#also literally wears a bi pride shirt

[cookierunfacts]

COOKIE RUN FACT #29

DJ Cookie is the fruitiest character in the entire series!

[turn-my-hollow-purple]

AOT Sexuality and Gender Headcanons

idc that no one asked for this you guys can chill I just wanted to share... may or may not have projected on a few... *cough* Annie *cough* Hange *cough*

Eren: straight; he/him pronouns; he’s an ally but he’s very clueless about it all; “Armin what’s a pronoun? OH! Yeah just normal one’s- well not that the other pronouns aren’t- I just… fuck. Yay gay! Wait, is that offensive?”

Mikasa: bisexual with a preference for men; she/her pronouns; her interactions with Sasha, Historia, and Annie were her bi awakenings fr, however her man Eren always comes first. 

Armin: okay controversial, but he’s panromantic guys, he just loves people; I could also see him being demisexual, only having sexual relationships with people he really really is intimate with; he/him or they/them pronouns, but he’s not necessarily nonbinary or gender queer, he just doesn’t care; “Do I like men and women? I like anyone even if they’re nonbinary! It’s about their hearts.”

Sasha: straight; she/her pronouns; definitely an ally; she buys Jean and Armin the craziest shit during pride month and thinks it’s so fun; wears a “my best friends are gay!” shirt to pride rallies

Connie: AROACE KING!; he/him pronouns; he literally couldn’t care less about sexual or romantic attraction, he just loves people platonically and that’s just not a problem for him

Jean: Maybe also controversial… but he’s bi with no preference; he/him; he just doesn’t like making his sexuality a big deal; he likes boys and girls because both are hot and that’s all there is to it

Annie: I feel like there’s not a lot of commentary on her sexuality, but I think she’s panromantic and asexual; pronouns are she/they; I just feel like she doesn’t like to be perceived… she just exists and it’s not that she doesn’t have sex, she totally would with her partners, she just doesn’t experience that sexual attraction, it’s just romantic and personality based

Reiner: bi (probably gay he just doesn’t know it yet) and internally homophobic (kind of joking…); he/him; he just… he’s confused guys, he’s trying his best right now

Bertholdt: I lowkey have no thoughts on him and I think that’s fine. I love him, however he’s probably one of the token straights, but one of the ones who doesn’t care; “Oh damn it’s pride month… yay!”

Levi: alright fam, as much as I love this fucker, he’s probably gay… *sighs*; he literally never talks about his sexuality or romantic relationships though, so it’s just not a big deal to him…. The only people who know his sexuality are Erwin (duh) and Hange; he/him pronouns; “what the fuck is a valentine…?” 

Erwin: he fluctuates in my mind between bi and gay so do with that what you will; he/him pronouns; he enjoys teasing and flirting guys what can I say!; “you’re looking especially dapper today Captain Levi” (said with the intent of sleeping with Levi tonight)

Hange: YIPPEE MY LOVE!; probably omnisexual though I have no idea what their preference would be (hopefully fem enbies not projecting or anything); obviously they/them pronouns, I think they’re both nonbinary and gender queer; “wait, not everyone is gay???”

Ymir: LESBIAN OF COURSE?; she/they pronouns; she just exists in a realm where her only love is Historia or else she’s not alive (awkward….); “I hate straight cis men”

Historia: she also teeters in my opinion… I don’t know if she’s fully lesbian or just bi so again, do with that what you will; she/her pronouns; “I just love love! But mainly Ymir”

[lululawrence]

Strange story: I was at work the other day and dunkirk was playing on the tv and I was gushing and being very loud. So this coworker, was like, Cristal are you okay? And I was like YES! There’s Harry! I love him. And she was like, the first thing she said was like, “Is he gay? He’s gay isn’t he.” I KID YOU NOT. My brain malfunction so I was like after 10 seconds of silence “yea he is.” I for sure can’t remember what the specifics of Harry’s sexuality is. And she was like “is he dating someone?” SO MY BRAIN WAS LIKE “do I start larrying or WHAT?!” and in the end, I was like “yeah with his bandmate for since the beginning of his career” and she was like “but he has a gf?” AND I WAS LIKE YEA UM “yeah its pr, like mutually beneficial contract only” and then she was like what’s the bandmate look like, so your miss girl here pulled up a photo of Louis and the first thing she saw was this article about larry where their faces side by side and the first thing she said “OH THEY LOOK ALIKE” so once again miss girl’s brain malfunction and I was like… “what????” and she asked “how long have they been together?” and so like a loon, I said “um—over a decade.” my little larrie heart busrt a little when she said “Ahh, no wonder.” And then after a few minutes she was like “do I know the women he’s pr with???” and so I listed all the names, miss girl was SHOCKED. but ok, we’re alright and then she was like “Ahh it’s okay if he’s not out. His choice.” CRISTAL HERE GOT DEFENSIVE A LITTLE BECAUSE MY BABIES, THE HORROR THEYVE GONE THROUGH. And so I said, “um—closeting is not his fault??” and she then said “but why does he need all these pr???” and so with the patient of an angel, I told him “do you even know how homophobic the entertainment industry is?????!!!”

