#and if it's this beheviour is the reason

[71kedi-yip]

I FRİCKİNG HATE THE PEOPLE IN THE REPLIES! BRICK! DEAR YOU ARE DOING A FANTASTIC JOB! DON"T YOU FRİCKİNG DARE RESIGN! I WILL CRY!

RULE NUMBER WHO KNOWS OF TUMBLR ! LOOK AT THE TAGS, MORE INFO IN TAGS!

[ID: Three tags from the original post: Relatable ad, totally not cringe, actual photo of tumblr staff]

Relatable ad, totally not cringe. What does that mean, oh I don't know, maybe it is irony, but nooo.

Actual photo of tumblr staff. Oh my, is this making fun of yourself? It can't be.

(My dear friends, do you think they don't know we are called tumblrinas? That, using the wrong word makes the meme more funny?)(btw, I know and hope most of you were joking in the replies,i my word is to the other ones)

I know I am unproportionally protective of a person just doing their job; but they are doing a good job at their job and their job is one of the reasons we can have this website as it is(as we like it).

Like yes, it shows up 20 times(at first when ads were new, probably because of my location, I had no ads but tumblr ads. I didn't even get the landscaped ones. I know how it feels to see the same ad again and again), but ads on tumblr are better then most(*cough*all*cough) other websites, they don't cover content and you can just scrool thru. And tumblr tumblr ads are plain old lovely, they don't flash, they try to be either funny or cute(they usually succeed), and they carry the inherited funny factor of promoting the product on the product.

Also, Brick and the emporium/tumblr shop/marketing/merchendise team is doing a steller job right now. Like I have zero moneys and I especially have zero moneys I can justifiably spend on shipping but I get so close to buying stuff from tumblr shop whenever I look at it(that's another thing, I like looking thru the shop! what?). Like, there are funny meme stuff, there are tumblr memoribilia(how the frick do you write that word?), then there is actually cool looking can use it in real life stuff.

Like all teams, sometimes they hit the mark, sometimes they miss it. Some memes of theirs will not be for you, some will make you keel over with laughter. You will look at some of their products and go "ugh, who wants that", and your fingers will itch to buy some. (Or maybe, you will hate all of their products, all of their memes, that's okay too) but you should realise, it is pretty much impossible to create something that will be loved by all. There will be things created in this world that you will hate and let me tell you, there will be things you will love that will be hated by a lot of people.

And I understand disliking ads, like I get bloodthirsty on youtube, unskipible ads, not even one but two, oh I am evil. But like, the way to handle said ads is not to write hate messages to the people whose job is to create said ads?

I understand getting frusturated that tumblr which was once clean off of ads is now filled with them. But if muskrat tought us anything, it's that social media sites are hard to make money off of. And they require a lot of money to maintain, money they don't generate.

I don't know how it is right now but I remember hearing that tumblr doesn't make a profit, like it requires the parent company to lose money to keep up. And untill a solution to that is found, Tumblr can be seen as being on borrowed time. And I don't know about you guys but I love tumblr, it's the one social media site I like and use, I love the culture we have here, I love the anonimity, I love the lack of algorithm, I love that I can reach to the end of my recomended, I love the fandoms, I love the weirdness, I love the fricking blue. I don't want it gone.

And so I respect Brick, a person who is getting paid to create stupis memes and memeble products for this website I adore. Amd who is doing a really good job at that.

[relaxxattack]

A genq, with no harm meant (we have differing opinions, that's okay) but like. Genuinely, what is the difference between a fan privately messaging drm, and Tommy "Schlatt Stan" innit messaging Schlatt at 16/17 and getting talking in the dms, ending up becoming friends. What's the difference between him doing it with Wilbur? With techno? All of them were people he looked up to, was a fan of and admired enormously, and yet they were allowed to grow a friendship. Hell, I met my best friend because I was a huge fan of hers, made her art, edits, probably would have been a stan if that had been a thing back then but we got to talking in private messages and after a while she gave me other apps to contact her on. I met my gf because she was a fan of my writing - we now live together. I genuinely don't understand how this is automatically creepy or predatory beheviour, having been on both sides of the scenario. I think the situation has a lot more nuance than just "DM's bad, no cc should DM anyone ever" and "getting a private Snapchat is creepy"

