboy but over time I've become less certain of that

I'm somewhere under the NB umbrella but idk where I thought I was NB and masc which is why I chose demiboy as my label for so long but now even that has been thrown into doubt

I am not genderfluid because I don't really fluctuate except for like 3% of the time but that's usually only when I'm having an ongoing gender identity crisis

If I had to describe myself I'm nowhere near being a binary man but I'm not agender nor NB fem

I'm a guy but not a man

I'm ready to give up and just identify as a cis man because it's easier

But I really want to know who I am

AAAAAHHHHHHH WHO EVEN IS GENDER AND WHERE CAN I FIND THEM TO CHOKEHOLD THE ANSWER OUT OF THEM

Advice much appreciated and if anyone has a specific label they want to suggest I'd appreciate that too because I get anxious when I don't have a label to associate with a concept

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

Hey, I'm sorry in advance that this is super long and feel free to ignore this ask if you can't or don't want to answer it, I appreciate being able to just rant somewhere anyway :) I am an aro-questioning ace girl, and I have been struggling to figure out if I'm arospec or not because there have been some people that I have gotten really attached to but I don't know if it was in a romantic way? There was this girl who I thought was really really pretty and her smile made feel so happy and warm and nervous inside. Even though there were other more "conventionally attractive" girls out there but I only felt this way around her... Maybe that was aesthetic attraction? I wasn't that close to her, but I wanted to talk to her and see her smile, and we didn't have anything in common but I still wanted to be close to her... I've NEVER felt this way for anyone else and I'm 18 and I know that it's common for alloromantic people to have felt at least very mild romantic attraction to more than 2-3 people by the time they're 18, and it's been 3 years since then, and I haven't felt this around anyone else, so I can't help that maybe I'm making up these feelings? Just so I could "have a crush"? Or maybe they're just strong platonic feelings? I guess I'm just looking for some sort of confirmation because honestly I can't deal with not having a label to put to my feelings, and I've tried going label-less for a long time. It was easy for me to figure out that I'm ace, cause I just heard the description and was like "oh shit, i thought everyone felt this way" but figuring out my romantic orientation is a whole other ordeal cause I don't want to kiss anyone ever, and wanting affection can be very much platonic, so I can't really differentiate between romantic and platonic attraction. I have one other aroace friend and they don't have the same problems, so I don't know.

Sorry for this being super super long

Anon Im slapping you in the face with a wet fish rn DON’T APOLOGISE!! THATS WHAT IM HERE FOR!! IM HERRE TO HELP YALL DONT SAY SORRY!!!!

Gonna be honest, that sounds like romantic attraction to me, but it could still be platonic attraction. My suggestion is talk to some of your alloro friends and ask them to describe what romantic attraction feels like to them, and see how close your experiences with this girl are to what theyre talking about.

Bestie I HIGHLY doubt you’re making up these feelings—why would you make up smth you’re having a whole ass crisis about?? Capital U Unlikely

Not everyone feels romantic attraction at the same time, even alloro people. I had friends who had crushes by 1st grade and I never liked anyone til 5th grade. Shit’s different for different people.

Honestly this is gonna sound very like facebook mom so I’m sorry in advance lmao but my advice is Just Chill. Like don’t get me wrong man I know exactly the kinda shit you’re going thru (I went thru the same thing w gender) like the whole anxiety hyperventilate I need to know what I am thing.

But you gotta fucking breathe dude. Inhale, exhale. Like. You may be aro, you may not be. And that’s okay. The more you try to frantically try and find a label the more confused and frustrated and mad you’ll get. So you gotta just let things be, yknow? Shit’ll fall into place eventually.

Like I used to frantically try and label myself like oh i’m genderfluid wait am I maybe I’m a demi boy maybe I’m genderfaun fuck what’s going on I feel like shit—then I realised it doesn’t fucking matter as long as I’m being myself, and not overthinking everyone to shit. I let mysrlf be, and then I realised oh shit, I’m a trans dude. Okay yknow what good for me, slay!

So here’s my advice. You like this girl—good for you, slay! Maybe it’s platonic, maybe it isn’t, but either way, you like her, so spend time with her. Don’t sweat it mate. If she makes you happy, whether it’s as a friend or as a potential girlfriend, be with her.