Anyways, that’s my short story. My point is, how do you let everyone know you’re a larry in a concert without telling them that you very explicitly? And what do you wear???

ads;kgjha;sdlfkjdas;lfksaj oh my word lmaoooooo i love you and your story lololololol

but also like the random questions at the end hahahaha like do you want a literal actual answer? i hope so cause that's what you're gonna get since i always try to code larrie so people can make the conscious choice as to whether to interact with me or not lollll

so like... at a concert, it depends on which concert you're talking about lmaoooo if it's a harry concert, you wear some louis merch and bring all the rainbows. if it's a louis concert, you wear harry's rainbow tpwk tee and again bring all the rainbows. that...... well i feel like that usually gets the point across lolllll but as for what i wear, again if it's a harry/louis (or in the old days, 1d lol) concert i wear all the rainbows. i have big rainbow, bi, and ace flags so i usually rotate between those, i have my eye makeup and nails usually done in the colors of one of those flag options, and then i'm usually also participating in a rainbow fan project, so i'm then also passing out rainbows. so i am essentially a walking rainbow. i also figure that is like... half the job done, yeah? i still bring rainbows to niall's shows too btw but they are much smaller usually and not as overt. because niall's shows just don't feel the same as harry and louis' lolololol and honestly, who needs to advertise as a larrie at a niall show anyway? hahaha

but yeah. i actually tend to more just try to advertise myself as PRIDE FRIENDLY rather than a larrie specifically, but i did once (or... twice i think actually) wear harry's rainbow tpwk tee to a louis show. and one of them was in detroit in 2022 and louis defo pointed at me a few times because it took me a hot minute to recognize and admit to myself that he really was trying to point at me hahahahaha i'd worn the shirt as a snarky way to get back at an anon that i didn't plan to advertise anywhere and i was never going to let the anon know even... i hadn't planned on wearing it to any of the louis shows, i just brought it to wear with my friends on travel days hahaha you probably don't care about any of this lololol

soooooo does that... answer your question? i hope so haha if not let me know and i'll try not to get so distracted this time ahha

[colorisbyshe]

Do people not know that t.A.T.u. literally gaybaited for YEARS? And Nicki Minaj said she lied about being bi? Like. It does happen; it’s an uncomfortable reality that it does occur from time to time. Right now there’s a certain momentum for LGBTQ+ artists.

the tATu thing is funny because one of them ended up being an outspoken ally and one of htem ended up being bisexual herself but also homophobic specfically against gay men in a way that's really appalling but also really confusing. this caused a feud between the two, fun fact. (i think the rift has since been mended but i don't intentionally follow them, just every 2-3 years i go on a google deep dive)(do love their music tho, like, i think i own all of hteir albums, lol, the gaybait wORKED!)(shout out to this mashup btw)

ANYWAYS

i think a lot of things people call ~gaybait are a bit unfair and that a lot of it is just hilarious to me regardless of the "intent" of the celebrity doing it (like dua lipa wearing a shirt that just said HOMO in glitter across her boobs??)

but like ultimately celebrity's displayed sexuality really cannot be equated to the average person who does not have a persona they can leverage for fandom, money, fame, or whatever. or to shield themselves from criticism, like when people complained about a pride fest headlining ariana grande and like... tripling hte price, pricing out locals, and when people said "hey, we want actual gay artists performing and we want it to be affordable," ariana went "i'm an ally i love you guys!!" but then a month later collabed with victoria monet and sang that she loves women and men and was like YOU DONT KNOW MY SEXUALITY BUT THE SONG DOESN'T CONFIRM ANYTHING! and kind of used to to shut down the ongoing conversation and thus framed gay people raising their eyebrows as intrusive after just vehemently saying she was a heterosexual ally.

and it all boils down to celebrities KNOWING people are too invested in their sexuality and wanting to sort of get the best of both worlds, the same with like... a strong handful of actors going "i'm a straight man, i love women, but culturally... i'm a gay man" like... normal people don't say that shit

normal peopel can't profit off of people speculating about their sexuality

and while it does often blow up in celebrity's faces (discourse, creeps writing manifestos "proving" their sexuality (which isn't the same as casual RPF), whatever) it's still... absolutely and undeniably a thing?

or even when it's not necessarily gaybait, cishet artists absolutely use gay shit for attention or shock value... like... i watched hte britney/madonna/christina kiss unfold in real time at the VMAs

it's not even a bad thing all the time!! let's just all be normal about it and care less about celebrity's sexualities

like them kiss for attenetion sometimes but then just go "YAY We're doing this now!" and then forget about it

[jamietwat]

I feel like in some alternate universe where Jamie didn't come out at the press conference he just starts doing more and more signals that are less and less subtle to signal he's queer. Like he's wearing rainbow headbands. His nails are bi pride colors constantly. He exclusively uses a water bottle that says "IM GAY" during his morning sessions with Roy, hoping the paps will comment on it. Like he's out now but if ppl aren't gonna acknowledge it he's gonna be even more of a visual eyesore until they do.

Oh, for sure. Like he's already got his rainbow headband and bi colours headband and he's definitely still wearing them and he's still gonna be obvious about it on social media and in general so people can't ignore it

I can also 100% see him walking around in an "I put the bi in bitch" hat. I tried to put a picture but tumblr said fuck you and blocked the image for no reason so I guess no picture it is

He also makes a queer gc with Keeley and Colin and Trent just to send them those stupid intentionally cringy cursed meme pride shirts and try to talk them into getting the ones he sends for them because he thinks it's funny (and what he sends gets increasingly stupid and unlikely for them to actually wear the more they refuse). He expects Trent to be the first to refuse but instead Trent's the one that's just like sure to the first one and ends up getting it and wearing it one day to Jamie's great delight

(Roy is initially spared from this chaos when he's not out to the team yet so Jamie leaves him out of the gc even though everyone there has already figured him out but Jamie makes up for lost time being extra chaotic and annoying and intentionally pushing his luck once the team all knows)

Jamie's also gonna be an absolute menace about people claiming Keeley cheated on him and then even when they're both like we're literally both dating her shut the fuck up insisting they're just covering their asses or acting like poor them both getting roped along when they're both perfectly happy. Roy's gonna be involved in that though even though he's usually private about his personal shit but people are shitting on Keeley so theyr'e double power pulling receipts and making people look stupid, posting things with passive aggressive captions and things that are just flat out aggressive, and posting dumb jokes

Jamie's twitter and instagram are going to be primarily for fighting and passive aggressively establishing that theyr'e telling the truth while his tiktok has a video about that and then is just stupid jokes that also make their dynamic all that more obvious and publicly establishing that him and Roy are friends and don't hate each other (even as behind the scenes it becomes very different very soon after he starts this) and Roy gets dragged into this more willingly than Jamie's usual just making a tiktok around him and including him however he wants while Roy just glares at him

