#akoinsexual

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Lith: Someone who experiences attraction, but doesn't want it reciprocated. They may be uncomfortable with the thought of someone being attracted to them, or they may lose their feelings if they learn it's reciprocated. An aspec identity that is used as a prefix, and can be combined with other identities (lithbisexual, lithpanromantic, etc) or used on its own (lithsexual, lithplatonic, etc). Also known as Litho, Akoi, Akoin, and Ap

[aro-aceplace]

lithromantic/lithsexual come from "stone" terminology for wlw... it makes me uncomfortable to see those used by non wlw. i think they'd be good for aro spec/ace spec wlw though!

Given that this is something that the creators of the term were aware of (while one ID’d as Stone) and who have said that it’s ok for everyone to use as they intended it for everyone, this blog will continue to post about and use that term.

If it makes you uncomfortable to see others using it, I suggest you blacklist the term so you do not see it.

Also, there is a difference between appropriating a word and someone from the the community that the word belongs to deciding to use the term as a way to create a new word that has a very similar concept. It may make you more comfortable to view is not as aspecs just coming in an taking the term to use for themselves, but as two afab queers, one of who which was a Stone, who had this word that already existed and decided to use the word to coin a new one for the entire aspec community to use. 

If you feel uncomfortable using that word you can always use the term  Akoinsexual/ Akoinromantic which is an alternative term for this very reason, but it’s fine for others to use the term Lithromantic/sexual if they so choose.   

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Stolen from @aro-aceplace because I found it online but couldn’t find the original post to reblog.

Aro/Ace Spectrum Orientations

Abrosexual/Abroromantic: Having an orientation or feelings about it that constantly change and cannot be pinned down for this reason.

Aceflux/ Aroflux: When someone’s sexual/ romantic orientation fluctuates but always stays on the aro/ace spectrum.

Acespike/ Arospike: When someone usually doesn’t feeling sexual/romantic attraction but occasionally rapidly skyrockets into intense attraction, then plummeting down to asexuality/aromanticism again.

Acoromantic/Acosexual: Asexual/Aromantic(spec) because of negative past experiences. (similar to Caedromantic/Caedsexual)

Adfecturomantic/Affecturomantic/Adfectual/Adfomantic: Is someone whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency.

Aegosexual/Aegoromantic: Feeling attraction and desire only for situations that do not involve one’s self.

Aliquasexual/ Aliquaromantic: Not normally feeling attraction, but feeling it on occasion under specific circumstances.

Amicussexual/Amicusromantic: When you are only attracted to people you’re also platonically attracted to.

Antisexual/ Antiromantic: Would rather not develop platonic/romantic/sexual feelings for people, but does anyway.

Apressexual/ Apresromantic: Only feeling attraction after another form of attraction is felt.

Aromantic/Asexual: When someone doesn’t feel sexual/ romantic attraction to anyone

Arovague/Acevague: Aromanticism or asexuality that is heavily influenced by neurodiversity (also known as Adfecturomantic / Adfectusexual)

Akoinsexual/ Akoinromantic: When someone feels sexual/ romantic attraction towards others and also enjoys romantic/ sexual relationships in theory, but does not need that affection to be reciprocated. An Akoinsexual/ Akoinromantic person may also experiencing sexual attraction until those feelings are reciprocated.

(Also known as Lithsexual/Lithromantic or Akoisexual/ Akoiromantic)

Apresromantic / Apresexual: An orientation where romantic/sexual attraction is felt only after another type of attraction is formed.

Apothisexual/ Apothiromatic: A specific term for when someone on the asexual/ aromantic spectrum is sex repulsed or romance repulsed. (Also known as ARCsexual/ ARCromantic)

Autochrissexual/ Autochrisromantic: When someone feels sexual arousal/ romantic attraction for something, but from a distance, as if they were someone else, and have no desire to do that thing themselves (Also known as Aegosexual/ Aegoromantic or Autochorrisromantic / Autochorrissexual).

Bellusromantic: When someone is fine with cute fluffy stuff with anyone but doesn’t want a relationship at all.

Burstsexual/ Burstromantic: An orientation where a type of attraction will occur in a sudden burst, then vanish or fade away.

Borearomantic/Boreasexual: an orientation that seems to revolve around one person in particular. (can also be defined as an exception to one’s orientation, ie, someone who identifies as homosexual/homoromantic feeling attraction to someone of a different gender)

Caedromantic/Caedsexual: The feeling that romantic or sexual attraction was taken away due to past trauma -for PTSD and trauma survivors

Casssexual/ Cassromantic: Feeling utterly indifferent to attraction, believing it isn’t important.

