#The TQ+ harassing women

[coochiequeens]

Long article but worth the read.

Some things make less sense the more you study them: the SNP’s finances, Joe Biden’s sentences… and being nonbinary.

Nonbinary is an umbrella term used to describe those people who believe they are outside the gender binary. They believe that they are neither male nor female.

When you ask nonbinaries what they mean by this, the response usually boils down to men saying they feel kinda feminine sometimes, and women saying they kinda don’t. It’s not exactly The Communist Manifesto. When you point out that some men and women have felt this way since time immemorial, without feeling the need to turn it into a political cause, nonbinary males become aggressive and nonbinary females become sulky. All of which suggests that this nonbinary LARP may require some more thought.

If, like me, you prefer to identify as non-lunatic, you might be tempted to dismiss the nonbinary phenomenon as a passing fad, like the Tamagotchi ‘egg’ toys popular among children a couple of decades ago. But there’s a difference between the idea of nonbinary and fads like Tamagotchis, especially among the young. Schools banned Tamagotchis in the 1990s because they were a distraction. This time, our public institutions, from multinational corporations to medical bodies, are actively promoting the idea that you can be neither male nor female.

Advocates themselves seem unclear as to what ‘nonbinary’ means. Some seem unsure where to draw the line between being nonbinary and being trans. The huge American LGBTQ+ charity, the Trevor Project, insists that ‘It’s important to note that not all nonbinary folks identify as trans’. But the UK’s LGBT Foundation argues that nonbinary fits under the so-called trans umbrella. This isn’t much help, however, since the trans umbrella has by now grown so huge it could be used to protect the polar ice caps.

Throughout much of the 20th century, the prefix ‘trans’ tended to be used in relation to transvestites or transsexuals. It implied a transition from one gender or sex to the other. But this started to change in the 1990s. Disappointed by the physical results of transitioning – think big-jawed, deep-voiced ‘transwomen’ and miniature, small-boned ‘transmen’ – the trans lobby started to look for a new vocabulary that might capture what it is to be neither male nor female.

Activist Riki Wilchins played a key role in the development of nonbinary. He originally came to prominence in 1991, when he co-founded Camp Trans, an annual protest against the exclusion of transwomen from the women-only Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival. In the mid-1990s, he sowed the seeds for the idea of being nonbinary by coining a new term to describe himself – namely, ‘genderqueer’.

It was a fortuitous moment for Wilchins. From the late 1990s onwards, with queer theory flourishing in universities in the UK and the US, a slew of new identities and neologisms were being turned out, from agender and bigender to demigender and genderfluid. Nonbinary started to be used by activists and academics to encompass these new identities in the 2000s. Indeed, in 2002, Wilchins co-authored the tellingly titled Genderqueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary.

It wasn’t really until the latter half of the 2010s that nonbinary moved from the spheres of academia and activism and into mainstream culture – largely because an army of idiot celebrities embraced it.

Singer Sam Smith was one such bandwagon-jumper. In 2019, he declared himself to be ‘nonbinary’ and embraced ‘they / them’ pronouns. Smith was once an attractive young gay man. In his new nonbinary guise, he has come to resemble someone forced to twerk in fishnets as a prank.

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[blackfempilled]

the queer community and queer spaces only benefit males who think they’re women because they identify with sex based stereotypes and ‘spicy straights’.

self identifying queers harass homosexual women for not being attracted to male genitalia, calling them terf cunts (even if they’re trans inclusive but not willing to have sex with tims) and then post on and on about how much they looovee lesbians, despite jumping at the opportunity to call actual homosexual women transphobic, biphobic, acephobic, misandrist, etc.

they fight to take down female only apps, advocate against female only spaces, throw piss and let loose insects in protest of lgb separating from tq. they sympathise with trans male rapists, prioritising their pronouns and identity being validated, and advocate for them to be housed alongside female inmates, forcing female officers to strip search males.

the actual lgb and women are both better off without the queer movement. you’re not the target audience. they’re not on your side. they will always prioritise male feelings over women’s safety.

[girlboss-enthusiast]

Today my mom asked me what a TERF was - she saw the term on IG - and I got to explain the whole TQ identity and my issues with gender ideology, how it ties into kink and lesbophobia, how many women I've known who've been doxxed and harassed. And she keeps saying three things:

"But why would anyone tell a lesbian to sleep with a male? Or a penis. I mean, a person with a penis. They're lesbians! They don't like penises!"

"Sounds like the problem is MEN"

"These people need to get a life!"

[butch-reidentified]

it rly is this simple bc legit ALL the dysphoric (including some who do take cross-sex hormones) males I've met who are actually gender abolitionist and allies don't call themselves women. even the ones who are perceived as women by others. even the one who is legitimately 100% "passing" and assumed female by every single person I've seen him interact with in the 7+ years we've been close friends. he'll never claim to be a woman or ask you to use she pronouns. OP is right. the dysphoric men who do call themselves women fundamentally cannot be feminist allies. they are actively causing harm 🤷

I have yet to meet a single exception to this. I've met easily over 200 trans people - Florida has more trans people than any other state + I'm a lesbian + I went to a mostly-TQ+ college. plus I grew up in Orlando and as a Pulse shooting survivor used to be heavily involved in local lgbt community action. what I have noticed is that universally, the dysphoric/medically transitioned men who are actually allies, are actually critical of gender as a concept, etc, they don't insist they're women and they don't perform femininity. yes, that includes the one who is perceived as female by literally everyone. a couple of them used to perform femininity to a small extent and stopped upon coming to the realization it was harmful to women.

whereas the dysphoric men I know/have known to call themselves women act like everyone in the notes on this, act just like OP describes. they could "pass" physically flawlessly and you'd still identify them as male in under 3 minutes just from their behavior. it's a world of difference between those I described above and actually trans-identifying males. these are also the face of the trans movement, and the most common type of dysphoric male. they're the ones who demand to be in women's locker rooms, sports, scholarships, shelters, prisons, etc. they're also the ones who have sexually harassed and assaulted me and others I know. easily half of the TIMs I've spent any significant time with over the past decade have engaged in those behaviors with me and/or friends. they don't stop when you tell them you aren't interested. they believe lesbians should be into them. they're entitled, misogynistic, and very often worse than that.

and on top of it all, these TIMs also hate, silence, gaslight, erase, and screw over the dysphoric men who transition medically but are actually allies, too. just truly the Worst.

Transwomen cannot be true feminist allies because they do not believe that femininity itself is inherently patriarchal, degrading, and unnecessary. IF they are in any way critical of femininity (which is rare), their only issue with it is that it is too strongly expected of women; they frame femininity as "something women should be allowed to choose if they want to," and not as something that is harmful to women in nature by default, whether they choose it or not.