[oh-hush-its-perfect]

okay guys so there's this tv show i started watching recently and it kind of feels like it's queerbaiting but i'm not sure because it's a reality show, so, like, these are real people I'm talking about. the show is called "Make It Big," and it's about aspiring artists. let me describe the parts i think are queerbait-y and y'all can give me your thoughts.

so one of the guys on MIB is named taylor, right? taylor is an author and poet, and sometimes his work is featured on the show. the thing is that he writes a lot of love poems but the gender of the person it's addressed to is usually ambiguous. and taylor has had plenty of female love interests and written stuff about those relationships, but there are other works that almost seem to be about his (ex) friends???

for example, he's got this one former friend— and they had a falling-out, but it happened off-screen so no one's really sure what happened— who is obsessed with Wuthering Heights. Like, he has a tattoo of Catherine and Heathcliff, and his social media accounts have some reference to Wuthering Heights in the url. After the two had their falling out, taylor wrote a poem using Wuthering Heights as a metaphor for a failing relationship?? and like. he even mentions "green eyes" in the poem, and this friend has green eyes? like i know it's nothing solid, but it's just a little suspicious.

but even more, taylor used to have this friend named charlie, and the two of them were SUPER close. like they were roommates at one point. and they too had a falling out (again, off-screen). then taylor wrote a poem that specifically mentioned something that the two did together: "I drew a heart on your wrist in Sharpie." and i'm sitting here like, taylor literally drew a heart on charlie's wrist, like, three episodes ago. there are other things, too, like how the two of them were photographed kissing at a concert?? but the show never brought this up, and never clarified one way or another if they were in a relationship??? there are a bunch of other things in taylor's love poetry and short stories that seem to allude to charlie, too, but nothing is ever direct.

then, like a long time later, taylor performed a slam poem about gay rights while dressed in the bisexual colors (blue jacket, purple shirt, pink pants), but when asked why he chose to do that, he said that he just "respect[ed] the community a lot" without saying whether he was part of it or not. btw, a bunch of the proceeds from that episode went to the Trevor Project.

not long after that episode aired, it was time for a pride episode, and this one famous designer posted a picture of a rainbow suit and captioned the picture something like "you'll never guess who on Make It Big is going to be wearing this in the new episode!" then, when the episode aired, this other character Lainey, who we HAVE KNOWN WAS A LESBIAN SINCE THE EPISODE IN WHICH SHE FIRST APPEARED, was wearing the suit. The problem was that part of the suit was body-colored mesh that would only work with someone who had fair skin. Lainey is black, and the suit didn't fit her properly. Somebody posted a tiktok about the situation a while ago theorizing the outfit had been made for taylor instead, and the guy who designed the suit dueted the tiktok drinking a cup of tea.

there has also been some gender stuff in taylor's poetry? like, for example, he wrote a poem called "The Two of Us are Maidens," in which the speaker was presumably himself. He's also written "from the perspective of women," like in the poem "Tommy," where he waxes poetic about kissing a man.

the nail in the coffin for me was him writing in a poem that he "used to love a friend of Dorothy." for anyone who doesn't know, "friend of Dorothy" is a queer dog whistle meaning "queer person."

but there's been even more questionable stuff. these are just some examples. so, like, I assume he's bi.

Meanwhile, other people in the (small) fandom get really upset at people who think taylor might like guys, saying that it's an invasion of his privacy and assuming anyone's sexuality is weird— even though they all assume he's straight.

what do y'all think? is this queerbaiting?

[moonssugar]

10, 16, & 20 for the pride asks please! :)

20. Have your ocs helped you in self discovery? How?

lets start off with 20 because its defintely the funniest lmaoooo

my main character sam is transmasc (a trans boy) and my tertiary protag is a lesbian (aubry) and she discovers this as the story goes out and let me to tell you there is nothing more hilarious than 1. writing and thinking extensively about how your character is a lesbian and pouring so much into that while being in total denial about yourself and 2. discovering even more about your own inwards trans feelings by giving your transmasc oc 90% of your personality and also through metaphor and symbolism by making a lot of the story a trans analogy. but wait, the character i see the most of myself in, sam, is transmasc but aubry, the second character i see so much of myself in, is a lesbian so how can these seemingly contradictory things be true simultaneously you ask? well it turns out that im a transmasc lesbian. who couldve saw that coming, right? (me. i saw this coming). still the funniest fucking thing about me like "yeah go ahead and tell yourself a story and accidently awaken something in yourself, this will be so funny and cool" and honestly it is so cool! one of the most writing things ive ever done

10. Does your oc celebrate Pride? How?

yes they do! sam has been to a local pride parade/event at some point with his parents (who are bi4bi). he also has a trans flag hanging up in his room that dual functions as a symbol of pride and also a window curtain that turns his room pink and blue at certain times of the day (its intentional). chelsie celebrates pride as well, mostly through self expression like with her clothing and style but she loves pride events too and collecting little pride themed objects that end up in random places. i feel like chelsie's way of celebrating pride is chaotic and spontaneous which suits her. both of them have pride themed bracelets and backpack pins, you know the baby queer stuff i love (i still love the baby queer stuff idc) and sam has trans, bi and rainbow themed tie dye shirts he made and loves to wear. aubry has never seen any pride flag or been to an event and she didnt even know gay people existed as well people and not the boogyman or theoretical person she heard about in church until she realized she was gay and met other queer people (and she literally has two dads LOL). but once she does she cant get enough of rainbows and the lesbian flag which in the alternate universe world where shes from no one knows its meant to symbolize queerness. so she gets to walk around with flags and colors that no one recognizes except her and her family. its hilarious, its her own "no one knows im a lesbian" pin. they just think shes from a different country or something (where all the pretty girls are from). sam and chelsie gifted her a lesbian flag through their mail system once she returned home and she cherishes it. mostly, i'd say my characters celebrate pride through living, being who they want to be and uplifting each other amd they love their glitter, music, make up, tie dye shirts, flags and rainbows too

