#and i dont know how to interact with like established friend groups so that is a whole other layer

[nintendc64]

why is trying to form human connections as an adult just an impossible task. both reaching out to old friends and trying to make new ones. am I doing something wrong

[cherubfae]

𝔩𝔬𝔳𝔢 𝔯𝔦𝔳𝔞𝔩 || {𝔞𝔨𝔞𝔱𝔰𝔲𝔨𝔦}

They're now realizing what a mistake it was to introduce you to the group, now they have competition with their own teammate.

tags: former ninja!reader, gn! civilian reader, established relationships, threats, violence, protective!akatsuki, slightly suggestive in Sasori's || MINORS DONT INTERACT

Pain

He knows that Konan is harmless and she's not the sort of disrespectful person to go sniffing about where she doesn't belong, especially where he and his partner are concerned. Pain, however, cannot tolerate the lingering touches Konan gives you as she passes by. Her hand brushing yours, guiding you with an arm around your shoulders, and blushing at you. He feels a warning is warranted.

"You are my dear friend, Konan, I have known you many years, but this simply won't do. You are better than how you are acting. Be respectful and leave them alone, and I won't need to inflict pain upon you."

Konan

Oh, well isn't this troublesome. Konan isn't the type to make idle threats, but Pain is her commander and leader. That would not be a wise decision on her part, but she does trust her long-time friend to be somewhat respectful and not place you in any situation where you would be uncomfortable. She's not above putting her foot down if she really must.

"Sir, with all due respect, my partner isn't interested and we would both appreciate you to mind your manners."

Obito

You are his everything. He would destroy the entire world for you. Level mountains, tame seas, there isn't anything he wouldn't do as long as it's within his power. He's pretty surprised that Zetsu even took a liking to you, as he's not one that's expressed interest in most anything other than his eating habits.

"Surely Zetsu is mistaken. My partner isn't a corpse for you to munch on you, nor are they yours for the taking. Keep your distance and I won't have to bloody you up too much."

Zetsu

As with anything, both sides of him are at a near constant quarrel with each other. His light side trying to reassure his darker side that Tobi is harmless and doesn't mean anything malicious by taking interest in you.

"Tobi is a good boy, he means no harm." "His harm is his unwarranted interest in our beloved partner. Fool! You have no sense, do you?"

Hidan

Honestly he could laugh so hard he may undo the stitches in his neck. That old fucker wants his partner?? Is he actually serious?

"Haha! That's fucking rich! You've gotta be at least one-hundred by now, huh? Fuck off, geezer! They're not yours!"

Kakuzu

Clearly decapitating Hidan over and over doesn't make him talk any less. Neither does stabbing him-- but it sure does take the edge off. Kakuzu would rather not deal with the younger man's insufferable stubbornness. You are his lover, his alone, and Hidan had no chance in whatever the fuck kind of afterlife his mighty lord Jashin provides. None. Fuck off, Hidan.

"As if they'd want someone as lowly as you. You don't even pay for your own shit. Remember your place or I won't hesitate to remove you from this world permanently. One swipe and your head will be freed from your miserable shoulders. I'm sure all sorts of insects would love to burrow inside of that hollow space."

Itachi

For a moment he's reminded of Sasuke's little schoolboy crush on you, except Kisame isn't Sasuke. He is a grown adult capable of getting in the way of Itachi's livelihood. Threatening the sanctity of his relationship. He's unlikely to do much other than step in if he crosses any boundaries or makes you uncomfortable. So until something is said, it's just this weird, heavy atmosphere. Kisame starts to speak but Itachi cuts him off immediately.

"Keep their name out of your mouth, Kisame. I won't warn you again."

Kisame

Oftentimes he wonders how lonely Itachi is. He annihilated his entire clan save for his younger brother in a single night. He took away everything he loved and for what? He can appreciate Itachi's past but Kisame doesn't take too kindly to the eldest Uchiha brother being a bit too welcoming and protective of his partner.

"Itachi, a word of advice. Don't shit where you eat. And keep your nose out of other's relationships. You're a good, respectable man and I appreciate your concern in my partner's well-being. Let me handle it from here."

Sasori

There's still the age-old artistic view difference between the two: eternal art vs shortlived art. One could argue both have their merits, but even after all these years it was a sore subject between the blonde and redhead duo. And now you were thrown into the mix.

"If you truly think you're so superior to me, Deidara, then perhaps you'd be more open to what a waste your art truly is. My partner prefers eternal, long-lasting, but there's nothing long nor lasting about, is there?"

Deidara

This was great. Jusssst great. Sasori had been hanging around his area of the hideout more and for what, Deidara wasn't sure. Until he recalled that you had been given special permission to visit from Pain himself. You'd forsaken your village long ago and clearly had no interest in reporting them, so it was allowed. Sasori had begun skulking about ever since and the blonde could guess why he might be drawn to you.

"If you even think about turning my partner into a fuckin' puppet, I won't hesitate to kill you, Sasori. No matter which way I go about it, you'll end up in splinters. So, I repeat. Stay the fuck away from them, hmm."

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[animeomegas]

hmmm i dont know how much youve interacted with him but any thoughts on rex? i adore him and marz a lot

I'm going to start with Marz because I know a lot more about her character! Okay, let me first establish how I view the Stratospheric ship, because I think it will help frame a lot of what I'm going to say. My interpretation is that they are:

A cult.

Failing completely at their attempt to remove class, gender roles, cultural differences etc. and their interest in trying shows ignorance to an absurd degree.

Selfish and creepy. Bringing people so young paired up like that as if they're breeding pairs of cattle, and having children aboard the ship even though they could have easily predicted the untold hardships that would have befallen them.

That's the overview to my opinion on the adults of the colony. Obviously those born on the ship or who were too young to consent, like Utopia, don't inherently fall under those critiques. I should also make it clear that this isn't a criticism of the game, as I believe this is a supported interpretation, and it's super interesting!

The way I view the children is inherently based in this backdrop. They are, mostly, tragic tales. They are victims of the circumstances forced upon them. Each of them is a tragic tale in a different way.

Marz is the tragic tale of someone who loves the Earth and who was denied the opportunity to experience it against her will. She loves the arts, fashion, the ideas of concerts and people and cities... And she gets none of that. She gets a society where survival takes so much energy, there isn't always space for the things she loves. In one of my playthroughs, she only remained Governor for a short while, because she prioritised art, but it simply wasn't feasible when base line survival needed all the attention.

