#Toledo Center for Eating Disorders

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The dark side to social media...

Just like every good thing to come out of the 21st century, it has a dark side. And no, I’m not talking about Anakin killing younglings or using the Death Star, I’m talking about the effects that social media has on its users. 

From cyberbullying to fake news, and body dysmorphia, the use of social media has changed the lives of younger generations in ways that were never seen before. Cyberbullying first peaked during the early-mid 2000s. I remember being in kindergarten and receiving anti-bullying presentations. I didn’t have any technological devices except my Vtech TV console that let me play in the jungle with Simba or build a fruit cake with Cinderella, and I didn’t know how to use the internet, but I knew that being mean to other people was not ok. As the years went on, I learned more about bullying and cyberbullying through tv shows, commercials, and the crime shows my mom would watch.  

Stopbullying.gov describes cyberbullying as, “bullying that takes place over digital devices like cell phones, computers, and tablets”. Cyberbullying includes sharing, posting, or sending content of another person that is negative, false, and/ or embarrassing. One report coming from over 10 European countries showed that 44% of children who were cyberbullied before the pandemic saw an increase in the rate at which they were bullied during lockdown (JRC 2021). I personally did not experience cyberbullying, but I did see firsthand what it did to my friends and family. Changes in mental health, self-esteem, depression, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts were all things I saw happen particularly in middle school. In 2022, 46% of teenagers aged 13-17 were bullied or harassed online at least once. A common reason for this occurrence was physical appearance (Pew Reasearch).  

This leads me to the next topic I want to shed light on: body image. With how integral social media is to daily living for almost everyone, developing body dysmorphia is more common than we think. The Toledo Center for Eating Disorders highlights the number one cause of body dysmorphia comes from: DISTORTED AND EDITED IMAGES. From filters to professional advertisements, people are knowingly and unknowingly viewing highly edited images. Almost all social media platforms allow users to take photos with their predownloaded filters. Snapchat is huge for its filters and was one of the first apps to have them within their system. From this the term “Snapchat dysmorphia” developed. Anyone can use apps like Facetune or Adobe Lightroom to edit their photos however they choose. More and more young people are getting rhinoplasty and breast augmentations all because they like the way a filter looks on them. One study showed that selfies were the reason for a 10% increase in nose jobs. The same study found that girls who spent more time on social media (Facebook) were likely to have a distorted self-image and an urge to lose weight (Vats M). 

With the dark side of social media, it takes a huge toll on mental health. Headspace says, “with mindfulness, we can learn to foucs on the good parts of social media and avoid the common pitfalls”. Check out their article if you want to learn more ways to have a better experience with social media: https://www.headspace.com/mindfulness/negative-effects-of-social-media 

For more information on how to find help with the topics of this blog, visit the resources below: 

Report Cyberbullying: https://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/how-to-report 

How to Deal with “Haters”: https://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/how-to-deal-with-haters 

How to Help Someone with Body Dysmorphic Disorder: https://americanaddictioncenters.org/body-dysmorphia 

What is Body Dysmorphic Disorder?: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/body-dysmorphic-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353938#:~:text=Body%20dysmorphic%20disorder%20is%20a,may%20avoid%20many%20social%20situations. 

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WEEK 8: BODY DYSMORPHIA & PLASTIC SURGERY. HOW ARE THEY RELEVANT TO THE INSTAGRAM FILTERS!

Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) can be a dangerous pitfall for those considering plastic surgery. People with BDD have a distorted view of their appearance, fixating on minor flaws that others might not even notice. While they may believe surgery will solve their problems, research shows it often leads to greater dissatisfaction and a chasing of unrealistic ideals. A responsible plastic surgeon will screen for BDD to ensure patients are motivated by self-improvement, not a mental health condition.

Plastic surgeons have observed an unsettling rise in the number of patients who want to alter their appearance to resemble the filtered and digitally altered photos they see on social media. -

Strange obsessions with digitally enhanced perfection and relatively inexpensive digital tools for self-image manipulation appear to be contributing another level to some cases of body dysmorphic disorder.

A mental health condition in which a person is preoccupied with thinking about perceived or imagined imperfections in their own body. Numerous aspects of life are disrupted by this fixation, including social relationships, the workplace, education, and homes.

The rise in case scenarios of what some scholars refer to as Snapchat dysmorphia can have a detrimental effect on an individual's self-esteem.

These psyches and body image problems, if extreme enough, can progress to body dysmorphic disorder.

More extensive research has revealed a clear link between social media use and negative emotions. The more time users spend on social media platforms, the more isolated and lonely they start to feel.

In conclusion, knowing how filters and social media can impact the way we think of the “beauty” notion can help us acknowledge the imperfections within ourselves, embrace them, and stay confident and empathetic for our flaws. 

I wanna end this with one Taylor Swift song. Here you go:

REFERENCES:

Digital Distortion: How Filters are Changing the Way Girls See Themselves. (n.d.). Boys & Girls Clubs of America. https://www.bgca.org/news-stories/2021/September/digital-distortion-how-filters-are-changing-the-way-girls-see-themselves/

Hunt, E. (2019, January 23). Faking it: How Selfie Dysmorphia Is Driving People to Seek Surgery. The Guardian; The Guardian. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/jan/23/faking-it-how-selfie-dysmorphia-is-driving-people-to-seek-surgery

Purtill, J. (2020, March 13). “Snapchat dysmorphia”: Selfie filters may be driving young people to plastic surgery, study shows. Triple J. https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/hack/snapchat-dysmorphia-from-selfie-filters-driving-cosmetic-surgery/12051184

admin. (2019, April 23). Body Dysmorphia, Social Media & Image Filters | Toledo Center. Toledo Center | Eating Disorders Treatment Center. https://toledocenter.com/resources/body-dysmorphia-social-media-image-filters/

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What is History?  History is the systematic study and documentation of the human past.  For Instance, my name is Anthony Joseph Hopkins and I was born on Thursday June 24, 1965 at 7:30pm.  My mother's name is Mary Lou's Hopkins and my father's name is Joseph Odell Webb. The hospital that I was born was St. Elizabeth Medical Center in Dayton, Ohio.



Next, I was living at the time with my two living grandmothers and aunt inside of a two bedroom house on West First Street in Dayton, Ohio.  I remember when I was a child, I lived with my grandparents for several years.  I went to Edison Elementary School.  I want all of you to know that I was only a C average student. I attended Edison Elementary School from 1971-1979.  I attended Franklin School for one year.

Further, I was a child who has experienced both physically and mentally as well as emotional abuse.  I have five brothers and two sisters right now.  I do recall getting chased home by my fair weather friends.  During that period of my life, I do remember suffering from tuberculosis for nine years from 1976 to 1985.  I had to take Ciphro Flacin twice per day for several years.

Moreover, I do remember watching television when President Richard Nixon resigned from government and the Vietnam War on television as well.  Personally, I would rather be in school or my grandparents house instead of my mother's house.  I went to school and I got into fist fights with various people for several years.  I do recall spending time with my half siblings.  I was a latch key child for several years.

Also, I used to have problems with math.  I did very well in my other classes.  I do remember going to school just to eat breakfast and lunch only.  Jesus Christ is my personal Savior. I have waivered in my faith in God.  My personal history was rough.  I was an extrovert and an introvert at the same time.  I remember working for the Dayton Daily Newspaper Company for four years.

