#and mentioning it again for the people in the back: blacklist and tumblr savior are your friends

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friendly reminder that tumblr savior and other blacklisting extensions exist. also the block button exists. its a shame that the dashboard is in an upstart tonight over something really stupid.

You know what it boils down to? CONSENT.

Here’s the thing my guys-- YOU DO NOT HAVE TO MAKE AN EXCUSE FOR A SINGLE THING YOU WRITE. JUST TAG YOUR SHIT ACCORDINGLY.

This gives everyone else the chance to give informed consent as to whether or not they want to read the shit you write. Because again that’s what all this drama boils down to: CONSENT.

And here’s the thing about fictional characters my loves. THEY CANNOT GIVE CONSENT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT REAL. 

YOU THE READER ARE REAL. YOU HOLD ALL THE CONSENT TO READ OR NOT TO READ. IF YOU DO NOT CONSENT THEN DON’T READ IT AND MOVE THE FUCK ON. the block button is there for a reason. Blacklisting tools to block those tags exist for a reason.

the whole purity thing and policing what people should and should not write is pretty 2008 and no one likes a pearl clutcher. This pearl clutching and purity policing really comes down to readers denying or disguising (and sometimes even both) their own agency and consent to promote their own agenda.

“writing smut or sex with underage characters and aging them up is wrong because they can’t give consent” THEY CAN’T GIVE CONSENT BECAUSE THEY AREN’T REAL. THEY ARE FICTIONAL. Even if they are 18+ ( a consenting adult across the US federal law) THEY CANNOT CONSENT BECAUSE THEY ARE FICTIONAL. they do not exist. They are not real.

an ant’s left butt cheek can give more consent than a fictional character because IT EXISTS.

the ongoing argument that stemmed tonight’s drama isn’t about defending the rights and consent of the fictional characters mentioned, its about “ this sort of writing shouldn’t be allowed”.

And this argument is shit. Take away the camouflage and the coverup and the victim blaming and what you really have is a real living person behind a computer screen saying “ I do not consent to this and i am not comfortable with my own personal agency”.

a person who has the critical  and comprehensive thinking skills can look at writing or an rp blog and say “ huh, this is something that i do not consent to. This makes me uncomfortable. this doesn’t seem like my kind of thing” and can just keep on scrolling.

A person who is not comfortable  or confident with their own personal agency goes through this in-depth thought process in response to what they have read:

-I do not consent to read this. - I do not feel that I am in a safe enough space to withhold my consent. - i feel unsafe. - i need to be protected. - i can’t make it about my feelings, because i am not allowed to. - a sense of displacement takes place --> Others need to be protected. --This should not be allowed.

Take for example, someone walking into a movie theater and saying “ i don’t like horror movies.” and walks into a showing of a horror movie and says “ This is so harmful to viewers why are they showing this!”

There’s a rating system for a reason. You don’t have to go into that movie. Just keep walking.

Lastly my guys... PEOPLE ARE INTO WEIRD SHIT. In real life, with real people, consent is a super huge deal. and guess what, that’s why people have active and open conversations about consent, boundaries, empathy, and an understanding  towards power differentials. Its in the news. its in school. We are in an era where these kinds of conversations are socially expectable. Pearl clutching recedes this.

In fiction you can do whatever the hell you want. Some people actually like how it makes them feel because it is not real. it can be experienced within the safety of fiction.

going back to the horror movie analogy who am i to tell Stephen King to not write horror because it could make me uncomfortable? Lots of people like it. He’s won awards for is writing.

 and people still pearl clutch saying things about  weird fiction in general  like “ but it will normalize rape and pedophilia!! people will think its okay!”

do you think seeing a sewer clown murdering children is going to make a fan go out and do that? unless there’s some severe mental health issue, i think not.

Now for the pearl clutcher who decided to start all this shit...

YOU’RE CONSENT DOES MATTER. YOU ARE ALLOW TO NOT LIKE WHAT PEOPLE WRITE. JUST DON’T MAKE IT ABOUT SOME GRAND MORAL JUSTICE OF THE UNIVERSE. YOU CAN SAY “ UM YEAH NO THANKS NOT FOR ME” AND KEEP ON SCROLLING. Worry about your own shit my guy.

That’s why Rpers stress to tag their shit. and I can say hands down that the things you clutch your pearls about were 100% tagged. just keep moving. use tumblr savior. use that block button.

but don’t start shit. it ain’t fun. it ain’t nice.  There’s that one quote by oscar wilde “ give a man a mask and he’ll show you his true self.” the internet is one hell of a mask and you are exposing yourself.

and I’m gonna scroll on by. i do not consent to participating any further in your mess. Not my circus. Not my monkeys.

