#also major lovebombing

[wings-of-fire-confessions]

I personally think the wof mental health rep is a lot better than it seems at first glance.

I should say upfront that I'm not a professional, though one of my biggest interests is psychology and majority of the conditions I talk in this post I either have or have traits of (and I'll clarify which I don't).

Whiteout is the only canonical neurodivergent character as far as I know, having associative synesthesia, but many headcanoning her to be autistic. I haven't read the books in a long while, but from what I remember I can agree, though I'm not autistic (despite meeting criteria... long story) so I won't for sure say if I think her traits are enough for a diagnosis or not (again, haven't read the books recently), but everyone seems to think they are so I'll agree.

Hawthorn has psychotic symptoms, which I think is important to represent since people with psychosis (whether that be from being on the schizophrenia spectrum or some other reason) are very often put in a bad light. Hawthorn is too, to an extent, but that's more so due to the Breath of Evil and not due to his psychotic symptoms, or from what I can remember, at least. I don't think Hawthorn has a mental disorder like schizophrenia since symptoms of psychosis can be caused by isolation (I'm not actually 100% sure if this is true, this is just something my psychologist told me), but I think the representation is still important either way. I relate to him a lot due to his symptoms.

Darkstalker very clearly shows symptoms of NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), I don't think you can even argue that (sorry, narcissism anon from a month or so ago). I myself fit the criteria for NPD, and I definitely see myself in him. I doubt he can be diagnosed since he is still a child, but his symptoms might be extreme enough to warrant one, I'm not sure (coming from a minor who's doctors referred them for a personality disorder screening themself). Of the nine (9) criteria for NPD, just off memory he fit basically all of them. I won't go into all of it but I will definitely mention his splitting, seeing how he goes from loving Clearsight to thinking he can kill her if she doesn't meet his expectations. He also has the aspect of how it develops too, that being trauma (I recall Arctic being abusive to him which is definitely enough to warrant trauma), and being spoiled as a child (this could be my brain making things up but I swear this happened, or at least he was overly praised or something). So yeah, fairly sure he would have been diagnosed with NPD if he didn't eat the strawberry.

Moonwatcher seems to have social and separation anxiety. I like this, since I am diagnosed with both and they are both very difficult to live with, and I like seeing another character having it that I can relate to in that way. She also has symptoms of AVPD (just from what I remember), but she's only like... twelve (12) so there's no way she could be diagnosed.

Anemone, while not having any mental disorders specifically, still had a rough mental health journey so I think it's important to bring up. She grew up with her mother, Queen Coral, who was a complete helicopter parent, and likely never met her Father, King Gill. She was praised and adorned all her life, so it makes sense that when she was eventually separated from Coral, she acted out what she thought she deserved. While I think Darkstalker has NPD, I can't say the same for Anemone, since she was so young and it's normal for young children to have narcissistic traits. When she met Darkstalker, they clicked well due to both being animi and having... less than positive thoughts on the dragons around them. Darkstalker ended up lovebombing her, and telling her to leave when she got mad at Moon. She lashed out at Turtle afterwards, before they reconciled later. I thought this would be important to mention.

Peril likely has a few personality disorders as well, the most likely ones in my opinion being BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and DPD (Dependent Personality Disorder), which isn't surprising given her situation. She likely has tons of trauma so it's only natural for her to develop a traumagenic disorder. I say those in particular because of her rapidly changing thoughts and emotions and her over attachment to Clay, which I can definitely relate to given how I act with my DP (Dependent Person). I don't have BPD though I show traits (not sure if enough for a diagnosis or not) and I remember Peril showing traits too.

There's also a lot of dragons that probably have PTSD in some way, Fathom, Peril, and Jerboa III being the first ones that come to mind specifically.

I seriously think this is an important topic and I might make a video on it at some point. Like I said, I love psychology and I think it's interesting how it impacts characters from my favourite book series.

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[nocturnowlette]

Aren't you worried about forming a cult of personality?

Group hypnotherapy, mediated especially by a single individual, seems to encourage that kinda parasocial following.

Mix that with personalised sessions with multiple people, possibly seen as lovebombing. Elevating your audience to the idea that they're a mutual, when they're not even close to your personal life.

Why not just point to a larger, more professional hypnotherapy server? Such could guide the individual to somebody that may be better equipped for them personally, and constructive yet critical peers for yourself and other hypnotists.

It could offer other methods (including non-hypnotherapy ) that could guide individuals to heal faster.

Imo, it's a lot healthier when attention is spread out mutually, and treatment exposure is not at the whim of a subjective personality.

And if just a group, not primarily about hypnosis and more about your explorations of it, then you should post that kinda stuff to your channel instead so the video can receive feedback from hypnotherapists, and it'll be able to be seen by everybody, not just the people in your server, and you can just do puppy stuff there. As long as it's all safe and doesn't form unhealthy bonds that prioritise escapism over wellbeing.

You seem confused on what this server is.

Firstly, it's not hypnotherapy at all; it's a recreational hypnosis server. I, in fact, actively discourage anyone who is not a professional therapist (let alone hypnotherapist) from attempting to serve that role to someone else. Many hypnotists who just start out see conditioning as a hammer and every emotional problem as a nail, and I shut that down immediately.

You also seem to heavily overestimate my role as the server leader. If we were to quantify activity of hypnotists in the server, I likely would not even be in the top 5. I've largely lost my interest in regular hypnosis sessions for the last few months and serve mostly as the teacher and guide, as well as just the administrative server owner.

This server is not even about hypnosis so much as it is a community server that has hypnosis as a binding topic. If I were to give a topical split of how much it's talked about versus everything else, I'd say that it composes less than 10% of all discussion in the server. Therian/puppy stuff takes up slightly more than that, maybe 20 to 25%, then the rest of the server is nerds talking about their interests and having fun.

Any emotional progress made in the server is consequential and due to the place letting people feel safe to be themselves. Such a thing does seem to help folks quite a lot, but no active therapy is being done, and we encourage folks to actually seek therapy among other things.

My role as the server owner is largely due to necessity. I've always found myself at a lack of communities that actually suit me, so I've always had to make them myself. I quite dislike being the leader and much like with hypnosis, I actually prefer being on the lack-of-power end and not the super-in-power one. I'm a subject far more than a hypnotist.

I'm selective about who joins because every single server member to have caused issues and then left joined the first day of the server before there was a member cutoff. This place simply won't work for the majority of people, and the people who are let in are ones that would benefit from it.

On to the other topic, I trust therapists who know some hypnosis, not hypnotherapists. Hypnotherapy has been infected by quacks who know next to nothing and is, by almost every measure, a community destroyed by scientific mysticism. It is maybe the worst representation of hypnosis in our world and at best is hardly helpful, while at worst is actively destructive.

Every hypnotherapist I've met has been woefully knowledge-less on the actual functions of hypnosis and how it works, and seems to only know how to do the specific things they're taught. It's the difference between memorization and understanding. They were chewed up and spit out by the pseudoscience factory and think they know anything.

I have no intentions to ever be a hypnotherapist because it is not even close to the best method of processing any emotions whatsoever. I like hypnosis as a hobby, a way to have fun with people. If you want something similar that is more helpful, look into Gestalt therapy.

[vladdyissues]

Permissive Vlad or rebellious Danny? 🤔, How do you like your pompous pep?

I think I prefer rebellious Danny to permissive Vlad—at least at the beginning of their relationship, when tensions are high and they're still trying to figure out how to make it work. But once they get comfortable with one another, establishing a solid foundation of trust and respect, I can see Danny relaxing his rebellious, argumentative nature.

I imagine establishing boundaries would be a major source of friction (not the good kind) between them those first few months: Vlad, overjoyed at finally being loved yet also accustomed to getting what he wants whenever he wants, doesn't quite understand that he can't order Danny around like one of his corporate minions, maybe being a little jealous and paranoid, not giving him enough privacy, spying on him via Plasmius duplicate whenever Danny thinks he's alone. (What a blowup that would be if/when Danny finds out.)