In Addition, I used to have bad teeth as a child and adult.  I took better care of myself back then compared to right now.  I had a lot of structure during that time.  I am going to say this and mean it.  I really need structure in my life right now.  I want to say that I am a procrastinator.  I am not a lazy person, but I tend to become complaisant.  My history consists of playing sports.  I played basketball with the YMCA for four years.  

Currently, I have written three books for many years.  My first book is called The Best of Anthony Hopkins.  I wrote that book back in July of 2000.  I have published two books with Authorhouse Publications. My second book is called My Grace is Sufficient for Me and my most recent book is called Essays. My books consists of essays that I have written based on my relationship with God.

In my personal life, I have been in and out of mental health institutions.  For the past 26 years, I have suffered from Schizoid Affective Disorder and Schizophrenia.  I am guilty of spending too much time by myself.  For the past 29 years, I lost my great grandmother.  As soon as I saw her inside of a casket, I lost my mind.  I new that she was not coming back to life.  I lost my family members and I am devastated.  I will admit that I have been hearing voices from people from my past.

Finally, I am a 58 years old now and I am very depressed.  I write a lot about my personal life.  I rarely have visitors coming over my apartment.  I want to inform all of you that my life is very important to me.  I do remember on Saturday February 13, 2010, I tried to kill myself by taking all of my pills at one time.  I almost died during that time.  I will admit that I suffer from seizures.  I have been suffering from seizures for 41 years now.  I understand that a person relationship with God is more important than death itself.  I graduated from High School and College at Paul Laurence Dunbar on Tuesday June 10, 1986 and I graduated twice from the University of Toledo in 1993 & 1995.  I do remember living in Toledo, Ohio and Charlotte NC.  I remember working at the University of Toledo from 1992-1996.  I worked at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte from 2001-2009.  I have maintained a Counselor Assistant License from 1993-2010.  I have had a good career as a Youth Counselor from 1993-1996. 

In Conclusion, I am a very intelligent man who has a lot of common sense.  I am a person who has a lot of friends.  I have both good friends and bad ones.  I am losing my eyesight because I have suffered from glaucoma and cataracts from 2005-present.  I have suffered from Diabetes from 2015-present.  I have suffered from Schizoid Affective Disorder from 1997-present.  My history is not glamorous.  I am just an average person who has a lot of debt.  I owe the University of North Carolina at Charlotte a total of $30,000 dollars in student loans.  I live in an apartment in Northwest side of Dayton, Ohio from 2011-present.  I am living on a fixed income and I am still broke financially.  I have no social life right now.  I have an interest in working in a library again.  Please Lord Jesus, hear my prayer.  I really need you in my life right now.  I have been clean and sober for 33 years now.  My clean date is Wednesday May 2, 1990.  History consists of the things that I do for Jesus Christ.  If I am able to help others and communicate with Jesus Christ on a daily basis.  I need to read His Word and demonstrate His deeds to mankind.  Thank you for reading my story.  God Bless You All.

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… references (or: “a few books I read”) …

Andersen, Arnold, MD, with Leigh Cohn “Stories I tell my patients: 101 myths, metaphors, fables and tall tales for eating disorders recovery” Anderson, Laurie Halse “Wintergirls” Antieau, Kim “Mercy, unbound” Apostolides, Marianne “Inner hunger: a young woman’s struggle through anorexia and bulimia“ Ballard, Alexandra “What I lost” Beard, Amanda “In the water they can’t see you cry: a memoir” Brown, Harriet “Brave girl eating: a family’s struggle with anorexia” Bruch, Hilde “Eating disorders: obesity, anorexia nervosa, and the person within” Bruch, Hilde “The golden cage: the enigma of anorexia nervosa” Brumberg, Joan Jacobs “Fasting girls: the history of anorexia nervosa” Chepaitis, Barbara “Feeding Christine” Claude-Pierre, Peggy “The secret language of eating disorders: how you can understand and work to cure anorexia and bulimia“ Cohn, Leigh “Eating disorders: a reference sourcebook” Daniels, Lucy “With a woman’s voice: a writer’s struggle for emotional freedom” de Rossi, Portia “Unbearable lightness: a story of loss and gain” Eliot, Eve “Insatiable: the compelling story of four teens, food and its power” Forrest, Emma “Your voice in my head” Garfinkel, Paul, and David Garner “Handbook of treatment for eating disorders” Gold, Tracey “Room to grow: an appetite for life” Gottlieb, Lori “Stick figure” Greenfield, Lauren “Thin” Gura, Trisha “Lying in weight: the hidden epidemic of eating disorders in adult women” Hanauer, Cathi “My sister’s bones” Hautzig, Deborah “Second star to the right” Henke, Roxanne “Becoming Olivia” Hollis, Judi “Fat is a family affair” Hornbacher, Marya “Wasted, updated edition: a memoir of anorexia and bulimia” Johns, Nicole J. “Purge: rehab diaries” Kaslik, Ibi “Skinny” Kinoy, Barbara P. “Eating disorders: new directions in treatment and recovery” Kirkland, Kelsey “Dancing on my grave” Klein, Stephanie “Moose: a memoir of fat camp” Lerner, Betsy “Food and loathing: a lament” Levenkron, Steven “Anatomy of anorexia“ Levenkron, Steven “The best little girl in the world” Levenkron, Steven “Kessa” Levenkron, Steven “Treating and overcoming anorexia nervosa“ Liu, Aimee “Solitaire: the compelling story of a young woman growing up in America and her triumph over anorexia” Liu, Aimee “Gaining: the truth about life after eating disorders” Lott, Deborah A. “In session: the bond between women and their therapists” McClure, Cynthia Rowland “The monster within: overcoming bulimia” Medoff, Jillian “Hunger point” Miller, Caroline Adams “My name is Caroline” Moisin, Laura “Kid rex: the inspiring true account of a life salvaged from despair, anorexia and dark days in New York City” O’Neill, Cherry Boone “Starving for attention: a young woman’s struggle with and triumph over anorexia nervosa” O’Neill, Cherry Boone “Dear Cherry: questions and answers on eating disorders” Orbach, Susie “Fat is a feminist issue” Osgood, Kelsey “How to disappear completely: on modern anorexia” Palmer, Catherine “The happy room” Pershall, Stacy “Loud in the house of myself: memoir of a strange girl” Pierce, Bethany “Feeling for bones” Price, Nora “Zoe letting go” Rabinor, Judith Ruskay “A starving madness: tales of hunger, hope, and healing in psychotherapy” Raviv, Shani “Being Ana” Reindl, Sheila M. “Sensing the self: women’s recovery from bulimia” Rio, Linda “The anorexia diaries: a mother and daughter’s triumph over teenage eating disorders” Ronen, Tammie “In and out of anorexia: the story of the client, the therapist and the process of recovery” Ryan, Joan “Little girls in pretty boxes: the making and breaking of elite gymnasts and figure skaters” Sacker, Ira M. “Regaining your self: breaking free from the eating disorder identity: a bold new approach” Sacker, Ira M. “Dying to be thin: understanding and defeating anorexia nervosa and bulimia — a practical, lifesaving guide” Sargent, Judy Tam “The long road back: a survivor’s guide to anorexia” Schmidt, Randy L. “Little girl blue: the life of Karen Carpenter” Sey, Jennifer “Chalked up: inside elite gymnastics’ merciless coaching, overzealous parents, eating disorders, and

elusive olympic dreams” Sigler, Jamie-Lynn “Wise girl: what I’ve learned about life, love, and loss” Smith, Chelsea “Diary of an eating disorder: a mother and daughter share their healing journey” Snyder, Anne “Goodbye, paper doll” Spechler, Diana “Skinny” Taylor, Kate M. “Going hungry: writers on desire, self-denial, and overcoming anorexia” Valette, Brett “A parent’s guide to eating disorders: prevention and treatment of anorexia nervosa and bulimia” Wheeler, Kathleen (Editor) “Psychotherapy for the Advanced Practice Psychiatric Nurse” White, Kate “So pretty it hurts” Woolf, Emma “An apple a day: a memoir of love and recovery from anorexia” Yalom, Irvin D. “The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients” Yalom, Irvin D. “Love’s Executioner” Zgheib, Yara “The girls at 17 Swann Street”