Ceasesexual/ Ceaseromantic: Usually being allosexual/romantic, but occasionally having a complete loss of attraction for a period of time before feeling it again.

Cupiosexual/ Cupioromantic: When someone does not experience sexual/ romantic attraction, but still desires a sexual/ romantic relationship. (Also known as kalossexual/ kalosromantic and Icularomantic/ Icularsexual)

Demisexual/ Demiromantic: When someone is only sexually/ romantically attracted to people they already have a strong emotional connection with.

Dreadsexual/ Dreadromantic: An orientation that fluctuates from feeling no attraction to feeling attraction. When attraction is felt, it is accompanied by a strong feeling of dread or anxiety.

Duosexual/ Duoromantic: Having two or more well defined orientations that you switch between (e.g. cupiosexual and fraysexual).

Durasexual/Duraromantic: Rarely experiencing attraction, but when it happens it lasts for a long time.

Fictosexual/ Fictoromantic: When someone only feels sexually/romantically attracted to fictional characters.

Freysexual/ Freyromantic: When Someone is sexualy/ romantically attracted to those they are less familiar with but after a while the “excitement” of meeting the new person dies down and you are perfectly content on just being friends.

Greysexual/ Greyromantic: When someone only feels sexual/ romantic attraction rarely.This term can also be a general term for identifying as somewhere on the aro/ace spectrum.

Lamvanosexual/ Iamvanoromantic: Feeling uncofortable doing sexual/romantic things to someone, but being willing to receive sexual and romantic acts.

Idemromantic: When someone Categorizes relationships and feelings as platonic or romantic but experiences no notable internal differences

Inactoromantic: When someone experiences romantic attraction and wants a romantic relationship but doesn’t like romantic actions. Also known as initiaromantic.

Limnosexual/ Limnoromantic: Attraction only piqued by depictions of acts of attraction (eg drawings or writing), not the acts themselves in real life (similar to fictosexual/ fictoromantic).

Malasexual/Malaromantic: When someone only experiences attraction during maladaptive daydreams

Metaromantic: Only experiencing attraction that is unable to be defined by strict terms of platonic or romantic.

Nebula-romantic/ Nebula-sexual: Difficulty distinguishing romantic/sexual and platonic attraction due to neurodiversity

Novisexual/Noviromantic: Feeling complicated attraction or lack thereof in such a way that it is difficult or impossible to fit into one word or term.

Omniaromantic:Is someone who feels no romantic attraction whatsoever. In no way, shape, or form do they fall in love or feel any attraction to anyone.They are asensual, have no aesthetic attraction to others, and no squishes. They can experience platonic love or familial love, though not all do so. This term was made to made a distinguish between being on the aromantic spectrum and specify from the common definition of a aromantic person, since saying someone is “aromantic” could mean they could be demiromantic, gray-aromantic, and such other types of aromantics who do feel sensual, have aesthetic attraction and such.

Placiosexual/ Placioromantic: When someone feels little to no desire to receive sexual/romantic acts but expresses interest/desire in performing them on someone else.

Platonisexual/ Platoniromantic: When someone feels no difference between platonic and romantic attraction.

Polarsexual/ Polarromantic: Switching between being either extremely attracted and not at all attracted.

Post rubor: Is someone who quickly gets crushes/squishes/etc on others, but after the initial excitement of said crush/etc vanishes so do their feelings.

Presexual/ Preromantic: A placeholder term for when someone feels that they have not experienced attraction enough to know their orientation yet.

Propeestsexual/ Propeestromantic: An aro/ace spec identity which feels like a mix of many (any more than two a-spec identities) that all are a part of your identity

Quoisexual/ Quoiromantic: Is when someone experiences sexual attraction in a way that is not typical of allosexuals individuals, but doesn’t knowing where they fit on the asexual spectrum; or not identifying with any of the existing labels./ Feeling as if the concept of romance or sexual attraction, etc. is inapplicable or nonsensical to one’s self.(Also known as wtfsexual)

Recipsexual/ Recipromantic: When someone feels sexual/ romantic attraction only after realizing someone is sexually/ romantically attracted to them.

Requeissexual/Requeromantic: When someone feels limited or no sexual/romantic attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion or trauma.

