#Thirst Aid Kit podcast

[bellemorte79]

I miss these ladies.

THIRST AID KIT | S6E05 | FRIENDSHIP AND THIRST (Feat. Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman)

SPECIAL GUESTS TIME!

We were joined by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman of the wildly popular podcast Call Your Girlfriend. They have a new book out, called Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close (it’s now a NYT bestseller 🎉) which is part memoir, part manifesto, part instruction manual on friendship, community, and love as a  verb. So we asked them who they fancy and there was naturally there was pleasing overlap.

First, we giggled over the potent hotness of actor and frontman of indie band TV on the Radio, Tunde Adebimpe. 

We moved onto the two people in maybe the silliest jobs, acting. First we giggled over the majestic swag of Peter Dinklage, his rough velvet voice and his always somehow exactly right hair.

And finally we stopped by the thirst backyard belonging to Stanley Tucci (it probably has a fire pit and a clay pizza oven, right?). The Tooch out there right now, ready to make you a negroni. Look at him in this henley. Look at this shit. 

We hope this episode makes you laugh and think and, hopefully, reach out to your friends for no reason at all.

You can listen to the whole episode RIGHT HERE (more ways to listen are listed below).

ONE (1) THING TO READ & TWO (2) THINGS TO LISTEN TO, IF YOU LIKE!

Order Big Friendship! Some places you can buy it are covered here.

Listen to Call Your Girlfriend; the great song, and the great podcast.

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We’re on Twitter at @thirstaidkit. You can follow Big Friendship on Twitter @Big_Friendship, and Ann is @annfriedman​, while Aminatou is @aminatou. Keep sending us your drabbles (keep ‘em short!) to thirstaidkit@slate.com. And if you have the time and inclination, we won’t say no to a (five star? 👀) rating and review on Apple Podcasts. 

Stay thirsty, and remember to wear a mask. 😷💜 

[mattmurdeaux]

COSTUME APPRECIATION Charlie Cox as Matt Murdock | Marvel's Daredevil Season 1-3

"The same way I would flag unnecessary action scenes, I would flag [unnecessary] shirtless scenes. I remember there was one scene in S2 with Claire Temple and it said something like (Matt takes his shirt off) and I was like...why? No. It didn't make sense [with the scene]." - Charlie Cox

[sleepynegress]

Not me just remembering that Charlie Cox was on the Thirst Aid Kit, way back in 2018, which means he knows about fandom imaginings and was very cool about the female gaze of desire in media...

BONUS: in-studio footage from TikTok. https://www.tiktok.com/@nici.murdock/video/7249798473107705115

[fanhackers]

On Thirsty Audiences

Dramatic literature and theatre is my first field: though I was a fan before I was anything else, I wasn’t a fan studies scholar till later in my career.  But, like many academics, my interest in the subjects I’ve studied borders on fannish interest, and so theatre is one of my fandoms.

Kirsty Sedgwick is a major figure in audience studies, and she’s recently crossed over from academia into more general public intellectual spaces with her latest book, On Being Unreasonable: Breaking the Rules and Making Things Better (Faber & Faber, 2023.)  There’s always been an overlap between fan studies and audience studies, and Sedgwick is a scholar of theatre audiences. Her work frequently questions the rules (explicit and implicit) of being an audience member and asks who those rules exclude: for instance, mothers with small children. In her 2018 book, The Reasonable Audience: Theatre Etiquette, Behaviour Policing, and the Live Performance Experience, Sedwick talks about the ways in which behavior standards can be sexist, racist, ableist, and otherwise exclusionary of the very diversity of audience members that theatre-makers claim that they want to attract.

I thought that I would highlight a different essay from Sedgwick’s oeuvre: 2018’s “How can we talk about ‘thirst’ in theatre?” written for Exeunt magazine.  In it, Sedgwick talks about the ways in which women are seen to enjoy theatre for the “wrong” reasons, stinking up lobbies with their love of Benedict Cumberbatch or Hugh Jackman or Tom Hiddleston or Kit Harrington. Sedgwick describes how  “the fear of female audiences reached its peak recently in the handsome-celebrities-onstage trend – like when the theatresphere nervously anticipated how swarms of Benedict Cumberbatch fans might ruin the star’s 2015 Hamlet with their tardiness and addiction to instagram, or when Tom Hiddleston’s fans were criticized for “colonizing the pavement” after Coriolanus.  Sedgwick argues that “the real mystery is how theatres have been able to get away for so long with using the desires of girls to fill their seats while simultaneously shaming them for it.“ 

