#and i say that as a neutral statement

[quetzalpapalotl]

I think that the phenomenom of fandom being unable to imagine a truly confident character or overblowing any canon insecurities to the point it eclipses everything else about the character is because a lot of people interact with their media of choice on a basis of relatability and/or projection, and for a lot of reasons people who are attracted to fandom spaces tend to be people who struggle socially and develop insecurities because of it.

[lunacias]

001: first shift

[pwurrz]

i see a lot of people* who advocate for trans unity are just using a different term to hide their transmisogyny.

it’s not ‘trans unity’ if you can’t acknowledge that trans men aren’t the center of the universe and that trans women and their issues matter just as much.

it’s not ‘trans unity’ if you believe that trans women should kiss the feet of trans men and beg for their forgiveness for their alleged ‘misandry’ while completely ignoring the very real and very dangerous transmisogyny present in the trans and outer lgb community.

it’s not ‘trans unity’ if your idea for fixing the rift in the trans community is for trans women to shut the fuck up and do all the work.

it’s not ‘trans unity’ if you can’t even allow trans women to talk about the harm terfs do to them specifically without barging in and silencing them because “terfs are mean to us too so-!”. that’s not the point. trans women talking about their oppression isn’t hurting you, and it’s definitely not an invitation to fight them about it because you want to turn it into an argument about who has it worse.

it’s not ‘trans unity’ if your idea of trans unity is to have a community where trans women are just submissive and obedient, silent about the mistreatment they face either because they were silenced or because they never had a voice in the first place. you are already a part of that community. you already surround yourself with likeminded people who believe the same transmisogynistic things that you do. you don’t need to push a false idea of unity among trans people, it’s very clear what you believe in already, and we don’t need the entire trans community behaving like this.

[butch-reidentified]

fact: there is so much of the natural world we don't understand yet

many forms of women's spirituality is just... celebrating how cool that is. not believing in any fictional narrative. just celebrating nature and how much we have yet to understand.

that's why I take issue with the "it's just as fictional as Christianity etc" narrative. some forms, sure, but not any I'd ever be interested in.

it's just ignorance. your idea of witchcraft vs what I'm actually talking about. but you aren't taking the time to ask or listen. there's literally nothing "unscientific" about what I personally practice. it's just about my relationship to the scientific unknown.

edit to add some of what I just included in a different reblog:

fwiw, I still don't consider myself spiritual as (like I've repeatedly said) my witchcraft is, to me, artistic self-expression and is fundamentally about my personal connection to the universe, womanhood, nature, and, despite what certain women on here are insisting, to science. I've never been able to convince myself to believe in specific unseen/supernatural things like deities (learned this at a very young age trying to make myself believe in the Christian God, then tried with other gods, never believed in Santa even).

women engaging in scientific pursuits have historically so often been the ones labeled witches. new scientific creations have so often historically been called magic, witchcraft, heresy, etc., and those involved persecuted for it.

historically, women called witches have so often BEEN scientists, and that & the erasure of women throughout scientific history is exactly WHY using the term is so important to me, WHY I don't respect the patriarchally-derived dictionary definition* of "witch" or "witchcraft." I have a peer-reviewed neuroscience publication with my name on it, and that, to me, is part of my witchcraft. idc how anyone else feels about that but calling it antifeminist is absurd.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is getting really annoyed with the relationships unit in your sociology class because the whole thing is just 100% amatonormativity.

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if think your teacher, professor, and/or TAs might be interested in discussing the concept, I have some idea of bringing up the topic?

I'd personally say something like, "Hi, During our section in sociology around relationships, I couldn't help but think it would be interesting to discuss how a sociological theory called "amatonormativity" might relate to these lessons. I gathered a few sources from the professor who coined it, a thesis written on it, and a law review written about the connection between it and laws in the USA. There's some connections between its use in feminist thought and in queer theories, and I'd love to know your thoughts about it. I personally was thinking of when [specific statement] was said, and how I would apply this theory. I hope it's as interesting to you as it is to me."

