#SO R A R E L Y VALIDATED WITH IT'S IT PRONOUNS

[thatnamelessbutler]

There is nothing wrong with using It pronouns, my younger sibling does that too, along with other pronouns.

-Sweet Voice

[They put their hands over their mouth(or well, mask) and quietly vibrate with joy.]

[kat-got-lost]

hello hello!!!! could i perhaps request some poly!dt hcs w a transmasc s/o? (only if ur comfy writing it tho!) tysm <3

(A/N aaaa as a transmasc person this request made me super happy :D was very fun to write, tried a new format with this just because i didn’t really know what to write) 

poly!dt x transmasc!reader (he/they pronouns used :)

warnings// mentions of dysphoria (talks about them comforting you on a bad dysphoria day), really light mention transphobia 

genre// fluff, angst if you squint r e a l l y hard

format// headcanons, drabble 

these boys love you so much, they do as much as they can to make you feel comfy 

bad dysphoria days

these boys would be so sweet if your dysphoria was particularly bad that day 

dream absolutely pampers you

you want his hoodie? of course, take all of them! you wanna dress up and go out someplace fancy? he’s already making reservations and telling sapnap nd george. you just wanna cuddle with him and watch TV? that’s great too, he’s already on the couch waiting for you to snuggle up with you

(if you don’t/can’t wear a binder just skip the line under this, reminder that even if you don’t wanna/can’t bind ur still so valid ily bby my dms r always open <33 /p)

if it was a really r e a l l y bad day, he would encourage you to wear one of his larger hoodies because he knew if you got your binder on you probably wouldn’t take it off until a couple days later. of course if you really wanted he wouldn’t stop you, but he’d instead remind you to take it off after 7 hours 

dream goes all out, he does anything to distract you from how you’re feeling. he cooks/helps you make your comfort food and you spend the rest of the day cuddled up in blankets watching your favorite shows or playing games with george and sap 

sapnap is very affectionate with you

he doesn’t always know what to do when you’re having a bad day but he offers you all the support and comfort he can 

will drown you in his hoodies, blankets and cuddles 

he’ll probably bake with you or bake for you, he’ll make cupcakes, bread, brownies, anything he thinks you’d enjoy

george is so soft with you

he’ll be gently cuddling you and tracing shapes and circles on your arms and back

just has a nice lazy day with you and your two other boyfriends 

so sweet about everything, lets you cry into his chest if you need to whisphering out quiet “shh it’s okay baby let it out” or he’d let you rant about how ever you were feeling letting out a “it’s alright, get it all out love, im right here” while running his fingers through your hair/slowly running his hand up and down your back

all three of them are so sweet and so caring when you’re having a bad day and are willing to do whatever they can to make you feel better 

confronting a transphobe

dream is the one who tries his best to be calm and rational about it

he’ll calmly tell whoever’s being transphobic to you to “knock it off” with a cold smile

if they continue he’ll stop being as nice and glare with a scarily calm smile with an almost eerie calm voice “he’s my boyfriend and if you’re not gonna respect him i’m gonna need you to fuck off”

sapnap is the one trying to throw hands

literally you, dream, and george needed to restrain him from punching a couple of toxic fans who saw you guys and made some not so great comments 

would grab whoever invalidated you by their shirt collar and go “what’d you say bitch? that lovely person over there happens to by my boyfriend, and if you’re not gonna give him some basic respect im gonna need to get violent. so you’re either going to go give them an apology or fuck off.”

george would be the one who gives sends them death glares

he knows dream and sapnap have it covered so he mainly keeps his attention on you makin sure you’re alright

“you okay love? it’s alright, we’re here. don’t listen to them, you’re so valid sweetheart. you’re our handsome baby and no one can ever change that.”

sends whoever made nasty comments about you death glares while he hugs you and gently presses your face into his chest 

overall these boys are so sweet and adorable and they do everything they can to make you feel valid, safe, and loved

(A/N i am so tired, and so soft holy crap)

[barely-getting-bi]

Random numbers! 3, 42, 69(hah), 163! Also *hugs and cookies* you mean a lot to me and are really, really cool!! I can't explain where your coolness comes from you just.... a r e c o o l

42: Who is someone you love deeply?

literally just all of my friends but right now i’m feeling especially affectionate towards Star (@aspex-t) just cause they’re amazing and so nice and have been there for me so much this week and just i have so much love for Star and all of my friends they’re all just absolutely amazing humans and aaaah!! Star ilysm thank you for being amazing and yourself (those are s y n o n y m s because being you is why you’re amazing but shhhhh) anywayyy i love you so so much!!!