Schromantic: Is someone who is aromantic and romantic at the same time, or some mix of the two. Frequently described in terms of Schrödinger’s cat as having the possibility of being romantic and aromantic at the same time

Singulusexual/ Singuluromantic: Only experiencing one type of attraction towards people (i.e. if you experience sexual attraction towards a person, you won’t feel romantic/alterous/platonic attraction towards them).

Thymsexual/ Thymromantic: Feeling attraction which varies depending on emotional state

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Orientations I Can Make Edits For (A-M)

Hello everyone! In case anyone happens to be wondering what labels/identities you can request for me to use in edits (moodboards, flag and name edits, etc.), I’m posting lists of which ones that I’m able to make edits for.

The list will be under the cut.

Genders (A-M) | Genders (N-Z) | Alignments | Intersex Terms | Orientations (A-M) | Orientations (N-Z) | Non-Mono Terms

(The links to the other posts will be added later)

-

-fluid (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

arofluid

-flux (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

aceflux

alltflux/alteflux/alterousflux

aquasiplatoniflux/aqueerplatoniflux/aquirkyplatoniflux

aroflux

platoniflux

sensualflux/sensuflux

-spike (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

acespike

alterousspike/analterousspike

aplatonispike

aquasiplatonispike/aqueerplatonispike/aquirkyplatonispike

arospike

asensualspike/asensuspike

-vague (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

acevague

alterousvague/analterousvague

aplvague/platonivague

aquasiplatonivague/aqueerplatonivague/aquirkyplatonivague/quasiplatonivague/queerplatonivague/quirkyplatonivague

arovague

asensualvague/asensuvague

A

a-

aplatonic

aromantic

asensual

asexual

omniaromantic

omniasexual

parasexual

abro-

abroromantic

acefluid

acespec

achillean

aco-/acor-

aego-/autochoris-

aegoalterous/autochorisalterous

aegoplatonic/autochorisplatonic

aegoquasiplatonic/aegoqueerplatonic/aegoquirkyplatonic/autochorisquasiplatonic/autochorisqueerplatonic/autochorisquirkyplatonic

aegoromantic/autochorisromantic

aegosensual/autochorissensual

aegosexual/autochorissexual

akoi-/akoin-/akoine-/lith-

akoialterous/akoinalterous/akoinealterous/lithalterous

akoiplatonic/akoinplatonic/akoineplatonic/lithplatonic

akoiquasiplatonic/akoiqueerplatonic/akoiquirkyplatonic/akoinquasiplatonic/akoinqueerplatonic/akoinquirkyplatonic/akoinequasiplatonic/akoinequeerplatonic/akoinequirkyplatonic/lithquasiplatonic/lithqueerplatonic/lithquirkyplatonic

akoiromantic/akoinromantic/akoineromantic/lithromantic

akoisensual/akoinsensual/akoinesensual/lithsensual

akoisexual/akoinsexual/akoinesexual/lithsexual

aliqua-

aliquaromantic

aliquis-

alt-

altalterous

altplatonic

altquasiplatonic/altqueerplatonic/altquirkyplatonic

altsensual

alterous

ambisexual

amicus-

andro-/masc-

androalterous/mascalterous

androromantic/mascromantic

androsensual/mascsensual

androgyne-

androgyneromantic

anti-

apothi-/apothis- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

apothiplatonic/apothisplatonic

apothiromantic/apothisromantic

apothisensual/apothissensual

apothisexual/apothissexual

apres- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

apresalterous

apresplatonic

apresquasiplatonic/apresqueerplatonic/apresquirkyplatonic

apresromantic

apressensual

apressexual

ARCsexual

archi- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

archialterous

archiplatonic

archiquasiplatonic/archiqueerplatonic/archiquirkyplatonic

archiromantic

archisensual

archisexual

ari-

aroace

arospec

asocial- (“asocial-” in this context is the prefix for asocialromantic/asocialsexual/etc., not the term “asocial”; I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

asocialalterous

asocialplatonic

asocialquasiplatonic/asocialqueerplatonic/asocialquirkyplatonic

asocialromantic

asocialsensual

asocialsexual

aspec

aspectus- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

aspectusalterous

aspectusplatonic

aspectusquasiplatonic/aspectusqueerplatonic/aspectusquirkyplatonic

aspectusromantic

aspectussensual

aspectussexual

auto-/self-

autoalterous/selfalterous

autoplatonic/selfplatonic

autoquasiplatonic/autoqueerplatonic/autoquirkyplatonic/selfquasiplatonic/selfqueerplatonic/selfquirkyplatonic

