#am I a comphet bisexual

[dramaticsigh]

Am I bisexual??? Am I pansexual??? Am I a lesbian??? Can someone else just pick for me at this point because certainly I can’t

[angieblogging]

the bi to lesbian pipeline is crazy and i am still uncertain if i am a lesbian.

i feel like i am so terrified to admit that i don’t like men and that’s the issue, saying it out loud will make it more real and im afraid i might be wrong.

i changed my mind so many times and can’t tell if it’s the comphet fucking with me and im in deep denial or the opposite.

[dappy-dappernette]

Hetalia fandom stop being weird about Bi-Headcanons: Impossible.

[bunnyy-123]

I think I might be a lesbian

I can’t figure out if it’s Comphet or actual attraction

Lesbians of tumblr how did you realize it was Comphet?

[jjsanguine]

This bath scene...? And either of these people went on to get engaged to a man after this?

[justahuman4810]

How do you know if you're attracted to men?

[marchioness-of-the-flowers]

fandom when the character they headcanon as bisexual is attracted to someone of the opposite gender.

[faggotinni]

puter, how do I know if I like men or if I am afraid of them and just crave male validation? quickest route, no comphet explanations

puter, do you hear me?

[ghostisventing]

Ok this is gonna be a long post

I genuinely think I might be a lesbian. I’ve always questioned it on and off occasionally but I never really thought about it because I was confident I was bisexual. For the past few days, I’ve seriously considered it. Idk why. It seems so sudden.

It scares me. And disappoints me. I had to defend my bisexuality for years and it feels like I’m “picking a side” and betraying everyone ):

But I’m also scared because what if I’m wrong and I’m actually bi and this whole thing was for nothing? What if I feel uncomfortable when guys like me back because they were older? What if I liked unavailable men because I have a shitty taste in men? What if I like a guy again in the future? What if the reason being married to a man sounds horrible is because of patriarchal expectations? What if this is just trauma?

But also, I relate to a lot of lesbians. I used to pick boys to like. For fuck sake I even did that freshman year of college (I’m 19). I don’t think I could ever be happy with a man. The idea of dating and having sex with a man disgusts me. Most of my “crushes” on men have been about wanting male validation and attention. I feel anxious flirting with men. Before I considered being a lesbian, I wished I was one. I resented liking men and I was miserable every time I had a “crush” on a man but I thought it was normal.

When I identified as bisexual, I always preferred women. I didn’t really like the idea of getting a boyfriend. I remember being asked constantly in middle school if I had a crush on a boy and I never liked any guy at my school. My friends were always shocked by this. My mom still asks if I want a boyfriend and I always say no.

But I like the idea of dating a woman and sleeping with a woman and getting married to a woman. I *want* to date women. If I was with a woman, I wouldn’t care about never being with a man. I mean I spent my whole life without a boyfriend, so it wouldn’t matter anyways. But if I was with a man? I would be disappointed. I would want to be with a woman. I never resented having crushes on women. I’m never uncomfortable with flirting with women. It feels more natural. I find women to be so much more attractive than men.

But what if I’m wrong and I do like men?

[swordcorp]

junior got me on that early 2000s emo shit. release me. let me go back to bein a lameass hyperpop fan. \></

[elftism]

do u ever just look at a fandom and wonder if any of its members know how to read

[justahuman4810]

How do I know if I am a lesbian or bi. IT'S JUST SO HARD!!

I'm in a situationship with a boy and I like in when we hang out, but when we don't, I just think about having a relationship with a woman (sometimes when we are hanging out I think about it too, but it's really rare)

COULD SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE?!?! 😭😭😭

[real-total-drama-takes]

https://www.tumblr.com/real-total-drama-takes/730483220086390784/whoever-said-owen-is-canonically-bi-plsss-be?source=share

maybe its just me but i think him literally fawning over another man seems to be more than just an implication wouldnt know tho

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[kaeyapilled]

. (tw heterosexuality)

[queerosemary]

it's funny bc i'm here questioning about if i'm a lesbian or bisexual and my username it's a mix of queer and rosemary which is the smell of the shampoo of the main character's girlfriend from beautiful creatures lol Lena look what you made me do...

[ghostisventing]

Personal

Reasons why I could be a lesbian:

-I picked boys to like

-straight sex seems icky

-most men are not attractive

-being married to a man sounds horrible

-flirting with men feels unnatural

-my standards for men are ridiculously high

-I never liked boys irl in high school

-the only guy I did like, I would feel gross if he liked me back. (But then again I was 16 and he was 21. It’s an uncomfortable age gap)

-the idea of men seems better than the reality

-men make me uncomfortable

-I can’t imagine a future with a man

-in the past, I’ve wanted to be a lesbian

-most s3xual fantasies of men are vague and were about what I could tolerate, not what I actually wanted

-I have always preferred women

Reasons why I doubt it:

-I like male validation.

-I want men to like me

-I feel like I have to date a guy just to make sure

-what if I only like unattainable men because I have bad taste?

-what if I’m uncomfortable because of trauma and misogynistic expectations?

-and again, the guy I liked when I was 16, I was obsessed with

-what if I fall in love with a man in the future?

-would I even date a man??? Do I want to????

-I’m also kinda curious about it