And the adults decided to take a risk on colony life. She never did. And she has to live with the consequences.

(also, wtf is her augment??? Who thought that would be a good idea??? Shame is an important emotion for humans navigating social situations, developing their moral compass, and making friends???)

I really feel for Marz, because she yearns for something more. And the chance of it happening in her lifetime (if at all) just feels so slim.

...

Rex... I don't know as much about him tbh. I think the Heliopause are a group of... absolute nutters, para military dictatorship vibes all over the place. Although it's much more overt in the narrative than the negatives of the Stratos' way of life.

But I haven't found out Rex's backstory really. I think his bar idea is cool, and I love giving him hugs haha. His character design is probably my favourite haha. I'll have to update more specific thoughts when I actually befriend him properly!

[anonymous-dentist]

Hi anon, sorry to bring the sbi family fanfic discussion again and for the long post , (your posts ware what made realize why i hated this thing so much)

I don’t know if is the same type of fans but i noticed that some ficwritters that are really foucused on philza and wilbur (and sbi family i think?) Are kinda trying to add cellbit to this situation? Like i read some philza focused fanfic where he interacts with cellbit and the ficwritters act like cellbit is his kid? Its weird idk how to explain very well (this is also the same people that kinda write cellbit as a native english speaker (american and european) and not a brazilian (its something that is too hard to explain right now)

And its kinda stressing me out because cellbit is written in such a weid way and its infesting the spiderbit tag lol and i dont understand what is going on half of the time since idk what the hell sbi even is (brazilian with 0 understanding about english speaking mcty)

Sorry for the long post

Oh yeah no I don’t really get it but like. I also do! Because q!Phil has become one of only a literal handful of people on the island to actually properly trust q!Cellbit and so they’re like. Friends. But obviously you can never just be friends with someone not your age and so. Fandom assigned family dynamic. It’s super weird and lowkey like. Idk it’s just weird lol.

A discussion surely must follow!

First, a brief rundown of SBI:

SBI is Sleepy Boys Inc., a group made of up streamers Philza, Wilbur Soot, Tommyinnit, and Technoblade. (Originally it was just Phil, Wilbur, and Techno, but Tommy wiggled his way in somehow.) They’re Best Friends, but somewhere along the way their fandoms said. Fuck it. Family dynamic… mostly because the ccs lowkey thought it was funny and ran with it. Wilbur alone would rather die than not have Philza Minecraft be his father

This dynamic spread to their characters on the dsmp despite them literally not once ever referring to each other all as family; iirc Techno himself said he at least wasn’t part of the family because that dynamic would be fucked up after all the shit his character did to both c!Wilbur and c!Tommy. But c!Phil was c!Wilbur’s father even though he did fully murder his ass, and Wilbur and Tommy were brothers because they’re Wilbur and Tommy and you’d have to kill them to stop them from being brothers. Tommy was never established to be c!Phil’s son, and Phil never seemed to consider him one

But then the dsmp started dying around summer 2021 and everyone was kinda just left with fanon, and SBI fanon can get weird. I’m talking borderline fetishistic nuclear family stuff, especially when you get into ‘Dark SBI’ content with Phil kidnapping Tommy or whatever and forcibly making them family? It gets weird, take a look through the tag sometime

The thing with a lot of these fics is that like. It’s gotten to a point where it’s a fandomized version of both cc! and c!SBI with some really freaky characterizations and some really diehard fans. I’ve talked about that before, so I won’t do it again.

The weirdest thing I’ve noticed about these fics, though- and this goes back to what we were talking about with Cellbit inexplicably being added to the mix all of a sudden- is that everybody has to be a family.

You’ll be hard pressed to find a SBI fic where the characters have friends. Even Tubbo and Ranboo, usually delegated to a ‘Tommy’s friend!’ role despite them not interacting much like as a group ever are treated either as extensions of Tommy himself or as his found family ‘brothers’ who Phil also inevitably helps take care of rather than as friends, and they act that way. Niki isn’t usually ever written in as Wilbur’s friend, she’s Benchtrio’s sister/mother-figure, or she’s described as Wilbur’s found family sister. Jack Manifold? Lumped in with Niki with Benchtrio as their older brother/father-figure. Quackity? Either Wilbur’s boyfriend, thus a member of the family, or Tommy’s older brother/father-figure.

Even characters who never really interacted with SBI as a “family” on the dsmp get this treatment: you’ll read an SBI fic with c!Purpled in it and he’ll be Tommy’s brother figure. c!Sam is Tommy’s father figure. Schlatt is Tommy’s uncle or Wilbur’s brother. Puffy is an aunt. Sapnap and Dream? Tommy’s brother or father figures. Even Hannah is being written as Tommy’s cool older sister figure these days despite only really interacting with him once on the smp

And you can see this kind of behavior continuing now in the qsmp fandom… if the new ccs/characters in question aren’t “problematic”. Chayanne can’t see Techno as a personal hero, he has to see him as an older brother or an uncle. Tubbo is Phil and Fit’s son and Tommy’s brother. Niki is Tallulah’s mom. Quackity is Wilbur’s boyfriend.

What you’ll actually be hard pressed to see is this kind of dynamic with Phil and other, “problematic” ccs, aka ccs who aren’t like. English ccs.

Because you won’t find q!Forever included in the family dynamics despite him basically being q!Phil’s best friend and closest confidant. It took longer for q!Missa to be added to Phil’s wiki page than it did for Techno to despite them literally being explicit canon husbands, and you’ll be lucky if Missa is even mentioned in a “qsmp” SBI fic. Etoiles? Not even mentioned despite him and Phil more or less actually leaning into the family dynamic with the “brothers” thing. Even Tallulah and Chayanne are left out or mischaracterized in “qsmp” SBI fics, giving Tommy the spotlight.

You won’t find nearly anybody who isn’t an English cc in these fics, and this is NOT accusing anyone of xenophobia. It’s most likely just because the SBI people are used to watching only Phil or only Wilbur and they don’t speak enough of the other languages to really care about the non-English ccs and thus disregard their characters and lore. It’s not just SBI people who do this, it’s plenty of people speaking every language on the server not watching anyone whose languages they don’t speak. Yk?

But that brings us to q!Cellbit, and I’m surprised the SBI guys have latched onto him the way they did considering he’s everything they seem to dislike: his first language isn’t English, he doesn’t talk with Phil a lot, he and Tallulah get along really well, he makes fun of Wilbur being gone. And, honestly? The SBI guys did hate him for a long time because of those things, they constantly undermined his efforts and said Phil would be a better Order leader and said that he should never speak to Tallulah again because he was making her sad and he’s friends with their least favorite person ever, Forever.