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( mark lee. 20. he/she. ) we spotted JUN-SEO " CLAY " PARK around toledo today, just another gear in the machine of the apocalypse. i heard he/she/they are a HUNTER for THE SAINTS. i guess it fits, seeing as he/she known to be +EASY-GOING & +PLAYFUL, as well as -DUMBASS & -IMPULSIVE. they often have NO FUN by JOJI stuck in their head while they work. i wonder if they’re prepared for what’s coming ? ( seraph. 20. cst. he/they. sexual assault / eating disorders. )

under the cut is bio / personality / wanted connections

bio.

alright so he was born to Park U-jin and Min-ji in Bel Air los angeles

no one really calls him jun-seo asides from his family

he has an older sister named Park Ha-yun

his parents marriage was one of status, nothing more. his father was the heir to the international bank and his mother was the daughter of a former finance minister of France

the relationship between his mother and his father was cold, seeing that it was a beard relationship his mother would have her girlfriends while his father would sleep with the staff everything was a pretense

despite being the younger child, clay’s father picked him to be the heir of the company cause you know sexism

from early childhood, clay was in an out of tutoring sessions sent to the best schools in the world, everything was planned out to a T he was going to take over the bank

highschool hit and things got more rocky between his parents. his sister was off to college and for the first time of his life—-clay was alone in the large house

he met a “friend” in the boarding school. this friend took more advantage of how his pockets never seemed to be empty

within a 6 month spiral clay had gone from the goody two shoe boy to being plastered on the weekend

if there was a party, he would be there 

his grades were falling and his parents were getting more and more worried

since his grades were failing, he was sent to boarding school to take back control of his drug usage and drinking habits 

the outbreak was easy at first, armed guards and a safe house that was tucked away in the middle of nowhere till one of the staff got bit and tried to hide it from the family 

forced to flee with parents tearing at each other, shaking hands and blood of former family on his hands clay takes to the road 

he passes through state lines, sticking close to the road and learning from groups that he joined for weeks at a time 

the car finally broke down in toledo bend reservior dam so this is where he stays 

personality

a brat ,,, not even in a kinky way like ,,, he’ll print out embarrassing middle school photos of u and put them on the fridge or read of ur browser history to u and judge the porn u watch ,,,,

if he doesnt like u he’ll will make ur life a living hell

loves gossip like easy drops just to know all the tea 

might actually be stupid, there isnt anything going on in his head

impulse control who ? he does shit and then go :o when things go wrong

petty ? really petty honestly

they’re,,,, rlly angry at the world bc of what they know about the world on top of being an angry young adult so like ,,,, they’re  so moody it’s gross

really excitable! a walking !!!! exclamation point

 slow to pick up on things, like you have to explain shit 5 times to him

 once he puts his mind to something, its getting done but its getting done his way 

will give you the shirt off his back, an honest sweetheart 

has a hard time saying no to people

 likes to be the center of attention 

flirty ? but doesnt really know it

wanted connections

a mom/dad friend who’s always checking up on them & making sure they’re doing okay

exes that ended on bad terms

ride or die - they’re always raising hell with, someone clay wld lay down his life for if the occasion arose

frenemies

best friend(s)

a bad influence

someone who’s rlly protective over him or someone he’s Super protective over

* the friend from his past 

* someone who was in one of the migrant groups 

i gave u ride like 3 months ago 

hunter groups

someone who has saved his ass before

unrequited crush/love interest

mutual crushes

sworn enemies

[oliviabryan]

WEEK 8: The rise of photoshop for the average social media user and its effects

In recent years, the ‘ideal’ body type for women has changed. Replacing the model-like slim look that was the goal for decades, the more curvaceous, big breasts, slim waist and large buttocks, made famous by the Kardashian family, for many is even less attainable than what the goal once was. This sought after look has seen a rise in the use of filters and photoshop for the average social media user.

As the Toledo Center for Eating Disorders (2019) states , in past decades, people have become accustomed to seeing the airbrushed digitally edited advertisements found in magazine and billboards, but now thanks to technology, the average social media user can achieve this little to no effort and heavily edited image are becoming more popular on social media. 

However, there have been times where this attempt of fitting the mould of the ‘perfect’ body has been caught out with ‘photoshop fails’. Below is a recent example from Kylie Jenner in April this year. 

 via Kyliejenner (Instagram)

The filters that are readily available to anyone with access to a device and internet means that there has been a spike in mental illnesses as well as plastic surgery. New York plastic surgeon, Matthew Schulman, states that  “patients have been coming in with Snapchat filtered selfies to show what they want done to their body” (Adkins 2018). Social media has seen a rise in many mental illnesses in young people, especially teenagers. One of the main disorders that has been linked to social media is Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD). BDD is “a mental health disorder in which you can't stop thinking about one or more perceived defects or flaws in your appearance” (Mayo Clinic, 2020). This disorder can affect anyone from someone who is perceived as “good looking” to someone who is “average looking”, demonstrating how mental illnesses and disorders can effect just about anyone.

A person's social media shows what they want you to see. For most people, their social media only highlights the good things, never the bad, creating an image to the average follower or subscriber that you live a perfect life, when in actuality it could be the complete opposite. This can be credited to the shift in social media that occurred where the purpose of social changed from a form of self expression to form of self branding. Alyce Adkins in The Lexington line (2018) states that social media has shifted from an external being, to an extension of ourselves. This “front” that people create also adds to the pressures that people face on social media.

To end this, here is a music video by the band ‘Foster The People’ which they state is a social commentary on the “modelling industry and the fashion industry and the pressures women feel and girls feel every day” (2014). 

REFERENCES

Blake, E 2014, FOSTER THE PEOPLE EXPLAIN THE MEANING BEHIND THEIR TWISTED 'BEST FRIEND' VIDEO, MTV News, viewed 9 May 2020, <http://www.mtv.com/news/1833863/foster-the-people-best-friend-video/>

 Bonner, M 2020, Kylie Jenner Accidentally Posted a Photoshopped Pic and Immediately Deleted It, Cosmopolitan, viewed 9 May 2020, <https://www.cosmopolitan.com/entertainment/celebs/a32313940/kylie-jenner-photoshop-fail-bikini-quarantine/>

FosterThePeople 2014, Foster The People - Best friend, 29 May, viewed 9 May 2020, <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ndzln1UEyf0>

Mayo Clinic 2020, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, viewed 9 May 2020, <https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/body-dysmorphic-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353938>

Toledo Center for Eating Disorders 2020, Body Dysmorphia, Social Media & Image Filters, viewed 9 May 2020, <https://toledocenter.com/social-media/body-dysmorphia-social-media-image-filters/>

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10 things registered dietitians wish you knew about nutrition

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SALT LAKE Town — Diet may well be a single of the most complicated and overpowering subject areas. There are a ton of opinions, tips and own ordeals shared amongst persons — irrespective of whether in discussions, at gatherings, on social media or elsewhere.