(I should say for the purposes of this I'm only taking what we know 100% to be true, which is the insta DM's which have 0 evidence of any kind of inappropriate sexual content, I'm waiting for further solid evidence to make a full judgement on the situation)

the difference is that tommy was a fan asking specifically for advice about content growth, OR to join their content. tommy was always trying to be a youtuber + bully bigger ccs into letting him into their content. tommy reached out first, and he was on BUSINESS. although of course they became friends later, the nature of his reaching out was 'professional'

this situation, on the other hand, involves a content creator having a pattern of talking to underage female fans. specifically to compliment them or their appearance, or ask to make their conversations MORE private by sharing snaps. ( <- that is the info from the dms DREAM CONFIRMED. not any others). that action is almost immediately by anyone with street smarts read as predatory.

is it possible it WASN'T? absolutely. it's fully possible that in the best case scenario all of that was in good faith. but it still LOOKS really fucking bad. and dream is not an idiot. he should have known how bad that looks, how obviously predatory it seems. in the BEST CASE SCENARIO, he's still a complete idiot who was engaging in idiotic and unprofessional behavior that looks unsafe and predatory. and then he brushed aside everyone's reasonable concerns about it. that is the BEST POSSIBLE CASE SCENARIO, and it's still pretty fucking scummy. plus with how ridiculous his response is, i'm very inclined to believe it's at least somewhat worse than the best case.

*EDIT: realizing after the fact that this looks very aggressive-- i’m not aggressive towards you, anon, your question was asked fairly politely. this situation as a whole just makes me grossed out and angry

*EDIT TWO: wilbur, after finding out tommy was a minor, became uncomfortable with the power dynamic and blocked him until a later date at which it was clear tommy was a cc too. it is REMARKABLY easy to notice when a power dynamic is a little off and form respectful distance, and ccs are absolutely capable of it.

[jonginsboyfriend]

They recorded KB before his last instalive which mean he feels free to mention ks since that day, like you said it seems like he's always thinking about ksoo and it makes me even more sad because even if we don't know him we saw how he wasn't acting as usual after the news comes out. Antis used his strange beheviour, making it look like ji didn't care about ks when it was the opposite and a lot of things + now KB and the last live just confirmed it

It feels like he's using this exo comeback as a reason to mention ksoo tbh. It's like saying it's okay to mention him now bcuz every member does it. We're missing them because we're having a cb without them. I'm missing ksoo bcuz he's not in the cb with me.I mean it's the perfect timing. He filmed those shows and there he saw how it was okay for them to mention ms and ks so now he's more comfortable. But not too comfortable...he was still nervous and blinked rapidly and looked down when mentioning he watched swing kids.

Let's see how much he mentions him after the comeback is over which is like today...if he even mentions him at all. Suddenly going on a live and saying he did smth bcuz he misses ksoo outside the context of a comeback might trigger some reactions from people in sm or fans in general. Like why is he saying that all of a sudden?

[ineedrelationshipadvice]

So my bf and I have been dating 5 months, but I think I might be into him as a friend? The thing is he's really inexperienced too, which isn't what I reallyy need. I know he likes me alot. I stole his first kiss last we met and...I don't think I felt anything. No sparks. I like him as a person and we share similar (ish) interests and I don't want to stop talking to him. But I'm feeling more negative about this than enthusiastic. He doesn't seem to put effort in and I'm always making plans. Help.

Okay, so I was pondering what might be wrong throughout this whole message you wrote me. Because this whole "spark" concept, the "chemistry" of a relationship, I largely reject the concept. Of course people will like who they like. But romanticism would have you believe that these are inalienable things about the world; that two people will meet, and it'll be like this wild, magnetic attraction. It "just happens." Nah, fuck that. There are reasons people don't have chemistry, and while they might be mired in concepts that may not always have concrete ground to stand on, there ARE reasons for it. Even the most illogical thing ever can be boiled down via logic. 

