#and i just noticed the icon set matches 😭

[asakurahaos]

new lock screen 🫠

[kookielover29]

I am in love with your theme on your phone 😭 do you mind me asking how you did it? 🥺

Awww thanks babes! First of all I started with what theme I wanted to do and then thought about the things associated with it that I wanted to incorporate. I am not sure if you are a kpop stan or not but you will notice I have Bts and Txt quotes and pictures up. This was partly because I wanted to have Beomgyu form Txts "bear persona" ig you could call it, as a minor focus. (Theme was heavely inspired by that and the Thursdays Child album.)

Most of my pictures I get off of Pinterest or here on Tumblr. I like having my backgrounds as plainer pictures so it does not distract. Another cool trick is to use color blocking wallpapers like I did so you can tie the color palette into everything. Next find the widgets and other things you want to use AND how you want to organize it.

These are the apps I use:

- design keyboard (pretty self explanatory)

- simple photo widget (this allows you to put photos as widgets and have them open apps if you want. You can also put text at the bottom to name the widget, so I use that to put quotes.)

- snapkit (this is what I use for my apps and some of their widgets. This app has full themes you can download for free that will give you the app icon photos, wallpapers, and widgets to use. I don't use this method, I actually go to Pinterest to find the app icons and wallpapers. Just type in "blank aesthetic app icons". You might have to search non-common apps like Weverse, Be real, or any games you might have separately. If you can't find them I just use other photos or zoom in on another app icon to use the background color so it matches the theme. I hope that last bit makes sense. When setting your icons there will be a watermark if you do the regular way. To remove the watermark, select the app that you want, set the photo, then click remove watermark of something, I don't remember what the bottom says. After that you go to your home screen and go to your phones 'add widgets'. When you scroll down to the one by one widget option from that app and add it to you screen, it will automatically be the last app that you did in the app.)

I costomise not only social media themes and my home and lock screens but also my keyboards and phone case I do my self (which I will be posting later), and my music apps. You do not have to go that far for it to look cute. I do this all on a Motorola phone so no need for an iPhone either contrary to popular believe.

Wow that's a lot. I hope it helped, and I can definitely reiterate things, or post a quick video tutorial if you need more clarification. Thank you so much, I really enjoy costomising my phone and take great pride in showing it with others, so when people like it as much as I do it makes me really happy. This is also after a ton of practice with doing past themes and a long and titius process to put together, so if it doesn't turn out the way you want it to, you can always look forward to the next one which normally comes out better in my experience. Thanks again!🤎

[born-to-lose]

Heyyy I have a question because you're the person I know with the most iconic concert experiences,,, how do you even get to meet those musicians without VIP packages and how do you handle meeting musicians you're attracted to/how do you stop yourself from getting attached and yearning for them in case you stay in contact?

I think if I met some of those band guys and thought they're hot, I'd forget how to speak or let something embarrassing slip 😭😭

Alright, get ready for the ultimate guide to meeting musicians at (small venue) concerts!

Regarding meeting them without a VIP package, I must say I'm incredibly lucky with my go-to venue because it's a very 80s Sunset Strip coded rock bar which books a lot of iconic (mostly glam) bands and many of them don't even offer VIP tickets (since I started going there, only two artists sold those and I bought neither). Most bands stay for at least some of the afterparty and before the show or between sets, you often see them outside the venue or running around in the corridor, so you may bump into them on the way to the bathroom because they're next to the backstage door (has happened to me several times), though in the latter case that's a brief interaction which could still be a basis for a chat later on.

My secrets are basically buying merch and approaching the musicians after the gig (they're usually standing outside, in the corridor or by the merch table) to ask if they could sign my stuff and then I just chat a little bit and follow wherever the conversation is going. You could even ask for a hug or they may hug you first. Either randomly as a thank you or when you say goodbye, whatever feels best for you.

That's also a good moment to ask for a photo, but frankly I forgot to ask at least four times (they only live in my memory). On this occasion, they often put an arm around you or even pull you closer and if they do that, you should pull them closer too and you can start flirting! Sometimes you just have to be bold and sort of match their way of talking, for example if they're a bit cheeky and flirty, play along and it should work. Having an alcoholic drink or two beforehand may also help if you drink, or you can have shots with them as you're talking as an enhancer. If you don't drink, you need to remind yourself you probably won't see them again after tonight and you need to take this chance to have a little chat without real consequences (I personally do both).

I try to get a spot in the front every time because it's easier for them to notice you during the show and hold the microphone in your face for a line, give you fist bumps, a sip of their drink, set lists, picks, drumsticks etc. If they don't voluntarily throw those into the crowd, you often need to ask when they're about to leave the stage because a lot of them forget the set lists, especially if they only have one or two and not a full stack ready in case people ask for them. But don't be pushy if they don't want to sacrifice their expensive drumsticks, there will be other gigs. Also, I pray you don't have aggressive girls beating you up for a drumstick standing near you. I've seen a bunch of them in action and was happy those weren't the times I caught something and had to defend it with my life.

Anyway, some musicians even approach you afterwards when they recognize you or are at least happy to see you coming to them, especially the lesser known bands. Even if you wouldn't have gone out of your way to meet them, you should talk to them a little, they turn out to be more fun that you expected, trust me.

All things considered, I find this a better way to meet musicians than through an official meet & greet because it feels way less forced and like they're only talking to you briefly because you paid them to do that. Plus, you don't have a line of other fans waiting behind you until you're finished and it's just more fun in general to meet them by chance and be able to have longer conversations with more privacy and without spending an extra €100.

