#and bend around that disruption without either breaking down or rolling right over the disabled people who Cause Problems

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

having a lot of thoughts about how people use 'normalize' when they mean 'destigmatize' or 'make the nature of into common knowledge,' and how they conflate 'the perception of this thing as normal' with the thing actually being a normal occurrence, and how it is in fact incredibly harmful to try to convince people that an ideal situation is normal when that does not map onto their lived reality or the dangers they need to be aware of to avoid. it is 3:33am though so writing up an actual poast about it will have to wait for later

[butterflyinthewell]

More Goji headcanon stuff because I feel like it.

Heisei era, obviously.

Temper tantrums. 

Godzilla has them. 

It’s kind of a product of his cognitive disability. Emotional restraint isn’t his strong suit at all. He tends to throw tantrums when he can’t figure something out or something is preventing him from accomplishing a goal. It’s less out of anger and more a loss of emotional control when he gets “stuck” mentally.

His tantrums aren’t meltdowns because they aren’t due to sensory things, and they tend to stop once the issue he’s upset about is fixed or somebody shows they understand what he’s trying to communicate to them.

They happen less because Shezilla can talk him through it. Sometimes it’s as simple as “I stepped on a rock that hurt!” and sometimes it’s as complex as “I had a dream about falling, and it was so real that I woke up scared. What if I step in a hole I can’t see?”

Godzilla’s temper tantrums are destructive to cities. It’s easy to provoke them, and humans often do so by accident. He walks onshore yelling that he’s upset and they shoot at him because they don’t speak Old Tongue. Boom, there he goes trashing everything he sees.

Sometimes the only thing Shezilla can do is let the worst of it blow over and then talk to him. She intervenes if she thinks he’s walking into danger by getting in his path. She maintains a mostly calm demeanor. She doesn’t take Godzilla’s tantrum behavior personally. He never, ever, EVER says anything mean to her while he’s losing his cool. He shouts how he feels instead. “I’m upset! I’m sad! I’m tired! I miss home!” or sometimes, “I don’t know how I feel right now and it’s making me upset!”

Shezilla has her moments of anguish, too, but compared to Godzilla she seems so much calmer and quieter. She has led him out of cities by the hand while he roars and stomps and thrashes his tail. There’s never a moment where she looks at him like he’s a child or less than her equal. She never tells him that his tantrums are ridiculous or an overreaction. She understands that he gets stuck sometimes, and a change of scenery helps him get unstuck.

Sometimes she has to smack him upside the head to get him to look at her and listen. It’s not intended to hurt or punish him, and it’s never done hard enough to cause pain. It disrupts the loop he’s stuck in long enough to be reasoned with. She doesn’t do that unless he’s too far into tantrum mode to get himself back out. She’ll do it and tell him, “Hey! You’re stuck. I know, love! Let’s go somewhere quiet and handle it. Come on, walk with me.”

The JSDF kinda figured this out. They stop shooting once Godzilla starts following Shezilla. She’ll lead him around buildings instead of through them, but houses and cars are going to get trampled. 

Filia's temper tantrums are different. She’s a baby, so she doesn’t have the experience to control her temper too well and she hates not getting her way. She throws herself on the ground, rolls around dramatically and keens at pitches known to break glass. 

Godzilla and Shezilla don’t get mad at Filia for her tantrums, but they don’t reinforce them either. Shezilla will tell her she’s going to give her time to calm down and sort of turn away without leaving her wholly alone. Then, when Filia is calmer, Shezilla bends down and gives her kisses and explains why she isn’t letting her do that thing she wants to do right this minute. “You can’t go swimming because it’s night time and that’s when you’re supposed to sleep. You can go swimming in the morning, okay?”

Godzilla is kinda funny about Filia’s temper tantrums. He gets on the ground next to her and says the kaiju equivalent of “Oh, I know, you reaaaaally want to swim right now, but you have to go to sleep instead! It’s awful! I hated it when my parents made me do it too! But guess what? It’s more fun to swim in the morning when the water is all sparkly!” Then he picks her up while she’s still screaming her head off and pretty much hugs the rage out of her.

If Godzilla and Shezilla are together while Filia is in full on rage mode, they sometimes look at each other, drop to the ground in unison and start yelling too. It’s so dang funny that Filia forgets about being mad and cracks up laughing instead.

They both understand that she’s young and tantrums happen, so they don’t punish her for them unless she bites or scratches them. Then it’s less about the tantrum and more about “hey, don’t bite and scratch people! Let’s talk about this.”

And when Filia sees Godzilla have one of his own tantrums, she remembers how kind and loving he is to her when she has hers, so she’s real sweet towards him during his. She’ll repeat his “Oh, I know, it’s so hard when this happens!” line to him and then she runs to get Shezilla for help because that’s what both her parents taught her to do.

When Shezilla gets mad, she’ll walk away and kick rocks for awhile, or take a long, deep swim as fast as she can until the anger goes away. Sometimes she hunts for sharks or whales because hunting is a productive way to vent her anger. She comes back and talks about what upset her when she’s calm.

Basically, nobody in the Godzilla family minimizes anybody’s feelings.

[thecottageinthedark]

#whosebaby talks#this post brought to you by 'spreading awareness of what an abusive relationship is and looks like compared to a nonabusive relationship'#'is fantastic and i support it fully and think it's deeply important. giving people the false idea that abusive relationships are uncommon'#'and are flukes that go against the grain of society functioning as it normally does; is insanely dangerous to people who are potential#targets; and incredibly alienating and isolating and cruel to people who have already been targets'#'in uniquely awful ways depending on whether they're already aware of that or aren't. don't fucking do that'#it applies much more broadly than that; but it's an instance i think about A Lot and it's what led me to this line of thought to start with#there's also 'normal does not mean good and saying so has incredibly unbelievably harmful implications keep that shit out of your mouth'#but that is so obvious it boggles my mind that it has to be explained to anyone on this site; and it is talked about often enough#that i would rather focus on the parts i don't really see talked about much; if at all#also like the fact that 'statistically average' normal vs 'things are functioning as they usually do' is a critically important distinction#they are closely related and interplay heavily with each other but they are Not the Same Thing#and how 'normal' can refer to different layers and aspects of a subject--people with rare health conditions are not statistically average#and that by itself is fine. and those people having conditions that are disruptive to the usual functioning of a space or system#is avoidable in some cases by establishing as much infrastructure as possible to integrate their more common needs smoothly#and unavoidable in others; which means the normal functioning of a system/space that accommodates people with unexpected needs#has to account *for its normal functioning being disrupted sometimes*#and bend around that disruption without either breaking down or rolling right over the disabled people who Cause Problems#and at the same time 'rare health condition' gets applied to health conditions that are not rare *at all* to not only justify not bothering#to make the system integrate their needs in general when it could do so easily; but make it so that accommodating their needs anyway puts#immense and unnecessary strain on the system; so there is zero margin for anything you didn't specifically fight tooth and nail for already#anyway it's a really extensive subject and a fascinating one. for later. sleep now#abuse cw#ableism cw#the salt files#is there a name for that tag

having a lot of thoughts about how people use 'normalize' when they mean 'destigmatize' or 'make the nature of into common knowledge,' and how they conflate 'the perception of this thing as normal' with the thing actually being a normal occurrence, and how it is in fact incredibly harmful to try to convince people that an ideal situation is normal when that does not map onto their lived reality or the dangers they need to be aware of to avoid. it is 3:33am though so writing up an actual poast about it will have to wait for later