But then q!Phil said he trusted Cellbit, and it’s like a switch was flipped. Starting around the Pills Arc when they first teamed up, SBI people were suddenly on board with Cellbit despite being part of the haters literally days before. Why? Well. Phil and Cellbit are friends now, and so now he gets the privilege of being in the fics.

The problem with this is that these people have never watched Cellbit. They’ve seen ten minutes of him total from Phil’s pov, and that’s all they’re going to use to write his character. So of course there will be mischaracterization.

And, of course, they’ll be family. Because, as I said, there’s this weird allergy to the concept of friendship in SBI fics. You’re family or you’re an enemy.

Constant fanon mischaracterization of Phil has basically turned him into a universal father figure even if he doesn’t have that dynamic with the characters he’s like the “father” of. q!Cellbit’s only familial figure outside of his actual canon family is generally seen as q!Bad, who even referred to him as family last night on stream. But, because Phil and Cellbit are friends now and Cellbit is younger than Phil is, they have to have a father-son dynamic, because that’s what Phil’s only character trait is in the SBI fics he’s in. He’s the dad whether it makes sense or not.

If that makes sense.

[sentofight]

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 💕 Lyn and Zech.

Have we discussed shipping before?: yes || no [not really but u wink wonked one time i think and i was like *idiot mode ehe~*]

My interest level overall: I’ve wanted this for so long || can’t wait || I think it’ll be fun || kinda feeling it || maybe with a lot of plotting || I need to think about it || not interested, sorry

i'm interested because YOU HYPED ME UP WHEN I ADDED LYN SO NOW I WANNA KNOW IF THEY WORK OR NOT TOGETHER HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM i blame u for the good things. but for my brain sake slow and plotting is better. i can envision them but im scared because no brakes in this big pot called brain.

How we should do this: jump right in || slow burn || pre-established || build up to it in a thread || anything goes

tbh im rusty with her that's why taking it slow would be better so i can write her better in the future interactions. also when it comes with ocs it is better to go slow to not seem like things are being forced;; u know ;u; i trust u and zech but i dont trust my brain XD also not fun past experience u know ;a;

Dynamics I want to try out with our ship: friends to lovers || rivals to lovers || enemies to lovers [this could be a thing if he was hired as a mercenary to another group but he is stuck with da eliwood gang lol] || mutual pining || battle couple small yehaw || childhood friends || high school sweethearts || star crossed lovers || long time lovers || old married couple || newlyweds || sickeningly sweet couple || secret lovers?????? || fake dating/marriage????? i mean we can think of stuff :thinking: || best friends hiding their feelings || arranged marriage || soulmates || other

Shipping Interest Check! | accepting | @wayward-sword

Send 💕 (or “hearts!” if the symbol doesn’t show up) and I’ll fill out the following for our muses:

[petrichor-idyllic]

Listen, I know that y'all are here for my TMR content, but at least one of you has asked me for an OBX piece and I'm going through a phase, so I thought I'd say my piece on this.

A think a main point of tension in the fan base atm the moment is Jiara (Kiara x JJ).

Now- I would like to clarify that I love the show, and I really like Kie as a character, and even though JJ is my favourite character, I'm not a delusional fangirl who dislikes their relationship because of that.

I, at the end of season 2, actually really liked them and thought they would make a cute couple.

But, as of season 3, I do not like them together.

Hear me out.

I, personally (as in this is my opinion pls dont shout at me), do not like them in season 3.

My main problem with the show and the relationships in the group is that it is incredibly heteronormative - which also increased with Cleo joining the group (I absolutely love Cleo she is an icon I have no problems with her). But like, a friend group with the same amount of boys and girls does not mean that everyone has to pair up. People can just be mates. And while the cast is obviously very diverse, which is brilliant we love to see it, there is not one slightly queer character in the show.

And, Madison Bailey, who plays Kiara, literally has a girlfriend in real life. Idk maybe I will just die on the headcanon hill that Kie is a lesbian because she is an interesting character and I do not care about the whole relationship drama between her and the boys.

Another point people keep arguing over is that Kie and JJ was forced.

And like, no, it wasn't- we've been seeing them subtly flirt for 2 seasons. It's been made obvious that JJ obviously has feelings for Kie; literally in the first episode. And, after season 2, it's clear Kie likes him too.

But, it does feel forced.

Like, it's established they like each other, but they've always liked each other and have gotten into the most horrendous situations without saying anything. So why now?

JJ feels normal - but Kie feels kinda out of character. Like, maybe she just had enough and couldn't hold back anymore, like, girl, I get you. But they used to have good, flirty but friendly energy, and it feels like the writers were forcing tension between them. Which is extra annoying cause it's at the expense of my boy Pope.

Also, just throwing it out there, the whole "I love you, dude" scene didn't even process as a love confession to me - it was only JJ's reaction that made me realise. I think it's because me and my mates say we love each other all the time and the "dude" made it feel like her just trying to convince him she cares over having genuinely strong feelings for him.

Though the Kitty Hawk rescue was peak from JJ and absolutely that I expected their romantic relationship to be- it's just everything before that.

And don't get me started on the time skip.

It's some really bizarre writing. Like, they make sense, but the way it all went down just doesn't make sense to me for some strange reason.

Idk how to explain it. It feels rushed, like whilst they've been friends for years, we didn't really see any progress or realisation from Kiara's side. Like, maybe a scene where she talks to Sarah about it and says she doesn't know what to do and she thinks she's starting to fall for JJ could've made it feel less... off. Something as simple of that could've really added to it in my opinion. Like, we didn't see Kie's feelings for JJ outside of their interactions with each other.

If that makes sense, I'm struggling to explain here.

I hope yall get me here lmao.