Sedgwick also argues that not all forms of thirst are equal, and that while male thirst can be dangerous because of how it keeps women down, “female thirst almost always operates to build men up.” In particular, she cites the ways in which fans work to “give underappreciated actors of colour the attention they deserve.” She quotes Bim Adewunmi and Nichole Perkins of the Thirst Aid Kit podcast talking about John Cho.  The podcasters explain that:

“every time we saw him, we’d say, ‘Oh my gosh, he’s so amazing, he’s so hot.’ We really wanted to give him some shine. We see you–not just because you’re beautiful, but because we see what you’re doing on and off screen, and we want to amplify that.” 

Sedgwick concludes that “If male thirst simplifies women to bits of flesh, then female thirst tends to be all about fleshing out the person inside,” and concludes that thirst can be radical. The whole article is worth a read, as is much of Sedgwick’s other work.

–Francesca Coppa, Fanhackers volunteer

[emjee]

Listening to episodes of Thirst Aid Kit for the first time in literal years and God bless, this podcast should qualify as a public service

[macverse]

Thrist

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You may have teased Chris just a bit too far and now you have to pay for it. Not that you're complaining.

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"Hold still," Chris rasps, his voice low and gravelly. He only has one hand free so he can't pin me down the way I know he likes.

"Can't help it," I manage between waves of pleasure. I involuntarily squirm again, bucking my hips against the toy causing Chris to pull it away and shut it off. “Y/N, if you can't keep still I'll just stop right now."

"No,” I pleaded. Damn it, I was so close just now. Besides the toy in Chris's hand, the man occupying my field of vision is more than enough to encourage multiple orgasms out of me. We'd been in the middle of undressing after a fancy night out when Chris suddenly pinned me down on the bed and started playing with all of my sensitive spots. Kneeling before me while I'm pliant on my back, is not only a very sexy man but a very sexy man in his boxer briefs, unbuttoned dress shirt framing his sculpted bare chest, still perfectly coiffed hair and the begins of a bulging erection that I desperately want inside of me.

"Well be a good girl Y/N and I'll let you come,” he teases and brings the toy back to my clit. He quickly increases the speed with a devilish glint in his eyes and I gasp at the increased stimulation. Somehow I manage not to squirm this time. I'm so fucking close I can feel it. The muscles between my spread thigh are flexing and fluttering anticipating release.

“Chris…” I whine knowing the fall into orgasm is just within reach but the mad bastard switches the toy off again, “Yes darling? Is there something you needed?"

"Fucking asshole,” I chastise him with a flirty smile on my face as I writhe in frustration at the failed orgasm.

"Language,” he replies, causing me to giggle...

Read the rest on my AO3

https://archiveofourown.org/works/44538361

I honestly blame @thirstaidkitpodcast for this. I also thank thirst aid kit podcast for this cause the title was easy.  I hope you kinky freaks enjoy.

[amberlynnmurdock]

oh my god... im listening to Wilson's interview on the podcast thirst aid kit... IT IS A CRIME THEY TOOK THE VIDEO OFF YOUTUBE... at least there's the audio on Spotify ooooooffff

[briannaisuntitledatpresstime]

I just love this scene to bits for everyone! All the Izzy/Con thirsters who get a shirtless scene, and Con himself, who once thought/said no one wanted to see him shirtless, but has now been proven so wrong and is embracing his identity as a “thirst object” (as Bim and Nichole of the Thirst Aid Kit podcast would say). Everyone wins here! 😁

CON O'NEILL as Izzy Hands in OUR FLAG MEANS DEATH (2022— ) Episode 2.05

[blackwomanwriter]

“I Don’t Think You’re Ready”

First of all, I hope everyone is staying safe and able to quarantine themselves at this time. I know so much is happening around us, and it can feel overwhelming and frightening. Thus, I hope that this takes your mind off the craziness of the world, even just for a second. I know it definitely helped me!

This was inspired by so many things - my love for angst, Jake Gyllenhaal’s latest photo shoot, and this tweet by Nichole of Thirst Aid Kit Pod. However, after watching this scene from Nocturnal Animals, I finally figured this piece out. Enjoy!