Hope I could help you out!!

[cloudninetonine]

Hellooo! I wake up from my nap what do I see? First off, really interesting takes on the Gerudo as a whole, secondly, my 3 am rambles were deleted. Now then, do I lack the self respect to re-write it? Yes. Yes I do.

First off! I have memes for Player's Aid (albeit not very good ones.) that I wish to send in, but I can't send in images with anonymous on. Do you have any ideas for how I can send it in or do I need to just send it in off Anon? Because fuck it, I will if I have to, I have been holding onto these memes all day.

Secondly! The Genderfluid rambling was about wanting Genderfluid/Gender-Non-Conforming reader to introduce the Chain into the magic of 'gender shapeshifting.' Using makeup, clothing, body languge and voice acting skills they had learned.

I specifically imaged Player in Wild's Hyrule and for most of the adventure, Player presents masc. It's easier that way as a bunch of masc people and one feminine person tends to raise red flags, (potential tw oncoming??? Not exactly sure how to tag this but I feel it needs to be warned of that following topics contain vague references to trafficking so... be warned and it ends after next line break.) especially when that feminine person looks different to the average Hylian, especially when that group is traveling cross country and ESPECIALLY if the chain is protective and doesn't want people talking to Player, maybe the Player is just stressed or something, but point it, that raises red flags and causes other feminine folks to say something along the lines of "Hey, are you okay? Do you know these people? Are they scaring you? Do you know where you're going? Are you safe?". I'm not saying that would happen, I'm saying that's just the way I at least would handle that to avoid a scene.

And so, Reader has been presenting masc to avoid any unnecessary stress or uncomfy situations, and when they reach Gerudo town, they just really really wanna go in with Wild, and so, they engage in shapeshifting! Give them 20 minutes, they'll be fine to get into Gerudo town and keep Wild company.

And so! Player teaching the Chain how they do it, details in walking different, or word choice, clothing that makes you look very different, makeup, how to do a more masculine sounding voice and a more feminine sounding voice, etc.

Also, Wild filing some of this tips away for their fem days because genderfluid Wild lives in my heart. Also, perhaps sending members of the Chain into a minor gender crisis.

Anyway! Just wanna see the Chain be supportive, some realizing there are terms for how they feel that Player is happy to tell them more about, some not quite understanding but they're not hurting anyone so who cares?

If you don't wanna do this kinda thing because you're worried it might cause dysphoria or you just don't like writing this type of content or something, feel free to ignore. This has been my attempting of copying 3 am me.

-Fruit Anon

FIRST WOULD LIKE TO INFORM PEOPLE THIS WAS SENT IN BEFORE I PUT UP THE GERUDO POST AND TAG SO DON'T WORRY! I'VE ONLY JUST GOT TO IT BECAUSE I'VE BEEN A BIT OVERWHELMED WITH THE ASKS SENT IT! (I've never had more than like 1) I WILL USE A DIFFERENT SCENARIO FOR THIS :D

ONCE AGAIN FRUIT THANK YOU FOR THE MEMES! I LOVE THEM SO MUCH!

Also Genderfluid Player? You're coming after my own heart Fruit! Literally will give it to you still beating if you really wanted it.

Now, this scenario but instead, they're in a different Hyrule (I'm gonna go with Wars) and they need to sneak into some fancy banquet (No I don't know why and no I'm not gonna make an idea for why) and they decide that there's too many of them. There are nine heroes, they're going to be the light of the night, no one's going to be able to leave except for the Player who isn't very confident about their abilities to do a stealth mission alone.

"So, why don't you guys like, I don't know- dress up in disguises?"

"Oh? And what disguises do you suggest?"

"Dress up as women?"

"...You're joking, right?"

"Does it look like I'm joking?"

Then they basically shapeshift (Don't tell the church) and now they're dressed as feminine as possible, makeup, beautiful dress that drags, head made pretty- the whole shebang.

