#and that being queer is about. yknow. celebrating those differences??? instead of trying to fit everyone into one box????

[meowchela]

tangentially related to the topic of cis people and gender from that last post i just want to say. am i the only one who finds it annoying when i see people who see others stepping out of gender boundaries even slightly and then immediately calling them trans? and im not talking about trans headcannons made for comfort those are fine and good, i mean people who take any slight sign of gender non-conformity and immediately equate it to being binary trans. like people who called finnster an egg before they came out or make snide comments about waiting for a realization when someone of one gender talks about having/wanting experiences of another. like idk it just bothers me when people try to predict the lives of people they dont know

gender is a very personal thing whether you're cis, trans, or somewhere in between and it's way more complicated than a simple glimpse into someones life will tell you. there's so many different ways to identify and so many different ways to present, and those things arent always connected! so i feel like it's really shitty to act like you know someones identity more than they do because their presentation and public identity don't line up

i also kinda hate all those comments that are like "if youre cis you wont be for long" or "only trans people know about xyz so if you arent trans and know about it i have news for you" and stuff, theyre in the same vein as the whole "predicting strangers gender" thing to me just in a more abstract way that i can't articulate as well. i get that theyre meant as jokes but they still rub me the wrong way for some reason

like theres so many ways to be trans. theres so many ways to identify and present under that umbrella, AND theres so many ways to play with gender while not being trans! crossdressers! butches! drag queens! people who dip their toes in a few things stereotyped to be for the "other" gender and being perfectly comfortable otherwise!! sometimes these things can overlap and sometimes they dont, it all depends on the individual and i'm kinda just tired of people flattening any gender nonconformity to just "being trans" when the full queer experience is broader than that and there's terminology to reflect that