[spooky-k1d]

pleasepleaseplease if you have any information about earth 939 squip i would love to hear it even if it's just rehashing old info. also !!!!! if you have anything on the relationships between the squipverse crew i would love to hear all of that i wanna know how they all interact so bad

OKAY HI im sorry im answering so late i kept forgetting about this lolz Anywho

for personality / how he interacts with earth-8002 jeremy i'd say he has the sass and silliness of the canon squips Though he obvs isnt a supercomputer and isnt like abusive 😭😭😭 though he still will give jeremy shit for posture and manners but just as a mom scolding her kid

also i ended up actually coming up with a name for him: akira sakamoto Cus i didnt wanna have to specify his earth everytime and also itd be weird if his name was Squip UH he works at alchemex and also has a master's in chemistry & biotechnology, master's in physics, and a bachelor's in mathematical science. also at some point in the story he's probably wanted by the police (might share the reason at some point not sure !!!)

as for their relationships lets first establish where they all stand in spider-society

earth-93 jeremy: one of their programmers and basically main IT guy, though is also in the founder's close group of who they take on missions (so basically he's kind of high up in the ranking)

earth-4600 jake, earth-8002 jeremy: theyre just your average spider society member, they go around capturing anomalies and shit, nothing too special

earth-939 squip: same as the last one but also has his own lab in spider hq and earth-93 jeremy does basically all his work in there so theyre like kind of partner-colleagues

okay so basically earth-93 jeremy is work-friends with akira, he tried to just stay solely professional and friendly at first but they eventually became actual friends and have hung out outside of spider hq once or twice. earth-93 jere sees earth-8002 jere as sort of an annoying child and just tries to mostly ignore him. earth-4600 jake is his closest friend and jake will sometimes stop in while he's working and chat and they hangout the most outside of hq, though they actually dont talk *that* much at hq because jake is always out doing missions

akira and earth-8002 jeremy have this weird peter b parker/miles morales dynamic, its sort of fatherly but also not really. idk if youve seen the movies you mostly know what im talking about when i say pbp/miles morales dynamic

akira, earth-8002 jeremy and earth-4600 jake never really interact with each other much but theyre friendly w/ each other

also again if youve seen ATSV you know how lyla kind of is apart of HQ and thats what earth-93 squip is like And everyone really likes her cus she'll sometimes just go around and talk to people and help them figure things out Though she always annoys earth-93 jeremy and he really wishes she had a physical form so he could punch her LMFAO

[ghostys-originals]

RKZ Fandom Boundaries/ Consent

Ive seen some creators make these boundary lists as of late and although I’ve accepted that I cannot control what a fandom does, I believe its at least important to vocalize my boundaries so there is no confusion in the future.

This is mainly about Roadkillerz, but can be extended to apply to whatever else I make in the future!

[CW: Brief mentions of nsfw topics, p*dophillia, and other problematic subjects common in fandom, will also briefly mention hate speech]

1. Fan Merch/art/fic/etc

- Although I would prefer if you financially supported me first, I do not mind the creating and selling of fan merch such as art prints, stickers, etc!

- With that said, I will discuss what I am personally comfortable with seeing depicted:

1a. Hate Speech

- I do not encourage the promotion of hate speech such as lgbtq+ phobia, racism, sexism, anti semitism, etc using my work/characters as the face for that. Not only does it directly go against my own values, but for RKZ specifically, goes against the intended themes of the series (nazi “punks” are posers)

- On the topic of politics, I dont mind the promotion of, love speech? I guess? I dont know how the groups affected would feel about fandomifying important issues, but if you want to use RKZ characters for political stances that dont fall under hate speech go for it. Pro-lgbtq fan works for example is fair game.

1b. NSFW

- To be super blunt: I do not mind NSFW content as a concept, majority of my characters are of age (18+) unless stated otherwise.

- I, however, will expect some very basic criteria:

One, I do not feel comfortable with ships between family members, adult/children, etc. I dont want to encourage ship discourse since anything can be considered abusive, but as long as its NEITHER of those two things I do not care.

Two, Please be a responsible ADULT (no minors are permitted to publicly post nsfw content of my work) and keep any nsfw art/fanfiction out of the main tags. I understand minors will still seek out content not meant for them, but there are also people (not just minors either) who want to be able to scroll through a tag without seeing something they dont want to. Sex is about consent, and if your work doesnt include at LEAST a warning of some kind that aint good.

Overall just have some common sense, and if you do see people doing these things please dont debate them- just block and move on. I hate it too but getting into flamewars isnt productive and you’ll just be angry and you’ll never change their minds. Bonus thing: love yourself, care for yourself

Ok I think thats the most i’ll put for that? Now for things unrelated to content

2. Staff interactions

2a. I am alright with having a casual back and forth with fans, however I highly discourage developing parasocial relationships. If you wish to be my friend, you HAVE to treat me like a person. I do not respond well to idol-worship or lovebombing. I’ve had many bad experiences with people being super weird with that. I am not saying this to be rude, but I can and will block you if you make me feel uncomfortable, spam my DMs, or do anything else that I believe oversteps my comfort. I prefer to not befriend fans anyway since that promotes power dynamics, plus the before mentioned idol-worship which just makes me feel inhuman, so do not get your hopes up

EDIT: ALSO THIS SHOULD GO WITHOUT SAYING, But do not attempt to block evade/cyberstalk either. It WILL not end well for you. (if you want to know what counts as cyberstalking, it should be at the point where you dedicate your life to finding out literally everything about a person- casually checking my socials is fine as long as it doesnt absorb your life)

Cyberstalking and block evading are a clear rejection of established boundaries and if you participate in that, then you are just scum. Theres no woke twist you can put on it to justify it. Its wrong no matter how you feel about somebody.

2b. With that said, please do not harass anybody involved with the production of Roadkillerz/Other works including VAs, friends, friend of friends, etc. Please remember that they are humans too and have the right to privacy and healthy relations like anybody else.

2c. Fetish mining/sharing nsfw content/etc: Even though I said I dont mind NSFW content, I still do not consent to receiving sexual messages from strangers that includes but are not limited to sexting/flirting, sending nsfw art/fics, irl photos in a sexual manner, requesting I draw fetish material like Sam wearing a straight jacket (TRUE STORY, BY THE WAY.), etc.

If i think of anything else I’ll add to this but for now I believe this should be enough.