It may well seem to be like there are a ton of conflicting tips on nutrition, but that is mainly because there are a ton of conflicting opinions, not conflicting specifics. If you’re emotion overwhelmed, you may well want to pay attention to who you are having your info from. Anyone eats, but not everybody is an skilled on having — sort of like owning a household but not figuring out how to construct a residence.

Alternatively of offering into trends or attention-grabbing headlines, registered dietitians are skilled in how to help you develop lengthy-long lasting, sustainable, sensible and constructive habits changes with your having and foodstuff selections.

To help established the report straight, I arrived at out to numerous registered dietitians, asking them to share what they desire persons comprehended about nutrition, such as realistic techniques to implement their information. Here’s what they mentioned:

“When it will come to nutrition, I desire persons could understand that there is no morality connected to foodstuff. In the mainstream media and in each and every fad diet regime we hear of foodstuff remaining explained as excellent as opposed to terrible, but approaching foodstuff as a result of this lens only makes unneeded guilt, fear and disgrace about having. Getting a a lot more neutral stance toward foodstuff can help consider the guilt out of having and make foodstuff a lot more pleasurable all over again. Alternatively of asking by yourself, ‘Is this foodstuff excellent?’ or ‘Is this foodstuff terrible?’, I would encourage you to feel a lot more about how your physique feels in reaction to that foodstuff. How does the foodstuff style to you? Is this foodstuff satisfying? How does the foodstuff come to feel in your physique? These types of questions can help you technique foodstuff from a area of curiosity rather than judgement.”

—Crystal Karges, registered dietitian nutritionist at Crystal Karges Diet

“Mastering the mundane basics of nutrition will include ninety% of your demands. Shell out time figuring out what’s actually keeping you back from the uninteresting information we have heard our entire lives — fruits, veggies, h2o, moderation, and many others. — instead of chasing no matter what flashy, warm subject matter is splashed across headlines in the second.”

—Lindsey McCoy, registered dietitian at Crave Diet RD

“Just mainly because a particular having pattern performs for you does not suggest it will get the job done for any individual else. Fantastic nutrition appears to be diverse for everybody mainly because we all have diverse nutrient demands, foodstuff choices and lifestyles. Obtain a way of having that makes you come to feel your finest — both of those bodily and mentally. Doing the job with a registered dietitian can be a huge help on this journey!”

—Nicole Stevens, registered dietitian at Lettuce Veg Out

“Carbohydrates are essential mainly because they’re the desired source of fuel for the physique. If we really don’t consume more than enough carbs, it is widespread for a man or woman to working experience potent cravings and find them out. With out adequate carbs in our eating plans it is also probably that we start to use precious muscle mass for fuel. It’s recommended to consume carbs constantly all over the day, so adding them to each and every food (and your treats if that is what performs finest for you) is a excellent follow.”

—Kathleen Meehan, registered dietician at Kathleen Meehan Diet

“Most persons, even athletes, really don’t need to have to concentration on having a lot more protein in their diet regime mainly because they’re previously having a lot. What can help with satiety, well being and general performance is spreading your whole protein intake all over the day. Purpose to incorporate a lot more at breakfast and treats whilst lowering portions of meat and protein food items at lunch and meal.”

—Kelly Jones, registered dietitian at Kelly Jones Diet

“We need to have to see the huge picture when it will come to what we are having and look at our diet regime as a entire instead of just personal factors exactly where food items are labeled ‘good’ or ‘bad’, ‘healthy’ or ‘not healthy.’ Alternatively, check with by yourself how your entire diet regime stacks up. Does it present the vitamins your physique demands, give you electricity to do the items you want to do, help you come to feel excellent? Bear in mind, food items get the job done together to fuel our bodies, help us improve, repair service injuries and fulfill our starvation.”

—Marie Dittmer, registered dietitian at Wellbeing Strategies Area

“I like Google. Sad to say, although, its algorithm is not created to filter amongst true and untrue info — that is still left up to the reader. When it will come to nutrition, there is so significantly true/untrue things out there and it is actually really hard to determine which is which. Just one tip is to search for the source. Not each and every web site must be written solely by an skilled in buy to be credible, but the author really should at minimum cite credible resources. Even so, content written by authorities in the industry are normally a lot more probably to be accurate. These authors not only are able to cite resources, but have the training and skills to critique these resources.”

—Ann Scheufler Kent, registered dietitian at Peas and Hoppiness

“Healthy having is not about a single foodstuff, a single food, a single day or even a single single week… it is about designs more than a more time time period of time. Pull back and check with by yourself, ‘What am I executing most of the time, more than a time period of weeks or months?’ That is what matters in terms of influence of foodstuff selections on well being. For occasion, if you observe that your fruit/vegetable/plant-primarily based foodstuff intake (a standard pattern that we know has been tied to constructive well being results) has been small the very last week or so, check with by yourself why? Are you shopping for food items that you come to feel you really should be having rather than food items that seem attractive? Are you shopping for food items that need to have a lot more prep time than you have and so you are not having those food items? Perhaps it really is wintertime and you hold shopping for salads and they hold heading terrible but when you cease and feel about what actually seems delightful, it really is a heat soup.”

—Lisa Zucker, registered dietian at Diet Kai

“No a single foodstuff is ‘bad’ for you or will make or split your well being, that is unless you might be allergic! You can consume a huge variety of food items such as salad and brownies and nonetheless obtain well being. The vitamins in a brownie do not detract from the vitamins in a salad. Furthermore, NOT having a huge variety of food items can be a predictor for nutrient deficiencies. ALL food items comprise a diverse variety of vitamins that our bodies can employ. I’d suggest creating sure to system a huge variety of food items such as food items that you know are nutritious but also food items that you really get pleasure from no matter of their nutrient high quality.”

—Amy Fantastic, registered dietitian at Toledo Center for Eating Conditions

Lastly, I’ll incorporate my ideas:

We are so disconnected with our bodies. Alternatively of a lot more nutrition info, you probably need to have a lot more follow in listening to what your physique is communicating to you. I’d encourage you to be intentional about listening fewer to what everybody else is executing and devote a lot more time considering about what you need to have. What is your physique communicating to you and how can you be a lot more productive at conference it is demands? Are you constantly drained and operate down and need to have to prioritize adequate sleep? Would food planning help so you can be ready when you get hungry? When you arrive at comfy fullness following a food, are you able to regard that cue and cease having? These are some excellent questions to contemplate.

About the Writer: Emily Fonnesbeck

Emily Fonnesbeck is a registered dietitian who owns her possess personal follow in Logan, Utah. She performs with both of those community and digital purchasers. Her treatment method specialities incorporate disordered having, physique image and digestive issues. Email: emily@emilyfonnesbeck.com

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2007. June.

It took all my energy

(literally: ALL of it)

to confront my therapist: "I'm only staying in treatment with you because it would be easier to fix my issues with you, with you, instead of with another therapist, that I would also have to pay."