And Danny, used to clueless/absent parents and a chaotic household with few rules, feels suffocated by Vlad's lovebombing. He's just not used to being the center of someone's universe, having their unbroken attention 25/8 and swanky, romantic dinners six days a week. Vlad is pulling him so close that it's making Danny panic, so he retaliates by backing away... which makes Vlad pull him closer, which makes Danny even more uncomfortable, and so he starts being bratty, which makes Vlad react with even more frustration, and you see how difficult this can be. Typical relationship turbulence.

But once they get it figured out—and I'm sure they would, eventually, after a few epic arguments, breakups, and heartfelt make-ups—they'll find their groove. Vlad understands he has Danny's love no matter what, and he can take off the leash he's [unfairly] been keeping him on. And Danny, with a little more freedom, now feels comforted and secure by Vlad's love instead of smothered and oppressed.

It's very much a finger trap situation. They've both got to relax if they want to win the game (of love).

I'm not sure if I answered the question the way you wanted, anon; I guess I enjoy both permissive Vlad and rebellious Danny, just at different times.

(I mean, it's Them. I haven't yet found a flavor of pompep that I didn't like in some way.)

[rilakeila]

thoughts on f1! Mattheo being a lowkey the fuckboy of the group. is he a toxic kind of guy? i feel like dating him would be a *whirlwind* kind of romance.

warnings: f1! mattheo is toxic and manipulative

personally, f1 ferrari driver! mattheo isn't a fuckboy, people think he is because he hangs out with enzo. though, you're right with it being an interesting romance

dating styles of hogwarts! mattheo v. f1! mattheo is different. personally mattheo at hogwarts is the person who doesn't want to be associated with anyone bc of his father. he doesn't care much of wizarding world in the way how his father wants world domination. he is also the bf who's smitten and just a golden boy to have around (which has been evident in my hogwarts fics of him)

f1! mattheo = toxic boyfriend

he also seems to only date those with rich families and/or have significant influence, like child of a sponsor. (hogwarts! mattheo wouldn't care enough, but that's not the point)

his current gf goes to some big ass university that's studying some sort of painting/art major, i def think my headset of both mattheos like art

he for sure will lovebomb you; like there's no way he won't, "you're perfect" "there's no one like you."

sending you expensive gifts right off the bat, such as an expensive painting that you were talking about because of your class

he's quite charming, isn't he? he wouldn't show you off to the world asap, but he would soft launch through pictures on his instagram story about the things he would get you or your extravagant dates

this relationship would go so great. a true romance dream.

until the first time he ghosts you. completely confused as he was just loving up on you the day before

he texts a week later, apologizing that getting ready for the upcoming race has kept him busy. sending you gifts the next day

only for him to continuously do it again and again. arguing everywhere and all the time.

i feel like with f1! mattheo, he would be a little like his dad. yk he got them daddy issues, and i do think tom riddle be manipulative to his family so mattheo thinks it's the only way and picks up from it (im not tryna justify but yk)

dating mattheo would be fun at first but it'll get tiring eventually.

do i think mattheo can change? for sure, everyone can change. but will he? probably not

ferrari boys rep red, so they're naturally red flags

[junosmindpalace]

i find discourse around the rdr women so...fascinating and infuriating at the same time. because a lot of the time it doesn't seem like rdr fans want to apply the same level of complex analysis to the women like they do for the men, but when they do, it still doesnt seem all that well-intentioned or that it does right by their characters.

this is a very long analysis/spam/defense so be warned :,)

even though the majority of sadie's character revolves around the fact she not only lost her home and her husband and was thrust into a new life of crime, but was actively struggling with robberies BEFORE the events of the game, people instead choose to focus on whether or not she had feelings for arthur or whether he actions in the game were actually impactful. she helped saved abigail and john when no else would, she fought alongside the men against the army, she helped john set up a stable life, she helped rob the payroll train, helped ensure colm’s death, she fought alongside arthur TIME AGAIN and took over in a leadership role when half the gang was absent in the guarma chapter. to say that she did nothing more except “be badass” undermines all of these contributions to the story that she was either at the forefront of or helped bring to fruition.

in my opinion, abigail is the EASIEST character to defend out of any of the women, and yet somehow she receives the most backlash from dudebros. I lose ten braincells every time i have to read a theory post over whether or not she slept with other camp members besides john, whether or not she was a rat, and about how much shes a nag. the woman has not known a moment's rest in her entire life. by the age of eight she was working in a cathouse. she was a child prior to then scrapping whatever money she could earn at her young age in saloons and dive bars as a woman and child just to survive as a orphan. jack's birth was clearly not planned, and she has voiced multiple times her grievances at the circumstances of his upbringing. everything she does is for a better life for her son: a life she never had. her constant nagging to get john to man up and be a father is for her son's benefit, not her own. she even says so herself when she tells him that she doesn't mind if a relationship between them doesn't work out, but to at least try being there for jack. she can't work a job because she is a mother living a life of crime and danger; she can't afford to leave the camp and her son unsupervised. she still does her share around camp. why would anyone blame her for not wanting to return to a life that has made her miserable, especially now that she has a child who she wants to model a good life for? many people seem to somehow also forget that she herself was a child when she gave birth to jack; only 17-18. she is 22 in the game in a bad situation with the father of her child and financially. she is doing her best to raise her son when she is not fully equipped to do so. how can anyone even blame her for being skeptical of john when hes affectionate in the epilogue when for so long hes been distant? she does not even ask much of john--just to be there for him sometimes, and to live honestly. she is also incredibly kindhearted. comforting other women in the camp, offering a listening ear, taking care of john when hes injured. she puts in her share of effort when it comes to finding a job in the epilogue and maintaining beechers hope.

molly is a young woman who is presumably incredibly far from her home where her family is, and trying to navigate a way of life completely unfamiliar to her. her stuck up nature comes not only from the way she was raised, but also dutch's uplifting affection and presumed lovebombing in the early stages of their relationship. shes even been suggested to be somewhat sociable until dutch and her became somewhat of an official item, in which she grew somewhat of a bigger ego with a mentality that she was his right hand. she deeply depended on dutch for her stability in every way, and its evident in her eventual spiral. she hated being seen as weak and pitiful as somewhat of an outsider among outsiders. she seemed to be close to no one besides dutch, who repeatedly cut her off when she attempted to talk to him about her growing feelings of anxiety, paranoia and sadness. the loss of the one thing that had built her up, coupled with immense tragedy she just wasnt used to, and desperate for a semblance of respect and dignity that she had presumably been all too accustomed to, of course she was going to come off brash and confront dutch about his distant, high and mighty attitude. it's why by the end, she doesnt care if she is killed: there is nothing left for her. karen's comment about her pretending to rat them out for the sake of attention is also interesting in terms of their relationship and parallels, which i dont see ANYONE talk about.

karen very clearly struggles with...a lot. she has even said so herself when talking with molly. she struggles to accept help, evident in pieces of dialogue where she brushes off concerned gang members about her drinking (mary-beth, arthur, javier), and when she seems somewhat ashamed and embarrassed having to have been rescued by arthur in the valentine mission (SAYING EXPLICITLY "i dont much like being saved"). she struggles with believing people have good intentions/feelings toward her, illustrated in the way she's constantly rejecting sean, yet seemingly disappeared further down the bottle after his death, and her conversation with mary beth and tilly about the world having no equal and fair place for women. her negative experiences in the world as a woman could also influence her view of the world, perhaps being why she finds herself somewhat hostile toward feminist mindsets and why she, for a while, enjoyed the outlaw lifestyle: it was her little slice of freedom. her hatred for the rich can also be because she has experiences as a poor woman, perhaps some direct experiences in which rich people have negatively impacted her life. though molly and karen don't get along through most of the game, karen actually tries to step in and help her near the end, and its this action + defending her after her death that shows she was sympathetic toward her situation and on some level able to relate to it, both craving some kind of love beyond superficial things.