autoromantic/selfromantic

autosensual/selfsensual

autosexual/selfsexual

B

bellusromantic

bi-

bialterous

biquasiplatonic/biqueerplatonic/biquirkyplatonic

biromantic

bisensual

biflux

biflux-romantic

border- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

bordersexual

borea-

burst-

C

caed-/caedo-

caedalterous/caedoalterous

caedoplatonic/caedplatonic

caedoquasiplatonic/caedoqueerplatonic/caedoquirkyplatonic/caedquasiplatonic/caedqueerplatonic/caedquirkyplatonic

caedoromantic/caedromantic

caedosensual/caedsensual

caedosexual/caedsexual

caligo- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

caligoalterous

caligoplatonic

caligoquasiplatonic/caligoqueerplatonic/caligoquirkyplatonic

caligoromantic

caligosensual

caligosexual

cass-

cassalterous

cassexual

cassplatonic

cassromantic

casssensual

cassflux

causti-

cease-

ceasealterous

ceaseplatonic

ceasequasiplatonic/ceasequeerplatonic/ceasequirkyplatonic

ceaseromantic

ceasesensual

ceasesexual

cetero-

ceteroromantic

ceterosensual

chaein-

chaeinalterous

chaeinquasiplatonic/chaeinqueerplatonic/chaeinquirkyplatonic

chaeinromantic

chaeinsensual

chaeinsexual

chameleo- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

chameleoromantic

chameleosexual

chrono-

chronoalterous

chronoplatonic

chronoquasiplatonic/chronoqueerplatonic/chronoquirkyplatonic

chronoromantic

chronosensual

chronosexual

cin- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

cinalterous

cinquasiplatonic/cinqueerplatonic/cinquirkyplatonic

cinromantic

cinsensual

cinsexual

com- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

comromantic

comsexual

companionate

crux-/depend-/exige-/exigen-/requi- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

cruxalterous/dependalterous/exigealterous/exigenalterous/requialterous

cruxplatonic/dependplatonic/exigeplatonic/exigenplatonic/requiplatonic

cruxquasiplatonic/cruxqueerplatonic/cruxquirkyplatonic/dependquasiplatonic/dependqueerplatonic/dependquirkyplatonic/exigequasiplatonic/exigequeerplatonic/exigequirkyplatonic/exigenquasiplatonic/exigenqueerplatonic/exigenquirkyplatonic/requiquasiplatonic/requiqueerplatonic/requiquirkyplatonic

cruxromantic/dependromantic/exigeromantic/exigenromantic/requiromantic

cruxsensual/dependsensual/exigesensual/exigensensual/requisensual

cruxsexual/dependsexual/exigesexual/exigensexual/requisexual

culparomantic

cupio-/kalos-

cupioflux/kalosflux (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

cupiaflux/cupio-aceflux/kalos-aceflux

cupio-analterousflux/kalos-analterousflux

cupio-aplatoniflux/kalos-aplatoniflux

cupio-aquasiplatoniflux/cupio-aqueerplatoniflux/cupio-aquirkyplatoniflux/kalos-aquasiplatoniflux/kalos-aqueerplatoniflux/kalos-aquirkyplatoniflux

cupio-aroflux/cupiroflux/kalos-aroflux

cupio-asensualflux/kalos-asensualflux

D

demi- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

demi-bi-

demi-bisensual

demi-cetero-

demi-fin-

demi-finsensual

demi-homo-

demi-ma-/demi-man-

demi-mansensual/demi-masensual

demi-min-

demi-minsensual

demi-neu-

demi-nin-

demi-ninsensual

demi-nofin-

demi-nofinalterous

demi-noma-/demi-noman-

demi-nomin-

demi-nominalterous

demi-nominromantic

demi-nominsensual

demi-nonin-

demi-nowoma-/demi-nowoman-

demi-nowomalterous/demi-nowomanalterous

demi-nowomanromantic/demi-nowomaromantic

demi-nowomansensual/demi-nowomasensual

demi-omni-

demi-pan-

demi-panalterous

demi-panromantic

demi-pansensual

demi-penultisensual

demi-poly-

demi-polyalterous

demi-polypan-

demi-polypanromantic

demi-polyromantic

demi-polysensual

demi-proqua-

demi-proquasensual

demi-proquu-

demi-proquusensual

demi-quad-

demi-quint-

demi-tri-

demi-woma-/demi-woman-

demi-womansensual/demi-womasensual

demialterous

demiplatonic

demiquasiplatonic/demiqueerplatonic/demiquirkyplatonic

demiromantic

demisensual

demisexual

desinoromantic

diamoric

dissexual

dissociate- (“dissociate-” in this context is the prefix for dissociateromantic/dissociatesexual/etc., not the term “dissociate”)