[poly-star-trio]

mario KNOWS how they feel about him but he of course stashes those emotions deep down. he has to play the big dumb happy guy whose willing to take a bullet for someone hahahaaaaaaa

This builds until eventually an arguement breaks out and he unlocks his avatar powers then idk runs away to go live w/ sanic th hoghedge or somethin

THSI IS SO FUNNY HELLO sanic and maryo ... Helle yea

HONESTLY i think maryo would start to think a little Too hard about things . like he would watch all his friends get along and think like Wow why cant that be me ...

of course he has meggy and luigi but even they have their moments (plus luigi is his brother so their bond is already established .... maryo wants friends)

and the meme guardians .... he was never really close with 3 ... but 4 ....... Hoo boy . 4 has been getting real tired of maryo lately .

maryo probably feels a little isolated from everyone since hes so . Different ? maybe he wonders why people dont like him that much . maybe he wonders why someone like bob can get a ride or die friend (boopkins) and he cant

IS THIS MAKJNG SENSE idk anymore . i feel like if it ever did build up and explode it would be through maryo talking to meggy about it and meggy severely fucking up

i wrote a little scenario on it and i posted a snippet of it i think . initial idea is that maryo is gazing at everyone having fun in their own little groups and wonders aloud 'i wish they liked me more' then meggys like ? 'they do like you ...!! its just that youre .... yknow ...' 'what ? Too Much ?'

i think about that one interaction between 4 and luigi in My Roommate Mario a lot .

'your brothers just too hard to live with' 'haha yeah... hes a handful'

?!?!?!?!?! Fucked up !!!!!!!!!!! maryo the true autism creature end post

[fagoutboy]

i get what u mean with it being painful to see ppl talking ab being friends w their mutuals. i struggle a lot with knowing how to initiate and sustain social interactions especially when it feels like everyone already has established friend groups. i don’t understand where ppl make all these friends how to people talk to each other. social media is hard.

yea thats a lot of my problems too i just dont even know how to like. begin and im so bad at dms... its nice to know im not alone in this but i wishyou luck too. we will make it 🫶

[memurfevur-archive]

ya know sometimes im inclined to kill off characters because i dont use them!

but the problem is now i thinking up of so many dynamics now that said character is DEAD

liahne!!!! liahne couldve gotten along with so many people! Shuska, Avonis, Kulsot obviously, hell maybe Akidis and co too like

I wouldn’t say Liahne is my most friendly and approaching Troll but she’s much more calm and friendly than a bunch of others that I have. She is literally a cottage core bisexual who is so so patient with people and lowkey misses her days at the caverns caring for kids. Tht said she wouldn’t have traded her experiences for the world. Well, except for Omnius... ya know...

If you had any problems you could come to her and she’d willingly listen to what you had to say. She’d make you tea or lemonade and comfort you and she wouldn’t think twice about it. But she’s not a pushover and she’s not really someone who lets people walk over her. She is, however, self sacrificial and would rather Fix Problems Herself rather than letting anyone else help if she thinks their help is unnecessary-- which we saw how well THAT went when she went to kill Omnius and failed so, so miserably.

Liahne is still around on the blog, but as a ghost now. But because she’s a ghost I feel like I very much limited her ability to interact with people. But then again I aimed to kill her off for good, the only logical reason why she’s around is because I have friends with characters who love her and ghosts have already been a pre-established thing in my lore for a long time. So did I really kill her off? LOL

But ugh. yes. i am thinking about hypotheticals. Liahne and Avonis could have EASILY known each other because they were from the same cavern!! But in canon ofc they didn’t interact and ofc they don’t actually know each other because Avonis is not an auxiliatrix like Piomor and Liahne were, so his responsibilities and social group were different. Liahne and Shuska I think would have been fun if only I had the brain for it before I killed her gfdlgfdg. I think her and Shuska are very similar, that is all. Her and Akidis I’m ??? about but I can see it. Similar enough I think but different in approach. I would say Akidis is more patient than Liahne for sure not to mention Akidis is my WIFE and Liahne is not (takes every opportunity i can to shower akidis with love, gods i love her GODS I LOVE HER -froths at the mouth- )

Not to mention uhhh lowkey shipped her mentally with some other characters but Liahne’s a bit complicated when it comes to quadrants o+<

oh god Piomor doesnt even know shes dead... that was Piomor’s little girl ;-; her kid, her apprentice, her pride and joy ough UGH -feral noises-

[abyssal-system]

It's late and we can't sleep so I thought I might as well use this blog for its actual intended purpose for once (a diary), so this post might be a little all over the place. im sort of stream-of-consciousness'ing this.

block the tag "#personal" if you dont want to see (potentially sad) personal ramblings / posts from us. be safe, curate your dash, i understand.

things have been very quiet system-wise lately. i think we have a new(?) alter but I'm not sure How new or why they split. I'm not even really sure if its not my imagination tricking me into mistaking an already established headmate as a new split...

i've been thinking about them for a little bit. They seem to go by Hadal (though thats also just a catch-all name for the system when we dont know whos fronting) and i have a sneaking suspicion that they've posted on this blog before.

I havent been dissociating as much lately which is good but ive also not been switching at all which is... not a bad thing really, i guess, but it certainly doesnt help ease my fears of Being A Faker.

i know that systems have quiet periods, and i know that me being frontstuck and also unwilling to change that (fear of loss of control is a pain) so thats probably the reason why, but its still unnerving being the only one around.

ive also been thinking about the logistics of getting a diagnosis... I have a lot of fears about the medical system and abuse within it, particularly being stuck in a mental health facility against my will with no way out. its prevented me from coming out as a system to my parents (who... I feel like theyd understand. not Understand, but im not in any danger if they know. i just worry itll change our relationship in some way, like they wont think im Me anymore) and its prevented me from seeking treatment and understanding of my disorder.

the online system community is also rife with toxicity and misinformation and i do not whatsoever feel safe interacting with people who seem to snap at others without warning, so I dont have many system friends out of fear of reliving past friend group drama

I imagine that the feeling of total isolation I feel is common among other systems, but it doesn't really help to know that. my near-debilitating anxiety controls every part of my life and prevents me from seeking help when i otherwise would have.

it also doesnt really help that the one time i tried to find a dissociation specialist, the only one i could find that said they were queer friendly was 4 hours away in another state.

... i might look again. I might just tell my parents so they can help me look for a therapist.

I worry about that though. I worry that since my plurality doesnt really impact my life all that much (i dont switch very often, I dont have amnesia barriers, and i dont lose control of my body fully when i switch out) that either means Im Faking or Its Not Bad Enough To Worry My Parents Over. Its Not Bad Enough To Drive Across The State To See A Therapist For It when i have a perfectly decent one less than 30 minutes away

... i dont know. it feels like i have all the pieces to get the ball rolling on ... Something? but im not really sure if its worth it. we barely have enough money to keep the pantry full for a week, let alone to switch therapists and drive for hours just so i can Maybe get coping mechanisms or something.

