#Then you'll just feel guilty

[muffin-gods]

*SOBBING*

[kikker-oma]

OK

so, I'm really really sorry to anyone who's sent me an ask that has gone unanswered.

I have like, 17 asks in my inbox and some of them were art requests (and good ones), some of them were comments about Snoots that I wanted to draw doodles for, and some of them were just messages, but I've been avoiding my inbox because of some unknown reason and now it's stressing me ouuuttt😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

Some of these askes span back to OCTOBER. 2023. AAAHHH

SO. I'm going to keep some of the art requests on my own little to-do list, but for my sanity's sake, I need to clear out my inbox.

Idk why this is stressing me out so much, but I've had like, inbox paralysis for months and then I feel guilty for posting things when I have 17 unanswered asks and then I avoid it more and then as soon as I answer one I get another and AHHH.

now LISTEN. I LOVE ASKS. it's just my time of the month so I'm acting super extra and now I have to DELETE FOR MY SANITY.

Feel free to still send me asks, I just need a clean slate.

ANYWAYS I LOVE YOU ALL❤️❤️❤️ GOODBYE IM GOING TO DRAW LEGEND WHUMP FOR THE NEXT WEEK STRAIGHT HEHE

[hypodermicfroggy]

...I know I'm "just" aromantic, but sometimes I really wish I could come out to my mother and it does make me sad I'll never be able to.

[fooltofancy]

sure need to put some uh. work. into becoming less insane.

[the-casbah-way]

very impossible to find the balance between "i want my friends to be able to talk to me about their problems and tell me when they're struggling" and "i am extremely emotionally fragile at the moment because i'm doing very badly and talking about very heavy topics especially with no warning is not something i feel capable of dealing with right now because i'm on the verge of a violent mental breakdown"

[littlemousejelly]

What do you do when you feel yourself growning distant and apart from someone you thought it would never happen

Like they broke through every wall you'd had and then you realized you'd built new walls as a protection mechanism because they inadvertently hurt you

i have no idea sorry! this might be something to bring up to a therapist because i'm just a random person on the internet! i may have gotten a 5 on my ap psych exam but that does not mean i'm qualified to give any advice other than: seek guidance from someone who will actually know how to help you.

and if i am somehow this person that inadvertently hurt you then i urge you to come off anon and actually talk to me about it :D

a very important thing to note is that you are not the main character of anyone else's life but your own, which means that other people cannot read your mind or be aware of how you've experienced something. it's a valuable skill to be trusting enough of your friends and brave enough for yourself to speak up when something has hurt you, otherwise you end up holding tiny little grudges that compile and compound and eventually turn into a very big, very bad ball of loathing because nothing was ever resolved. and that's how friend groups fucking implode

[the-cat-at-the-theatre-door]

since bomba's and macavity mother is not a good parent jenny have try do give them motherly love. she give her snacks, listen to what they wanna say

I am the biggest sucker for surrogate mom Jenny stuff - really just gets me somewhere in the fluff craving part of my brain.

[lightningwaters]

[theloveinc]

no bc i agree i think kirishima can only handle being cool headed for so long but like does he feel bad for snapping that bad or no🤔🤔🤔🤔

(ref post here! - @/katsukikitten)

of course he does!!! ....kinda.

i mean. i think it depends of if it's really your fault or not. and the situation you're in.

Like if he snaps when you aren't aware he's in a bad mood, or you're just trying to be helpful about something, like stress or eating enough (he never means to actually make you cry) ...

but if you're picking on his nerves about something you know he doesn't like? it's not like an apology is completely out of the question......... but he's not exactly going to feel... bad, either.

gives an apology that's more like a reminder, so to say. a hug and a kiss to remind you that he loves you, but also a stern look that says "you better not do that shit again" (gee, i wonder who he learned that from?).

i also think there's, idk, maybe three/four outcomes?

the nice one where he coddles you, the mean one where he coddles you but doesn't feel bad.......... the one where he fucks the shit out of you (gentle) to make you feel better, AND the one where he fucks the shit out of you (mean) if he can't think of any other way to make it up to you AND get the message across at the same time.

it's a lil freaky.

[medicinemane]

Actually there is one thing I may legit start doing once I have my social anxiety a bit better tamped down on is when someone's telling me how their kid's just kind of a bum who doesn't have a job and hangs out in their room all day (why the fuck are you telling a stranger, once it was a nurse telling me this stuff and it's like... that's real messed up you're badmouthing your kid to a patient)

I think I'm gonna try and hit them with a "sounds to me like they may be depressed" (cause... it does)

Gonna take some work to feel like dealing with this stuff, but... I think I need to start basically trying to sound sympathetic to the parent, while also reframing it as "it sure sounds like they're struggling and could really use some support right now"

Cause once again... that is literally what it sounds like to me

You fools, you've got no idea you're talking to a fucking worthless loser. I will always go to bat for the isolated fuck up who can't get a job, cause that's just me. Don't bad mouth your kid to someone that's got more in common with you kid than with you, I know what it feels like to be in that situation, I'll always go to bat for them and think you're being a cry baby and need to grow up and actually parent

[quietblissxx]

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[takasgf]

i dont know what to do for ishi's birthday this year (ーー;)

[doggirl-narcolepsy]

welp back to bed with me.. beenn up for literally like 5 hours and I've been told my internship will probably fall through, though I won't know until literal days before I'm supposed to start. had to cancel what little plans I had for my birthday because of the weather and I haven't eaten anything in like 48 hours..

[lilyliveredlittlerichboy]

unpopular opinion maybe but if you're constantly putting negativity on your friends social media feeds and rarely anything else, kind is not a word i would associate with you. what kindness have you done recently? tell us about it, it might make you feel better so you won't have to post every day about how your life is so awful and nothing ever goes right for you. and maybe im just misjudging people but it's hard not to when they post every day about how terrible their lives are and yet not dwelling at all on things that they enjoyed, things that made them happy, things they did for and with other people. if you constantly refuse to see the nice and good things in life, you will end up being completely unable to see them, and then yes your life will suck absolute ass. watch the sunrise. dye your hair and talk about what the colours mean to you. draw some shitty art and post it knowing you enjoyed making it. spend time with friends, take pics and post about it. remember the good times and remember that experiencing awe regularly is fundamental to a stable mind and sense of happiness. Life is what you make of it

[bulletbilltime]

"Did you hear the stupid bigoted thing this known outrage farmer said? What a stupid thing he said! Let's post it everywhere and make the news 24/7 about that thing and make him the center of attention so more people can see the shitty things he said! There is no downside from giving the stupid bigot more of a platform!"

"What do you mean he is the president now. What do you mean he's the president a 2nd time. Nobody could have predicted this."

[himalayaan-flowers]

why is it so hard to admit to yourself you ARE in the wrong. when you KNOW it's true. how do you become selfless enough to just stop making excuses for yourself and let go of your own ego and feel the shame bc that's what you deserve