The Chain decides it's probably for the best if they do go in disguised. Wild is picked, so is Legend and Hyrule (Wars would have been picked but he needs to attend as himself because it's his Hyrule- The Player did do his makeup for it though which he loved (Argue with a wall))

The four of the wonder off while everyone else is distracting the people, because who cares about the Heroes' dates? We want to talk with the men who saved Hyrule! (And from out of time) so the four of them are on a stealth mission and I can see Wild or Hyrule asking about how they're so good with this stuff- the dress, makeup, etc. when they've been presenting as male the entire time they've been with them.

"In my era, the concept of gender has been questioned throughout history, more so in modern society and I just don't see myself aligning with any sort of group" They explain as they sneak into another room "I'm a guy, I'm a girl, I'm neither, I'm both- I just don't see the point of putting a label on myself like that, so I'm flexible with how I present myself"

Their hands run over the dress, a smile forming "I'm been wanting to present as feminine for a while now but it would have been awkward, such a large male following and a single girl? It would have looked suspicious- but I'm so glad I've been able to finally dress how I've wanted to"

They glance between one another, sucking up your words before Legend just kinda whispers "I...know what you mean"

Wild pipes up in agreement.

Maybe even Hyrule just "I don't know exactly how you feel but....I wasn't always a boy"

And they all have this mutual understanding and respect for one another. Even Legend and Player aren't too iffy with each other as much.

(GUYS THESE ARE JUST PERSONAL HEADCANONS! THEY WON'T BE IN THE STORY BUT I CAN DO REQUESTS FOR THEM IF YOU REALLY WANT)

[weebsinstash]

Coming from someone who's genderfluid, I'm thriving off the recent posts you're making

It's honestly sort of weird and undefined for me, cause like

I noticed quite a few years ago that I started having a lot of sort of, I guess you could say questioning thoughts about gender over the years. I've been thinking about it a lot recently in particular because a friend of mine came out as nonbinary, and also I was having a lot of those sort of prompt ideas I was joking about earlier with like, a Reader character who feels their identity on a sliding scale based on how they're feeling, and at one point where I was daydreaming some sort of scenario, to myself I'm like "hey remember that time in middle school when you had a legitimate gender crisis crying as you hid in the basement at the thought of being rejected by your mother for not identifying as 100% female and your mental solution to that was 'my gender is just being me and existing as myself' and you actually still think that from time to time. Maybe thats like, indicative of something"

On the other hand due to traumas and anxieties and things like that, I always want to have "evidence" or "proof" when there's something about myself, like I need to be validated to actually "exist", and for gender that gets complicated because that's all social constructs? Gender roles change from culture to culture and most cultures have some sort of form of being another gender anyways so.... i guess.... every single time I start having the whole Gender Crisis, I always come to "gender isn't an inherently set in stone thing and I'm not actually hurting anyone by seeing how it feels to identify as something else" but I guess I never actually... put a name on whatever that something else was, or even went "im gonna do this for a while and see how it feels". I just feel like genderfluid best describes what I feel, but to be honest I have so much trauma from various sources that i worry I just have a lot of internalized misogyny and I'm experiencing some sort of shame over being a woman which is honestly why I've never even. Discussed any of this with another person. Like at all.

There was a thing that happened to me in second grade in elementary school that I still remember... the teacher was doing a game where she was giving all of the kids names for if they were the opposite gender (oh god would that not fly in today's social climate) and for me, Miranda, she picked out the name Michael, which I think was a name I already liked anyways, and I just. Have never forgotten... the weird affectionate sort of way I've carried that with me. Sometimes sitting and remembering when that happened or just thinking "Michael, huh..." and honestly i kind of looked in the mirror in the other day and felt a little voice go "hi Michael" and it felt. I dunno. Not bad. Not exactly wrong. And it definitely isn't true to call myself a transman because I know for certain that I don't feel, I guess, that definitive feeling of being the exact opposite of what I should be, I guess is how I would describe it? Sometimes I feel like I need small tweaks, not the whole renovation, you know? So I kind of identified... I guess in early childhood that there was sort of the "other" option.... i'm rambling i dunno...

