#and the saga of cancerous discord servers

[tea-with-evan-and-me]

I also saw you being shamed for posting about who some of Evan’s fans are because “it invades his and their privacy.” Literally all those people except for Brian and Jesse are in the public eye. Jesse you could argue he is because he is a musician and went on tour recently. It’s not a secret who Evan’s friends are like there’s many pictures of him with them, he’s tagged them in his own Instagram posts when he had it and they’ve tagged and posted him. Brian has had his Instagram private for years but some fans follow him and Jesse will go public for some time and then go private a lot it’s not a new thing. And some fans follow him too. Like I just don’t understand it’s not a secret and it’s not invasive to talk about who his friends are. And also their social media was never even shared like she said it was.

you are correct, none of it is private in the sense that people know who these folks are because they are friend's of evan who have openly shared posts tagging him on social media, back when he had accounts lol i have photos with brian ogle that i only found because their friend group posted and tagged him and evan. they weren't like, some mysterious people who we magically figured out were friends with evan. he has tons of friends we don't know because they did the opposite and never publicly tied themselves to evan.

none of these friendships are brand new information and none of them were broken to the public on my blog, or any tumblr blog to my knowledge.

she can talk all day about invasions of privacy and what evan would want/wouldn't want, blah blah blah... but ultimately, she ran a hate blog and discord that served no purpose outside of scornfully indexing and critiquing the every move of his girlfriend of 2 years, while they were together. you would be absolutely out of your mind if you were to think he would not have disdain for her due to that. so i cannot take her seriously when she acts holier than thou about respecting evan's wishes.

even when it comes to posting other private content, the source of the problem she is identifying is her. she did not find the airbnb, or the amazon profile, or anything else, really. she was in a separate discord server with a group of girls even more mentally unstable than she is, and she took their finds and spread them amongst her friend group on her server and expected them to keep it within that circle. not out of respect, but because she liked holding things over peoples' heads and bragging about what she had that others didn't. if she really cared, she would not have done that because an invasion of privacy is an invasion of privacy, regardless. if she had an actual moral qualm then she would have simply left the other discord server when she realized they were all stalking evan and also had really weird delusional beliefs about him and his relationships. but she will never address that situation honestly because if she did, it would open an absolutely insane can of worms and a rabbit hole that few would believe, including me, except i have now spoken to numerous women who separately and on different occasions told me the same wackadoodle, fever dream shit.

[bookgeekgrrl]

My media this week (28 Jan-3 Feb 2024)

📚 STUFF I READ 📚

🥰 The Last Devil to Die (Thursday Murder Club #4) (Richard Osman, author; Fiona Shaw, narrator) - still loving the characters, love to hang out with them & Osman's plots move along nicely so you don't get bored at all. Fiona Shaw's narration is great & as a little treat she & Osman have a nice little chat at the end.

🥰 Four Letter Word For Intercourse (bendingsignpost) - 194K, destiel AU - adult college student Dean & professor (and phone sex worker) Cas - LOVE this fic so much & had kind of forgotten about it until it came up as a rec in one of my romance discord servers. Just, so good.

😊 Mrs Sidhu Investigates (Suk Pannu, author; full voice cast) - 2 episodes of the BBC Radio 4 program: #1 Murder with Masala; #2 Mrs Sidhu's Dangerous Highland Game - I prefer the slight changes made for the TV show's characterizations but still eminently enjoyable. (Meera Syal still absolutely rules!)

🥰 Lucky Bounce (Cait Nary) - extremely delightful hockey romance. Low/no angst, charming, cutie MCs. Definitely in the 'no plot, just vibes' category which honestly I love when done skillfully.

💖💖 +102K of shorter fic so shout out to these I really loved 💖💖

Ye Olde YouTube Love Story (Aria_Lerendeair) - The Sandman: Dreamling, 7K - love dreamling human AUs

Any Givens Sundae (dancinbutterfly) - Justified: Boyd/Raylan, 25K - excellently written 'what-if' pinging off a random line of dialogue: what IF Raylan had retired & decided to sell ice cream?

A Warning from Henry the Eighth (Writer_at_the_Table) - "I'm Henry VIII I Am" - Herman's Hermits: , 152 - a villianelle about I'm 'Enry The Eighth by Herman's Hermits - the creativity & cleverness of fan makers truly is boundless

master of a nothing place (strzyga) - Star Trek: Spirk, 6K - short, great fic about Spock going feral when they're trapped on a planet

📺 STUFF I WATCHED 📺

Austin City Limits - Pat Benatar & Neil Giraldo (s49, e9)

Austin City Limits - Duran Duran (s47, e11)

Murdoch Mysteries - s16, e7

Dirty Laundry - s3, e11

D20: Fantasy High: Junior Year - "Under Pressure" (s21, e4)

D20: Adventuring Party - "A Sea of Effluvia" (s16, e4)

Hazbin Hotel - s1, e1

🎧 PODCASTS 🎧

What Next: TBD - Why Is Everybody Sick?

Under the Influence with Terry O'Reilly - Cannabis Marketing

⭐ The Sporkful - Why Hibachi Gets Complicated

The Atlas Obscura Podcast - The Guerrero

How To! - How To Be Free Of Body Shame

⭐ The Atlas Obscura Podcast - Hello From The Otter Side

The Allusionist - 188. Lipread

The Weirdest Thing I Learned This Week - Nature's Weirdest Sleepers, Iron Maiden Myths, Parking Psychology

⭐ Today, Explained - Living in Zyn

It's Been a Minute - Ayesha Rascoe on 'HBCU Made' — and some good old college memories

⭐ Switched on Pop - The b*tch of loving musical theater (with Bridger Winegar)

99% Invisible #568 - Don't Forget to Remember

⭐ Vibe Check - You’ve Got Mouth Bangs, Girl

I Said No Gifts! - Lou Wilson Disobeys Bridger

Well, Now - How ER Taught Thousands Of Viewers About Cervical Cancer

Off Menu - Ep 220: Peter Capaldi

Films To Be Buried With - Kyle MacLachlan

The Atlas Obscura Podcast - Seeking The (Minnesota-shaped) Forest Through The Trees - Part 1 & 2

Welcome to Night Vale #241 - He Is Still Holding a Knife

I Said No Gifts! - Zac Oyama Disobeys Bridger

Dear Prudence - Am I a Bigot If I Don’t Want to Date Foreigners? Help!

What Next: TBD - The Taylor Swift Deepfake Saga

It's Been a Minute - Charlamagne tha Pundit?; plus, was Tony Soprano white?

⭐ All Songs Considered - Why we still love Green Day

Under the Influence with Terry O'Reilly - The Marketing of Taylor Swift: (Taylor's Version)

Consider This from NPR - Masturbation Abstinence Is Popular, And Doctors Are Worried

⭐ You're Dead to Me - Madam C.J. Walker

🎶 MUSIC 🎶

Pop Radio • Romance

'80s Metal

The Cars Radio • Pump-up

Psychobilly Swing

Rock Mix • Party

Presenting Iron Maiden