The question about handling meeting musicians I'm attracted to is interesting because I'll admit I subconsciously tend to approach the ones I find slightly attractive rather than the unremarkable ones (or at least I used to), unless they're people whose shows I went to admiring them for their work, for example let's say if I'm a fan of Aerosmith but don't think Steven Tyler is hot, I'd still meet him given the chance because of his music.

I think it depends on what their "status" is, like if they're famous, you obviously have to restrain yourself but if they're down to earth and you can talk with them casually, flirting is fine if they go with it. I just recommend testing the waters and if they respond positively, you're free to continue. However, keep it mind you don't have to force a hookup after 10 minutes of flirting and more often than not it stops at kissing, so don't have too high hopes.

Also, if you know in advance that they're taken, be respectful and just have a normal conversation with them. Some will still flirt with you despite being in a relationship, in which case do what you're comfortable with. If you don't know if they're single, do what you want basically. It's not your job to stalk them beforehand to make sure they're single, it's their responsibility to be honest with you, though open relationships exist and their partner may be okay with them flirting with other people, but I'd rather not get into trouble with them.

I have had moments in which I was kind of starstruck (meeting Stevie Rachelle and also Taz Fagerström, but that was because he was the first musician I met) and forgot how to speak for a moment, it happens! You get used to it over time and figure out your line, though there will always be musicians you consider "out of your league" and think you can't start a conversation with them as easily as the Czech underground band with 700 followers on Instagram. In the end, they're people like you and me who really appreciate that people like their music and even like it enough to chat with them because that's absolutely not a given, sometimes I'm genuinely the only one approaching those musicians and it's a bit sad but also means there's more for me.

I actually stayed in contact with a handful of musicians I had met, even if we talk rather sporadically, but rule number one is literally "don't get attached". I recommend not developing romantic feelings unless you actually talk frequently and they're straightforward about it like asking you out on dates and you think it could work out (enough time off the road, living somewhat close with opportunities to meet them regularly etc), if only temporarily. Though even then I would be careful because you're rarely the only one for them, so if you're not fine with your partner cheating (whatever your definition is), a relationship with a musician may not be the best idea.

On this note, you should once again know their relationship status if you plan on pursuing them in any way and please do ask them directly in this case! It's much better than speculating whether they're single or not because they like to lie about that on social media, but if you're lucky, they'll tell you the truth when you ask.

You should also keep in mind they're often out of your league (as harsh as it sounds) so ideally, they'll make the first move as you don't want to seem like a desperate and creepy fan. They also spend a lot of time on the road, rehearsing or in the studio, which decreases your chances of quality time with them. Additionally, they tend to be older than you and at least at my age a too big age gap makes things difficult and many of them prefer people in their own age range (this is why I don't get bitches).

In conclusion, keep it casual and don't take it seriously. Just enjoy the moment without expecting anything to come from it. You'll be a lot less worried about what impression you make and if it could turn into something more if you just go there with the one plan to have fun!

I personally stop myself from getting attached by reminding myself that some things are better enjoyed from afar. Of course I love talking to these musicians, but 1) all of them taken (or the majority, I don't ask if they're not public about it), 2) they live too far away for a realistic hypothetical relationship, 3) they're between 10 and 40 years older than me, 4) if it ends ugly, you may get a diss track written about you and I'd much rather be a muse for the positive songs, 5) having dated a musician could ruin the experience of meeting bands in the future.

Important addition: some musicians are better as a type of buddy, but you should feel what vibe you'd rather have with them when you've talked for a bit. At least if you're out for that from the beginning, you save yourself the heartbreak.

[withleeknow]

my letter from across the channel: darling, and I say this with so much endearment~

FOOTBALL'S COMING HOMEEEEEE ⚽️ however, i'm humble enough to admit that spain are 100% taking us in the final; i'm proud, not delusional 🫡

also my friend and I are in the trenches rn with jin's fred x wkorea moment - tinyurl.com/td7rm662 - him in the black + silver jewellery combo is absolutely unreal ✨️ this is just the first concept video in the set i'm not going to survive this week istg

have this 2022 crumb that randomly came on my tl today 🥹 I've never noticed until now that they have such complementary visuals to one another . ݁₊ ⊹ . ݁ vm.tiktok.com/ZGeGcGDW1/ + I've just seen that heeseung's pink hair's back + as lovely as it is, I wasn't ready to depart from his iconic red hot-girl-summer hair 🥲

lastly pls tell me the “summer” where you are is somewhat okay bc here it's been so unpredictably miserable 🙃🙃 like the heavens are unleashing their wrath one second and then the next the sun is like “hello i'm here but i'm dipping in 5 minutes”. there is zero promise of a summer here if you're thinking of visiting

omg onigiri i have to say that i am england's (football) no.1 hater !! alas, mayhaps we're enemies when it comes to this 😭🫡 although, credit where credit's due, they were actually pretty decent during the match with the netherlands

how does he still look like that with his cute choppy bangs 😭 i was wondering what fashion house would snatch him up but jewelry came out of nowhere and knocked the wind out of me. face economy is so back, i forgot how his photoshoots always HIT the spot my god. imagine the cunt he'll serve when ksj1 finally comes 😭

MY BABY !!!!!!! it's honestly kinda weird to see beomgyu be relatively calm around heeseung (and jeongin) i'm so used to his unhinged ass on the loose around tubatu lmao. heeseung's summer fling fantasy hair is gone?? 😭 that color on him really does tickle my brain in such a peculiar way i think that'll always be my favorite hair color for him :( but the pink.......... u know what.......... i can actually get wit this too........

summer is terrible this year over here lmao. people were still in sweaters a couple weeks ago, now it's hot as balls during the day but also rainy and stormy and disgusting and i have never witnessed such an awful summer in 4.5 years here. the nicest weather i've had this summer was when i was in budapest for 3 days for coldplay 😭