.... I dont really know how to end this. i hope this wasnt too negative for this blog, i know i try to focus on positivity and lighthearted subjects.

please be kind in the notes. there is a (very scared) person behind the screen and I am trying to be better about opening up about my worries. kind advice is always welcome though! if it doesnt help me it could potentially help somebody else.

[thestupidhelmet]

I posted 508 times in 2022

106 posts created (21%)

402 posts reblogged (79%)

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#my feelings  about that '90s show should be clear to people who follow my blog

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

i dont know if this has been asked but do you know when did Jackie started calling Hyde Steven? Also I noticed she calls him Steven during the prom episode and then reverts back to Hyde, so any headcanon of her switching from Steven to Hyde and vv?

Jackie starts calling Hyde Steven consistently in "Moon Over Point Place" (2x26), after he takes her under his wing in "Cat Fight Club" (2x25) and teaches her how to protect herself by revealing his own self-protection mechanism (and, thus, makes himself vulnerable to her). He also invites her to become part of the circle in that episode. In "Cat Fight Club," Jackie still calls Hyde Hyde.

Jackie clearly begins to idolize Hyde because of his respect and overall treatment of her in "Cat Fight Club". She's eager for his attention in "Moon Over Point Place". Her interest in him isn't romantic (yet). She's hungry for more of the platonic-intimate interactions she had with him in the previous episode. He treats her differently than most guys, most people, she's ever known -- as if her life and (emotional) safety have value.

She seems surprised people (or men) like him exist, people who'd put their own safety aside for someone else, push against long-established friendships to include her in the group, choose protecting a vulnerable acquaintance (her) who disrespected him repeatedly over loyalty to a childhood friend (Kelso) who betrayed her.

So her switch from calling Hyde by his last name to his first is indicative of the closeness and trust she feels for him. One of her lines from the circle scene in "Moon Over Point Place" demonstrates her thoughts and feelings about him: "You know, Steven and I tease each other. That’s what best friends do!"

She thinks of herself and Hyde as best friends. Again, platonic. In school, she's surrounded herself with people who'd betray her in an instant (and probably have). People she's likely betrayed herself. Loyalty, sympathy, and comfort in her social circle are foreign concepts.

Then Hyde puts his physical safety, his future, on the line for her by going to jail in her stead. That act multiplies her gratitude toward and idolization of him a hundred-fold. She confuses those feelings for romantic love (it's a common occurrence in people, kids, teens, and adults) and grows possessive and obsessive over him.

This isn't to say a seed of romantic love for him isn't planted in her during this time, but Hyde is the one who comes away from their S2-S3 arc with genuine and flourishing (yet unrequited) romantic feelings for Jackie.

37 notes - Posted June 25, 2022

#4

To the anon who just sent me an ask about That ‘90s Show --

 I just wanted some mention that Jackie and Hyde are together.

Same. I don’t need to see them on-screen. I want Jackie and Hyde’s prime timeline to be repaired (it was broken by season 8, and That ‘90s Show doesn’t repair it). 

‘Tis not to be on-screen. Fanfic and other fanworks have sustained us since season 8 of T7S, and they���ll clearly have to sustain us ‘til the end of time. 😂

40 notes - Posted September 28, 2022

#3

i just saw a spoiler for T9S of MK's scene and it's her getting remarried to Kelso 🤢 and getting slutshamed by Kitty? You can still see how badly the authors hate Jackie if they're not only keeping her in an unhappy marriage but letting her short screen time be one where she gets slut shamed by Kitty. How is this still the show's humour?

Jackie's a vessel for the writers' misogyny and misogynistic humor, clearly, not the nuanced character she's depicted as during S1-S7 of T7S. 🤦 🤷

43 notes - Posted November 20, 2022

#2

That '70s Show copyright The Carsey-Werner Company, LLC and Twentieth Century Fox Home Entertainment, LLC.

51 notes - Posted April 17, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

Seems like everyone outside of Tumblr is excited about That 90s Show but everyone on Tumblr hates even the idea of it. Why is that?

I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I think others might feel similarly. Season 8 of That '70s Show caused a lot of pain for those of us who care about fidelity to the show's characters and their previous seven years of development. Season 8's depiction of the characters veered so far from S1-S7's depiction as to make the characters unrecognizable. The disrespect of Jackie from beginning to end is particularly egregious.

Similarly, the premise of That '90s Show makes little to no in-character sense. Eric and Donna having a child that old in the mid-nineties breaks the fictional dream. Jackie and Kelso being married, divorced, and getting remarried makes no sense either, considering who those characters are and their growth arcs during season 1-7 of That '70s Show (minus the cliffhanger that was hastily written to accommodate the newly greenlit season 8. In the originally-written series finale, Hyde supposedly goes to the motel and proposes to Jackie).

That '90s Show is clearly -- in the words David Trainer (T7S's series director) used to describe season 8 of T7S -- an alternate universe, one of many possible futures for the characters. It's not the canon future, which would've seen Jackie and Hyde married, Eric and Donna having a much younger child, and Kelso raising teenage Betsy (and six other daughters, lol) with Brooke.

In social media spaces outside of Tumblr, the That '70s Show message board at fanforum.com, Fanfiction.net, AO3, and parts of twitter, fans appear to have a more casual attitude toward That '70s Show and TV shows in general. Fidelity to characters and their storylines isn't as important as the laugh and seeing beloved characters onscreen again, despite that those characters don't internally resemble those they actually enjoyed watching on T7S. The characters have the same names and faces, are interacting on the same set, and those external factors are enough for a lot of people.

Red and Kitty might be the only canon (or canon-adjacent) part of T9S. But with the rest of the characters' lives being so off-model (a term used in animation to describe when a character isn't drawn properly [e.g., Bart Simpson's hair having twelve spikes instead of the standard nine]), I can't view this show as anything but an AU fanfiction onscreen.

T7S was an important show to me when it originally aired. Season 8 was horrible to experience. I lurked on fanforum.com's T7S spoiler board to learn if Jackie and Hyde would eventually reconcile. I learned there about the letter-writing campaign asking the producers to put Jackie and Hyde back together by the end of the series. Hundreds of letters were put into a packet a fan brought to a S8 taping. She was told by a producer that Jackie and Hyde were definitively over.

Unlike The Office, whose actors and writers paid great attention to its online fanbase and altered course when the show’s most ardent supporters said, “This storyline is on the verge of destroying X,” T7S’s writers and producers never tuned into what the show’s most ardent fans actually cared about and came back week-after-week to watch. They went by the typical TV series playbook: celebrity guest stars, setup-punchline.