LESSON #6: if you ever find yourself even considering saying this to your therapist or counselor or advisor, I don't care how mentally ill or guilty or non-compliant or unmotivated or however else they "make" you feel, I beg of you, from the bottom of my heart: J U S T. LEAVE. T h e y S U C K. Therapists are educated and trained to notice and address issues as they (inevitably) arise. Did they think this lesson didn't apply to them? That "I'm so competent my clients and I won't have any issues" ??!!??!!?!? You are paying them to do this. Issues are inevitable parts of all relationships and it's their job to deal with them honestly. Do YOU get to keep YOUR job if you, just, don't DO it?!

You'll find this story in another section of this blog but it bears mention, here, because it was the day I purposefully quit working on recovery because it was the day I lost all hope it was possible. Instead I resigned myself to trying to just "manage" my eating disorders alone. That session was the product of over a year of journaling and prayer and careful consideration and it consumed all the assertiveness resources I possessed, or I would have confronted her again, a month later, and fired her, because she never brought the subject up again.

Instead, I kept paying her for two more years until she"retired" - when she literally took me to a new therapist, and I do mean literally. As in, she was in the room, actually there, in the office, telling the new one I was over my eating disorder (in her eyes, apparently, merely "the worried well" to the very end, no matter how often I threw up or how little I ate.) It took 4 years of almost perfect therapy with this almost perfect therapist who had almost perfect boundaries and who listened almost perfectly with an almost perfect blend of compassion and firmness for me to realize and barely even begin to process the truth of what had transpired in that former therapist's office.

So. Back to June 2007, after that session I called out my therapist: I purposefully quit even trying to recover. Eleven years later, December 2018: I quit trying to even manage my eating disorders and purposefully embraced them again, not caring how much/often I starved/fasted/binged/vomited/restricted ... everything but laxatives. In the 11 years between, I wrote a lot of letters letting people know who I really was and what I really needed and what I really believed and obviously lost a few people. My beloved step-mom died. My dear pastor died. So did the car I'd driven for 19 years. I moved. Alone. I set boundaries and let go of a few more people. I got bullied past the point of a new PTSD diagnosis at my full-time job and plain old picked-on at my part-time job. I filed a lawsuit. I drank too much. Way too much. (Until I went to Racing for Recovery, an amazingly innovative and holistic treatment center for substance abuse, where I regained my self-respect, or at least enough to risk spine surgery:) after a bone graft, laminectomy, and fusion, I was out of work for three months and in and out of physical therapy for the next 2 years. And I gained weight. A LOT. More, than ever, in my life. I'd never, ever, for so long, been so sedentary or so restricted in movement or practiced so much patience, but it wasn't enough patience to cope with the weight gain. I ran too soon and too fast and too far and it was too much for my knee. The following year it was my tushie. The injuries slowed me even more which led to even more weight gain and more discomfort. And I shouldn't say "discomfort." It's worse than that. Instead of growing used to my own skin, my intolerance for the body I live in grows incrementally more disabling at an ever-increasingly rapid rate.

Enter Anorexia Effort Umpteen-Billion-&- something, binge/purge subtype. That was December 2018. It worked. It also led to me being treated at 2am in the the ER with a ham sandwich that the nurse brought to me to eat while he scrounged for supplies to deal with the wound on my forehead where my scalp was showing from slamming my face into the metal corner of the elevator frame from falling down from getting dizzy from not eating anything that day but 2 packets of chocolate covered espresso beans.

(Apparently, my body was a little tired of how I'd been "feeding" it the past 35 years.)

Shortly after, I started a temporary part-time job and was too busy with it in the early months of 2019 to starve or vomit too much because of how much it debilitated me. But. As soon as the job was over, in mid-March, I plunged down the rabbit hole and straight into the toilet.

Come on! It's ridiculous!

One must have some sense of jocularity when observing the ridiculous.

So there I was on a Friday night, April 5th, 2019, to be exact, coughing up blood for the second time in the past two weeks.

Now, that was new. I'd vomited blood, before. Many times, actually. Not copious amounts, but enough to get my attention. But coughing it up? Like my esophagus was disintegrating? An earlier esophageal scope had found "tears" - as in, "torn." But ... disintegrating?

I remember saying all this at my assessment at River Centre five days later, and how angry and irritated I felt, not for being asked, not at myself for being honest, but angry at myself that this was my truth, angry that I was such an embarrassing human. And I remember her response, her brow furrowed with concern, the compassion in her voice

(don't worry, she got over it)

saying, "You know - you're really very sick"

and how completely taken aback I was to hear that. I fell for that like the sucker I apparently am and five days later wrote them a big fat check worth half a month's salary.

Sucker.

Wait!! What happened!! How did I end up in the clinic?! Yep. That's EXACTLY how I felt.

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10 unparalleled reasons your abandonment issues, which are only with therapists, are uniquely iatrogenic to therapy:

She knows your other therapist failed to outlive your treatment because they were working together when her brain tumor was diagnosed

In the summer of 2002, a few months into treatment, you admit this impacts your ability to "engage" and she assures you "I wouldn't start this with you if I wasn't going to finish it"

But then in December she says she might be retiring

And then in March she says she's 99% positive she IS retiring

But then she doesn't (though she doesn't tell you - in April, she's just still "there")

And then in June she suddenly moves to a different practice

Which, she promises, in July, is moving to a different location

Which, in August, when you show up there, is only a sign by a locked door with no one there

After you drove from an hour away

And it's not the first time you drove an hour to a session that she didn't show up for

(Lots of lessons, today. Lesson Number Two: If your therapist seems like she might be flightier than YOU, Go With Your GUT. She probably IS.)

SO! And that was just the therapy part of my 2003! I left out the part when I was pink-slipped into a psychiatric ward for half a month for being suicidal, or the part a few months later when my ex-husband's "anger management counselor" pulled me aside to tell me privately that she was seriously worried he would rape me, or how she failed to express concern about why I failed to express concern (because he already had raped me though I wasn't yet able to correctly define it) or the part when we had to have a special meeting with the city police, where I worked, because of his behavior there,

blah

blah

blaaaaaah......

Therefore whether or not I would, could, needed, wanted, deserved, was sick enough, (blah blah again) to go to the nearest eating disorder clinic was not something I had time or energy or resources to contemplate because I was busy just surviving. Despite the fact that I was vomiting profusely and often and somewhere in there my kidney function had been compromised and I had to quit one of my part-time jobs that I loved best. When that newspaper article came out in December of 2003, I gave it as much time as it took you to read that last blog post. And in the year that followed before the next article came out in December of 2004 was no better. My gem of an ex had the sheriff kick ME out of the house, I packed up my stuff and moved 5 times, transferred schools, changed my program of study, relocated to the nearby city, and spent the summer in a women's shelter for victims of domestic violence. All while having no insurance and a therapist charging me for each full billable hour down to 15-minute increments which I was STUPID enough to be GRATEFUL for her willingness to "allow" me to accrue a bill.

(Which is why, when my divorce settlement came through, I. LITERALLY. Gave. Her. My. HOUSE. I paid my lawyer, bought a few groceries, and gave her All. The. Rest.- my freaking HOUSE.) (This is Lesson Number Three: A therapist who allows you to rack up a bill for over a year is VIOLATING YOUR BOUNDARIES. RUN. Run Away FAST.)

https://www.toledoblade.com/news/state/2004/12/04/State-levies-new-charges-against-embattled-Sylvania-psychologist/stories/200412040062

Don't want to read the article? Allow me to enlighten you. Remember the Ohio State Board of Psychology wanted to revoke David Garner's license for having a sexual affair with a colleague that he was supposed to be supervising. So instead accepting responsibility he sent a letter to his patients and their families (soliciting them to advocate for him) with the following exact words:

"I do believe that those who will be personally affected by decisions made by the board should also have a voice."