163: Last time you cried and why:

like 5 minutes ago 0-0 and for 2 reasons

1) i was looking (not on purpose) at a bunch of people saying neopronouns aren’t valid and not real and they’re dumb and i just felt (and still am feeling ://) very Invalid™ and just s c r e e e e e c h

2) after that i was talking about it on a discord server and i just got Validation and people using my pronouns which i love so much and just 🥺 did i mention i have the best friends in the whole universe because i do

[caspianhayes]

                            CASPIAN ALEXANDER LEVI HAYES.

FULL NAME:  Caspian Alexander Levi Hayes. NICKNAMES(S):  Cas. AGE:  28. DATE OF BIRTH:  November 20th, 1991. PLACE OF BIRTH:  Chicago, Illinois. CURRENT LOCATION:  Red Ridge, Nevada. ETHNICITY:  White. GENDER:  Cis male. PRONOUNS:  He/him/his. SEXUAL ORIENTATION:  Pansexual. ROMANTIC ORIENTATION:  Panromantic. RELIGION:  Atheist, raised half Jewish, half nondenominational Christian. OCCUPATION:  Bartender at Violet. EDUCATION LEVEL:  Bachelor’s Degree in business from the University of California, Los Angeles. EXTRACURRICULAR:  Swimming, baseball. LIVING ARRANGEMENTS:  Has a studio apartment near the north side of Red Ridge, lots of windows, usually relatively messy. SPEAKING VOICE AND ACCENT:  Speaks smoothly & calmly, a very standard midwestern accent that’s barely noticeable. It’s very easy to listen to him speak.

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, ETC.

FACECLAIM:  David Corenswet. HAIR COLOR AND STYLE:  Brown, curly, very well taken care of. It looks just as silky as it feels. Typically kept short, has grown out once in his life, and didn’t like the way it looked then. COMPLEXION:  Pale, warmer undertones. EYE COLOR:  Blue. EYESIGHT:  15/20 vision - what the average person sees from 15 feet away, Caspian can see from 20. He won’t be needing glasses anytime soon. HEIGHT:  6’3” WEIGHT:  174 lbs. BODY AND BUILD:  Muscular, but not as muscular as he used to be. He retains his biceps and pecs, but has given up on ab workouts, aside from the occasional one once in a blue moon. TATTOOS:   None, with no plans on getting any. PIERCINGS:  None, no plans on getting any. CLOTHING STYLE:  Cas’ wardrobe leans casual. Dark jeans and t-shirts are his everyday apparel. He only dresses more formal for work because he has to. When it’s cooler outside, he’ll go for a sweater before a sweatshirt. He still wears white Converse, has a beat up old leather jacket that he got in high school, and doesn’t like jewelry on his wrists or fingers.   DISTINGUISHING CHARACTERISTICS:  Almost unnaturally blue eyes, his dark curls, and a smile that lights up a room. A sniffle that’s almost always there. SIGNATURE SCENT:  Whiskey, leather, vanilla, and cashmere.

HEALTH.

MENTAL DISORDER(S):  Anxiety. Fear of abandonment and failure. ADHD. PHYSICAL DISORDER(S):  None. ALLERGIES:  None. SLEEPING HABITS:  Caspian has nightmares most nights. He doesn’t go to sleep until the sun starts to rise most mornings, thanks to the fact that Violet doesn’t close until well into the night and he has to stay after closing to help clean up before he goes home. It takes him a while to fall asleep,  but, once he does, he usually isn’t asleep very long. His nightmares startle him awake. It’s rare that he gets a total of six hours combined any given night. EATING HABITS:  He tries to take care of himself where he can in regards to his food. His breakfast most morning is a smoothie and some eggs, he’ll spend the extra money for organic fruits and vegetables. While he does take care of himself most of the time, there are those times where he sits down with a whole pizza and a pint of ice cream and finishes it all, though. When he’s high, he rarely eats, which is why breakfast is so important to him. SOCIABILITY:  He is an extrovert through and through. That’s part of the reason he thoroughly enjoys his time at the bar - socialization. He’s a very smooth talker and a very good listener, which is likely why people typically find it easy to trust him. The cocaine makes him even more sociable. BODY TEMPERATURE:  Naturally warmer, he gets cold very easily. That’s part of the reason he likes the desert so much. ADDICTIONS:  Cocaine. DRUG USE:  Frequently. At least once a day. ALCOHOL USE:  Semi-frequently. Likely drinks one glass of whiskey whenever he’s on shift, but otherwise rarely touches alcohol. Outside of work, when he does drink, it’s likely watching a football or baseball game.