16. Did you ever change an oc's identity when they were already established? Why?

my character's queer identities have been pretty solid since inception and through their development, its one of the things that have changed the least about them. sam used to be some flavor of trans/nonbinary but there are other nonbinary characters in my story now and sam ids with transmasc the most instead of nonbinary. chelsie has always been transfem as far as i can remember although i mightve imagined her cis one single time and then said "nah im gonna trans your gender no way in hell youre cis" when i didnt feel connected to her characterization [transgenderfication beam]. and aubry has remained gay as hell even as she started off as a completely different person that split into two then i used one half of the personality, refurbished it by gave it some religious trauma, pining and autism to create modern aubry then used the other half for something else. everyone else's personalities have started at the surface level idea of who i think they are and deepened and complexified from there and thats even more intricate than i could describe in one sitting and not always specifically about their queer identity

oh i almost forgot! one character (benjamin, aubry's father) has a bi panic awakening after he went through life identifying as gay and instead of a guy being the source of the panic it was aubry's mother (valid, i'd panic if i saw her too). his character started off as gay but aubry didn't hatch from a magic egg or grow from a pumpkin in a patch or fall to earth like a shooting start (amos's many joke versions of the birds and bees, amos is married to benjamin and is her dad #2) so i needed an explanation for that. he also discovers he's polyamorous in the process so good for him! other characters have become noticeably less cis over time but were already kinda gender weird to begin with if i squinted hard enough. like are you really cis if im writing you? be fr

also, sam's parents in my mind

[dualumina]

Pride asks: 1, 10, 14 <- specifically with there being two of you have you impacted each other?

Pride Asks!

...warning it's quite lengthy

1. Which labels do you use?

For the sake of not needing to explain it twice, we essentially have two sets of labels each. One set that we use publicly, and one set that's literally between only ourselves. Why? The simple answer is that most people like to wrap their head around something definitive, something they can understand in a single sentence or less. Gay, Bi, Non-binary, etc. being examples of that. Our "private" labels are as nuanced as we want them to be because we don't have to worry about putting them into words for others to understand.

Most of the time, today is an exception.

Also just because it ties in more with the last question, sexuality and romance will be covered there.

Clay - Private label would be masculine-leaning non-binary. However, as I want to avoid people treating me as an "it" or some variation of an object, or just perceiving me as even more abstract than my existence already entails, my public label is thus simply a boy.

Dual - Private label would be feminine agender, mainly because there's no need to defy femininity norms when it's in the mind. Just as Clay can look however he wants within the mind, I can likewise "see" how I'd most want myself to look like, and I recognize both the lack of gender and the keenly present feminine traits. Unfortunately, people tend to latch onto what is there instead of what isn't. As a sort of pushback, my public label is a trans feminine boy. It illustrates that I don't connect with my body's initial gender enough to get the point that I want across.

10. Something that gives you gender euphoria

Clay - Uhh.. Dual's voice after the hormone treatments, I guess? I can "take over" using certain parts of the body if we're both feeling up to it (it takes a lot more effort than it's worth for doing daily tasks) and I had the worst time with speaking directly because I would freeze up after hearing the shocking disconnect between the voice I was able to produce vs the voice I knew was my own. And, well, now it's not exactly how my voice sounds like but it's quite close, and I think if we bothered to practice it could get better.

Dual - I can't do much about my hips considering they're bone and all, but after the chest surgery wearing skin-tight shirts feels really rewarding now. Even if most days we don't leave the house we're just in baggy pyjama t-shirts due to them being more comfortable.

14. How do you think other factors like neurodivergency or upbringing have impacted your identity?

Clay - Both of us initially assumed that I was asexual (we weren't familiar with what aromantic was at the time but in retrospect we also assumed I was that). It would only be years down the road when it was realized that oh wait, actually I'm demi-sex/rom. Given how infrequently I become close with others (plurality is often accepted less than any label under the LGBT+ umbrella, so.. our default for awhile was to hide it) and I might as well have been/be ace.

Shocking no one ever that Dual was the first person I became close to, navigating that aspect of demi-sex/romness was an interesting time to say the least, especially considering they were dating someone then, even if that relationship wouldn't last much longer.

I think realizing that probably would have transpired earlier if we didn't previously have various rules in place to "keep the peace" as we liked to call it. Intrusive thoughts can be a lot more.. hazardous when your home is thoughts, hence why the rules first existed. But in time they grew outdated, had to be changed, dropped entirely for some cases. Medication helped with the intrusive thoughts part, and we worked on the rest.

We're still nervously waiting to see if we'll get prescribed something at some point that severely limits my existence, but so far fatigue (that's experienced by both of us) has been the main albeit temporary detriment some medications have caused.

It's worth mentioning but I knew off the bat that I was male in some way, whether that's related to Dual's disconnect with their birth gender is something we're not entirely sure of. There were some polls done in the Reddit tulpa community several years ago that showed most tulpas are the opposite gender to their host, but I don't recall what the stats were for trans hosts.

Dual - Despite never really having been the type of Catholic growing up to spread the word and all that, I did keep certain values drilled into me for a very long time, like various things regarding sex, monogamy, avoiding temptations and the like. So here I was, an at the time cis straight-leaning female, with a guy now constantly around who was allergic to wearing clothes. I had to learn how to get comfortable with certain things real freaking quicker than my crumbling religious beliefs were made for. That's likely what opened up my mind to more progressive mindsets, especially after living in a small town with only one flamboyantly gay guy in my high school.

It's somewhat tricky to pinpoint exactly what sexuality I am, though I'm inclined to say demi-sexual, or androgenosexual, perhaps both. The joke I like to make is that I'm open to dating anyone but it has to be gay. You could be a straight cis anything but if we're dating it must be treated as a gay relationship lol

Can definitely say that the androgenosexual part of that (and likewise beginning to question the whether I wanted to date them or BE them mentality) was influenced by Clay being a painfully evident twink.