So yeah gender is weird and I don't exactly know if I "qualify" but..... yeah. It's all weird and confusing for me to think about because it's all ultimately subjective but... I kinda just felt like opening the discussion I guess 👉👈

[kyxgrey]

Okay this is gonna get super personal cause I'm really going through it right now. So be warned I'm gonna mention dysphoria and kind of mild transphobia, maybe a little bit of internalized as well I'm not honestly sure.

So when I came out as Genderfluid I really did a ton of research to make sure that was what I identify with and that's how I felt. But labels aren't really my thing anyway but I know some people need to have a label for others so I found the one that fit closet to how I felt. Well I came out to my mom and the first words out of her mouth were "So you want a penis?" and I said no that I only had chest dysphoria. Well flash forward to now, came out in 2016, I have slowly realized I have dysphoria in relation to my sex. Sorry this is super hard for me to word and I feel super scared typing this out. Anyway and now I'm freaking out cause while I know it doesn't mean I'm ftm trans and I can be Genderfluid and feel more comfortable being masc my mind just automatically goes to "what if you're not Genderfluid."

I don't think I'm solely ftm trans and I know I identify as they/them some days and some days with she/her just I have some trauma around she/her so I only use They/He. Anyway I seriously don't know if this is me having a second gender crisis or if I'm just freaking out because of what my mom said in 2016 despite her being so supportive now. Like am I just afraid to admit I want to pack solely because I'm scared she'll think I'm faking being Genderfluid and that I'm just ftm?

I'm sorry if none of this makes sense at all I'm just having a mini panic attack and have been for about half the damn year since I realized "hey I feel more comfortable with me having a penis than what I have now." due to several dreams in which I had one instead so now I'm just uh kind of at a breaking point and needed to vent but I'm even scared to mention it to Nicole cause she's new to understanding gender herself.

[thetrashywritingwitch]

I'm having a bit of a crisis and I don't really know what to do? I've identified as genderfluid the past 4 years, but after getting my hair cut short for the first time ever I feel as though a huge weight I didn't expect to be there was lifted? And the more I think about it the more it scares me cause I noticed small things like how I've ALWAYS hated my chest.(I was very conscious of this before getting my hair cut though. I've wanted top surgery even before identifying as genderfluid.) (1/2)

Hey, anon dear. I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way. Figuring out your identity and how you most feel comfortable can be a rough thing to come to terms with. I’m not trans or genderfluid, but there is a large LGBTQI+ community where I am, and I have friends who are trans who have transitioned since I’ve known them. So I can’t give advice based on my own experiences, but let me just say a few things that may help. 

Gender and identity is a spectrum as we should all be aware of now. It’s not a binary, meaning it can continuously change and shift and deviate over time and with experience as we come to know ourselves as best we can. And that can take TIME! 

For my entire life I considered myself pretty damn straight, even though it should’ve been stupidly obvious that I liked women. Even when I was young I had crushes on girls, and had a crush on my best friend from highschool and can remember feeling let down for some reason when she said she’d never ever be attracted to girls. I didn’t think about it that hard then, tbh. 

I’m in my late 20′s and only a few years ago came to terms with me being Bisexual, though I’m not openly out to anyone within my family. It was hard, because thinking of yourself in a new light is scary when you’ve known one thing for so long. But as we grow as individuals, how we feel most comfortable tends to grow with us as well. 

I think you should just be patient with yourself and be kind to yourself for a bit. Don’t let the idea of possibly being ftm trans overwhelm you to the point of stress or anxiety or panic. Think about it, and mull it over, and ultimately just identify with what you feel most comfortable with. Change is scary, that’s universal so don’t feel alone in that aspect. 

Maybe discuss this with your bf if you feel comfortable opening up to him in that way? A trusting partner or even a good friend might help talk you through your thoughts verbally. Sometimes saying things aloud and putting real words to scary thoughts can help make things seem less overwhelming, or even writing how you feel down in a notebook to look back over later isn’t a bad idea. 

Basically, just be patient and try not to feel scared or like you have to figure shit out RIGHT NOW, ya know? Be kind to yourself and love yourself no matter what

Hopefully this helps a bit? Maybe. You’re loved, and Kirishima thinks you’re super manly and amazing no matter how you identify :)