PERSONALITY.

POSITIVE TRAITS:  Loyal, hardworking, charming, resourceful, charismatic. NEGATIVE TRAITS:  Anxious, sly, liar, secretive, stubborn. LIKES:  Cocaine. The Chicago Cubs, dogs, cashmere sweaters, traveling, warm weather, swimming pools. DISLIKES:  The cold, rough textured clothing, grating voices, loneliness, the sound of someone chewing with their mouth open. FEARS: Abandonment, loneliness, never being good enough. Failure. Death. HABITS:  Cocaine, cutting his nails frequently, smoothies with breakfast, fiddling with a necklace or other small things. ASTROLOGY:  Scorpio sun, Taurus moon, Scorpio rising. PERSONALITY TYPE:  ESFP. MORAL ALIGNMENT:  Chaotic neutral. HOGWARTS HOUSE:  Slytherin. ELEMENT:  Water. PRIMARY VICE:  Lust. PRIMARY VIRTUE:  Diligence. WEATHER: Sunny day, no clouds in the sky. Somehow, still a chance of rain. COLOR:  White and red // light blue. MUSIC:  Doesn’t listen to much music. MOVIE:  Inglourious Basterds (2009, dir. Quentin Tarantino). SPORT:  Baseball. BEVERAGE:  Kale and banana smoothie / Arnold Palmer. FOOD:  Scrambled eggs with cheese, broccoli, cupcakes, raspberries, peaches. ANIMAL:  Dogs of all varieties. SEASON:  Late spring, early summer.

FAMILY, RELATIONSHIPS, ETC.

MOTHER:  Amy Hayes. FATHER:  Stephen Hayes. SIGNIFICANT OTHER:  None. SIBLING(S):  One older sibling, 33+. CHILDREN:  None. PET(S):  None.

PROMPT.

Routine.

Who would’ve thought that Cas would end up here, of all places? Certainly not his family, certainly not anyone from his past. He doubted that anyone actually needed a business degree to bartend at the Violet, or to bartend anywhere, really. He doubted that anyone would think to find him there, which was part of the reason he enjoyed being there in the first place. That was the point of running away from the past, no? To escape it? Nights at the Violet were indulgent, and that was Caspian’s favorite part of it all.

Indulgence. Sweet indulgence. To start his shift after a hit of the best coke he could get his hands on was a feeling of near-euphoria after a morning of restlessness and anxiety. He could feel that paranoia and constant worry wash away as he walked the length of the bar, ears tuned in to everything happening around him. That was the thing about Violet; people talked. And when people talked, Caspian heard. They may have thought that he wasn’t listening, that he was just there to do his job and go home. But that wasn’t the truth. He knew about the man at the third stool and how he’d been cheating on his wife for the past three months. He knew about the woman at the seventh who owed Valencia more money than she had in her bank account, and, despite that, continued to turn to Violet every night for the comfort of a glass of gin. He knew the high-rollers with their hands dirty, knew the secrets of the civilians who simply wanted to live life without Valencia’s influence, knew those who feared Rorschach and what his arrival may mean. And it was almost as euphoric to him as the coke was. Almost.

HEADCANONS.

He grew up in the shadow of his older sibling. He always hated it - always hated never feeling good enough for his parents. No matter what he did, it wasn’t enough. Not when he made the varsity swim team and baseball team as a freshman in high school, not when he was given a swim scholarship to UCLA for college, not when he worked his ass off to get good grades despite his involvement in two sports.

The Hayes family is big in the financial planning world. If you don’t know a thing about that, you probably won’t know who they are, but his mother has been on covers of industry magazines and interviewed for finance TV shows before. She and his father co-own their own company.

He started partying in high school to try to let off some steam after games and dances. He only increased his partying in college. This was when he first tried cocaine. The partying got heavier and heavier, and, eventually, he lost his scholarship. That’s when he started bartending - he didn’t want his parents to know that he lost the scholarship, so he had to pay his own way through the rest of school. This was also when he cut contact with his family.

He likes it when people talk to him as if he was a brick wall, not absorbing any of their information. But he keeps that dirt in his brain - after all, who knows when he’s going to need it?

He was a good cook, once upon a time. Now, he doesn’t really have the incentive to be one, especially since he works through what most people would consider “dinner time”.

He’s pretty good at poker, but he’d never go into the casino to play. That’s too formal for him.

He wouldn’t refer to himself as a cocaine addict - just a man who likes cocaine. He figures he could stop at any time he wants to.

WANTED CONNECTIONS.