They do not acknowledge the fact that a woman can only "choose" to be feminine in the same sense that someone raised in an extremely religious area can "choose" to be religious. Women are conditioned from birth to be feminine, told that their value as human beings is dependent on their ability to embody femininity, and if they are not feminine then they are punished for it and suffer for it. To frame this as a free and neutral choice is to deny the nature of what femininity is: something that is forced upon women, a tool invented and wielded by patriarchy to aid in the oppression of women and the empowering of men. And even if there were no longer any pressure from men for women to be feminine, the history of femininity, the centuries of suffering that women have been forced to endure in the name of femininity, why it was created, what purpose it is meant to serve, who it is meant to harm and who it is meant to benefit, none of those realities would be changed.

To trans women, femininity is essential to womanhood, and to be critical of femininity is to be critical of the very means through which their identity as a trans woman manifests. The idea of doing away with the association between womanhood and femininity poses an existential threat to them, especially to those who struggle to "pass," because how else can they signal their womanhood to the world, or affirm their womanhood to themselves, if they do not physically look like women and do not have female bodies?

They claim that they simply must be hyperfeminine, that they have no other choice, because for them to be gender nonconforming would result in them being mistreated and taken less seriously and struggling more in life. Well guess what, cis women face the exact same consequences for refusing to perform femininity. And masculine cis women do not have a panic attack every time they are misgendered, because they are secure in the knowledge that no amount of people not perceiving them as women can change the fact that they are women. Trans women claim to believe this themselves, that their womanhood exists independently of what they look like or how they dress or how they are perceived by others, but they do not act like this is the case. They act like validation that they are "feminine enough" matters more to them than the actual state of existing as a woman. They revel in femininity, find ecstasy in femininity. They cling to it with a vise like grip, embody the hyperfemme in as many ways as possible, and in doing so they only reinforce and perpetuate the idea that to be a woman is to be pretty, that to be a woman is to be dainty, adorned, coquette, frivilous, petty, bubbly, emotional, demure, submissive, stupid, sexy, slutty, an open mouth, an expectant asshole.

[peakstories]

Common Questions and Information

What is peak trans?

Peak trans is the moment where you you begin to see the logical inconsistencies and cognitive dissonance within the trans movement which makes you realise that you can no longer (fully) support the trans movement.

The full, long definition which I like is this:

The moment when you realise that the trans movement is misogynistic, homophobic (and especially lesbophobic), full of autogynepiles, based on sexist stereotypes, full of circular reasoning, silencing (and attacking) those who disagree with them, silencing women who are affected by laws they wish to be put in place, ignoring science/statistics which go against their beliefs, based on beliefs rather than science and statistics, ignoring what people in their community are doing (as being trans is more important), and denying what other people in their own community are saying (because they’re not saying it). It’s the moment when you turn around and say ‘I cannot support this movement anymore’ because of all the reasons listed above.

But this definition from Urban Dictionary is also pretty good:

When the threshold of cognitive dissonance that the trans ideology requires of someone exceeds the limits of a person’s willing suspension of disbelief, and that person’s eyes open to where they can no longer agree with the narrative.

Who is this blog for?

This blog is open to everyone, regardless of if you are reading because you agree or hate-reading or just trying to understand other people’s side, my blog is open to you. I will only block people who harass me or attack people from the stories/on my posts.

What are TIM, TIF, and TRA?

TIM = Trans Identified Male (aka trans woman)

TIF = Trans Identified Female (aka trans man)

We use these acronyms in order to refer to trans people by their sex which makes things less complicated.

TRA = Trans Rights Activist. Basically a shorthand for anyone who unquestionably supports trans rights

Do you have trigger warnings?

There are two:

Trauma and Mental Illness

Eating Disorders

I am not the best at tagging so I may have missed some (which you can point out to me if you want to) but I try to make sure that they’re all tagged appropriately.

Where do most of these stories come from?

Many used to come from the subreddit r/GenderCritical and some from r/GenderCriticalGuys before the subreddits were banned by Reddit for ‘promoting hate’.

Some now come from the new Gender Critical group on SaidIt while others come from Spinster. Many are simply direct submissions.

How do you decide which stories I post?

I post all stories unless they have asked for their story to not be shared on different platforms or the story is riddled with slurs/obviously a troll. The moderators of r/GC, and now s/GC are very strict and good at removing those stories before I come across them, otherwise it’s just my own judgement on them.

What is ’peak queer’ and ’peak libfem’?

Much like peak trans, peak queer and peak libfem are reaching a point where you can no longer support these movement.

Peak queer, or peak TQ+, is no longer being able to support the micro identities which are often associated with trans activism such as pansexual/romantic, demisexual/romantic, allosexual/romantic, and omnisexual/romantic. Realising that many of these things are unnecessary identities for normal, human behaviour which exist because everyone wants to think that their feelings are special or unique.

Peak libfem is no longer being able to support the so-called ’feminist activism’ (really just conforming to patriarchal standards) which libfems support including sex-positivity/sex work is work, supporting make-up (culture), the massive support of trans activism at the expense of women’s rights, and calling everything a (free) choice so feminist.

What is a trans widow?

Trans widow is a term for people, although mainly women, who have married someone who later came out as trans which causes the end of their relationship. Their trans partner changes so much (including personality, likes/dislikes, the way they act, style, etc) in the process of transitioning/figuring out their gender identity that they become a completely different person. These changes mean that the person they originally fell in love with and married is effectively dead which gives them the name trans widows.

There’s a really good TEDTalk by a trans widow on the subject. There’s also an organisation called Trans Widow Voices to help support and raise awareness of trans widows.

List of Tags

Submissions and Tags: Stories which were submitted directly to this blog or which we reblog as we were tagged. (Links will eventually be added)

GC Reddit: Stories from Gender Critical Reddit (RIP r/GenderCritical)

GC Saidit: Stories from Gender Critical SaidIt

Spinster: Stories from Spinster

WoC Stories: Stories written by women of colour

Racism: Stories about racism by TRAs

TIMs: Stories with a TIM in (see above for definition)

TIFs: Stories with a TIF in (see above for definition)

Non Binary: Stories with someone who identities or used to identify as non-binary

Libfems: Stories which contain libfems, that is trans allies (especially allied women) who are not allies themselves and who also support choice feminism (eg: women can choose whatever they want with no analysis as to why women choose certain actions and why it could be harmful to them)

Peak TQ+: Stories about people reaching peak TQ+ or peak queer (see above for definition)

Peak Libfem: Stories about people reaching peak libfem (see above for definition)

Trans Widow: storiees by trans widows (see above for definition)

Misogyny: Stories containing some misogyny towards women

Internalised Misogyny: Stories about women dealing with their own internalised misogyny

Female Socialisation: Stories which include how women have been socialised a certain way, how TIMs don’t exhibit these signs, or denying that TIMs have not experienced this socialisation since they’re male

Silencing of Women: Stories which includes TRAs activly silencing women on certain issues

Female Spaces and Services: Stories which include female-specific spaces and services, normally being invaded by TIMs

Female Sports: Stories including TIMs in female sports

Male Privilege and Behaviour: Stories which include men (especially TIMs) acting with male privilege, showing typical male entitlement, overt misogyny and misunderstanding over what it is to be a woman, making male threats (ie: rape threats or anything about how they’re bigger/stronger/have a dick), etc

Stereotypes: Stories which show that TRAs really see gender as conforming to a specific set of stereotypes. 