So what's your reason for not having a good time here? You said it in the last sentence. "He doesn't put effort in" and "I'm always making plans." THESE are the spark you're not feeling. It's not that you like him more as a friend although that is possible, and it's not that you "didn't feel sparks." It's that you have fundamental issues with the way you've been treated in your relationship. The honeymoon has ended and no longer will him just vibing out with you carry the relationship. 

So what do? It means you gotta lay down the law with this boy, and let him understand exactly what's going on here. And to do that, it means you really need to drill down on your own feelings. Are you sure that there is no spark? Are you sure that you just don't romantically like this boy anymore? What about this boy did you like romantically before that has changed in the past 5 months? Or was it never there to begin with. Answering that is a little critical before we move forward. Do you have answers for those questions? You might, and if so those are also part of the larger reasons you're having concerns with this relationship. I can't answer these questions for you though; only you know exactly how you feel. 

But if you want to actually put effort to try to make the relationship work before you end things, then you need to go straight to him and sit him down, and have a talk with him. Let him know that you're not feeling to good about this relationship at present, and that you have some serious concerns with his beheviour that need resolution. Let him know that you feel like he's not putting in effort. Tell him what he's doing wrong, and better yet, tell him things he could do that would improve his performance or make him happy. Furthermore, tell him you're tired of always making the plans for the two of them, and then ask him to take the initiative more in this relationship. 

After you have that serious talk, where you listen to both of your concerns as a couple, then you can wait and see if he improves. If he can't fix his shit in a month, then be done with him and end the relationship. Otherwise, if you're already past the point of no return, just break up with him and be done with it. But just remember, whether you try to fix it and he doesn't change, or whether you're already done now, if you try to break up with him, feelings will be hurt. This won't be easy for anyone, and there are no guarantees you two will be able to remain friends. That's why I insist on patience and caution; don't end this before you actually try to fix the problems. Make sure you actually try, because you can't unring that bell, and if you end the relationship, there might not be taking back the hurt that is caused by the initial break up. Tread lightly with that before you make a drastic decision. 

[julystorms]

(not to go into to much detail but i myself am a victim of sexual harrassement which is why i have even less patience than before for this kind of content. But i'll keep your advice in mind, sorry for this here long post)i agree wholeheartedly that there are bad het/gay ships that makes me want to puke, like virion/cherche noire/laurent gerome/inigo ESPECIALLY rinkah/jakob my god. those 2 ships were the first to come in my mind, and of course nothing is 100 perfect but my main issue is that it

doesnt take that much morality to make your gay characters not predetory nor should such beheviour be handwaved with an apology. It comes across as fetishizing to me when all it takes is for 2 people of the same gender to be a perfect couple when back then the fandom went from dispising male flirts simply sweet talking to sugarcoating soleils sexual harrasment of other women. Which is bizarre to me when there are tons of great interactions between 2 people of the same gender in fe main one beingbeing kagero/orochi seeing no reason to praise soleil and even then i doubt that most people ship kagero and orochi because of their interactions, Lot of the time there are more people that wanna jack off to gays/lesbians which disgusts me beyond words.

No worries about the long message. I don’t mind!

Like I said, I totally get where you’re coming from, and I suspected you weren’t harping on f/f ships in particular on purpose; it’s just something to keep in mind when you present a criticism: sometimes being vague is better to avoid writing yourself into a corner. I dislike all of the ships you’ve mentioned proobably for the same reason(s) you do, minus one: I haven’t read Noire and Laurent’s supports--and now I’m afraid to.

And I agree completely that it doesn’t take that much effort to create representation for people that isn’t an offensive stereotype. “Predatory gay” is honestly one of the worst things. It’s real, it exists (just like predatory straight people do), but the issue I take with it is that gay/bi/pan people have a hard enough time in this world as it is; I hate that Soleil exists to, I don’t know, almost perpetuate the idea that that’s how gay people act. And that can be harmful.