Romantic-wise, I wish I was aro. I've yet to be convinced otherwise that being demiromantic is a positive thing, because in my eyes it IS a curse. I want to have close friends and not worry that maybe I'll start developing feelings for them, potentially jeopardizing the friendship. This might be tied into the aforementioned religious beliefs about temptation, but it's more complicated than that. I don't believe all demiromantics are cursed, but in my own experiences completely separate from Clay, it's never gone well.

I recently learned that ADHD can, not only cause hyper fixations for fictional media, but also likewise bring about similar hyper fixations towards crushes.

Which unfortunately, explains a lot.

So while I know why these feelings happen, it doesn't change how intense they can be at times, how the impulsivity of ADHD means that sometimes I might do or say things I'll end up dreading after the fact, even if the other person doesn't think twice about it.

I know how creepy it can be to be on the receiving end of what could be considered obsessive behavior, so I'm actively monitoring myself around certain people, which incidentally was something I felt the need to do around Clay in the past. The only positive aspect of being an ADHD demiromantic is that hyper fixations come and go... I just need to actively suffocate myself until then.

It's one of the few things about myself I wish I could radically change. Maybe this isn't quite demiromanticness, but I can certainly say that it has only happened with people I consider to be friends.

[sariels-world-ella]

I don't know if any one cares or relates to this or needs to hear this or not, but, don't you just get a bit irritated when someone from the older generation says, "don't do/say *insert thing here* because the other kids would make fun of you!" I get they are trying to look out for us but..

1. I don't care what the other kids think, if they have a problem with it, they can f*ck off, my identity is not determined by someone else's opinion.

and..

2. A lot of things changed since they were kids, times change.

Like, a boy kissed his boyfriend in the hallway and everyone around them reacted no different than if it was a straight couple, a goth girl wore a pastel gothic lesbian pride flag outfit completed with make up, there is a cishet boy wears dresses and skirts everyday, there is some boys wear make up, there exists openly trans students and people both respect their pronouns and chosen names, there is minority clubs where minority group students (+minority group supporters) interact, there is a gay-straight alliance club, there is literal pride flags around the school, gender neutral bathrooms.

I've seen people wearing shirts saying how they support autistic people, I also seen shirts supporting people epilepsy, down-syndrome, mental health issues, depression, and I have also seen people supporting "my body, my rules", "Black lives matter", (ps. I put them in qoutes because these are phrases, and not for disrespectful reasons), also students advocating to help lower homelessness and poverty in our state, as well as awareness about child abuse and human trafficking.

I've seen plenty of students who are openly gay/lesbian, trans, queer, bi, pan, aro, ace, neurodivergent, religious/non-religious, you name it, walking around the school like any other student, no one gives them crap, they wear and express their pride flags, religious symbols, racial identity pride, autism swag, and/or pronoun pins all they want.

(If you don't believe me, I can provide photographic proof, however, there may not be many pictures of people themselves out of respect for privacy and if there is, all their faces would be blurred unless they consent to having their face on the internet)

Things change, I bet if a lot of these things happened back when the older population were kids, those people would be harrassed and bullied. Yeah, sure, these type of people still exist, but a good amount of the younger population is trying to move us forward.

Though it's not everywhere, acceptance does exist, just because some people don't accept you for who you are doesn't mean there is no one who will. If someone doesn't love you for who you are, then they don't deserve you. Your identity is your own, people can try to invalidate it all they want but only person who can TRULY invalidate your identity is yourself.

Don't people get to you, and be yourself. If someone is making you so you aren't comfortable in your own skin, then tell them to screw off and for them to worry about their own identity.

Tl;DR

Times change don't let the people stuck in how past was like, stop you from having a better future. No matter who you are or where you come from, (as long as your not the scum of the earth, ex: a p*dophile), you matter! your identity is yours, only you have the power to disvalidate it, don't give that power to others. Keep on going, I believe in you! ♥️

[corkywantstowrite]

for Eithne:

"I don't think about her as much, not anymore."

relatively loosely. She views anybody who's kind to her a friend.

Rarely. Eithne disguises her grief with humour, or reminiscing on older, happier times. In reality, she needs to let it all out and grieve.

She used to write poetry. She tried to again, but it was all about her mother so she gave it up. Perhaps Margot will incite something again.

She cannot cry on command, but if she thinks too hard about her mum, something will probably happen.

Her favourite chocolate bar is a crunchie. She's never recommended it because she doesn't want anybody else to steal them from chocolate selection boxes. Also, she doesn't go around recommending chocolate very often.

If I yell 'MARGOT NEEDS YOU.' loud enough she'll quite literally fly. If Margot yells literally anything, she'll get the same result.

I was trying to think of the best way to sum this up in my answer to question 2. Eithne uses the term 'friend' very loosely, but she's strict with how deep that friendship goes. Yes, she could consider somebody a friend, but her love for them is not as nonchalant. She uses 'I love you' carefully.

She gives gentle love, but has been around tough love her whole life. Maybe that's why.

She can speak a bit of Irish. (More than me...)

'Why are you afraid of snakes?' (On a school trip to the zoo aged 9, a snake escaped from an enclosure whilst Eithne and her friends were in the reptile room. She looked down, and it was right next to her foot. Her life flashed before her eyes before the zookeeper told her it was harmless...)

Margot's attempts at Mario Kart.

At the start of the novel, a lot. She stops faking so much when people point out that feeling inconsolable about her loss is normal, and she doesn't need to hide it. She needs people to tell her it's okay to let her guard down.

A little half-hearted blow that doesn't work, followed by another one that fails, followed by standing directly over it, holding her hair back, and blowing on it for ten seconds straight.