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Literally all of your tags

Thanks! I really have a lot of feelings and thought about this whole topic, tbh and it’s nice to talk about it because hey, people are free to dislike characters and have their own opinions

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GOT PREFERENCES (THIS GOT SO LONG. I AM SO SORRY.)

Do you watch the episodes when they air?

I do. I still do. At least most of the time. I think I was late for a few days of the last season but I was also in Europe at the time and in Europe HBO won’t let me access my HBO account so...Um...I was late to the show then....Literally. 

I also didn’t watch season 4 when it aired because I was in a place where I was not able to access the internet for very long. So I watched that all a little later...In a hospital...2014 was a weird year.  

How often do you rewatch it? Do you rewatch it from season one?

I used to re-watch it a lot before things went to shit in Season 5. God damnit Season 5.

But anyway I re-watched season 1 and 2 in the ICU in 2013, and later I watched all of season 4 one of the times I was hospitalized for either a bowel obstruction or to recover from the first attempt to repair my damaged abdominal wall in 2014...Those things were all related.  Don’t...Get Acute Necrotizing Pancreatitis guys 0/10.

ANYWAY, Aside from those events I also did a bunch of non-hospital room re-watching back in the day of seasons 1-3 between 2011(it might have been 2012)-2013 This is all way too specific.

Do you rewatch the previous episode before the next one airs?

No. Definitely not for seasons 5-7 at least. I don’t struggle keeping the events in order since I am obsessed lol.

Do you eat anything while watching? if so, what do you eat?

Not usually. 

One character that everyone seems to like that you don’t care much for:

Oh my God, probably so many. I don’t like Davos, or Samwell and Robb Stark is the only name I have in Tumblr Savior. The reasons I dislike them are also THE WORST. It’s mostly because they are all good people who wanted to do the right thing and have MORALS and don’t fuck up everything they look at... Robb to be honest though is TumblrSaviored because I don’t have any interest in Throbb...And most people don’t tag it as “Throbb” so I just blacklisted ALL of Robb. Nothing against Throbb fans. I’m just not into it. 

Your 3 favourite pairings:

Theon Greyjoy x Ros/Kyra [AKA the empty sex ship of disaster]

Theon Greyjoy x Sansa Stark [Sass Prince + Sass Princess = the King and Queen of Sass and tragedy and bad life choices and living with your mistakes. They are very similar characters actually. ]

Theon Greyjoy x Ramsay Bolton [I think a lot of antis think this is seen as a romantic ship... It’s not to me at all. It’s the relationship between an unchecked sadist who gets to torture a POW and the POW whose every choice led him there. It’s a lot of things to me, personally...Also some people are really into guro, torture porn...I’m in it for the pure tragic violence.] 

[all ships lead to Theon lol]

Favourite scene:

All the Theon scenes. But LET’S DO ONE FOR ALL 7 SEASONS. OKAY. LET’S GO: “Now here you are, your enemy’s squire...” SE1 EP4 I like A LOT scenes from SE1. But I am posting THIS ONE BECAUSE IT’S THE ONLY SCENE WHERE THEON AND TYRION TALK BEFORE SE6 AND UNLIKE WHAT TYRION SAYS IN SE6 THE ONLY PERSON WHO WAS AN ASSHOLE BACK AT WINTERFELL WAS TYRION. GDI SHOW. FOLLOW YOUR OWN CANNON. GOD DAMNIT.  Well...No, there is also this NSFW-scene with Theon being a jerk about everything ever. but TYRION WAS NOT THERE. Also, this is AFTER the last scene. AHHHHHHHHHH- “I’VE TAKEN YOUR CASTLE!” SE2 EP 6 “IT’S PRINCE THEON NOW.” I love this scene. I love how Theon is like I AM A PRINCE NOW. I love how how when Bran is like “No, I’m not giving u the castle! NO CASTLE 4 U >:(” Theon is like “YES YOU WILL >:((((((((” like a petulant child. I love how Theon sits on Brans’s bed like “OK. U CLEALY DON’T KNOW HOW THIS WORKS. I WILL EXPLAIN IT TO YOU.” and Bran is like :| I love Theon’s conflicted expression when Bran asks, “Did you hate us the whole time?” “So Let’s Play a Game” SE3 EP6 On a very personal level I have never seen something before or since that looks and sounds like how my C-PTSD feels. It’s not just the torture, it’s...Everything. For that reason this is my favorite scene in the entire show. I think it’s my favorite scene in anything.  Also: “I win” :)

Bring me Moat Cailin  SE 4 EP 8 I really liked this scene in the book, and It’s condensed to Hell but I liked the show version a lot too anyway. Also if you pay attention you can hear Theon do the “My name is Reek, it rhymes with LITERALLY ANYTHING THAT RHYMES WIYTH “REEK” insanity mantra. I thank God everyday this part of Theon’s arc didn’t get murdered like the rest of his arc in the shit show that is the bullshit of SE5...SPEAKING OF SE5!!