Fandom’s opinion of the “flirty male character” trope has changed a lot over the years. Sain was a well-liked character. Forde was well-liked, too. And then it fell out of favor and started to have an effect on the way these characters were written/portrayed. I remember fandom’s opinion re: Sain was mostly neutral/good and then suddenly everyone wrote him like he was a male cat surrounded by females in heat. It was jolting! (Not to mention OOC, but my point is that fandom’s view of the trope changed from being kinda meh toward it to outright despising it--which I understand. It’s never been my favorite trope and by the time FE13 hit I was hoping they’d drop it because I felt they couldn’t manage to write it as an ASPECT of a character instead of the whole character....if that makes sense.)

I’m honestly not sure why people like what they do. I agree, Kagero and Orochi have nice supports and I think they’re kind of casually shipped by most of the fandom...but there’s not a lot of meat in their supports to inspire people to do creating I think. They’re fun for amazing art, but as far as fanfiction goes...I honestly couldn’t write anything for them--not something engaging anyway. I think they seem like they’re good enough together that it’s just not necessary to add more...? Huh.

As far as your last part goes, I understand the frustration of fetishization and I’ve seen it, too, but sometimes it’s better to just let it go. Fandom is gonna ship whatever they want, and you have to remember that fandom isn’t just a haven for the socially awkward and anxious folks with mental and physical issues to work through/out/around, but also a lot of people who are looking for representation...and frankly a place to get their jollies, whatever those may be. The question I think people need to ask themselves is why they seek m/m things over f/f at a ratio of like, 50:1, especially considering women outnumber men in fandom by a large margin most of the time. And hey, why is fandom is so incredibly biphobic, not to mention acephobic? 

Anyway, your frustration with the source material makes a lot of sense to me, and your irritation with fandom for not also being overtly critical about what they’re consuming also resonates with me--just at the surface level, though. I think the first thing you have to teach yourself to not go crazy in fandom is that everyone consumes media differently and what you hate may still ring true/important for someone else, regardless of its status of “healthy” or “unhealthy.” You do you, let other people do them, and unfollow/block those whose words/justifications you don’t want to see. It’s worked out well for me so far. :)

[mirlywoutersmaster-blog]

First research...

“(…)As for that of Mamoiada also the “Carrasegare de Ottana”, the carnival of Ottana, would seem to be a ritual dating back to the cult of Dionysus (…)”

“(…) transposition man-animal, such symbolism staged clearly refers to the close relationship that existed between the owner and the oxen yoke, precious elements for the life of the farmer.”

(Sandalyon- 01 January 2016)

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“Derived from a mediterranean neolithic cult of farming and fertility, the core character and originality of this event has been maintained due to the region’s long history of isolation.”

“(…) representing the struggle between animal instinct and human reason.”

(www.trendland.com)

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“The Carnival atmosphere in Sardinia, especially in Barbagia’s villages, is totally different from the merry one you may experience all over Italy: this is because our Carnival evokes ancient farming rites, where men and animals are the main characters of the show.”

“(…) they celebrate the rite of yoking and the men’s eternal struggle against mother nature.”

“The ox represents strenght and fertility: the ritual of the ox carried by men, who worship it to invoke the herd’s fertility, has the power to transform them into oxes, changing their human features into animal traits.”

“(…) perform a chase which becomes a dance. Its aim is to exorcise the danger of the trasformation into beasts.”

                 (www.sardiniamagicexperience.com)

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“The rituals are centuries old and celebrate the seasonal cycle, fertility, life, and death. People literally put themselves into the skin of the “savage,” in masquerades that stretch back centuries. By becoming a bear, a goat, a stag, a wild boar, a man of straw, a devil, or a monster with jaws of steel, these people celebrate the cycle of life and seasons.”

(www.books.google.be – about Charles Fréger; Wilder mann)

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“The Wild Man(…) is, according to legend, a son born of the union of a bear and a woman, whether by consent or not. Belonging to two worlds and knowing the intricacies of both, this mythical being is considered a ‘superman’, destined for the highest rank of power;(…)”

“In most cases, the Wild Manwears a costume made of natural materials or animal skins; his face is rendered unrecognisable, (…). An accessory, (…) and one or more bells complete his outfit. (…) These bells, as well as the plant and animal matter of the costume, connectthe Wild Man to his natural origins; however, through the way he stands and through his dance, he is also a part of the cultural sphere – the coat of skin could ewually belong to a shepherd. (…) He embodies the complex reletionship of love and hate which man maintains with his environment.”