dissociatealterous

dissociateplatonic

dissociatequasiplatonic/dissociatequeerplatonic/dissociatequirkyplatonic

dissociateromantic

dissociatesensual

dot- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

dotalterous

dotplatonic

dotquasiplatonic/dotqueerplatonic/dotquirkyplatonic

dotromantic

dotsensual

dotsexual

dread-

duo-

dura-

dwin-

dysphorasexual

E

echo- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

echoalterous

echoplatonic

echoromantic

echosensual

echosexual

enbian

enbysensualarian

F

fem-/femme-/gyne-/gyno-

femalterous/femmealterous/gynealterous/gynoalterous

femromantic/femmeromantic/gyneromantic/gynoromantic

femsensual/femmesensual/gynesensual/gynosensual

feu- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

feualterous

feuplatonic

feuquasiplatonic/feuqueerplatonic/feuquirkyplatonic

feuromantic

feusensual

feusexual

fi-

ficto-/ficton- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

fictoalterous/fictonalterous

fictonplatonic/fictoplatonic

fictonquasiplatonic/fictonqueerplatonic/fictonquirkyplatonic/fictoquasiplatonic/fictoqueerplatonic/fictoquirkyplatonic

fictonromantic/fictoromantic

fictonsensual/fictosensual

fictonsexual/fictosexual (aspec)

fin-

finalterous

finromantic

finsensual

fray-/ignota-

frayromantic/ignotaromantic

G

gay/homo-

Australia gay pride

Bangladesh gay pride

black gay pride

Canadian gay pride

Hawaii gay pride

homalterous/homoalterous

homoflex-alterous

homoflexible

homoquasiplatonic/homoqueerplatonic/homoquirkyplatonic/platgay/platonicgay

Israeli gay pride

Jewish gay pride

New Zealand gay pride

South Africa gay pride

glaro- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

glaroalterous

glaroplatonic

glaroquasiplatonic/glaroqueerplatonic/glaroquirkyplatonic

glaroromantic

glarosensual

glarosexual

gray a-/gray-a-/grey a-/grey-a-

gray analterous/gray-analterous/grey analterous/grey-analterous

gray aplatonic/gray-aplatonic/grey aplatonic/grey-aplatonic

gray aquasiplatonic/gray aqueerplatonic/gray aquirkyplatonic/gray-aquasiplatonic/gray-aqueerplatonic/gray-aquirkyplatonic/grey aquasiplatonic/grey aqueerplatonic/grey aquirkyplatonic/grey-aquasiplatonic/grey-aqueerplatonic/grey-aquirkyplatonic

gray aromantic/gray-aromantic/grayromantic/grey aromantic/grey-aromantic/greyromantic

gray asensual/gray-asensual/grey asensual/grey-asensual

gray asexual/gray-asexual/grey asexual/grey-asexual

gray-agensexual/graygensexual/grey-agensexual/greygensexual

H

hea- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

healterous

heaplatonic

heaquasiplatonic/heaqueerplatonic/heaquirkyplatonic

hearomantic

heasensual

heasexual

hetero- (“hetero-” is the norm for romantic and sexual attraction, so there aren’t flags for those - or for the general orientation - but there are flags under this orientation for other forms of attraction)

heteralterous/heteroalterous

heteroflex-alterous

heteroflex-romantic

heteroflexible

I

iamvano-

icula- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

iculaalterous

iculaplatonic

iculaquasiplatonic/iculaqueerplatonic/iculaquirkyplatonic

icularomantic

iculasensual

iculasexual

idem- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

idemalterous

idemquasiplatonic/idemqueerplatonic/idemquirkyplatonic

idemromantic

idemsensual

idemsexual

impla-/inex- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

implalterous/inexalterous

implaplatonic/inexplatonic

implaquasiplatonic/implaqueerplatonic/implaquirkyplatonic/inexquasiplatonic/inexqueerplatonic/inexquirkyplatonic

implaromantic/inexromantic

implasensual/inexsensual

implasexual/inexsexual

inact-/inacto-/initia-

inci-

incialterous

inciquasiplatonic/inciqueerplatonic/inciquirkyplatonic

inciromantic

inciromantic + incisexual

incisensual

incisexual

J

none

K

none

L

lesbian

lesbian (romantic orientation)