“I can’t talk to you anymore.” SE5 EP8 [this season was only almost saved kind of by Alfie Allen’s and Sophie Turner’s A++ chemistry.] This scene is so hard to find for no reason but I liked this scene because Theon verbally transitions from Reek to Theon to Reek again and he does this a lot in the books but it’s harder to see in the show (duh) BUT this scene makes it REALLY clear as it’s happening. Theon goes from saying “There is no Theon” to “I (Theon) deserved everything” to “I (Theon) can’t talk to you anymore” to “Not Theon! Reek.” “You’re...Not Coming With Us?” SE6 EP2 God damnit show you ended the one good thing you still had going for you for NO REASON. So anyway Theon leaves Sansa but the amazing actor chemistry remains and A++ guys. You did it again...See also this is not the dumb Tyrion/Theon scene mentioned above in SE1′s rant because while that scene is good in many ways it’s also NOT FUCKING TRUE. AHHHHHH-

Theon’s last scene in Season 7 SE7 EP7 This scene came around when I really needed it. It says a lot of things to me. Mostly that trauma, and horror and missing body parts do not have to condemn you to the fucked up bullshit everyone and everything tells you it does. And also it proves my point that castration is A. Not a punchline and B. doesn’t make a man not a man and C. THEON WILL FUCK YOU UP AND SMILE ABOUT IT. >:D 

One character you wish got more appreciation:

...THEON GREYJOY. 

Fanfic or nah?

Nah...

Favourite quote:

“I’ve been a cynic as long as I can remember.” -Tyrion Lannister EDIT: OMFG I FORGOT. IT’S NOT THAT ONE. ITS: “There’s no men like me. Only me.” -Jaime Lannister Also let’s be real Cersei’s “I choose violence.” is good to.  WHY NO THEON QUOTES??? All of his best quotes are in the books.

Do you avoid spoilers?

NOPE. I don’t avoid them for almost EVERYTHING. 

Favourite house words:

WE DO NOT SOW.

One character you’d bring back from the dead:

RAMSAY...AND ROS.

Which was more satisfying: Ramsay dying or Joffrey dying?

You know what. Ramsay’s death in the show SUCKS. Because for TWO reasons, ONE it was predictable. And that’s a thing with the later season of the show, they are 100% predictable standard averageness. But also because Sansa was DRAGGED INTO THEON’S ARC AND THEN SHE KILLED RAMSAY AND IT’S LIKE...WAIT WHERE WAS THEON? Ramsay was literally MADE MY GRRM FOR THEON’S ARC. FOR THEON.  But the show fucked up in SE5 and then they were like OH SHIT. EVERYONE IS MAD WE DID THIS TO SANSA UH...WE SHOULD HAVE HER KILL HIM AND SEND THEON FAR AWAY AND NEVER TELL HIM LALALALAA. FUCK. So Joffrey. Joffrey’s death is better. Sansa’s even THERE TOO BUT SHE DIDN’T KILL HIM (knowingly) AND IT MAKES SENSE ON EVERY LEVEL. UNLIKE THE GARBAGE SITUATION IN SE6. GDI. AHHHHH- 

One character you’d kill, or kill sooner than they were killed?

...Samwell Tarly...Because he annoys me and I am mad that I had to watch him clean bedpans and shit in SE7. 

Direwolves or dragons?

TROGDOORRRRRRR

Wildlings or the dothraki?

The Dothraki are more interesting IMO even though they are kind of like just The Worst Aspects Of A Nomadic Warrior Culture. 

Favourite lannister?

Tyrion Lannister of course. Tyrion’s arc and character is so good...Fuck it’s good. I would have been obsessed with him if not for Theon. 

Tyrion Lannister | The Way -by Heroes Fan Productions

Favourite stark?

The lady, Sansa Stark of Winterfell. Duh.