“Zoomorphic masks(the shaping of something in animal form) are universal.They demonstrate the links that unite man and hies environment, in other words culture and nature.(…) They have therefore been invested with a series of symbols and powers, intended to control man’s environment. (…) Amongst the European zoomorphic masks, we can cite the Bear and the Goat. Note that both always appear in the company of a human who tries to somehow keep control, (…).”

“The character of the Bear(…). His costume is made of fur, usually taken from a domestic animal, or of vegetable matter. (…) The bear mimics the beheviour of a tamed animal before it goes wild and rushes towards the crowd. His master must therefore control it and make it submit to his will. Sometimes the savage beast is put to death so as to be able to bring back to life under the leadership of man – culture prevailing over savage nature. (…) Finaly, it should be remembered that the Bear is closely related to the Wild Man, of whom it could be one of the parents.”

“The figure of the Goat(…). The ‘game of the Goat’ inevitably includes jaws that chatter, a guarantee of prosperity for those who hear their noise. The ‘plot’ promise fertility to the audience, (…), and the staging of the death and resurrection of the animal is a symbol of the vitality of nature. Its symbolism also associates life and death. On one hand, the goat is an animal with horns, hooves and wool. These are materials which relate at the same time to the living world – on the animal, they grow, change appearance, deteriorate and die – and the world of death – insensitive to pain, the act of cutting them in no way violates the health of the animal. On the other hand, horns and hooves constitute a physical link between two worlds: through their orientation towards the sky or their capacity to dig into the earth.

           (Charles Fréger – Wilder Mann)

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De Reizende Illustrator…

“Reizen betekent anders kijken. Dat schoonheid ver weg eerder opvalt dan thuis, merkte Jan Sluijters. Zijn Bal Tabarin uit 1907 is een zinderend balfeest, de omgeving oplossend in lichten, alles warmte, kleur, sfeer, een zwoele dansavond die zich in tijd en ruimte eindeloos uitstrekt. Zulke sprookjes vind je nooit thuis.”

                 (www.nrc.nl/nieuws)

MENS EVOLUEERT >< NATUUR VERGAAT

Er zijn nu ongeveer 6 miljard mensen op aarde, dit worden er in de nabije toekomst zo'n 10 miljard. Met zo'n snel groeiende bevolkingoefent de mens een steeds grotere druk uit op de natuur en heeft dus een grote invloed op de biodiversiteit op de aarde. Iedereen moet etenen heeft ruimte nodig om te wonen en te ontspannen. Elk mens benut natuurlijke bronnenzoals aardolie. We produceren ook afval, vooral in de rijke landen, maar nu ook steeds meer in de arme landen.De mens veroorzaakt schade aan het leven naast natuurlijke factoren zoals een natuurramp of een klimaatverandering. Wat zijn precies de schadelijke ingrepen van de mens?

Overbevissing: ‘verbeterde technologie’ àmoderne vistuigen en opsporingsapparaten àVernietiging schuil- en voorplantingsplaatsen àoverbevissing en afname vispopulaties!

Ontbossing: hout als bouwmateriaal of brandstof àvernietiging leefgebieden en schuilplaatsen van dieren àverdwijnen dieren en planten!

Overbegrazing: behoefte aan voedsel, vooral vlees.

Vernietiging en versnippering van leefgebieden.

Vervuiling en wereldwijde klimaatverandering; het broeikaseffect.

Invoering van vreemde soorten.

(www.natuurinformatie.nl)

Dropping environmental slogans like ‘save the planet’ to focus on ‘intelligent living’ instead would make a big difference, says George Marshall

Please, I beg you, if you care about climate change forget about “saving the planet”.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not arguing that you chuck your bike in a hedge and hurtle off to Heathrow in your 4x4. In fact the exact opposite.

The problem is that this wretched phrase and all the concepts it embodies are guaranteed to have the exact opposite effect. Let me unravel it and I hope you will agree.