Homophobia: Stories containing homophobia (including fetishisation of gay people)

Lesbophobia: Stories containing lesbophobia (including fetishisation of lesbians)

Conversion Therapy Rhetoric: Stories containing conversion therapy rhetoric. Lesbians must like dick, gay men must like pussy, etc.

Internalised Homophobia: Stories about people dealing with their internalised homophobia

AGPs: Stories about autogynephilia which is men who get aroused at the idea of being a woman

Trans Obsession: Stories which contain people completely obsessing either over themselves being trans or trans stuff, to the point it appears to dominate their life or at least dominates how they interact with others

Trans Entitlement: Stories showing trans people/their allies seeming to be entitled to certain things (including sex, certain spaces, etc)

Trans People in Their Own Words: Stories which show someone peaking at least in part due to actual things actual trans people have directly said to them

Trans Harassment: Times trans people and/or their allies have harass people

Trans Violence: Times trans people and/or their allies have been violent, including harassment with a lot of threats of violence

Trans Abusers: Stories containing trans people who are/were abusive

Trans Children: Stories containing trans children

Cult Tactics: Times when TRAs use the same tactics cults have used to keep people in line.

HRT and transition: Stories about people who have gone through or are going through some kind of medical transition from puberty blockers to HRT to surgeries

Detransition: Stories by or about someone who has detransitions

Biology is a TERF: Stories which contain TRAs not understanding or denying biology which includes: denying that sex matters in any way, ignoring sex based issues, complete misunderstand or even abuse of intersex disorders, etc

Eating Disorders: Trigger warning tag for mentions of eating disorders

Trauma and Mental Illness: Trigger warning tag for mentions of trauma (eg: severe abuse, rape, etc) or mental illness.

[cheesyradfem]

History will leave you behind and you TERFS and transphobes will go down as just another hateful group of oppressors. Science, history, and the LGBTQ community stands with trans people. This blog is absolutely disgusting and anti-science.

...do genderists just put buzzwords in a blender and think they've made a point?

I don't even know why I'm gracing this with a longer response, since it's a rather ridiculous case of projection.

My header says I'm a radfem sideblog and most of my content is just reblogs. If you want to claim that my blog is "disgusting", take it up with the original posters.

"Another hateful group of oppressors" an oppressor is someone who holds institutional privilege over the oppressed. TERFs are by definition women, who are oppressed for their biological sex. A group cannot be privileged and oppressed on the same axis. Hence radical feminists do not oppress transpeople, especially not transwomen, who are biologically male and therefore oppress women on the basis of sex.

"Science" is an objective field of study that seeks to understand our natural world. It cannot stand with anyone (much like history), as it is not a person with feelings or opinions. However, science has consistently proven that mammals (a biological class that includes humans) are sexually dimorphic. There are only two types of mammal gametes, sperm and egg, Y and X. There are some controversies over the idea of brain sex; some creative misinterpretations of data led some to draw the conclusion that men and women have different brains (based on gray matter, brain size); but more studies proved this to be untrue, and the minute differences can be explained by social conditioning. Gender is a social construct, and therefore does not exist in the realm of natural science. So I can't really say scientific research supports your argument.

History is another field that has been subject to some horrifying misinterpretations by genderists to support their arguments. Women such as the warrior Joan of Arc, the doctor Margaret Ann Bulkey, the Mexican Revolutionary colonel Amelia Robles, the artist Hannah Gluck, lesbian author Radcliffe Hall and even lesbian activist Storme deLarverie, have been posthumously transed simply for being gender non conforming (pursuing careers women "shouldn't") in eras even more viciously misogynistic than our own; that about half of these women are lesbians and some of them butch indicates how lesbophobic this interpretation of history is. Women can't achieve great things or love other women without secretly having a "male soul", is the logical conclusion of transing these women. Male historical figures get transed much less often; Malcolm "Marsha P" Johnson is the most common despite having stated 11 days before his death that he was "a man" and "just a transvestite" aka a man that dressed in women's clothes. Ignoring the context and even the very words people in history have said in order to prop up transgenderism is revisionism. Historical analysis doesn't support your arguments either.

It only stands to reason that, with the denial of observable biological sex which has led to the horrific "cotton ceiling" (that lesbians must be open to dating people they cannot be attracted to, males), the appropriation of lesbian historical figures as trans men, the no-platforming to outright physical assault of lesbian feminists on college campuses, the protests of libraries and domestic violence shelters because of "anti trans books" or that they don't allow transwomen to work with vulnerable women, the attempted silencing of detransitioners (many of them butch lesbians)...that lesbians are simply tired. They are tired of having to support people that would throw them under the bus the moment it's convenient. They are tired of having to redefine their homosexuality as "non-men attracted to non-men" or "queer", or their womanhood as "uterus bearers" while men get to keep their language. They are tired of having their foremothers that inspire them called men based on regressive gender stereotypes. They are tired of being silenced when trying to talk about their female bodies and experiences. They feel dismayed when they see the rapidly dwindling number of lesbian-only spaces in the US, from over 200 lesbian bars in the late 1980s to just 15 in 2020, and feel hopeless when those reporting on it claim this is a good thing because it "makes them inclusive." Well, lesbianism is a sexual orientation, and sexual orientations are by definition exclusive. If you don't feel included in the label, then it's because you likely aren't a homosexual female. The homophobia and misogyny of the genderist movement has caused many lesbians to "peak" and become gender-critical feminists because of their personal experience with harassment bordering on conversion therapy in LGBTQ groups simply for being lesbian. Other women have become gender-critical as they fear that their biological sex will no longer be a protected category under the law. Even some gay men, disgusted by the homophobic entitlement of trans men on Twitter/tumblr (called the "jockstrap ceiling"), have peaked and decided to stand with women.

So, keep the TQ community. The LGB will be there to rebuild our community after the mainstream finally realizes the anti-science, anti-history, anti-logic, of the trans movement and apologizes for ever having supported it thinking they were helping gays and lesbians. It has already started. Don't be so certain the radfems, some of whom were fighting for women long before you were an idea in your disappointed mother's mind, will be the ones history leaves behind.

[stinkhornne]

What's up with Superstraights?