@/cryptidcr3ature said it very well in a post i reblogged recently: mary is essentially "her brother's keeper and her father's caretaker". she herself lives somewhere middle class with traditional notions of the time impacting her views on arthur's lifestyle and anything below those middle class standards being deemed as socially unacceptable (which is evident from the very first letter mary sends to arthur, in which she seems confused on what a polite term would be to refer to prostitutes, who were obviously thought very lowly of in the time). i also don't think its fair to criticise her condemnation of arthur's lifestyle when pretty much all audiences, contemporary and not, including members of the gang, acknowledge that it isnt anything pretty. killing is not fun. running from the law is not fun. mary was not only influenced by her father's views of arthur (a person that, despite being horrible, she still deeply loves), but looking after her own family, herself, and arthur's wellbeing when she ended their relationship + suggested they run away. she had given him an opportunity at compromise. perhaps the first time, scared and unfamiliar with his lifestyle, she had offered arthur an ultimatum: her or his outlaw life, but later was willing to also leave behind her brother and father, two figures that tie her down and make her life more miserable than need be despite loving them very much, in order to settle somewhere with arthur and start over. her asking for arthur's help comes from a place of desperation and excuse to allow herself some semblance of stability when she hadn't had it; at least not since her mother and husband passed. if arthur refuses to help her, she is incredibly understanding and sympathetic. she does not lash out. if arthur does help, she is immensely grateful, and even tries to bond with him despite their years apart.

this post isnt to excuse some of their more negative behaviours and aspects of their characters'-- but im saying that they deserve to be fairly treated and analyzed just like any of the rdr men. many of them are young. many of them have unique challenges as women. that isn’t to say the men have it easier, but their struggles and less prettier aspects of their characters are always met with more sympathy than the women. why do arthur and john get passes as reformed absent fathers and criminals? why does sean receive sympathy when karen rejects his pushy advances? why does hosea get a pass at being better than dutch when he still groomed younger members of the gang for a life of crime alongside dutch? why does dutch get a pass by having his downfall be justified by tough circumstances? lets just be fair

[empressofdiamonds]

LOW VALUE MALES and how to understand them.

Keeping in mind "sex is the end goal of LVM" and "LVM won't care about women's emotions and will leverage them for their end goal" helps clarify tremendously their modus operandi. If you don't wanna read all this post, re-read this first post and scroll down. That's all there is.

LVM will pretend relationship for the sake of sex, they won't even be willing to put in effort and care into the relationship, just enough so they can access sex. And once dumped they'll crawl and cry so hard and pretend they'll improve themselves but it's all for the sake of sex.

They're literal slaves to their dick. They WANT to get it wet. The Dick Must be Wet.

LVM don't see women as their equal... and wont change their minds. They see women as possessions instead of humans. They won't care about what women desire want need deserve, because they see those things as obstacles to sex, so he'll cut corners just to get his dikk wet. Like "huh, why bother romancing her, I'm doing bare minimum and she's willing to give me sex, anything beyond that is useless

They're cheapos. They'll do hangouts, fake dates (that's what I call cheapo easy fake-romancey dates, like walk dates, park dates, starry night dates, home movie dates, etc), they'll pinch their pennies when it comes to dating... Because they simply aren't sure if the sex will be there. They aren't sure, so why the hell spend this much cash, Jessica Neighbor might have better odds than Joanna Doe? They'll litterally do a mental risk/perk calculation. To give you an idea, an escort's time is 600$+ in major cities, they're happy to pay for that, but will screech at the idea of paying 40$ for a nice dinner with a glammed up lady (that is ACTUALLY into them).

They loathe effort and energy, and they loathe making others feel good without expecting anything back. Let's say you're a LVM. Your average Joanna Doe, you romance her, you bring her to cute cafes, you get through boring discussions about future (you legit don't give a F about that, she's not the one and you know it), and you future fake her, you recourse to lowly strategies to make her think there's something going on. Joanna invests more of her time into you, she opens up more and more, after 1-2 weeks you bring her to fake dates, increase the intimacy, slowly push her boundaries, then tada sexxx.

They'll recourse to immoral strategies without any personal issues. It brings us back to point 4; they don't see women as people to respect. Respecting women to them is optional, and they do it begrudgingly to not be seen as absolute assholes... This is bringing us back to the previous point's LVM example: Uh oh? Joanna Doe doesn't wants to have sex? You'll start doing guilt trips, push her into sex, say that she's weird, or maybe increase the romance fake talk, say she's the Number One and that you Know You'll Spend Your Life With Her, She's So Special. You lovebomb her, you talk of everything you think women love. Litterally you'll trow anything until it sticks.

To LVM, dating IS a numbers game. They more they'll ask women out, past exes, former classmates, anything goes, the more odds of having sex. So that's a win move for LVM. They are motivated by sex, and don't give a shit about women's emotions, they're annoyances. LVM will also have a bunch of women they talk to at the same time. But no, Joanna is the "only one he's talking to". They'll lie their asses off if that means protecting their odds of having sex.

If a LVM thinks sex might happen soon, he'll persevere the masquerade. But most aren't that endurant. A lot drop it after 3-4 weeks, the most endurant hold on for 2 months or something like that. Say no. Insist that you don't want to engage in sex and that you want to take it slow. Pump those damn BRAKES!

The instant you whiff anything LVM, dump. Don't even feel bad. LVM are EVERYWHERE. You'll find other men out there easy. They're rich, poor, prestigious, rednecks, academic, blue collar, whatever, they're everywhere. But their $$$$ or their network isn't worth a miserable lifetime. NEXT!!

[breakfastteatime]

hope you don't mind the rant but argh i finally realised why i feel so disconnected to survivor in comparison to how close jfo is to me

spoilers for those who haven't played survivor

but i really dislike major decisions made and i'm gonna babble on a little (i've had like eight panadol and two sleeping meds as of the last hour n a half so if this doesn't make sense that's why)

one that's been swirling around my head ever since i played us that it really felt like they brought cordova back JUST to kill him off. this also ties into my next point that i find bode's betrayal hard to believe as well. every role he had in the story could easily be replaced by someone such as cere, and i felt like the only reason he was there was to have someone for bode to kill to show how really evil he was but respawn didn't want to kill any of the main cast off. he's such a useless character in the plot that killing him off didnt effect anything LMAO

my next major dislike is, understandably, about bode :,) yes i know this can come off as making excuses for a character i was attached to since the trailers dropped but the more i think about it the more i really cannot understand both the timeline and the motive that was behind bode's betrayal. i kind of get the idea he was lax about betraying them UNTIL cal mentioned using tanalorr for the hidden path but according to the echoes you get after the game bodenis plotting and scheming the whole time... plus, you think that his whole motive relies on creating a safe place for kata on tanalorr where no one can find them but also like. you have two (technically three) jedi, a nightsister, and a whole clan of anchorites that kick the empire's ass every day. "will you be able to protect her when the empire comes?" fuckass have you SEEN cal use a lightsaber?? kata is safer with cal then she is bode

dagan was hella underwhelming too which disappointed me tbh i was excited for this high republic jedi to show us all this cool stuff only for him to die in like three seconds 😔

ANYWAY i hope this ain't too long but i'd love to hear your thoughts/criticisms on js bc i love the game and all the little bits are amazing but some of the decisions made have me a bit hrghh

Okay, friend, you asked for it ;)

The decision to bring back Cordova was an unexpected one, but the sight of him makes me cry happy tears every damn time, so it doesn't bother me at all. I take your point re: Cere being able to do everything he does, but part of Bode’s betrayal also hinges on him betraying Cere to Vader, who clearly wants vengeance after Nur (which is SO IN CHARACTER for Vader I can only lol. Petty bitch.), so Bode killing her wouldn't have had quite the same impact.

