#allfeelingsarevalid

[letstalkbeautyuk]

It is mental health awareness week in May & we have some lovely badges for you to wear, if you are taking part, raising awareness or attending an event

[arshbrarr]

You are not alone

You know when it comes to our feelings , how we feel we are all alone and no one really sees us for who we are and we always question ourselves why me? Why does this always happens to me? The reason is we don't always sit with our feelings, we don't always accept them and we never give ourselves the benefit of the doubt that it is okay to feel whatever we are feeling. We always fail to tell ourselves that whatever I am feeling is terrible and it doesn't make sense but, who says you can't accept yourself for feeling your feelings. It's about you, your acceptance, not the world around you. People will only see you for how you see yourself. Feelings of sadness might not be the best feeling , honestly, at one point I used to feel it's the worst feeling in the world but, now I think at the end of the day it's just a feeling and it doesn't define us. We are so much more than just our feelings. Honestly, in this season of my life I have realized that feelings teach us acceptance, pain teaches us to accept people for who they are , without judgements. Honestly, if we start seeing and feel things just as "feelings" and "emotions" there would be so much gratitude around us. We just have to learn to accept pain and sadness as we accept happiness and joy.

[yourmentalhealthmatters-blog1]

Mental Health Awareness Mental illness is a major global health issue. In the United States alone the National Institutes for Health reports that nearly 44 million adults (18%) experience mental illness per year. Raising awareness and increasing the understanding of mental health can change the way society views and responds to this complex issue.

[responsiveparenting]

What do I do if my older child is struggling to calm down? We all need help with co-regulation sometimes. If I feel like my child may be quite stuck in their sadness/anger/frustration.... I may ask “would you like my help to calm down or do you need more time to be sad/angry/frustrated?” If they choose help..... I may offer a hug first and then suggest activities they enjoy. Sometimes we do positive affirmations, breathing exercises, mindfulness activities, playing outside, building, art, writing, reading and imaginary play. If they say they need more time.... I may say “do you want me to stay with you or would you like some time alone?” If they say they would like time alone..... I may say “ok, I’ll just be downstairs. Let me know if you need anything.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #schoolage #emotionalintelligence #compassionateparenting #allfeelingsarevalid #coregulation #selfreg #calmingtools #holdspace #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #motherhood #parenthood #momlife #dadlife #parentlife #allthefeelsareok #healingjourney #parents #loveyourkids #parentingwithlove #childledlearning #allyouneedislove #attachmenttheory #childhood #fatherhood #mentalhealthmatters #parentingsupport https://www.instagram.com/p/CYjcTBuL0HP/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

What do I do if my older child is struggling to calm down? We all need help with co-regulation sometimes. If I feel like my child may be quite stuck in their sadness/anger/frustration.... I may ask “would you like my help to calm down or do you need more time to be sad/angry/frustrated?” If they choose help..... I may offer a hug first and then suggest activities they enjoy. Sometimes we do positive affirmations, breathing exercises, mindfulness activities, playing outside, building, art, writing, reading and imaginary play. If they say they need more time.... I may say “do you want me to stay with you or would you like some time alone?” If they say they would like time alone..... I may say “ok, I’ll just be downstairs. Let me know if you need anything.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #schoolage #emotionalintelligence #compassionateparenting #allfeelingsarevalid #coregulation #selfreg #calmingtools #holdspace #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #holistichome https://www.instagram.com/responsive_parenting/p/CX95bXjLrbU/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

What do I do if my older child is struggling to calm down? We all need help with co-regulation sometimes. If I feel like my child may be quite stuck in their sadness/anger/frustration.... I may ask “would you like my help to calm down or do you need more time to be sad/angry/frustrated?” If they choose help..... I may offer a hug first and then suggest activities they enjoy. Sometimes we do positive affirmations, breathing exercises, mindfulness activities, playing outside, building, art, writing, reading and imaginary play. If they say they need more time.... I may say “do you want me to stay with you or would you like some time alone?” If they say they would like time alone..... I may say “ok, I’ll just be downstairs. Let me know if you need anything.” J. Milburn Looking for co-regulation exercises you can do with your child? Go to the link in my bio to get a printable pack of co-regulation activities you can do with your child @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #schoolage #emotionalintelligence #compassionateparenting #allfeelingsarevalid #coregulation #selfreg #calmingtools #holdspace #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #holistichome https://www.instagram.com/p/CVEVOfHg5Z8/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Today was a hard day. Just feeling the weight of others judgements. Questioning my worth and integrity. Then seeking support and only finding barriers. So instead I wrote, I cried, I told myself I was worthy, I told myself I was not giving myself enough credit for all the good I do. I realized it’s hard for me to accept the love and appreciation I get from others so I tend to only see the negative. Well then I think I’m failing!! 🤦‍♀️ After my profound moment of insight and self-love, I tried again. I reached out to those who love me. Then I did some yoga in the gazebo. I just thought there might be someone else out there having a hard day too. I just want you to know you’re not alone, although you may feel immense loneliness. You are enough, you always have been enough and you always will be enough ❤️ J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #allfeelingsarevalid #selflovejourney https://www.instagram.com/p/CUWJ4x2MLCl/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

