#and i say that as a neutral statement

[quetzalpapalotl]

I think that the phenomenom of fandom being unable to imagine a truly confident character or overblowing any canon insecurities to the point it eclipses everything else about the character is because a lot of people interact with their media of choice on a basis of relatability and/or projection, and for a lot of reasons people who are attracted to fandom spaces tend to be people who struggle socially and develop insecurities because of it.

[lunacias]

001: first shift

[janederscore]

some experience-based advice: some posts can be legally incriminating, even if you didn't personally make them. just something to consider before you continue posting today

[ali3nboyfriend]

the more i move forward in my mental health journey the more i realize i am losing patience for bad habits i had in the past/that i’m working on moving past when other people perform them. case in point i get Really Upset and Very Frustrated when other people self deprecate now

[skunkes]

i dont like when character being blunt/having no filter = character just being Mean, and im trying to find a good balance with that for Talon. I guess it's not that hard since he's not an (active) overthinker and I have drawn him saying things he considers neutral that seem rude to others...I guess I have to find a way to show the opposite, too

[girderednerve]

unforeseen hazard of becoming a "boss" in a public library where most of the full-time librarians are around my age: they are all also fanfiction readers, but, and this is key, not really the way i am [it is the main thing i read, and i am interested in it as a specific medium with its own unique artistic horizons]. i do not have sufficient poker face to imply that i am unfamiliar with fan spaces but i am trying so hard not to actually get into it about fanfiction with anyone because i will end up communicating that i have read more than two million words of hockey RPF & then no one will take me seriously at work ever again

[fromtheseventhhell]

Saying this an Elia Martell fan from what little we know of her, but I'm really sick of how fandom sees her as nothing but a perpetual victim and/or hater of Lyanna and Rhaegar. Where's fandom content of her being kind to baby Tyrion or headcanons of her plotting with Rhaegar against Aerys? Makes me wish GRRM would write more Fire and Blood books to flesh her out more outside of the "pretty victim" fanon Sansa stans want her to be.

It's actually so frustrating cause there are great conversations + theorizing that could be going on surrounding her character because we know we're going to be learning more about her in the future, but a lot of her "fans" are just stuck on using her as a prop. And honestly? That's because the more we learn about her, the more she moves away from being fandom's favorite passive self-insert character. If George has her doing anything it breaks their idea of her being the perfect victim which is what they love about her. They don't even like her character organically, they just like that it gives them a justification to hate Rhaegar and/or Lyanna. I'm personally neutral-positive about Elia, but I am very interested in learning more about her character. George has kept that portion of the story intentionally vague for a reason and I can't wait to see why.

[gotyouanyway]

this is the 2nd time narvin has got to a rural area and commented on how actually nice/beautiful it is and specifically mentioned children playing.. maybe in another life he could've been a nature enjoyer and good with kids

[fox-stuck]

writing Star Trek smut tonight and making a million dollar (!!that is crazy!!!) pitch for funding at city hall tomorrow morning

[hardoncaulfield]

I saw a post a a moment ago arguing that people who voice their dislike of being around children are horrible people. I don't think this follows, since what someone feels personally and how someone behaves are different things. A person who says to adult friends 'I don't enjoy being around children very much, I find it tiring etc., etc.,' but who behaves towards children in a friendly, supportive and encouraging way is not harming any children - just voicing their preference not to be responsible for the care of children.

In my opinion, acknowledging that you're not someone who finds caring for children rewarding is a useful bit of introspection to have done

[bandzboy]

antónio guterres was considered persona non grata by israhell and the response of the portuguese ministry of foreign affairs to this was like "we are so sorry" and they "regret it" like..... HUH?

[reinabeestudio]

you stop shaving as a woman and people just dont know what to call you anymore huh

[brinnanza]

you guys know stuff can just be neutral right. like it doesn't have to be good or bad it can just Be ykwim like sometimes an experience is Weird but that doesn't necessarily imply that it was good or bad sometimes things are just so unfamiliar that the sheer novelty overrides having an opinion about it. sometimes you hear someone's died, but it's no one you knew or would ever know and it's so many degrees of separation from the source that they have no emotional investment in it either and that's not automatically a tragedy OR a relief it's just a statement of fact.

sometimes stuff just Is. and it's okay that it is.

[rolandkaros]

interested by aryna's response about iga's ban...

[thorntopieces]

it feels like it's been ages since i got to sit down and just write down my thoughts

[hometownrockstar]

What I love about the intuitive eating model is that it places "eating nutritionally" as the least important and final step to consider, and isn't even "supposed" to be followed until it is (mentally, physically, or economically) viable to the person doing the intuitive eating. And someone will hear this and go "What, isn't that encouraging unhealthy eating, to not prioritize nutrition?" When in actuality, the model lessening the importance of "eating nutritionally" IS in the pursuit of the most healthy eating habits of a person.

Intuitive eating is just one of the only eating mindset models that refuses to ignore the reality of disordered eating and diet culture and how we are surrounded by and internalize it all the time, and it takes into account what ACTUALLY fuels EDs. The other base steps of intuitive eating, placing zero restrictions on yourself (aside from allergens and such), eating what you enjoy and eating until you are full, all of these start at the core of untangling the internalized shame and fatphobia which fuels what is fundamentally more unhealthy than "not eating nutritionally", which is not eating at all and having an unhealthy relationship to food.

Intuitive eating understands that the mindset of "eating nutritionally" can easily lead to obsessive tendencies towards restricting and anxiety over eating the "right" foods. And even within the intuitive eating model, eating nutritionally means adding ALONGSIDE what you eat to balance out what nutrients you can, and most importantly to enjoy everything you eat, because eating can and should be pleasurable, not a job or a chore or a domination of the body and soul.