“I don’t want to hide anymore,” he whispered.

Your eyes fluttered open, adjusting to the harsh morning light. It was too early to have this argument. The dreaded never-ending argument that he recently kept bringing up. You didn’t want to have this fight either – you didn’t have the energy.

“Babe,” you groaned, rubbing the sleep from your eyes. You surprised him last night by showing up in LA to support his latest project. Dressed in a trench coat with nothing underneath, you were the first thing he saw when he walked in the house. He teared up at the sight of you, a reminder of how long you’d spent apart, and how much he’d missed you. Lately, the video calls and texts just weren’t enough. Seconds later, you dropped the coat and revealed his other surprise, which he was more than eager to touch. He ravished you, kissing every inch of skin, until purple bruising showed on your dark skin.

You hoped that your presence would dead his request to go public. But nothing deterred him, so you were now waking up to the same argument that you kept repeating on the phone. Only this time, there were no barriers to hide how you felt. It wasn’t that you didn’t love him or were embarrassed by him – you just had a better understanding of the aftermath of this announcement. The things they would say about him, the things they would say about you. Not to mention the impact it would have on his career. A committed Jake Gyllenhaal ruined the fantasy of every women planning their future with him. Then there was the reaction to you - the opposite of every woman he’d ever dated or admitted to crushing on. Publicly, you didn’t fit into his world, no matter how progressive society appeared to be, you knew the truth – you lived it. The slew of hate comments that would await every social platform you visited. Now, that Jake was on Instagram, it was bound to get worse.  

It was easier keeping things the way they were, with only a few friends, family, and close associates knowing about your relationship. Besides, he always kept his relationships private, which is why his request sounded so odd.

It took a bit of adjusting, but you both found a way to make this relationship work. Yet, you noticed the little things that started chipping at him – his frustration when you let go of his hand in public settings - but it wasn’t enough to warrant concern. You still touched him in every way; you just learned to curtail any pda in case of prying eyes or cameras. Yet, he frowned every time you did it, and pushed for more affection.

“I don’t want to hide you anymore.” Jake trailed kisses down your neck, tracing the curve of your waist. He knew your body well, remembered it well, and treated it well. Memories of last night replayed in your mind as he continued to tease. The phone sex was good, but nothing beat the real thing. It’d been too long since you had it. You leaned into his touch, letting him guide the pace. Arms draped around his neck, you’d completely forgotten the argument. Although, in this position, you’d damn near forget your name. He shifted his weight, allowing your legs to instinctively wrap around his torso. The hunger in his eyes matched yours as you stared each other down. You were ready to rekindle what you both were missing these last couple of months. Closing your eyes, you tilted your face, ready for his kiss, but nothing happened. You opened your eyes in a haze of confusion. “Walk the carpet with me,” he insisted. “You have the dress, you already know how these things work, and I’ll only do four interviews max.” Jake kissed your nose, before kissing your lips. His eyes pleaded with you, waiting for your response. It was much harder to say no, when you were doing it in person, and couldn’t avoid his blue eyes. “I’ll be with you the entire time, and we don’t even have to stay for the whole movie.”  

There was this part of you that wanted to say yes, and give in, just to see the joy on his face. Yet, it wasn’t that simple. This was about you as much as it was about him, and you needed to protect him, protect your relationship, and most importantly, protect yourself. Of course, you wanted to jump up and down, and scream from the mountain tops that you were dating. You were gorgeously happy, and madly in love with a man whose last name you’d gladly take in a heartbeat. Some days, you wondered why you put yourself through the secrecy and hiding, but then you remembered that this wasn’t a fairy tale, this was life. There were consequences to your perfect ending.

“It’s a small theatre. Private screening. Less people.” Jake argued, leaning in to kiss you again. A sigh escaped your lips, you knew where this was headed. You discussed this before, argued over it, laughed about it, then argued over it again.

“I don’t think we are ready.”

“Three years, and we aren’t ready? Bullshit.”

You freed your legs from his torso, realizing that you weren’t going to get any this morning, and that this argument was far from over. “Have you spoken to Hanna,” you hoped that mentioning his publicist would remind him that he couldn’t just spring you into his world.

“She thinks it’s time. Plus, it will generate buzz about the film.” He brought your hands to his lips, kissing the palms, before intertwining them with his hands. “The whole team thinks it’s time. I can’t be a bachelor forever.”