What do I do if my older child is struggling to calm down? We all need help with co-regulation sometimes. If I feel like my child may be quite stuck in their sadness/anger/frustration.... I may ask “would you like my help to calm down or do you need more time to be sad/angry/frustrated?” If they choose help..... I may offer a hug first and then suggest activities they enjoy. Sometimes we do positive affirmations, breathing exercises, mindfulness activities, playing outside, building, art, writing, reading and imaginary play. If they say they need more time.... I may say “do you want me to stay with you or would you like some time alone?” If they say they would like time alone..... I may say “ok, I’ll just be downstairs. Let me know if you need anything.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #schoolage #emotionalintelligence #compassionateparenting #allfeelingsarevalid #coregulation #selfreg #calmingtools #holdspace #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #holistichome https://www.instagram.com/p/CS4WRX2LhLo/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

What do I do if my older child is struggling to calm down? We all need help with co-regulation sometimes. If I feel like my child may be quite stuck in their sadness/anger/frustration.... I may ask “would you like my help to calm down or do you need more time to be sad/angry/frustrated?” If they choose help..... I may offer a hug first and then suggest activities they enjoy. Sometimes we do positive affirmations, breathing exercises, mindfulness activities, playing outside, building, art, writing, reading and imaginary play. If they say they need more time.... I may say “do you want me to stay with you or would you like some time alone?” If they say they would like time alone..... I may say “ok, I’ll just be downstairs. Let me know if you need anything.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #schoolage #emotionalintelligence #compassionateparenting #allfeelingsarevalid #coregulation #selfreg #calmingtools #holdspace #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #holistichome https://www.instagram.com/p/CNaeYtLnPt-/?igshid=1alstywuygmq0

[responsiveparenting]

What do I do if my older child is struggling to calm down? We all need help with co-regulation sometimes. If I feel like my child may be quite stuck in their sadness/anger/frustration.... I may ask “would you like my help to calm down or do you need more time to be sad/angry/frustrated?” If they choose help..... I may offer a hug first and then suggest activities they enjoy. Sometimes we do positive affirmations, breathing exercises, mindfulness activities, playing outside, building, art, writing, reading and imaginary play. If they say they need more time.... I may say “do you want me to stay with you or would you like some time alone?” If they say they would like time alone..... I may say “ok, I’ll just be downstairs. Let me know if you need anything.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #schoolage #emotionalintelligence #compassionateparenting #allfeelingsarevalid #coregulation #selfreg #calmingtools #holdspace #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #holistichome https://www.instagram.com/p/CKAxAvunGLb/?igshid=lkt7hqeqiki2

[responsiveparenting]

What do I do if my older child is struggling to calm down? We all need help with co-regulation sometimes. If I feel like my child may be quite stuck in their sadness/anger/frustration.... I may ask “would you like my help to calm down or do you need more time to be sad/angry/frustrated?” If they choose help..... I may offer a hug first and then suggest activities they enjoy. Sometimes we do positive affirmations, breathing exercises, mindfulness activities, playing outside, building, art, writing, reading and imaginary play. If they say they need more time.... I may say “do you want me to stay with you or would you like some time alone?” If they say they would like time alone..... I may say “ok, I’ll just be downstairs. Let me know if you need anything.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #schoolage #emotionalintelligence #compassionateparenting #allfeelingsarevalid #coregulation #selfreg #calmingtools #holdspace #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #holistichome https://www.instagram.com/p/CFMyvLBHlC_/?igshid=qcv53bmkdego

[responsiveparenting]

You are too sensitive!! Has anyone ever said this to you? It does not mean you are too sensitive. That concept is subjective. What it means is they are actually so sensitive that they are uncomfortable holding space for your pain, Those who accuse others of being too sensitive are actually the most sensitive people, of all. Or have you said this to others? If you ever find yourself having that thought, ‘they are so sensitive!' Try to think instead ‘actually, I guess I just don’t understand their pain and that must be hard, to carry pain that others don’t always understand or validate.’ J. Milburn Learn more about how to hold space for your child and yourself in my latest E 📖 👇 Finding Your Calm: Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation This 186 page E 📖 combines my knowledge of child development, brain science and trauma to offer parents a unique resource that includes lots of exercises, reflections, insights and also… links to additional research, articles and videos that can help support your healing and learning journey. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #highlysensitive #highlysensitivepeople #highlysensitivechild #holdingspace #coregulation #selfregulation #sensitivityisastrength #journaling #reflections #motherhood #parentlife #dadlife #ripples #empaths #empathlife #empathetic #awakened #emotions #bigemotions #allthefeels #healinggenerationaltrauma #allfeelingsarevalid #fillyourcup #ableism #triggers #authenticself #selfparenting #itsoktotakeabreak https://www.instagram.com/p/Ca4upuqrjgh/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

"You are too sensitive!!" Has anyone ever said this to you? It does not mean you are too sensitive. That concept is subjective. What it means is they are actually so sensitive that they are uncomfortable holding space for your pain, Those who accuse others of being "'too sensitive" are actually the most sensitive people, of all. Or have you said this to others? If you ever find yourself having that thought; "they are so sensitive!' Try to think instead actually, I guess I just don’t understand their pain and that must be hard, to carry pain that others don’t always understand or validate. J. Milburn Want to learn how to embrace your sensitivity or your child’s? Get the 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice Guided Journal through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #highlysensitive #highlysensitivepeople #highlysensitivechild #holdingspace #coregulation #selfregulation #sensitivityisastrength #journaling #reflections #motherhood #parentlife #dadlife #ripples #empaths #empathlife #empathetic #awakened #emotions #bigemotions #allthefeels #healinggenerationaltrauma #allfeelingsarevalid #fillyourcup #ableism #triggers #authenticself #selfparenting #itsoktotakeabreak https://www.instagram.com/p/CXol4UcrYwu/?utm_medium=tumblr