SUPPLIER: he's got a drug addiction; he needs drugs. this is probably someone within valencia who provides him with his fix - someone he pays either with information or money.

MUTUAL DISLIKE: this person doesn't like him for whatever reason. maybe he owes them money. maybe he's made a promise he didn't keep. whatever the reason is, cas doesn't like them, either. they're greeted with distaste.

FRIENDS: obviously everyone needs friends. these people may or may not know about cas' addiction problems, and, if they do know, he still won't admit to having an addiction problem.

PAST HOOKUP: any gender ! he does have a tendency to sleep around solely for praise and validation that he feels like he's been missing in his life thus far. don't be mad if he doesn't call you back.

BOSS: this is someone in Valencia, as Violet is owned by them. Cas probably doesn't know too much about them/their involvement in the organization, they probably aren't too close because he's wary of them more than anything.

WARY: this person knows that something's going on with Cas. May or may not suspect the cocaine addiction, probably someone on the side of the law, recognizing that Caspian isn't getting by on his own.

OWED DEBT: Cas owes this person something, whether it be because they provided him with coke or because his car broke down and he needed help fixing it - whatever the reason, he's in debt, and he can't repay it yet. Valencia or not !

OLDER SIBLING: this is the big one ; see the main.

[sureivy]

is that HALSEY? no, that’s just IVY CALDER. SHE is TWENTY-FOUR years old and is an EMPLOYEE AT DON’T FRET & PAWS 4 LOVE. rumor has it they’ve been in town for FOUR MONTHS / TEN YEARS. on a good day, they’re CREATIVE & VERSATILE. but watch out! they can also be IRRESPONSIBLE & VOLATILE. TRIGGER BANG BY LILY ALLEN (FT. GIGGS) plays in my head whenever i think of them. can’t wait to see them around springhill!

hello my pals ! i’m amy ( 20 // est // she/her ) and i am super excited to be here! we also over here bringing back a fairly old muse (i,, apparently,, play her during election years,,) with a couple of tweaks, so we love that for me! also! pls forgive me if this is lowkey disorganized, we’ve been in and out of airports all day! can’t wait to contract that sexy corona!

QUICK FACTS:

full name: ivy rose calder

date of birth: may 2, 1995

*does not perfectly reflect the below big three zodiac chart because that’s too much math

zodiac big three: taurus sun, pisces moon, aquarius rising

gender & pronouns: cis woman & she/her

sexual orientation: bisexual ( preference for women bc we luv that for her but we also luv leaving things open to chemistry )

education: high school diploma

enneagram: 7w8?

mbti: enfp

moral alignment: chaotic neutral

positive traits: creative, versatile, passionate, compassionate

negative traits: irresponsible, volatile, impressionable, hedonistic

BACKGROUND INFO:

triggers: brief implied sexual abuse, suicide, a lot of death talk?, drug abuse ( desoxyn ), overdose

ivy lived the first eight years of her life in newark, nj. she had a mere family of three – her mother, a model-turned-stay-at-home-mom, her father, a politician, and herself. she was much closer to her mother, but she and her father were close at night.

when her mother finally found out about this, she wasted no time in taking ivy’s father’s side. what a good mom! instead, ya girl was already getting in touch with cps herself... but wow... it was gonna ruin his career in politics :\

“Now, one thing I lerned from Storys is, when something big is about to okur, a riter will go: Then it hapened! This tells the reeder: Get Reddy. Here I go: Then it hapened!” - fox 8

then it happened!

humiliated, clearly never getting a platform back, and absolutely bitter, ivy’s father killed himself before being sent to prison. 

Very Tragique™

ok. so. to distance themselves from the poor memories, but to save money, ivy and her mother moved to springhill, temporarily sharing ivy’s aunt’s apartment while her mother began collecting enough money to buy an apartment of their own and keep it.

during this time, ivy was seeing a lot of people and she didn’t know why! they asked questions about her mental health, but she didn’t know why! i mean, totally not traumatic, right?

yes. instead of managing communication well, she became very fascinated by the concept of death. she had many questions about it, she, a youth, had some extended conversations with clergymen about it –– she never killed any animals, god forbid, but she was absolutely fascinated when she ran across them.