Guys imma be real I think the superstraight thing has a lot of good to offer. I'm not sure what they were like on tiktok, since I think the tag has been banned, and on YouTube at least they come off as still sexist/misogynistic and homophobic. But on Reddit, it's a whole different story. I'm actually flabbergasted at how many straight men I've seen vehemently defending lesbian's right to say no, gay men's right to say no, talking openly about the extreme harassment, violence, and rapes against lesbians, the destruction of women's spaces, trans rape culture. They raised $2500 for Vancouver Rape Relief!! Can you believe it? I can't believe it.

$2500 for VRR.

I really think that the best thing about this is that more people are going to realize just how many of us don't actually agree with TRA's. The superstraight stuff only addresses the very specific behavior of trans ppl trying to force others to sleep with them ('shame rape' is a popular term on the subreddit), but even though it's a specific issue, it opens the door to be able to talk about insane trans ideology. It absolutely makes it more acceptable in society to say that biological sex is just a reality, and pretending that it isn't doesn't work.

I'm being optimistic. Can you imagine if we no longer had to fight tooth and nail just to say biological sex is real? If it became totally normal (again) to just say 'women and men', or even 'real women and men'?

One of the top posts on r/superstraight is from a detransitioner, expressing that they hope honesty about the trans issue can help others not make the same mistake they did.

I get the feeling like people are largely mincing their words and dancing around issues on that subreddit to avoid getting it banned- i.e. calling violence against lesbians by trans identified men 'superphobia'. On the one hand, it feels awfully crude to use a somewhat satirical meme to talk about violence against women by men, while simultaneously not even referring to it as what it is: misogyny and homophobia. On the other hand, I think there's a lot of self-awareness about it. People know that they're using the words 'superphobia', 'supersexual', and all that as a cloak to be able to talk about real issues in a way that won't get them instantly kicked off reddit.

I know there were a lot of tongue-in-cheek jokes that the normies would save us from TQ+, but like... It kind of feels like there REALLY IS a place for LGB and straight people to talk about the problems of TQ+. A lot of it is really incredible!

A few screenshots, so you can see what I'm talking about:

(In the first few, someone uses the Karen meme, then apologises for it when he's told it's sexist. this one actually shocked me?! But i thought it needed a bit of explanation)

[nix-that-rad-lass]

I’m also in Alabama. It’s extremely accepting (towards TQ+) especially in the bigger cities. My old psychologist tried to assign me transgender and tried to get me going to a sketchy trans group, mostly run by 30+yo “qu*er* people (men) when I was 14.

I remember making an online friend when I was about 12, and her first question upon learning I was from Alabama was “aren’t you all racist down there?”

I get sweet home Alabama jokes all the time. I can hardly talk about my family to online friends without getting some kind of incest related “joke” slapped on it.

There doesn’t seem to be a lot of empathy for how things are down here.

We have horrid infrastructure. There’s still pockets of racism and homophobia is increasingly common. Sexism and misogyny is still pretty bad. Education is mid at best.

Child marriage is still legal. Tons of women are coerced into marriages. Women’s healthcare is abysmal, not to mention abortion is illegal.

I’ve known tons of girls who were groomed by adult men. I was one of them.

There’s not a lot of resources for domestic violence victims.

Child abuse is still considered normal.

One of my best friends was sent to a troubled teen camp for almost two years because they came out.

And it’s not just Alabama. It’s all over the south.

I once knew a woman from Mississippi who had tried to leave an abusive ex husband, but he bribed the law enforcement officers and the judge to get more access to this woman’s daughter. He has been pimping out the daughter, distributing child porn of her, abusing her, and harassing and assaulting the woman for years. There’s no organization to help her. She told me no one believes her.

This stuff is COMMON. Women trapped. Women harassed. Girls groomed. Gays hated. Dysphoric kids are abused. It’s awful.

Instead of saying we’re all a bunch a hicks or racists or idiots or assholes, maybe consider that many of us are just trying to exist. We have to stay quiet and passive to get a job let alone to live here. Dehumanizing and harassing us does nothing but give more power to the older assholes who are running the show and causing problems.

So, this post started off well. This is actually valid criticism on stereotypes about Southerners that many people have engaged in.

... but then I read some more.

This individual is ashamed of not being born up north? That's some kind of internalized thing that's not going to be helped by people not making certain kinds of jokes.

Also, why spell "civilised" that way? That's a British/Canadian thing, not an American South thing. Interesting.

There aren't any mental health resources in the South? Here's a Trans in the South Guide that can help you find "affirming" medical providers. They even have funds to help children and their families "escape" the South due to the "emergency" (sure, Jan) situation there!

Here's Druid City Pride for Tuscaloosa - they offer lots of resources!

Here's a group of resources centers in Alabama!

I found all of those within a five-minute search in which I also finished up a purchase order for work, and I don't even live in Alabama!

It's "frustrating" to be trans? This one required a bit of a deeper dive.

Yeah, I'm sure it is "frustrating" to be trans when you have five sets of neo-pronouns, two of which are emoji pronouns. I'm sure no one wants to deal with that in the South... or, to be real, up here in the "Civilised" North.

I'm just tired sometimes.

[radfem-confessions]

I fucking hate how bisexuals have to essentially "take the bullet" and fuck trans ppl so they can leave monosexuals alone. Cause, clearly, bi ppl fuck everything that walks right? So just fuck pre/post op trans ppl so they don't harass LG/S ppl?

We are not a garbage dump. The trans ideology is bad enough but have you seen that surgery does to post op genitalia? It's horrifying. I've read of a bi women emotionally abused by her TiM husband to have oral sex with his ""neovagina" and she had to drug herself because the taste and smell was so horrific and vile, she would even smell him through his clothes!

That what monosexuals want? Bisexuals to be abused by the TQ+ so they don't have to deal?

That is fucked up.

[coochiequeens]

Is this guy saying that oppressed groups deserve their own spaces?

Now do us a favor and share this message with some of your bros.

An American man who identifies as a “transgender lesbian” is seeking to have his marriage recognized as one of the first lesbian marriages in Japan, where same-sex marriages have not yet been legalized. Elin McCready, 49, whose birth name is Eric, also has a history which involves harassing the owner of a lesbian club for denying him admission to a women-only event.

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women’s sports are for women

Women in prison deserve to be safe from men

Speaking to Reduxx and The Publica, Kateisha Young says the results were “devastating” for the victims and their families, but added that she “wasn’t surprised.”

Young had been called to act as a rebuttal witness on behalf of the prosecution. An employee of the YMCA in the nearby town of Fairborn, she had a disturbing personal experience with Glines that resulted in her having to get a protective order against him.

“I used to be more pro-trans rights on this particular issue,” Young explains, noting that she had met Glines after he had begun visiting the Fairborn YMCA. During their first conversation, Glines told her he was transgender in an effort to have her refer to him with “she/her” pronouns. 

