#Surgery With Your Whole Polycule. As One Does.

[chiropteracupola]

they can see right through me / of course they can...

[collaboration with @dxppercxdxver again.]

[shrekyaoi]

Shaking your hand and kissing you with tongue or whatever. God your so fucking right about it. It really does seem like some people see trans men and just go "oh! Here's a way I can have my piv straight missionary sex so my fic can have mpreg babies without having to write abo!" And it just seems so fetishy? If that's the right word. Like the possibility that there are trans men A: who have cocks or B: don't desire to use their vagina even IF they haven't had bottom surgery for whatever reason never seems to cross their minds! All trans men seem to boil down to in popular fandom is a vagina that a cis man's penis can go into. And Jesus there seems to be a hardcore demonization of bottom surgery in both fandom spaces and in online LGBT spaces in general. People salivate of scars like facial ones or even top surgery ones (the weird fetishization of top surgery scars is a whole nother thing...) but think that bottom surgery ones are disgusting?? It really just shows the true face of these people. I've heard people (even trans people!) express their disgust at phallo/meta/vaginectomy because trans boys (only ever referred to as boys) are only hot because they're "natural cuntboys made for bottoming". And it's not like this sentiment isn't harmful either! It can pressure people who would like to get bottom surgery away from it! It's especially egregious if you request a fic or something with a transman in it because 99.9% of the time people include a trans man with no bottom surgery, a fully functioning vagina and no bottom dysphoria. Not that there aren't trans men who use/want to retain their vagina but it really says something about fandom spaces that there's a conspicuous absence of trans men with bottom surgery in fic especially porn fic. I'm sorry this is long but your comment/tags struck a chord with me. Good on Ghost for getting phallo. What's the point of being on a special task force if you can't make the military pay for your surgeries?

this is a very specific conversation i end up having a lot. fetishisation is a whole Thing but ultimately it feels extremely narrow-minded to only ever present trans men as the bottoms (typically submissive as well, very rarely the doms but even then it’s dombottom. which. fucking fine i guess). it’s this idea that if you have a vagina then clearly you should only be using that thing one way, right? i just like. how did we bring bioessentialism into this. in the extraordinarily rare chance you find a t4t fic it ALSO somehow turns into reskinned straight sex but the guy with the strap is the “real” man. why are we doing this. is there anybody out there. can anyone hear me.

it’s also aggravating that there’s some shit like forcefemming that you hardly ever see for cis men but for trans men the ratios are off the charts. and like. hey, if it’s trans people writing it, i’m not judging how you get your rocks off. but considering how often it’s cis people writing it, it does slip into some territory that has me grimacing at my phone more often than not. i believe in respecting people’s kinks and fetishes but there is so fucking little variety it’s like the perception of trans men in these fandom spaces (EVEN LARGELY POPULATED BY TRANS MEN) is for the trans men to be the smaller, weaker, “passive” partners in these relationships. every time i get excited to see a fic where there’s a polycule with one character being trans somehow it always ends up with the trans guy as the like. ultimate bottom. why are we doing this, guys.

if i get into how trans women are treated by fandom i’ll start throwing things. “man in a skirt” jokes aren’t fucking funny 👍 stop.

but anyway.

fandom homophobia, transphobia, bigotry in general, is something that’s been drilled into the goddamn earth but it really doesn’t matter how loud you shout because you know some people will never listen anyway. it’s insane to me that shit like “the tall one is the bottom” can be seen as a trope inversion. “the bigger one is the bottom.” “the stronger one is the bottom.” have none of you ever talked to bears that are queens. have none of you talked to trans men that are tops. trans men can have dicks. trans women can have vaginas. the inverse can be true and it does not matter. jesus christ, what was the point of dismantling the gender binary, again? fucking hell.

sorry if this is becoming a long, circuitous ramble. the way trans characters are written usually drives me up the wall. trying to discuss what transgenderism would even mean for that character is inconcievable. i know part of fandom is for escapism, but it shouldn’t JUST be for escapism. and also please start treating trans characters like characters, not walking genatilia. please.