#also you're correct. those were all me 💛 i was there as each and every one

[digirainebow]

just so you know. I'm happy to know that maybe one of those stars I see in the sky is you. btw. that little kitten I see under the bushes on the way to a shop. that raven that stared fully and wholeheartedly at me when I caught eyes with it on a walk. that one shade of pastel I see once in a company logo.

i'm going to cry so hard right now. how do i know such caring and kind people who will just wax poetic about me in my askbox on tumblr. i am really very lucky.

[nalyra-dreaming]

Hi! Me again, I'm loving your blog, I hope you don't mind the spam (tell me if you do no worries).

As someone that hasn't read the books (maybe maybe I will, I downloaded the first book) I'm having a great time here!

I'm wondering about covens, basically anything the books give about them, are there a lot of them, do the books go more into everyday(night) life or practicalities, what makes a vampire a rogue one, are all fledglins destroyed that weren't made with coven(master) approval, what is the correct way to make new vamps (aside from not letting powerful vamps make new ones), how to the T are the laws followed (I loved that post comparing the different versions of the laws from different books)

I'm not demanding a reply here, I'm just very sleepy and my brain's a bit mush from too much phone 😅😅 I'm wishing you a lovely day!! 💛💛

Hey!

(You're not spamming, no worries :))

Soooo... this is a bit difficult to answer, because it's an ever-shifting thing in the books, the covens.

Like, for example the Children of Satan/Darkness. An early christian cult, with strict rules (the ones you read) that were ruthlessly enforced.

But they were not the default structure, they were actually a cult.

The covens... build and then fall apart through the need of these vampires for companionship, and their inability to uphold the relationship through the ages.

They shift with the ages (if they are not cults), and a lot of those who endure (thinking Rhoshamandes here, for example) do so because they lean more towards families (I'd say, in the grand scheme of things).

There... is no "correct" way, not even for making another one. Or honing ones gifts. They all just go on and learn through the ages, sometimes from each other.

Because there are no great answers, no important lessons, not even after we (they) get the backstory. Most vampires end up killing themselves, though of course there's fights to the death also. But loneliness and time are the big enemies, ultimately.

As per what makes a vampire a "rogue" one?

That is probably up to interpretation of the ... more powerful one.

Eudoxia, in Constantinople mentioning that rogues must be driven away. Armand employing the rules he learnt over centuries even in modern times. Lestat carefully building the reputation at least that he destroys every vampire who enters NOLA (mentioned in Blackwood Farm). For example.

It's not written in stone, because there is no... "leader". For a long time at least:), not after Akasha goes silent.

Exactly that point changes over the last books though, and that is when rules are established for all of them - which in turn does not sit well with all of them (a case of "what gave you the authority", literally).

As in "our" world the rules are set by those in power. And the powerful enforce them - if they so choose.

[seraphic-sapphic-safehaven]

so, something kind of shitty happened today. i'm a bisexual butch and i came out as that to my mom today. she wanted to understand my identity so i explained bisexuality to her (she's still kind of ignorant about those things, the type of straight person who thinks being bi means you want a threesome or something) and butchness. i also explained what femme is. and she seemed to understand what they meant, and i thought she was accepting it well but then she said

(pt 2)but then she said "if only you were femme, not that other one [she meant butch], maybe i would accept this better" (accept her daughter not being straight) and it kind of. hurt. because it was like she was saying i was being a woman "wrong". idk what to do, she seems disappointed in me

I'm so sorry, bean 😟 You didn't deserve that, especially not from your mom. But look... if she's disappointed in you, if she can't accept you, that's HER problem, not yours. It sounds like what she's doing is trying to guilt you and make you feel like this is YOUR fault when it absolutely is not. This is 1000000000% on her. You're her child; she should accept you and love you unconditionally.

There's nothing wrong with being bi; you literally have no control over that anyway. And there's nothing bad about being butch either. There is no "correct" way to be a woman, and being butch doesn't mean you're not a woman or any less of one either. Butchness goes beyond just... looking/dressing masculine, and even if it did just mean that, that doesn't mean you just stop being a woman because you dress differently!!

So... what I would do is maybe wait a day or two and then tell her all of that. Tell her how awful she made you feel and that there's nothing wrong with who you are, that you're not any less of a woman, etc. And tell her that she should love you no matter what because, well, she should!! You're her child, and you deserve for your mother to love you for who you are, no exceptions. And then I would tell her that you're gonna give some more time to sit with it, think about what you said, etc. and that you really hope she'll change her mind.

If she still isn't accepting of you after that, you can try talking to her again, maybe have a longer/more in-depth conversation. And if that doesn't work... you're probably both just gonna have to learn how to deal with it all (meaning her lack of acceptance and your being a bi butch), even though that's not fair to you :L Or you could consider moving out (on your own or with a friend/other family members) if you're old enough and able to, but still, that's not fair to you and it'd be a bit ridiculous for her to let it go that far anyways.

I'm really sorry... I don't have great advice for this; it's difficult to deal with parents who won't accept their children for stuff like this. But please know that it won't always be this way. You won't always be around people who don't accept or understand you. You won't always feel bad for being who you are. There are plenty of people out there who won't question or judge your identity, who will treat you with the respect you deserve, and who will love you and accept you no matter what! Like me!! I'm here for you if you ever wanna vent again, need advice, or whatever else you need. You can send as many asks and DMs as you want! I love and care about each and every follower of mine, so that includes you! So if your mom doesn't wanna act like a mom, then I will for her; I'm your mom now, nonnie, and I'm always here for you 😊💖

Please don't hesitate to message me again, okay? And good luck! I'm sending all the good vibes and love your way 💛