lipstick lesbian

nonbinary lesbian

limno-

M

ma-/man-

maalterous/malterous/manalterous

maalterousflex/malterousflex/manalterousflex

maflexible/manflexible

manromantic/maromantic

manromantiflex/maromantiflex

mansensual/masensual

mansensualflex/masensualflex

magis-/magismetum-

mala- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

mala-bisexual

mala-homosexual

mala-mansexual/mala-masexual

mala-pansexual

mala-polysexual

mala-womansexual/mala-womasexual

malalterous

malaplatonic

malaquasiplatonic/malaqueerplatonic/malaquirkyplatonic

malaromantic

malasensual

malasexual

manusensualarian

marsic

metattraction

min-

minalterous

minromantic

minsensual

minus-/minusmetum-

moll-/molli- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

mollalterous/mollialterous

molliplatonic/mollplatonic

molliquasiplatonic/molliqueerplatonic/molliquirkyplatonic/mollquasiplatonic/mollqueerplatonic/mollquirkyplatonic

molliromantic/mollromantic

mollisensual/mollsensual

mollisexual/mollsexual

morphe-

multi-

multialterous

multiquasiplatonic/multiqueerplatonic/multiquirkyplatonic

multiromantic

multisensual

myr- (I don’t have the flag for the general orientation, but I have flags for specific orientations under it)

myralterous

myrplatonic

myrquasiplatonic/myrqueerplatonic/myrquirkyplatonic

myrromantic

myrsensual

myrsexual

[xxcalicofemmexx]

lithsexual + neon

Lithsexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction, but doesn't want it reciprocated. They may be uncomfortable with the thought of someone being sexually attracted to them, or they may lose their sexual feelings if they learn it's reciprocated. A microlabel that implies the user is on the asexual spectrum. Also known as Lithosexual, Akoisexual, Akoinsexual, and Apsexual

[xxcalicofemmexx]

lith + moths

Lith: Someone who experiences attraction, but doesn't want it reciprocated. They may be uncomfortable with the thought of someone being attracted to them, or they may lose their feelings if they learn it's reciprocated. An aspec identity that is used as a prefix, and can be combined with other identities (lithbisexual, lithpanromantic, etc) or used on its own (lithsexual, lithplatonic, etc). Also known as Litho, Akoi, Akoin, and Ap

[aro-aceplace]

Sence we’re getting so many asks about the names for various orientations I thought I would post an updated version of our aspec orientation dictionary. This dictionary also exists here on our blog and is frequently updated, but something screwy is going on with the bolding on that page right now so it might be hard to read. There’s also a copy of it here in the Quicksand font because I find that that’s easier for folks with dyslexia and other LD’s to read then Arial is.

Note: this is not a complete list. A-spec terminology is constantly growing and changing and it’s hard to keep track of every single term, so if I missed an orientation please let me know, I’ll be happy to add it! 

-mod Yarrow

Abrosexual/Abroromantic: Having an orientation or feelings about it that constantly change and cannot be pinned down for this reason.

Aceflux/ Aroflux: When someone’s sexual/ romantic orientation fluctuates but always stays on the aro/ace spectrum.

Acespike/ Arospike:  When someone usually doesn’t feel sexual/romantic attraction but occasionally rapidly skyrockets into intense attraction, then plummeting down to asexuality/aromanticism again.

Acoromantic/Acosexual: Asexual/Aromantic(spec) because of negative past experiences. (similar to Caedromantic/Caedsexual)

Adfecturomantic/Affecturomantic/Adfectual/Adfomantic: Is someone whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency.

Aegosexual/Aegoromantic: Feeling attraction and desire only for situations that do not involve one’s self.

Aliquasexual/ Aliquaromantic: Not normally feeling attraction, but feeling it on occasion under specific circumstances.

Amicussexual/Amicusromantic: When you are only attracted to people you’re also platonically attracted to.

Antisexual/Antiromantic: Would rather not develop platonic/romantic/sexual feelings for people, but does anyway.

Apressexual/ Apresromantic: Only feeling attraction after another form of attraction is felt.

Aromantic/ Asexual: When someone doesn’t feel sexual/ romantic attraction to anyone

Arovague/ Acevague: Aromanticism or asexuality that is heavily influenced by neurodiversity (also known as Adfecturomantic / Adfectusexual)

Apresromantic/ Apresexual: An orientation where romantic/sexual attraction is felt only after another type of attraction is formed.

