#Sunburn talks

[spoonless-sunflower]

AAAAA I'm so pissed!!

How many years do we have to deal with the same problems and I have to be told to just "be kind and patient" and then I DO and then I always feel so taken advantage of bc things get worse and I get disrespected so ofc I start yelling and screaming and asserting myself when things go wrong enough!! And I hate that!! Who wants to have a screaming match with someone they care about?? That sucks! But I also feel backed into a corner bc things don't change until I put my foot down!

Yesterday, Leo's therapist told her that she should ask me to be more patient with her. She was so nervous to tell me that too. But she's always nervous to assert herself or take up space. I told her it was ok and that I'm proud of her for asking. I want her to assert herself (not asserting herself is half the problem 😭😭😭). But it ended up being a whole conversation about how and where I've been able to be patient and where and why I haven't been. And I told her I want to be able to show her more patience but like when she takes two steps forward one step back? Fine. Easy. When she suddenly takes 60 steps back and is so nervous Abt messing up that she can't share a single thought or starts lying or avoiding me or disrespecting me or even building resentment towards me about things she was too nervous to even talk to me about in the first place?? That's so unfair?!

And fine, maybe we should go back to having some sort of back up plan so that it doesn't end up in a screaming match bc that isn't right. But dammit I guess sometimes I'm just so frustrated I really do wanna scream. And right now I have taken space so as not to scream and I don't know what to do with all this anger and frustration!! And it's only so frustrating bc most of our days together are so good and so happy and then there are these 60 step back days and idk how to deal with them anymore bc I keep thinking we should be doing better than this by now. That SHE should be doing better than this by now! Is the relationship expectation that we do this for the rest of our lives?

Ugh even as I type this, I hear how unfair it is that I expect her mental health journey to go at a certain speed. But it's just scary not knowing how long I'm gonna be taken on the ride. Maybe I do just have to be more patient. But when she takes those 60 steps back, it just feels like she's given up. It took so much fighting just to get her back into therapy. She's been able get over so many of her other hurdles in the past and I'm so proud of her. But this crazy guilt complex and putting herself down and spiraling into herself until she's in a self sabotaging tornado? It feels like it's only getting worse. And it's definitely started to put me back into my old cycles too. I feel my spikes up high and I'm afraid of trusting and being hurt and that I won't ever REALLY be loved. And I do have to take responsibility for my part in that. I just hate it.

[bamsara]

drew myself for something and ended up laughing my ass off because vu and twitch chat started (playfully) roasting how pale I am

tag urself my favorite is 'discord light mode' and 'reflectors at night'

[housecow]

How do you stay cool in such a hot area? I live a state over and it’s hot as hell. These summers have turned me into an inside person😅

dressing for the heat!! i exclusively wear oversized t shirts, cotton bras, and shorts that keep me from chafing during the summer. it’s not cute at all but when it’s 105° outside—or even just 96°—it’s necessary. hats, sunscreen, and getting your hair off the back of your neck also really helps. i can’t wear my hair down during the summer loll. if you’re going to be outside for an even longer amount of time, cover your skin to protect it. long sleeved “fishing shirts” that are breathable REALLY help. wear nothing form fitting (traps sweat close to your skin and may not dry), go for loose jeans if you have them.

staying hydrated is also incredibly important. i have one of those big insulated cups bc ice water on demand keeps me sane outside lol. cold water like that also lowers your body temperature, which is great if you’re overheating

but other than that…. honestly, you just get used to it. spend some time in a shady place with some good wind!!! acclimate yourself! i was outside for ~3hrs yesterday after the temp started to go down bc it was only 94° and it felt AWESOME with the wind blowing… now. when it’s stagnant that’s literally killer and you should be in some shade at least

[daisy-daze17]

Recently saw a post that said "People only like to ship Sunflower before the incident or after the good ending when they've had extensive therapy and that means it's toxic!!" Listen personally I don't ship Sunflower but like? Shut up?

Obviously they BOTH need a lot of therapy and healing before they can do something like start a relationship or even heal from the incident in general. You think Sunny's just gonna drop the bombshell that he killed Mari and helped hang her and immediately go back to dating Kel or Aubrey? In fact, I think all 5 of them need therapy because Kel, Aubrey and Hero now have to heal and accept the truth if they ever want to forgive Sunny and Basil.

So yeah if you say that people who acknowledge when others need therapy before getting into a relationship are toxic then you're stupid af.

And as for the pre incident shipping-- yeah, based on how Sunny views him in headspace its fair to say there might have been a crush when they were younger, but of course everyone dismisses that because Aubrey is a girl and so main character must be shipped with said girl.