“George Clooney did it,” you quipped.

He smiled before turning serious again. “And, he is also married with two kids. C’mon, walk the carpet with me.”

You closed your eyes, letting out a heavy breath. It was too early to have this conversation, and you didn’t have the proper words to explain your hesitation. You sat up, and turned towards him with a smile, “What do you want for breakfast?”

Jake stared at you in complete disbelief, but you ignored it. Rising out of bed, you put on his shirt and started fluffing the pillows.

“What,” he asked, as he sat up.

You continued making the bed, ignoring his quizzical stare, “Pancakes sound nice.”

“I don’t have to answer any questions. I can be with you the whole time. Five minutes tops.”

“I don’t think we are ready.”

You fussed around, tidying up for no reason, awaiting his response, but he was silent. You looked over and found him staring at the light shining through from the windows.

“Babe – “

“We aren’t ready, or you aren’t ready,” he asked.

“Jake – “

“I love you. I want to spend my life with you, and I have no problem admitting that to the world.”

“I love you too – “

He didn’t wait for you to finish, before cutting in again. “You love me, but not enough to tell anyone about it.”

“That’s not true. I – “

“Are you happy…with me, with us,” he asked.

“Of course, I’m happy – “

“Paparazzi? Press? Cameras? The scrutiny? The comments? –“

“Jake, - “

“The backlash? The outrage? The stares? What is it?”

“Jake – “

“Okay, if not now, then when? Three years is a fucking long time to be hiding.”

“I don’t think you’re ready,” you blurted.

He went silent. The surprise coloring his face and taking away his breath.

“Fuck,” you sighed. This wasn’t the way you wanted to have this conversation.

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Thank you so much for reading! Should I continue? I have a taglist somewhere (updating it), so let me know if you are interested. Thanks! 

[buckyland]

Wait wait wait wait wait a minute..... There's a podcast where someone talks about how Seb kisses???

you have no idea how i just screeched in my apartment right now because i get to show you this wonderful thing called Thirst Aid Kit @thirstaidkitpodcast​.

season 2, episode 9 is when they talk about sebastian and his kisses throughout his acting career. 😂

so here’s one link to the episode: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/thirst-aid-kit/e/54610917?autoplay=true

they are also available on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5vOleN7oHJqGYa1S9cOM10?si=Dt3Fm-ZoTjikf6OOs94xkQ

enjoy! TELL ME WHEN YOU FINISH LISTENING TO IT. 

[cheeksnprint]

11.9.23 - I be doing it.

We got this John Boyega drabble from a listener who wanted to be known as “Cheeks” (we love it). Their preamble read as follows:

So, this is for the “Great British Bae Off”. “John” is John Boyega, who is a very satisfying thirst object for the Black Girl Nerd in me.

You can listen to The Great British Bae Off episode right here.

And remember you can send us your own drabbles — and you should — at thirstaidkit@buzzfeed.com

Thanks, Cheeks! 

[sleepynegress]

Today, I revisited The Thirst Aid Kit and I realized that I miss those ladies so much... Not just the female gaze, but specifically the Black Female Gaze, and so wonderfully, joyously explored in a way that's academic, fun, and uplifting to both the objects of desire and the observer... A fandom anomaly that explored these things without being creepy, but actually informative??

The best episodes have the actors on the podcasts for interviews IMO. I just listened to the Rahul Kuhli and Charlie Cox episodes. If you haven't listened or missed this era, RECTIFY THAT. I linked the playlist above on youtube.

[lillianfromaccounting]

today's @thirstaidkitpodcast

@jackburtonsays

[myregularsizesteven]

I'm listening to this TAK podcast and I'm getting sweaty with nerves listening to it. They are nailing the embarrassment that women of color seem to have about thirsting after Chris Evans.

[skepwith]

This is the appropriate response after being featured on Thirst Aid Kit. Adorableness levels amplified. Thirst status confirmed.

https://twitter.com/danjlevy/status/1177283514602901504 

[chaneajoyyy]

have you listened to the podcast thirst aid kit? i’m very very very late to the party but i just listened to their ep from 2018 with chris and 🥵🥵🥵🥵 i think you’d like it!!

I have!! And it’s one of my favorite podcasts too!! I go back and listen to episodes often. That episode with Chris is a fave of mine from them!!! I do revisit that one often too🥴. Love Bim and Nichole!