With Eric’s absence, season 8 should have focused on Jackie and Hyde’s relationship, the show’s biggest draw after Eric. The online fandom during the show’s original airing was massively focused on J/H. People who went to the S8 tapings were, too. They booed whenever Samantha’s character came onstage, and they were told to stop on threat of being kicked out.

Once I learned that J/H weren’t going to reconcile, that's when I quit watching T7S. I watched the series finale because I'd learned from the spoilers board that Eric and Donna would reunite. That was some consolation. Then I didn't watch the show for three years because of the S8 showrunners' utter disrespect, misunderstanding, and mishandling of characters. For me, T7S show ends when Hyde says, "No, I've decided [to marry Jackie]," to Eric. This is the last vestige of the show's original ending.

T7S and T9S's higher-ups (save Debra Jo Rupp and Kurtwood Smith) don’t care about fidelity to character. They care about money and the number of viewers (which equals money). This became clear toward the end of S5 of T7S, but it wasn't all-or-nothing (until S8). With T9S, it is. Jackie and Kelso’s romantic pairing is the epitome of this. It makes no character sense, but it makes financial sense because their portrayers got married. Buzz! Media hype! But actors ≠ the roles they play.

I'm sure plenty of people will enjoy That ‘90s Show. Red/Kitty fans and Eric/Donna fans will get to see their favorite couples together again and know that they are still together fifteen years after the time of T7S. Many of us on tumblr (and elsewhere), though, are yet again being deprived of Jackie and Hyde’s happy future. Season 8 destroyed it once. That ‘90s Show had the opportunity to repair the damage (to both the fans and the characters). Hyde never had to be seen. Jackie and other characters could’ve simply talked about him.

Unfortunately, putting Jackie and Hyde together again probably would’ve brought negative media attention because of real-life circumstances. Putting Jackie and Kelso together brings mostly positive media attention, makes casual fans happy / gives them a laugh, and hurts “only” a contingent of the show’s most passionate fans.

It’s a smart, real-world move based on real-world considerations. It’s also one that does not depict the actual future of canon!Jackie and canon!Hyde. Season 8 of T7S didn’t depict that, either. And so their real (fictional) future is, as ever, left up to their fans to write.

If Jackie and Hyde had been put back together in T9S, however, and written to have -- say -- a fourteen-year-old kid, I’d probably give the show a chance. Even though J/H having a kid that old in the mid-nineties is totally OOC and ridiculous, as least my OTP of OTPs would be together onscreen (in some fashion) and “official” (even if the details of it aren’t quite canon).

I think the above is one reason why many people are excited about T9S and can ignore its 99.99% OOC foundation (i.e. Eric and Donna having a fifteen-year-old kid in 1995): their favorite couples are together and will be seen onscreen again (Kitty/Red, Eric/Donna, Jackie/Kelso). Another reason is a lot of people simply don’t care about character/story consistency or in-universe cohesion.

62 notes - Posted June 10, 2022

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[paragonrobits]

some of my thoughts when I've approached vague team-creation ideas that have stalled because i genuinely dont know how to approach them:

"My main team of characters is fairly well established, plus or minus some additions I'm considering for specific sub-continuities or scenarios to play around in. I should create other teams for them to interact with! Not enemies or even serious rivals, just a few different teams to be friendly characters that sometimes work together with JOLLY COOPERATION, sometimes fight them in tournaments or raid bosses but mostly are good-natured friends."

"They compete against each other, and no matter who wins, they then have barbecue on the beach."

"okay but my main squad are characterized as being cheesy, gleefully weird and dirty turbo-gremlins who gather similar weirdos to them. So what should the other groups be? Okay I might draw inspiration from high fantasy stuff; if my main character are Warcraft Horde, these guys are Warcraft Alliance. So what does that look like?"

"...SHOOT. I don't actually know the vibe for that; all my ideas just feel kind of generic. I guess I could take standard fantasy concepts but make the dwarves echidna-snakes and the elves hive-mind colonies of beetles but I dont know how to do the whole thing on a bigger scale."

"Okay. I could make these teams based more on what OTHER people find appealing, not just me. But I don't know where to go with that, either! Just asking my dashboard what they like hasn't yielded the kind of results I'm hoping for and there isn't really a resource for finding the most popular general ideas or concepts, so far as I know."

"What do people LIKE? People who aren't me, I mean. They like... romance, I guess? Stylish characters? Dogs? Should I... make a team focused on stylish characters with an emphasis on speed and technique instead of the brute force MONSTER MODE ENGAGED of my main characters??"

"...Will people like it if, I dunno, i make a bunch of characters with cool concepts like 'vampire ghost pirate lady' or 'uplifted dog operating a suit of giant armor and is also a knight', and one of them is a talking non-anthropomorphic bear? maybe more pirates for the romantic vibe but also implying they're a sea based civilization."

"Hrm. Based on my experiences people really like vampires so maybe I could do something with a civilization that is akin to an enlightened high fantasy civilization of nobility and honor but its visuals are gothic honor and its populated by Creature of the Black Lagoon fishmen, bio-punk Frankenstein things, and vampires. a LOT of vampires that are very pretty."

[artesianalglassposting]

Spoken Word About Community and Anti Establishment

You are praised for your individuality. They pride you upon resourcefulness.

Great work today! Maybe if you work a little bit harder you’ll get that elusive holiday bonus?

Picture the life

Clock’s off. Time to go home.

Traffic is long, you’re too tired to make dinner.

Its alright there is a heralding force in the night

Mcdonalds, arbies, taco bell, wendys, panda express, jack in the box, in n out, whataburger, carls jr, hardees, sonic, dairy queen, chick fil a, kfc, raising kanes, zaxbys, el. Pollo. Loco

anymore?(audience participation)

Is open! Every building the same, welcome to the modern age, part for the logo upfront.

The walls are grey

The seats are gray

The road you took to get here is grey

The cars are gray

You. you are gray.

Live minimalist they say.

On the way home you see a flier for a show, you work late that night and really

You’d be too tired to go anyways

The radios on or maybe you listen to a podcast

The news runs on your television

It's those immigrants, those lgbts, its this or that, them or us

They are tearing down america! Stealing our jobs!

Or maybe you need a different approach

The job market is crashing, housing market is crumbling

Better watch it or you'll be crushed by the petro dollar when it falls

FEAR

FEAR FEAR

Another episode?

You can't get a date? It's the group of your interest that's the issue, they have evil dna.