Sansa Stark | Survivor -by Tap101Dancer

Would you rather be able to be resurrected anytime, but gain scars and all like Beric, or become a faceless man?

I literally already am Beric Dondarion. 

Would you rather have the rebellion tv show or the conquest tv show?

This is such a weird question that no one can make sense of from what I can see...Also uh... @quarkitty did you get tagged yet? I am so bad at tagging.  /End of this novel of a post.

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✿  Does anyone in real life know about your RPing hobby and what, if anything, have they said about it?

My parents know, because for as long as I’ve been on the internet, they’ve known that I like to write and write with friends overseas. My dad still calls it fanfiction somtimes to other people, like he’s proud of me or something, and that’s enough to make me want to never talk to him again out of embarrassment, ha, but I deal with it. Because I truly do love writing more than anything. Other than that, my boyfriend knows, but he doesn’t care about it / ask questions and I don’t really like to tell him about it either. I’m not as embarrassed about RP as I used to be, but I still feel like it’s just something for me that other people wouldn’t really understand the mechanics of. The only times my boyfriend and I do acknowledge it is when I start talking about an RP friend he hasn’t heard about before like a real life friend, so he’s like who dat and im like oh, new rp friend from > insert country

That being said, he actually did surprise me the other week and I have been holding onto it for fear life. We were complaining about a friend who literally just sleeps and watches Netflix all day when she’s not working, and he’s like “I don’t get how you can do that” and im like “Well I have friends online who claim to do that a lot. Me, personally, I’d get too bored.” and hes like “I just don’t get how people can do nothing all the time? Like at least with you and your online stuff, that’s still doing something. I just feel like that’s actually a hobby.” and I kind of didn’t hear whatever else it is he said because he actually ??? referred to my RP addiction as something valid and worthy??? and all this time i’ve assumed he didn’t get it and thought it was dumb??? IDK, it made me feel good.

✿  Have you considered writing professionally or do you have plans to?

Always. But I never will, I don’t think.

✿  How do you handle the toxicity sometimes found in the roleplaying community, particularly in fandoms?How has roleplaying, specifically, impacted your life?

I use tumblr savior to blacklist a lot, because it really gets too much for me to be exposed to it a lot, and it makes me feel shitty and not want to rp with certain people because of how they behave, or makes me feel guilty for how I behave… I usually drift away from things that give me major negative vibes, otherwise I become in great, exponential danger of saying something i’ll regret. I’ve hated Tumblr RP a lot in this last year. It’s nowhere near as relaxed as it used to be, and I know there’s a lot of political debate on the topic of equality but I am not comfortable in a space where I have to edit everything I do and say or just not do or say it at all. When it gets like that level, a good dose of the unfollow button and keeping my mouth shut is what I find the most helpful.

✿  How has writing improved your life and do you see yourself sticking with it?

When I graduated high school, I went to college for art and animation, and it basically ruined my creative life. Before RP, I used to be an avid drawer, I sketched every day, I improved my skills and motivation so much, everyone knew me as the girl who drew in class instead of did her work, the girl who was going to grow up and be a famous artist, and when I went to college, it killed that for me. My ego took a big blow because the tech side of the course absolutely annihilated me, i couldn’t do it. so after that (and that was 2 years ago now) i haven’t really drawn since. but the silver lining was that I took on RP more dedicatedly after that, and found that I truly adored writing. Try as I might, I’ve never really comitted to a personal writing project, and it’s only in the recent times that I’ve taken the pressure off for me to do it, but. RP makes me happy, it makes me feel like I’m doing something good when I reply to people or make new friendships, it makes me feel like I’m wanted and needed, that my characters and plots are valid and that other people would care if I’m here or not. It was a big boost for my self confidence, and it’s also made me so much more privy to the creative world, which i needed after that. so yeah, i see myself sticking with writing.

✿  Is there a quote from a piece of literature that holds great value to you? What is it and why is it important to you?

She stood in front of her closet mirror in her T-shirt and twisted this way and that. What’s wrong with me? She wondered. There was nothing the matter that she could see. She was tall and leggy, like her mother, with full breasts, small waist, and slim hips that curved enough to show she was female. Her skin was gently golden; it was always golden, sun or not, and her tawny hair was thick and long and wild. So why was it that groups of girls stopped talking when she approached them at school and answered her openings with tense words that killed the conversations she tried to start? Was she too good-looking? Was that possible? Was that the threat they saw? 