At work she has the classic 'customer service' voice, and her English accent is more prominent. Anywhere else, she's a lot more fast talking and more Irish than English. (Born in England but raised by two Irish parents, so her accent's all over the place at times, like me but I'm less Irish.)

She definitely thinks through things to say to Vincent before she fights him. She also thinks of past customers she wishes she was ruder to but couldn't be.

Her gap in her two front teeth. Most people notice her eyes.

Margot. Margot could throw someone under a car in front of her and she'd help her hide the body.

Try and distract with a funny quip like "wow, bet you wish it was someone else, huh?" then she'd get something thrown at her.

She thinks Hugh Jackman is chill but Margot made her watch 'The Greatest Showman' and now she can't watch any of his other movies because it brings flashbacks of him in a top-hat. She loves Titanic but can't stand Leo Dicap.

Asking to be excused from a table. No, she won't do it. What is she? Five?

Going into an attic. Climbing an untrustworthy ladder into a dark, cold room filled with nostalgic items and spiderwebs? NO.

Wishing harm upon Killian. Beating her up, etc. Killian's used to it.

Of course. It was a chocolate digestive.

Female poets. Emily Dickinson especially.

Call her uncle and tell him to plead with his wife.

Her dad bought her a 'bi-fi signal' t-shirt when she first came out. It made her cringe but he looked so happy that she wears it to every pride event she attends.

She tells people she wants revenge. Really, she just wants someone to blame, and someone to listen to her.

"Yeah, sounds about right."

If she messes up at work, for example, and gives someone the wrong key or doesn't schedule them in for something, she usually doesn't feel a whole lot of guilt because they overreact over a simple mistake. When it's personal, she stresses that they'll take it to heart. She feels a lot of guilt even when they don't.

Sort of a spoiler here, but she feels a lot of guilt when she realises that if she was in Vincent's position, she would want the same things too. She feels guilt when she realises she can be selfish.

Beeped a horn for a reason other than alerting traffic. In her defence, the person in front of her had a 'honk if you're gay' sticker.

"Oh my God, Hi!" squeaky voice, gritted teeth, crazy eyes. Or a death glare and nothing else.

"Hey," peaceful, relaxed. Comfortable.

... murder. JK JK JK. Snooping around through other's things. Regularly.

Her aunt. PFFT. Otherwise she'd be out of a job.

She's absolutely terrified of losing them, to the point she'd suffer even if she was unhappy because she doesn't want to be alone.

Once again, the poetry. The idea of someone finding the poems she wrote aged 13 with the poorly hidden lines about girls is enough to kill her.

Excluded if not wanted, but mostly so she can turn up anyway.

"Did I just fail at a handshake? Something that is possible and normal to be upset about?"

Biting her thumb nail when bored. Her mum used to do it too.

Losing a parent young. The title would be some kind of pun.

(This is all I'm going to do for now)

WEIRDLY SPECIFIC BUT HELPFUL CHARACTER BUILDING QUESTIONS

What’s the lie your character says most often?

How loosely or strictly do they use the word ‘friend’?

How often do they show their genuine emotions to others versus just the audience knowing?

What’s a hobby they used to have that they miss?

Can they cry on command? If so, what do they think about to make it happen?

What’s their favorite [insert anything] that they’ve never recommended to anyone before?

What would you (mun) yell in the middle of a crowd to find them? What would their best friend and/or romantic partner yell?

How loose is their use of the phrase ‘I love you’?

Do they give tough love or gentle love most often? Which do they prefer to receive?

What fact do they excitedly tell everyone about at every opportunity?

If someone was impersonating them, what would friends / family ask or do to tell the difference?

What’s something that makes them laugh every single time? Be specific!

When do they fake a smile? How often?

How do they put out a candle?

What’s the most obvious difference between their behavior at home, at work, at school, with friends, and when they’re alone?

What kinds of people do they have arguments with in their head?

What do they notice first in the mirror versus what most people first notice looking at them?

Who do they love truly, 100% unconditionally (if anyone)?

What would they do if stuck in a room with the person they’ve been avoiding?

Who do they like as a person but hate their work? Vice versa, whose work do they like but don’t like the person?

What common etiquette do they disagree with? Do they still follow it?

What simple activity that most people do / can do scares your character?

What do they feel guilty for that the other person(s) doesn’t / don’t even remember?

Did they take a cookie from the cookie jar? What kind of cookie was it?

What subject / topic do they know a lot about that’s completely useless to the direct plot?

How would they respond to being fired by a good boss?

What’s the worst gift they ever received? How did they respond?

What do they tell people they want? What do they actually want?

How do they respond when someone doesn’t believe them?

When they make a mistake and feel bad, does the guilt differ when it’s personal versus when it’s professional?

When do they feel the most guilt? How do they respond to it?

If they committed one petty crime / misdemeanor, what would it be? Why?

How do they greet someone they dislike / hate?

How do they greet someone they like / love?

What is the smallest, morally questionable choice they’ve made?

Who do they keep in their life for professional gain? Is it for malicious intent?

What’s a secret they haven’t told serious romantic partners and don’t plan to tell?

What hobby are they good at in private, but bad at in front of others? Why?

Would they rather be invited to an event to feel included or be excluded from an event if they were not genuinely wanted there?

How do they respond to a loose handshake? What goes through their head?

What phrases, pronunciations, or mannerisms did they pick up from someone / somewhere else?

If invited to a TED Talk, what topic would they present on? What would the title of their presentation be?

What do they commonly misinterpret because of their own upbringing / environment / biases? How do they respond when realizing the misunderstanding?

What language would be easiest for them to learn? Why?

What’s something unimportant / frivolous that they hate passionately?

Are they a listener or a talker? If they’re a listener, what makes them talk? If they’re a talker, what makes them listen?

Who have they forgotten about that remembers them very well?

Who would they say ‘yes’ to if invited to do something they abhorred / strongly didn’t want to do?

Would they eat something they find gross to be polite?

What belief / moral / personality trait do they stand by that you (mun) personally don’t agree with?