If you're saying Suntan or Sunburn is perfectly healthy right after The Truth but that Sunflower is toxic and unrealistic, I think you just hate Basil. Because in that case there's no way any of Sunny or Basil's ships are good relationships considering Kel and Aubrey have been lied to for 4 years about the death of a girl they loved and cared about.

[sicc-nasti]

Hanging out after a long day :9

[cheriematt]

fuck therapy , just cry to "dark" by dominic fike <3

[taiyami]

Did y'all have a weird nickname growing up that doesnt really pertain to your actual name? Either by your peers/friends or family members? :)c

[newvegascowboy]

Im gonna be honest i do not think Arcade would like horses i think they would freak him out. I think he would look at a horse and be like "ill walk"

[spoonless-sunflower]

My top surgery recovery has been going really fast. I got the tubes out early, and my very laid back surgeon told me I could stop wearing the binder 2 weeks in since there have been no signs of fluid build up.

It's all been such a huge relief since I was initially worried about how my body would handle a surgery with all it already deals with. Surprisingly, my ME wasn't causing any problems but my fibro was. And thanks to early removal of the tubes and binder, it's getting easier and easier.

Now my main problem is sleeping on my back all the time. I've always been a stomach sleeper. But also, with the fibro, keeping the same sleeping position all night is so painful. I've found a few helpful things but it hasn't been the best.

It's also been hard to get back to my daily routine. Since I feel mostly better and I've been resting for a few weeks now, I'm starting to get pretty restless. I want to get back to every day life and work and things that make me feel fulfilled. But bc I'm still in a bit of pain and more tired than I think I am, it's been difficult to get back into the groove of things. I'm trying to be patient with myself but it's starting to make me feel depressed and lonely.

[housecow]

what app do you use to smoothen your photos?

i didn’t use anything to edit these pics, just cropped them. i use the front camera of my iphone and specifically use the burst function, which does do some automatic smoothing. they’re just not as HD as normal pics, imo?

if you want an app to do spotty edits (what i use to remove hair i don’t like in pics, which is the only editing i do) i would recommend “photoshop mix” by adobe. there’s ads but the “fill” function is great!!

[serotoninstan]

patient zero of beautiful princess disorder

[sneeg-snag]

liking armoured phbeasent is like. listens to a syrup sweet love song and thinks about them. listens to a song about unbelivable longing and thinks about them. listens to a song about feeling used and tossed away and thinks avout them. listens to a song about living life laughing in the sun with ur partner and thinks about them. listens to a song about never ever ever getting what you want and thinks about th-

[sorrowful-hyacinth]

So, I just got a really bad sunburn at the beach recently. It’s been a long time since I’ve been burned that badly, and it made me think about whump OBVIOUSLY. I think I have a problem, lol.

Imagining a Whumpee getting a punishment where they have to be strapped down or tied up outside in the direct sunlight so that they get burned all day long until the sun goes down. Especially with how hot it’s been recently, being stuck in 100+ degree weather is not fun. Of course that’s whumpy enough, but what got me thinking about it so much was the recovery.

You have to deal with your hot skin and feeling sore all over. Especially if Whumper is merciless and doesn’t allow you to have creams and lotions to care for the burns. Your skin peeling everywhere, it might even be painful to peel if Whumpee has open wounds or scabs. Feeling very itchy within the first week of recovery and having to fight the urge to scratch otherwise your skin will burn and sting. Imagining Whumper yanking on Whumpees hair when their scalp is burned and sensitive.

Maybe it wasn’t a normal world like Earth either, or a non-human/immortal Whumpee. Having a world that has two suns could make it worse. Maybe Whumpee is highly sensitive to sunlight and their skin is capable of burning off their body. What if that planet on very specific days gets exposed to flares from the sun that can actually get past the atmosphere layers. Just a scorching hot planet where if you walk on your bare feet, your skin will melt and peel away.

Whumper might actually appreciate the recovery process because it gives them chances to develop a bond with Whumpee through rewards and gentle care that they only get after taking punishments. Or they can use it as a way to inflict more pain. Taking Whumpee a cold ice bath or even a steaming hot one can hurt their skin a lot. Scrubbing away at the dead skin with a harsh scrubber or a file of some sort.

Is it obvious I hate sunburns?

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Date: July 8, 2024

[sleepy-hyperfixations]

i put on so much sunscreen and yet im sunburned to hell 🤡

[captainsquality]

been enjoying sandrock so far. heres my character donny. hes a lil awkward and intense but it just takes him time to adjust to people. hes v kind and protective actually

[mjshortformcjesus]

its all fun and games until you lose your sense of reality