#and not like. just you whining because you have to cope with discomfort. womp womp

[emiel-surreal]

my friend posted this screenshot (alt text in photo) to his instagram story and shared with me what one of his friends or followers replied. of course i ranted in response and i want to share my response here. i'd just woken up so i think i wasn't very eloquent. i transcribed the voice notes i sent:

They would never admit it, but a lot of people's hatred for kids extends to hatred for disabled people. Again they would never admit it but think about it. If they don’t like people who are too loud, okay are you gonna act the same way when an adult has a meltdown? When an adult disabled person has a meltdown? They don’t like people are socially inept—okay, so you hate adults who are socially inept? You hate adults who need support? People who hate kids, they just obviously hate people that can’t be independent, can’t be silent, who can’t just blend in to the background.

Part of existing in a world where other people also have permission to exist is that you fucking deal with the fact that they also exist. The entire world is not going to accommodate your existence. Disabled people have accepted that and abled people have to accept that too. Because the world is uncomfortable, because the world is for everybody! It’s not for just you!

And of course it’s really ironic that they’re like, “I’m an adult and I hate kids!!” and they’re acting like it’s some kind of sophisticated opinion, but they throw tantrums when they see children in public spaces. When children just exist in the same world as them, as if they were never children themselves, just existing at the mercy of the adults around them.

Like, obviously kids don’t need to be everywhere. Obviously. Fucking obviously. But a grocery store? Like kids don’t fucking eat? Kids are gonna go to grocery stores. And like, it’s such a privileged standpoint too, because it’s assuming that people can afford childcare. It’s assuming that all kids have parents, period. As if there’s not homeless kids, that there’s not kids that don’t have adult guardians with them. Kids are going to be in the world. Grow up. Deal with it.

Literally it’s so dishonest, because that first response that they had, that they don’t need to be allowed everywhere. It’s so dishonest. Nobody is saying that kids need to be quite literally everywhere. You can come up with some very obvious examples of where kids just shouldn’t be. Orgies, strip clubs, maybe not a gun range, just things like that. Fucking obviously. But a grocery store? You’re gonna say that in response to a grocery store being brought up? Do you see how that doesn’t… make sense?

One final thing about this guy who hates kids, apparently. I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt with that first message. Doesn’t mean they need to be allowed everywhere? Sure, this is factually true. That is a statement devoid of any… it’s not emotionally charged in any way, it is a true statement. Kids do not need to be …everywhere. And besides the fact that the original post wasn’t even arguing for that anyways. It was just arguing for like reasonable expectations from this crowd of people. Besides all of that. His next message, that he hates kids, with the sarcastic heart emoji… You’re not asking for a conversation… You just need to vent your frustrations to someone who doesn’t want to hear them! That’s not a conversation!