SO CLEARLY THAT WAS ALSO TRYING TO BE DEALT WITH.

ok, i’m gonna skip ahead a little. now in teen years and still fascinated by death, but in a healthier way!, and no longer in therapy because... like... that costs a lot of money!

she dealt with it the best she could. became enamored with music... because why wouldn’t she? some covers here and there, some originals here and there, living that youtube lyf, but not expecting anything to come of it. just liked validation! mood!

she also dealt with it the worst she could! became enamored with drugs! naturally, it started out small. some weed, some lsd, some molly –– you know, just drugs that you don’t typically think of as addictive. although her grades suffered, it was harmless enough...

upon graduating high school, she figured... no college. instead, with barely any money to her name, she was like “i... will go to new york... and i will become famous.”

and she did! she did go to new york! she found a few sketchy places that didn’t charge much for a few nights as she began networking - both socially and “i would like to be known for music” (i literally just forgot the word for networking like..... employment wise.... y’all i’m so dumb). when she’d made some friends, she began crashing on couches that were not quite as sketchy! 

but :\ she did meet these friends in sketchy places :\ and they were like “ok here r some new and more addictive drugs for u to try!”

what she wound up abusing using the most was desoxyn. it kept her awake, it kept her focused, it even shed a few pounds to create an excellent figure! what wasn’t to love! 

i mean it’s literally a prescription methamphetamine,,, when abused,,, literally almost exact same effects as meth,,, but when meth mouth, skin lesions, acne, etc aren’t occurring as a side effect? who was she to care!

20, she released an actual ep with the help of a super cool friend who made everyone call him puppy mills! wow! things were excellent! it wasn’t necessarily seeing mainstream traction, but there was a decent enough following! enough to release an album at 22!

perfect timing, btw! desoxyn was starting to become too expensive for puppy to afford and trying to fake having such a severe form of adhd that desoxyn would be prescribed as opposed to something like ritalin or adderal when it’s literally illegal to prescribe in some countries now?? too hard :\ but the money from the album helped her and puppy!

*olaf vc* puppy died. *end vc*

she was there for it too. she thought it was just a freak-out, took a LITTLE too much, but not OVERDOSE worthy... then he l i t e r a l l y died. and it was a painful death!

“oh wow! maybe prescription meth isn’t super cool after all! shucks!” but that was also an opening?? to visit death herself?? like... she didn’t necessarily want to die (sort of), but she wanted... an answer to the question that had plagued her her entire life... so she was like “ok hope i die then someone revives me but if i die then :\ i guess i die!”

did not die. but also did not get a satisfying answer to her question. the only way it would’ve been truly satisfying? if she had been dead for longer than a minute - then it would’ve given a definite answer! because the answer she received was just nothingness which, while peaceful... is it true?

she tried to detox alone, what because rehab is a business, and it... only... sort of worked. she would be clean for a few weeks, then fall back in, then clean for a few weeks, then fall back in. whenever she wasn’t just naturally focused and awake, or whenever what she was focused on was the past, she would fall back in.

i mean, a side effect is memory loss, so win/win!

she made the semi-wise decision to move back to springhill. wisest would’ve been to just move to a town/city she had absolutely no memories in, but better than moving back to newark!

so... without much to show, and with an unreliable streak, she knew she wouldn’t be able to start looking for much of an occupation – but she still needed money! so she began working at don’t fret out of a love for music, then began working at the animal shelter after completing training.

the main training was, of course, for putting animals to sleep.

FULL CIRCLE.

ah yes. how she pretends it’s healthy... even tho there are studies and statistics relating suicide to veterinarians and shelter workers who euthanize animals... ah yes.

has been back for four months now. love that. do not know how to finish this.

TL ; DR:

born in newark. moved to springhill at 8. childhood trauma that she is still carrying causes fascination with death. “i love music.” moved to ny at 18 because realistic. childhood trauma also causes dependency on desoxyn. releases an ep and an album. does not become famous, but they both have decent traction. moves back after an overdose. relapses... often. now sells records and puts animals to sleep. miss american dream since she was 17, amirite?

PERSONALITY / MISCELLANEOUS INFO:

one person one week, a totally different person the next.

wants to please people, but also wants to be her own person? it’s a whole deal!

in spite of her slight icarian incident, she still hopes to maybe one day become a real musician and performer. until then, we selling records and saying ‘goodbye’ to sweet animals!

can truly flip like a switch in interactions! does love ruining things for herself! almost always feels bad after bc :\ damn :\ alright :\

i’m very bad at these sections i really hate that i always include them!

is still avoiding healthy coping mechanisms. love that for her.

favorite movie is, unironically, the bee movie. favorite horror movie is cats.