Because I was so convinced he was dead that him *actually* being dead didn’t strike me as ‘brought back only to die’. I would argue that killing him off did put them at risk of not being able to reach Tanalorr and defintely drove Cal to Nova Garon, but yes… Cordova's character probably lacks development and definitive purpose compared to the others… Although even as I say that, I find myself thinking of the logs he left behind in the various ruins on Jedha and the words of advice and I just can’t get mad. Plus there's that teeny hint that he's been unwell when Merrin asks how he's feeling. I see your points, yes, but I'm not too fussed by any of it.

Moving onto Bode...

So, here’s my interpretation of Bode, based on the post-game echoes and the little nuances that take on a totally new light on a replay. Bode is playing Cal from the very beginning. They are never friends from Bode’s perspective, and he is a master manipulator. He’s a textbook abuser – he lovebombs Cal with compliments and praise to cement their relationship, and does the same with everyone in his family. Plus, he used his knowledge of Cere’s location to further his cause with the Empire.

There’s also a power dynamic at play here because Bode was a Jedi Knight during the war while Cal was still a Padawan. Bode is older and more experienced with the world than Cal. He knows Cal longs for friendship, and he wields that against him more effectively than any weapon. Every action, every word, every choice Bode makes is solely to dig in deeper with Cal so he can and Kata can escape the Empire. Had Cal agreed that Tanalorr would just be for them, *maybe* Bode wouldn’t have betrayed him the way he did, but Bode is well on his way to the dark side because of his attachment to Kata. And Cal very nearly follows him because of his attachments to his family.

To me, this is what the Jedi Order meant by 'no attachments'. Jedi are allowed to love, but when that love becomes all consuming, when it becomes an obsession, that’s when the attachment becomes dangerous. Bode’s story is very similar to Anakin’s, he’s just not as powerful. Hasn’t got those Skywalker genes 😉  

Bode’s motive to me is clear – he *thinks* everything is about Kata, but actually it’s all about him. It’s about his grief and rage and fear because of his wife's death the terrible choices he made. Denvik promises that if Bode gives him what he wants (Cal and Cere), he will reveal which Inquistor murdered his wife. Bode is already in it for revenge, not his daughter's wellbeing. His choices are very pre-meditated. He is a parent, yes, and I can understand that overriding love of a child, but he is also a grieving husband who is so broken by his loss that his love for Kata has become too possessive. He is terrified of losing his daughter, and it eclipses his love for her. Kata is aware of this, and her love is also turning to fear. Bode is neglectful (he's always leaving Kata behind) and bordering on abusive at the end. He trusts no one but himself, and he even asks Cal at the very end if he can protect Kata. Cal says nothing because he knows he can’t – he’s tried protecting so many people, and he’s lost nearly all of them. He won’t make a promise he can’t keep, and that’s what completely breaks Bode. Bode doesn’t believe anyone *but him* can protect Kata because he has become completely consumed with fear and anger. Cal gave him a chance to make a better choice when he disarmed him. In fact, Bode had *so many chances* to make a better choice, and he didn’t. So, when Bode responded by choosing to try and kill Cal, Merrin *and* very nearly his own daughter, Cal had no choice but to put him down – hard. That second shot took my breath away both times I played the game because Cal knows he cannot save Bode and protect the people who matter, and by showing Bode mercy, more people will die. It's also about control - Bode tries to control everyone. Cal knows he can't, so he takes the only option left - killing Bode. Honestly, the more I think about that finale, the more intense it becomes. It's an astonishing moment.

I do wonder if the reason people struggle with Bode is because he is so nice, and he fits in so well, but it’s all fake and it’s all an act. Whether you saw it coming or not, that hurts. Cal – and the player – want so badly for Bode to be better than he is, and that’s the tragedy. Bode’s not capable of that. He has suffered losses just like Cal, but he couldn’t overcome them. It’s a lot to deal with emotionally!

And as for Dagan, I quite like him! Mostly because that final battle with him incorporates my favourite Star Wars thing – WEIRD FORCE SHIT. He’s also a mirror held up to Cal – this is what you could become if your obsession takes over you. I also think his relationship with Santari Khri is meant to show Cal the potential pitfalls of his relationship with Merrin if his attachment overcomes him… but we��ll have to see what happens next…

Gosh this got long. It's always fun to see other people's perspectives and share my own! Hope you've got some rest and feel better soon :)

[brf-rumortrackinganon]

“I deleted the ask about Newsom.”

Being British I know less than nothing about Newsom.

I did read Netflix donated $3 million to his campaign so assumed Netflix intervened on behalf of Archewell.

All you need to know about Newsom that he’s a Wish JFK. He has aspirations for higher office (ie POTUS) but has a very hard road ahead of him in the culture wars because of how the majority of Americans see California.

California, by the way, has the 5th largest economy in the *world*. Just as a state. So anyone who comes up through California state politics would be good on a national scale because of the huge executive experience they get. But the drawback is that a lot of people consider California emblematic of all the problems in the US - excessive taxing and regulations, a nanny state with too many social welfare programs, permissive immigration, etc. - and they don’t want that in their states, which leads to the culture wars.

Newsom is also a Getty associate. He and Gordon Getty were business partners for a long time. Allegedly Meghan used their mutual Getty connection to lobby Newsom for Dianne Feinstein’s recess appointment.

I don’t know that I believe the theory that Netflix intervened for Archewell. All the tea from California is that Netflix doesn’t like the Sussexes and wants to cut ties with them as soon as possible, so much so that they refused to help Meghan find a CEO for ARO when she asked them for a partnership.

I think it’s more likely that it was Getty who intervened but even then I’m not sure either, because that tea suggests Getty’s family put a cold hard stop to Meghan’s lovebombing.

[thedawningofthehour]

Yeah. About the Githel and comparing the two to an extent. My thing was about the lie and having to keep a secret from a child. But Yeah. Draxum is a lot better to Gale than Gothel was to Rapunzel. I know that Draxum cares about Gale a lot and the vine thing I think was being overprotective and not wanting to find out the secret. But he did feel bad by the next few scenes. And apologized. I just don't know how he deals with realizing he chained down essentially his own son. I don't think it’s well?

Alright, I'm going to use this to sort of air my feelings on Mother Gothel and how it influences doth. You're absolutely fine, you didn't annoy me or anything, I just have...kind of a lot of thoughts about it? Shit's complicated. (Also please actually read the whole thing through before you start getting mad because I promise I am not making the point you think I am)

One of the things that really bugs me when talking about Tangled is the insistence that Gothel didn't love Rapunzel. People do this a lot, claim an abuser can't 'really' love their victim if they're abusing them.

Which to me is a very dangerous line of thinking because it implies that the opposite is equally true, that someone can't be an abuser because they love the person they're abusing. And that can lead to people staying in abusive relationships, because their partner/family member/friend does love them. Yeah, they might. But not enough. Not how you deserve.

Let's start with who Rapunzel is in the scene we're properly introduced to her, on the eve of her eighteenth birthday. Rapunzel is intelligent, literate and knowledgeable of math and astronomy and highly skilled in a number of crafts. She's never met anyone else in her life, so obviously Gothel educated her. There was no reason for Gothel to do this. If anything, educating Rapunzel gave her the tools to question her mother and the stories she'd been told, as she later does. Gothel still taught her to read, still bought her books and a guitar and craft supplies, still celebrated birthdays and got her presents. This establishes right from the start that Gothel is willing to go out of her way for Rapunzel's happiness, even when there's no benefit for her.

Little examples of this are sprinkled throughout the story. Agreeing to go get the paints Rapunzel wants is a major one-Gothel had already won the argument, she had Rapunzel feeling responsible and guilty for their fight and there was no need for lovebombing. She outright states it's a long trip for the paints, she's established that Rapunzel fucked up and possibly isn't deserving of a birthday gift-but she doesn't use that. She picks up and goes to get her daughter the one nice thing she wants for her birthday. For no reason other than Rapunzel asked for it. Even at the end of the movie, the thing Rapunzel offers to Gothel to allow her to heal Eugene is their relationship back. Gothel kept the royal army from finding Rapunzel for nearly two decades; she's smart enough to keep Rapunzel imprisoned until her will was broken. She doesn't need Rapunzel's cooperation. She wants Rapunzel back as her daughter.