Newest trend is out and you're the odd one out

Wanna fix your problems? Skincare is the answer

BUY

BUY

BUY

they tell you the solution! It's BUY and it's OUTRAGE! They tell you it's vote or death!

WHO IS THEY?!?!?

The ever infamous they?

Oh well that's my dad's band from the early 2000s

Oh it's break time! Fifteen minutes mandated

Watch some TikTok

CONSUME CONSUME CONSUME

dream of days of old

When you weren't weighed by how you value in gold

There are people who could help

They tell you they know the way

They love you

They want to help

Follow them

Be one of them

Live them

Love them

Know only their way

Awwww cat video

Times up!

One last vid…

Acab why don't we overthrow the government??

You dont have time to protest.

You have a job

to pay for your bills

and your loans

and for everything they scream to buy buy buy buy. You work to live.

No they say, live to work!!

You are so tired of them. So tired of gray. And you're too late to ever see a show by the infamous they.

How could you overthrow this system?

What time does anyone have for interacting with others?

Other people are horrible they tell you! Look at this karen! Other people are trying to take what you love. Other people are toxic manipulators. Other people could never love you and you them. Their clothes are cringe, their face is imperfect. They are not like you. They are different. You need to be different. You need to be like us. You need to be perfect. You need to be perfectly imperfect. You. you. You.

You think,,, that humans have never lived like this pre the industrial revolution. You miss your friends, your family. The music on the radio sucks.

Oh hey,, it's that 80s song you like.

Oh kurt cobain, sonic youth, and my favorite non political band rage against the machine were really in it now,,,,,

Stop stop

Stop stop stop. A sublime t shirt in a mall window. Lovings what i got? The only joy in your sadsack life was the barista giving you a medium when you only had enough for a small. Or was it the picture of the sunrise you took before getting into your car.

The song you liked on the radio.

The message from your friend saying they miss you. A facebook meme from your mom.

You think of these things and cannot stop.

She still uses the mug you made her in 7th grade. An old highschool acquaintance liked your status, one of the girls in the store complimented your outfit. You are here, you are present.

You in this moment and all of these people are connected.

You buy a trinket for your friend and make a reminder to have lunch with your mom.

Tiny joys you say. What else is there to cling to? Your highschool acquaintance posts a link to a crafting event at your public library.

You can't craft,

you go anyway.

You are tired of listening to they.

You are not like them and you find love in the difference.

You are like all these people and they are like you. Human.

The world is still hard and you are still tired but you have taken off your tinted sunglasses. Mcdonalds is still gray. The streets are still gray. But the sky? That's blue. Your friend's hair? Pink. the crochet pillows at your moms are orange, the baristas nails are purple, the guitarist at the diy shows pick is yellow, the pin you made at the library iis green.

[snekdood]

I really appreciate your perspective and I'm happy you were able to dig out out of the alt right pipeline with some help (i think it will always take some help since if you're completely blind to being progressive you're gonna need some sort of guide to help you)

the problem is definitely empathy. I understand why people dont want to have empathy for some of maybe the shittiest ppl you'd never want to get to know personally, but at the end of the day- it's that lack of empathy and attempting to understand that keeps people trapped in those alt right places. if no ones willing to educate you and theres only one place you're welcome with open arms, it can't be a surprise then when people stubbornly stay in that place and never change, even if they're worse off for it. because, where else is there to go?

The concerns of working class republicans- while a lot of it is conspiracy theory bs, it does usually boil down to our general feeling of anti establishment for most ppl on the left and right, it's just unfortunately before the left could get there and help explain why the world is the way it is and why you feel the way you do, right wingers are much more quick to swoop down and give you their weird conspiracy theories as if they're proselytizing christianity (which they often do too)

this is why i think part of education about antisemitism NEEDS to include conspiracy theories and dog whistles- if i'd've known about that, the origins of those things and how they're used essentially as propaganda, I probably would've known what I was looking at when I was trying to be a new ager when I was 14. antisemitism is so subtle and insidious and it infects so much of our lives and I think I would've benefited from being taught that in school before I ever interacted with any new age shit. thats what I dont think a lot of conservatives get about "CRT" or whatever to begin with- it's not about Blaming Your Poor Poor White Baby, it's about teaching your kid to have empathy and understanding for someone who they just don't have the same experiences as. that's all teaching people about people's oppression is about, empathy.

but anyways- kinda back calling back to that other persons point about our education system on this post (different rb chain), the issue is we dont teach kids how to have empathy and understanding and good communication skills now, and nowadays online people feel like they have to be very black and white and polarized from eachother so if you're not being taught to understand, communicate your ideas and defend them (without getting too defensive), you instead just set up these little camps of "the good people i agree with" and "the stinky people i disagree with" and instead of seeing potential people to build a bridge with and bring over and maybe have them actually come to understand your perspective, you divide people up into enemies to block out and never interact with or try to bring over or friends that are already in the in group who can never do wrong, which I think is antithetical to the whole point of political activism- like... dont you want to at least try to get your ideas to win people over???

it's not about just figuring out who your friends are, yes you need that social safety net, but you also need to be able to reach other people (that you dont have to befriend...) who might be more partial to your ideas than you realize, they've just never been given the grace to change and grow and understand. it can be very difficult coming from a fucked up rw family and trying to grow out of that and not become like those ppl in it and I don't think people really understand the weight of that sometimes, especially when you want to be a good person and change and grow and everyone assumes you're just stunted where you are and never tries with you.

And then the right comes in and swoops in where no one else would and "teaches you how the world is" (in their weird twisted fuckin minds' way). So yeah, I am kinda a firm believer of trying to get there before the right does, and in a lot of cases that starts in school which is why the right targets the education system so much, bc ig god forbid kids have a bit of empathy and actually learn the ENTIRE history of our world, the good the bad and the ugly and not just the parts where settler ass white ppl pat themselves on the back for thinking they're so great.

There are genuinely people online that instead of actually bringing people to the left, at this point, would prefer that anyone who was previously not on the left but who tries to be *stays* outside of the left, because i guess its just easier to comprehend when the world is put into little shitty boxes you labeled for them instead of actually thinking for once and having the nuance to understand them. Like thats wild to me that theres people who would prefer you not be on the left or not try to be. Yall GENUINELY do not care about advocating for your side politically in any capacity. Its LITERALLY just a clique you’ve found yourself in. And theres nothing progressive about that or being exclusive, wtf do you think this shit is, a night club? Grow the fuck up, honestly.