What’s a phrase they say a lot?

Do they act on their immediate emotions, or do they wait for the facts before acting?

Who would / do they believe without question?

What’s their instinct in a fight / flight / freeze / fawn situation?

What’s something they’re expected to enjoy based on their hobbies / profession that they actually dislike / hate?

If they’re scared, who do they want comfort from? Does this answer change depending on the type of fear?

What’s a simple daily activity / motion that they mess up often?

How many hobbies have they attempted to have over their lifetime? Is there a common theme?

[piperslovebot]

🏳️‍🌈Michael Kelso

Headcanon for their sexuality: I used to see him as pan (still kinda do ngl) but now leaning towards bi.

Have they came out? If so, how: I could honestly just see him blurting it out in a conversation.

How their friends/family took their coming out: His parents were cool with it. They actually knew the whole time. Casey, for all his obnoxiousness, is actually pretty supportive. Same thing with Chris (his other older brother) and even thought he’d be a good role model to Layla (Chris’ daughter). Alex didn’t get it at first but wanted her brother to be happy. Elaina knew and thought that he was dating Fez the whole time and not Jackie lol. His friends were cool with it. Brooke was also very supportive.

Do they go to Pride/With whom? His friends and family.

Do they show their colors? (Flag-wise): yes! Kelso goes pretty all out with it. He wears a shirt in the bi colors along with literal flags in those colors.

[indigogirled]

omg hiiiii babe how was ur day did u have fun at pride <3

also it's like 11 where u live GO TO BED AND SLEEP WELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PRIDE WAS SO FUN i’m exhausted 🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🤰🤰

[armyhoned]

on the valentine’s display in our school, all the bigger paper hearts were pride flag hearts (bi, pride, trans, nonbinary). in my class of 18 people of vastly different ages and backgrounds, there are two out trans people, one woman and one whose gender i’ve not asked about. (also me, but, you know. gestures to a closet.)

have i mentioned how much i adore living in a city again

[varilien]

saiyan pride!  ba-dum-tsh

[jennwritespokemon]

Sexuality/Gender Headcannons for Pokemon Shield Characters:

*This kind of devolves into some ships I like towards the Leon/Raihan section, so let me know if you'd like to see some specific content for them.

*I'd love to hear your theories/headcannons in reblogs or the comments!

Gym Leaders

Milo

Has only ever dated women, but would be open to dating men

Homoflexible or Pansexual mayhaps?

Once someone explained what Demisexual means he realized that it clicked with him

He/Him pronouns

Does his best to remember people's pronouns

Occasionally wears a He/Him pronoun pin that Kabu got him

(probably wrote a list somewhere so he wouldn't forget)

Profusely apologizes if he gets them wrong (not in a fake ally kind of way)

Nessa

She gives me mean bisexual vibes and I won't be elaborating as to why

(It's probably because she could step on me and I'd thank her BUT I DIGRESS ANYWAY)

She/Her?

Doesn't mind They/Them but she doesn't hear them much so she doesn't think about it

Bisexual w/a preference for women

Will scream at someone who misgenders her friends/partner

Kabu

Straight

He/Him

ONE OF THE FIERCEST ALLIES YOU WILL EVER MEET

Would start an organization among the gym leaders to encourage conversations about gender/sexuality in a safe space

Encourages his gym trainers to wear pronoun pins, and wears a He/Him pronoun pin everywhere

He's the guy at pride wearing a "Free Dad Hugs" tshirt

(He cried when he got the shirt as a gift from one of the other gym trainers he works with)

Will put time and effort into researching the different genders/sexualities that exist now to make sure he's up to date

(Like Milo) also has a list of people's pronouns so he wouldn't forget

Allister

*I won't be going too far into this since he's a child but I still wanted to include him

They/He

Some flavor of nonbinary, I think.

Asexual/Aromantic?

Bede

He/They

You're going to look me in the eye and tell me that man is straight? Absolutely not.

Some sorta gay.

*My friend had a headcannon that he's asexual/Aromantic, and he convinced himself that he's so superior to everyone else and thats why he's not attracted to people.

Melony

Used to be casually homophobic, but is working on being a better ally once she learned more about the LGBTQ+ community

She/Her

At some point realizes that she's always liked women, and just has never explored the concept

Kinda has a "What do you mean not everyone daydreamed about kissing girls as a kid?" Moment.

Eventually comes out as bisexual

Piers

He/They, wants to look more into neopronouns to see if they fit

Demisexual and Panromantic

Doesn't really put a label on his romantic attraction, but uses Panromantic if someone asks

A very easy person to come out to, and is extremely supportive

Performs at Pride every year, without fail

(Probably hosts a smaller pride event for Spikemuth w/Marnie every year too)

Has a pronoun pin on his jacket

Pretty good at remembering pronouns, and will correct someone if needed

Will beat the piss out of someone who's being a homophobe/transphobe without a second thought (and has done so multiple times)

Marnie

She/They

Lesbian & Demisexual

Piers got her a pronoun pin & a lesbian pride pin that she wears on her jacket

(Will also beat the shit out of a homophobe/transphobe if they're bothering her or her partner)

Raihan

He/Him

He gives me bi man whore vibes

Like, give him a drop of alcohol and he'll flirt with anything with a pulse good God

He definately has gotten hit on by so many people that he thought, "Hmm, this increases my odds of getting laid. Why not?" Ya know?

Definately has flirted w/Leon and claims he was joking at the time.

Spoiler alert: He wasn't joking

He goes all out for pride in terms of his outfit, and will post about it on social media

Avery

He/They for the most part

Definately nonbinary to some degree, maybe genderfluid?

Panromantic Asexual...?

His time at the dojo gave him time away from his family to learn more about himself and who he wants to be; Not who his family wants him to be.

Mans is literally decked out in rainbows on a daily basis; C'mon now.

A concept I thought of:

Some Rando: Whats your gender?

Avery: I don't have one.