SO GOOD at memorizing random lines or trivia. could probably recite literally all of who’s afraid of virginia woolf? other than that?? her memory is so bad. hate drugs for that :\

she uses her hair to express herself! (that sounds really boring.) ...she uses her hair to express herself!

but no. seriously. wears the black shag weave the most, followed by the blue/yellow combo ( we stan the badlands aesthetic ). occasionally forays into other colors and styles when money permits, but it’s usually gonna be one of those two!!

was an envy on the coast stan in high school which makes an inappropriate amount of sense.

will go out and steal the dumbest shit when she’s drunk. has a history of stealing chickens.

once again: hate that i always include these!! feel free 2 j consult the personality parts in the quick facts!!

CONNECTION IDEAS:

ok we gonna list some general ones for right now! all are open to multiple people unless there’s an asterisk by it!

close friends –– moonie, teagan,

ride or die

childhood friends –– moonie,

bad influence ( mutual or her on them ) –– veronica ( mutual ),

good influence ( them on her ) –– presley, hayden, gabrielle,

exes ( can be from high school or something like that if based in springhill, can be from 20s in new york if based in new york )

fwb –– trent,

will they, won’t they –– presley,

someone who knew her music ( can be neutral, a fan of it, or hate it afhkjsl ) –– presley, moonie, teagan, indiana, 

will also possibly be sending in some wanted connections for things that are! more specific!

truly anything!! also up to brainstorm and/or look at yours if you have them!!

UPDATE: i have created a wc page so we luv that for me.

OK. like this or hmu if you’d like to plot!

[lupessa]

Positivity 💕

Don’t get me wrong, I figured I’d be the last person to make one of those fluffy uwu valid positivity posts. But screw that because everyone needs positivity sometimes. If these annoy you, keep scrolling.

Don’t say I ruined it by adding [identity you don’t agree with]

EAT THAT POSITIVITY!

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Hey you.

You’re gay?

That’s awesome!! Your attraction is completely valid and you deserve to be able to love who you love and without judgement, and marry who you want. Any homophobia you face is completely undeserved. Be proud of who you are because you’re fucking fabulous. For those stuck in homophobic households, for those hiding far in the closet where the light doesn’t reach, keep holding on, stay strong 💕💕 I love you all.

You’re bi?

You exist! No, you are not going through a phase and no you don’t have to “just pick one!” Without a doubt, you belong in the lgbt community and anyone who says otherwise doesn’t know what they’re talking about. There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to more than one gender. It doesn’t make you promiscuous either. Ignore the stereotypes; they don’t matter.

You’re trans?

I hope you know you’re a lovely human being and that you deserve to be called by your proper name and pronouns. Trans girls? Damn right you’re beautiful, and trans guys, you’re handsome af. Remember that you’re not any less trans for not passing, your struggles are real and valid, stay safe and I hope you have an amazing day!! 💕

You’re pan?

That’s great! Your sexuality is a real thing and you shouldn’t have to deal with people telling you it’s not real. I just want you to know that you’re PANTASTIC *cringe* and you should keep being you.

You’re nonbinary?

Fantastic! Just a reminder that there are more than two genders and not everyone should be expected to fit the binary. You’re living proof of that and screw the haters. Whatever pronouns you choose to use are perfectly ok, are not ridiculous and deserve to be respected like anyone else’s. I hope y’all have a radical day.

You’re genderfluid?

Nice, I hope you’re doing well today you wonderful human being. Gender can be fluid and no, you’re not just “trending.” Your identity is very real, don’t let the bullies and trolls get to you.

You’re ace?

Hey, cool. You’re not broken, you don’t “need to be fixed.” You just have a different orientation, and that’s alright. Not everyone experiences attraction the same way, or at all.

You’re queer/Lgbt in general?

Spectacular! However you identify, you are valid and absolutely perfect just the way you are, don’t forget it.

You’re a therian?

My fellow therian darlings, you’re amazing! Never be afraid to be you, to express yourself because there’s only one you! Ignore the trolls! Laugh at the haters! We can’t change who we are, so we might as well embrace it. You are wonderful

You’re otherkin?

Lovely! Don’t let the endless stream of trolling that goes on on this website get to you—they may make us look silly, but they can’t hurt us. For those missing their home or the freedom from their past life, for those who feel a little down about their present circumstances, don’t forget to take care of yourself lovelies, 💕💕💕 You are valid and you were put here to do good things.

You’re fictionkin?

You’re just as valid as otherkin. Just because you came from a fictional source, doesn’t make your identity any less legitimate, and don’t let any self-proclaimed know-it-all’s tell you otherwise.

You’re plantkin?

You may be uncommon, but plantkin are just incredible beings!!! You’re a plant, how cool is that? Seriously, that’s frickin awesome and I hope you have a nice day, as always, ignore the trolls cause they don’t matter.