But what was a friendly relationship quickly took a disturbing turn as Glines began to press Young for information on her masturbation habits, sex, and other intimate topics.

“When he started sharing his sexual fantasies… I tried really hard to tolerate it. I tried to be open to the idea that it was maybe just an aspect of transitioning,” Young says. “I had wanted to be sympathetic and compassionate.”

Young says in November of 2022, members of the YMCA began coming in and demanding their memberships be canceled.

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[bisexual-slime]

Inb4 someone complains about "photoshoots outing women opening them for harassment", it was an example. It can also be drawings, it can be poetry, books, films, it can be games, it can be comics. All of that takes effort and investment, which whether u like it or not, QT people are doing to some degree. IMO lot of people in these blogs have lost north and just waste time making "mean girls" clubs that get +200 reblogs but never go anywhere longterm, while QT+ media keeps influencing others

agree <3 if only GC had as much visibility and public favour as TQ+ some real change could be made wrt normalising attitudes and reforming public opinion on gender nonconformity and same sex attraction. even the inclusion of healthy and normal (often these types of characters are written as rude or "feminazis" or whatever) GC characters in media would be a nice change

[niiwa-angel]

People are losing support for the rainbow community because the TQ+ started getting absolutely insane! They cannibalized the LGB and threw us under the bus. They demonize women. They harass children. They say shit like "your daughters are kinkier than you think" and they expected people to stand by them?

[nix-that-rad-lass]

A Bunch of Links, Receipts, and Sources for my fellow Terves

A Girls Place In The World by William Buckner About the reality of women and girls around the world https://quillette.com/2019/05/09/a-girls-place-in-the-world/

I Was A Lesbian Tomboy Allowed To Be Female; I Fear Young Girls Today No Longer Have That Choice by Tonje Gjevjon About the transing of gender nonconforming girls that would likely grow up to be lesbians if not for being transitioned before they are even old enough to understand what transition is. https://www.feministcurrent.com/2019/06/11/i-was-a-lesbian-tomboy-allowed-to-be-female-i-fear-young-girls-today-no-longer-have-that-choice/

Dagny on Social Media, Gender Dysphoria, Trans Youth, and Detransitioning. A transcript of a talk given by Dagny, a detransitioned young woman and member of the pique resilience project https://www.feministcurrent.com/2019/06/04/dagny-on-social-media-gender-dysphoria-trans-youth-and-detransitioning/

Ross Douthat Revealed the Hypocrisy in Liberal Feminist Ideology, and They’re Pissed by Meghan Murphy Self explanatory title https://www.feministcurrent.com/2018/05/04/ross-douthat-revealed-hypocrisy-liberal-feminist-ideology-theyre-pissed/

A Neo-Liberal Concept of Freedom has Allowed Gender Ideology to Take Hold by Heather Brunskell Evans https://www.feministcurrent.com/2018/12/02/neoliberalism-patriarchy-gender-identity/

Inauthentic Selves: The Modern [LGB(TQ+)] Movement is Run By Philanthropic Astroturf and Based on Junk Science https://medium.com/@sue.donym1984/inauthentic-selves-the-modern-lgbtq-movement-is-run-by-philanthropic-astroturf-and-based-on-junk-d08eb6aa1a4b

Politicians are Betraying Women in the Rush To Support Trans Rights by Jenni Russell Self explanatory https://www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/comment/politicians-are-betraying-women-in-the-rush-to-support-trans-rights-xzvhcf7m8

“Don’t Forget”, a compilation of sources, receipts, and other resources on male violence, compiled by @astro-didacted on tumblr https://nixtheoneandsecond.tumblr.com/post/188876269165/dont-forget?is_related_post=1

Pretty much a masterpost of RadFem beliefs and resources, compiled by @unleashtherage on tumblr https://nixtheoneandsecond.tumblr.com/post/188804771810/radical-feminism-is-a-political-movement-in

PDF of Lundy Bancroft’s “Why Does He Do That” https://www.docdroid.net/py03/why-does-he-do-that.pdf

The Wikipedia Page for the one and only TERF Icon, Magdalen Berns. She deserved better! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magdalen_Berns

A bunch of Andrea Dworkins works in a google drive PDF https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1i3r-gSizLC6UbyvM1ZJyCYMHtYvdss-S

Sex Before Kissing: How 15 year old girls are dealing with porn obsessed boys by Melinda Tankard Reist Self explanatory https://fightthenewdrug.org/sex-before-kissing-15-year-old-girls-dealing-with-boys/

Some tea on the tumblr porn ban from 2018. https://fightthenewdrug.org/tumblr-banned-porn-from-its-platform-one-year-ago-how-is-the-site-doing-now/

Why Victims Freeze Up During Sexual Assaults by Jackie Hong Tells about experiences, and the fight, flight, and freeze response. https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/wd7945/i-froze-up-when-i-was-sexually-assaulted-and-we-should-stop-dismissing-that-response

Why Women Have Higher Rates of PTSD Than Men by Melanie Greenberg (spoiler: its because of sexual violence and misogyny)https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201809/why-women-have-higher-rates-ptsd-men

The Difference Between Toxic Masculinity and Being A Man by Harris O’Malley Finally, a small handful of men are actually attempting to be better and make a difference! Took em long enough! https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-difference-between-toxic-masculinity-and-being-a-man-dg/

Criminal Justice System: The Actual Amount of Sexual Assault Perps, Pimps, Johns, Rapists, and Pedophiles that Get Away With It https://rainn.org/statistics/criminal-justice-system

The First Legal Abortion Providers Tell Their Stories by Alex Ronan https://www.thecut.com/2015/10/first-legal-abortionists-tell-their-stories.html?mid=twitter-share-thecut#

How Much Does An Abortion Cost? by Charlotte Cowles Not only covers the price, but also types of abortion, prevention, and more on reproductive health https://www.thecut.com/2018/11/how-much-does-an-abortion-cost.html

8 Signs Your Partner Is Being Sexually Coercive by Suzannah Weiss https://www.bustle.com/articles/155328-8-signs-your-partner-is-being-sexually-coercive-because-you-can-always-say-no

Why Conservative Women are Okay With Harassment by Jennifer Wright This is regarding not only the general societal expectations which conservative women help uphold and enforce, but also why they are surprisingly okay with electing sexual predators to the government https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/politics/a23453699/conservative-women-response-brett-kavanaugh-allegations-sexual-assault/

Archaeologists Find New Way To Determine Sex of Cremated Individuals by Katherine J Wu Because we all run into those TRA’s that say its impossible to know someones ‘gender’ or ‘sex’ by just looking at them, or their remains in the case of those already passed. https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/article/archaeologists-find-new-way-determine-sex-cremated-individuals/

Analysing the Bones: What Can A Skeleton Tell You? by Hayley Dunning Again, because TRAs love to say that skeletons are ambiguous when, in fact, they are not https://www.nhm.ac.uk/discover/analysing-the-bones-what-can-a-skeleton-tell-you.html