And please do not think I am using any of this to make excuses for Gothel or saying she's actually a good person, because I very much am not. This circles back to Mikey's comment in the latest chapter, how Draxum's love for Donnie should have changed him. Because if Gothel truly loved Rapunzel with everything a mother loves her child, then that should have changed her too. She should have been greatly conflicted on allowing Rapunzel out to see the lights, her fear and possessiveness over Rapunzel battling with the knowledge that Rapunzel is lonely, socially stunted, that she's missing out on all the experiences she deserves to have out there in the world. She should feel guilty for her decision to keep Rapunzel entirely hidden away, maybe not to the point of actually changing her mind but it should have caused her some anguish. She should want these things for Rapunzel, for her to be able to have friends and study and become a professional artist, even if she knows that it could realistically never happen. She should have thought, at least once in those eighteen years, that she should tell Rapunzel the truth.

She never does. She never doubts what she's doing for a moment, even when it hurts Rapunzel. Because even though some part of her does love Rapunzel, Gothel loves her youth more.

That's the trap with abusers who love you. It's not that they can't love you if they're abusing you, it's that if they're abusing you, they love something else more. Maybe that something else is the feeling of power and control they get by abusing you. Maybe it's their own comfort that they love more, their unwillingness to critically examine themselves and seek help and ultimately change their behavior. Whatever it is, they are putting it before their love for you, and it's overriding everything that love is telling them to do. Gothel loved Rapunzel. But she was so much more in love with herself that she was wholly incapable of even considering Rapunzel's needs before her wants.

So now we get back to Draxum, and ask the question of if Draxum would do the same. And that's impossible to answer because for Draxum, his love for Galois and the reason he kidnapped Donnie are so wholly intertwined.

Like, I suppose you could make the argument that the King and Queen of Corona wouldn't truly understand what the power of the sundrop flower meant and what would be necessary to protect Rapunzel, that showing her off as princess and eventual queen would be advertising her power and putting a giant target on her back, (I mean, people would definitely realize something was up with the immortal queen whose court was never ill and seemed to recover from serious injuries overnight) but let's be real-if Gothel's priority was keeping Rapunzel safe, she could have just shown up and offered to work with the King and Queen and their guard to assure the princess's safety. Not to mention Gothel's original plan was just to take a lock of hair and leave Rapunzel with her parents. But this doesn't extend to the situation in doth. Draxum is 100%, wholly convinced that the Yokai will be entirely wiped out in a few decades. A century at most. He truly believes that if he hadn't kidnapped Donnie, then Donnie would have died young. He would have lived a miserable life in hiding, facing persecution and taunted with the things he couldn't have purely because of what he is, and then would have died violently and possibly painfully at barely a fraction of his natural lifespan. And then he'd be forgotten, except as one of the 'mutant monsters' that humanity cleansed, who he was and what he could have accomplished erased.

Sure, he didn't love Donnie when he kidnapped him. But he loves Galois now. And his love might drive his guilt, his self-hatred and conflicted feelings on what to allow him and tell him, but it can never drive his doubt. Draxum cannot doubt what he's doing for one moment, because what he's doing needs to be done if Galois is going to have the life he deserves. If he stepped back, told Galois the truth and allowed him to return home-that's it, he needed Donnie's big brain for all this, he ran projections to make sure he really had to do this and there was literally no way he could accomplish what he needed to do without Donnie. His revolution will fail, the humans and the Council of Heads will rush in, there's a very good chance Galois would lose his head right alongside Draxum-and even if not, the humans would kill him soon anyway. Gothel's love for youth and beauty completely overtook her love for Rapunzel, to the point that it effectively didn't matter because she would never hesitate to choose herself. Draxum's desire to conquer the surface and his love for Galois are at a head, and his love cannot win because every bit of love he has for his son drives up the opposing score. He could never choose one or the other because he could never choose anything that stood opposite of his love for his son, but it's because he loves his son that he's still doing this.

Would that be different in a world where the safety and liberty of Yokai and mutants is assured? In a world where Draxum has already succeeded and no longer needs Galois, but wants to remain his father? Is Draxum's position and legacy worth keeping from Galois the truth he so rightfully deserves to know? Would his desire to maintain what he has with his son overrule his desire for his son to be happy, even if that happiness comes at the expense of Draxum's?

Well. That's something Draxum thinks about every night.

[halfmoth-halfman]

what’s the point of a fic rec list if ur only going to show the same people every month

we get it you want to show off ur big writer friends & you want to suck up to the other popular writers but you can do that without lovebombing their fics with the same nonsense keysmash this was amazing *insert random heart gif* review for every single fic until they’re forced to acknowledge you

it’s kind of cringey & i wouldn’t be surprised if it made some of those writers ur trying to suck up to really uncomfortable

we all see the same popular writers all the time they don’t need ur sad attempt at exposure and ass kissing to get people to read their fics people want to see new & small writers or writers who don’t get a lot of notes not the same fics from the same writers that always get rec’d

maybe next time try finding actual smaller writers in here & giving them valid reviews instead of ignoring them &making them feel bad for not being good enough to make ur omg best writers ever 💜 list each month

i realize that you're probably a troll and i shouldn't bother with this but there's actually some points in here that kind of concern me so i'm gonna answer this piece by piece so i can get my thoughts out properly.

why show the same people every month

it wasn't and isn't my intention to only show the same people in my fic rec lists. i've said this before on here but i'm very busy irl so i don't have a lot of time for tumblr and reading and exploring for fics. most of the fics i see are from people i follow, the fics they reblog, or the recommended posts tumblr gives me so those are the majority of what goes on my fic rec list.

it sucks, but i don't have a lot of time to search and find new fics or writers. if i had a less demanding job or personal life than i'd love to take more time to explore fics, but i just don't and i realize that can come off as me favoring certain writers but there's nothing i can do to add more time to my day. i've always made it clear that i am open to new recs/fics/writers, i've found some of my favorite fics through other recs people have sent me!

it's also for that reason that i made the monthly fic recs specifically for fics that were also written in that month. i can't keep up or keep track of what month/year every fic was posted to make sure they're added accordingly. i thought making the monthly rec list this way would not only show off new fics and maybe newer writers/blogs but also be easier for me to keep track of what fics to include so i don't get overwhelmed and end up quitting.

i also made sure that the monthly fic rec list isn't the only time i recommend fics, i have an entire blog dedicated to fic recs that i reblog every fic i like to. i link to it in every fic rec list so everyone can go and look at all of the fics i like and recommend.

we get it you want to show off ur big writer friends & you want to suck up to the other popular writers

i don't think this is a good way of looking at it, if i'm being honest. i'm not trying to show anyone off or suck up to anyone, i just wanted to make a post that showed my appreciation for fics that i liked in one big post since (as i said above) i don't have a lot of time to do comment reblogs for every single fic.

and it really bothers me the way you seem to view "popular" blogs on here. this feels like you're implying my "big writer friends" are only my friends because of that. this is tumblr. it isn't some overused high school stereotype where everything is a popularity contest. people can just be friends because they get along and like each other. and, i don't know if you know this, when you're friends with someone usually you support the things they do. i like the things my friends write, so i support their fics. it's as simple as that.

you can do that without lovebombing their fics with the same nonsense keysmash this was amazing *insert random heart gif* review for every single fic until they’re forced to acknowledge you

i know that i'm a writer, but i am not good with compliments. i do my best to try and pick out my favorite lines or focus on the things that i really loved about a fic, but when i have to think of new ways to describe how much i liked something, my brain blanks, so i default to my usual compliments. i don't think there's anything about that that's lovebombing, and i don't think you really know what that word means.