Rando: Gender is whats in your pants.

Avery: MY GENDER IS ELEGANCE BITCH-

Other Main Characters

Hop

He/Him pronouns

(I've seen some people headcannon him as a Trans man, which isn't something I've thought about but I could see it tbh)

(Similar to Milo) Has only ever dated women, but is open to the idea of dating men if the opportunity presented itself.

I think he just loves people as they are, so gender wouldn't matter too much to him

Panromantic demisexual

Helps Kabu run a pride organization, and keeps him updated on what's going on in the LGBT+ community

Leon

He/Him pronouns

Thinks he's straight for a long time

Mostly because of his job as champion, he never really had the time to do a deep dive into his sexuality. He also didn't want to think otherwise out of fear that it would ruin his reputation.

He gets a lil too tipsy one night w/Raihan and starts seeing him in a different light for the first time.

(Well, the first time that he's willing to admit to.)

Like, damn. Has his eyes always been that bright? Or has his smile always made Leon's heart beat out of his chest? What the hell is going on?

Turns out he'd been thinking out loud, and Raihan explained to him that he might be bisexual or pansexual. (While also jokingly saying something like, "How could you not be attracted to me.")

This took a huge weight off Leon's chest and helped him be more comfortable exploring his sexuality

Later figures out that he identifies as bi

Hop is the first person he comes out to officially (and they both cry.... a lot.)

Sonia

She/Her

Bi

(She figured out she was bi when she was a younger teenager)

(That may or may not have been when she realized that she was VERYYY gay for Nessa)

[dallysnecklace]

The Gang in MLM Relationships

Doing this bc PRIDE and this movie is so fucking queercoded

Dallas

Dallas is bisexual!

He met you at Bucks one night, he smelt your cologne as you were walking past and was OBSESSED.

Y’all played pool, and you won $50 bucks along with a wild night

When you guys started dating he was very careful about being in public, but also loved to be sneaky

His hand in your back pocket is something that happens at all times

He loves playing with your hair or necklaces

This man will go SO feral if you don’t wear a shirt

Y’all share clothes A LOT

Buck hit on you once and that ended in him getting a black eye

He gives you his skull ring

He introduces you to gang, and if any teasing happens at all, he will yell at them and so will Darry

He thinks your SUPER HOT and is not afraid to show you off by fucking slapping your ass in public 😭😭

He’s VERY forward with how he feels about you, and is very pleased that he is one of the few people who can truly make you blush

All in all this man thinks your the most attractive person ever and NEEDS to be with you at all times

Ponyboy

Pony is gay!

He met you at school

You signed up for peer tutoring, and you were tutoring other kids in your grade

Your a soc

You met Pony through tutoring and immediately clicked

You guys share a lot of interests, reading, writing, cooking, watching films

You often will read to him while he lays between your legs with his head on your chest

This guy is so in love with you

Darry and Soda love you, and think of you as another brother

Dallas yells at you after he figured out you were dating

He just wanted to make sure you were treating Pony right

You most definitely are

Sodapop

Soda thought he was straight untill one day he saw you pull into the DX with a black ford, raybans sunglasses, and a clean white wifebeater tucked into some slacks

He literally drooled at the mouth

He ended up sweet talking you and asking you to hang out later that night

Y’all are both cocky attractive mfs, so your constantly fighting over who’s hotter

He always says you

He’s very wary about being seen with you in public. He’s not fully out and feels scared being so.

He loves to do your hair for you

You eventually start working at the DX with him and he is SO happy about this

Whenever girls come and flirt with him or you, y’all will make eye contact and start bursting out laughing

Y’all are very cute together and literally a power couple

Johnny

Johnny is pan with a preference for guys

Ponyboy set yall up on a blind date at the dingo

Ever since then you guys have been attached at the hip

Johnny’s love language is acts of service so he’s constantly doing things for you

You try to tell him he doesn’t need to do everything but he insists

He’s very loving, and very caring, and is always looking out for you

If you call him pretty he will blush all different kinds of red

You were the first guy he ever was with so you had to kinda help him to become comfortable dating a guy

He felt bad but you were very understanding

He loves cuddles, and needs to be little spoon

The gang loves you

You let Johnny stay over at your place often because of his situation

Your out to your parents, and your parents absolutely LOVE Johnny

He thinks you are so beautiful, and will constantly let you know

You call him John :)

He calls you darling

You are INCREDIBLY cute together

Darry

Darry is bi with a preference for women

Darry met you at work, he saw you without your shirt on lifting heavy roofs and was VERY attracted

You guys knew eachother but he didn’t look at you like that untill that day

You guys started to hang out often, and you would come to over to meet the gang a lot

Once you guys started dating, you became the parents for the gang

Which you don’t mind

You love cooking especially

Darry loves when you give him back rubs or shoulder rubs, it’s very relaxing

Darry is very stressed and feels like a burden a lot

He’s actually pretty insecure

He really only opens up to you and you always are there to comfort him no matter what

He cares for you so much, and always wants to make sure your safe

Expect a call every day and notes left in your clothes once he cleans them for you

He’s such a romantic

Loves to cook dinner dates for y’all

He’s literally the perfect bf

Steve

Steve is questioning

He’s not the one to really be in a relationship (imo)

But you guys are kinda fiends with benefits

You guys met a drag race and hit it off

There’s a lot of chemistry which Steve hasn’t experienced with a man

He’s really attached to you, and wants to hang out all the time

He thinks your very pretty

Every time you guys hang out he always makes sure your happy and feeling safe

He eventually wants to be in a committed relationship with you

He’s scared to let you know but he does eventually and you’re super happy

Your such a couple and super cute together

Two-bit

Idk this man just gives me the ultimate straight vibes I am so sorry 😭😭

BUT

i do hc him as a trans male, FTM and he’s very proud of his chest surgery scars, he loves not wearing a shirt!

The reason why he always wears his sideburns is bc he’s very proud of that facial hair he’s been able to grow :)