Then, he, himself, sent the board the inch-thick stack of letters they wrote for him. If you think, as I do, that sounds like he blatantly used his position of power to exploit them, you'd be right on target with the State Board who accused him of just that. Personally, I wonder why he didn't change careers and run for public office, because even though he wrote those words with his own "pen," he denied the charges, indicating his ability to create his own reality is on par with any skilled politician.

I did mention the article to my therapist. And we actually had a discussion about GARNER's awful lack of boundaries. (Right?!?) (cue Alanis Morissette) But in December of 2004 I was preparing for my divorce trial while failing Russian History (I thought the Romanov dynasty would be "fun") while living with an aunt and uncle and grown-up cousin and trying to get better "for" them. (Which, by the way, Does Not Work.) (That's Lesson Number Four: You cannot get better for other people. It can be a motivating factor, but It Is NOT sustainable.) A couple months into 2005, my aunt and uncle told my cousin and I that they wanted to move. And within about 2 weeks, they had chosen a land parcel, taken out a loan, hired an architect, had plans drawn up and a realtor sign in the yard, and asked us, while our heads were still spinning wildly, "So - what are YOU guys gonna do?"

Huh. Well. We each got an apartment. The day I got the keys, I picked up some burgers and fries and promptly inaugurated my new home by vomiting, again, profusely, and often. On day three, I ran into my therapist's office unannounced and blurted out, "Does this mean I can't do it?!? Or that I'm doing it?!?" She said I was fine. And asked me if I wanted to take home the stuffed puppy her grand-daughter had her bring in for me at my previous session, which I had turned down, not wanting to be more involved with them or their father or her outside life than I already was. But this time I took it. I slept with it every night, Every Single Night, for the next thirteen years.

Two years ago I gave it to my cats and replaced it with a stuffed monkey from the Toledo Zoo named Emerson. My (current) therapist said she thought that sounded "significant."

It was.

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What happens

if you let an ed fester & take root before seeking treatment?

or if the therapist has no boundaries?

or ethics?

or fails to outlive the therapy?

or if the ed clinic lies to you, takes advantage of your vulnerability, & drops you back into your sick world without any referrals or aftercare or follow-up or recompense or even listening?

I’ll tell you:

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Around the time I moved into my very first place of my own a 3rd exposé appeared in our local paper about the founder of the only eating disorder treatment center in a 200 mile radius. It noted more boundary violations, some that I did not register at the time because I was ignorant of being a similar victim, and was, like Garner’s prey, grateful to be violated.

For instance, one anorexic victim (excuse me – cough!clientcough!) named “Jan” was quoted praising him for taking her calls “at all hours” – that’s another very important lesson that I’ll get into under “the therapist” section. For now, just know you should FLEE, and QUICKLY!, from ANY mental health professional who allows this. Your therapist should ABSOLUTELY have some method of contact between sessions but they should ABSOLUTELY have very clear and fair boundaries that allow them to care for themselves and you in a professional, ethical manner. You can be as grateful as you want to be for being mistreated but the only impact that will have upon the inevitable consequences you will suffer is to make them even more difficult to move beyond.

We also learned about his (boring) board game (that I later discovered multiple copies discarded and abandoned around his clinic. (Interesting graduate-level study tool? MAYBE. Fun “game”?!? NOT!) Also, this was where we learned both his and his mistress’ name were both on the deed of the condo he helped her buy. In this third newspaper article one of his supporters defended his right to his (quote) “lifestyle.” We learned that shortly before the first article came out, he defiantly refused the Ohio State Board’s demand he relinquish his license, which led them to file no less than 15 ethics violations. W learned so many good clinicians had quit their jobs, there, because of the environment.

Well, “Duh,” I thought. This guy and his clinic actually kind of made my unstable life appear relatively calm via comparison, a thought that rendered any notion of getting treatment there a ridiculously moot idea. If you read only one of these articles about the man that founded this clinic and trained the people that still work there, today, and developed the treatment protocols that it only just recently in 2020 barely began to stop following, then read this one from late December of 2004, the most thorough of them all:

https://www.toledoblade.com/frontpage/2004/12/26/Sylvania-psychologist-battles-to-salvage-controversial-career/stories/feed/feed/index.rss

These 3 articles were all written by the same Pulitzer Prize winning investigative journalist, and 7 months after this one he wrote his fourth and last, when the Ohio Board finally succeeded in suspending David Garner’s license – this is the first one Garner “declined” to comment:

https://www.toledoblade.com/news/state/2005/07/22/Psychologist-accepts-temporary-suspension/stories/200507220062

Around this time, therapy had turned into the most stressful thing in my life. And I thought this was normal: a logical byproduct of making a voluntary effort to engage oneself in an intense process of change to be a better human and grow and recover.

Lesson Number Five: Therapy is NOT supposed to be “the most stressful thing” in your life. After years of rehabilitative therapy for my therapy, from an ethical clinician who has boundaries, I can tell you with assurance that this lesson is viable. In late spring of 2007 I finally gave up on recovery. Not only did I lack the support I needed to do so, this therapist was clearly not able to help me. And after 5 years of trying to recover I clearly did not have the kind of support system needed to do so, nor was I able to cultivate one on my own. I told her I was only staying so that I would not have to terminate with so many issues between us, saying it would be easier to resolve them directly with her than take them to another provider. She agreed. However, after that difficult session I lost my nerve to confront her over and over again. And she never brought it up. And because it was a sick relationship under the care of a woman I suspect was the borderline she accused me of being, I stupidly stayed 2 more years, until she (supposedly) “retired.” (…yeah right…)

What happened in that office is a different part of my story, but it made checking River Centre’s website a regular part of my life, still watching for indications they were dealing with their scandal in a healthy way. But the same names remained: The two Garners. The unique last name. A fourth name I had seen for quite awhile. I hoped and watched and waited especially for David Garner’s name to disappear. The same for any female who left, hoping it could be the “assistant” with whom he had an affair. No luck. The wife continued to work together with the husband and his mistress at the same clinic they opened together, reparenting young eating disorder victims, one big incestual happy family.

How could anyone get help at that place? Now that his secret was out, how could these therapists continue to help providing new victims for this predator to exploit? How could the scorned wife continue to work with him and his girl-on-the-side?

In 2008 the last article about Garner and his clinic came out in the city paper. It was written by a different journalist. They finally took his license away for good.

Like most predators, I correctly guessed he was a re-offender incapable of rehabilitation.

He did it again.

And this time, it was another, eating disordered, vulnerable, young, malleable

patient.

https://www.toledoblade.com/local/2008/10/22/Sylvania-psychologist-cedes-license-in-sex-charge/stories/200810220060

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Twenty-ish years before the clinic, a year or two before the Twin Towers fell

Night shift at the factory. I considered myself recovered at this point (which means nothing. By age thirty, de Nile wasn’t just some river in Egypt but my most profound modus operandi.) I truly never expected to live to see 30; when I arrived I had no idea what to do, had made no plans. So there I was in a factory. It was depressing and I ate myself silly, never connecting the dots that my binge eating was no different than anorexia or bulimia – it was just a new, unfamiliar band-aid for the same old wound.