also i have never once said that anyone had to acknowledge me or my rec list or anything else. i make my rec list and give my compliments as a way to show my appreciation, i do not expect anything back from any of the blogs i mention the same way i don't expect any type of interaction from anyone on tumblr. nobody owes me any kind of interaction, and i don't make my posts with that expectation.

it’s kind of cringey & i wouldn’t be surprised if it made some of those writers ur trying to suck up to really uncomfortable

i don't give a fuck about being cringy, if you find my rec list cringy then that's your own problem.

however, i would like to say that it was not and is not my intention to make anyone uncomfortable with my recs, and if what i've said in those comments has made any of the writers i mentioned uncomfortable then i am truly sorry. i am more than happy to untag you or remove you from the list or whatever you'd like to make you comfortable. this was simply a way for me to highlight the fics that i've enjoyed each month, but i do not want to do that at the cost of making someone uncomfortable.

we all see the same popular writers all the time...people want to see new & small writers or writers who don’t get a lot of notes not the same fics from the same writers that always get rec’d

anon, i don't know if you know this, but you can also make a fic rec list. i'm just one person, i'm not going to see every single fic from every single writer. there are fics i'm going to miss, writers i'll probably never see. i can't help that, and it feels a little unfair of you to put that on me.

if you're tired of seeing the same writers, then reach out to other writers!! make your own fic rec list with new writers on it!! or if you're that desperate to see certain writers on my rec list, then, like i said, my askbox is (almost) always open for people to send me recs.

maybe next time try finding actual smaller writers in here & giving them valid reviews instead of ignoring them &making them feel bad for not being good enough to make ur omg best writers ever 💜 list each month

you'll probably get a lot of joy from knowing this, but i think this part actually bothered me the most out of this entire post. i'm very concerned with the idea that people think i'm purposely ignoring them or that my fic recs are making anyone feel bad or like they aren't good enough.

this was just a fun way for me to show fics that i like and give my appreciation to the writers without getting overwhelmed or worried that i wasn't doing enough. it was never meant to make anyone feel bad about themselves in any type of way, and i am so unbelievably sorry if i've caused anyone to feel like that.

i do my best to find new writers when i can. i check every recommended fic tumblr gives me, i scroll through the for you page, i even go through character tags, but the problem of it is, i just don't have enough time to look through every single hour of every day. i try, i really do, but i'm not going to be able to see every single fic. i'm in no way trying to be hurtful or rude, it's simply a me problem that i don't have a solution for.

my reviews won't change, nor will my monthly rec lists. i do the best that i can, i enjoy making these lists, and i haven't heard of anyone else having a problem with this except for you. i'm sorry how i do this has upset you this much that you felt the need to send this to me, but i hope that you can come to realize that none of this was done with harmful intentions and maybe take this as a chance to make your own rec list and shoutout some of those fics that you feel i've been ignoring.

[alyjojo]

Thinking of You - June 🤞 2024 - Virgo

Whole of their energy towards Virgo: Queen of Pentacles

Well the message indicates you two both feeling deeply drawn to each other, and a depth that the average connection doesn’t have - but what kind of connection that is, I’m not sure. They feel you’re meant to be in their life, but I don’t see much talking. They know you’ve been through a lot recently, have more or less battled to be where you are today, and there is still a lot you’re healing from - but you’re doing it. They see you positively, lovingly, and either you’ve recently fallen victim to some kind of a scam or they have, and the other one *knew* this and said something - because that’s being acknowledged. I’m hearing “I told you so.”

Feelings: The Moon rev

This is clearing the air of any confusion or fear that may exist or has - and it’s clarified by a lot of…I guess “trauma dumping” would be the best way to describe this. It’s heavily emotional, not holding anything back, even has bits of aggression, anger, resentment, just letting it alllll out. A major venting session. You or them, either or, it brought or will bring a lot of clarity to the situation and how you/they feel about what’s going on - though there’s still a lack for what to do about it. All that can be done is healing it looks like. I’m not sure if the one causing the trauma is either of you, I don’t think so. Could be a good friend/family member that supports you but like, they’re on the outside 🤷‍♂️

Intentions: 4 Cups rev

Ha. Now is see, Spirit is repeating the message I didn’t get the first time - that could relate to this somehow. Or I’m a dunce. That could relate too. Someone’s gone through a major breakup and that’s where the heaviness and complete floodgate of emotions is coming from. Again, doesn’t feel like you, could be, but for most it’s like your best friend/sibling and you’re mopping up their tears from this douchebag YOU SAID was a douchebag the minute they walked in the door in a dirty hat so…what did they expect? Nasty hat wearing bish 😒 Or it’s you venting to them and same, they had a feeling, you two have that kind of connection. They feel there’s nothing they can do about it, and there’s not, but they’d like to give whoever a piece of their mind, probably in your defense.

Actions: King of Swords rev

Oh yeah, they’d definitely like to say a thing or two to this person that’s hurt you, or that’s switched, but for the sake of peace (and maturity), maybe to ease this person’s/your mind - they’re not going to say anything, they’ll just judge silently at how dumb this person is and if they had a say in it they’d xyz. It’s also possible they’re giving you some space while you clear your head and heal from some rough patch in your life - or that’s the intention anyway.

Messages:

Their side:

- I feel so drawn to you.

- It’s DESTINY baby!

Your side:

- I am entranced by you 😵‍💫

- Obsessed with work 👨‍⚖️

Oracles:

Blind 😵

Awkward - Unknown - Vision Problems

Indulcement 💵

Persuasion - Bribe - Temptation

Possible signs:

Libra, Pisces, Gemini, Taurus, Virgo & Capricorn

If you’re dealing with:

The Star rev, Page of Cups underneath shows a lack of hope or belief in romance, flirtatious energy, or good news. Like you don’t deserve these things, or you don’t believe you can have them based on something you’ve recently gone through. Of course you do. After the healing, that’s the most important thing. Your energy sends out vibrations to bring in your ideal match for person/friends/life, make sure you’re coming from an authentically “you” place, in all of the best ways. Do whatever you like to do most - more, and healthy stuff more, that’s a good place to start. Attract healthy by being healthy. These could be you or them, either/or.

Aries - one of you has let go of the past and everything in it, the other is still hanging on

Taurus - idealistic about a lack of love, could be trying to lovebomb and you’re not feeling it, it’s not authentic or something with them - or it’s giving “desperate”

Gemini - they tried, it didn’t work, nothing is growing in a positive way, time to move on

Cancer - only dating someone to piss you off, or the person they’re dating is an asshole, maybe doesn’t like you or vice versa

Leo - the end is a heavy burden to bear - or it’s the end of a burdensome situation

Virgo - no intentions of cooperating with you

Libra - has a lot of options other than you, or what you want/advise, or you do, and someone is concerned about it

Scorpio - could come back around suddenly wanting you back, it’s unexpected 😍

Sagittarius - not feeling it, not confident, so they’re not moving forward until they are

Capricorn - no desire to move something forward because it doesn’t make them happy, or they’re unhappy in general

Aquarius - an unstable work/home situation is improving, slowly but surely

Pisces - has a crush on you but won’t do anything about it - or switch 🫣

[lore-gore]

I was looking for helluva boss praise and i found a post of someone crying and pissing their pants over the wedding scene from Ex's and Ooh's, screaming about how it's internalized homophobia from the show because it "tries to make gay men seem predatory" by having Moxxie forced to marry Chaz in a dress with dildos all around

I guess their arguments kinda made sense, but they were looking WAY too deep into it and ignoring the context from the episode and show itself.

Firstly, Moxxie is clearly down to date a guy, he literally stated that he was bisexual in that same episode, he just happens to be in a relationship and the guy his dad is forcing him to marry fucked him over. The point of Crimson forcing Moxxie to marry Chaz isn't to make gay men seem predatory, its to further solidify that Crimson is a ruthless person who only cares about keeping money, power, and control over everyone around him. If Chaz was a woman, he would still make Moxxie marry him.