Apothisexual/ Apothiromatic:  A specific term for when someone on the asexual/ aromantic spectrum is sex repulsed or romance repulsed. (Also known as ARCsexual/ ARCromantic)

Autochrissexual/ Autochrisromantic: When someone feels sexual arousal/ romantic attraction for something, but from a distance, as if they were someone else, and have no desire to do that thing themselves (Also known as Aegosexual/ Aegoromantic or Autochorrisromantic / Autochorrissexual).

Bellusromantic:  When someone is fine with cute fluffy stuff with anyone but doesn’t want a relationship at all.

Burstsexual/ Burstromantic: An orientation where a type of attraction will occur in a sudden burst, then vanish or fade away.

Borearomantic/ Boreasexual:  an orientation that seems to revolve around one person in particular. (can also be defined as an exception to one’s orientation, ie, someone who identifies as homosexual/homoromantic feeling attraction to someone of a different gender)

Caedromantic/ Caedsexual: The feeling that romantic or sexual attraction was taken away due to past trauma -for PTSD and trauma survivors

Cassexual/ Cassromantic: Feeling utterly indifferent to attraction, believing it isn’t important.

Ceasesexual/ Ceaseromantic: Usually being allosexual/romantic, but occasionally having a complete loss of attraction for a period of time before feeling it again.

Cupiosexual/ Cupioromantic: When someone does not experience sexual/ romantic attraction, but still desires a sexual/ romantic relationship. (Also known as kalossexual/  kalosromantic and Icularomantic/ Icularsexual)

Demisexual/ Demiromantic:  When someone is only sexually/ romantically attracted to people they already have a strong emotional connection with.

Dreadsexual/ Dreadromantic: An orientation that fluctuates from feeling no attraction to feeling attraction. When attraction is felt, it is accompanied by a strong feeling of dread or anxiety.

Duosexual/ Duoromantic: Having two or more well-defined orientations that you switch between (e.g. cupiosexual and fraysexual).

Durasexual/Duraromantic: Rarely experiencing attraction, but when it happens it lasts for a long time.

Fictosexual/ Fictoromantic: When someone only feels sexually/romantically attracted to fictional characters.

Freysexual/ Freyromantic:  When Someone is sexually/ romantically attracted to those they are less familiar with but after a while, the “excitement” of meeting the new person dies down and you are perfectly content on just being friends.

Greysexual/ Greyromantic: When someone only feels sexual/ romantic attraction rarely. This term can also be a general term for identifying as somewhere on the aro/ace spectrum.

Lamvanosexual/ Iamvanoromantic: Feeling uncomfortable doing sexual/romantic things to someone, but being willing to receive sexual and romantic acts.

Lithsexual/Lithromantic : When someone feels sexual/ romantic attraction towards others and also enjoys romantic/ sexual relationships in theory, but does not need that affection to be reciprocated. An Akoinsexual/ Akoinromantic person may also experience sexual attraction until those feelings are reciprocated. (Also known as Akoinsexual/ Akoinromantic)

Idemromantic: When someone Categorizes relationships and feelings as platonic or romantic but experiences no notable internal differences

Inactoromantic: When someone experiences romantic attraction and wants a romantic relationship but doesn’t like romantic actions. (Also known as initiaromantic.)

Limnosexual/ Limnoromantic: Attraction only piqued by depictions of acts of attraction (eg drawings or writing), not the acts themselves in real life (similar to fictosexual/ fictoromantic).

Malasexual/Malaromantic: When someone only experiences attraction during maladaptive daydreams

Metaromantic: Only experiencing attraction that is unable to be defined by strict terms of platonic or romantic.

Nebula-romantic/ Nebula-sexual: Difficulty distinguishing romantic/sexual and platonic attraction due to neurodiversity

Novisexual/Noviromantic: Feeling complicated attraction or lack thereof in such a way that it is difficult or impossible to fit into one word or term.

Omniaromantic: Is someone who feels no romantic attraction whatsoever. In no way, shape, or form do they fall in love or feel any attraction to anyone. They are asensual, have no aesthetic attraction to others, and no squishes. They can experience platonic love or familial love, though not all do so. This term was made to make a distinction between being on the aromantic spectrum and specify from the common definition of aromantic person, since saying someone is “aromantic” could mean they could be demiromantic, gray-aromantic, and such other types of aromantics who do feel sensual, have aesthetic attraction and such.