But I did find a friend, there. Around my age, from around my area; we had even hung around some of the same people. For the first time there was someone interested in, at the same time I was willing to talk about, my eating disorder and the month I spent in a hospital ward for treatment. I’d never met anyone so comfortable with, nor so eager for, the most mundane details. That did trigger an instinctual alarm, but even if I’d known to listen, the denial I was in regarding my own eating disorder blinded me to what I was seeing in front of my own eyes: the more I talked, the more she shrank.

I doubted my vision until starvation affected the way she spoke, thought, reacted, communicated, behaved, et cetera, et cetera. By that point her friends were comparing notes trying to tease out the truth to give us direction. For instance: the “ice cream�� she claimed (to Friend A) to “pig out on” nightly was (according to Friend B’s peek into her freezer) actually zero-fat, zero-sugar, zero-nutrition, synthetically flavored air called “frozen whipped topping.” On the outside, as a “recovered” eating disorder survivor, I took on the role of expert; calming, explaining and guiding our circle of friends. On the inside I wrecked. I felt left out. I felt tricked (why had I listened to people telling me starving didn’t work? obviously they were wrong, for here she was right in front of me, with the sticks for arms and legs that I coveted, instead of my own squishy, bloated limbs.) While I paid lip-service to health and common sense, my heart condemned my failing, letting myself grow layers upon layers of padding. And I misinterpreted all of my own feelings as competitiveness. What I was able to comprehend was that I could not deal with her anorexia in a healthy way.

I had a coping skill. One. A real one – not one involving my body or what I put in it. (This part usually seems to surprise people, now, knowing only the devolved state I’ve been currently living in.) I could write. I wrote my friend a letter, explaining as kindly and respectfully as I could, my fears for myself and her that led me to give her an ultimatum: get treatment or I cannot be friends with you. Though we were never close, again, she did leave for the nearest eating disorders clinic.

When she returned a few months later, complaining they only ate frozen, microwaved food, I literally did NOT understand. “What do MEAN there’s no stoves?” I asked. There’s no such a thing as a kitchen without a stove. She may as well have said they fed her green eggs and ham. There’s no such thing. So she repeated herself: “There’s no stoves. There are two kitchens and neither one has a stove. It’s all microwaved. There’s, like, dozens of microwaves.” What?! No way! I told our friends not to believe her because no eating disorder treatment center would feed malnourished people that way. Even back then in the late 90s, before nutrition science, as with all other sciences, practically exploded with new and newer discoveries, we were starting to catch on that mass-produced, preprocessed, chemically-preserved-to-withstand-Armaggedon food was detrimental to our general health. So her claim that a group of clinical experts deliberately fed one of the most malnourished populations like that could not be true. I said it was probably a couple of special “challenge” meals that angered her.

I

was

WRONG.

SOOO wrong.

(Though it was 20 more years before I learned HOW wrong I was.)

When she revealed her clinic was in the same city as my hospital program it made me so excited that it startled and scared me. (Yes, my feelings frighten me.) (I’m Super Fun like that.) In the decade since I’d been a patient, there, “Managed Care” happened, and my old hospital program had vanished into thin air (no pun intended.) I automatically assumed her clinic was where my treatment team landed – because it’s not a big big city and – it was the only specialized program in a rather large tristate area. BUT. That immediate hopeful flash of excitement didn’t just scare me, it confused me, because I wasn’t sick, though I was sure I was pretty messed up to be excited about an eating disorders treatment center.

But you see, about that part where I called myself a “recovered” eating disorder survivor? Well, that whole time I had been doing exactly what my friend had been doing. starving. It just didn’t look like it because I was so overweight. We were in different stages of the same disease; a year before, she had looked like me; a year later, I looked like her. But according to the DSM IV (the most current diagnostic tool at the time): a) I was too fat to be anorexic because you had to be at least 15% UNDERweight and I was more than 15% OVERweight b) I didn’t purge at least twice a week for at least 3 months because there was nothing to purge I didn’t look sick like my friend when I ate, either, because I had been sick for so long my eating habits were even weirder. Instead of inhaling buckets of cool, whipped, artificially flavored air, I would eat an entire bag of cheese puffs. All night long. For eight hours. And I would exercise all of the calories off before my next shift/bag. (And for which I suddenly developed a craving until I saw this video that made me retitle this post: https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/a-brief-history-of-the-cheese-curl-junk-foods-happiest-accident

I was not aware of how sick I was or of why I was so desperate to learn where my friend went. I only knew it was imperative I found out and imperative that no one else found out how imperative it was that I found out. Buuuut, not only did I give my friend an ultimatum to enter treatment, then, when she got back, I didn’t believe her. Yeah. She was angry. Also, since I wasn’t sick, it was imperative I didn’t look or sound sick. So, very, very carefully, I tried very hard to inquire as casually as I could, “where, again, did you go, again?”

“River Centre Clinic.” Says she.

“Never heard of it,” says I, very casually shrugging, and shaking my head, trying very hard to feel as cavalier as I was trying to look and sound.

Never forgot it, either.

[hownot2doit]

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The River Centre Clinic story takes a back seat for the next 18 years. Time to fast-forward.

The main story, at this point, is individual therapy. The DSM IV-TR came out in 2000, and there was no doubt I met the criteria for for a slam-dunk diagnosis. On top of that, I had been sick at that point for 17 years (the fancy clinical adjective: "entrenched") AND on top of THAT, my environment (a.k.a.: my marriage) was not supportive. Thus I automatically assumed that under her care it would only be a matter of time before she admitted me to the nearest treatment center for eating disorders: River Centre Clinic.

Now, allow me, if you would be so kind, to digress into a history lesson. For I think it's possible that one day in the future, the factual origins of social media could blur into Myth and Legend. Once upon a time, long, long ago, before Buzzfeed and Huffington Post, there were these things called newspapers. They were actually printed on real paper, and they were printed all over the globe and in every language, and (along with TV and radio) that is how we learned about the world around us. In general, we could reasonably trust most of what we read because they were only supposed to print stuff that they could prove was true. This concept was called: "Journalistic Integrity." Anything else was just gossip. (And gossip used to be considered "wrong.") Also, sources of information were allowed to protect their privacy, so they could remain reasonably safe from persecution. This concept was called "anonymity." Back then, in the olden times of long ago, anonymous sources were often considered the opposite they are, today, and many looked upon them with admiration for their courage to find a way to expose truth. Okay - you got all that? Because I'm going to discuss newspaper articles that are important to my story.

One day towards the end of 2003 an article came out in the city paper that I paid special attention to because it was about "this River Centre Clinic place" in which I'd already stockpiled some hope. (Our small town had it's own newspaper but most of the people I knew got the city paper, too, because there was nothing in the other one.) (Hi - that was sarcasm - why would we buy blank paper?) (And we really got it for the coupons.) It got my undivided attention because I was not doing so great. (Big, huge, ginormous Understatement.) And a good eating disorders clinic would have been a very helpful thing.