Legitimately, this was the first and pretty much only female protagonist I had ever read about who fully and whole-heartedly loved herself where it mattered. Sure, she still had her shortcomings and moments of weakness, but god damn, Vivian was so proud of herself and what she stood for, and that was so refreshing to see during that period of young adult fiction. It’s why she became my first favourite character from a book. And has pretty much inspired me to write feirce, aggressive, self-assured female characters ever since. I was just so inspired by her way of thinking as a young girl, it appealed to me so much and so that moment in the book plus a whole lot of others, really stuck with me.

✿  What do you typically look for in a roleplay partner?

Cliche, but chemistry. And not always in the writing kind but a lot in the OOC kind. I like people who I can talk to super easily, who write in the same tumblr language I do, who reference memes and are not afraid to hit me up with IMs and head canons, etc. I just love it because it makes me feel comfortable with a person, and like I’m not being a bother. The better I get to know a player, the better I get to know their character away from IC interactions. Likewise, I adore it when players get to know me so well that they read the patterns in my characters easily, and I don’t feel like I have to explain them all the time? It’s like they just know, and they know what path I want to put them on. I also look for honesty, people who are down to tell me what they’re feeling about a situation or whether something bothers them, or is able to voice if I’m doing something wrong. Most importantly though, I look for decisive people. Not overly decisive but it’s just so important for me to have someone who is like “yes that sounds good, i can start a thing for you if you want” or “i dont think that really fits, how about this plot idea instead?” I really cannot stand sending IMs to people about plots and characters and them just agreeing off the bat the whole time, but never really deciding on anything either, and so it makes me feel like i’m just paddling in a circle until i make all the decisions for us. To me, that’s not what RP is about. It involves teamwork, and effort, and to me, that’s not putting in effort. It gets me really frustrated.

✿  What made you want to join the roleplaying community?

I kept seeing bios in celebrity tags, and so when i sussed out what group rp was on tumblr, i was like holy shit there is a name for the thing i have been doing with friends over email for so many years???? and you can use PICTURES? i gotta get on this.

so somehow, i found a group rp that allowed mythical creatures, i wanted to be a peter pan mermaid, and the rest is history~~

✿  What one piece of literature has been most inspirational/life changing for you? Why?

(( Blood & Chocolate, by Anette Curtis Klause — because of the main character, as per mentioned. She’s inspired me to write full-on, aggressive, assertive, don’t-tell-me-what-i-can-and-cant-do female characters without apology. ))

The Truth About Forever  by Sarah Dessen — it’s hard to explain exactly why, and it doesnt even just involve ONE of her books either, but they’ve kind of shaped my whole general character story directions?? her books always follow a pattern and i really admire that pattern, even if it is repetitive, and i am secretly a hopeless romantic so i really like how her love stories evolve. it’s always slow burning, the boy is usually a direct surprising love interest, and the girl always gains new friends and family out of it, and the stories always involve a nice little reoccurring theme. In the Truth About Forever, it’s a game that she and a boy plays throughout the entire book, which eventually leads to a shift from friendship to something more. THAT PLOT HAS APPEALED TO ME EVERY SINCE. the example of a teeny, tiny, otherwise-completely-average moment greatly impacting the rest of a characters life with someone else… i am weAK for this concept ok. her females are always usally feircely independent too and that gets me ♥

✿  Who are your top three favorite fictional characters and why?

Vivian Gandillon (Blood & Chocolate) — i swear i could go on repeat forever haha, but i’ve basically already mentioned why.

Jace Herondale (Shadowhunter Series) — back when the first like, two books had only been published, i super fell hard for this series and it was straight up because of the commentary done by Jace and his ability to senselessly bicker with everybody in his path. his comments to me, were always absolutely hysterical. i was so in love with his wry and witty comments, especially the way he kept at ease and casual through super distressing situations, and i really wish id kept reading the rest of the series as it was published, but i seriously fell behind. then the movie came out. then the netflix series. now i’ve grown too far out of it and having to see the cast on my dash every second of every day makes me want to burn the books.

Shane Collins (Morganville Vampire Series) — this is an oooold old series that i used to read religiously, and it was more in the style of anita blake and buffy vampires~ rather than twilight and true blood -esque content. it got really weird and complicated though so i gave up on it, but for a time, i adored it. and i loved shane because he was hilariously human, he hated everybody except his housemates (though sometimes that could be questioned) and nobody held a grudge better than him. he had a knack for getting in trouble, usually on his own accord, was feircely protective and spent most of his time just being a genuine nuisance and temper tantrum thrower. i saw a lot of me in him, and idk. i just like people with tempers, i think it makes them super fun to read.