Second, the dildo and dress thing isn't meant to be a serious thing, oh my god. IT IS LITERALLY MEANT TO BE A JOKE ABOUT CRIMSON'S BIGOTRY. He thinks that all bi guys are gay and that all gay guys like to wear dresses and have dildos all over the place. The goddamn dildos wouldn't even be there if it weren't for Chaz complaining that the seats weren't full.

And why can't we let queer people in media be bad people? Why do they always have to be 100% perfect all the time? Let queer couples be shitty, don't put them on a pedestal. And just because Moxxie happens to have one of the healthiest relationships in the show with a woman does NOT mean anything! Stolas and Stella's relationship is worse than any queer couple's that appeared on the show.

I'm done talking now. It just amazes me the lengths people will go to demonize a show they don't like.

Has anyone told you how fucking right you are?

It would be homophobic if Moxxie was straight, or Chaz was the only mlm guy. But he's not.

Also Chaz acts that way towards everyone. He's a shark on the hunt for a lay. They would have a better chance arguing it's panphobia instead.

And sometimes representing toxic queer relationships is a good thing. For example, in Ted Lasso, spoiler alert, Keeley's ex girlfriend lovebombed her, was ashamed of their relationship in front of old friend, and then dumped her because she essentially didn't do what she wanted.

Granted I could tell that it wasn't going to last, and felt sad it soured so quickly, but that doesn't mean it's bad representation.

In fact it's good representation. I had a similar experience with my ex girlfriend. She kept me a secret from her parents (which, nothing wrong with not feeling safe to come out, but I myself was out and proud, so maybe a relationship where the first time in my life I had to hide my sexuality wasn't a good thing). She lovebombed me (though I don't think on purpose), and then dumped me over text during school, so I was sobbing in class.

Helluva Boss's and Hazbin Hotel's characters are a majority queer, something you don't see often. It's one of the reasons I love this show.

Also "demon" haha get it.

[foreverisntenough]

Hello,

I’ve been here since you posted the first chapter of ”you’re mine” and I just want to say thank you! You’re such a good writer and I really think your work deserves so much more attention.

You’ve been keeping us fed with a new chapter every 3 days it feels like and everytime I come on tumblr I check to see if you posted a new chapter 🤩

During ”You’re mine” I thought that we would get some crazy plottwist where T would turn out to be a psycho or smthn because of the lovebombing but honestly I prefer the lighthearted path you choose. I get what people mean with ”only smut and fluff” but tbh I dont mind it at all. I absolutely loooove the way you write the smut and like you said it is a big part of their relationship and the kind of couple they are. And sure, angst can put more depth into their relationship and the storyline by seeing how they deal with it and react but sometimes its just nice to read something that makes me feel happy and at ease too.

The new chapter had me in tears when Trent and Y/n had their mini speeches to eachother after Teddy was born 🥲 Your writing really makes me feel the emotions behind the words.

Since this is such a developed fic I think you have the space to challenge yourself and explore your talent when writing and try new/different things outside of your comfort because you are a really good writer and I truly believe you can only go up from here. Even if it doesnt hit (which i doubt) we will be here and support and keep reading!

Since last weeks event with T (💔😒) Ive been massively put off from him but I will keep reading your fic regardless cause of how good it is and T in your story is our T.

Im sorry if its a bit all over the place 😅 I just wrote what was in my mind so it might be a bit jumbled. And also English isnt my first language so if anything is wrong appologies 🫶🏼

Youre a really good writer, I hope you know that and never doubt it!

Love ❤️

Okay, this took me a moment to respond to because it was so sweet. I wanted to make sure my response got everything. Firstly, THANK YOU 🥰 This was so kind.

Thank you for noticing my posting cadence. I really like to write and it comes naturally to me but it still does take some time. I hope people like how much I post! I don’t get a ton of engagement so it means a lot when people do! (TY if you do!)

I totally see where you’re coming from but I’m not a twist type person or at least not in this fic! I put a warning for love bombing on ‘You’re Mine’ because I know it was there but it also I kinda like that and that’s the whole story is Trent just completely enamored with this girl.

I will keep the smut. Maybe tone its frequency back but I genuinely think it is an element of their relationship that helps them connect. I think it’s a place where Y/N feels love and happy with her body.

I agree about angst. I do like it other peoples fics. It’s really good but also I like that these two stories are a majority of happy scenarios.

The latest chapter was emosh for me too. I am really happy for them 🥹

I definitely want to keep pushing my self and developing the stories I create. Thank you for complimenting my writing.

Yeah, real life T, is only human. It’s hard when we put someone on such a pedestal. I personally really like the fic version lol 😂

Your English was amazing btw! I appreciate you writing this so much. I loved all your comments. I hope you keep reading the stories. If you ever think of any ideas or have any more thoughts always message me 🫶

Ily!!!

[indelicateink]

There's quite a bit of abuse going on in episode 1 though? I guess we have a hard time seeing it cause no one's getting beat up but there's a reason Louis did not agree to be with Lestat until he was completely isolated from his family (not Lestat's doing but convenient for him) and his only friend (literally Lestat killed her for that reason), mentally bombarded by Lestat to the point of being suicidal and lovebombed super hard and told by Lestat that he's the only one who can save him from this.

Maybe viewers needed to see ep5 to finally understand that the abuse was present all along and it cannot be separated from the love story. Its not like it was a love story UNTIL the abuse started. It was always an abusive predatory love story.

we’re gonna have to agree to disagree. if I saw it that way i wouldn’t watch it, it would be too depressing to me. not saying your interpretation isn’t valid.

i mean, like i said—I personally can’t condemn the dude until we know more of the story. I don’t see it as Louis not agreeing to be with Lestat UNTIL he was completely isolated from his family/friends: Lestat had never offered to turn Louis until Louis was suicidal/until it was a crisis. If Paul hadn’t killed himself and Florence hadn’t blamed Louis and Louis hadn’t become suicidal…I mean, we’ll never know how eventually Lestat would’ve broached the subject of turning Louis (personally like to think he had intended there to be more sex involved in building his case but i digress). so we just see that different ways.

I don’t think Lestat killed Lily with the purpose of isolating Louis from his only friend (omg, all these L names are just looking extra dr seuss today), but idk if we’ll ever know why he did it unless he decides to get that granular with us. me, I think he didn’t care about her and he was jealous of her, he was pissed Louis ghosted him after they had sex, and then ultimately I know he’s an impulsive guy. I didn’t see it as part of a grand plan so much as him being an asshole who lashed out in a very vampiric people-are-cattle-i-feel-rejected-and-i’m-angrily-pining way. but maybe he’ll tell us someday.

“mentally bombarded by lestat to the point of being suicidal and lovebombed super hard and told by lestat that he’s the only one who can save him from this” —yeah we just have different takes on this.

I mean ultimately I come back to the point I made earlier: all of these actions of Lestat’s that you’re describing are actions as described by Louis in 2022. maybe 2022 louis would like it to be interpreted as an abusive predatory love story. 2022 louis has memories framed by the events over the past century, 2022 louis obviously has something major going on and he is depressed as hell. I need more information.

but yeah, as louis describes it I feel like lestat picked the most insensitive time possible to express his hurt feelings about being dumped (e.g., pestering louis at his brother’s funeral) (fwiw i don’t feel lestat’s pestering drove him to his suicidal feelings, I feel his guilt and Florence’s condemnation had already gotten him there just fine, but hey idk for sure). and louis in general remembers lestat as being insensitive like this: lestat being tone-deaf in his affections after louis ostentatiously kills the dick alderman, which sparks violence against his community; lestat brushing off claudia’s devastation when she accidentally kills her boyfriend. was he always just 100% a wildly insensitive dick? is memory being a monster?? i just need more info before I condemn one of the heroes of our story as an abusive predator with his partner, even if he is a vampire.