Sex Determination in Skeletal Remains from the Medieval Adriatic Coast - Discriminant Function Analysis of Humeri Hmm, wonder what this is about. You guessed it! More differences in the bone and skeletal structures of male and female humans https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3692335/

Sex Determination from the Talus of South African Whites by Discriminant Function Analysis Woah, more information on telling skeletons apart by sex! Almost like human skeletons differ between the sexes https://journals.lww.com/amjforensicmedicine/Abstract/2003/12000/Sex_Determination_From_the_Talus_of_South_African.3.aspx

The Reliability of Sex Determination of Skeletons from Forensic Context in the Balkans Oh my god, whats this?? More factual evidence of differences in physiology between the *gasp* TWO human sexes?? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/15567621/

Mandibular Ramus Flexure: A New Morphologic Indicator of Sexual Dimorphism in the Human Skeleton Okay, okay, I think thats all the skeleton stuff for now https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/(SICI)1096-8644(199603)99:3%3C473::AID-AJPA8%3E3.0.CO;2-X

Further Evidence to Show Population Specificity of Discriminant Function Equations for Sex Determination Using the Talus of South African Blacks Partner to a previously aforementioned article https://www.astm.org/DIGITAL_LIBRARY/JOURNALS/FORENSIC/PAGES/JFS2003431.htm

Why Talking About Bowie’s Sexual Misconduct Matters by Angelina Chapin Article about David Bowie and his misconduct. pretty much, you shouldnt always separate the art from the artist. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/why-talking-about-bowies-sexual-misconduct-matters_b_9009230

Witches, Midwives, and Nurses: A History of Women Healers by Barbara Ehrenreich and Deirdre English http://www.feministes-radicales.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/Barbara-Ehrenreich-and-Deirdre-English-Witches-Midwives-and-Nurses-A-History-of-Women-Healers.-Introduction..pdf

This entire blog is gold. To quote them: Saying No To Penis is NOT Hate Speech [ffs] http://thenewbacklash.blogspot.com/?

Steven Hassan’s BITE Model about what constitutes a cult. You know, like the gender cult. https://freedomofmind.com/bite-model/

What Is Darvo? by Jennifer J Freyd DARVO is the reaction that many sexual offenders display in response to being faced with the consequences of their actions. https://dynamic.uoregon.edu/jjf/defineDARVO.html

Sick Woman Theory by Johanna Hedva Genuinely just read this, its too good to summarise http://www.maskmagazine.com/not-again/struggle/sick-woman-theory?fbclid=IwAR2cQyCRT5olIzkBGfO_F5HvES28bhdIcbUyc9g1W_p0L6o7U8gopDp5Kxw

Taking Back Your Mind: A Radical Feminist Approach to Recovering from Porn Use by Kitty at medium com https://medium.com/@kittyit/taking-back-your-mind-a-radical-feminist-approach-to-recovering-from-porn-use-8ae9347c3d8f

About Female Infanticide http://www.bbc.co.uk/ethics/abortion/medical/infanticide_1.shtml

About Female Genital Mutilation https://www.who.int/en/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilation

About Child Marriage https://www.girlsnotbrides.org/about-child-marriage/

Who Cooked the Last Supper? from @aeroposter

https://aeroposter.tumblr.com/post/166368772300/who-cooked-the-last-supper-by-rosalind-miles

Breast ironing: Abhorrent Practice Becoming Endemic In UK by Alexandra Sims

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/breast-ironing-abhorrent-practice-becoming-endemic-in-uk-a6950521.html

About Forced Pregnancy

http://www.stopvaw.org/harmful_practices_forced_pregnancy

Did Sissy Porn Make Me Trans or Was I Trans All Along? As if we needed any more proof that it is, indeed, a fetish

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/2mn8au/did_sissy_porn_make_me_trans_or_was_i_trans_all_a/

Did Porn Make Me Transgender? Who coulda thunk it

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/did-porn-make-me-transgender.61492/

Jealous of Lesbians? Yep, thats right folks. Transbians really are just rapey straight guys with a lesbian fetish. https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/55zkbs/jealous_of_lesbians/

Just when you thought men couldnt get much worse... https://metro.co.uk/2013/07/09/peeping-tom-arrested-after-hiding-in-septic-tank-and-staring-at-people-using-the-toilet-3874756/

Houston Man Posed as a Doctor to Rape a Student

https://abc13.com/5730127/

Rape In War: Challenging the Tradition of Impunity

https://www.hrw.org/legacy/women/docs/rapeinwar.htm

Doctors & Sex Abuse: Patients Sexually Abused While Sedated

http://doctors.ajc.com/doctor_sex_abuse_sedated/

Man pretended to be gay in order to get close to a woman and ultimately rape her

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/man-convicted-of-raping-woman-who-he-allegedly-befriended-by-pretending-to-be-gay/

Complete collection of Andrea Dworkins work

http://radfem.org/dworkin/

[bjro233]

The Life of a Gay Man and His Need To Prove It

#1 The “Gay Gene”

               Although it has only been found in males, a linkage to males and homosexuality has been discovered by Dean Hamer and colleagues. On X chromosomes there is an unidentified gene that these scientists have named Xq28, which they relate directly to homosexuality. It’s a very controversial theory but ultimately purposes so many answers.            

#2 Evidence is Mounting for Homosexual Men

               “In 1993, genetic variations in a region on the X chromosome in men were linked to whether they were heterosexual or homosexual, and in 1995, a region on chromosome 8 was identified.” says Andy Coghlan from thenewscientist.com. This just proves that no, gay men don’t just wake up one morning and say “Hey, I wanna try dick today.”

#3 The Third Gender: Muxes

              In southern Mexico, the Zapotec people recognize a third gender called Muxes. In our culture, they would be known as homosexual people and transgendered people. This just makes me realize that some cultures, although so old, are so ahead of their time, open-minded, and progressive. Another reason to yell @ Donald Trump, don’t build the damn wall.  

  #4 We Are Not Alone

              Listen, science isn’t the only thing that proves this theory. Look at our environment and what isn’t directly affected by or altered by humans. “Homosexual behaviour is a natural biological feature and is common among non-human animals. In at least one species – sheep – individual animals have been known to form lasting preferences for same-sex partners.” says Australias Science Channel. Fun Fact: the oldest living tortoise who was thought to be female but was actually male only mated with males. Thus showing why no babies were being born.

#5 Should We Care About Giving Reason To Being Gay?

                Of course, being gay myself, you’re faced with a lot of harassment, questioning, judgment, and bigotry. Religion really attacks you, and you’re forced to feel like an outcast and forced into a stereotype. So, given the chance and these scientific findings, it can help explain to people who don’t believe/understand. It normalizes sexuality, it lowers being/feeling like a minority. “It adds yet more evidence that sexual orientation is not a ‘lifestyle choice’. But the real significance is that it takes us one step closer to understanding the origins of one of the most fascinating and important features of human beings.” says Dean Hammer from newscientist.com.