You’re a furry?

Great! You don’t deserve to be put down and bullied for partaking in any fandom or activity you enjoy, no matter what it is. People who bash furries often don’t even know what they’re talking about and just regurgitate stuff they heard. They’re not even worth paying attention to. Besides, those fursuits y’all make? Hecking cool!!!! Seriously though, so much effort is put into those things and it’s really awesome! I want one!!

You don’t fit societal beauty standards?

Great! Cause guess what, you’re fucking beautiful anyway. Seriously, screw society, you’re literally perfect the way you are. There’s also nothing wrong if you want to lose weight, but you should do it for you, and shouldn’t just feel shamed into doing so. Fat does NOT mean ugly regardless.

You 👏 are 👏 beautiful 👏

Feel free to add on to the positivity!

[jmflowers]

my Lover album ranking (as requested subliminally by my pal Nathi @iwatchforher)

but y’all have to know by now that I can’t just say things without giving an explanation, so… here’s my attempt at condensing my thoughts and feelings into succinct jot notes

1. False God                - tbh my top three are pretty interchangeable but the e n e r g y of this song is HOT and I’m about it always                - also down for a song that throws me back to band class circa 2007                - sax love from the flute section

2. I Think He Knows                - apparently all my favourites are for the s e x u a l  e n e r g y                - but for real that line about hands around a cold glass                - I definitely sing along to this with Big Gay Energy and change the pronouns

3. London Boy                - the nostalgia is real on this one (please adopt me, London)                - also it’s apparently a Big Mood for me to fall in love with someone from the UK so I can give my mother a valid excuse for never coming home again                - definitely also sing this one with Big Gay Energy, so you’re welcome to my future wife

4. Lover                - strictly for the joy I feel upon leaning my head back and moan-singing loverrrrrr                - dreaming of slow dancing to this one day

5. Paper Rings                - it’s like someone told her to write a dance party and so she d i d                - is this about my best friend and her new husband because I think it might be?

6. I Forgot That You Existed                - this is truthfully probably higher on my list, but I’m too lazy to go back and adjust                - there are some BIG FEELINGS here and they arrived at the perfect time in my life                - appreciate the clean, hype up package so I don’t have to cry whenever the lyrics hit home

7. Death by a Thousand Cuts                - I’ve definitely dreamed up my concert costume based on a lyric from this song                - tbh I really appreciate the ones without gender pronouns (bIcon)

8. Cruel Summer                - I respect that this is one of Nathi’s favourites and therefore I will love it always (makes me think of her every time)                - if someone doesn’t show up to a concert in a knife costume with a name tag that says “Summer” I might actually get genuinely angry, though (that’s straight up comedy y’all)

9. Cornelia Street                - I  f e e l  the idea of never returning to places that remind you of another person                - 10/10 for relatability, miss Swift, so I applaud thee                - it’s just all around pretty and I’m for it

10. The Archer                - I didn’t like this one as a single???                - but it fits perfectly into the album and the lyrics are exquisite

11. The Man                - someone said this sounds like she wrote it the day after she learned about feminism and yeah                - still a damn bop, though                - I panic every time it says bitches like maybe we’re not allowed to swear in Swiftville                - there’s some sound in this that I LOVE and I have zero way of describing it in text

12. You Need to Calm Down                - don’t @ me with your bullshit about how this isn’t iconic and important                - Grateful Gay                - only mildly offended to not be in the music video

13. Afterglow                - there are too many great songs on this album to give them all the ranking they truly deserve                - I’ll love it more when the world is cold and miserable, I promise

14. Daylight                - if you don’t say that outro with her, you’re lying                - YOU ARE WHAT YOU LOVE

15. Soon You’ll Get Better                - this is a beautiful song                - but ow it hurts and I skip it for my own sanity                - I love that the Dixie Chicks are very lowkey featured? 

16. Miss Americana & the Heartbreak Prince                - I think this was supposed to be very deep and meaningful in an abstract way but it didn’t hit as cleanly as some of the others did for me                - I still sing along every time                - I’m sorry @authorette44 I know this is in your Lover trilogy 

17. ME!                - tbh I didn’t like this one when it first came out and I hated myself a lot just in case I was maybe outgrowing the queen???                - it’s just not a concept I believe in (there’s so many people in the world, there’s definitely someone else out there as fantastic as I am)                - still sing along though because I am human

18. It’s Nice to Have a Friend                - I tried real hard to like this one                - edit: the backing on this is done by an awesome program here in Toronto that brings music education to kids who probably wouldn’t get it otherwise, so... 10/10 for the impact of the royalties on this one

 I’ve listened to this album on repeat every day since it came out and now I’m not sure how to stop, so this is the only music I listen to now until the next album comes out (not even sorry about it)

[checoleclerc]

Kicked out from a discord & a network without much of a chance to speak, but I still have something to say:

                                                   I am not racist, or homophobic. 