Placiosexual/ Placioromantic: When someone feels  little to no desire to receive sexual/romantic acts but expresses interest/desire in performing them on someone else.

Platonisexual/ Platoniromantic: When someone feels no difference between platonic and romantic attraction.

Polarsexual/ Polarromantic: Switching between being either extremely attracted and not at all attracted.

Post rubor: Is someone who quickly gets crushes/squishes/etc on others, but after the initial excitement of said crush/etc vanishes so do their feelings.

Presexual/ Preromantic: A placeholder term for when someone feels that they have not experienced attraction enough to know their orientation yet.

Propeestsexual/ Propeestromantic: An aro/ace spec identity which feels like a mix of many (any more than two a-spec identities) that all are a part of your identity

Quoisexual/ Quoiromantic: Is when someone experiences sexual attraction in a way that is not typical of allosexuals individuals, but doesn’t knowing where they fit on the asexual spectrum; or not identifying with any of the existing labels./ Feeling as if the concept of romance or sexual attraction, etc. is inapplicable or nonsensical to one’s self.(Also known as wtfsexual)

Recipsexual/ Recipromantic: When someone feels sexual/ romantic attraction only after realizing someone is sexually/ romantically attracted to them.     

Requeissexual/Requeromantic: When someone feels limited or no sexual/romantic  attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion or trauma.

Schromantic: Is someone who is aromantic and romantic at the same time, or some mix of the two. Frequently described in terms of Schrödinger’s cat as having the possibility of being romantic and aromantic at the same time

Singulusexual/ Singuluromantic: Only experiencing one type of attraction towards people (i.e. if you experience sexual attraction towards a person, you won’t feel romantic/alterous/platonic attraction towards them).

Thymsexual/ Thymromantic: Feeling attraction which varies depending on emotional state.

[aro-aceplace]

I’ve been having a bit of a identity crisis recently. I’m pretty certain that I am on the ace-spec somewhere(either grey, demi or asexual) but I’ve been questioning about the aro-spec. I rarely experience romantic attraction, but when I do it’s fleeting or fades as soon as I’m just messaging the person/no longer talking to them face to face? Also I think I want to be in a relationship with someone, but I’m also questioning if that’s just the impact of society? Sorry it’s a bit of a ramble 😅

I can’t figure out your orientation for you, but I can recommend labels that you might what to look into. Hopefully one of these will seem like a good fit 💚

Cupiosexual: When someone does not experience sexual attraction, but still desires a sexual relationship.

Freysexual:  When Someone is sexually attracted to those they are less familiar with but after a while, the “excitement” of meeting the new person dies down and you are perfectly content on just being friends.

Propeestsexual: An ace-spec identity which feels like a mix of two or more other a-spec identities. 

Akoinsexual/ Lithsexual: Experiencing sexual attraction until those feelings are reciprocated.  

We also have a much longer list of aspec orientations here if these don’t seem right.

Hope that helps!

-mod Yarrow 

[aro-aceplace]

Hi! Is there a name for someone who enjoys sex in theory, but is repulsed by the idea of having sex themselves? I experience sexual attraction and I enjoy masturbation, but I despise the idea of myself having sex with someone.

There are a few different possibilities for vocabulary that describe this!

The first term that might work for you is akoinsexual, also known as lithsexual. This is when someone feels sexual attraction towards others and also enjoys sexual relationships in theory, but does not need that affection to be reciprocated. An akoinsexual person may also experiencing sexual attraction until those feelings are reciprocated.  

Another term that might fit you is autochrissexual. This is when someone has feelings of sexual arousal and attraction, but from a distance, as if they were someone else, and have no desire to do those thing themselves. This orientation is also known by the terms aegosexual and autochorrissexual.

It’s also possible that you’re simply sex repulsed. Lots of people outside of the ace spectrum are sex repulsed, and what many people don’t realize is that sex repulsion is very much a spectrum. You don’t need to be repulsed by the thought of any remotely sexual act to be sex repulsed. This term can also applie to anyone who feels repulsed by the idea of having sex themselves, but it is fine with masturbation, porn, etc.

Some people who experience sexual attraction as well as sex repulsion chose to identify as ace because they find it to be easier than explaining the complexities of there identitys and if you decide that that’s something that works for, and makes sense for you then you’re free to do it.

Remember, orientation labels are supposed to help you understand and be comfortable with yourself, so feel free to try out labels and see what works best for you.

Hope that helps!

-mod Yarrow