#6 Being A Watermelon in A Sea Full of Cacti

                      One word: Grindr. If you’re a gay male, you either gagged or hid your face in shamefulness for using the app. My need to prove myself starts here, it completely drains lives of romance and relationship oriented people. It sends a message that all gay men are they same, they’re horny and only want to bone. “The mental health professionals I spoke to are seeing problematic Grindr use in their clinics. And there is little published guidance on how to help those who are struggling.” says Jack Turban with Vox.com. This app is notorious for only being used to have sex, and it’s showing and obviously causing detrimental effects on gay men.

#7 Breaking Stereotypes One Straight @ A Time

                    Growing up, I only had girlfriends. Instead of playing basketball or throwing a football at recess, after school, in college, etc... I jumped rope. I learned how to french braid, I sang and danced. I yearned for the male on male friendship, or bromance you may say. I never got it because theres a stereotype, “I don’t have a problem with gay guys, but if he hits on me its game over.” Now, I can say once straight cis men give me a shot, they realize the stupidity behind it. I always here, “I’m not gay, but you’re one of the coolest dudes.” which isn’t ideal, but it’s progress.                    

#8 Trouble in the Workplace

                     When I bring up LGBTQ issues to acquaintances, a lot of the times i’m faced with “I don’t think gay people have a lot of issues nowadays”. But we dont, thats why I feel its so important for me to prove myself, my life, and what comes along with it. The facts, the struggles, the ugly truth. “59% said that where they live, they are less likely to be afforded employment opportunities because they are part of the LGBTQ community. One in five stated that they have had difficulty when applying for positions.” says victoryinstitute.net

#9 Let’s Prove Stats Wrong!

               Statistics can be demeaning, not all the time are they helpful or good. Sadly, for the LGBTQ+ community, the stats are disheartening. For example, LGBTQ people are 5X as likely to commit suicide than heterosexual people says thetrevorproject.org. 77% of LGBTQ youth reported are depressed, have anxiety, and/or have feelings of worthlessness says hrc.org. So, to all the heterosexual people out there wondering where their “Straight month” or “Straight parade is”, you have it, 11 months out of the year because you dont have struggles like that.

#10 Trans People are Simply, People.

                  Working with white, privileged, conservative, middle-to-upper class women, i’m forced to hear a lot of what they believe and how they think and what political decision they have recently made. Now and then, obvious and not so obvious transgendered women come into the store to shop and they outwardly treat them different or question the “real gender” of the person. I ask myself why whatever is under their clothes matter so much to them. When I tell them they are a woman, and that’s all they are, they are confused and partly agitated because I didn’t give them the answer they wanted to hear. Saddening fact? In a national study, 40% of transgender adults reported having made a suicide attempt. 92% of these individuals reported having attempted suicide before the age of 25 says thetrevorproject.org. Maybe if we stop making people feel so different, and start working toward progression instead of sticking our nose where it doesnt belong, we could actually get somewhere. Proving myself, to help the Trans community.

#11 “Gay People Can’t Naturally Reproduce”

                          I want a family, I want someone to call my husband. My son or daughter, my family. I need that in my life weather it is “natural” or not. People are so pressed about the natural way of things, but they can’t see that a majority of LGBTQ people who don’t reproduce via a man and a woman, help reduce the amount of foster children.14,000 foster children are being raised by Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual foster parents says Movement Advanced Project. Just because I am a man, married to a man, with our own children doesn’t make us any less capable for raising a family. 

#12 LG(B)TQ+

                Another group of people that are drastically hated on for being themselves. Human beings can’t grasp that someone may actually be more concerned about someones personality rather than their sexual organs. According to 2013 research by the University of Pittsburgh, 15% of people did not categorize bisexuality as a legitimate sexuality, with straight men being three times as likely to think it's "not a thing." People looking at you and just thinking you’re fake or just too horny. It’s pathetic, hence another reason to prove myself, my sexuality, for the other groups in my community.

#13 You Can Be Cured With Some Treatment & Religion - Mackelmore

                     Ever since before me, for a very long time, we were taught that there are conversion treatments, that being gay was a mental disability, a deformity. There were actually shock therapy treatments and conversion camps for LGBTQ+ people, people were killed in the midst of these treatments. But heres, *tap tap* the mutha f*ucking, *tap tap* TEA! American Psychological Association undertook a thorough review of the existing research on the efficacy of conversion therapy and their report noted that there was very little  research on sexual orientation change efforts (SOCEs) and that the "results of scientifically valid research indicate that it is unlikely that individuals will be able to reduce same-sex attractions or increase other-sex sexual attractions through SOCE." says hrc.com. Today there are still states that legalize this method!! Stop this!!

#14 The Importance of PRIDE

                   This isn’t just a time for LGBTQ+ people and allies to strut down the street in cute colorful clothing. This parade we participate in is a lesson, its teaching others about what we’re trying to do. Policies, laws, and other arguments we want and need heard.��During the 2000s, battles at local, state, and national levels were being fought for marriage equality. Pride parades were utilized to educate the public, generate support, and encourage lawmakers to vote in favor of LGBT rights says thegayfamilylawmaker.com. We need to educate people on the education pride parades actually do. If it wasn’t for these parades, we wouldn’t have made the progress we have today. 

#15 The Audacity!?

                 My need to prove myself may be... borderline pathetic. HOWEVER, it’s so important and necessary in today’s society. The fact that just in 1982, it was okay to openly discriminate against LGBTQ people. IN 1996, it was BANNED to marry unless it was between a man and a women. Only in 2011 was “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” finally repealed. This may sound like good news... but then BAM! THIS YEAR, President Trump banned Transgender people from being in the military.(CNN.com) Every time we feel like we’re ahead, we get knocked back down a few steps. This is why it is important, this is why it is necessary, this is why i’m doing it. 