It was extra-trustworthy to me because it was written by a Pulitzer Prize winning young man who married a local woman who just happened to be one of my friends:

https://www.toledoblade.com/frontpage/2003/12/12/Trouble-revisits-local-psychologist-as-counselor-admits-affair-state-cites-ethics-breaches/stories/200312120022

So. Apparently. This "David Garner" person, who founded the clinic with his wife, liked having sex with his patients. And he treated anorexia. So that means he was drawn to women who had starved away their curves and periods and looked like children. So obviously there could have been a pedophilia theme running in there, as well. And he didn't JUST abuse his power: when his victim lodged a formal complaint, he LIED about it. For a YEAR. Think about that for a moment: that made her look like a liar. So: not only was she sick, he made her sicker with his abuse, and THEN he slandered her CHARACTER for year (which allowed others to, as well.) I mean - HOW MUCH DAMAGE IS ONE PERSON ALLOWED TO INFLICT UPON ANOTHER PERSON?

Right away I had to wonder about the co-founder of this clinic, his wife, who was also a therapist. WHY would any therapist help supply this guy with fresh victims by setting up an eating disorder clinic with him?!? it's not like he could hide from her the fact that The Country Of Canada suspended his license.

Wait. It gets better. Shortly after this he became an ex-pat of his homeland and crossed the border south to Michigan. At this point a SECOND Canadian victim came forward. DUDE. This guy's been doing this - and getting away with it - since FREAKING 1979, This is when him homeland stripped him of his license forever, and he moved even farther from Canada, and crossed another border, south, into Ohio, whose licensing board apparently thought that unlike every other repeat offender, this guy was done repeating. But this guy just couldn't keep his pants zipped at work. He had an affair with an "assistant psychologist," at the clinic, who was publicly willing to shoulder the blame.

An "assistant" would imply she was early in her career and thus probably young. One might wonder why the older, mentor-type figure would allow the younger person to compromise herself in this way. Unless they had no scruples whatsoever. I couldn't help but think how easily a younger woman could have been manipulated by an older man who (the article said) even helped her purchase a house.

What on earth was the atmosphere like at this clinic run by a husband and wife working together with his mistress? I wondered. Nope. I'm definitely not going there anytime soon. (Which wasn't a problem with my therapist, who merely called me "the worried well" - but that's for a different story.) As I continued to work in recovery, wondering if my therapist was right, I continued watching River Centre Clinic's website, wondering if my therapist was wrong.

Why did I care? Why did I pay attention? Why did I spend brain cells on it?

Simple. It was the closest and only viable treatment facility and I needed full-time care. My therapist was a well-published eating disorders "expert" (quotes deliberate) so I was unable to consciously acknowledge that she was not helping my eating disorder. I literally starved the 24-48 period before most sessions, and on those occasions she rewarded me with compliments on my appearance.

... which is I N S A N E ...

So somewhere deep in my fuzzy screwed up brain I knew I needed what this clinic offered but NOT if they cancelled out their help by doing more harm than good. So I watched their website: maybe one of the female staff members name would disappear from the site, indicating the "psychology assistant" went to work somewhere Maureen Garner (her boyfriend's WIFE) did NOT work. Or maybe David Garner would get fired, or quit for the sake of his clinic. If I saw staff changes that indicated the Clinic was dealing with their drama in a healthy way, then maybe I could get the care I suspected I needed. And had possibly never stopped needing, since I left my hospital program so many years earlier.

[hownot2doit]

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River Centre Clinic was not a place I would ever be sick enough to need treatment a second time but the thought of it’s existence brought me comfort, because I assumed that at least part of my old treatment team had to be there. Where else would those experienced and skilled clinicians have gone when their hospital program closed? And maybe I could talk to them, someday. I had never stopped keeping an eye out for them whenever I drove an hour to the city to shop at the malls. I mean, therapists, nurses and doctors went to malls, too – right? I badly needed verification they existed, because although I cherished my memories of treatment there, those memories didn’t feel like mine. They felt like something I read about, and that was a source of great pain and confusion to feel like this thing that was so important to me had nothing to do with reality.

Speaking of “reality”: a good transition word to refocus. For, as I said, “De Nile ain’t just a river in Egypt,” it was my Way Of Life. I was in denial about my health, my job, my marriage, my education…almost everything. Thus, I had no insight about my misery. I simply assumed the things I had heard were true: “You’re never happy with anything!” “No matter how/what/when/where, ___ it’s never enough for you! You’ ll never be happy!” “You know what, you’re spoiled! You’re just like your father/mother/grandmother! you have to have everything go your way or all you do is…” What was my way? I had a “way”?…I never figured that one out. I just figured (is that past tense?) it was all true and I was a dyed-in-the-wool malcontent with no hope of hope. I had long since accepted that as fact. I only wished acceptance made it less painful.

So there I was driving home from the factory one summer morning. I still remember what road I was on north of town (Banner School Road.) And how when I glanced out the passenger window I noticed the mist rising off a field backed by a treeline, and how I thought, “Wow, today’s gonna be a scorcher” and how that very moment it hit me: ” I don’t have to stay here. I can leave!” Immediately: a flash of joy! of relief! Then: shock, then shame settled in for, by “leave,” I meant leaving the living. (I’m still too ashamed to use the “s” word.) This was not a new thought, though, so desensitization to the idea settled in right alongside the shame, For the time being though, the shock lingered and I was able to use it to began making attempts to change. Something. Anything.

I started by moving from nights to 2nd shift (a.k.a. No Life – you work late, so you fall asleep late, so you get up late, so all you really have time to do is get ready for work. Repeat.) By the time the company Christmas party rolled around, though still on the high end of a healthy weight range, I’d lost about two dozen pounds. I met up with my old friend at the shrimp table exactly like the year before, remembering how emaciated she was despite all the “free shrimp” she was so happy about. I still wish I had the burgundy outfit I bought for the event – a huge splurge for me, from the Ann Taylor store. I bought it because the semi-cropped jacket over the zip-up pants made me look deceptively thin.

That year, though, the roles were reversed, and it was my old friend who was staring and whispering, and I who was uncomfortable and irritated. And I remember why! “They don’t know anything about eating disorders! I’m at the high end of a healthy BMI for someone as short as me! I have WAY more experience with this than they do!! I KNOW what I’m doing.” Another flip-flop: I didn’t socialize that year. I just hung out with my antisocial husband.

Soon after I looked up this place called The River Centre Clinic. I read every name, every bio: David Garner. Maureen Garner. (Husband & wife? I wondered) A woman with a locally unique last name. More that I don’t recall because they didn’t stay. But not one name from my old team. (And I’d know, because I kept every scrap of paper from that program.) (I still haven’t thrown any of it away.)

[hownot2doit]

… about the grammatically terrible title …

Once upon a time a therapist violated every boundary in the book (yes, I read the book) except the sexual boundary, then retired and changed her research focus from eating disorders to: “Termination of psychotherapy clients – how and how not to do it.”

Based upon my exit from her office, I can attest that her skill set was desperately in need of research. Yet I blame myself: I had asked her at one point how we might go about it, and she said, “I don’t know.”

And there you go. This therapist wasn’t the only experience I had in treatment that did more harm than good. There was also the clinic that falsely advertised aftercare that was nonexistent. There was the therapist who died of a brain tumor. The insurance that ran out. Et cetera.

The rule of thumb about “therapy” is: you get out of it what you put into it. The reality of it is: sometimes you just slip through the cracks. The only way I can think of to bring some good out of it is tell my story and hope some other patient, somewhere, somehow, learns when they should run away, fast. Maybe there’s even a therapist out there willing to learn a lesson.

Telling my story will give you a good review of a current treatment center, and a picture of one in the late 1980s, so while I’m at it I plan to incorporate in-depth reviews of the online profiles of many other treatment centers.