Coiner's current webpage: https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity/

Thesis: https://vc.bridgew.edu/honors_proj/330/ (click download in upper right hand corner for the PDF, depending on the individual it may be worth downloading and sending that rather than a link)

Law Review: https://uclawreview.org/2022/06/09/amatonormativity-in-the-law-an-introduction/

[ali3nboyfriend]

the more i move forward in my mental health journey the more i realize i am losing patience for bad habits i had in the past/that i’m working on moving past when other people perform them. case in point i get Really Upset and Very Frustrated when other people self deprecate now

[skunkes]

i dont like when character being blunt/having no filter = character just being Mean, and im trying to find a good balance with that for Talon. I guess it's not that hard since he's not an (active) overthinker and I have drawn him saying things he considers neutral that seem rude to others...I guess I have to find a way to show the opposite, too

[adhderall]

I'm not even gonna bother debating all these ppl saying this shit bc they won't listen (they never do), but this shit is so blatantly disconnected from reality.

if, say, a woman was on T for a while and then went off it, I can assure you she will NOT be treated like a ~normal cis~ without voice training and laser hair removal AT THE VERY LEAST.... and there's some who don't wanna do that anyway (which is based).

like no that is NOT "just a normal cis person" that person is going to have a very very different lived experience from the ""average cis [woman]"" .

"Oh but no one is entitled to know why she has a deep voice and facial hair and etc. they can just think she has a hormonal imbalance"

what if she wants to tell people? what if she doesn't want to pretend she has a medical condition she doesn't have? etc. etc.

noo you can't use this descriptive label though it's politically incorrect.

that's dumb as fuck 🥲

identity bullshit is ACTUALLY rotting everyone's brains i feel like im going insane.

[fromtheseventhhell]

Saying this an Elia Martell fan from what little we know of her, but I'm really sick of how fandom sees her as nothing but a perpetual victim and/or hater of Lyanna and Rhaegar. Where's fandom content of her being kind to baby Tyrion or headcanons of her plotting with Rhaegar against Aerys? Makes me wish GRRM would write more Fire and Blood books to flesh her out more outside of the "pretty victim" fanon Sansa stans want her to be.

It's actually so frustrating cause there are great conversations + theorizing that could be going on surrounding her character because we know we're going to be learning more about her in the future, but a lot of her "fans" are just stuck on using her as a prop. And honestly? That's because the more we learn about her, the more she moves away from being fandom's favorite passive self-insert character. If George has her doing anything it breaks their idea of her being the perfect victim which is what they love about her. They don't even like her character organically, they just like that it gives them a justification to hate Rhaegar and/or Lyanna. I'm personally neutral-positive about Elia, but I am very interested in learning more about her character. George has kept that portion of the story intentionally vague for a reason and I can't wait to see why.

[janederscore]

some experience-based advice: some posts can be legally incriminating, even if you didn't personally make them. just something to consider before you continue posting today

[rubenesque-as-fuck]

It's so fucking wild how some dudes can be 100% oblivious to another dude being creepy as fuck to the women around them

[gotyouanyway]

this is the 2nd time narvin has got to a rural area and commented on how actually nice/beautiful it is and specifically mentioned children playing.. maybe in another life he could've been a nature enjoyer and good with kids

[hardoncaulfield]

I saw a post a a moment ago arguing that people who voice their dislike of being around children are horrible people. I don't think this follows, since what someone feels personally and how someone behaves are different things. A person who says to adult friends 'I don't enjoy being around children very much, I find it tiring etc., etc.,' but who behaves towards children in a friendly, supportive and encouraging way is not harming any children - just voicing their preference not to be responsible for the care of children.

In my opinion, acknowledging that you're not someone who finds caring for children rewarding is a useful bit of introspection to have done

[bandzboy]

antónio guterres was considered persona non grata by israhell and the response of the portuguese ministry of foreign affairs to this was like "we are so sorry" and they "regret it" like..... HUH?

[reinabeestudio]

you stop shaving as a woman and people just dont know what to call you anymore huh

[brinnanza]

you guys know stuff can just be neutral right. like it doesn't have to be good or bad it can just Be ykwim like sometimes an experience is Weird but that doesn't necessarily imply that it was good or bad sometimes things are just so unfamiliar that the sheer novelty overrides having an opinion about it. sometimes you hear someone's died, but it's no one you knew or would ever know and it's so many degrees of separation from the source that they have no emotional investment in it either and that's not automatically a tragedy OR a relief it's just a statement of fact.

sometimes stuff just Is. and it's okay that it is.