(i guess it also comes down to: are writers this intelligent really going to ask us to sit through years of this show with a main character who’s an abusive predator/founded their relationship on that, or are we going to learn more about events that reassess louis’s 2022 retelling? trust is a lot to ask, but i’m trying not to condemn any characters yet. book!lestat says iwtv is kind of a hit piece, but then louis and lestat never really get fully into where they challenge each other’s memories of events.)

[ghostys-originals]

RKZ Fandom Boundaries/ Consent

Ive seen some creators make these boundary lists as of late and although I’ve accepted that I cannot control what a fandom does, I believe its at least important to vocalize my boundaries so there is no confusion in the future.

This is mainly about Roadkillerz, but can be extended to apply to whatever else I make in the future!

[CW: Brief mentions of nsfw topics, p*dophillia, and other problematic subjects common in fandom, will also briefly mention hate speech]

1. Fan Merch/art/fic/etc

- Although I would prefer if you financially supported me first, I do not mind the creating and selling of fan merch such as art prints, stickers, etc!

- With that said, I will discuss what I am personally comfortable with seeing depicted:

1a. Hate Speech

- I do not encourage the promotion of hate speech such as lgbtq+ phobia, racism, sexism, anti semitism, etc using my work/characters as the face for that. Not only does it directly go against my own values, but for RKZ specifically, goes against the intended themes of the series (nazi “punks” are posers)

- On the topic of politics, I dont mind the promotion of, love speech? I guess? I dont know how the groups affected would feel about fandomifying important issues, but if you want to use RKZ characters for political stances that dont fall under hate speech go for it. Pro-lgbtq fan works for example is fair game.

1b. NSFW

- To be super blunt: I do not mind NSFW content as a concept, majority of my characters are of age (18+) unless stated otherwise.

- I, however, will expect some very basic criteria:

One, I do not feel comfortable with ships between family members, adult/children, etc. I dont want to encourage ship discourse since anything can be considered abusive, but as long as its NEITHER of those two things I do not care.

Two, Please be a responsible ADULT (no minors are permitted to publicly post nsfw content of my work) and keep any nsfw art/fanfiction out of the main tags. I understand minors will still seek out content not meant for them, but there are also people (not just minors either) who want to be able to scroll through a tag without seeing something they dont want to. Sex is about consent, and if your work doesnt include at LEAST a warning of some kind that aint good.

Overall just have some common sense, and if you do see people doing these things please dont debate them- just block and move on. I hate it too but getting into flamewars isnt productive and you’ll just be angry and you’ll never change their minds. Bonus thing: love yourself, care for yourself

Ok I think thats the most i’ll put for that? Now for things unrelated to content

2. Staff interactions

2a. I am alright with having a casual back and forth with fans, however I highly discourage developing parasocial relationships. If you wish to be my friend, you HAVE to treat me like a person. I do not respond well to idol-worship or lovebombing. I’ve had many bad experiences with people being super weird with that. I am not saying this to be rude, but I can and will block you if you make me feel uncomfortable, spam my DMs, or do anything else that I believe oversteps my comfort. I prefer to not befriend fans anyway since that promotes power dynamics, plus the before mentioned idol-worship which just makes me feel inhuman, so do not get your hopes up

EDIT: ALSO THIS SHOULD GO WITHOUT SAYING, But do not attempt to block evade/cyberstalk either. It WILL not end well for you. (if you want to know what counts as cyberstalking, it should be at the point where you dedicate your life to finding out literally everything about a person- casually checking my socials is fine as long as it doesnt absorb your life)

Cyberstalking and block evading are a clear rejection of established boundaries and if you participate in that, then you are just scum. Theres no woke twist you can put on it to justify it. Its wrong no matter how you feel about somebody.

2b. With that said, please do not harass anybody involved with the production of Roadkillerz/Other works including VAs, friends, friend of friends, etc. Please remember that they are humans too and have the right to privacy and healthy relations like anybody else.

2c. Fetish mining/sharing nsfw content/etc: Even though I said I dont mind NSFW content, I still do not consent to receiving sexual messages from strangers that includes but are not limited to sexting/flirting, sending nsfw art/fics, irl photos in a sexual manner, requesting I draw fetish material like Sam wearing a straight jacket (TRUE STORY, BY THE WAY.), etc.

If i think of anything else I’ll add to this but for now I believe this should be enough.

[discoveringpolyamory]

I have an ethics question about Polyamory, regarding a situation I was in previously in my prior relationship that has left me pretty traumatized. My long term primary partner had always been the one to get us into new relationships. I can't think of a single relationship we had in the past, that didn't start by them pressuring me to date the person they wanted to date, which to me is a major red flag, but I was kind of trapped in the situation with no where to go, so I stayed.

The final time this happened (we broke up with 3 different partners over the course of our 10 year relationship), I was also pressured into dating someone before we even had feelings for each other, which put us in a rocky position. This person had serious jealousy issues, and I was damaged by prior relationships, not to mention that my primary partner has some Narc characteristics, lovebombing being something I saw them do a lot in the beginning of a relationship over the years, including with me. There was always a lot of future-faking as well, I was promised a lot of key things that never ended up happening, but that's not really the point, it's just context and kind of important for the question.

When my primary and our last partner got together, they started having sex often. This isn't a bad thing of itself, but when we all moved in together, sex between the two of them increased, and my primary stopped having sex with me, mostly. Not altogether, we still had sex on rare occasions, but it tapered off and for a period of about 2 and a half years, our relationship was nigh-sexless, but their sex life was thriving. My primary and I had previously been engaging in sexual activities weekly, at least. It tapered off to probably every other month or so.

I have been cheated on in a past relationship, and this situation gave me the same kind of feelings. After awhile, I started talking to them, asking then why it was happening, and I got met with a lot of disdain, and talk like I was being paranoid. As the length of time intensified, my attention-seeking behavior got worse, and I can't say I always acted generously toward them. I started to get pretty frustrated, and we had fights about it. I told my primary that it was giving me the same feelings as when I was cheated on by my ex.

He said that since we were all dating and consenting adults in a poly relationship, there was no cheating happening. This didn't sit well with me, as I felt like my position as primary partner had shifted suddenly, and without any kind of discussion to ask me if I was okay with this. They continued to operate like normal, and continued to have sex, while I was forced to be by myself and tend to my own needs. This soured the relationship for me.

My question is: Is this Ethical Polyamory and was I cheated on? I really feel like I was, but I don't want to sling accusations around or victimize myself unnecessarily. This experience has burned me on Polyamory for good, I don't think I could ever be poly again.

Thank you for your message. Firstly, I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through such an experience. 

To quickly answer your question, yes, you can cheat in polyamory, and no, this was not ethical polyamory. But, unfortunately, it’s something that happens all too often in this scene. 

Being in a polyamorous relationship doesn’t mean you automatically consent to whatever your partners do with other people. 

From what you’ve told me here , your ex-partner is a narcissist, or at least has a lot of narcissistic traits, that mean they see ethical non-monogamy as the freedom to do what they want in life without considering their partners. This is upsettingly common, as people with these traits often actively use the idea of polyamory to control their partners. But even those who aren’t doing anything intentionally cannot see that doing the things that makes them happy might not automatically make their partners happy as well. 

When it comes to cheating, it is 100% possible to cheat in polyamory. Because cheating means breaking the rules that you and your partner put in place. And in this case, it seems your partner was very careful to avoid discussing any such rules or boundaries because they knew you were uncomfortable and would ask for restrictions of some kind. 

Going forward, whether you consider trying polyamory again or returning to monogamy, I would recommend looking into the idea of boundaries. These are vital in relationships of all kinds. Not only do they help you understand what you need to make you comfortable and satisfied in your relationships, but being able to state them clearly makes it easier to recognise when a partner is crossing them, either on purpose or unknowingly.

You should never be pressured into anything you are uncomfortable with.