First there is that word “planet”. This word contains no sense of emotional connection. What is a planet? A lump of cold rock floating in space. Personally it does nothing for me. My attachment is to my family, friends, and community. The further I get away from that core the less I feel connected or prepared to act. The word planet, like climate, distances it even further from my immediate concerns.

And then there is this saving thing. Some people, and I am one, are motivated by the call to save something specific from imminent destruction - rainforests or whales or the panda - but this is a rallying cry for a campaign, not a total change in behaviour.

The phrase “save the planet” is closely associated with these worthy campaigns and the activist culture that produced them, which, let’s face it, is overwhelmingly white and middle class. It is not an association that reaches deep into mainstream society.

And the wider associations of the word “save��� speak of struggle, abstinence and sacrifice. It is no surprise that we are invariably told that the way we will save the planet is by giving something up: heat or travel or lighting.

Once again, telling people they have to give something up is an unproductive way to change their behaviour. Advertisers, those experts in motivation, never use the word save. Even if a product saves time or money they still avoid the word and highlight the wonderful things you could do with that extra money or time.

But people are not told about the wonderful things they could do with this planet if they save it. They are told, endlessly, of the appalling things that will happen if they don’t. This is blackmail and it simply doesn’t work.

But the biggest problem with “save the planet” lies with the underlying concept that people can be motivated to make personal changes by a gentle appeal to a vast collective goal. Why should anyone be told that it is their personal responsibility to save the planet any more than it is their responsibility to end global poverty or stop war?

A few people may be satisfied by the argument that if everyone made those small efforts it would create the desired change. However I fear that most people know only too well that the tiny contribution of their own efforts will immediately be overwhelmed by the indifferent high-carbon behaviour of their neighbour. And who can blame them?

So I say let’s chuck out the tired old phrases from a strategy that is clearly not working. Let’s start from first principles.

People want to make things better. No one feels motivated to do something that simply makes things less bad. They need a positive vision.

People want personal gain. That gain need not be financial: it could be an improvement in their health, happiness or status. People never want to live with less. But people are prepared to live differently, and they are happy to make the change if they are persuaded that this will bring other benefits. Put them all together and you get a very different message. And, to further reject the authoritarian tones of instructions to do this or that, I will write it as a personal testimony:

“I have embraced a lighter lifestyle because it is the smart, cool, intelligent and healthy way to live. I want to live in the present and the real world, not be tied to an outdated and dangerous 20th-century way of living. I live this way because I love it, because it makes me feel good and because it is healthy and gives me freedom.

“I feel that I am setting the pace for the 21st century and I am excited to see people all around me trying to catch up. If we all work together we can build a world that is cleaner, fairer and happier and that is what I want to leave my children.”

Isn’t that a better way to look at it?

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Eddie Vedder – Society

It’s a mystery to me We have a greed With which we have agreed

You think you have to want More than you need Until you have it all you won’t be free

Society, you’re a crazy breed I hope you’re not lonely without me

When you want more than you have You think you need And when you think more than you want Your thoughts begin to bleed

I think I need to find a bigger place ‘Cause when you have more than you think You need more space

Society, you’re a crazy breed I hope you’re not lonely without me Society, crazy and deep I hope you’re not lonely without me

There’s those thinking more or less less is more But if less is more how you’re keeping score? Means for every point you make Your level drops Kinda like it’s starting from the top You can’t do that

Society, you’re a crazy breed I hope you’re not lonely without me Society, crazy and deep I hope you’re not lonely without me

Society, have mercy on me I hope you’re not angry if I disagree Society, crazy and deep I hope you’re not lonely without me

[bendlerbaldler-blog]

Me: Explains to an SJW that their logic is flawed, and that their dismissive and mocking beheviour to those who do not agree with them, denotes a hateful mind and a regressive ideology.

Them: Makes text-posts taking me out of context, and then makes another text-post about how they’re gonna’ block me and delete all my asks, so no one can read any of their stupid responses that just insult me instead of proving me wrong :)

Somehow... I feel like I’ve ascended to a whole other level... I feel free... I feel one with the universe... And I finally understand SJWs... The real reason they’re so bitter and annoying, is because secretly they just want to be loved... Just... Beautiful... 

No but legit, they’re all bitter because no one loves them.