                Let’s start with something as simple as that; I am not,  &  I can’t be, my mind is much too open to everything in this beautiful world I adore  &  thus for it I can’t be either racist or homophobic; the truth is, I don’t see differences, I don’t care to make a big deal about them because I just want everyone to be treated equally, that’s true, but that does not IN ANY WAY mean that I hate anyone who is different or who thinks differently than me.  To me, everyone in this beautiful world who shares my species type  ( a.k.a human )  is the same, whether they are black, white, brown, orange, red, or the strange ambiguous yellow that I am  ( honestly I look like a lemon under some lights it’s nuts ),  whether they believe in a crucified god, one who has never touched the earth, or many gods like the ones I believe in, whether they love men, women, or someone who does not identify as either or identifies as both, or literally any of the possible options there exist  ( as long as it’s not children you’re after we’re good ),  to me  e v e r y o n e  is simply human.   &  how, I ask you, can that in any way be racist or homophobic? 

                I may not entirely agree with the existence of so many genders or sexualities  ( but if it helps people feel validated  &  inluded why not? ),   nor the forced inclusion of diversity instead of giving people of all colours, religions  &  sexualities the opportunity to make something amazing themselves, but that does not mean that I demean anyone, it doesn’t mean that I think people are insane or not valid for wanting representation for themselves, it doesn’t mean that I am not going to CHEER alongside everyone else the second that representation is made, it doesn’t mean I’m not going to school people on the importance of representation, it doesn’t mean I think ANYONE is lesser than me,  &  above all it doesn’t mean that I won’t respect everyone the way they wish to be respected, because the simple truth with me is that I don’t care about the differences or the labels given them, I love HUMANS in general, I don’t care about the colour of their skin, the god they pray to or the person they have sex with, I don’t care, I just want  e v e r y o n e  to have love, everyone to have happiness, everyone to be themselves however that comes to be as long as they are happy  &  they don’t harm anyone, ‘go back to normal, whatever your normal is’, that is all I care about,  &  tell me, how can that be racist or homophobic at all? 

                I love love, I love happiness, I love people being happy,  &  you will even find me being sometimes happier for them when they tell me something that makes them happy because I just LOVE seeing people happy; I don’t care what label they identify with, to me labels are just that, labels, we are ALL human, we ALL have the same coloured heart, we all have the same coloured blood, we are ALL human, I am not either racist or homophobic because it is literally impossible for me to be when I just love HUMANS in general so much.  I never, not once in my life, have thought or said ‘if you think this, you are not valid’ or ‘if you call yourself this, you are not valid’ I have NEVER thought that,  &  if anything I have ever said has come off like that then I am sorry, I have failed to be able to express myself, but I want you, yes you reading this, to know that I don’t think that at all.  EVERYONE is valid in any way they call themselves, we are all human,  &  I love humans,  &  I respect humans  &  I just love to  L O V E.  How is that wrong?  How is it wrong for me to just love everyone without caring about the differences between us?  I listen, I love, I want to make people happy, how is any of that wrong?  

                Still, even thought that, if anything I have ever said has come off as anything but loving  &  accepting, the way I ACTUALLY am, then I am sorry for failing to convey my true message; because my true   &    o n l y  message is nothing more than this: 

                 I accept you as an equal; I don’t care what difference you have to me, I love  &  respect you  &  accept you as an equal, I will use any pronouns you want me to use, I will call you anything you want me to call you, I will treat you like the human being you are because I love everyone as human beings  ( as long as you’re not a twat like the cheeto at the head of the U.S, because I have no respect for people like that ),   &  please, I beg you, tell me, how in ANY WAY is that racist?  How is treating everyone with the same love  &  respect I give everyone in any way homophobic or racist?  I LOVE, I won’t even blink to any differences we may have because to me everyone is just human.  How is that wrong?  How is being around me not safe? HOW? 

                That is simply the truth; this is who I am. I LOVE, period. 

                Please do smile even just once simply because you can;  &  do accept my most sincere apologies if I have ever made you think that I think you lesser than me or I don’t believe you, or I don’t respect you. I am  S O R R Y,  because I don’t think any of those things  &  I am sorry I ever made you think I do. 

I love every single one of you,  Mel. x