REFERENCES

https://australiascience.tv/science-of-sexuality/

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/cross-cultural-evidence-for-the-genetics-of-homosexuality/

https://www.newscientist.com/article/2155810-what-do-the-new-gay-genes-tell-us-about-sexual-orientation/

https://www.sciencenews.org/article/genetics-dna-homosexuality-gay-orientation-attractiveness-straight

https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2018/10/giant-study-links-dna-variants-same-sex-behavior

https://www.cnn.com/2015/06/19/us/lgbt-rights-milestones-fast-facts/index.html

https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2018/4/4/17177058/grindr-gay-men-mental-health-psychiatrist

https://victoryinstitute.org/issue-at-a-glance-lgbtq-employment-discrimination/

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/preventing-suicide/facts-about-suicide/#sm.00001tfv8n5yekdvsq5f6al6h6i7u

https://www.hrc.org/resources/2018-lgbtq-youth-report

https://justlists.wordpress.com/2012/01/18/familyequality/

[fake-wizard]

how do you get over extreme gult an anxiety for being the "wrong kind" of dysphoric / gnc / trans person??? I don't consider myself a radfem and i just think sex alignment for both trans stuff and sexuality stuff makes more sense than the TQ style ot fwaw tmam. But sine having this position i notice i'm constantly more on edge and get lots of guilt because the few trans people that i considered close booted me out the group for this. I feel like i'm evil and repulsive and lonely

I think at least online finding likeminded people is a good start? Hopefully to show you that there are so many women who agree with you, you arent alone. And in seeing what tras believe about homosexuals not really existing, and the kind of gross harassment they do (i just see so many sexual hate comments from them??) that should show you you arent the evil or repulsive one.

But yeah in my friend group almost everyone knows my views. I think the trick is just having normie, pro-gay friends and not a lot of friends who are super into the tra stuff. Friends from the second group got actually mad at me while friends from the first were like, oh well obviously as a straight man I dont want to date any male, there are people who think that’s transphobic??

I definitely feel you though. I think one of my motivations for medically transitioning was so that i would have the clout to support radfeminism without being called transphobic, since for the past 1.5 years i was the only one in my friend group medically transitioning, that way i could be like “well i dont hate myself or exclude myself from feminism, and i’m the one here who’s actually transitioning so how dare you call me transphobic”. Since before medically transitioning and trying to desist i felt frustrated that people would write me off as a transphobic not Truly dysphoric type. Which yeah, isnt healthy.

And basing things on sex instead of the nebulous and oppressive constructed gender has helped me so much. Im kind of self absorbed and i guess to a degree i view myself as smarter that dysphoric people who still buy into gender ideology.

[jewel-kr]

Women has rights too!

Quite a shocker that its not even a day i leave Tumblr but that’s what i am here for, To express.. so lets get started .

Firstable, by glancing at the title: I am clearly not a feminist (CLEARLY), i am much more a neutral-support (for everyone who questioned my stance) . Its just that i would be glad to share this to everyone who reads this and stay woke within these contexts (i can’t promise you either it will be a short one or the other way cause logically this is an impromptu encounter) Without further ado, Lets get started with what i’ve seen with my real eyes & sense in my whole life so far. As a guy myself.. I believe we’re created in pairs,a woman in my case: Its well proven& no argument necessary. But do they actually get the same receptions from society like how we (guys) received? Do they receive more than they should? Or.. do they receive worst? 

On the other hand, I owned several social account media’s logged in with my name , and clearly its mine and official hahaha. This is where my incubus theory gets real. Of course we have like 417,784(or more) populations here in Brunei , uncountably of how many males & females were here now.

A typical feelings i had when i actually have seen loads of virtual cyber bullying, sexually harassing, cat-fishing, body shaming... and oh why am i not suprised that it is in favour of woman, that gets the horn. Woman have been belittle, being assume despicable or even helpless to any guys (no offense cause its just my wild statement) or lets just say majority of guys who are not civilized and disrespectful towards them. YES , THEY ENCOUNTER WORST RECEPTIONS VIRTUALLY, mostly on the internet. In these era of sophisticated technologies all around the world, with girls being born mostly on 2000s had been pampered with smartphones or any other gadgets that can be use for socializing or communicating. Parents thought it would ease them, but it is exactly the opposite.. For parents who actually checked upon their daughters gadgets/phones: you guys did a heroic job . For those who don’t , start scanning their phones or even get to know who they socialized with. Not only i was talking abt 17y/o girls who actually has put a remarks on our life with their advanced socializing apps& healthy lifestyle (mainstream): Instagram famous, Tweet-famous or any other more, This is also for every females who felt discriminated, not safe even in your local country&home. No age limits

Socializing applications adds up year by year without noticing: Guys would login to find their prey, Girls would login to be devour (notice my phrase). As what i’ve said just now; I believe underage girls don’t actually ask their parents to actually supervise them on making account of some social network or parents wouldn’t bother knowing (either way) .. And when that happens, Lustful-ignorant guys whose hungry for girls would make their step to get to know their prey, It would typically started with sugarcoating, sweetalking where girls who couldn’t think straight would fall for it and there you go... An unwilling victim of cyber bullying, virtual sexually-harassed, threatening. I am not gonna lie, Pedophiles were scattered all around us these days, comes w two ways: Would actually unleash their evil-tricks or would use younger guys picture & attract their prey (woman).

I personally have witnessed these misbehaving situations regularly, I am not proud: Everyone has lust, But i do have some self-manner&respects like what my parents taught me towards my opposite sex. Tribe of guys sexually harassing helpless girl continuously.Body shaming less-confidence girls, Cat-fishing weak & narrow-minded guys. Is that what guys only good at? Do guys ever think what it felt like? Lust aside, Do you wanna feel that? Wait until you actually have a grownup daughter, That’s where you would realize how jerk&pathetic that action might affect them physically & mentally. For woman who actually can or did overtake this situation bcs you learned from your past or bcs you’re not shallow-minded; Congratulations you’re a strong&brilliant woman. For those whose still stranded being mocked or discriminated, Learn starting now. It won’t be that hard to start over. Just open up a new chapter of your life book.

Guys will be guys, some would still be pervert even they’re lawfully wedded to a loyal & strong wife that doesn’t know abt her husband’s dead-end tricks. Not only older guys, even guys your age. You don’t trust anything easily on the internet or applications; That’s one way to survive virtual discrimination or fatal humiliation. To all girls/woman who’ve been in this sticky situation; Hoping you ppls would be in good health right now& avoid these in the future if it may occurs. Its unfair, I know . But we’re in this together *High School Musical vibes*

Not only through the internet or applications, Scenario like this happens in real life where the scene of one girl or bunch of them passes by a group of guys and the guys went whistling, shouting, flirting or even irritating? They followed them wherever they go. If they’re at least acquaintance, I can relate . But if they’re not connected? Awful and demotivating for the girls, Disgusted . Imagine the girl as your sister , family member or your girlfriend, you would feel terrible cause you’re far away from reaching them but its them, The girls would be the one whose in disastrous.. They would feel that their pride&dignity has been ripped, Their reputation leaked & contaminate other samaritans. I don’t really get what they feel so on behalf of some guys, We are truly sorry of what women encountered day in and day out. We truly am.

Everyone has rights, INCLUDING all the women. They deserve a better treatments than this. We’re better than this. To all the women, STAY WOKE WITH SURROUNDINGS.. to the guys that feels that we’re better than this, Protect our queens . xx

p/s: Apologies for the hideous writing arrangements/Grammatical error/Spelling error. Will be improving on my next topic. TQ for your times xx , Joul